Eboni K Williams

Fox News host Eboni K. Williams admits her confidence and being pretty are the keys to her success. The 33-year-old co-host of Fox News talk show "The Specialists" admits she uses her striking good looks to "grab the attention of everyone in the room and blow them out of the water."

In her new book Pretty Powerful: Appearance, Substance, and Success, Williams explained how she "grappled with" using her irresistible beauty to her advantage while trying to get ahead in a white man's world.

“I really struggled with reconciling caring about what I look like — because it matters, particularly as a woman — and being professional and very aggressive in my ambition,” Williams tells The NY Post. “I felt like a walking conflict.”

Williams, who was raised by a single mother, says she embraced both sides of her passive/aggressive personality which earned her the nickname “Barbie lawyer” from fellow attorneys and judges in the courtroom.

Williams said the attention she received was actually beneficial to her clients in the courtroom.

Eboni K Williams

The former beauty queen and attorney joined Fox News as a contributor in 2015.

She said she achieved great success by finding the proper balance between brains and beauty. “A marriage of [style and substance] at the maximum levels really yields incredible results.” In other words, she says, women shouldn't fear using their beauty to help them get ahead.

“Grab the attention of everyone in the room with your physical presentation,” she says, "and then blow [them] out of the water — via a job interview, work presentation or trial argument — with what you say."

  • Mr.LeBrickJames

    She seems stuck up. I can't stand a stuck up woman.
    I feel sorry for the dude who ends up marrying her one day.

  • AQUEEN

    I am not trying to hate but she just seems average to me?? I don't find her strikingly beautiful to me

  • Vegas1989

    LOL...I get attention everywhere I go...Because I speak to everyone...Loud and Clear...Good Morning, Hello, How ur doing?....LOL....I speak to all with a smile on my face...And then I can see some peeps like why is she speaking to me...It's funny

  • Tink Tink

    I agree, but I guess, she could be something nice to look at in a courtroom compared to others.

  • cherrypie

    But......she's just OK looking. Pretty girl but NOT drop dead georgous.

  • tintin

    she looks like peter gunz baby mama Tara

  • HalleMerry

    Okay (In My Jay-Z voice).But,what part of the world is this considered beautiful? Tired of 6's painting their face and claiming to be 10's. She is average.

  • BlahBlahBlah

    ya a lil bit. Tara is kinda cute!!!

  • BlahBlahBlah

    I think most women don't know what pretty is to a man.

  • http://olskoolblackflix.com Insane Taco Juice

    Got a long list of women who were/are drop-dead gorgeous but they had talent and a good PR person. This woman has neither.

  • Mr.LeBrickJames

    Very. She coulda done way better than Peter Gunz, but apparently she doesn't know her own worth. Not sure why she stuck it out with him all these years. She really settled, IMO.

  • DaughterOfaQueen

    I see nothing wrong with what she said...isnt that black girl magic?

  • YES I SAID IT…

    She's cute and I ain't made at her if that's what she gotta do to get a head then I guess it is what it is. But looks ain't everything but in her case I guess it is.

  • NicoleZee

    Thank you. It's impolite to boast about yourself. Plenty of women are attractive, but I've seen better looking women who are actually impolite, humble, and their nose doesn't take up most of their face. Next.......

  • Oretta Grace Smith

    I've seen prettier! If that mind is not pretty, you have nothing!!!

  • TheOwley

    I'm not mad at her. If you bathe, brush your teeth, fix your hair to any degree, use some kind of product or another to enhance your daily appearance, wear clothes that make you look good and presentable, then you are stepping out onto society that would not give you a second look if you don't do all that well. I just happen to hate it when it's pointed out to me like this one here is doing. These are life subtleties that are better left unsaid or you come out looking like a conceited assclown.

  • Oretta Grace Smith

    They don't!!

  • NicoleZee

    Preach! The worst part is that little girls see and hear women like her and they think it's cute and the way to be. A beautiful and intelligent woman knows how to present herself, but she's humble, has a great attitude, and spirit, and doesn't use her looks to get anything in my opinion. Now it's become okay to be hookers and boast about it, SMFH! Using your beauty to get ahead is just another way of condoning prostitution. I really wish the feds would lock these dumb heifers up once and for all. It will never end. Sad.

  • NicoleZee

    Black girl undercover prostitution. Sad.

  • Bonsai

    Like HalleMary said "what part of the world is this considerd beautiful"? She a dime a dozen and there is nothing strikenly beautiful about her.

  • You Could Never

    I actually kinda like Eboni. She has her own views. She is smart. And yes beautiful.

    NC Stand Up.

  • Bonsai

    Like HalleMary said "what part of the world is this considerd beautiful"? She a dime a dozen and there is noting strikenly beautiful about her.

  • Malcom Flex

    LOL if that photo of you is real, you're jealous AF.

  • brownisback

    "and then blow them"
    Just because I feel like being messy

  • NicoleZee

    Truth! These entertainment sites hype up people up to be beautiful when they are not. She is attractive, but just like Evelyn Lozada and Cardi B, she looks like something hit her in the nose and she never got it fixed. I wouldn't call that beautiful. Half these people are not as attractive as they make themselves out to be. And when you say dumb shit, you make yourself even less attractive. I can't believe men go for dummies like this. But I forgot, men don't want educated women with natural bodies who would make good mothers and wives, they prefer prettied up gutter trash, not calling this lady trash, just generalizing. SMFH! So sad for little girls today. They have no role models.

  • You Could Never

    For everyone saying they have seen better, she is average...she NEVER SED she is THE most beautiful. There is nothing WRONG with having confidence in oneself. My GOD what the fukk are yall teaching your DAUGHTERS at HOME?

  • Lisa daniels

    Like Weezy said, it ain't tricking if you got it. At least she at a dumb do nothing ho having payday babies

  • ShelbyMoore

    I thought I was gonna be the one to make this comment. This broad is basic af. They prop every LSLH chick up as striking.

  • Malcom Flex

    GOOD FOR HER. WW do it ALLLL the time.

  • Trey

    She looks good...

  • Malcom Flex

    Those sad fat hags are jealous AF.

  • http://olskoolblackflix.com Insane Taco Juice

    There's a couple of people from way back, one male and one female, who talked about incessantly about how good they looked but I can't remember names now. Anyway, they did fall off for good.

    However, back when rap was supposed to be "wholesome" and disses were few and far between, JJ Fad served Roxanne Shante a couple of hard ones about her looks. They lost fans before they were forced to retire.

  • Malcom Flex

    Get ready yall this thread is FULL of JEALOUS BLACK WOMEN.

  • Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!

    use what you got Eb.... that's what Esther did in the Bible.
    umm.... keep ya head up! *yawn*
    (goes back downstairs to the interesting story) https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/5a16feb7886870b58e876a7ffc6b264e7419e743bb55ec579123b82d4a427799.gif

  • Rayne

    This is self esteem. Esteem of yo own self. Lol

  • You Could Never

    They are acting like this sista came out like Don Imus and is calling all black women nappy headed hoes in order to escalate her OWN beauty and self esteem. She is not saying that AT ALL. What is the prollem?

  • NicoleZee

    You teach children to have confidence in themselves, not to boast about their attractiveness or accomplishments. And you definitely do not teach a young girl how to use her beauty for anything because she'll end up as someone's hooker. A hooker is a hooker, doesn't matter how much they get paid or where they lay. Dr. Phil said it best, "You can put lipstick on a pig but it's still a pig". People seem to think that you can only be a hooker if you walk the streets at night or get $20 for some blowjob. Naw, plenty of hookers are your next door neighbors, ladies at church, celebs, or your best friend laying up in some trick's house. Sad. These women need prayer, can't nobody save their dumb asses but the One above.

  • Bonsai

    Exactly. Maybe she makes the YT folks over at Fox feel at ease but that's all that is. She let that go to her head when she a token black.

  • NicoleZee

    Now Roxanne is pretty to me. Don't know why they made comments about her looks. Pretty is more than just looking one type of way. We live in a sick society where EVERYONE seems to think that every person with a light complexion is pretty or handsome. Hell naw! Women like Lupita N'yongo and Viola Davis are beautiful inside and out because they also have a beautiful spirit. I'm light brown skinned, but I happen to think that beauty comes in all shades and forms. But I can't see someone as beautiful when their arrogant, dumb, or unkind. Not for me.

  • MadameMixi

    There's always prettier, smarter, richer... but damn lady...can you give credit where it's due and stop sounding slighted?! RME!!! Eboni and pretty and intelligent, no harm, no foul in that. SMH.

  • MissHarlem

    Eh and water is wet. Nothing new or profound it's what us women do. However no harm but I understand why this might rub some females the wrong way ?

  • You Could Never

    This is the most ignorant comment I have read in a long time. And believe me, you are in GOOD company. How is this lady a hooker when she has worked on sex crimes cases? Bc she looks in the mirror and says she is the shit everyday before she walks out of her house? Like...goodbye.

  • You Could Never

    If that mind is not pretty, you have nothing!!!

    ^^^^^^^^^^^^
    Her mind with her major in African American studies is beautiful to me. Enrolling in college at 16; is gorgeous. Her law degree is pretty damn pretty. The fact that she is licensed to uphold the law of this land in 3 different states...absolutely purdy.

  • MadameMixi

    Her "talent" is her brain. She is an attorney after all. You try and pass the bar with your "talent". SMFH @ you hoes... can't help but sound bitter and jealous.

  • NicoleZee

    Girl bye! Quit trying to promote beauty and some sorry book when you're promoting undercover prostitution. Disgusting. Fix your nose then tell me how pretty you think you are! All these cocky bitches need new faces half the damn time. FOH! You must have mental health problems if you stare in the mirror all day actually convincing yourself that you are beautiful. Beautiful women know they are beautiful, but they go about their day and could not care less. Sad.

  • http://olskoolblackflix.com Insane Taco Juice

    ITA...I even think a pre-surgery Kenya Moore is gorgeous.

  • You Could Never

    Why does she need a good PR person, when she has her own degree in communications?

  • http://olskoolblackflix.com Insane Taco Juice

    Not hardly jealous and definitely not a hoe. Thanks and good night.

  • You Could Never

    Hey hun. Im shocked at how many are upset actually.

  • Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!

    *cackling my azz off*

  • NicoleZee

    Ignorant, um no, you obviously didn't read what the article was about. This lady USES HER LOOKS TO GET AHEAD, plenty of women do that and they end up in very bad situations. Don't come for me asshole when I didn't say shit to you to begin with. My comments are addressing this young lady, NOT you. Have the common sense to not respond if you don't know how to have decent conversations without being offensive to others that could not care less about you. BLOCKED!

  • http://olskoolblackflix.com Insane Taco Juice

    Because she comes off as arrogant, which rarely works for women regardless of their accomplishments.

  • Vonn

    Mentality is the problem. I have a healthy dose of self esteem & I use it to my advantage every chance I get. I be like...while I have your attention etc, etc & I keep it 100 percent respectable. People that SLEEP their way to the top are in a totally different category.

  • You Could Never

    Don't come for me asshole when I didn't say shit to you to begin with.

    ^^^^^^^^^^^^^
    Um you are strange. Bc you in fact DID say shit to me to begin with? You responded to MY post? Good riddance.

  • Quitedeliteful

    Use what you got to get what you want -- it's been done since the beginning of time... There are studies done claiming that 'attractive' people have an advantage -- but if you don't have brains to go along with that attractiveness you'll just end up on your back. She seems to have a healthy dose of beauty and brains. I like her honesty. She could have said naw.. I made it based on brains alone. Her looks helped open doors for her and I like that she can be honest about that fact...

  • Tammie Reed

    Sell your book girl!

  • Ms.Vanilla

    I agree with her. I have gotten jobs in the past that I knew were because of my looks. It happens.

  • You Could Never

    You know who Eboni been in the bed with? Spill that tea then.

  • stav

    I think some women care too much as to what they think is pretty to a man and to society!

  • Wayup!

    She is absolutely correct..I personally like to portray BOTH...
    I like to look hard core "professional" in face and hair... But soft feminine in body and dress...?
    Fks em up every time.. They don't know whether to be scared of me.. Or look at my @$$?

  • Mia Said so

    Who's doesn't they crazy if they not

  • NicoleZee

    PREACH Miss Oretta, CO-SIGN! I'll take kindness, humility, and intelligence over someone that "thinks" they are pretty any day of the week. She is attractive, yes, but pretty, I wouldn't necessarily say that, not with that nose. I wish these blogs would report on actual beautiful people doing good that have common sense. Too much like right. Sad.

  • You Could Never

    chile they are not right in the head in here Nan

  • brownisback

    So um you hear bout the pastor that said he wanted to eat Nicki's bootay then said the Instagram account that the comment was made from wasn't his????

  • Vonn

    No, I agree with what Ebonics is saying. Use your looks to get in the door. There are some folks trying to make her sound like a hoe. The hoes are in a different category.

  • Quitedeliteful

    LOLLOLLOLLOLLOL!!!!!!!! Nancy Drew!!!! You CRAZY!!! LOLLOLLOL!!!!!!!!!

  • Mia Said so

    But why she only saying it out loud..it is true for me period. Who do r put on them jeans and then turn in that mirror and smile. ME!!!!!! We all do it

  • MadameMixi

    I know I got my foot in the door at the company I work with because of my looks and personality. I also know I kept the job for 18 years because of my intelligence and savvy! So kudos to Eboni for keeping it light and honest.

  • Lovely1

    Pretty. This is true. I have played up on certain looks to get in the door of some companies. So unfortunate, but she tells no lies.

  • NicoleZee

    Kenya is attractive, but I've heard around Atlanta that she is not a nice person at all, which is very sad. Like the old folks used to say, kindness and humility go a long way, I still believe that today.

  • Mia Said so

    Well I always said my mother GOT a hold of my before the world DID .. thank GOD Because folks will have you thinking other .. not ME

  • brownisback

    "They lost fans before they were forced to retire"
    They had fans???

  • You Could Never

    I see. Got it.

  • Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!

    I get what folks are saying about conceited peepa, but that's not what I got from this post on ol' Eb. All I see is where she has esteem of self; I don't see where she, by comparison, but down another????
    personally, I'm happy when folk are happy with themselves; this exponentially increases my chances of being left thee hail alone by them. most folk I know who are fairly pleased with themselves I find that they don't really bother other people or obsess over what the next bish is doing. I find no fault with that. *shrug*

  • You Could Never

    Ebonics. Im crine.

  • MissHarlem

    You know damn well on this blog it's expected ?? keep forgetting to hit you up ?

  • You Could Never

    GIRL. This the comment of the DAY. Lord. Total help me SANG

  • SouthernGirlAZWorld

    Yass!!

  • Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!

    LOL! nawl!!! who was it? (Lawd please tell me he not in the DC area...) https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/bb4264f7d4d7227830d50436ebc02fe52f854ab6633bc6dbb91c04c30c8efcd0.gif

  • NicoleZee

    I'm trying to figure out WHY men like women like that. You have to have more going for you than being cute. No one seems to value kindness and humility anymore. A person with common sense who was raised well would not go around saying dumb shit or telling people to use their beauty to get something. What in the entire hell is wrong with people??? Anyone who thinks like that is an embarrassment.

  • stav

    Esther was chosen by King Ahaseurus because she was beautiful,but she didn't use her beauty for gain. She was very smart and resourceful knowledge wise, and humble, and gained great favor amongst many because of this. The Kings first wife Queen Vashti was also beautiful , but she was not humble and her throne was relinquished , but because Ester was beautiful and humble she gained great favor, so she was quite the opposite of what you stated, she also was aware that looks fade and not to rely on them because you have them.

  • brownisback

    Straight outta Memphis

  • DaughterOfaQueen

    I must have missed the part were she talked about getting tossed up and turned out? Damn, can we stop being so freaking critical towards one another? Damned if you do, damned if you don't. At least she ain't posing half nude or on some reality show or some ish like that. If I wasn't on this positive wave today I'd call you a HATER, but I won't ?

  • Mia Said so

    Like Jay said my money is Handsome.. wow this is really upsetting me that we can speak like this about another beautiful woman.. so sad.

  • Mia Said so

    Malcolm be nice don't go down there with thee rest of them

  • ?Royalty?

    She's said nothing, but the truth.
    It can be a blessing or a curse. You must find balance.

  • Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!
  • http://olskoolblackflix.com Insane Taco Juice

    LOL, I know..well they did get a Grammy and they were part of that tribute last year. *shrugs*

  • ?Royalty?

    Lol !!!! Say that!!!

  • Vonn

    That was auto correct. I meant Eboni.

  • https://twitter.com/Chicagowise Chicagowise

    When I was a little boy, my grandmother, who was half black, used to say, "your appearance is going to open a lot of doors for you. Don't forget to leave it cracked for the people who weren't given a fair chance." It's okay to use what you got, to get what you want... but at some point, you should use your advantages to help other people, too.

    I have worked in places where there wasn't a "black" face in sight. I have sat in conference rooms where there were no "black" voices being heard. So, when given the opportunity, I have always made a conscious effort to hire QUALIFIED minorities. I hired one black woman who was so brilliant, I recommended her for my position when I decided to leave the company. In fact, when I brought her on board, that was my plan. ?

  • Mia Said so

    Please say it again I mean what the heck is going on

  • On the radar….

    Nothing wrong with that. So many dumb dumbs out here it's actually refreshing to always see beauty and brains more accepting. Women like her intimidate the likes of the you know who that fans love.

  • http://olskoolblackflix.com Insane Taco Juice

    Yep, probably why she never made it as a legit actress and has to resort to the RH franchise.

  • You Could Never

    Like its BAD or taboo or something. its dumb

  • You Could Never

    JJ Fad has a Grammy?

  • You Could Never

    Im lost to it

  • Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!

    I'm familiar.
    what part is opposite though? Eboni is humble, and she emphasizes "substance" right there in her book title. maybe Eboni is blessed with favor/grace too. when her looks "fade" she will still have her intellect.

  • NicoleZee

    Um, why would someone openly admit to a crime??? WTF??? I just disagree with anyone cheering this woman on. Young girls are going to see the things that she said and they will think it is okay. An intelligent woman with common sense does not need to use her beauty to get anything. Do you know how many women use their looks and their body to get "things" and they end up dead in a ditch or floating in the river??? I wouldn't be teaching my daughter to "use" anything but her mind so that she can end up with a good education and doing something great in the world. Luckily, I have a little boy, but I certainly won't be teaching him to use anything but his brains to get ahead, not his looks or his penis. Sad.

    And even though you didn't call em a hater, I'm not the jealous type. I have enough confidence in myself to know that I am beautiful but I don't need to boast about it to the world or in some boring book. I personally do not find her beautiful, just my opinion, her nose is in the way, but she is still attractive. I see beautiful women all the time, nothing to get excited about if you are a heterosexual woman like myself. Penis turns me on, not vagina!

    You have a good evening though.

  • Vonn

    That's what I'm talking about. Who doesn't use every advantage in a job hunt? You use the best resume & best reference, you should use your best outward appearance as well. First impressions...

  • Vonn

    Amen.

  • stav

    Nice try , but using one's looks for gain, whether materially , financially, or to climb the corporate ladder , is not humble. One should also be humble enough to allow others to decide if she has real beauty( which entails more than looks) and not be boastful about herself being beautiful (according to her) which is quite debatable!

  • Quitedeliteful

    i don't understand the hate. 99.9 percent of women fix themselves up to look pretty some kind of way -- for some its lipstick, for others it might be braids or a weave. Who goes on a job interview not looking their absolute best...

  • Wayup!

    I knew you gon hate me for this but I can guarantee you use your looks unwittingly on a constant basis daily....n don't even know it..
    EX: ever wonder why the bus driver always stops for you no matter where you can at? Your A$$ ain't even in the right bus stop and he stops anyway... The dude at ShopRite gave you a break on cakes.. Cause ya KAKES was out!!
    Come on GRL

  • http://olskoolblackflix.com Insane Taco Juice

    My bad. I thought there was a photo but it was a nom, no win. Oh well.

  • ZRoJoTheLezBeyond

    I wish I could up vote you many times over!!

  • Malcom Flex

    True dat. But for real, most of the black women posting here are obese and lonely single mothers the jealousy is real.

  • Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!

    oh I see now.... it's COGIC... nothing to see here folks, LMAO!!!!
    they keep some mess going in COGIC (at least this one was lusting after a woman) https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/68bc52b2a4f54f3dc0d4dea29ec0c12c203c19b65d4d18beb2fbbd13d0be6a55.gif

  • Malcom Flex

    Teaching their daughters to be obese, oh, excuse me, THICK mammies!!

  • ZRoJoTheLezBeyond

    I doubt that's her real pic. Looks like a meme.

  • Malcom Flex

    Wow that heffa is off the charts jealous I used to think she was ok. Prolly just another obese sad and lonely single mother.

  • NicoleZee

    Nobody's hating on her, trust me, there are better looking women with actual common sense who are humble, not arrogant and stuck up. What you said is true, but a decent person wants to get hired because of their ability to perform well in the job they are applying for, not for what they look like. This woman is an embarrassment to her mother and family. I'm from the south, we aren't raised like that here. My mama and grandmama didn't play. My mom would snatch me bald if I was walking around saying some shit like I'm using my looks to get something or just to get ahead. I don't know how other people are raised, but where I come from, you don't embarrass your family that worked hard so you could have a better life than they did.

  • Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!

    I was going to make a joke about her working in television, but you seem serious about this, so i'll just leave it here.

  • Malcom Flex

    This proves how jealous many black women are of each other!! And how obese many are. If this was a 'fat and proud' thread, they'd be all up in here like, YASSS.

  • stav

    The Bible is no joke, accuracy is a must!

  • Oretta Grace Smith

    Where is YOUR picture? I'm blessed beyond as a retired teacher with multiple degrees with a masters plus 45 and I obtained a Cosmetology license? Beauty is in the eye of the beholder!!! So with that, I still WOULDN'T pick her ad my standard of beauty and probably YOU either.

  • Malcom Flex

    Ok, but I am so tired of so called BW dissing other BW for striving.

  • Malcom Flex

    If this was a thread of an obese BW saying same thing there would be tons of YASS GIRL and all the other bull.

  • Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!

    it's hard out here chile. I'd rather see a young lady with enough esteem to blaze her own trail, as opposed to hanging at the club tryna get 'chose' for the after-party orjee.... https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/5a16feb7886870b58e876a7ffc6b264e7419e743bb55ec579123b82d4a427799.gif

  • ZRoJoTheLezBeyond

    People on here talking about she need to do something about her nose... But why?? I see nothing wrong with her nose. Then if she got a nose job, I'm sure people would be saying "she got cosmetic surgery to make her nose smaller" or "she wasn't happy with herself so she made her nose smaller" and blah blah blah.. Apparently, she IS happy with herself and how she looks so maybe she never felt the need to get a nose job? She looks how she was born to look, not how some people feel she should look. GOOD FOR HER! Shoots, my nose way bigger than hers, I'm HAPPY with myself, this is how I was born to look! People, please be happy within yourselves :)

  • Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!

    "Total"
    LMAO!!!!!

  • Wayup!

    ????

  • NicoleZee

    Thank you for posting that. EVERYONE needs to read it, and you don't have to be religious to appreciate the story. Character today is lost and no one cares about it at all anymore. A beautiful person does not need to tell the world what they think of themselves. And it sickens me that these sites always say people are beautiful when in reality they are not. I just think that beauty has to be internal first before it can be external. If you are ugly on the inside, there is no way that you can be as beautiful as you might think. I've already said that I don't find this lady beautiful, but she is attractive. If you keep looking at her face, Stevie Wonder can see that her nose takes up the most space, so how the hell can that be beautiful and how is she that arrogant with a nose like that??? WTH??? I stay confused.

    Sidebar: I learned from a plastic surgeon that a realistic handsome/pretty face is a face that has features that are ALL proportionate with each other, meaning nothing is too small or too big, everything sits in the correct place and nothing is oversized. Just saying....

  • xenaD

    We all do it... especially if you are fine and you know it!! Own that room.

  • Quitedeliteful

    My mom would snatch me bald if I was walking around saying some shit like I'm using my looks to get something or just to get ahead.
    ======================================
    Now this is true.... I think most parents raise their girls to concentrate on the books instead of beauty but the focus on looks is all around us so I think when a woman walks into a room and realizes that the men seem to lose their damn minds she just goes with the flow -- especially if it gets her the break that she needs. It doesn't mean she sleeps her way to the top. I don't think it's much different than a man flossing his sports car or high paying job and custom suit. I think she's smart in that she has a bonafide career to fall back on when the looks fade....

  • kennedy campbell

    did you read the book? how was it ? what's wrong with her nose? i was raised in the south.....and there are plenty of people raised in the south thinking that beauty will get them places...now i'm not degrading strippers but plenty of them know they are good looking and use what they got to get what they want...

  • BRuhman_Vista

    Had to re-read this exchange. Hillarious! ??????

  • Wayup!

    THANK YOU!!!!! EVEN "AVERAGE"CHICKS K...?
    as WOMEN we kinda HAVE to do it!!!
    Not TRICK mind you ? buttttt.... It ain't tricking if HE got it RIGHHHHHTTT ?

  • Platoon

    so vain. It's just makeup

  • BRuhman_Vista

    I'm sure some skinny ones could be included in that number --- just sayin' ?

  • BlahBlahBlah

    i feels @stav

  • stav

    Whoredom is whoredom no matter what you attain!

  • Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!

    yeah, this is what I meant. I never intended to joke about the Bible - just about her looks as that relates to her working in tv. the Book of Esther is considered a prophetic parable by some scholars. so, in the end the "accuracy" you seem to attribute to your specific interpretation is also "debatable." as I am NOT a Bible scholar, I won't waste your time trying to debate The Word. go in peace.

  • NicoleZee

    We're saying that because she is coming of as arrogant, but yet she has other things about herself that are not perfect. We all have flaws, but thinking that everyone will find you beautiful is arrogance at it's best. What one person finds beautiful, another will not. This lady is attractive, but no, I would not say beautiful not with that nose and not with that attitude, Just being honest. Gorgeous women are everywhere, but not all of them go around using their looks to get things or boasting about how good they look. I mean really, who does that??? I don't get it. Narcissism I guess.

    Sidebar: I've seen women with bigger noses who are much prettier, humble, and extremely kind. My point is that beauty radiates internally as well. If you're ugly on the inside, to me I can't see that as all that beautiful no matter how your face or body looks. Sometimes a person's attitude is what turns others off and they want nothing to do with that person. Let's see how pretty these women think they are when they are alone in the nursing home and NO ONE comes to see them or wants to be bothered with them. Very sad.

  • BlahBlahBlah

    Guessing she trying to keep a family together. Anytime I watched the show I was floored by it too, and while others on the show are more appealing with their bodies, she sounded intelligent and beauty with it, and snap back after dem kids.

  • DaughterOfaQueen

    I'm sorry I didn't read your response it was too long. I'm sure you're right though ?

  • stav

    The world is lying in the power of the wicked one, he continues to blind folks to the truth. In this system what's bad is good, and what's good is bad. Many people care not about character or things of true value(spiritual things) it's all about materialism , and the showy means of one's way of life, and people are willing and have been since the days of old, to attain that showy lifestyle by any means, not caring that is very temporary.

  • Wayup!

    ??... The Amex card I NEVER leave home W/O

  • Oretta Grace Smith

    It's NOT about being slighted. I'm saying it is more than pretty. I am a retired teacher, with a masters plus 45 and a Cosmetology license. Some people look better than me, some worse, BUT my mind is beautiful!!! I give her that same respect.

  • stav

    Ditto, and thanks!

  • Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!

    *whispers so only you can hear* ....it's because you have what's called a personality (apparently, errbody ain't able, LOL! https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/5a16feb7886870b58e876a7ffc6b264e7419e743bb55ec579123b82d4a427799.gif )

  • Oretta Grace Smith

    And my masters plus 45, and my Cosmetology license are beautiful to me. I'm saying it takes more than pretty. Im going from the title of this article. I have NOT researched this young lady's history.

  • Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!

    *cackles*

  • NicoleZee

    LOL!! One time I was getting off the train downtown and the conductor actually stopped the train with people on it just to try and talk to me telling me he would leave the train right now and go with me! I told his old ass those people have stops to get off of, keep moving!!! Of course, some men will be nicer to an attractive woman he might be interested in. Some women will get treated nicer if they are pretty, but they're not purposefully doing something in order to gain something in return unless they really are. Times have changed. Men are not as nice as you think, most of them are NOT kind, NOT mannerable, and they are NOT gentlemen. The last time I had a date, my door was not opened and my chair was not pulled out. All the more reason, I am no longer seeing that person. I prefer southern gentlemen, not assholes that act like they were raised by wolves.

  • Wayup!

    I must have missed the part where she said she was irresistibly gorgeous to every MAN in Any Room.
    I think we as women get perks daily just because we got T/A!!!

  • stav

    Almost nothing worse than a person bragging, and boasting about how great they are, or how good they look , and how so many people want them. Sounds insecure to me, if that really is their case, why the need to broadcast it? I guarantee you're not everyone's type, and many people can see through the plastic(phoniness/insecurity)!

  • Wayup!

    Ask yourself a serious question:
    Why does her confidence bother ME??

  • Malcom Flex

    If you want to see jealous black women in action read this thread. I'm out it's only gonna get worse.

  • ZRoJoTheLezBeyond

    I respect your views and opinions, you made some really good points as well. I agree with some, as far as beauty is beyond the outside & narcissism.

  • Wayup!

    I swear!!!! How in the hell!! I'm mad at another WOMAN'S pu$$y game?
    Must mean I need to get mine up..?

  • Wayup!

    Okay did a white surgeon tell you that... Because why do you hate African features are you a black woman... I'm thoroughly confused with your essay.. but I'mma leave you with this be blessed love and love yourself because you are beautiful and you are loved ?

  • NicoleZee

    You don't have to be a mean or arrogant person to get ahead and you don't have to use your looks to get anything. Plenty of people are successful and they are not the least bit attractive at all....nowhere! They used their skills and intelligence to make something of themselves and their looks never mattered. Hookers and strippers get degraded because you don't have to do things like that, it's a choice. I realize that working at Walmart or Target will not bring you financial freedom, but what I don't condone is putting yourself in danger or in bad situations just to get something. What if a young girl reads her book and decides that she can use her looks and body to get men to give her money and ends up killed by some trick??? What then??? You don't see Oprah or Bill Gates using anything but their minds to be the successes that they have become.

  • NicoleZee

    Um, she's not confident, she's arrogant and entitled. Her message is setting a bad example for young girls and women. We have enough narcissists and hookers in the world. We need more educated and smart role models with common sense that don't say dumb shit all the time. I feel so sad for young girls today. That's why they are so misguided; they can't look up to their parents or any celeb even if they wanted to. So very sad.

  • Wayup!

    Wait wasn't Ester USED by her JEWISH father to seduce the King because she had a banging body and cute face?..?

  • stav

    How disrespectful! Her parents were not even alive, so you couldn't be more inaccurate. Go read and learn!

  • hottlanta

    Same analogy as a thot, use your looks to get ahead. She looks alright. Nothing to be jealous of when she walks into a room. Women who look like her comes a dime a dozen. I have seen women like her who think they are the prettiest one in the room and then they get bent outta shape when another beauty comes into the room and take the attention off them. The other beauty could have style and confidence that draws people to them. Case in point, a lot of those so-called community pretty girls get bent outta shape when folks around them compliment them on their beauty all the time. But when they get out into the real world and come into a room full of pretty girls of all hues, shapes and sizes they get bent outta shape. Then they have to try real hard to keep their pretty relevant to the top.

  • Quitedeliteful

    (Snicker....)

  • hottlanta

    Leo checking in. We do it all the time without even knowing it. Because we got it like that.

  • bashi

    Beautiful how come Angela Rye don't get a show but just a podcast

  • Wayup!

    Ok.. So you admit that you know specifically times when the Lord allowed you favor thru a MAN and you turned it DOWN
    Please understand their women out here including myself that will not turn down blessings cuz that's how I look at it as a blessing???

  • bashi

    Valid points

  • hottlanta

    I HAD a friend she was a narcissist beauty. We would go out and she would walk into a room to see are people looking at her. We can be sitting at a table and she will be why is everyone looking over her at me. You know I am stupid I will give her the crazy eye. When she got divorced she got bent outta shape that her husband was marrying someone who was less attractive than she was 5 months after the divorce. She would ask people what does she look like and would be like WTF. You know my dumb behind was snickering.

  • Quitedeliteful

    LOLLOLLOL!!!!!!!!!!

  • hottlanta

    Betta ask someone she is Beauty and the Beast. BEAUTY outside/inside and a BEAST with her verbiage and brain. She ain't no joke.

  • hottlanta

    I know, I know I was wrong but I would be like really.

  • hottlanta

    Sometimes you can be too attractive and they feel threatened. I went to a government job interview and looked at the women walking around the office and I said to myself no way. Then the interviewer ask me if hired and someone says anything inappropriate to me how will I handle it. You know I had to give them the professional answer. I know once I get in there it would be on an popping and I let to dress my azz off while everyone is casual because I am ole skool put your clothes on and be a lady and someone will get bent outta shape and say some crazy shyt to me like who does she think she is. Been thru that shyt toooo many times.

  • bashi

    So when Angela Rye getting a show because girl goes hard on CNN to be end with just podcast

  • Wayup!

    ??????

  • dontgetblocked

    Here's the thing. A man walks in with a suit and a tie. A woman walks in with a sleeveless dress. Who would you want representing you in court?
    When women (thanks to Michelle Obama) degrade themselves by dressing sexy instead of professionally they give up their power. Sleeveless shirts and dresses are not allowed at my workplace. It's low-class and unsuitable for corporate America. Why is it permissible on TV news. Who is more authoritative... a man in a tie or a woman wearing a low-cut dress?

    She is just what they call her... a Barbie doll. No one respects her "talent" and they never will after this stupid book. Looks fade and a new and better version is waiting in the wings to take a pretty girl's place. She'll see once she gets on the other side of 35. Miss 25 will be hovering to replace her.

  • NicoleZee

    Thank you. It's already hard for women today to have confidence and here this lady comes with saying she used her beauty to get ahead. I guess she has more attractiveness than actual brains. Very sad. As Judge Judy says, "Beauty fades, but dumb is forever."

  • NovemberFling

    Nothing wrong with this mindset, just be aware of what comes along with possessing this mindset. People will automatically coin you as a bimbo even if you're not. Male bosses will delegate you to menial tasks and trivialize your intelligence. In today's climate of faux and filtered Instagram beauty, let's place more emphasis on BRAINS OVER BEAUTY. There are far too many women out here who have no viable skills (talent, work, or otherwise) and no work ethics who believe that chasing and securing fast paper based off of their attractiveness is a forever gig when it's not. Men WILL trick off and pay no matter what age if you're summertime wine fine, BUT at what cost? Chasing someone else's coins grows old and you'll only eventually find yourself running around in circles and then eventually crashing into walls. We can act like this form of reasoning isn't harmful, but in this era of fake imagery and false fads, fronting, following, excessive face painting, and un-originality, it is extremely detrimental. Beauty comes a nickle a dozen now- anybody can be popping with the right makeup, quality Brazilian, and a Billy bad ass plastic surgeon. Most don't care about natural beauty, as long as it looks good then and there in the here and now. Stop selling these false dreams to women and tell them to use their BRAIN, because when all else fails, that is the only thing you will have to fall back on (God willing).

  • NicoleZee

    We can ALL learn a lot from the elderly. Anyone with free time should think of volunteering in a nursing home, it truly is life changing. NONE of this superficial shit matters when someone has to change your diaper and clothes everyday and you think a doll is an actual child, all while no one ever comes to visit you. Very very sad and depressing.

  • GuestSTAR

    And we know how Faux Newz roll. Its like Sodom and Gomorrah over there.

  • dontgetblocked

    Now, you're talking. I was a pretty young thing and darn smart. However, when I was hired for my looks, my talent and skills were NEVER EVER respected. It was frustrating and degrading. I'm glad to be older, more mature and better educated. Looks aren't getting me in the door anymore...my skills are. I wouldn't have it any other way.

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    Thank you for this testimony. In about 7 years, Ms. Eboni will find out there's an expiration date on looks.

  • NicoleZee

    I think Ms. Eboni has childhood issues, must be, or mental illness. Everything stems from childhood. Her father was not around because it says she was raised by a single mother, but do more people raised by single parents have more emotional issues than those raised in two parent homes??? I can understand young girls and boys being cocky or having low self-esteem because their brains are still developing, but to become an adult with that mindset of beauty over everything is not normal in my opinion. I had an old school mama and grandparents that taught me about humility and kindness. Yes, you compliment your children and praise them, but they should never ever think that beauty is more important than being a decent human being.

  • NovemberFling

    I dig your way of thinking!

  • abby500

    What good looks? #average

  • GuestSTAR

    I like Angela Rye on CNN. She's appeared on Bill Maher a few times as well. Last time she was on, she lit this guy up. He couldn't say shyt.

  • NicoleZee

    OMG, that happened to me! I worked at a college where I also took classes and I didn't know why certain women in the office were so nasty to me. I never bothered anyone, was never rude, did my job and went home. So I was talking to one of the male employees one day and he asked me was I settling in okay and how I liked things. I told him it was just okay and that some of the ladies were rude or just wouldn't speak. He said it was because I looked nice everyday and because I was organized and neat. I'm like WTF??? But it makes sense because women do not support each other and are nasty and rude to other women for no apparent reason. Ridiculous. If I dislike someone, it's usually because they're dumb as f*ck, unkind, and/or lack character, not because they look good! Geeesh!

  • Wayup!

    How does one say "I'm pretty and I know it" without sounding arrogant(according to your logic) please break this down for the blog... Because according to you every woman on this blog needs to make sure that she doesn't fall prey to this you know ....High self-esteem complex..?

  • Solstice

    Oh I love what your grandma said! I'm going to use that. So true ?

  • NicoleZee

    People like that need professional help. I keep saying how mental illness is ruining communities. Everyone thinks that nothing is wrong with them and that they have nothing to improve upon. Sad.

  • Solstice

    ????

  • Wayup!

    Wait the REAL Roxanne is who he was talking about I think

  • NicoleZee

    Thank you, but no, I don't hate African features. However, when you're arrogant or entitled, you will get called out on your shit because no one is perfect. But, please remember that there are plenty of Whites, Asians, and other non-Black people that have larger noses, lips, etc., it's not just Blacks,

    And yes, I learned about proportional faces from a surgeon that was White and he surely did not come off as racist or anything like that. I met him and his wife while I was in Europe and touring Ireland. All of us were on the tour bus laughing our asses off about how people get plastic surgery. He cuts open faces for a living, but he gets paid very well. Actually he was a very nice guy and gave me some advice: luckily for me, I'll never need a facelift, his personal opinion :)! Yay! Whoo hoo!

  • http://olskoolblackflix.com Insane Taco Juice

    Never said every woman, people can do whatever they want in life but be prepared for backlash.

  • NicoleZee

    You couldn't be more right! I just refuse to reduce myself to being someone's hooker just to get something, I don't care what it is. I'm too old for that kind of foolishness. And I'm not about to just date a dirtbag just because he has some money, but I know most women will. I guess I'm just different. Of course a woman wants a great guy that can do things for her, but if he's an arrogant jerk trying to buy me or treats me like trash, that will be a no for me. I'm not for sale. No diss to anyone who is though!

  • Solstice

    lol folks are Touched…as the old folks used to say ???

  • http://olskoolblackflix.com Insane Taco Juice

    That was my thought too but the diss by JJ Fad was directed to Shante's skin color and weight, which is foul.

  • Wayup!

    Wait the real Roxanne was light-skinned and Roxanne Shante was dark-skinned right? ?

  • Wayup!

    Okay got it not every woman should have high self-esteem thank you for clearing that up for me have a good day ?

  • starbright9449

    The jealousy under this post is astounding but not surprising. I knew what would be said in the comments section and when I scrolled down, unfortunately I was right. I guess what she says doesn't bother me because I'm not insecure nor the jealous type. Women need to stop pulling each other down.

  • Wayup!

    Respectfully Nicole let me ask are you a beautiful woman that got picked on when you were growing up because you were prettier than most of the people in your class ?because that's the vibe I'm getting from you you're very defensive against beautiful women stating that they are beautiful and they know that because of their looks they get ahead in life... are you one of those beautiful women that are against getting ahead because of your looks please explain?

  • Erin

    What more would we expect on this site? These people especially the blog owner are spiteful and full of hate. I wish she would just admit she sold the site to Breitbart at least then it would make sense.

  • http://olskoolblackflix.com Insane Taco Juice

    Yep.

  • On the radar….

    Yep

  • On the radar….

    True

  • kekeb

    She's black on Fox News?! Yeah, I don't wanna hear nun she tal- bout. Meanwhile, she's very pretty but not FINE enough to be bragging on her "striking looks".

  • kekeb

    In the words of the living legend Tyra Banks, what will you have to offer when your "product expires". She gave good advice on ANTM

  • kekeb

    SMH. Michelle Obama is royalty ma'am. She can't help that she's got the curves people pay good money for. What would you rather she do, walk around in a sack cloth? Lmao. Ok

  • Solstice
  • hottlanta

    She skipped over the First Bottomless First Lady Melania Trump. She is kidding. Michelle was such a good lawyer she hired other lawyers. She would rather Melania come in looking like a Stepford Wife with the everlasting stare to win her case.

  • Solstice

    ? smh

  • hottlanta

    Sometimes you don't have to think you are cute other people always validates it for ya. I can give a woman props for her style and say girl that is fierce and keep it moving.

  • hottlanta

    I told my lil Hots you might be pretty but you are not everyone's type. Every man on the street doesn't want you or wants to go to bed with you.

  • hottlanta

    It is not the fast life that make people get fat and lose their looks it is the LAZY life. Some of us when we get older don't wanna do nothing to stay active and some of it is genetic. The fast life getting out having fun going out dancing keeps you in shape and looking good. All some women wanna do know is go out shop, eat and go home. That is their only form of entertainment.

  • hottlanta

    I got some stories to tell ya. How much time to you have.

  • On the radar….

    Drugs and alcohol at a young age is the fast life but I get your point.

  • Queen B

    Thats most women tho even myself ?? She's pretty but not that gorgeous to put out an article about it

  • nekkkyj

    Women have been sleeping their way to the top for years

  • Enoughsaid2020

    Interesting. SMH!

  • yvette46

    She's telling the truth sorry to say..

  • Alicia.Ashe

    Her advice didn't seem to work, she landed at Fox News.

  • https://twitter.com/Chicagowise Chicagowise

    She was always saying something worth remembering.

  • starryeyed

    Right. Although I don't agree w her politics I have to say these comments about her pretty "avg beauty" are absurd. That "avg beauty" sure wielded her results that are far from avg. Women stop hating.

  • Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!

    What the prollem miz?? She said what she said, LOL!!?

  • NicoleZee

    Thank you for the questions. Of course I got bullied, but I also was a bully at times too, so I can't play victim. I am attractive, and I do consider myself beautiful, but I don't shout it from the rooftops or use how I look to get things, I don't believe in that. Growing up, girls mostly bullied me because I wasn't thin (I'm on the curvy side, not too big not too small as they say) and the boys were into me. So girls were always mean to me even when they didn't really know me. I never understood it! I've never had not one man put me down because of my body, not one, not ever. So I never understood why girls had such an issue with me because I was curvy. I never bothered anyone unless they bothered me first, I was polite, and mostly kept to myself. I did have some girlfriends, but I had more male friends that were way more supportive, plus my mom has brothers and I have a brother, so naturally I gravitated to men more than women. I've never disliked someone because they were attractive, but when you're arrogant and your attitude stinks, that's a problem for me. Even now, I don't even like being around women, I'll pass, don't have time for it. I've been around men since I was born; I have a family of dudes that were my protectors, never not once harmed me in any way.

    As for Ms. Eboni, we can all see that she is attractive, but her statements are harmful to young girls and women in my opinion and I only talked about her nose because she comes off as cocky and probably feels that her face is perfect when in all actuality it is not. We ALL have flaws, but damn, who walks around actually saying how they use their beauty for something, who???? I was not brought up that way. There are countless beautiful people in the world, but they know how to remain humble and they don't go around saying dumb shit because they have common sense, which isn't so common these days. Sad.

  • NicoleZee

    I can understand your point. Just be careful out here. I wouldn't want you or any other woman to find yourself in a dangerous or unfortunate situation. Just be aware of who you surround yourself with. We live in such a sick world where women are constantly being taken advantage of and harmed. Just look after yourself.

  • NicoleZee

    It's sad, she was Miss USA! Why in the world would she subject herself to reality TV??? I never understood that. But she was probably not nice even back in her beauty queen days. No one wants to work with someone with a nasty attitude that treats people like trash. A lot of celebs are very nasty to others and they wonder why their careers don't blossom like they could. A lot of actresses have nasty attitudes like Nia Long, Sanaa Lathan, Regina Hall, etc. Embarrassing! And they wonder why they aren't A-list celebs with more money and better movie/TV offers. Kindness and humility still win in my book!

  • Wayup!

    Now I understand you thank you for the positive dialogue... I knew that you were an attractive woman something about this blog.... you're always able to tell who the light skin long hair is are and who the attractive women are just by their comments and I'm not putting you down or anything but your comment did come across as very condescending and not even passive aggressive just angry..??...but then after reading a couple of your other comments to other people now I understand where you're coming from it come from a place of defensivness... because you've always been told I guess by everyone around you that you're pretty so therefore you might as well try to get over because of that and mostly because you felt women weren't really supportive of you because you are attractive body and face wise...it's only natural for you to gravitate towards men because that's just a woman's Natural Instinct anyway.
    But now I feel you... I get where you're coming from
    from your perspective she's basically laying on her back whether she's a lawyer the president of the United States or a Nun?
    Okay granted you are entitled to your opinion there's something you said that stuck with me.. I too am a curvy girl have been since the 4th or 5th grade and even though I'm not what Society calls drop dead gorgeous... (Think a brown skin India Arie) I got a coke bottle figure that I've had since I was basically a child and guess what I'm a grown-ass woman almost pushing fifty and I still got a coke bottle shape I know the pain that you went through because of body shaming from other women ...I too really never bonded with women because they always thought I was trying to steal their man Even though in their minds I wasn't as attractive as them.. my body was enough ..and as far as they were concerned to.. for me to be be considered a threat!!?.. Oh well..?
    But I learned at a young age that I cannot control people's perception of me and I'm going to get mine whether any woman out there likes it or not... I am not going to be without ever .. Amen..??
    But great conversation I'm glad that I was actually able to see where you were coming from and not just bash you like other posters here and say you were crazy.. I needed to really get into your head to understand why you were commenting that way and this is your opinion and you're entitled to it great conversation by the way ??

  • Wayup!

    Thank you and I will my Russian Roulette days are behind me I'm older and wiser now and I had to learn the hard way that all money ain't good money..? so yes... my third eye is open today and always from here on out??

  • Wayup!

    ?... ??????

  • NicoleZee

    Thank you. But I am a little bit crazy and sometimes weird! LOL! Sorry for what you went through with other women. I do think it's hurtful because everyone wants to be accepted by someone. I think EVERYONE has things in childhood that really affected them, and we all know how cruel children can be towards each other. It is really hard for most women today to have confidence. With so much going on in the world, the last thing a person should be focused on is their beauty or lack thereof. Nothing wrong at all with being beautiful, but it's important to remember to be humble too. The most beautiful women to me are beautiful inside AND out, they don't boast about themselves, they don't think they are better than anyone, they just enjoy life and treat others well. Sadly, young girls today are very misguided. Yes, children should be praised and complimented, but they also need to value education and hard work. I've learned a lot from my own mistakes. I don't want to raise my little boy to be superficial or arrogant. I want him to be kind, respectful, and humble and I want him to especially be a gentleman and to treat women very well. Of course every parent thinks their child is beautiful, but he better not be out here trying to use his looks or penis to get anything or he'll be unrecognizable once I'm done with him! I'm not raising losers and idiots. He will not embarrass me or my mom.

    I get so sick of seeing women using their looks and/or vaginas to get something. What happens when those looks fade or when no one wants to pay for their vagina anymore??? None of that matters when you're old and crusty rotting in some nursing home or hospice with nobody. Damn, if all a woman has to offer are looks and sex, that tells you right there that she has no substance and no character. So very sad.

  • Jussjess25

    Exactly. Cause everyone know it aint her "looks" that gets her far in that company. ?

  • Jussjess25

    She looks "pretty" basic to me ??

  • Jussjess25

    Thank you

  • NicoleZee

    Wow....you're pushing 50! I bet you don't look it at all. I really wish that more great women in your age group would be the voice and leaders in our communities. My generation and younger are very misguided. I'm 34 and I see so many broken people that need guidance and mentoring. People on social media taking 500 selfies per day and promoting prostitution and other foolishness and they can barely read or don't know what continent they live on. SMDH! I just pray for the lost souls, I pray for those I care about, and I pray for myself.

  • NicoleZee

    Seven years??? I'm dying laughing. Dang!! That soon huh?? You are probably right as usual.

  • NicoleZee

    I have older cousins like that. Every time they come into Atlanta to visit, they just want to shop and eat. They are severely overweight at that! They never want to go see a show, museum, nothing. And they wonder why I never want to participate. How the hell can you visit a big city and not want to do anything??? Might as well not come. Sad.

  • dontgetblocked

    The big 40. Men no longer see you as a hot young thing. She's already moved past the spring chicken phase.

  • dontgetblocked

    There's nothing like a woman in a sharp suit, even if it's short sleeved. It has nothing to do with curves. A WH picture should be professional not sleeveless.

  • dontgetblocked

    Melania is a model and it shows. Mechelle is a wannabe model and that showed. She should have stuck with law.

  • hottlanta

    Who told you that generational lie. I am 60 and still get some play and still have relationship/sexual options. I never felt like I had to settle because I got older because I will have no where else to go. The same rule applies to men as well. When they get to be a certain age women don't see them as a young sexual thing either. I get pissed off because I see so many women who get to be 35 and act as if they are dead because they have those women generational lies stuck in their head. Glad I never listened to that mess and I am happier for it.

  • hottlanta

    Goggle Michelle you see Ivy League degrees and see her dressed in caps and gowns. Goggle Melanie all you see her wearing are the tassels from Michelle Ivy League graduation gowns.

  • hottlanta

    I had to curse out one of my girlfriends with that mess. She wanted to start this mess by eating and shopping every weekend. I said no ma am don't call me because I am not gonna spend all of my weekends with you shopping and eating. Then she grabs a hand full of vitamins like m and m's saying she is eating healthy.

  • GIJoeJones

    She speaks truth. Just read the book 'Survival of the Prettiest' it unloads volumes of statistics showing that beauty is the most powerful currency in the American marketplace. Trumps competence and qualifications every time. It's hard for ugly and fat folks to hear that, but it's true. The woman is an attorney and making millions on television at 33. She will have more money at 40 than most of the people reading this article combined. Kudos for her for cracking the code.

  • Coco

    Lol

  • Coco

    Right. A lot of them are stuck on beauty, but she said way more than that. It would have been different if she wasn't a lawyer but just got the job like tomi lahren. It seems like they have a personal problem with women who know they're beautiful. Someone above even called her a prostitute. Sounds like jealousy to me.

  • Coco

    You seem personally bothered by this story. This woman isn't some dumb, ditzy pretty girl who got put on for her beauty. She has done the work. No where in this post she advised women to just have beauty nothing else. Studies prove that beauty people have privileges. It would be dumb not use her God and makeup given beauty.

  • Coco

    Wait, Michelle degraded herself by dressing sleeveless? Someone's arms are disgraceful? Imagine if she posed nude like queen melania. What would you have said?

  • nick c

    Damn you simping for lslh hoes.

  • Wayup!

    Pretty comes in all shades/hair lengths...????

  • Wayup!

    Yes love almost 50.. Took care my body stayed healthy... And remained youngish looking.. So much so actual young girls try me with the foolishness..? until they realize I'm they momma nem age ?
    But all I can tell you is be vigilant for yourself... Cuz like I said you can only control yourself it's all fine and well to be concerned about Society but YOU & YOURS to always be your main priority when giving out advice..
    Reason why I say that is people do not take kindly to advice even if it's right you see that just based on some of your remarks on this site..
    Have a blessed day!!!

  • Wayup!

    But the Real Roxanne was dope ASF.
    wasnt she the first female MC to record a rap?
    2 mths later here come the watered down version....I swear that's when IMAGE took over versus TALENT..
    they did the same thing to KRS1 wife.. She had bars right... Moment they did that video.. Everybody saw she was over weight.. Next thing you know she no longer part of boogie down productions.
    Fk JJ Fad.. Fkn 1 hit nightmare...?

  • Boogie79

    I've seen with my own eyes what pretty priviledge and having a functioning brain can do and none of it requires any dropping of draws.

    Let's be real, many men expect pretty women to not have much going on upstairs, so with her being able to hold her own in the courtroom and looking the way she does probably surprised them.

    There are others in the workforce right now that use their priviledge and know nothing about their job and taking credit for others work.

  • R Smith

    Bhahhhhhh..."Model"...hahahahahahaha

  • ShWa

    Yes, she's pretty, at least she didn't sleep her way to get on.

  • EMILY POST

    Well she does work on FOX where sexual Harassment is rampant. The moment those birds age out and a newer younger face emerges.
    The issue with taking advantage of the male gaze or being a crush is that you get old . That is the major problem with the entertainment / media industry. 1. Who decides beauty? 2. Once your beauty gets you there it can not keep you there.
    The other issue is the moment they lose their beauty privileges and sexuality to get where they want. They are the "FIRST" in line to sue somebody for sexual harassment. The moment something does not go their way.

  • OrangeStarrHappyHunting

    I guess if you work with men, cause all I encountered was a whole lot of hate from women managers/supervisors.

  • SingleGalCrazyWorld

    So true...I worked in the private industry for 8 years with a majority of men and few women and I rarely had problems. I left private to work in the public industry and within the first week at my current job there was gossiping about me. I had never worked in an environment with mostly sistahs either but I know one thing I will never work in this type of environment again. They are threatened by anything thats cute up in here. My momma always said if they dont like you for no reason they either wanna be you or sleep with you...

  • SingleGalCrazyWorld

    You are right she is a "standard beauty" but next to Naomi Campbell or Roshumba Williams (yeah im going back) shes just as plain as vanilla yogurt...

  • http://olskoolblackflix.com Insane Taco Juice

    Co-sign. RIP Ms. Melodi?

  • ViolettaBliss

    Although I do agree with what she is saying on a certain level; youth and beauty fade quickly therefore her theory is short lived and unsustainable in the ageist and sexist society that we live in. The ability to attain success based on looks is weak currency in the long run. Her law degree is a more tangible asset.

  • Doink_Ahanahue

    "“Grab the attention of everyone in the room with your physical presentation,” she says, “and then blow [them] out of the water — via a job interview, work presentation or trial argument — with what you say.”
    ___________________________________________________________

    I can understand, respect and even support this much more than posting a pic of your butt or breast for likes with the caption "Only God can judge me" or "Bad Bi***" under the pics!

    I've told my daughter similar to what she said: "Don't let anyone make you feel bad because you are beautiful. And don't be afraid to embrace it. Just don't let that be ALL you are."

  • ViolettaBliss

    I totally agree ! Nothing worse than working in a company full of women. So much hate and back stabbing going on.

  • blackbutter63

    My mom used to say being pretty ain't worth a damn without brains :)

  • Doink_Ahanahue

    She was right!

  • Smith Jane

    Well she is stunning *shrugs*

  • Smith Jane

    Your mama's right. Sad to say but women hate women. They refuse to say "good morning" or make eye contact with you. But they will make up some sh-t about you... if you're friendly then the gossip is that you're fake. If you're introverted and quiet then the gossip is that you're a stuck up snob. Some women just can't handle being in the same spaces as someone who's exceptionally beautiful or stylish. This one black woman I worked with always had a beat face (freaking gorgeous & stylish) and I noticed black women would make off hand remarks like "oh, I don't need to wear all that makeup" or "you must have a lot of time on your hands cause I have too much to do to be doing ALL THAT"... like... why can't you just compliment her and move on ... or better yet, just say nothing lol... they just feel really inadequate when another woman can command more attention than them

  • Smith Jane

    She'll be a millionaire 10x over by then... as well as have a wealthy husband with some babies.

  • Smith Jane

    OK let's not pretend that the most qualified people are being employed and climbing that corporate ladder. To work in Amerikkka means you have to play the game of politics. I've seen yt ppl hire relatives & old college friends for positions that they weren't qualified for. We probably have more people of color that are qualified to run a Fortune 500 company, but those businesses aren't breaking their necks to hire them. In business there are unspoken rules to these games & if Eboni - or other women like her - are smart enough to use their looks to get in the door then why knock em for that? People on this thread are creating all types of situations for why this won't work out, forgetting the fact that the woman is QUALIFIED for her position and is making money! There is nothing wrong with using your looks or your network to gain employment. People circumvent the system all the time by relying on college friends and relatives. Don't knock this woman for using her looks to get put on.

  • Karen Brady

    BRAVO! I hear you and plan on being the same way when I get there. It's a number. Folks need to have the right mindset and clearly you do.

  • Smith Jane

    Honestly it makes no difference to me how she gets put on as long as she's qualified

  • hottlanta

    I plan on being pretty, mature and smart. I refuse to be living my life as if I am dead and they haven't buried me yet. How can you call yourself a Christian and not living your life to the fullest the way God wants us to. I am on his time clock and not man's. Women suppose to die in their 30/40s while men keep chugging along until they are dead. It sad that women accept that. I didn't pass that generational lie to my daughters either.

  • imasaneperson

    But is she good in the sac?

  • Kayke

    Not perfect to you! But it's not your nose or anybody else's. Her thinking her nose is perfect for her is what matters. I'm sure her success and decisions made were not based upon other people's opinions. Pretty women don't necessarily have to use their beauty as their benefits are also reactive...she gets the best seat without asking for it.... Just because this one admits to the perks and also applied it to her arsenal doesn't make her a narcissist.... its kind of like "white privilege". I guess you can call this "pretty privilege". She didn't create the reactions or benefit, she simply uses it to her advantage. A head strong woman is always called arrogant. Because she is pretty and acknowledges it, you have a find something ugly about her in order to "cut her down to size" because her confidence bothers you.

  • Zeta Phi Beta 1920

    Passive/Aggressive...................................

  • Look@m3

    Foreal because I know some people that aint eeeen qualified and they aint eeeeen got the looks.

  • Malcom Flex

    You get it!

  • Malcom Flex

    It's cause most of the black women commenting here are obese AF and jealous of thin bw.

  • dontgetblocked

    Sistahs are ruthless in the workplace....at least uneducated sistahs who don't have a future.

  • dontgetblocked

    Men will be attracted to older women but you are not a young hot thing. You're mature not fresh and innocent. There's a difference and most men want a young woman who doesn't have luggage or dare I say show the effects of age.

  • hottlanta

    Just because you feel that life for you in the sex/relationship department is gone and you are living life as if you are dead and hasn't been buried yet don't get mad at those who chose to live. Some of these kids go through so much stuff at a young age I have never experienced and it is a miracle they are alive. I feel the same way about a man. I don't want a man who show the effects of age such as man breasts and saggy balls. Just because you feel you have gotten old, played out and ran outta option don't mean the rest of us has. I am an older hot thang and the men love it as well as I do. Those who can't hate those who do. I will be a good ole gurl when I am a dead ole girl. I will live life like it is golden.

  • hottlanta

    We got an unqualified President and when Rachel was doing a show last week titled how did you get here talking the background checks of him and his staff it blew my mind. Wake up.

  • Dee AKA

    People have to understand that love/relationships have little to do with love. People are attracted to people organically and fall in love for different reasons.

  • hottlanta

    THANK YOU!!!!!! It was funny as hell to see her try to get men to marry her so she could beat her ex-husband of 22 years to the altar. They let her know you are pretty but pretty comes a dime a dozen. People looking for that physical boom when people have traits that that love. I love Neil Degrassie Tyson his intellect is sexy as all outdoors. I was his PBS junkie to no end. It could be the personality, style, their hobbies, etc, etc. I know I love a well dressed man with style. He could be ugly in the physical but when he walks in the room with that swag and well groomed. Call me please!!!!!!

  • Felicia Kelley

    She not all that in my opinion!! But, hey!! I respect her gangster

  • Lolly Asher

    The book seems a bit redundant. We get it. You must take advantage of being employable in this life. But that's not a virtue or anything- just playing the hand you are dealt.

  • brandy jackson

    Beautiful and intelligent. I see no issues LOL

  • brandy jackson

    Thank you! She's beautiful hands down and not a airhead.

  • brandy jackson

    Being 33, thank you for that!

  • brandy jackson

    But what reputable lawyer is wearing a sleeveless anything? LOL

  • brandy jackson

    I feel most females care too much about other females think. Most men from what I've been told don't even notice the extra effort most women put forth but women will sure enough see if your bag and/or edges fake LOL

  • Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!

    Right. You don't pass the Bar 'cause you 'look pretty'?

  • NovemberFling

    Where did I knock her?