Usher Raymond fans were shocked and saddened when a Georgia woman filed a lawsuit in 2018 accusing him of infecting her with the herpes virus.

Nothing ruins a sex symbol's public image like the knowledge that he has an incurable infectious STD. But all is not lost for Usher and other men and women infected with an STD.

According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) 1 in every 6 people are infected with the herpes simplex virus (HSV).

If you are sexually active, your chances of contracting herpes is high. Remember that most people who have herpes don't know they are infected.

Herpes is a contagious viral infection that is spread through skin-to-skin contact with infected areas by touching or during vaginal and anal sex, and kissing.

The virus can infect the genitals, anus, buttocks, thighs, mouth, and eyes (ocular herpes).

Herpes causes outbreaks of itchy, painful open sores (blisters) that come and go. Once you are infected with herpes, it is a lifelong disease.

The chances of infecting a sex partner is highest when a person has an active outbreak. When not having an outbreak, there is a slim 4-10% likelihood of transmission.

People who are infected with herpes can still enjoy a healthy and satisfying sex life if they are careful and compliant with their medications.

Everydayhealth.com published a complete guide to help people learn how to have a fulfilling sex life with herpes.
 

Communicate with Your Partner

Communication is key. Be open and honest with your sex partners if you have been diagnosed with herpes or any sexually transmitted disease. "This is a conversation that has to come right up front if you feel like you're going to be sexually active with someone new," says Katherine Bettin, PhD, a psychologist and certified sex therapist in Midlothian, Virginia.

Follow these three steps for prevention.
 

1. Avoid Sex During Outbreaks

Transmission is highest during an active outbreak. Avoid sex completely during active outbreaks. Condoms can't completely cover infectious areas. Wait until all sores have scabbed over and healed before having sex. "Wait until all your symptoms go away, including any sores, itching, and tingling," says Fred Wyand, a sexual health educator.

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2. Use Condoms or Dental Dams

Using condoms or dental dams consistently will diminish your risk of transmitting herpes to your partner.
 

3. Take Your Medication as Prescribed

Talk to your doctor about taking an antiviral medication to suppress the virus. You can take it to speed healing at the onset of an outbreak, or daily if you suffer from frequent outbreaks. "Research has shown that taking Valtrex daily as a suppressive therapy can reduce transmission by about half," says Wyand.

Antiviral medications most commonly used to treat herpes include:

  • Zovirax (acyclovir)
  • Famvir (famiclovir)
  • Valtrex (valacyclovir)
  • "The three drugs are all basically the same medication. Their efficacy [effectiveness] is the same," says I. Cori Baill, MD, an obstetrician-gynecologist and an associate professor at the University of Central Florida College of Medicine in Orlando. The difference, she explains, is how often a person takes them.

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    • Crissylaughs

      strange...no comments huh...Herpes is a true stigma..I made a joke about it one day and the faces of the people in the room....yikes....

    • missmiami305

      Omg Nooooooooooo auntie lmao. This is why I love you????

    • Kanyade
    • Topic Influencer

      According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) 1 in every 6 people are infected with the herpes simplex virus (HSV).
      ^^^^^^^^^^
      Last time this stat was dropped in the Rose Garden by a Rose...all hell broke lose. Folks were MAD MAD.

      #Ignance

    • Skin Deep Beauty

      Dressed up garbage can!! That penis is tainted!

    • cherrypie

      ????

    • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

      Auntie is starting off this morning in savage mode with her accompanying photograph.

    • Intellectual by Nature!

      This is a great informative post. I dated a guy who later told me be had herpes due to his cheating ex-wife. I broke things off due to fear. I regret it a bit. I could have handled it better ?.

    • tintin

      this post is hilarious as f**k.

      i am now the 6th commenter so which one of us got it? talk up people

    • iWasteTime

      Yoooooooo
      I'm listening to the Bodega boys and they just did
      "They Call me U.S. HERPES"
      I'm in tears, come here to a Ursher post ... ool

    • MsSapphire9800

      Good Morning.....when Satan calls I run...I'm out on this topic because it is going to get messy in here.

    • Gloria

      Herpes isn’t a big deal or even a deal breaker, personally. You can’t die from this disease, it’s just a negative stigma and huge embarrassment associated with being infected with it. Why? Who knows. I still love you Usher ? whether you have it or not

    • iWasteTime

      Crissylaughs cause they were first .... lmaooooooooooooooooooo

    • Ni Ni

      strange...no comments huh.
      _______________
      Well we done discussed it 5011 times already. Maybe folks tied?. I understand Sandra spreading knowledge though.

    • Renee26

      Ahhhhhhh ? ? ? Happy Tuesday!!

      I hate the internet

    • WutizstillHERE!

      This is why I get checked before any relationship, 6 mos in, yearly and if we break up directly after especially if cheating was the reason for the break. But this will get your goose women, when you do your yearly and do an std test, you have to actually ask for the herpes test in some dr office. So always ask if your std panel include all stds...

    • WhoKnew

      Peeking around the corner? LOL.

    • Pamela

      I'm not gone lie the second you tell me you have herpes or you done had other STDs that you cleared with antibiotics or antifungal, I bounce. No maam, I'm not taking any chances. God bless anyone with an STD.

    • IAmLegend
    • Scromes1212

      So you mean to tell me if a dude pull it out and it look like a nutty buddy you gonna still let him smash? Ain't no way you need man that dam bad SMH

    • WhoKnew

      This is an informative article. Knowledge is power.

      When I get my annual GYN exam I always ask to be tested for airything. Don't want no surprises.

    • WhoKnew

      Not a nutty buddy? LOL.

    • Gloria

      I just knew a troll would start with me ?. Why would I have unprotected sex with someone clearly in the middle of an outbreak? You stupid, stupid.

    • LYRICS

      Open and honest huh? Him: "Hi, I think you're attractive, can I get your number and take u for dinner? BTW I have herpes, see u Friday night!" The convo never goes that way!

    • SpiceGirl

      Having it, isn't the end of the world.

    • Scromes1212

      So you wait til the swelling goes down? SMH it probably still be some herpe residue on there smh just be careful out here

    • Fire & Ice

      Hold on I'm leaving with you LMAO ???

    • Alextra Ballard

      Yop....just plum ignent.. Alot of folks runnin around with the Herps and don't even know it

    • Bossy704

      I found impotence to be the main issue when I dated post-divorce. Then alcoholism/addiction. All they talk about is STD's and birth control. These men can't even get hard.

    • Scromes1212

      Lol!

    • Being bad is way more fun

      The problem with thinking like that is almost everyone on the planet has some form of herpes already. Its a common thing with humans although people get so bent out of shape when you bring it up . Watch Adam Ruins Everything which gives real stats on this. Hell you may have not now already !!!

    • IyanlaVanzantoftheInterWebs

      Yes ma’am I IS HERE for the comments and to provide some commentary https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/e266b5bb7b0e0017a6688327af04c6136433b8af1ad7dca5ecf9002d21486cfd.gif

    • IyanlaVanzantoftheInterWebs
    • Gloria

      I think you should take your own advice because you don’t even know the true signs and symptoms of herpes.... swelling? Ummmm herpes is characterized by painful, itchy blisters. Be careful and use condoms.

    • DeJeri

      I read how they cured the second case of HIV.

    • Alextra Ballard

      Even if I met someone and he was open and honest about being infected with Herpez,his secret would be safe with me but I would still afta decline the sex. No sir re. He ain gon neva convince me that it's safe. ijs

    • Gloria

      Anybody who ever had a cold sore has herpes. And that’s over 90% of the population but y’all carry on..... ?????

    • Coy little wink

      a cold sore is herpes tho...so you cancelling out a lot of folks...be real

    • IyanlaVanzantoftheInterWebs

      Chile, you can get herpes with or without a condom! All is needed is skin to skin contact during an outbreak..

    • Coy little wink

      Stop it you sound like an 11 year old hun...

      What fool is demonstrating/having sex during an outbreak????

    • Gloria

      Girl you gonna miss out on your soulmate with these standards

    • Alextra Ballard

      i read that the stem cell treatment does not work on everybidy

    • Alicia.Ashe

      Informative post.

    • SoulfulLove
    • tintin

      nutty buddy !!! you jamaican???
      only we say that. hahhahahahahahah

    • Scromes1212

      You got to be burning, you going hard for a the infected community. I guess it ain't that bad *shrugs*

    • IyanlaVanzantoftheInterWebs

      I dont but I have a home girl that has it and she finds her dates on the herpes website.. Herpe on Herpe $ex ain’t NEVER hurt nobody???

    • Gloria

      This is very true. Hence, “be careful” meaning don’t have sex with someone going through an active outbreak and condoms can help eliminate risk. But the risk will be there. I’d rather use people use condoms than not.

    • Yardgirl

      PeriodT!

    • Gloria

      I am a health care professional. I know a lot. See a lot. Gotta share with others. Troll.

    • Mr.LeBrickJames

      Wouldn't be a dealbeaker for me either if I was single and mingling. She would have to be dream-wife material, though...the woman of my dreams. Otherwise, I'd probably pass. That's a lot to take on.

    • DeJeri

      The article stated that it had to be an infusion from a person with a certain gene that has immunity to to the virus. Less than 1% of the world has this gene. If they found a cure, pharmaceutical companies are so greedy, they'd probably keep it a secret.

    • Topic Influencer

      Every single time these stats are brung up, folks automatically get mad here.

    • Topic Influencer

      Its why I had to go younger. And he a non-drinker. My bestie kept running into these men with high bp, thus limp noodles in betwixt their legs. I personally canna. Keep your head up. Literally sis.

    • Alextra Ballard

      Everytime I see a person with a cold sore that the first thing that comes to mind

    • Gloria

      They are BIG MAD in here. Whew Chile.

    • Phillybruh

      see you Friday night...lol

    • Coy little wink

      I get mad when folks kiss babies because this is why so many people have cold sores ?

    • Topic Influencer

      I used to work in a daycare. Its 4-5 yo KIDS with cold sores. A LOT of em.

    • Peppermint Patty

      I just knew I was gonna come and see sandra's take on this neverland debacle....instead a medical minute about bumps....long sigh

    • Tlowe89

      I’m waiting on that post to because it’s gone be a mess. Worse than the R Kelly post

    • Coy little wink

      Knowledge is power. Thanks Auntie!

    • IyanlaVanzantoftheInterWebs
    • KcoolMuziq
    • Holler If Ya Hear Me

      1 in 6 people who commented have herpes.
      Nice post Sandra. Knowledge is key.

    • Gloria

      It is a lot to take on definitely.

    • Phillybruh

      I thought the 2nd night was overkill

    • dontgetblocked

      Stop it! That's not the same thing. People need to be careful. Don't act like everyone has it because we don't.

    • Meme

      Lol @ limp noodles ????

    • http://www.legalizemelanin.com Legalize Melanin

      Never had a cold sore in my life, but obviously you have. Enjoy that lip herp sis.

    • dontgetblocked

      You're a liar! 90% of the population does NOT have sexually transmitted HSV. IF you're a healthcare professional you're doing a disservice to the public. People should be careful. We DON'T all have herpes. Ridiculous!

    • ClaireHuxtable

      Where's my switch??!
      You gone have all these folk running behind 19 year olds! No credit or full time job...but with a strong peter.

    • dontgetblocked

      She is and wants others to catch it by not being safe.

    • dontgetblocked

      Yes, we are! You're trying to act like everyone has herpes and it's no big deal. It is a big deal. It's a lifelong headache. People should be careful.

    • Topic Influencer

      Bff was like: is your soon to be ex hubby still standing at attention on command? Bc if so baby you might need to keep that man. I hate his ass and always have, but you deserve to be sexually happy sis. At the time she had a 42 yo man who made good money, treated her and her kids REAL NICE, but was on like THREE diff. KINDS of blood pressure meds, and drank like 3 fishes every day after work from 6 pm til 9 pm daily. Had his own personal happy hour. And well he couldnt close any damn deals. She was like I dont want this for you baby. I want better for you. Bossy704 told NO LIES.

    • Whiplash(lacejagger)

      I’m at work and just hollered. Usher is the poster boy? I remember during sex education in the 5th grade we were shown a film that showed a new born baby born with herpes over its eyes, received from the mother during a vagina delivery. Disgusting!

    • Robert lee Bennett OG

      It is a person with a canker sore on their lip can transmit it to another genitalia

    • Gloria

      Take a deep breath. Relax. It’s going to be okay.
      There are two types of herpes: Herpes Simplex Virus 1(HSV1) and Herpes Simplex Virus 2 (HSV 2). The difference with the two is location. Type One is located around the mouth or above the umbilical. The other is below the umbilical or genital area. It is possible for the viruses to be cBoth types of virus are treated the same (viral meds and avoid kissing/contact with others during outbreak). These are facts. Feel free to go on the CDC Website is you are so hellbent on not believing.

    • Robert lee Bennett OG

      That’s why so many kids have herpes

    • Gloria

      Because I’m educating people on herpes I have herpes? Lord the people in the comments today ?? I pray for y’all

    • Topic Influencer

      They in here every damn time its brung up. Every single time.

    • dontgetblocked

      Once I see a canker sore, we ain't getting down...no kissing ...no nothing.

    • Coy little wink

      Hsv1 and hsv2 both cause oral and genital sores. So what is the difference?

    • Coy little wink

      Technically yes...but on the mouth

    • Topic Influencer

      Hell naw lmao. 19 too young.

    • E-VannaRootsAllEvil

      Did we need this so early in the morning!

    • Renee26

      Poor babies!! Parents kissing them on the mouth...eww

      I used to have a childhood friend who normalized her cold sores and passed it to her kids...she also normalized ringworm. Her infant had ringworm on his head... Well the whole family had them at some point.

    • E-VannaRootsAllEvil

      Yup

    • Ms. EJ

      There is a difference between HSV-1 (cold sores) and HSV-2 genital herpes. HSV-1 is the most common, whereas about 22% have HSV-2 genital herpes. So, it's incorrect making the comparison that most people have HSV-2. I could never date a person with HSV-2. It doesn't make a person bad or even reckless, because some folks do cheat on their bf/gf/husband/wife. I would not feel comfortable or 100% free in sexual bliss.

    • Peppermint Patty

      the absolute most...a bit ubsubstantiated...a least give the boys a lie detector test...even Maury does that

    • dontgetblocked

      I ain't got no Herpes Simplex 1 or Herpes Simplex 2. Have they tested 90% of the population? No! These are unfounded CDC stats based on the testing of a small group of the population. Just like they say black people have every health condition including AIDS! Them nasty azz Beckys who sleep with everything when they're drunk are the ones with herpes. I went to high school and college with the slores...believe me white people be burning. They stay with canker sores on their mouths and their down regions. Don't put that mess on US.

    • Phillybruh

      Any shred of credibility they may have got in the 1st part they lost in the 2nd it was just throw anything at the wall and lets see if it sticks.

    • Yardgirl

      Thank you!! I was hoping someone would post this because chile............

    • dontgetblocked

      Thank you. Someone who has some common sense.

    • Renee26

      Keep it hard or last longer than 5 mimutes in too many cases. Some can't even be helped with Viagra chile

    • Phillybruh

      I dunno, I thought you were in the most danger if its during a flare up.

    • Scromes1212

      Exactly smh

    • Ms. EJ

      Correct. It is not the same, at all.

    • Mr.LeBrickJames

      Homegirl of mine got it that way too. The dude she married was the "catch" in our social circle. Dude had the looks, career, money, a little bit of fame (TV news reporter)... and all her girls thought she was "the lucky one" to get him. Then the way she found out he was cheating is when she tested positive for herpes. Next stop, divorce court. Obviously she's still salty about it all to this day.

    • Kimberly King

      Yea they can't. That's why I stopped fooling with older men and went younger. But I met a 22 year old who couldn't *stay hard*. IDK if it was the PTSD from being in the army or all the drinking he does. IDK. I read somewhere that it could be performance anxiety. He lost his virginity at age 20. I'm 30, so IDK why he would have anxiety... sh*t I'm not that old. lol Ugh... I only keep him around now so I can ride his face and travel nice places with him. He spends money on me a lot. But I had to find another ninja (who's 26) and he definitely fulfills my sexual needs.

    • Topic Influencer

      Ringworm is hard AF to get rid of. Hard as HELL.

      I had about 3 kids with cold sores. And bff worked there too and her class had about 7 kids with cold sores. And this was back mid 1990's.

    • dontgetblocked

      I have nothing against a person who has herpes simplex 2. Anyone can catch it. However, it is a disease that has to be treated and you have to tell any potential sexual partners. You must maintain insurance or some way to pay for the medication. No one needs or wants this extra burden in their lives so be careful. Don't listen to those who say its not a big deal. It is a big deal but life goes on.

    • Blue

      I don't think we did.

    • Scromes1212

      I'm not trying to be funny but did you ever think it might be you? Maybe you got to switch it up a little.

    • dontgetblocked

      Well...I mean. That's a tough one. Every time he would phuck up, you'd be thinking, "Why am I dealing with this herpes ninja anyway?"

    • Mr.LeBrickJames

      I though Oprah's show afterward was good though. People will criticize her, but it wasnt all about MJ. It dealt with child sexual abuse as a whole... the signs, of it the grooming that predators do, etc. I thought it was very informative.

    • Kimberly King

      I don't wanna have sex with anyone who has an STD or HIV/AIDS. IDGAF if they wore 17 condoms. Don't touch me. I'm sure they can find someone online to connect with who has the same disease(s) as them. And if I was burning, I would NOT feel comfortable being so sexually free. I would be ashamed and go hibernate somewhere. lol

      People are f*cking raw more now than ever and it's really nasty. Not to mention that men DGAF about their health and a rare number of them actually do get tested.

    • Ms. EJ

      I couldn't agree more!

    • Gloria

      When did I ever tell people to not be safe? Sis take up your herpes related concerns with your primary care physician and he/she will literally just tell you the same thing I told you. Y’all are crazy for real.

    • Renee26

      Fix it Jesus

    • Kimberly King

      Honey ! The comment section is in SHAMBLES and I love it lmao

    • Topic Influencer

      The shit is comical. Again. Worry about YEW. This the theme from last night I adopted. Carrying over into TAH-DAY

    • Ms. EJ

      It doesn't appear that folks are upset, however misinformation is being provided and needs to be corrected. A large number of people do not have HSV-2 ( genital herpes). I disagree that it isn't a big deal. I think its harmful to make something appear harmless when it is in various aspects. I am sharing a different view and not seeking confrontation.

    • Topic Influencer

      A large number of people do not have HSV-2 ( genital herpes) << I wanna know who said this and where?

    • Ms. EJ

      Right on!

    • Kimberly King

      But they stay hard and they can make you cum ! lol These young men will give it to you lol You're just gonna have to double up and find another ninja who has his sh*t together. I feel Trina when she said "you can never be my only one." It's tough running into a man who has a CAREER, good credit, decent amount of money, big d*ck, good sex, sucks toes, no kids (or kids who are 18+), and will worship the ground I walk on. I need at least 2 or 3 ninjas for all of that. Ugh I really thought this 22 year old I'm messing with was the one... he has all of this... but can't stay hard and it's not big enough for me.

    • Phillybruh

      I think I'm grown and mature enough to be able to handle dating someone with HIV or Herpes. If the person is honest and up front and on top of their treatment and their intent is not too harm me.

    • Renee26

      Breaks my heart!

      She had cold sores as a teen. I didn't know about ringworm til I went over her house as a teen... Both me and my lil bro ended up with one on our legs from sitting on her furniture. My daddy told us they were nasty and forbid us from going over there again. She could come over my house but I couldn't go over hers ?

      We used blue star ointment and took antibiotics... Haven't had any issues since then.

    • Kayke

      ? oh lordt!
      Question.... the men you came across with impotence issue, were they in shape.... as in good muscle mass and no bellies?

    • GuestSTAR

      I agree. A diseased d*ck would be a deal breaker for me. I'm disease free, so I would want a disease free partner.

    • Kimberly King

      lmao I mean the herpes part I can totally understand. I don't wanna bed or be with anyone who has an STD they cannot get rid of. However, if someone had one before and it got cured, so be it.

    • Zeta Phi Beta 1920

      Take yo meds.

    • Scromes1212

      The other comment said 90% of the population had a cold sore. Making it seem like cold sores are the same thing as genital herpes and that's not true. Glad someone pointed that out

    • IyanlaVanzantoftheInterWebs
    • Logan Roberts

      ??These are my infections ??

    • Topic Influencer

      My nephew had one when he was a lad and I remma it took a long ass time to go the hell on someplace. Got it from playing sports. Doc said kids who played sports get it from the share enviroment.

    • Gloria

      Where is the misinformation? Let me know and I will have no problem admitting my wrongs. A large number of people DO HAVE HSV -2. Did you read the medical minute? ? And I may have worded it wrong. To me, as a health care professional, herpes isn’t a big deal because it’s not a terminal illness. Patients get their viral medications and can live normal, healthy lives with it minus the stigma and embarrassment associated with it. It can be burdensome for potential sexual partners, of course but.... there aren’t any “various aspects of harm.” This isn’t diabetes or heart failure folks

    • Scromes1212

      Do you have all those things?

    • Yoni7

      I'm like DAMN! They MAD MAD FORREALLLL!!! LMAOOOO
      #chickenpoxisherpestoo

    • Ms. EJ

      Whether a large number or a small number the point is that HSV-2 isn't the same as HSV-1. It's a big deal. It isn't harmless. I don't know not one person who welcomes the chance to contract HSV-2. What is so wrong in a person not wanting a STD??!!! What is so wrong with someone not wanting their health to be compromised? The number of comments going hard in making STD's seem harmless is alarming.

    • Topic Influencer

      I think some of yall need to sort comments in a different order.

    • IyanlaVanzantoftheInterWebs

      ? ? Just when I thought All my bumps went awaymy chick on the side said she had an outbreak today??
      ??These are my infections??

    • Yoni7

      They one caller BEHIND, Jimmie. LOL

    • Topic Influencer

      This is what I saw. Whatchu see?

      "Herpes isn’t a big deal or even a deal breaker, personally. "

      Personally is bolded as I feel it may or may not be a keyword. If you dont feel like that, then okay dont.

      I have an issue as ALWAYS with commenters trying to tell folks how in the fukk to FEEL on XYZ subject. If it aint for you it aint. This is why folks add in keywords like personally, IMO, I think, I feel etc.

    • Tee Tee

      ?

    • Rayne

      I wish ??THEE FAWK I WOULD

    • Kimberly King

      EXACTLY! And I wouldn't let anyone make me feel bad because of my preferences. This is my HEALTH we're talking about. lol

    • Topic Influencer

      And I was waiting on someone to brang up Varicella.

      Like this is readily available infor-fukkin-mation.

    • Scromes1212

      Wait, hold on bruh smh now we just gonna throw HIV in the conversation! Ain't no way in hell. I wish them the best but I'm good smh

    • Kayke

      Semantics. It’s only about location because when that person with a cold sore eats your twat and you get a blister down there, you don’t have HSV-1 on your genitals, you have HSV-2 because it’s on your genitals. There is no distinction between the two other than location, so I personally feel the same apprehension about people regardless of where they get the sore. It’s the same virus.

    • Topic Influencer

      I think I'm grown and mature enough to be able to handle dating someone with HIV or Herpes
      ^^^^^^^^^
      Bolding the keywords in your statement, before the slow lead cannot comprehend ass folk, come for your statment Bruh.

    • Ryan

      In the EYES too?? *fallin out*

    • Yoni7

      42!!!!!!! Damn! Yes it be dat 'pressure, da meds and da likka that be fukkin' these folks up! I know that has to blow their ego/pride.

    • EasyBreezy

      I WILL NOT LAUGH. I WON'T. NO WAY.

    • Phillybruh

      To each their own and everyone is entitled. I think every grown person should educate themselves on STDs. HIV is not what it once was and Herpes is manageable. If the person you are dating is serious about their health I don't see issue.

    • Let them eat cake

      lol

    • Topic Influencer

      To each their own and everyone is entitled. I think every grown person should educate themselves on STDs. HIV is not what it once was and Herpes is manageable. If the person you are dating is serious about their health I don't see issue.
      ^^^^^^^^^^
      I got your editing back.

    • Topic Influencer

      And hell I been divorced how long? So he 49-50 now lol. she used to beg him to see his doctor for solutions to his issue. He refused.

    • Ms. EJ

      Eh! I never told not one person on this board how he or she is to feel. The hostility and anger is unwarranted and misdirected. I don't have a fighting spirit nor do I get off on that when I engage with other's for a respectful discussion.

    • Topic Influencer

      A lot of yall so damn sanctified. Full of fukking judgement and opinion on how other grown ass folks should live THEIR lives. Its sad.

    • Yoni7

      WOW! I guess he was like "Why? I already know why? I ain't gone pay somebody to tell me what I already know. I got the innanet fuh dat." *drinks up* LOL

    • Scromes1212

      So a person says what they would do and I say what I wouldn't do and that means I'm telling them what to do with there body? You come in here talking about people mad but you seem like the one that's the most mad lol

    • Ryan

      I don't care what other people do and who they choose to date. There but for the grace of God I don't have an STD and personally I want to keep it that way.

    • Topic Influencer

      It's big deal.
      It isn't harmless.
      The number of comments going hard in making STD's seem harmless is alarming. <<< save your alarm for grown folks being grown making what they feel is an informed decision. Its NOT UP TO YOU. Go alarm someplace else.

    • Scromes1212

      You get extra angry when this topic come up lol

    • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

      Anybody who ever had a cold sore has herpes. And that’s over 90% of the population but y’all carry on....

      I think you mean 90% of the heterosexual population. I've yet to come across a cold sore or genital herpes in the lesbian community. That's on y'all.

    • Phillybruh

      I think everyone would like to keep it that way. But sometimes things happen and the person who may be interested is genuine in their intent. I think if they were upfront and honest with you that should count for something. Because the next person may not be.

    • WhoKnew

      After reading some of the strong comments in the garden, I think y'alls aunt Sandie "Eartha Mae" Rose woke up this morning around 5 am to go to the bathroom and on her way she said "I wanna be startin' sumthin". So she posted this post and took her ass back to bed. Obviously she hit a "sore" spot. Pun intended.

    • Topic Influencer

      Yall know how I feel about respecting folks personal decisions. If Philly wanted to...thats up to Philly. Who gives a fukk what you WOULD do? Why jump on HIS comment to ridicule, put down his damn decision or share yourn? Start a damn new join this discussion fukkin box to share whatchu WONT DEW .

    • Ms. EJ

      Hmmm...I can believe that in reference to the underreporting due to the stigma of it.

    • Scromes1212

      Cut it out smh plenty of them bisexual strippers be burning

    • Gloria

      I would think that’s lesbians would rock cold sores too, especially since they put their mouth on pu.....

    • Scromes1212

      I didn't ridicule him smh yo ass so dam dramatic. Me and you both jump on folks comments everyday giving our opinion on what we we would and wouldn't do smh cut it the f*ck out

    • Topic Influencer

      Actually I dont. I just went back and read the past 3-4 usher got herp/turn over his medical records posts. the very last time I said not one thing about his bumps. yall gotta stop yall overbearing shit on here tho. Pushing YOUR beliefs off on others. hell not on here. In life. bc Im sure yall do it off of here. You way to damn comfy imposing your thoughts on others actions here for it to NOT be common practice. Not just you either before you take it personal as you OFTEN times DO.

    • oshh16

      I wouldn't rule out someone with HSV_2 if he was taking care of himself, not promiscuous, was honest and upfront and otherwise had all the character traits I find desirable.

    • Ms. EJ

      Grasping for straws because, that is not telling someone how he or she is to feel: none of it is telling a person how he or she is to feel, however what u are accusing me of doing is what U are doing so, stop the gaslighting. I don't know u and neither do u know me. I am not engaging u moving forward and please do the same for me.

    • Judi Jupiter

      Lmao

    • Phillybruh

      I was getting ready too say....lol

    • Gloria

      Thank you. Idk why people are ready to snatch your head off the moment you say you are willing to give someone with a certain condition a chance. The stigma has to stop. ?????

    • MyNameIs

      I'm just here to read the comments since someone said it was a mess in here. Lol

    • Scromes1212

      That's a dam lie smh I don't often take nothing personal on here. Yo ass mad stomping up and down the comments typing paragraphs cause a few folks said herpes is bad lol

    • Phillybruh

      It will only stop when they are the ones on the other side of the condition. Thinking it won't be me.

    • Topic Influencer

      Most times I ask questions. Like below: Please tell me where this was said. When it was pointed out, where it was said, I went BACK and highlighted the word PERSONALLY. If I dont agree, I state that. Nah I dont agree. Folks aint GOTTA agree.

      Far as ABOVE? I LISTED ACTIONS. I didnt say you ridiculed. I said you could have done one, or more actions in the LIST. What in the hell is wrong with your comprehension on this fine day?

      "Why jump on HIS comment to ridicule, put down his damn decision, or share yourn?" << you see these commas and the connecting/transition word "or"? Do I need to hold a grammatics session here? I totally can.

    • SunRiseBlossom

      Me Too!!! Lol...

    • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

      Please don't lump lesbians in with bisexuals and trysexuals.

    • Topic Influencer

      I never said it wasnt bad. Hell I got eczema. I already itch enough. I actually agree its bad. It's not anything NICE. Its the way its said sir. You arent slow Scromes. You just arent.

    • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

      The lesbian community has the lowest rate of STDs. HIV and herpes are practically non-existent in our community.

    • Dasright

      What if you want to have kids and your partner has the virus; even if they're not having an outbreak wouldn't the virus be in their sperm? This is a serious question. It would be a deal breaker for me....unless I was done having kids. But lawd... we'd always have to use condoms.

    • Topic Influencer

      100% all women, all day is a lesbian. Get them together Sandra. I declare this crowd is ...nvmd.

    • MJ

      There are ways to rid your body of these kinds of viral infections. Different natural therapies..using colloidal silver, oregano oil combined with others natural therapies can erase these viruses from your body or bring the virus down to undetectable levels. Just takes research and getting knowledge.

    • Topic Influencer

      Heffa use your block button. Nevermind I will do it for both of us. Adios SUCKA.

    • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

      The CDC website says 1 in 6 has herpes, not 90%.

    • Scromes1212

      A LARGE percentage of your community deal with females that are bisexual or once slept with a man. They may not consider themselves bisexual but most would

    • IyanlaVanzantoftheInterWebs

      But sometimes the side effects of using natural remedies isnt worth the headache

    • Gloria

      Cold sores Is what I was talking about Sandra, HSV-1. Which is just a different location for herpes. It’s over 90% that people will contract HSV-1 in their lifetime.

    • imright

      this used to be kind of funny to poke fun at Usher but not any more. hes a legend, treat him as such?

    • Ryan

      I'm not going to knowingly put my health at risk, but good for the ones who are upfront about what they got going on and best of luck to them.

    • IyanlaVanzantoftheInterWebs

      Its contracted from the secretions from the bump not in sperm. Skin to skin contact

    • imright

      i read ya messege after i posted but chilllleeee?????? to all of it

    • Panther Charleston

      Ummm...use of his image w this article. ? Ouch. I'm sure more than the herpes is tingling.

    • Phillybruh

      I'm starting to think most people haven't educated themselves about STDs past health class.

    • Topic Influencer

      And then to try to insinuate I got herpes. "You go extra hard when this topic comes up". I go extra hard when topics come up and folks are full of judgement. Child support, single mothers, STDs, RELIGION. If I had it I aint got no shame in saying it. Just a whole entire ass for no REASON.

    • dontgetblocked

      She acts like she's the authority on everything. No one else can have an opinion. Gets on my darn nerves.

    • MsSapphire9800
    • Topic Influencer

      You can have one. Its how yall say it. Yall are mean af on other folks opinion. Like YOURS is the only one. Fukk you hoe.

    • Scromes1212

      Thank you!

    • http://www.findyournichewithme.com Low E. TUH!

      HE AIN'T!

    • Topic Influencer

      Holy CRAP. Low where you been sis????

    • Topic Influencer

      Fukk you too. And obviously I value BOTH of yall opnions at least a TAD...bc if I DIDNT then guess what? The block button still in biz. I aint blocked either ONE of yall yet. And yall aint blocked me. Feel free tho.

    • dontgetblocked

      It's not even noon and I'm worn out. I get so darn sick of people acting like EVERYONE has herpes. We DON'T! If you get cold sores...fine. That's a different form of herpes than burning down there. If you have herpes simplex 2, take care of yourself and your potential partners. That's all I'm saying. I'm not judging. The person could have caught it from an idiot, or was sexually assaulted. Anything. There's no blame, but let's not act like it's not serious.

    • http://www.findyournichewithme.com Low E. TUH!

      HEY THERE DEAREST! LURKING MOSTLY...CHANGED SEVERAL JOBS AND FINALLY BACK GROUNDED. HOW GOES IT?

      I SEE YOU KEEPING THE GARDEN IN CHECK

    • Topic Influencer

      I missed'ed ya. I was like where my 901 connect drop off too? You been gone a minute. Im GOOD. Im glad you are!!!!

    • Gloria

      I swear! Like this is literally common knowledge and easily accessible with the internet, I thought.

    • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

      Can his tongue still get hard? I'm asking for a friend who said she never achieved an orgasm until her husband went down on her.

    • Gloria

      I’m just waiting on the article about MJ accusers now.....

    • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

      Where are you getting your statistics from?

    • Topic Influencer

      I feel sorry for em.

    • more

      But men. Aint shyt good luck with not getting infected if you choose to date those type of men

    • more

      I shocked at the number of supporters cough (women) supports.......

    • Harley

      ??

    • more

      Sandra but you always tel us that ALL men cheat. What exactly are you saying now ? We supposed to be cool with this?

    • Topic Influencer

      The sister to CDC. NIH.

      " According to the National Institutes of Health, about 90 percent of adults have been exposed to the virus by age 50."

    • Phillybruh

      Again as I stated if they are on top of their health and their intent is not too harm me. Who hurt yall.

    • Harley

      ??????

    • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

      The mind is more alert in the morning.

    • MJ

      That’s true in some cases..I’ve known of colloidal silver therapies shrinking tumors and curing HIV. It’s all in what it’s worth to the individual.. but simple measures that build your immune system like a clean plant based diet, oregano oil, black currant seed oil capsules, omega oil and a few other practices keeps my rheumatoid arthritis flare ups at bay with no side effects..just benefits to my health overall.

    • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

      This post is specifically for people who have herpes to inform them that their sex life is not over. They can still enjoy healthy and satisfying sex if they follow three steps:

      1. Avoid Sex During Outbreaks
      2. Use condoms or dental dams
      3. Take antiviral medicine to control outbreaks

    • Scromes1212

      Lol somebody big mad today. It's all good dub, relax :)

    • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

      That post was written yesterday. I have nothing to say about their lies.

    • IyanlaVanzantoftheInterWebs

      Awesome info! Glad that you get to suffer less because of your findings??
      RA is NO JOKE!

    • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

      I think you misinterpreted the data. What they mean is 90% of those infected with herpes have HSV-1.

    • http://www.findyournichewithme.com Low E. TUH!

      I'M DIVORCED NOW! THE LIL LOWS STILL KICKING IT...TOUGH! CAN'T COMPLAIN...

    • abby500

      The photos are SO shady! Leave Usher alone. And the two men....hahaaa.

    • Topic Influencer

      Baby you is FREE Fah free FREE. Congrats!

    • abby500

      Exactly

    • Judi Jupiter

      Say it again auntie.... talking about they were in love with him...smdh...

    • Gloria

      I understand Sandra! Lemme go to the post....

    • ALLMINE?

      Who's Ushers stylist? ?

    • Seldomseen

      Jesus, Mary, and Joseph.....

    • more

      Remaining monogamous can also eliminate this ...........

      I see you are informing

    • Intellectual by Nature!

      Very true. I'm terrified of STDs, too. I feel so ignorant about that.

    • Dasright

      I just looked at a medical study where it was found in a very small amount of the participants' semen, but still the risk was there. That would be too nerve wracking for me.

    • Strappyheels

      Hold Up , slow down (My Burlesque sangers voice)!!!!

    • Strappyheels

      You can still spread even when not having outbreaks.
      I say give it up!! You lost your privileges!!???

    • Strappyheels

      Most folks cannot even comprehend everyday words, much less Medical lingo.?????

      It’s really sad

    • Strappyheels

      Most people read for pure entertainment.. Why you think the news has become pop culture primarily.

    • Trace da Ace

      nerp....I will pass....I could not EVER see myself having sex with a man KNOWING he has herpes......moving on-->

    • brooklyn23

      Ladies stop swallowing and letting these dudes bust a cream pie in your faces. Shameful. Ocular herpes eh eh...any herpes anywhere is no bueno but eyes? Smh

    • Gloria

      Adam Ruins Everything is my ish!!!!

    • brooklyn23

      Colloidal silver? Hmm isnt that what blue man took that him turn blue or purple one of em colors?

    • Whirl

      I appreciate the medical minutes. I’m amazed at what I’ve been able to learn from a blog especially the medical minute on drinking water.

    • MsChocolate

      Yep. Condoms break. Issa no for me.

    • NewNew

      I knew a girl with herpes on her face. She contracted it as a baby when some as?hole with a cold sore kissed her on the cheek as an infant. She would have outbreaks when she was stressed out and have to take several days off of work at a time. I vowed to myself at that moment that I don't care whose feelings I hurt, no one will be kissing my child all up in the face like that. No way no how. https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/27fa8c01c0716a4a4fc9f2fce073575076d13dfa7db63a5e9db176f7c106bcfe.gif

    • NewNew

      Colloidal silver is the truth. People just don't know.

    • Applebum

      No thanks. I don’t have any diseases and I want to keep it that way. Before you engaged sexually with someone, take them to get checked. STDs and HIV/AIDS will always be a big deal to me. Society will now have you believe that it’s not a big deal anymore because there are medications for them. They have been pushing something called Prep. Whatever.

    • Topic Influencer

      Its my absolute go-to. That and manuka honey

    • brooklyn23

      I remember when I took my daughter #2 to the pediatrics and the female doctor kissed my daughter on the cheek or forhead, All I could say is I wish I was out spoken back then like I am now. Some shit just be trippin me up, because people be doing shit I wouldnt think of or dare do myself, so to me Im like where's is a person's common sense.

    • NewNew

      My husband would have knocked her out. Involuntary reaction. Arm would have just swung out like "pow".

      People are so crazy out here just touching and kissing other people's kids up in the face. If i even think i'm catching a cold i wouldn't come visit your newborn/infant. How the hell is it ok to kiss the child, a child with a brand new immune system, when you know you have an undesirable condition? I just can't with people.

    • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

      You don't believe that MJ was a child predator?
      Ok.!!!!

    • Karen Brady

      "and letting these dudes bust a cream pie in your faces." HOT AZZ TEARS FOR DAYS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!*

    • IyanlaVanzantoftheInterWebs

      Grace or Tamika... Actually look like he gets his style from these people

      https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/4e99ee96053aa1cc6205430faea5313b63f8206f98f19b989f229951895ddfae.gif

    • IyanlaVanzantoftheInterWebs

      You really think he is a Legend? Do you think the same of Chris Brown?

    • Seldomseen

      And the savage af award goes tooo.

    • Seldomseen

      Auntie....

    • Seldomseen

      Y’all in rare form today

    • ALLMINE?

      Lol u right

    • Seldomseen

      At 22......

    • dru and neil

      This is messy galore....???

    • dru and neil

      But what are we supposed to do then?!?!!?

    • Kimberly King

      Yep. But there’s studies that say that ED can happen to younger men as well. He satisfies me in other areas so I keep him around. But I never let him touch me unless he’s playing with the princess or I’m on his face. Lol I have another young man who can penetrate me deeply and satisfy me. I wish I could combine the two into one man. One has money and a stable career, in grad school and is still in the military... in grad school .. the other one drives trucks, sells weed and lives with his mom. Lmao this is real life. Guess it’s true when they say all the bum / hood ninjas have the best D.

    • MNjumpoffacliff

      ????????

    • Seldomseen

      Oh my

    • Intellectual by Nature!

      Man, I'd be salty, too. Marriage is supposed to be a safe place from BS like diesease. Not these days.

    • MNjumpoffacliff

      So he's the face of it now lol

    • dru and neil

      I love his music and came up with it, but I don’t know about legend status yet.

    • Meme

      Well damn they never tried viagra?

    • currvalicious

      Yuck, but facts!

    • dru and neil

      I agree, people act like they never got it in, please. I know I’ve had my judgy moments on here and literally felt bad or had to catch myself at times. I think sometimes we just forget certain parts of our own past just because we’ve pushed through it.
      This is NOT to say I can relate to having herpes though, let me be clear on that one.???

    • currvalicious

      Usher & everyone else w/his alleged condition can keep all of this.

    • Gloria

      I hope you learned something today.. Its the same virus, sis.

    • Kimberly King

      I don't think it's that. Not everybody wants to date someone who's burning. Regardless if they take their medication all of the time and don't want to harm anymore. Just like there's people who don't wanna date brokies, fatties, short guys, etc. Everyone has a preference.... Let em have it.

    • Kimberly King

      Desperation. That's all it is. Dating choices are so low that they're willing to date people who have diseases that could either kill them or have them walking around burning until death. Gross. lol

    • Kimberly King

      You were trying to be funny. You failed. Hence why you got one like from a person who said they'd date someone with AIDS or Herpes. lol I couldn't see the comment at first and I saw that you were blocked. I'm off work today, so I have time to play. It's never me. It's never been me. If you seen what I looked like you would know that. lol I don't have to switch up anything. I've found plenty of uses for that young lion. Penetrating the Queen ain't one of the uses though. Proceed.

    • Kimberly King

      Yes, Thirsty. I do. I wouldn't expect a man to have money and a career if I didn't have one my damn self. Not every woman who expects a lot of men are gold diggers or bum b*tches looking for a come up. If that's the case, I never would have went to college and graduated.. 3 times. I'd be in Miami or Dubai somewhere. You got two responses from me. You're very welcome! Back on the blocked list you go.

    • Phillybruh

      I stated that below that everyone is entitled to their own preferences. But what you shouldn't be is ignorant to how you can contract them.

    • Kimberly King

      You can contract them many ways outside of vaginal and oral. We all took sex ed. Not everyone paid attention obviously. And it's a well known fact that a person can live with these diseases perfectly fine, but there's a long list of medications they need to take and it would behoove them to have awesome insurance. People know this. There's a cure for all of this sh*t: Cancers, herpes, AIDS, etc. But Big Pharm wouldn't be in business if everybody got cured. I would not date or entertain anyone with HIV/AIDS, herpes or any other STD. I'm clean, so I expect the same in return. However , their secret would be safe with me. I wouldn't go on IG or whatever and blast them. If they're cool, I wouldn't even mind being friends and hanging out. But it'll end there. IDC what kind of medication or suppressants they're on... not bone'n anybody with diseases.

    • teather

      What really sad here is that ppl make fun of this and talk about it like nobody has fever blisters and cold sores on their mouths. Herpes is something that, if you're adult, we should all be talking about like any other medical condition. Why is there so much shaming and blaming for it. More of my friends have genital herpes than don't. The ones who don't have a partner who does. WTF are you all perpetratin like you don't have Simplex 1 or 2. I worked in health care for over 12 years, PLENTY of ppl have herpes. More of them than you know. Stop shaming around this disease. It's a bad look for ppl who are supposed to be grown.

    • Mz_Opinionated

      Yeah, I know people with it as well and you can get it from having one sex partner. So it doesn't make you promiscuous. Some people never have an outbreak. They don't know they have it until a full blood work-up is done.

    • Mz_Opinionated

      REAL Colloidal Silver is extremely Beneficial...I ordered some from Canada once...I had a root canal and never took one antibiotic and had ZERO infection...

    • Guest©

      So the second person is cured of HIV yet there's no cure for herpes. Guess it's not a high priority STD.

    • Guest©

      You can have HSV-1 in your groin area and vice versa. I worked at a clinic many years ago and a doctor's told me the reason herpes is not on the standard STD screening is because most ppl have it. I was shocked so of course I got tested for it. Ppl have it and don't even know.

    • dblogged

      Shame on you bag-face lady for posting that homo mess. Two black men at that. ?????

    • dblogged

      All of those diseases are curable

    • Kayke

      Yeah, hsv-1 in your groin now means you have genital herpes.... tomato-tamato.

    • Bossy704

      Nope. They smoked newports and drank malt liquor. Slept all day.

    • Pamela

      That's my thinking and I'm sticking with it.

    • Pamela

      Okay. That's my thinking and I'm sticking with it.

    • Pamela

      Too bad then. I'm sticking with this choice.

    • more

      I think you nailed it!

    • Eileen

      Thank you it is disgusting two bm looking like nutcases doing what God NEVER wanted two men to do and you wonder why bw are the new face of aids. I just dont have sympathy for bm screwing each other knowing it is wrong and shameful. Disgusting!!

    • Eileen

      swallowing a man's sperm is a no no it is the same as a man swallowing a women's menstrual blood its a no no..

    • Eileen

      two men really sandra...

    • LadiiJayeNevaBeenBasic

      Exactly!

    • Brown & Proud
    • Brown & Proud

      This is true, many many years ago, I was slut shaming a family friend (not my friend per say) because she knew she had vaginal herps and was preying on high school boys (virgins at the time). I was telling my close friend at the time about how awful of a person that chick was and her response was, " well you cant spread it if your not having an outbreak!" Come to find out she has it too. I was shocked, since then ive found out alot of people around me have it. I say all that to say, im now celibate. lol

    • Brown & Proud

      Yeah, thats all bad...

    • Strappyheels

      Glad that’s not my story!!

    • Strappyheels

      It can still be spread without having an outbreak.

    • Strappyheels

      TRUE SHIT TOO!!

    • Brown & Proud

      Right, but that was my 16 y.o. friends response to a terrible herp story (I was 15 at the time). She was told that incorrect info by her doctor. Scary thought.

    • anonymouse

      lol! they really want to put this fear of you'll be alone forever if you have standards

    • elroy

      This is why I always use condoms, and kissing is definitely out of the question. I would only kiss after being in long term relationships, this gives me time to see if she ever gets those "fever blisters". Most of these stds are easy to avoid, if you have discipline. People tend to feel that since their in relationships, it's time to throw the condoms out the window.

    • brooklyn23

      Ninga become vegan wtf haha

    • dru and neil

      I’m dying OMG ?

    • Rhyme and Reason

      Usher has a lot to overcome, can’t wait to see how his career rebounds!

      A lot of interesting Herpes info!

    • angelpat2812

      Lol! SandraR you ain't right! Smh

    • Lovely517

      Nice write up, Sandra! But I’m sorry, herpes is still a dealbreaker for me. The issue is that a lot of men do NOT get tested. They have the mentality where they would rather just not know. Shoot, I know grown men that don’t even have a primary care physician. How are we supposed to protect ourselves if they are not being honest about their sexual health?

    • Sassie

      Seems like Usher's career is still ok to me. He's still out and about doing shows and such.

    • Sassie

      I agree. I know a few folks who have it, too. Everybody on this blog right now probably knows somebody who has it or who themselves actually have it. Quit frontin folks. Usher wil be fine...he just needs to be honest with whoever he is banging.

    • Sassie

      He should become the face of it so he can help spread education about it. He might as well fess up.

    • MNjumpoffacliff

      Auntie Is hilarious and no he not gonna admit it.

    • Mrs. S. O.

      ????

    • Mrs. S. O.

      A lot of really attractive people have it so just have a baby with an ugly dude...

    • Mrs. S. O.

      The thing with herpes is the majority of people with it never have outbreaks or the one initial one was so mild they didn't even notice. That is why so many people don't take it seriously. They feel like, "heck, my cousin and dem got it and they living and freaking just fine.

    • GuestSTAR

      Lol

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