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A Calgary woman and her ex-husband snapped a photo of themselves smiling outside of divorce court and posted the photo to her Facebook page, where it went viral.

Sharon Neuman told her Facebook followers that she posted the photo of herself and her ex, Chris Neuman, not to celebrate their divorce but to set a positive example for divorced couples who put their children first.

“Are we smiling because the partner we chose for forever turned out not to be the forever partner we needed? Of course not,” Sharon explained.

“We’re smiling because we have done something extraordinary (we think anyway!). We have respectfully, thoughtfully, and honourably ended our marriage in a way that will allow us to go forward as parenting partners for our children, the perfect reason that this always WAS meant to be, so they will never have to choose.”

Sharon and Chris, who were married for 11 years, have two minor children who they've made their top priorities:

“They’ll never have to wonder which side of the auditorium to run to after their Christmas concert or spring play, because we’ll be sitting together. They won’t have to struggle with their own wedding planning because we’ll be sitting on the same side of the aisle — THEIR side. And now that you know it’s possible — please consider our way if you find yourself on this road, or share our message if we can help remind them that it’s possible to love your kids more than you hate/distrust/dislike your ex (which we have felt at times on the journey, but for the record we do actually like each other).”

As a blogger who often preaches about staying together for the sake of the children, I agree with Sharon and Chris: your children should always come first.

If you can't honor your vows that you made before God, at least honor your children.

  • MsVAllDay

    Honor your children! I like Auntie!

  • Chitsngiggles

    Have ya'll heard about the white woman who went on vacation and had a one night stand with a dude on the last night. She went home and found out she was pregnant..... But she lost her phone and all her contacts....so now she can't find her baby daddy.... It was on abellinbk's IG page.
    The crazy stuff white people do.....

  • Jen_n_juice

    Morning Roses!

  • Jen_n_juice

    I'm sure we do that too. Every race has pure foolishness and fckery

  • ShelbyMoore

    She sounds super triflin.

  • http://theempirefiend.tumblr.com/ Bird

    Good for them. I never do understand why people have to ack a fool in divorces. Well other than when one wants the divorce and one doesn't. That's always going to be difficult.

  • puppylove

    Not just white women. Stupidity knows no color.

  • http://theempirefiend.tumblr.com/ Bird

    He doesn't have her contact information? And what kind of phone service does she have where her phone is the only place that her contacts are stored? The story is highly suspect to me.

  • http://theempirefiend.tumblr.com/ Bird

    Sup *Bruh Man nod*

  • Guest

    He doesn't have her contact information?
    ^^^^^
    It was a one night stand. Probably ain't never planned on calling each other again

  • Chitsngiggles

    But if its a one night stand in Australia, he ain't hardly checking for her. Probably didn't even get her number. You gots to be more careful who you have unprotected
    sex with. Baby daddy way on the other side of the earth. That's just trifling.

  • Gabriella Greentree

    As a product of divorced parents I wish my own parents could be amicable. Trifling parents can ruin a child's most meaningful moments. My and my siblings graduation were all made soooo stressful for us when we shoulda been happy. None of us are married yet, but we abhor the thought that weddings, child births or any momentous occasion will be ruined by our parents and their spouse's pettiness.....

  • Chitsngiggles

    THIS.

  • jeniefrumdabloc™

    If you can’t honor your vows that you made before God, at least honor your children.
    ^^^^
    Well look at you Sandra .... preach

  • Chitsngiggles

    My mama wouldn't even take a picture with my dad and I at my graduation. How you been divorce 15 years and still mad...

  • jeniefrumdabloc™

    I agree <3

  • AllmylifeIhadtofight

    GM ya'll. I'm scared to say anything. People beefing over breakfast.. Bacon should make you happy. But I understand if your stomach growling cause that makes me mad too.

  • Gabriella Greentree

    My mother was mad because we spoke to our dad and his family before she could find us on the football field and get a picture. In her mind ( as always ) we chose him over her .... we were all like dang, its 20 million black folks out here...first come, first serve- we just wanted to go hang out with our class mates.

  • L.T.L. Since 2007

    I can get with this. But they are better than me, because I already told the Mrs that if we break up, she can have the top floors and I'll take the basement til Lurk9 turns 18.
    *shrug*

  • Chitsngiggles

    Anybody got family that has remarried, but ya'll don't fug with the new spouse and only allow the old one to come around?

    Maybe that's just my crazy ass family....

  • Chitsngiggles

    That's extremely petty.....lol

  • Sexy CJ

    .....................

  • Chitsngiggles

    Pretty much. I done told mine, we sticking it out for at least 18 years. Ion want no new hoes round my girls and I'm sure he don't want no new ninjas round his girls. After what I endured as a kid, I don't think I will ever bring another man round my kids. Its too much to lose

  • http://Copblock.org aDingoDrankMyBabies

    ??Umhmmm, look at Ms back to back winner? Ain't it a bit early in the year to be brown nosing????????? Good Morning smelly bottoms?? May your day be filled with joy??

  • L.T.L. Since 2007

    Dumb ass aunt missed her only child's graduation because the dad went and took his new wife and kids.
    Then after graduation, she was blowing up everybody's phone wanting to know what was worn, who sat where, what did the dad do, and how did that "bytch" act.
    When she called me, I just told her she would have to wait for the playback reels via videos and pics.
    Dumb ass!!

  • jeniefrumdabloc™

    Chile you and that damn Dubb last night .... chile I went back and read lawd rofl ... hey bew

  • Chitsngiggles

    You aren't one of that girl's stalkers are you? Cause we can settle this right now and forever....

  • MissHarlem

    Good for them. Divorce ain't the end of the world ?

  • jeniefrumdabloc™

    Got that right ..... Morning <3

  • Chitsngiggles

    Petty Wap.....you can't get those moments back....

  • AllmylifeIhadtofight

    Morning Sistahwife

  • JoyMalone

    White folks know they crazy aas hell. ? Nothing is ever positive about divorce. Says the Good Lord above. ?

  • MissHarlem

    Morning hun ?

  • Chitsngiggles

    They say you gotta fake it til ya make it.....

  • MissHarlem

    Morning suga ?

  • Gabriella Greentree

    Very, my view is that children don't get to choose their parents .... the adults did all the choosing so put all that ish to the side FOR THE CHILD AT LEAST !

  • MissHarlem

    Girl don't censor

  • AllmylifeIhadtofight

    I would say Juanita Jordan will tell you differently LOL

  • Just Keya

    It might be BUT, when I tell you I wish to GOD I could do that with one of my Aunt's husband?! Child, I'd let the ex come (I still call him Uncle) and tell the new one he can't sit with us. New people are not always better than the old people. Most times they are...but the first Uncle was the best one to me! lol

  • finallymadeitn

    Nope but in my crazy family once your in your in. My dad's new wife sat in the car after my grandfather's funeral because my dad's ex-live-in was there. Keep in mind the wife was the side chick that got pregnant on purpose cause he said he didn't want anymore children. So now he got his tubes tied.

  • Just Keya

    Growling all loud and everything. Have people asking "Is that your stomach" lol

  • Buttercup

    They're still fuggin each other and will continue to do so for at least 5 years.

  • AllmylifeIhadtofight

    I'ma just sit back and kill these grape Now and Laters and hope this repair shop ain't trying to tear my left and right cheek off and wait on a new post. I have bonus kids so some of ya'll would be mad at me for being around your kids....

  • Just Keya

    Dito about the bonus kids. I have them with me and my peoples and everything.

  • L.T.L. Since 2007

    *-*-*

  • finallymadeitn

    I've bonus kids too. H3ll I was around before the last one was birthed. But I wasn't a homewrecker lol!! But she still don't like me 13 years later...her kids love me ??

  • BRING THE PAYNE

    Good morning KCL,guhl them MYSTERY MIX NOW LATERS curl toess!!!!!

  • Just Keya

    STOP. But why? What if the Mrs, wants a new life and a new man? How she gonna do that with YOU all in her basement?!

  • VDot

    Yeah it's all good, until one of them gets a new spouse. All hell may break loose then. LOL

  • Just Keya

    Why the new person have to be a hoe? Damn. It's not the newbie fault yall could not stay together!!! Please don't tell me you one of them people who mad at the new wife just because. That shyt is irking.

  • I want to be free

    Good for them. It does make things much easier. I had to have a come to Jesus meeting with my ex and tell him he will NOT take our divorce out on the children. He finally came around and we have been good for many years. Even went on vacations together for the sake of the children.

  • Just Keya

    This right here. Let's see where they are at with this in about 4-5 years.

  • BRING THE PAYNE

    Nope,us too.we call the first wife aunt still.the second get MS.whatever her name is...pety I know.

  • Just Keya

    God Bless your heart. Because I can NEVER go on a vacation with the ex. NOPE. Take the kid and yall go. I will take him someplace when yall get back. I can't do it.

  • L.T.L. Since 2007

    That's kinda the point. She wants a new life?

  • MissHarlem

    Didn't even give birth yet and I have a bonus child. Mama lost custody so it's up to us to get him on the right path. I swear my mission in life is to get other children on track ?

  • 1/8

    I don't have a frame of reference for divorce. My parents have been married since the 60s, my siblings are still married to their partners, and my older, extended family members were together until they died.

    Now... does that mean they lived happily ever after? No, but there is something to be said for anyone who can take the ups and downs, and still honor their commitment.

    These days, everything and everyone is disposable. Everyone is always looking for an upgrade and the grass is always greener on the other side... until you get there and realize that grass is astro-turf.

  • VDot

    That's a good mission to have boo! Hey girl, Hey *kisses*

  • Jusstlookn2

    It's obvious that had drinks prior to court and neither one of them had to pay each other money.

  • AndStillIRose

    Good for this non couple. Hope it stays this good between them, and neither of them let's a new person come into the picture and try to force them to be enemies to soothe that persons insecurities.

  • jeniefrumdabloc™

    That's a blessing to witness that ... and rare <3 Awesome

  • I want to be free

    It's not for everybody. He did take them one year and the look on my kid's faces when they pulled out of the driveway broke my heart because they really wanted me to be there. I had to woman-up and do it for my kids.

  • iWasteTime

    Hey honey bunch!
    What it do ?

  • SummerBaby

    When I got divorced I went out & celebrated. ?We also celebrated when my homegirl got divorced. ???

  • Hair Lova ???

    Good for them! It's great that people can actually get along after the fact.

  • VDot

    They do look tipsy. LOL!! Prolly gon go head and have "one last" roll in the hay too.

  • Guest

    Nope. My grandmother HATED my stepmother. HATED her. My mom and dad been knowing each other since my dad was 6 and my mom was 4. My gran took my parents divorce harder than THEY did lmfaoooo. And when he married my stepmom? Aye yi yi. She NEVER called that lady by her name. It was always: that woman, your daddy wife, your brother mama. She was NOT playing and was NOT shy about it.

  • L.T.L. Since 2007

    ....

  • MissHarlem

    Hey love ?? girl all I know is when I finally have children my ass will be like been there done that ??

  • Buttercup

    Hey honey! Nothing much. Just trying to make it through this half day so my team and I can go to our volunteer event. We're going to a food bank. It's one of my favorites.

    How are you?

  • jeniefrumdabloc™

    Being intoxicated sometimes smooths thangs out ... aye

  • L.T.L. Since 2007

    ****

  • AllmylifeIhadtofight

    Mine too. Mine were 2 and 5 when me and Mr stated dating. My oldest turned 14 yesterday... Lawd my baby is taller than me. We don't do steps. They are my kids, I use BK in mixed company to explain.

  • Guest

    Hello honey

  • Guest

    Hello honey.

    HA. See what I did there?

  • Chitsngiggles

    Anybody that ain't me gonna be a hoe. Ion care if you a first Lady at the church. If the bish ain't me, she a hoe. Eye said what I said. ????

  • MissHarlem

    Nothing wrong with that. Celebrations are for new beginnings

  • AllmylifeIhadtofight

    Hey boo. I went to the hood store Saturday when I met hubby at the barber shop and racked up!!!

  • Guest

    Girl we pure went ON VACATION when my homegirl got divorced. To the beach on our old timeshare. For my divorce we had a porty with a cake, and some dranks and then went to dinner and the club in a cab. We got white girl wasted.

  • AllmylifeIhadtofight

    That's all that matters. We do what's best for the kids.

  • Just Keya

    That's a shame. Because if the person is like ME, then all they are doing is loving on your babies. And I *wiggles head* am no hoe. Humph *flips hair back* lol

  • AllmylifeIhadtofight

    Yep.. Nice blended family.

  • iWasteTime

    My parents arent together.
    Haven't been in 32 years. My mom don't do my dad and all my dad wants is to do my mom ...lol. fr and he ihas been married for 30 years. They would sit in the same place though a row apart ..lol. My Wedding was cool and we did the BIG pic together, my dad was on one side wiht his eife and my mom was on the side of me.
    Now that they share a grand child they are competitive.
    Like my dad called and said how much yall spend on BTS, I told him and he was like well I'll give you 50 more than your momma.
    I was thinking but I raised what she spent any way so now I"M up!

  • Just Keya

    Freaking Dead! lol. She stuck with you huh? lol.

  • Guest

    Our 2 married homegirls was like ashiiiiid we coming too. Damn if you leave US out. *hot tears*

  • AllmylifeIhadtofight

    That's why I said what I said up top and didn't engage. Don't either.. Walk away.

  • L.T.L. Since 2007

    I think I learned more from my bonus than he learned from me.
    22 with 2 kids around the same age and one not biological?!?!?!?
    Crash course in adulthood/parenthood for your a$$

  • Chitsngiggles

    I got an great uncle who remarried, but I swear I ain't never seen his new wife. Not at nan reunion nothing. But his ex wife be everywhere my family is. She was just in Detroit with us when we had our mini reunion there. I asked my step mom where the new wife was, she said girl probably in New Orleans somewhere crying. My family is adamant about that woman not sitting no where near us. Not at the table, not on the porch....she not welcomed here.

  • Guest

    She needed that vacation. Her marriage was the WORSE EVER. He was beating her azz. Had stole money. Had a woman living in their rental property. Had took her kids one weekend and threatened not to bring them back. That ink got signed? I was like heffa WE LEAVING.

  • MissHarlem

    ??

  • Low E. {CIRCA 1908}

    MY PARENTS NEVER MARRIED...I HAD BOTH A STEPDAD AND A STEPMOM...DAD IS DIVORCED, MOM ISN'T. TOOK 26 YEARS FOR THESE TWO TO BECOME FRIENDS AGAIN...SMH.

    DAD AND STEPDAD GET ALONG TOO...THIS ONE ONLY TOOK ABOUT 12 YEARS

  • Just Keya

    I'm not mad. I was just asking her. If that Is how she feels then ok. In real life though, it just makes it harder for the kids. Not harder for me because guess what? That man and those kids still with me. On a daily. Forever. So, I could care less if someone was to be mad. (DISCLAIMER: no one is real life mad lmao)

  • AllmylifeIhadtofight

    I'm also grateful that their mother allows me to love them freely and allows them to freely love me. Me and Mr went through a spell and she told him if you f this up I'm going to kill you. I don't want anyone else around my kids. I respect her as their mother and never cross that line and she respects me.

  • SummerBaby

    I used to celebrate all types of stuff. Any little thing & I'm ready to throw a party invite folks from out of town & every thang ?

  • JerseyMom

    If you can’t honor your vows that you made before God, at least honor your children.'

    ********************

    Sister Sandra, you better preach!

  • VDot

    Hell, I needed a vacation reading that! Sheesh

  • Guest

    LMFAOOOO. Let me find out you like US. GIRL. My sister nem be like DUB. Dont EVERYTHING NEED A PARTY.

  • AllmylifeIhadtofight

    Oh I didn't think you were. I know you had your Escape voice on looking for Understanding :crying:

  • Just Keya

    This!

  • SummerBaby

    My homegirl had an ex like this but he also had a drug problem

  • Chitsngiggles

    That sounds like hell on earth. God bless her! She deserved a vacation.... If not more.

  • Just Keya

    Fuggin DEAD!!! lmao. Now I am freaking singing it. Bye girl.

  • Buttercup

    Nope.

  • iWasteTime

    I'm good.
    That is wonderful
    We do things as a family at least once a quarter.
    My lil one is spoiled so I put him on early to giving back and being appreciative.

  • SummerBaby

    I love to have plenty of food & drinks on deck

  • Guest

    She went through ALOT with him. ALOT. 14 years. I think WE were all relieved it was OVER. Towards the end, like the LAST 2 years. Man every WEEK. It was some MESS. You NEVER want to tell somebody to LEAVE their marriage. But bish you in DANGER. Abort abort AH-BORT.

  • jussaying

    I agree that everything is disposable these days. I'd actually like to really do a behavioral study on how technology has affected relationships (both romantic and otherwise) period. I think this generation has really lost its ability to connect in a meaningful way b/c everything is so easily accessible. Dating and hook-up apps have even made sex and partners attainable literally at the palm of your hand, and when you can cycle thru potential partners dismissing them flippantly for small insignificant details with little regard, it def dehumanizes ppl. Then I think we've become so concerned w/ documenting our life experiences that we forget to actually be in the moment and experience them.

  • iWasteTime

    +1

  • Guest

    Mine had one too. This dude did NOT. He was just really an AZZ. And see what do you tell a homegirl that insist on staying? Stop calling me with this here bullchit every WEEK?

  • Buttercup

    We do things as a team at least once a month. Our company is HUGE on volunteering. I too try to teach the importance of paying it forward. Lil Butter is good, but Honey Dip on the other hand...

  • AllmylifeIhadtofight

    New Post. I told ya'll last week Ask Rachel was pregnant.

  • SummerBaby

    I love this! ??

  • Buttercup

    And y'all ended up celebrating a divorce? My girlfriend would've been trying to have me plan a funeral.

  • Chitsngiggles

    I come from a strong family background like that. My parents were married 10 years. My daddy and step mom been married 28 years. Both my grandparents remained married until my grandfathers died. Most of my family on my dad side been married since they were teens. Hubby's parents been married for 36 years. I love having examples like that in my life. Let's me know that it won't be easy, but staying together through thick and thin is not a farce. Its not a fairytale.

  • Unita Lucinda “Lucy” Freebush

    Good Morning

  • Readytochokemothernatureonout

    At least it's not a war of the roses type relationship.

  • Guest

    No. He deserved to live. Cause now she is VERY happy.If he was DEAD he wouldnt be able to witness it.

  • Buttercup

    Dang, I just realized you weren't talking to me. Oh WHALE! LMBO

  • MissHarlem

    The mom ironically is learning more from me. Mind you she has two other children that she does have custody over. It's frustrating because he is behind in a lot of things. Thankfully I have patience with him. Thank God for weed. Seriously ?

  • Chitsngiggles

    Bonus kids? Like your hubby had an outside kid. Break baby?

  • iWasteTime

    So! you know you my boo!
    I'm gonna need all y'all tomorrow any damn way

  • MissHarlem

    Bonus as in we met him with children.

  • Unita Lucinda “Lucy” Freebush

    Blame it on Obama like everyone else and his phones.

  • WHITTYwithWORDS

    lol

  • No ma’am

    Yeah I was just going to say most of the time when there is foolishness is when the decision to divorce wasn't mutual. OR when there's a lot of money involved.

  • Chitsngiggles

    Oh. Yeah I have one of those too. I hated it at first. But she is 12 now. I enjoy having around for the most part....

  • Unita Lucinda “Lucy” Freebush

    That's my movie. Crazy an petty. Stuff all blown out of proportion that could have been resolved amicably. They went in even unto death.

  • Readytochokemothernatureonout

    Right I love it. Fighting until the last breath lol.

  • WHITTYwithWORDS

    Child I'm waiting on a call for mine...I'll smooth trade that bytch if its twe merch.

  • Unita Lucinda “Lucy” Freebush

    Wait a minute. There's two of you too?

  • 1/8

    When I was a boy, my grandmother, who outlived two husbands, used to have regular conversations with me about the importance of honesty and keeping my word.

    She used to say, "Always look for someone who wants the same things you want, and work together to achieve that goal. There's nothing worse than sleeping with someone who isn't on your side."

    The things I learned at my grandmother's kitchen table, have served me well.

  • AllmylifeIhadtofight

    SMH. Mine is foreign. That's why I'm so nervous..

  • AllmylifeIhadtofight

    Hell nawl. Bonus kids = step children but we don't use the word step. They are my bonus babies and I'm their Bonus Mom.

  • AllmylifeIhadtofight

    Hey boo.

  • AllmylifeIhadtofight

    It just makes everything better and easier for the kids.

  • VDot

    Wait, what?!

  • ATL White Guy

    Are you sure that's not a story from the old ATL freaknik days?

  • Karen Brady

    I watched her on TMZ last night. She's cute enough so he may come forward if he sees the story. Smh though. Lord.

  • Karen Brady

    That's for sure.

  • 1/8

    Love is hard. People need to move away from the Hallmark-greeting-card notion of love.

    Real love is a selfless act, but most people think love is about getting THEIR needs met. Well, if you're always worried about yourself, who is taking care of your partner's needs?

    Two selfless people together, are guaranteed to take care of each other.

  • 1/8

    In my short time on this planet (I'm nearly 50 years old), there has definitely been a change in the way we communicate with one another.

    I can't speak for heterosexuals, but the internet has turned most gay men in uber-promiscuous, cyber-wh@res.

    Their online ads are riddled with photos of their private parts and their bios read like a prostitute's autobiography. And in the midst of all that smut, they claim to be looking for a relationship.

    Sometimes, I feel like I'm living on Mars.

  • Hugga Bunch

    I mentioned before on here...my ex hubby got remarried this year on my birthday lol best part, we've been divorced for almost a decade. My point, folks can/will stay mad as long they live. Damn shame.

  • Unita Lucinda “Lucy” Freebush

    I just said something to V. Let me go find it.

  • Ladysweetthang

    Sound like she need to redeem herself and make an adult decision. I'm pro choice so umm she need to handle that. Dude might be in love with the co co or curazy or both.

  • Ladysweetthang

    Dude might have the kangaroo and she could've caught it! Smh people kill me act like only babies come from unprotected sex! Smh

  • SoChlo

    I connect so much with this. My mom told me if I invited my dad to my wedding she wouldn't come. It hurt me so bad to hide the fact that I was getting married from my dad. My daughters first birthday is coming up and it hurts me that her grandma and grandpa can't both be there for her. I tell my Mom that she hates my dad more than she loves me. How can you love someone enough to marry them and have kids with them then hate them so much? It only affects the kids.

  • Noize4u

    No feelings involved?

  • Monday

    I agree. My parents got divorced and when I had my surgery. They both came for me, no fights or agurments, they were concerned about me.I trully appreciate it. And it help me to believe that not all men are bad when they separate. Things happen and life goes on

  • jussaying

    I think that's pretty true across the board. We've become highly sexualized people too. Kids experiment earlier and earlier and the stuff they do these days becomes more risqué thanks to porn being there and things like Tumblr. Before weirdos with crazy fetishes were isolated & you had to work hard to find them. Now tumblr offers community for that and there are hookup fetish sites.

    So as you can imagine, guys feel they don't have to put forth effort anymore bc there's always someone willing to do whatever for less. That attitude permeates our music (what happened to r&b?!?). And even women's attitudes have shifted because if someone attempts or tries "too hard," which usually means they show interest and are engaging then they call them thirsty.

    I feel the same man. Relationshipping (lol) is so hard but that's bc I hate most people lmao.

  • missmiami305

    Awesome for them. Wonder what drama they endured prior to this picture

  • Mahogany

    Amen

  • 1/8

    "I feel the same man. Relationshipping (lol) is so hard but that's bc I hate most people lmao."
    ______________________

    I wouldn't say that I hate most people, but I am very selective about who allow into my inner circle.

    I'm a very private person.... no Facebook or online presence associated with my personal information.

    I have acquaintances that I've known for years, but they have no idea where I live.

    Very few people are invited to my bat-cave. LOL! ?

  • Canary Red™

    Amazing!!!! So proud of them!!!

    If it doesn't work it doesn't work. At least they have the common sense God gave them to put their children first and not make them choose.
    Bless you two!!!!

  • ShameTheDevil

    I'm so down for this. Cudos to them!

  • Justsaying

    This post ended with a little sarcasm. :-| Both people have to honor the vows they made before God....when only one does it it's kind of hard to stay, Auntie....even after trying for years. Should one stay in a dysfunctional marriage where the children see issues or leave and be as functional as you can single handedly. Showing your children you can actually be happy and co-parent without stress and issues is healthy. It's not selfish...sometimes it is just necessary when two people don't love one another enough to stay....dunno just saying...

  • LiveMelove

    As a child from divorce parents.Never tell people to stay together for the children because if those two are miserable than they will make the child life miserable and stress them out and children do not know how to express that so it can cause them to act out. If two people can't stay together because of THEM.Than divorce and form a positive coparent relationship and find love elsewhere. More gifts for the kids. I hate that stay together for kids advice because it's horrible. I rather see my parents happy separately than fighting with one another giving me headaches.