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Cardi B commented on the sad case of Maleah Davis, the 4-year-old Houston girl who has been missing for 10 days.

The Bronx rapper, who is mom to 10-month-old daughter Kulture, added her voice to those on social media calling for single women to stop leaving their defenseless minor children with their boyfriends or males who are not the biological fathers.

"Dear Moms, I know it's hard to find good babysitters you can trust (I still don't have one) and I know sometimes the money isn't there but PLEASE STOP leaving ya kids with your boyfriends!The devil is manipulating their minds especially when they are needy of attention."

Maleah was reported missing on Friday, May 13, after her mother's ex-fiancé, Derion Vence, claimed he was carjacked by 3 males who abducted the girl.

Vence, 26, was arrested on Saturday and charged with tampering with a corpse. His bond was initially set at $1 million on Saturday, but it was reduced to $45,000 on Monday.

Police do not believe Maleah is alive. Blood and human tissue linked to Maleah were found in various places in the apartment Vence shared with Maleah's mother.

Maleah's mother, Brittany Bowens, defended Vence, but she backtracked after a neighbor's security camera showed she was at home the day Maleah was last seen alive.
 

Photo by Dimitrios Kambouris/Getty Images

  • missmiami305

    Cardi talk too much! Please don’t open pandora’s box into your affairs. You have no place to talk. Shit, you never with Culture. Bottom line, mothers protect your kids. Predators can be ANYONE!!!! Including family members *coughs Cardi*. *coughs hypocrite* *coughs Offset is needy of attention*

  • Lisa Left Eye

    Yet again a black man does wrong and the collective outcry is against a woman. cardi is a dumb bird so i couldn't care less about her opinion, but truly men in general need to learn to confront their demons and stop allowing them to manifest as physical and emotional wrongdoing against others!

  • Leigh Burton

    What about women who rape, abuse, and kill children? All people who abuse children are not men!

  • bella28498 .

    These women not gonna listen card.....save your breath.

  • Dona Greene

    CARDIO sit down and shut up no one cares what you think

  • TRUTHbeabsolute

    EXACTLY! I guess biological fathers don't rape, abuse and/or kill their own. Who listens to the broad. Oh wait.....nevermind.

  • tia

    We just have to continue to pray and be steadfast about our children period. Acquaintances and blood relatives as well are causing harm to them. A few days ago or week or so, 'lil three year old Zoey Pereira's own flesh and blood chained locked the car from inside and sat her on fire. This was her own biological dad who was pissed off at her mom. In a nutshell do we really know people? Even after years? As long we're going with the flow and not rejecting or being indifferent folks are fine. But as soon as you push back they go crazy. Deep down some people are just evil and we dont even really know the real them. We could easily be sleeping with the enemy. I put nothing past anyone.

  • Rodmilla De Ghent

    they BOTH trash!!!!!!!!!!!

  • http://Bossip.com/ ohplease

    Sometimes Cardi B will be one of the first celebs to comes through with some wise advice on issues such as this. I gotta hand that to her. I hope her influence gets through to these mothers in this situation, could save lives.

  • CardiB’sAbs

    OT: Pose is on Netflix. I’m a huge Billy Porter fan so I tried to give it a whirl. The actors are very talented, however, the storyline about the downlow married white man and his relationship with the cross dressing prostitute made my stomach feel queasy. I couldn’t make it past the second episode.

  • missmiami305

    ????????

  • Chapter29Chick

    Right b4 mother's day! What a demonic man and woman. What do they mean the mother was there the last day the little girl was seen alive? Wat kind of shit is that? Bish need to be right in prison with his oogley foogley looking azz

  • more

    Cardi is with a man who had 3 other baby mamas. Cardi have several seats

  • rockstar2142

    Yet you read the article & commented ?????

  • kenya smith

    Let’s not forget the responsibility of the biological father. When child protective services removed the children from the home why didn’t he step up and get his kids before allowing them to go back to the baby mama and her boyfriend. The biological father made a comment regarding the child’s head injury alleging possible abuse at the hands of the mom boyfriend but yet he did nothing to get his kids out their house. I would like to know if any what steps did the biological father take to gain custody of his 2 kids.
    The mom and the biological father are equally responsible.

  • Y’all Jealous Cuz I’m Prudy

    This is what I was saying too. Her biological father didnt care either. He lives out of town with his new baby and baby's mother, and apparently his 4 year old daughter wasn't important enough to remove from that situation. Hes quietly sitting back, letting the mother and the boyfriend take the entire fall but he's just as guilty as they are for not saving his daughter from those monsters.

  • HoneyHitchcock

    Sometimes the biological fathers can’t be trusted. In this case it seems like all of the adults in this child’s life failed her.

  • Lisa Left Eye

    I don't disagree. But hold this piece of trash man accountable. Saying that the devil has his mind is just a cop out.

  • MsJC

    I feel that singles moms need to call up the biological daddy and get him to watch his own child! These bf for 1 week - 3 months just is not cutting it! If you want a step-daddy that means you getting married and will have a husband. I agree with Cardi on this 1! If you have not known the man at least 6 months dont even consider him a baby sitter for your child!

  • Patricia

    hell, the biological daddies aint squat either. thats why theyve already been dismissed. most of them are drug addicts, street thugs, and couch surfing giggalos. who needs any of these men?! pay a licensed daycare and finish school/gain credentials so you can support your own kids and fulfill your own obligations.

  • Elevated Soul

    I'm so thankful to have great parents!....Sending positive energy to children who need that positivity.

  • GinJen
  • MrsSpice1

    ?...sure ??. Comin from a culture vulture of a bird that is famous for soliciting s e x bs & ignorance to the weak perverted and misguided is a joke! ...having a child is one thing. Being a mother is a whole new level. An owl is wise. Not a pigeon?.

  • MsJC

    What does that say about the single mom, and her selection of men? I will rephrase, select a good man to procreate with. If it dont work be 2 adults and share the children. No doubt still get your money and use a daycare. But when you need free time, traveling leave them kids with their biological dad!

  • MsPam

    Standing Ovation!????????

  • MrsSpice1

    And please for the future progress of young and old respectable honorable dignified women girls and ladies; please stop allowin your babies to grow up listening and idolizing insecure broads/frauds of female leadership like cardi kim nicki and other pigs in lipstick that are famous for ignorance & stereotypes and being a sexualize object/puppet to society/industry/system/men ...raise doctors not ig models/groupies, teachers not insecure rats, lawyers not strippers...queens not thotianas?....we as a nation of women have to protect ours from all or anything that can cause harm or misguidance to yours. And note sometimes the enemy isnt a stranger!

  • Bree

    The enemy is rarely a stranger. The devil didn't set Christ up to be captured, it was the same negro he broke bread with! It's always an inside job, or somebody that knows somebody you know.

  • Bree

    I have been saying that from the beginning. His daughter was in state custody for months and he didn't go get her. He too is trash. These rats always breed together!

  • 88

    Just close your legs until you are married problem solved.

  • Bree

    Preach! I don't see how people praise these birds!

  • Bree

    Cardio! I'm done.

  • Bree

    The key is waiting on God to lead you to your Adam. Some of these men are worthless pieces of trash that belong with trash. Keep them off the streets, so civilized people can live in peace. I stay away from predators and my husband and I have not given birth but we already made a decision that NO ONE watches our kid(s) other then my mother. And she will only be able to watch them in our home. No visitors!! I know what it is like to be violated as a child and so does my husband, we ain't having it!

  • Bree

    Marriage means nothing unless Jesus is at the center. These birds get married every day. Makes me sick to my stomach!

  • Bree

    I'm so disappointed in biological fathers who don't have access or don't want access to their own flesh and blood. Speaks volumes. Some of these men are boys! And I've met boys who are men. Been around them all my life.

  • Bree

    Say it louder for the people in the back!

  • Applebum

    First let me just say she didn’t write that. ?
    I guess the hood rats will listen now. What about women who have kids with men who got kids by different women, Cards?

  • MsJC

    Facts!

  • Ruth

    Who made Cardi the moral AUTHORITY? Good parents dont need to be told that. Cardis mom shouldn't have raised such a whore.

  • MRiGOThim

    LMAO :P

  • Rhyme and Reason

    This is a topic that should get national attention! Even biological parents (mothers and fathers) can’t always be trusted!

    Women like this dear child’s mother was aware, maybe even participated, whether she has a history of child abuse herself or not!

    It’s no excuse! Totally UNACCEPTABLE!

    There will be family members you can’t trust! Bottom line, your kids need micro-managing safety PROTECTION!

    I warn my mother about how easy it can happen, right under her nose with grands, a visiting family member using the bathroom, fondling a child that is out of her view, playing in another room, someone she trusts! She’s in the kitchen or on the phone, distracted, taking just a minute or two to violate and steal a child’s innocence!

    So, it can happen anywhere, but predators rely on your trust and opportunity! Whether left with a boyfriend, at a family gathering in plain view, sleepovers, teachers, coaches, older kids, siblings, or baby-sitters, STAY ALERT AND PRAYERFUL!

  • missmiami305

    ??

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  • Marlika

    Don’t forget gutter rat!? She’s a gutter rat whore!!

  • jeniefrumdabloc™

    Amen ! ??????

  • Pebbles

    She maybe all of those things and she still speaking the truth she is saying what most people are thinking.

    What about the father who burned his daughter alive because court situation.

    Or the dad while ago who left his kid with the girlfriend she killed the little girl

    Or most recently the wife killed the step daughter and the father helped get rid of the body

    All a child can hope for is that he/she be blessed to have parent of sound mind

  • B.Loveitt

    She's right!!! I'll never understand why mothers put their needs ahead of their child's. Take care of your kid the right one will show up in due time. Put that ass on ice that's why you're a single mother now. Too damn hot!

    Stop putting a "s" on the end of mine to show possession. No "s" needed. Mines have minerals in them or they'll blow you up one. Simply elementary school lesson.

  • B.Loveitt

    Right!!! and apparently the gutter rat whore knows where not to leave her kid. Pretty much with nobody. Now what's up with all the gutter rat whores that do just that???

    They sound ridiculous!

  • B.Loveitt

    But what knew chick is he with? She can't be trusted either.

    Besides most women knew what type of dude she had the baby by or found out soon after she told him she was pregnant. Point being women gotta stop finding the title of "Baby Momma" desirable and cute...let's start there 1st. We need to control ourselves...the only person we can control.

  • Shenanigans1

    Give it some more time. He really didn’t know what he wanted and she got tired.

  • the guest

    claimed he was carjacked by 3 males

    ****

    He claimed he was carjacked by 3 "HISPANIC" males. These sick child abusers and child killers are always using race for deflection. Does being a racist go hand in hand with being a predator and abuser of children.

    They always blame black guys or in this case hispanic guys. This evil child predator and abuser just knew that "fear of the evil illegals" would throw them off his trail and he was wrong.

  • Shenanigans1

    Situations like these really boil down to some women not vetting guys enough, not paying attention to the men and their tendencies and not checking in with their children. It may have been done way at the beginning of their relationship but soon stopped after she got pregnant with the child they share. Some of us like to think that when we get pregnant and moved in and he is still there it’s all good and that he’s such a good man yadda yadda

    I’m not as trusting with people bc as a teenager I had was put in an awkward position with a family member I trusted. Because of that I pay attention to my daughters energy when she’s around people. And my husband and I pay attention to peoples energy when they are interacting with her. If I don’t feel a good vibe off of you I’m gonna be watching you like a hawk while you’re in my family’s presence and I for damn sure am not letting her go anywhere without me. During gatherings I’m notorious for having all kids stay outside or in the common area where I and any other parent can see them. Ain’t no going in nobody’s room to play— none of that.

  • Ebony Starr

    What about the father who burned his daughter alive because court situation.
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    That was his biological child. I get what Card I is saying, it's more likely to happen with someone who is not related. The facts in this case states that the mother knew that he was dangerous. She failed her child(ren) on so many levels!

  • Sid

    I used to hate my mother when I wasn’t allowed to sleepover at anyone’s house even family. When any family came over like cousins or uncles they were never in our rooms. They would be outside with my daddy or in the living room. I used to think my mother was bat ish crazy and now I am my mother. And I cannot thank her enough.

  • Pebbles

    I’m not denying the mother could’ve known!

    It was his biological child... this is true!

    However, there were signs that he was not in a good state of mind and the mother expressed her concerns to the judge and the judge still made the decision to allow the little girl to go with the father and the father burned the girl alive it’s a terrible way to die at the hands of the one you trust the most her father who is suppose to protect

    How can the judge fix that? He/she can’t and I’m sorry! Will not bring the little girl back

    None of the children for that matter

  • IyanlaVanzantoftheInterWebs

    Ohhhh Ms. Ruth... Not all mommas are to blame when their children become whores.. Cardi is speaking the truth, so stay on topic sis https://media0.giphy.com/media/frBEtuoEepdHFeKafE/giphy.gif

  • Topic Influencer

    I'm confused. When Ciara and Monica got accused of moving too fast so many folks here were like leave them alone. They are entitled to move on. Now it's single moms can't date, have your kid around a man, be more responsible. Which one is it and why do the rules differ?

    And I think Russ is a fine man and I don't like Shannon, but I do think his step sons like him a lot. But where is the fine line and why one set of rules for one group bit death to the others in the other group.

    Was a case here years ago. Brittany Lorritts. Her stepdad raped and killed her. She was 18. Thing is he didn't become her step pops recently. He had been in her life since she was like 7. No prior abuse prior to him murdering her . He just snapped one day. What about those cases? It's good at first, he good with your kid, but then dude does the unthinkable years later? Curious about it ALL.

  • Jay

    She is not the best person to get advice from but i agree with her 100% but i want say just men there are some evil women out there too.

  • Ebony Starr

    I totally agree!

  • Topic Influencer

    Cardi was raised by her grandmother. If you gonna blame her whoredom on the lady who raised her, be sure to get it right, and blame her abuelita.

  • Topic Influencer

    Stepdads, real ones not just in name only, molest, rape and kill too

  • IyanlaVanzantoftheInterWebs
  • IyanlaVanzantoftheInterWebs

    Married or not, you STILL need to watch WHO you have around your kids AND WHO you have kids with!

  • Ni Ni

    Ain’t no going in nobody’s room to play— none of that.
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    This! You never know what another child has been exposed to. They will act it out (whatever they've seen or what's been done to them).

  • free

    maybe they'll listen to her.

  • justlooking

    You just gotta pray. It the mama, daddy, granny's siblings, aunties, uncles, clergy, doctors and teachers.

    It not safe, I know all these folks and living in a enclosed capsule farm, where they never leave.

    You got pray over your child and ask God to order your steps, when it comes to choosing to leave your child.

    #prayers

  • IyanlaVanzantoftheInterWebs

    EXACTLY! I blame the momma for sending her child to an early grave!
    When a dude is mad at you and yall have kids, he will think of what he can do TO YOU to cause you indefinite pain! Women need to start thinking of the worse possible situation instead of thinking “Oh he wont do anything to me or the kids! He is just mad and not LIKE THAT..” ??

  • Shenanigans1

    That and you also never know who is back there as well. I don’t like my child just walking through anyone’s house on a regular day so we’re not doing that during a function either.

  • Topic Influencer

    Reginald Weeks was involved in his church. Mad stories of molesting pastors etc. But I mean I guess about Jesus

  • free

    she didn't say any of that. i don't see why you have to leave your child unattended with a man in order to date him and hang out with him with your kid. don't throw your children to wolves. they can't fend for themselves. that should be like 101. in many of these cases i've seen, the mothers KNOW or WITNESS the abuse so imagine what goes on when they are NOT there. there are fathers who abuse their daughters and they've known them from birth so there will always be cases of men who raise a child only to kill them but those are relatively small compared to cases like this.

  • Soda

    People are not robots that can be programmed to be perfect. Who knows what will cause that "good man" you thought you had to snap? I read a story yesterday on IG about a man who hit a baby in the head because he was frustrated after losing a video game. The child was one month old and is now deceased. The mother said she'd left him often with the man, his biological dad.

  • Look@m3

    https://media1.giphy.com/media/6qFFgNgextP9u/giphy.gif
    Yes its time to start taking advice from anyone at this point if means preventing this ish from happening. Not a fan of this girl AT ALL but I really don't want to hear another story like this. I still have knots in my stomach!

  • Look@m3

    YES...like the one in Atlanta that killed the step daughter. I just hate this earth....I see why God was punishing the way he was in biblical days...This mess is ridiculous!

  • hottlanta

    It us funny when the married dad does this 2 his own child no one says the wife should not left thé child alone with their dad or if she had not gotten married this would have not happened. But if they r single all of a sudden it is her lifestyle that caused it.

  • IyanlaVanzantoftheInterWebs

    So she is speaking to her “folks” ??

  • IyanlaVanzantoftheInterWebs

    The heffa said she didn’t know the little girl came back to the APARTMENT ??

  • Look@m3

    You are so right. My Hunny used to be PO for sex offenders and he would tell me all the time when he did his home check ups at the girlfriends house he would always ask them "Are you aware John is a sex offender and have raped or molested children?" They would either say yes or no. He would say if he continues to live here you have to sign this paperwork stating you are aware that you have a sex offender living in your home...Lord and I said they didn't sin it...he would say, yup, they would sign it! I knew then, shits real out here in these streets!

    The stories has me f'd up till this day. I sacrifice to be with them everywhere but daycare!

  • Ni Ni

    And give the bio dad some of your rules. Make sure he carefully watches the kids. Sometime kids are abused by their step siblings/half siblings when they go visit dad because most dads arent attentive enough. They push their duties on the new girlfriend or wife.

  • Topic Influencer

    So... there is not a whole wave of people on this blog saying don't move a man in around your kids if you are single mother? Single Mom's shouldnt date? Am I the only one to see them? You don't see them?

  • IyanlaVanzantoftheInterWebs

    Or just never WANTED kids OR never LOVED the kids.

    Wondering if some men never feel a connection to their kids even when they’ve been there from day 1?. Like when women have postpartum ??

  • Look@m3

    I don't know if that is whats being said but just don't leave your kids with anyone. Make sure they are spiritually, mentally, psychologically and every other -lly sound that whoever it is that you are leaving your child with- that goes for Lesbians too- that they are of sound mind.

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  • free

    i don't see how you can be hanging with somebody and, if that somebody shoots and kills or robs a person, both of yall get charged and do the time BUT if you in the home and a MF is abusing and sexing your kid--and you are clothing and bathing and taking care of this kid, you don't get charged with the same crime. start charging these hoes.

  • Topic Influencer

    My oldest daughter aunt...her childhood sweetheart, eventual husband, was a registered sex offender. She knew. So did I. We all did. Sorry. My baby cannot stay with y'all. They eventually divorced. He was living there with her then 9-10 yo daughter who is same age as mine as well. Stupid

  • Look@m3

    Yeah I'm starting to believe some women should be charged the same for neglect. Sad all over....

  • Look@m3

    Yeah I was innocently thinking people would not allow that but as I got older I see there are just some women out here that really would do anything, even sacrifice their children, for the sake of having a man, bae, boo!

  • Topic Influencer

    I'm saying if all those boxes you listed are checked, why do the rules still not apply on certain cases. Either it's the same across the board or it's not. Keep strange men from around your kids period. Why do some get an exception? It was plain nasty here when that first pic of Russ pushing Future Jr in a stroller surfaced. She was stupid. She was moving too fast. Not putting her son above her dating life. It was ugly. Now 3-4 years later, she is supposed goals. Like I can't with the wishy washy mess.

  • Topic Influencer

    Its an opportunity to tear her down even further. Too busy judging her personal life to take any kind of advice from her. Offset having 3 other baby mamas has what to do with this message?

  • Look@m3

    I don't know. I never had an issue with CICI and Ciara. Didn't see that photo but I agree keep crazy people away from your kids. That goes for kids in these environments as well and strange men, uncles, aunts etc.

  • Topic Influencer

    Not YOU judging her. Scroll down. Full of vitrol and meanness against her for this message

  • currvalicious

    THIS!

  • Look@m3

    Listen people...it doesn't matter if you are married or single Lesbian or trans. I don't care what your lifestyle is or what your marital status is at this point. At the end of the day if you sense or feel like something popping off with your kids, take care of your business. All that other bs is nonsense- being worried about people status when these babies out here being harmed! Makes no sense......If your the mom, aunt, friend hell daycare worker, its on you to protect these babies!
    Open up your mouth and say something to someone if you see, hear or heard any form of child abuse. IDGAF if you are married, decided to bring a man into your house after dating 3 months, married for 20 years or 1 year, dating for 1 day but this story with this little girl should have NEVER gotten this damn far- Now I'm done!
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  • Look@m3

    Oh ok, I'm more upset at the story I guess I just don't have time to care about Cardi because this story has out realtime knots in my stomach and a hole in my heart. I think people missing the point! but I got you boo. Thanks!

  • Look@m3

    ALL OF THIS...that's why I am watchful of people and how they raise their kids!

  • Look@m3

    SAY THAT!!

  • IyanlaVanzantoftheInterWebs

    Starved that little girl while her own BIOLOGICAL piece of SH!T dad took his own daughter dead body out to burn her in a trash can???
    3 weeks without food is approximately how long it took her to starve to death?. While the other kids were treated just fine.. That stepdevil had not a care in the world about the life she took???. The little girl weighed 34 lbs at 10 yrs old at the time of her death

    BURN IN HELL ALL DEMONS KILLING AND MOLESTING CHILDREN ? ?????????????

  • IyanlaVanzantoftheInterWebs

    Maybe I am in the minority here BUT if I am dating a man that is NOT my childs father he would be the LAST person I use as a sitter! I am not leaving NO MAN in my house while I am working with my kids! SO MANY women feel comfortable moving dudes into their house soon after meeting them while they have children. They also feel comfortable leaving their children with men they just met to go run errands or go out with their girlfriends!
    A lot of chicks I have spoken with dont feel they should sacrifice their lifestyle for their children.. Children shouldn’t be a reason for them to not have a life?. That is why there is a market for 24 hour daycares and most of them are located in sketchy type areas.

  • Look@m3
  • MNjumpoffacliff

    She's right, I've seen cases in Cleveland where they barely knew the guy and sometimes you think you know and you don't which is why the Chokes never saw anybody.

  • Look@m3

    Yeah these stories getting crazier by the day. Everytime I saw her on the news I wanted to punch her in the face. Talmbout she representing hersef.!

  • Ayeola George

    I think its wishy washy because you are looking at the opinions of people who are just on the outside looking in. we don't know whats going on in her life. celebs are people too and life is not black and white. Personally, I don't have Ciara as goals, but I admire her and her relationship. I just am trying to live my best life. Like the person said above. the basic rule is be careful with who you leave your kids with. Even if its someone you trust always be vigilante and look out for red flags. Cause today you can trust them and then maybe tomorrow you cant. In life there is ebb and tide and you just got to go with the flow. I feel so sorry for that little girl. He mom should have been her protector instead she gave her to the devil.

  • davine puddin

    Females leave defenseless kids with no good people than when shit go south most of thr time the child especially the female isn't believed. That stuff scars them forever twofold

  • Topic Influencer

    I agree. Im my own goals. I say use discretion with your precious jewels. Your BABIES. I think the MAMA was the devil as well after I found out her ass knew that dude and her baby circled back to her house and she was THERE when she LEFT. Im sorry. I think the mama was 100% in on this.

  • Blaque Mahogany

    **Disclaimer- This post will offend some people. Note- since I do not know any of you personally, I could in no way be directly or indirectly commenting about your personal life**

    The sad reality is that a lot of women have babies in an attempt to keep the baby's father around. They were not ready to be a parent and the quality of the relationship and care they have with and for such child is a direct reflection of the relationship she has with the child's father. Some women also believe that their "life doesn't end just because they have a child", when in reality, your life as you knew it should end. Pregnancy is a life changing event. Your choices and priorities should change. You are now responsible for the safety and well being of a vulnerable human being. That should be your number one priority, not a man, not a club, not a hairstyle or IG.

  • Oretta Grace Smith

    I left a boyfriend with my daughter about 10 minures. I went to Walmart and almost lost my mind getting back. She was 8 or 9. Thank GOD nothing happened. I Asked Her. But Never, Never again did I get that comfortable with him! And Women leave Men with Their Children while They go to work. I couldn't work doing that.

  • Look@m3

    No Offense when its the truth! I see nothing wrong here...anyone see something wrong?
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  • xenaD

    Did anybody find out what she was doing “out of town?”

  • GAPeach

    Her father's funeral

  • sunni_daze

    A lot of chicks I have spoken with dont feel they should sacrifice their lifestyle for their children..

    ^^^^ Because they are not mothers, they just b's wit kids. Know the difference.

  • Oretta Grace Smith

    I hadn't brought a man in my house to live and I'm Single with No children at home. That's just how bad, lost, and sorry the are!!! My daughter will be 25 next Monday Don't live with me, but visit and if I get a feeling first that that man Can Not be trusted Around Her, I Don't Date him.

  • CardiB’sAbs

    No bueno. I’m disgusted by the idea of him sucking dack, fondling balls, lusting after a man, engaging in such high risk behavior with a prostitute and then going back home to his wife.I felt like the lady from the movie “Cover” when she threw up after she saw her husband in the shower with another man.

  • Blaque Mahogany

    Honestly, I wish we could have an open, objective (non-emotional) and non judgmental conversation about this. I get that this is a personal issue and a lot of people are sensitive. But, if any single mothers/;fathers would like to honestly answer comment on the below, it would be greatly appreciated.

    1. At what point do you think it's appropriate to introduce your child to your bf/gf? Does the age of your child matter? How do you introduce them?

    2. At what point is it appropriate to move your bf/gf into your home? When making this decision does any self reflection take place? For example, every relationship I have rarely makes it past the 18 month period. Is it wise for me to move this man in to my home knowing 18 months from now, I will likely be dating someone else?

    3. Prior to introducing your mate to your child or moving your mate in, what precautions do you take? Do you speak to anyone, read any articles, seek advice?

    4. At what point do you feel comfortable leaving your child alone with your mate?Have you left your child(ren) alone with multiple partners?

    5. If the relationship ends, do you have a conversation with your child about it? What do/did you discuss?

  • hottlanta

    Wow she been married 2 days 2 a felon n now trying 2 give single women life lesson advice.

  • Look@m3

    Wish more mothers did this! Intuition is a must!

  • hottlanta

    So single women r not entitled 2 a life as punishment.

  • CardiB’sAbs

    Amen!

  • GAPeach

    This advice applies to both men AND women. My sister had a neighbor that slit her boyfriends daughters throat, and then threw the little girl in the dumpster. This has been years ago, but it bothers me to this day. My sister used to have that same girl babysitting my niece. God covered that girl because I promise my sister used to be sketchy as hell with that baby.

  • Look@m3
  • sunni_daze

    No, but their kids should be the first and main priority. Mothers make sacrifices.

  • Look@m3
  • morenYAHdelsur

    It’s the ‘innanet.’ Message is lost due to trollism ?????

  • Oretta Grace Smith

    So true!!! I been Praying over my daughter and she will be 25 next Monday.

  • KcoolMuziq

    I think fans would listen more to Beyonce than Cardi B.

  • Blaque Mahogany

    Mothers make sacrifices.
    ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
    They don't hear you...

  • IyanlaVanzantoftheInterWebs

    Great questions!

    I have no experience with this situation but in reference to question #5, I do know dudes who have had women with kids live with them and when it didnt work out, the dudes did not maintain a relationship with the children.. I wasn’t surprised either?????

  • Look@m3

    whoa....I couldn't even read after throat. Ill come back after I gather myself....Jesus! https://media1.giphy.com/media/3o6gDPXMNxFhvHdcf6/giphy.gif

  • IyanlaVanzantoftheInterWebs
  • IyanlaVanzantoftheInterWebs

    PERFECT gif ??

  • Blaque Mahogany

    when it didnt work out, the dudes did not maintain a relationship with the children
    ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
    Naturally. They have no obligation to do so. And honestly, that may be for the best. I mean imagine him and the new boyfriend taking turns babysitting. Chile... https://media2.giphy.com/media/26uffjvBcC9ARymzK/giphy-downsized-medium.gif

  • Topic Influencer

    new post

  • IyanlaVanzantoftheInterWebs

    We ALL live and learn But we should NOT live and learn when it comes to our children's lives!

    Thanks for your honesty Sis!

  • hottlanta

    First of all our kids need 2 see us dating. If u spring jimmy on them after u been sneaking seeing behind their back for months. They gonna wonder where did he come from. Now u n jimmy in love n now he gotta like your kids. Now u all in love with jimmy n him n your kids aint getting alone. Our kids need 2 see us going thru the process from beginning 2 end n if yall break up it is okay. It is a part of life. We need 2 stop with fake relationship cinderella no problem syndrome. I had relationships with men when lil hots were small. They appreciate it to this day. I showed them if a man loves u he is gonna make preprations for u n l kept my relationship with him out of their lives. You have 2 do that even if u get married.

  • B.Loveitt

    I'm just happy it's a white dude. I'm tried of folks thinking down low is a black mans game. Vast majority were white from jump but the memo was never released to the general public.

  • GAPeach

    We had a sex offender on our street a few years ago (we moved). They had 3 kids in the house. I called to sheriff to report it, and they told me it didn't matter because he was a level 3 sex offender or some shyt like that. I thought that was crazy.

  • tia

    That's a good ass point. I don't know... it's just a cold world. smh..

  • free

    i assume #3 includes background research--google for mugshots, pay for a background check, check the sex offender list.

  • free

    THANK YOU!!!

  • B.Loveitt

    Oh she knew and that's why she should be right there with him holding his had since her dumb ass didn't wanna keep her damn kid safe!

  • Look@m3

    Ok, now I have gathered self.... Where did this happen exactly?

  • Shawty

    I think you should speak to your kids about your mate as soon as you feel things are going somewhere with you guys. (If they age appropriate) You don't have to let them meet right away but at least keep your kids in the loop. Introducing would be in a public setting where it would be catered towards the kids fun instead of ours. Now the moving in is on you. If I'm thinking about it, I'd speak to the kids and see how they feel about it as well. Their feelings matter! They babysitting part I NEVER did. That was just too scary for me but to each his / her own. I just believe if the kids are in the know of everything that will impact them as well that things tend to go a little smoother. Just my opinion.

  • Shawty

    You should do that whether you have kids or not. That's going in with your eyes OPEN!

  • Cliffpetty

    Sad to say this younger generation will listen to her more than their parents. I appreciate she is speaking out about this. At least cardi is using her platform to speak some truth.

  • GAPeach

    Rochester, NY. I think the little girls name was Janai or something like that. She killed her, then called 911 to report her missing, knowing the whole time that she had killed her and put her in the dumpster. They lived in these apartments. Strathmore Circle or something.

  • B.Loveitt

    But yet she still got enough sense not to trust just anybody with her kid. My sister runs a nanny agency for the elite in ATL. I need to let her know Cardi doesn't have a nanny. She does a deep background check like Fed. pays for it herself. When I was obtaining my master's I was a nanny for the beverage director of Hooters...paid well, very well!!! The calendar was even shot at their crib one year. Hell if it's worth it I'll go take care of Culture. Then maybe I'll finish my PhD and my folks can get off my ass. Damn!!!

  • Blaque Mahogany

    You didn't answer a single question.

    Nevertheless, I disagree with you. I think our kids need our protection, love and support. I think our kids need to see us choosing them and their safety above our wants and needs. Yes, relationship failure is a part of life. It's a part of adult life. Adults have issues recovering from relationships. So I am unclear as to why any adult would think its appropriate to introduce multiple partners to their child immediately. To allow their child to build bonds with individuals, only to have that individual suddenly disappear from their lives and another person re-appear. Yes, kids are resilient, but that doesn't mean you purposefully throw curve ball after curve ball.

    I guess my question is, does the benefit outweigh the harm? Is the lesson you are teaching your child by allowing them to be active participants in your repeated failed relationships worth the harm? Is that the only way to teach that particular lesson?

  • B.Loveitt

    !!!Right!!!

  • Blaque Mahogany

    Thank you for responding. This sounds rational and it sounds like you have put some thought into your actions, which is more than I think most people do.

    You didn't indicate whether you allowed someone to move in or not, so maybe you can't answer this question. But, if you don't feel comfortable enough to allow a person to watch the child, why do you feel comfortable enough to allow that person to move in.

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  • Cliffpetty

    I think your an idiot. Beyonce not speaking on this.

  • Karen Brady

    I had to giggle at this because Offcentered is barely your 'husband' Ms. Thang. Nice PSA but take care of home boo-boo.

  • T Willis

    Cardi B may be low rent, ratchet, trifling, and a non-talented gutter rat, but she’s ? right about this. I said this on another post - women should never leave their female children alone with a man. Ever. I don’t care how they’re related or how dire the situation is, DONT DO IT.

    Being a mother is hard work, which is exactly why black women need to stop taking the role so haphazardly by b@$t@rd breeding with any dude that shows the slightest bit of interest. If you can’t provide a stable environment that protects your child from violence, perversion, and neglect then you probably shouldn’t have kids. Smdh. The really messed up part about this story is that it really isn’t an anomaly amongst black and brown children. As devastated as I feel about what may have happened to Maleah in that apartment, I also feel like I’ve heard this story many times over the years. That’s how painfully common these circumstances are smdh. I just hope we get to a point when women realize the control they have over these type of situations smdh.

  • CardiB’sAbs

    ????

  • CardiB’sAbs

    You better say that! I wholeheartedly agree a million percent.

  • And then there is that!

    1. I think it depends on the age of the kids. I think kids should be able to see healthy dating and courting. My girls are 17&12 and we have open dialogue all the time. They have only met one guy I was in a relationship with and it was about 6 months into dating. Any other time I go on a date. I tell them I'm going on a date, but they don't meet anyone at all. I will not live with anyone outside of marriage. So if I say I do to you, then I trust you around my kids. I always say if I can't trust you with my kids, my man or my money then we can't have any type of relationship. Outside of their dad the only man that has kept them is the guy I was in a relationship with and we were together for 9 years. He loved them more than me sometimes lol. So I didn't have a problem with that. It was about a year into us being in a relationship before I allowed for this too happen and it was for short times, like a run to the store or mall or to get my hair done. I didn't have a conversation about the relationship ending at all.

  • Topic Influencer

    Cardi B may be low rent, ratchet, trifling, and a non-talented gutter rat, but she’s ? right about this.
    ^^^^^^^^
    A lot of folks feel like she needs to sweep her front door first and has no right to say anything. Bc her marriage and life are not perfect you know? Nevermind it could save a childs LIFE. Im sure she has at least a few followers who needed to hear the message. But nevermind any of that.

  • Yup, I said it

    Alot of this is not about lack of child care. Silly minded women will push their kids on a man in a rush to create a family. They will have their kids calling their new man " daddy" and all kinds of dumbness. You will see the young daughter hanging and hugged all up on the new boyfriends sitting in his lap and all kinds of inappropriate behavior. If Ms Bowdens fat ass was sitting in the house, why is this man taking your kid to daycare and giving her baths?

  • Blaque Mahogany

    Any other time I go on a date. I tell them I'm going on a date, but they don't meet anyone at all
    ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^

    Thank you for responding. This makes sense to me . I also think because of your children's age you are able to have conversations with them about dating that they understand.

  • Cliffpetty

    Something else in general people needs to be mindful of anyone watching their kids including family. My husband and I are beefing now because i only allow my stepdaughters over when adults are here. Like I told him his daughters and my boys are not biological siblings. Hell, the first penis I ever saw was accidentally walking in on my brother when he was changing. A complete accident and I feel gross even bringing it up. But hell we dont need Any accidents happening over here!

  • Blaque Mahogany

    Why didn't you have a conversation about the relationship ending? I'm assuming this is the man that they met/ was involved in their lives?

  • DeepThinker

    Most men especially under the age of 35 do not want to or have the emotional maturity to be stepdad to another mans kids and most under 30 do not want to be full time dad to their own.
    Women need to stop trying to force these Brady Bunch fantasies. If there is a man that does want to play daddy watch out he’s probably a hobosapien and a pedophille.
    People need to watch who they allow their children to have contact with that goes for family and friends too.

  • Blaque Mahogany

    Exactly. You should do basic research in general, but I think you should be extra vigilant when you have kids.

  • Alextra Ballard

    First and foremost it’s not always the “Boyfriend” that can be abusive,some bio-dads ain bout shidt ither. Men are not a one size fit all,meaning all men are different. All boyfriends are not abusive,so it’s up tew momz. Some momz have that maternal instinct to know when something is not right with her child and she immediately reacts,while others choose to ignore all the red flags and dew absolutely nothing.

  • Blaque Mahogany

    Cardi B may be low rent, ratchet, trifling, and a non-talented gutter rat,
    ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
    This stunned the heck out of me. lol Let me go back up top and finish this. https://media3.giphy.com/media/DeJ2ifS2V2zlu/giphy.gif

  • HelloToni

    I agree..just because you are flawed does not mean you cant give sound advise My grandmother use to say, even a broke clock is right twice a day.

  • Dowoop

    I had to explain this to my friend the other day. She thought it was weird I don't let my boys do sleepovers. I'm like nope not over here. I'm willing to host the sleepover but my kids don't do sleepovers and they go out to play as a duo.

  • Blaque Mahogany

    If Ms Bowdens fat ass was sitting in the house, why is this man taking your kid to daycare and giving her baths?
    ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
    ...especially since you already suspected he was s.xually abusing her.

  • Cheese eggs

    Yeah but dude does take care of his kids

  • IyanlaVanzantoftheInterWebs

    True! Lol at that gif! No bueno at all??

  • And then there is that!

    Yes it was! Not sure why? Just didn't feel the need too. I feel like somethings are for grown folka only. Kids don't need to know all the details. They have their own relationship with him now especially since they are older.

  • Yup, I said it

    The message remains the same and is valid regardless of the message. Being that she worked in the sex industry she probably has insight in to how alot of perverts think.

  • DeepThinker

    Sadly I think these women go to the next guy hoping they can create what failed with the other guy. Self pity about a failed relationship and guilt about not being married and having the perfect family they envisioned. They allow those feelings to lower their standards again picking anybody to fill the spot.

  • And then there is that!

    People keep saying women do this too not only men. This isn't about that. This is this situation and sadly this happens more often than not with love struck women that ignore all the signs like this women did. Also no one life is perfect, if that is the prerequisite to having a voice then everyone needs to be quiet. So in my opinion Cardi lend your voice to any matter that is near and dear to your heart!

  • Dowoop

    I'm not single but below is my take on your questions:
    1. When you are in a committed relationship, i.e serious and engaged.
    2. After marriage if you have kids.
    3. Knowing myself, other than the other parent pbly not.
    4. Never, if they are not the biological parent.
    5. Only if it was a committed relationship. Kids are easily confused and always have a bunch of questions. You don't need to go into specifics about why it ended but if this other person was around everyday I think a conversation needs to be had.

  • dru and neil

    I got a feeling this precious child was no safer with her mother than with this despicable stepfather. But otherwise, yes, people need to stop leaving kids with someone just because it’s free, or better yet, stop giving birth if you can’t afford to be a parent.

  • Chipswife

    She's RIGHT! its signs these men do not care for these kids outside of the relationship with you. Why would you want to be with someone that will not accept your children. How can some of these women trust these men or women because this not just directed toward women its directed toward men also. WAKE UP!

  • Dowoop

    Sounds like my husbands sister and she has the nerve to want to be mad when no one wants to babysit on long weekends. Like stay your ass at home with your kids.

  • KcoolMuziq

    Speak for yourself!

  • Blaque Mahogany

    Oh ok. Yeah, I didn't mean the details, but in general. Like letting them know he may or may not be involved in their lives anymore. It's not their fault, etc. Idk how old they were at the time so the conversation would differ depending on the age.

  • dru and neil

    I will never understand how some women repeatedly welcome children into desperate situations. And little boys are in just as much danger as little girls alone with these men while mom is off at work, etc.

  • Chipswife

    I don't think we can define this by age! I know a young lady dating a man in his 40's who she has a 2yr old with. she also had a 8yr from a previous relationship and he cant stand the 8yr old and shes a girl. the 8yr is as sweet as can be but because she's by someone else he just don't care for her. I told that heffa u one dumb women to put up with a man who don't like your child. No freaking way.. he'd have to GO!

  • Cliffpetty

    Hell i use to bathe my stepdaughter. I will never forget one day she said, " look i have hair down there." Truthfully i never noticed. Only would bathe her back. That was the last day I ever bathed her.

  • Dowoop

    I don't know why people think marriage is a magic problem solver. Single or married, I do disagree with leaving defenseless children with a partner that is not their parent though.

  • SingleGalCrazyWorld

    For real...she has all this outrage but couldn't even keep her head up to face the camera anytime she got interviewed...I see this everyday in my city. Women with low self esteem who are so desperate for love that they latch on to the first windbag with a penis they see...its horrible and sickening and for that "mom" to have suspicion then leave that beautiful child with him anyway goes to show that she wasn't ish in the first place...

  • IyanlaVanzantoftheInterWebs

    In GA, you GOTTA have the baby if you find out you are MORE THAN 6 weeks pregnant.

  • sunni_daze

    Clearly.

  • CardiB’sAbs

    THIS!!! Talking about “Nobody wants to help me” Well, you should’ve learned to take responsibility after the first two kids you barely raised. Your poor choices are not my responsibility.

  • sunni_daze

    You missed the point to focus on a typo. Hmmm

  • sunni_daze

    And its spelled correctly.

    sac·ri·fice
    /?sakr??f?s/
    an act of offering to a deity something precious especially : the killing of a victim on an altar. 2 : something offered in sacrifice. 3a : destruction or surrender of something for the sake of something else. b : something given up or lost the sacrifices made by parents.

  • SingleGalCrazyWorld

    If you dont go head and PREACH!! You are 100% right. This all stems from a lack of a father in the household...I believe that having a father or father figure is important for black women growing up. Fathers show you those "knucklehead boys" to keep away from and other things that are needed in order for a woman to grow up and not have to be so love sick over men who aren't worthy of them. I've seen so many women get lost in men who aren't shit and then get mad when it explodes in their faces...they have babies because they think it will trap a man into submission when in reality they never had a "man" in the first place...its so sad I have a friend right now who told me that if her 2nd husband leaves her she gonna kill herself...can you imagine? She has two kids, no job, drinks like a fish and for her to fix her lips to say that is sickening...she only sees her worth as a wife and not as a mom...

  • Applebootay

    May her precious soul R.I.P. God said revenge is His and I believe Him.

  • dru and neil

    That law should scare every woman who believes in reproductive rights. It scares me...who knows how perverse this can get, could spread state to state.

  • IyanlaVanzantoftheInterWebs

    Chile... A Lot of woman are DESPERATE and do not have STANDARDS!
    In regards to the situation you described, aint no way she was supposed to have a baby by that man because he didnt like the child BEFORE she got pregnant UNLESS she got pregnant right after they met.. Either way, she is a HORRIBLE decision maker!

  • IyanlaVanzantoftheInterWebs

    WOW! Im SO SORRY??
    Stay at WAR with him until he UNDERSTANDS that you have been there before and he wouldn’t like it if his daughter has that experience too!

  • Applebootay

    Exactly! My BIO Dad of my first born was an "ex fiance" too and that niggah didn't get any alone time until he was old enough to talk and when he started talking, I pulled his privilege to see him and went to court to establish an order that he (1) wouldn't leave him with random people, (2) allow anyone to smoke around him (he had severe asthma as a child (3) etc..etc..I was smart enough to know this back then it was 1992 when my son was born. I didn't even need anyone to advise me, as soon as my son started talking, I went right to court. This is why I give the mother in the case no slack. She was/is lying, she's trifling and negligent and should be charged. Throw her azz under the jail with that demonic piece of shat she choose to kill her baby.

  • Applebootay

    And she admittedly ignored it...she knew...in my eyes, she is more at fault than he is.

  • Look@m3

    SMH! That is horrible!

  • Look@m3

    Damn I made a mistake in my hasty agreement with you .....Thank you! I owe you.
    https://media3.giphy.com/media/Fy7pJEV9rFo0o/giphy.gif

  • Look@m3

    There I fixed it........Anything else?

  • BlackNicheRims

    The Heatbeat Bill. Rowe vs Wade is Federal law that entitles a woman the right to privacy and liberties to decide on birth or abortion. Georgia basically found a slick way to terminate this right. Most women don't know until 4-6 weeks or missed cycle. I'm wondering when will women see this for what it is? Men have no right to tell a woman what to do with her body.

  • Blaque Mahogany

    her 2nd husband leaves her she gonna kill herself.
    ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
    I hope she isn't being sincere. A lot of women believe they only have value if they have a man.

  • Look@m3

    Girl edit your post before the Spelling bee's come up yonder giving you definitions and shit

  • Applebootay

    I'm so sorry that happened to you. Also, please realize that you definitely have traumatic PTSD that will make you overly paranoid in these situations. I work in Psych and Behavioral Science. If you haven't I would seek counseling to help you learn to have an rational expectation in these situations. Peace be with you.

  • Dowoop

    So maybe she is speaking from experience and not watching any of his kids unless he's around.

  • IyanlaVanzantoftheInterWebs

    No one has EVER bathed neither one of my girls... Not even their daddy who is my husband! Im one of THOSE mothers!

    Ive never been violated BUT I do remember that btween the ages of 7-12, I used to spend my summers with my Father’s sister and her family. My aunts husband was a white old man that would walk around the house naked but my aunt wouldn’t say anything. One day, he was sitting in a room by himself and motioned for me to come in the room to sit on his lap but I KNEW that was wrong and creepy so after that day, I stayed GLUED to my aunts side! Luckily my auntie never left me alone with him because I have no doubt in my mind, that man would’ve tried to molest me!
    I never told my mom or my dad after it happened but when I got of age, I told my mom and she didnt say much but she did mention that getting molested is something little girls get over.. She spoke about it like it was a normal thing???.
    Chile.... Phuck THAT!

  • Applebootay

    like you said, its PURE ignorance, stupidity, laziness, desperate, thirsty, low self esteem, no self love, trifling fat azz wasn't raised right herself type of females. And every new boyfriend is the daddy. I wonder how many men she rotated before this maggot!

  • Tmr

    Unfortunately in my line of work biological fathers have done some crucial things to their daughters/son. Sick in the head. No one can be trusted. In some cases it could be reversed and the mother could be that sick ass person. Now and days you never know. That's why no one come around my kids. A school and daycare you better believe cameras are watching.

  • SingleGalCrazyWorld

    I hope not either but she's on the edge and its exhausting...I've been covering her azz since childhood and when I tell you her issues almost drove me to the therapist... everytime I try to tell her she needs rehab detox and clinical help she stops speaking to me (for years) so I stopped suggesting or asking...now I just look ahead and play the mannequin challenge...cant help those that dont wanna help themselves...

  • IyanlaVanzantoftheInterWebs

    Exactly! You would be SURPRISED how many woman agree with this bill??. A lot of woman are against abortion but are ALL for Putting chilren in the system and moving on with their lives?. OR giving birth then killing the kid??.

    When a woman is having a miscarriage, a dr WILL NOT provide life saving measures for said child UNLESS the fetus is AT LEAST 21-22 weeks of gestation.. SO, will the dr be held accountable for not trying to save a fetuses life between 6 & 21 weeks of gestation?

    The bill is ASININE! If the baby CAN NOT survive on its own without its HOST(the pregnant woman) or NICU devices, then I BELIEVE a woman should be able to LEGALLY have an abortion!

  • Blaque Mahogany

    ???? @ the mannequin challenge

  • Sassie

    Yep, stop leaving your kids with just any damn nigga u lay with and more importantly, don't help the nigga KILL YOUR KID...cuz that's EXACTLY what happened here. The bitch was in on it.

  • Sassie

    Wow.

  • Coffee1st

    You are absolutely doing the right thing.
    You're protecting your step daughters AND your sons. You're choosing to acknowledge very real possibilities that puts others out of their comfort zones.

  • Parent

    OMG, thank God you were diligent enough to know something was wrong.

  • SingleGalCrazyWorld

    Smh You should see me in the car looking forward not blinking and changing the subject...she's just the type to piss on the rainbow...we cant ever just have a great sistah circle time w/o her bringing up a crisis she is in (due to her drunk antics)...

  • Parent

    He can't stand the 8 yr old? He need to go. That's a clear red flag.

  • hottlanta

    Please l can love protect support n take care of my kids n have a relatiobnship at the same time. If that is the case when a wife has a baby she should divorce her husband bcas she cant give all 2 her child while dad is begging for attention bcas if a man is around she cant be a real mother. Who said that.

  • Blaque Mahogany

    You're clearly missing the entire point. No need to further this discussion.

    Have a great day.

  • IyanlaVanzantoftheInterWebs

    Alabama and Mississippi has passed it already..

  • IyanlaVanzantoftheInterWebs

    ???

  • MsJC

    All of that can be solved by communicating with your kids and your kid's father. If you discover step children or step parents abusing your child, you step in and be a parent. otherwise, if there is no issues with the bio dad he should be caring for the child when the mother is not around.

  • Guest

    Not (calling) saying you're a creeper, but this s**t don't even sound right!

  • Let them eat cake

    I'm not listening to anyone that publicly admitted to drugging and robbing men.

  • BlackNicheRims

    20 other states are considering this bill.

  • MsJC

    Stories like this are rare, that is not the norm. A good man, of course no one is perfect but in a nutshell: Takes care of his responsibilities rather with the mother or not, keeps a job long-term, on good terms with his own parents. these are some of the qualities a good man posses. Not a perfect man, just a good one.

  • Chipswife

    I said the same thing! If he ain't like my child he dont like me. But she's bouncing around job to job no stability. Living with him and hes doing pretty well for himself. Nice car, good job, own his own home.. pretty stable life. Kids pretty much grown. So she think she caught the big fish. Bitch just stupid if u ask me

  • T Willis

    Lol the virtues of a messenger, eh?
    Maybe it’s because I’m a seeker of truth, but lol, I don’t care who says it, I don’t care what forum they say it in, and I don’t care how they say it; if it’s rooted in truth then it resonates with me. I don’t get hung up in the politics of the messenger, I only care about the message and if it can be of use to me or my loved ones (black people ??). That’s all I care about. And maybe lol, just maybe, if black people could separate the superficial from the realism, then maybe we could actually see some momentum and change.

  • hottlanta

    Where was cardi b response about lifestyle n kid safety when that married man killed his pregnant wife n put them precious 2 babies in a oil tanker. Married women arent safe either. Where were the comments on her lifestyle.

  • Karen Brady

    1. I know it's their house but aunt should not have let him walk around nude when you kids were there. 2. Did you tell your parents that he spent his summers in his birthday suit? 3. I'm disturbed by what your mother said. 4. I'm glad you weren't physically violated in your aunt's house. Notice I said 'physically'.

  • T Willis

    That’s very true. Little boys need protected just as well...

  • Chipswife

    He made it known he dont care for the kid before there's was born. Then after they kid was born he started alienating the other child and just spending time with his kid. Mind u they stay in the same home so how u think the 8yr old feel. He would buy his kids food when they over and not hers. I tell u she one stupid ass woman I would've left. But u cant tell this dumb ass broad nothing. I

  • Topic Influencer

    Oh I agree with the message. But look around. A lot do not. I agree with some of the stuff TI says. Look around those posts too. They cant sep. the message from the messenger if you paid them too.

  • A D N

    Boy, boy boy. Reading these comments is like whew. A lot of people just don't get it. Let me see if I can help offer a perspective that may work for some.---
    ---
    (1) I would be so hurt and offended if I was a man, living or married to a woman and she doesn't trust me with her child alone. NOT ALL MEN ARE MOLESTERS AND ABUSERS people. Please don't do that to these men, please. And abuse also happens to children by bio family members, if not more so. So that theory is debunked of the step parent is worse than the bio parent. ---
    ---
    (2) If you can't trust him or prefer to be around him with your child, then why are you with him???!!!! I am sooooo confused by this. If he can't be trusted, then he can't be trusted. This is not protecting your child. What you are doing is creating an environment unfit for everyone in the household. CREATE A TRUSTING ENVIRONMENT.---
    ---
    (3) Please do not move men/women in your home while you are getting to know him/her, dating him or even serious with him, please. I know you need help with babysitting while you work and pay for bills and take care of kids, but please, please find an alternative because you just don't know the person well enough for this. CREATE A STABLE ENVIRONMENT. Allow him to show you what type of man he is alone. And with him in your eye view will not make him NOT CHEAT. You can't watch a man. And the extra money you're trying to save with one household has tremendous consequences. LET A MAN BE A MAN, if he is one, you will soon know, but find out why type when you lives alone, supporting himself. NOT leaving one woman's house, or his momma's house, moving into yours. A *MAN* WILL NOT WANT TO MOVE INTO YOUR HOUSE LADIES.---
    ---
    (4) Your body is raging hormonally and the need for sex, love, attention, warmth, affection, increases during this time. Please protect yourself from wanting to start a family with someone until you are sure everything checks off, like JOB SECURITY FOR YEARS, EDUCATION, A HOME, CAR, MONEY IN THE BANK and A SPIRITUAL CONNECTION. You just do not need the drama from having a lack of.--
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    (5) ARE YOU HAPPY and healed from your own wounds? Can you provide a stable and loving home free from financial burden for a child if you have to do it alone? I know we get lonely, I know we have hurt that a man who whispers the right thing in our ear to make us TEMPORARILY forget about the pain, but it is still there. Heal and then move forward so you ATTRACT the positive energy you possess.--
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    (6) Being a parent is challenging but it has the greatest rewards when we are secure financially, spiritually and emotionally. If you are facing challenges being a parent and want or have abused your child, get help from someone. Even if the result is the child being temporarily removed from you home, that may be the best solution until you are able to parent appropriately. You won't lose your child permanently. You're just getting the break you need until you are on solid ground.--
    ---
    (7) If you are a parent, and your kids are thriving then congratulations. If your child has suffered some type of trauma, and you kept it a secret, please rethink your decision. Protect others. ---
    ---
    (8) PLEASE stop cussing out your child! This is abusive. Please stop chasing unfit men. Please stop positioning yourself to be lied to. Please stop giving a man your money, your automobile to drop you off at work while he sleeps all day. Please act ladylike and dress ladylike to attract a man who will treat you like a lady.

  • chan chan

    Cardi did good speaking up. Women need to stop letting everybody watch their kids. The truth sting like a MF!

  • hottlanta

    We should only talk about relationship ending while dating but when we get married we should never have the conversation.

  • T Willis

    I had a huge argument with my girlfriend about pro-choice and it’s importance smdh.

    What’s also funny to me is that black ppl don’t realize that this whole pro-life argument is rooted in rac!$m. Yt ppl have noticed their numbers are decreasing and they’ve linked it to @b0rtions. Yt women have way more @b0rtions than any other race. It’s just not publicly documented the way that minority women are documented. Probably because most of our ppl go to health clinics and planned parenthood. But the yts are only fired up about it to increase their numbers. They don’t give a f*ck about life - at any stage - not unless it’s yt.

  • Karen Brady

    You are very wise and a model parent. I'm sorry for what you went through as a child.

  • A D N

    I am truly wondering what is up with her demeanor. She initially posted something about how the news got it wrong and he did not harm her child. Maybe she was just in total disbelief and denial. I'm just not feeling her.

  • http://www.kanzahsays.com ThatNigerianGirl

    I hope those women listen to her, she is right.

  • A D N

    Unfortunately, getting molested or touched inappropriately is very common and you are dared to speak on it.

  • A D N

    That is exactly what this is about! Increasing and stabilizing the white numbers race. They are the majority and fear the consequences of being a minority because they really think folks are out to pay them back.

  • T Willis

    This reminded me of Halle Berry’s daughter hugging her last husband without a top on? Or maybe she kissed him on the lips? It was something that was cringeworthy and some ppl made a big deal about it, but, you’re right and parents have to be mindful... especially when it’s a blended family situation

  • Yup, I said it

    Why were you sent,over there???? Jesus thats the whole point Cardi is making people cant leave their kids with folks. Not just boyfriend but uncles, cousins. Once you have kids your life becomes about raising and protecting them. With all the government assistance these days nobody should have to leave their kids with any ole body to go to work.

  • hottlanta

    My mom was like u. She never let her husband my dad bathe the girls either. I got a girlfriend that told me her story n it still freaks me out 2 this day about how the man has incestous sex with the women n everyone acts as if it is a normal day in the neighborhood.

  • Calikush

    Word!

  • T Willis

    Very true

  • Yup, I said it

    This is why historically and still in Muslim countries the father always got custody of the kids. These predator type folks like coaches, teachers, relatives think twice before molesting a kid if they know the daddy is likely to load them up with some hot lead. A woman biological role is not to protect its to nurture. Yes we protect but not to the level a man should. Even Lions prides are protected by the males. I'm somewhat of a feminist but it is what it is.

  • Eileen

    OMG!!!! I am so glad you were not violated and your mother???

  • Yup, I said it

    Chile I thinks about Woody Allen and Soon Ye when I see shiat like that.

  • Applebootay

    Boys or Girls. We just know what he did to the little girl because she's missing. Ain't no telling what those little precious baby boys endured.

  • dru and neil

    What pisses me off the most about these anti abortion bills is knowing that these people really couldn’t care less about the group that’s effected the most, disenfranchised black women. They are quick to complain about welfare programs and handouts, yet want to force impoverished women to give birth.

  • Yup, I said it

    By that age that they get "public" hairs they should be old enough to bath themselves. By 5yr old they are old enough to bath themselves. They don't do a great job at it at 5 but they can still do it themselves.

  • Shawty

    I did eventually allow him to move in. It took about five years before I did and my daughter was seven at the time. I have been with him 27 years now. I DID NOT allow him to babysit. My ISSUE, not his. Her dad had met him and all that before I did THAT major change in our lives. I did constantly ask her how she felt about the changes and fortunately for me she looked at him as a second dad. I was lucky but all are not. Was cautious because of the things I had to endure as a child. Never wanted mines to experience that and thank GOD she didn't have too.

  • TheOwley

    You all know what they say, a broken clock is right twice a day.
    Children > than boyfriends anyway including Sundays.

    The is OT for the Roses, please inundate Texas with your phone calls. IDK if they killed her already.

    "Family Spends Possible Last Mother’s Day With Mom, Hospital Will Yank Her Life Support Without Consent."

    Donald Jones and his daughter, Kina, spent this Mother’s Day grieving and cherishing their final Sunday with Carolyn Jones, a hospitalized Beaumont woman turned victim of the notorious Texas 10-Day Rule.
    Memorial Hermann Southwest invoked the 10-Day Rule last Thursday on Carolyn.

    The 10 days Donald received to save his wife’s life will expire on Monday, May 13, 2019. This form of involuntary euthanasia is legal under the 10-day provision of the Texas Advance Directives Act (Chapter 166.046 of the Texas Health and Safety Code).

  • AveIvy

    I agree, they're not going to listen and sadly we'll hear about another story next month. Fall in Love with yourself and you'll never be lonely.

  • IyanlaVanzantoftheInterWebs

    I think a lot of mothers or grandmothers that were born in 40’s, 50’s & 60’s were violated by family members or friends of the family and kept it to themselves. Then kept the curse going by not speaking out about it and knowingly allowed their children to be around the same family members or the CHILDREN of the family members and/or family friends that molested them. Some kids dont have a chance?

  • IyanlaVanzantoftheInterWebs

    It is and it makes me VERY sad ?

  • IyanlaVanzantoftheInterWebs

    I agree!! They kill their kids in a minute with not a second thought!

  • Renee26

    Sad... That your aunt was ok with it and your moms response ???

  • T Willis

    Lol the only difference is context. People saw Russell. They saw that he was family and career oriented. They saw that he was morally upstanding and willing to love someone who came to him vulnerable and broken. That context - or maybe hope lol - was what everyone was championing and validating. In this instance, regarding Maleah, the context is different. They see a little vulnerable black girl living in a low income apartment complex with a man who has been implicated in both her abuse and her death, so yeah, the comments are going to be different. Also, parenting isn’t an exact science from what I can tell (I’m not a mother - but I think you are). Every decision you make for your child is usually tailored to the specifics of your circumstances.

  • Yup, I said it

    That's actually a biologic thing.In the animal kingdom the males will kill the baby by another males. Women are the same way. That evil stepmother character exists. People don't like to be reminded that they are taking sloppy seconds. That's why a good stepparent is really hard to find. We need to be more selective about who we chose to reproduce with. While its not guarantee that person will be good at least you did all the preliminary research instead of a coin toss and leaving it to fate to determine who to have kids with.

  • T Willis

    Lmao @ put that ass on ice ?

  • Cliffpetty

    Thank you Karen :)

  • T Willis

    And had enough sense to get married before starting a family.

  • Shaun M

    Some of these guys are pretending to like and care for the mother. If he can’t stand you, why do you trust him around your children? Because if he truly and honestly loved you, the mother of the child/ children , he wouldn’t harm or murder your child. These stories irk me to no end.

  • T Willis

    Lol exactly. Cardi is definitely a trifling hood booger, but she had sense to make sure she was married, and appears to take active measures to protect her daughter.

  • Shaun M

    That’s creepy and sick.Who would let a child witness that mess? Smh

  • IyanlaVanzantoftheInterWebs

    I enjoyed spending my summers with my aunt and her 3 children (2 boys and one girl, all older than me) so I wasnt the only one there. My aunt and my girl cousin may have addressed him because it only happened a few times. Either way, he felt comfortable doing that knowing a stranger(me) was in the house. Perverted dude! You had to get to the bathroom through the kitchen (old house) so he would streak through the kitchen to his bedroom which was in the front of the house.
    By the grace of GOD, I had the right frame of mind to KNOW when something wasnt right and to make SURE dude NEVER got close to me!

  • Rere

    hmmm... Cardi B giving advice again, I'm gonna leave this one alone for now. I may come back later w/a comment

  • IyanlaVanzantoftheInterWebs

    All the while, NY state has a bill that states an abortion can be had UP UNTIL birth ?????

  • IyanlaVanzantoftheInterWebs

    You loved your baby and was being a RESPONSIBLE mother to your child!

  • Yup, I said it

    That is what they call "grooming" children. He was probably trying to get y'all used to it so that swinging his peen around you all seemed normal. The he wld see which kid kept quiet about it and which told somebody. They will molest the one that knows how to keep secrets. My father would of blew his head off just for being a white man preying on lil black girls.

  • IyanlaVanzantoftheInterWebs

    Right if push came to shove and they needed to be bathed!

  • BlockingTrollsAllYearLong

    @Sandra, Friday was May 11th. :)

  • Yup, I said it

    My grandmother were born at the turn of the century early 1900's and they would NOT allow us girls to be alone around any teen males or men. We couldnt even go on fishing trips with our teenage male cousins if other women wouldn't be there. They would always say "you a girl, you have no business out there"

  • Karen Brady

    You were out huh?

  • Cliffpetty

    I appreciate your feedback. I am a strong believer in counseling. Numerous times I have been in counseling. Here is the thing. When you have experienced trauma numerous times by different people, I would be a fool not to gain some wisdom from my experience. Let's go further. My parents were very protective. Not allowed to spend nights at friends houses when husbands/ boyfriends were there. Never had strange men around me nor did they purposely put me in bad situations. So when my brother started coming home high on coke. They never would have thought when he was high he would dry hump me. Let's move on when my cousin played "doctor" with me when all the cousins were sleeping in the living room, that wasn't even on their radar. But damn when I was in daycare and the lady who ran the establishment would bring her 16 yr old son to visit he would pinch my breast until they were sore. So listen to all these things happened to me at an early age with parents who were protective on so many fronts. Telling my children truth is irrational. Hoping for the best is irrational and plain stupid.

  • IyanlaVanzantoftheInterWebs

    I didnt have a relationship with my dad and he knew that EVEN though I was spending summers with my dads sister and going to see my dads mom, dad and brothers while down there. Dude was playing with pure fire and was willing to risk his life anyway ?

  • BlackNicheRims

    Yeah...this is where I get off my soap box. Lol. https://media3.giphy.com/media/3ohs7KViF6rA4aan5u/giphy.gif

  • Mr.LeBrickJames

    She might actually have a point with this. When I hear of a child that's been abused, it rarely seems like it's done by the biological father. More often it's by a boyfriend or stepfather.

  • Cliffpetty

    You are correct. She had horrible hygiene And still does at 12. Damn shame. Her mother was more concerned about whatever rAndom dude she had laid up in her house.

  • ZRoJoTheLezBeyond

    Friday was May 10th.

  • Karen Brady

    Your first sentence made me laugh.

  • ZRoJoTheLezBeyond

    Today is the 14th so that would mean yesterday was the 13th, correct?

  • Elecktra

    What about women who rape, abuse and kill children? What about the price of tea in China since we are deflecting to irrelevant points? How often is it that a man has to fear entering into a relationship with a woman out of concern that the woman might abuse his children?

    Now let’s acknowledge the truth. The sad fact is, 9 times out of 10, sexual/violent crimes are committed by men. So crying about how it’s “not always or all mennnnnnnnn” is moot because the exception is not the rule. The issue being discussed here primarily affects single WOMEN with CHILDREN. The message is that they cant trust men who are not the fathers of their children because the chance is too great that the man might commit some type of abuse, usually sexual against the child. Why? Because men are primarily the ones who prey on those weaker than them which is why society teaches women that they must be diligent around men in general. Think about that.

  • Mina

    your family is blessed

  • BlockingTrollsAllYearLong

    Yo sholl right.
    Sat was my friends birthday, but her party was on the 10th.

    I just knew for sure it wasnt the 13th.

    Playas F up.

    ????????????

  • BlockingTrollsAllYearLong

    We were all tryna figure this typo out.
    ?

  • ZRoJoTheLezBeyond
  • Mina

    I don't have kids yet but I'm with you! It has more to do with setting boundaries. If you think about it like this most women can see their mothers naked in appropriate settings (dressing, showing a rash) and vice versa but never the fathers. Mothers have privileges fathers never will and it has nothing to do with the chance your dad is a pedo. Once you set these boundaries you eliminate certain scenarios for kids.

  • Nathan Hastings

    As soon as Cardi and Offset break up, she'll be rotating boyfriends in and out of her child's life just like Amber Rose. They are hoodrats and that what hood girls do.

  • T Willis

    Lol @ I’m somewhat of a feminist...
    you’re right though.... just wished more ppl thought like this ?

  • Cliffpetty

    Like my side tooth when i ate some burnt chicken

  • T Willis

    This is solid advice, but, I don’t agree with #1. Men have to understand, when they walk into a blended situation, that the decisions and boundaries established aren’t about *them* but about protecting the child. Yeah it’s a bit extreme to say “no man can be left alone with my child”, but overkill is better than underkill. As a mother, I would hope your primary concern is about the protection and well-being of your child. Above all else. Children who traumatized, or sexually assaulted, aren’t just physically scarred. These are emotional and mental scars that follow them through adulthood and can irreparably damage their ability to have healthy relationships. So, with all of that at stake, yes, I’d go extreme and set boundaries that include not allowing any MAN alone with my child. Period. The damage is too severe if/when it happens, and if banning men from being alone with child provides even an ounce of certainty, that she’s safe and protection, then that’s what’s going to happen ?????

  • Trace da Ace

    ugh....passs...NEXT!

  • Malai

    Y’all this here broke me down... this precious baby suffering so much abuse up until death...and that despicable mother!!! She should be in prison and any other woman that allow their child to be abused and murdered at the hands of a live -in boyfriend! I wish I could have nurtured and protected her.. we would be on our way to get ice cream and to the park right now since it’s gorgeous out.. I would have gladly raised her.. I literally cried myself to sleep over this story NBS

  • Maxx

    Lies you tell.

  • Dun Dilly

    FACTS! those random boyfriends tend to be rapey.

  • Applebootay

    Oh No...so so sorry...I can truly empathize with you...I too was a victim of molestation I would never want you to feel like you shouldn't take the necessary precautions to protect your children. For myself, I've had to pull back some because I am an helicopter over protective mom myself and I had to learn , am still learning how to be smart and protective but allow my daughter some freedom she's 16 and its so hard. I believe I;ve taught her well she is smart, so now I just stay on my knees prayed up. God's speed

  • speakinmymind

    Save ur words, Cardi. These dyck drunk birds don't think their sorry ass baby daddy of 5 by as many baby mamas would do anything to their child.

    "Daquantavius luh kids! He be bine them ice cream and bazin them n er'thang while I'm at werk."

    Never mind she comes home to a knot on her son's head or her daughter's bottom is red! ???

    Fukk these stupid ass hoes! Lock their sorry asses up and give them the death penalty right alongside the sorry ass nigga!

  • mzwhang90210

    Good 4 Cardi No matter HER (perceived or not) flaws, she has a huge enuff platform to get the mssg out. W2g Cardi??
    I would only add that this applies to MEN also. Not every woman is gonna love another woman kids by you. So.e will actually be jealous.
    Everyone be careful?

  • Cliffpetty

    So sorry for you too.

  • MistaO

    This SHOULD be common knowledge at this point. But we know most females today stuck on dumb. How about not procreation until marriage?? Oh but that would require (at least for appearance sake) stop being a whore...

  • Tiffany Blake

    I'm sure that the father would be the mother's first choice in who to leave the child(ren) with, in most cases. Where are the fathers is the real question??

  • Yup, I said it

    Bless you, because I cant deal with those type of people. They are emotionally draining because the continuously make bad decisions and then look at their friends,as an emotional dumping group to lay all their problems. Nope you better rest her and her issues at the cross for your own sanity. I cant even find a good mental health provider in my,area. They are all booked up and not taking new patients because the nutcases keep them busy. I just need them to write,me scripts for,my ADD because as we all can see, my attention span is real short during working hours.

  • Reina1718

    If u dont kno this by now u a fool!!! U dont need Cardi telling u this!

  • Reina1718

    How about her own childs safety with them nails!

  • Yup, I said it

    Bingo! Pleaee stop having kids with men who don't even want to pretend like y'all a family. At least if they marry you that means y'all were both on the same page at some point. If he never marries you then you are really just out there hoping and fingers crossed that it works out. I don't understand the hatred or lack of interest in marriage within black culture. The LBGT community fought hard as hell for that right. Its should be an honor and a privilege to be a wife or a husband, to a good spouse. I guess that's the problem. We aren't picking quality partners so there's not pride in the relationship from the jump? I'm content and single so I'm looking at it as a single person. If I find a good partner, I would be honored to be their spouse, domestic partner, life mate whatever and grow our family. But I will gladly stay a single childless spinster before I get fooled up with a bum.

  • Nicol B

    hello!!!!

  • Nicol B

    Actually, most of the time it's the mothers, not the BF's. Look at that young boy AJ from Floriday? His mom tortured him.

  • Nicol B

    I hear ya, but some of the girls only listen to girls like Cardi. They don't listen to their mothers, ministers or teachers?

  • Yup, I said it

    Ty, and yes we were. I thank God daily for giving me the family I had. They weren't perfect by any means and one side of my family were proud hustlers and master cons, but they took care of home. The roughest people like he Tony Soprano type tend to shelter protect and teach their kids about the evils of the world. I think it's because they don't want their Karma coming back to them thru their children.

  • A D N

    I understand your point. I have to strongly disagree. If a female cannot trust a man with her child alone then your alert is up. I know several even myself who are raised by non bio men and they were more protective, more responsible and more dependable as well as loving than the bio male or female parent. It is a very damaging reaction we are creating in a family environment to think a non bio parent cannot be trusted by a bio parent. Yes, protect your child but if the man you with cannot be trusted alone with your child, I am side eyeing your judgment because he shouldn't be alone with you either. I mean are you saying because you are a potential murderer sex molester child abuser you can't be alone with my child. He shouldn't be in the home or in your life period! Now, I do not think any man someone just met and shows tendencies of harmful behavior should be allowed around any child or any person.

  • garrisonville

    Ugh! Girl go lay down. It's true. But no one wants advice from your bird @ss.

  • Gowns. Beautiful Gowns

    theyre going to listen too

  • Gowns. Beautiful Gowns

    which hood girl hurt u?

  • hottlanta

    Betta sayit. Husband getting shot at every 3 days n trying 2 tell us single gals about a child being safe.

  • AListDiva29

    Should of been Friday, May 3rd.

  • Reina1718

    Rite!

  • B.Loveitt

    Protect your kid is all that matters and she gets my respect for that. For all we know Culture won't see half of what these other folks children see that are in these comments talking smack. Just like Steve Jobs kids Madonna etc...

  • Bree

    My mom didn't stop me from sleeping over at my family members houses when I was a little girl. Once I reached a certain age, I stopped spending the nights myself. I started seeing things and I would ask God for protection.

  • Bree

    I'm not trying to turn you into a believer. I am a believer. My comment stated that Jesus needs to be the center of your marriage, not your pastor. I don't know who Reginald Weeks is.

  • Bree

    I have younger male cousins whose fathers aren't with their moms but they don't let another man raise their sons

  • Y’all Jealous Cuz I’m Prudy

    Because they're real men. I've heard men say they dont mess with the mom like that but they're not leaving their kid behind for another man to raise and possibly mistreat.

  • hottlanta

    Lets see. she has violated men by sexing n robbing them n now trying 2 tell people 2 careful who u associate with. Cant take it no more.

  • Shenanigans1

    Hello? Hello?! HELLO!!!?!?? Why don’t they understand this? Children change everything! One should be moving wayyyy different when they have a baby. It happened at different times but me and my husband have turned into completely different people once our girls came. He has been much more aggressive with finances and we have expanded and we have a much better life and foundation than we did five years ago. I never would hav imagined we’d be here. I’ve become much more aware of the things we do, I’ve worked with him to change our values and we’ve examined the types of company we keep xyz. It’s not a game out here when it comes to kids.

  • Shenanigans1

    I have a friend who obsesses like that too. I’m with you, I don’t even play into the things she says to me about her relationship anymore. I listen but I don’t offer advice bc she never takes it or she’ll have a comeback. After a while that ish gets annoying. Like stop coming to me looking for help and then when it’s given you swat it down.

  • more

    Basically lol

  • Blaque Mahogany

    I really don't understand what they don't understand. I'm eternally grateful for the mother I had.

  • MsJC

    Facts! Totally agree, no man will stay with a woman just because she has a child. Sadly many women think this to be true. In turn they play themselves and they play their child out of a father. If you are having a child you should at least be in a amicable relationship with one another and respect each other as well.

  • Oretta Grace Smith

    Many Men speaks on child sex abuse in the Black race, even Ike Turner!!! And we wonder what Is Wrong.

  • Oretta Grace Smith

    Every Day!!!

  • Keekz

    I agree w/her. That's probably what happened to her. Because this chick is a degenerate.

  • hottlanta

    Her husband is also a baby daddy. Should he be left alone with him. A mom n dad in georgia murdered their 15 day old baby he wasnt safe with mom nor dad. What is their excuse.

  • Keekz

    As a rule....Don't Leave your Children w/questionable people. PERIOD.