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A video that's going viral on Instagram.com has sparked a constitutionality debate. The video, which first appeared on Majic 107.5 DJ Ryan Cameron's Instagram page, shows a homeowner turning away a handyman who drove a long way to provide his services.

When the handyman exited his truck, a man and wife waked out of the home and declined his services immediately.

The wife did most of the talking.

"Hi. You know what, I do apologize. I know you've come from a very long way, but were gonna use someone else,” the woman said. "You continue to believe what you need to believe, sir, but no, I cannot pay you for your services," she added.

So what was the problem? The homeowner didn't appreciate the manner in which the businessman expressed his Southern pride.

But the bigger debate was the breakdown of traditional roles between men and women in the South.

Ryan's followers questioned why the homeowner's husband let his wife do all the talking. Clearly they don't know that Black women wear the pants in Southern households.

Question for the men: What would you have done if you were the husband?
 

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  • Navybeans95

    All the men in my family step in front of their women...we are the back up.

  • Shenanigans1

    Oh no no no no non no...*lady from get out voice*. As for why the man didn’t speak out as much it’s probably bc whatever he wouldn’t have said would have been way worse. That a**hole knows what he’s doing with that ignant azz sign. Yes I said ignant.

  • Mielle Downey

    Tf is wrong with these people? The flag is not your problem. I see flags from every country under the sun flying high. People coming in droves to take advantage of America but the weirdos who live here are offended? Leave and find out what you are taking for granted.

  • jeniefrumdabloc™

    Ryan's followers questioned why the homeowner's husband let his wife do all the talking. Clearly they don't know that Black women wear the pants in Southern households.
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    https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/b38da19e20a0484eda56dbc03e669a7c379dc48d52e129b8fa8493ffdc76db72.gif I can't relate to this statement at damn all ..... never saw my mom speak for my father ....... or especially bout some work around the house ... ever ..... shid Mom wasn't getting out her bed to speak to some handy man .... shid My dad wore da pants and handled his chile and my mom knew to let him handle all of that .... with that being said ...... this shyt certainly doesn't apply to my azz ..... cause I will be damned if I stop a man from being a man handling business periodt !!

  • TheFlow

    This is the dynamic in black america. The women run the show, which explains why the black community as a whole is pure trash. There has never been a thriving successful society/empire with a matriarchal system.

  • Applebootay

    Yeah but now he knows where you live..?

  • Soda

    That flag represents a civil war they lost, a fight to keep Black people enslaved, you imbecile.

  • Mielle Downey

    So why do so many imbeciles vote for the Dixie crat dems? The Confederate flag is and was thier flag.

  • Scromes1212

    Lol the husband was gonna let him do the work and his wife had other plans. Females always want to act like sub contractors and take over projects lol stay getting beat out they money from talking to dam much without having a clue lol sh*t is hilarious

  • Cricket404

    Happy Wife Happy Life. It's unprofessional to pull up in someone's driveway to work with that huge distraction. My hubby don't care, he enjoys my power trips with the help, it's foreplay.

  • Scromes1212

    He clearly said "she" is upset, not "we"

  • Scromes1212

    Or maybe he just tolerates it lol I know I would if I knew sex was coming after it lol JS

  • Applebootay

    Am I color blind or does the guy with the flag look......not white?

  • Ghetto Real Name

    Well she ASKED his ass at the VERY start are you gonna do it or do you want ME to do it. He gave permission for her to do it. Shit. She asked. My guy lets me do it. But hell sometimes he does it and he so damn quiet and passive when he DO get into getting someone together its not very nice. In FACT Its pretty bad and he knows it. So for him to avoid JAIL TIME, we most of the time agree I am the best public VOICE for US as a unit.

  • AphroKween

    Different strokes for different folks!! I like my man in charge otherwise I cant respect him.

  • CookieMobster

    That flag only represents southern pride now. I'm born and raised in middle GA, folks born and raised here don't get offended by this. At least those I know don't.

  • Ghetto Real Name

    *getting someone

  • Ghetto Real Name

    Sis he is not white. Your eyes is not failing.

  • Mielle Downey

    Black liberals are a effing contridicton. Why vote for the party who hoisted and created the flag and then get offended. What a bunch of losers.It has reflected Democratic racial oppression since it was stitched together in 1861, and has been hoisted by Democrats ever since. Just as Republicans — led by President Abraham Lincoln — valiantly crushed the Democrat-run Confederacy, Republicans proudly should banish the Stars and Bars to private property and history museums. They also should remind Americans that Democrats waved this frightful banner until very recently.

  • Skin Deep Beauty

    WELP!

  • Bonita

    I wouldn't have had to say a peep, cause my man would've handled that without me having to get off the couch. They know who they have, cause they picked each other. She chose a man that's going to allow her to exercise masculine energy, even when he's present, (that's just my perception based upon this situation), and he chose a woman that he allows to take on the masculine energy in the relationship. There's somebody for everybody. I just know I don't want a hen-pecked man who doesn't know how to assert himself and lead my relationship.

  • Shenanigans1

    Oh ok boo

  • Shani’s Baby

    thank you.....I don't condone bad language but she had it coming and you did a GRAND JOB.

  • CardiB’sAbs

    I would’ve done the same thing. My guy is too damn nice and has a go with the flow type of attitude. So our new neighbor rolled up on him while he was bbqing just to ask him what he did for a living-probably because he was wondering how we can afford to stay here. My bf let that sh*t slide, I would’ve told him “I mind my business for a living”.

  • Applebootay

    Exactly! Women have voices too and the house IS OUR DOMAIN we run it. If mama ain't happy, ain't nobody happy. PeruodT

  • Shenanigans1

    Same. Same.

  • Soda

    So Blacks with southern pride also fly that flag now?

  • Applebootay

    So but why.....nevermind....I don't wanna know...

  • CardiB’sAbs

    Exactly! My guy is mad chill but when he gets tired of a person (which is extremely rare) nothing good comes of it.

  • Rayne

    Welp... I run EVERYTHING, but I go outta my way to make him feel like it was his idea. Even ignoring him.? I would’ve give dude at least $50 for his gas and time tho. I’m not that heartless. ????

  • DroneRivers

    Looks like the husband wouldn't have minded the work regardless of the guy's beliefs. But he chose to side with his wife. I don't see the big deal. That doesn't mean women run the households in the south. I don't personally know any southerners where that is the case.

  • Alextra Ballard

    That was one big as flag

  • Ghetto Real Name

    I DONT WANNNNNNNNNNA KNOW (in my Mario Winans voice)

  • Karen Brady

    Flag as big as his truck. He wants to be a jackass and provoke black folk. I would have sent him on his dusty craka way too. Hubby seemed a bit shook. He should have had her back. Wuss.

  • Scromes1212

    Exactly. The husband went out of his way to tell the dude "she" is upset with the flag. You already know how that conversation went before they walked out lol he was like it's just a flag, we need to get this work done. She was like NO if your not gonna tell him I will. It's what you have to deal with when you married. Compromise. He let her have this one

  • Mielle Downey

    This is why no one wants to date black women. We need to become more feminine and stop letting liberal lesbians turn us into their butch to thier Cassidy. Black women stop trying to be your husbands gay lover and be his Queen.

  • Alextra Ballard

    I loved the exchanged...she handled it

  • E Jai

    Lol @ too damn nice

  • Karen Brady

    “I mind my business for a living” :-)

  • Mielle Downey

    Provoke? The dummies are voting for the ones who created the flag in 1861 the Democrats. Foh.

  • EMILY POST

    People have the right to choose who they want to employ as an independent contractor. A lot of good people have been turned away to do work.

  • morenYAHdelsur

    “Clearly they don't know that Black women wear the pants in Southern households.”

    subjective and inaccurate

  • Karen Brady

    Thought so too but I think he's just dusty, dirty white.

  • Mielle Downey

    What ever get off the plantation.

  • Karen Brady

    With the slight hand clap just like I do.. rubbing those palms. :-)

  • Mr.LeBrickJames

    I like that. The power of the black dollar. We shouldn't be putting money in the pockets of people who disrespect us.

  • Bonita

    Sometimes men do need a little guidance. lol But I would not undermine my man's leadership in front of company like this woman did. That's disrespectful to his manhood.

  • Mielle Downey

    The wife had the spirit of Jezebel Ahab's wife in the bible. Let your man be King and stop trying to emasculate. Black women are do butch they don't need a real man they need counseling.

  • Scromes1212

    Older women in the south consider this disrespectful to your husband. I could see my grandma pulling her to the side telling her how disrespectful she was. This is just the times we live in

  • Ghetto Real Name

    He got us put out of IHOP one morning recently. In his def. they had us waiting for 45 minutes and was waiting on everyone around us. BABY. Next thing I know he clicked out on the waiter and the manager and then we had to go. i was low key mad. We at least had drinks and my coffee was just getting good.

  • CardiB’sAbs

    ?????

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    Or maybe she was the one who called the guy originally?
    Why does every thing have to be male or female?
    You people spend too much time putting inane shit in boxes.

  • CardiB’sAbs

    And your grandma probably stood by while your grandpa had an entire other family the next block over

  • https://nylapoprush.com/twitch twitch.tv/NylaPop

    Ion see the prollem

  • Blak

    There are two men in that household...

  • https://nylapoprush.com/twitch twitch.tv/NylaPop

    Lmfaooooo

  • Karen Brady

    Soda I finally just now had to block this fool up top. I done tolerated it's azz long enough because so many have blocked it. Soon it will be responding to itself in this here garden cuz it will have no choice.

  • Soda

    Me either, it's her house too.

  • https://nylapoprush.com/twitch twitch.tv/NylaPop

    Welp.

  • Karen Brady

    I just laughed out loud

  • Scromes1212

    What? Lol showing your husband respect doesn't mean you lack self respect smh

  • Karen Brady

    teee to the heee heee heee

  • Bonita

    Heck yeah. Those old heads are going to keep their mouths shut, and let their man be the man. Now once company leaves, Barbara Jean may cuss Uncle Willy's ass out for his decision making, but until then, she's going to keep quiet and act calm, cool, and collected. You'll never know she's pissed.

  • AphroKween

    Other cultures that practice traditional gender roles such as Africans, Indians and Hispanice to name a few have fewer divorce rate than African Americans.

  • luVn_liFe…

    chile.. I guess woman she just be seen.. Lemme go find a booty implant doctor https://media1.giphy.com/media/26AHpY2EgchRJTwUU/giphy.gif

  • MsVAllDay

    Exactly. Very inaccurate!

  • LuvR

    Lol.. I thght the same thing but then again a Caucasian working in the sun and a Caucasian working in the office two different types of white.

  • Soda

    So far I've only blocked one person but Mielle Downey can be next.

  • Tiffani Zumba

    Love it! Now kick rocks!

  • MsVAllDay

    This was the ENTIRE convo! LOL I don't personally think the husband would've let anything crazy pop off with his wife. He was outside with her whether he agreed with her or not he sided with her which is better than arguing with her for the next few days. I see wisdom here on both parts. Nothing more, nothing less.

  • Scromes1212

    Exactly lol that's why my grandma would pull you to the side. It's about how you handle the situation publicly that creates the disrespect. In my opinion.

  • Renee26

    Sounds to me like it was a joint decision... Husband said she was upset about the flag (was he not??)

    The nerve of the contractor to show up with a Confederate flag to work on black folks property. I bet he was PISSED to see them doing so well and he drivin a raggedy truck probably living in a shack ?

  • luVn_liFe…

    bwahahahahaha!!!!
    “I mind my business for a living”!
    folks ALWAYS ask my hubby what him and I do too. cause Ion work but 4 days outta the week and most times three lololol

  • CardiB’sAbs

    And? Indian woman have virtually zero rights and are raped and murdered in the streets if they don’t go along with arranged marriages. Woman in India get raped and murdered by mobs. Who wants to be stuck in an unhappy union just to save face-that’s silly. Life is too short. Don’t get me started on the hispanics, the women don’t divorce their men even though the men fawk everything that walks-the women just take it.

  • http://welfareinfo.org angrysolo

    godda havva mane to comment on what you’d do with one

  • Soda

    Do the women really have a choice other than to stay married?

  • MsVAllDay

    Exactly! We don't know what their conversation was in the house. He probably said well you tell him and if that's the case that's what she did and he's not emasculated. I'm sure he was close enough to make sure the technician didn't say or do anything out of the way which in my opinion is the more important part.

  • luVn_liFe…

    he didnt look it... sooo?

  • r r

    Right, this is a what 3 second clip and they gathered the entire relationship. Chile it is not that serious. She probably was more passionate about that flag than her dude; trust me I understand.

  • CardiB’sAbs

    Respect is not an issue in this instance-perhaps only to those men that have weak egos that need boosting.

  • http://welfareinfo.org angrysolo

    THIS MADE ME SAD at first then i had an uncontrollable laffin fit

  • Chicagowise

    What?! LOL

  • http://welfareinfo.org angrysolo

    whoosh

  • http://welfareinfo.org angrysolo

    now if only we could get that same energy with the corporations.

  • Let them eat cake

    The south is all about tradition so the gender roles are clear.

  • MsVAllDay

    Exactly! My mom will handle certain things sometimes and then my dad will handle certain things sometimes. Every relationship is different. We don't know what their agreement is, but I'm sure hubby was close enough and would've handled it if anything got sideways from the technician.

  • CardiB’sAbs

    ????

  • Scromes1212

    Now you just talking to be talking smh Just generalized like 2 billion people smh

  • MsVAllDay

    I was thinking the same thing but just figured I need some new effin glasses! LOL LOL

  • CookieMobster

    I have one hanging in my garage. My homeboys got one tattooed on his arm. But I live in the country country where black folks still ride horses and stuff. Some of my friends don't like it but I don't mind flag.

  • Thee Jaguar Doll

    Why is it looked down if a Woman speaks up? Why is a male less of a man if he let's his wife speak up? Different strokes for different folks! What if the wife had told the husband beforehand that she'd handle the situation? Damn, I thought a husband and wife are suppose to be a team therefore it shouldn't matter who speaks up first or verbally handles the situation. Husband has wife's back, Wife has husband's back!

  • MsVAllDay

    LOL see that's what I'm saying each couple is different.

  • Scromes1212

    Underrated comment

  • CardiB’sAbs

    Right! Keep it pushing! I’m sure some bigot wouldn’t mind him working on their trailer.

  • Mielle Downey

    You creeped into my comments dodobird.

  • Mielle Downey

    Do it I need less dimwits in my comments. Stop @ing me fool.

  • Bonita

    Well me personally, I like to know who my enemy is. Just cause the contractor you let up in your house isn't rolling up with a confederate flag on his truck, doesn't mean that he doesn't have one raised on a flag pole in his front yard. If he had good references, I'd have let him do the work. We interact with closet racists on a daily basis. If you knew the views of every White person that provided a service you needed, you'd never get anything accomplished.

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    At the beginning of the video, she says, "You gon' do it, or do you want me to do it? HE meekly says "go ahead." So he is used to letting her take the lead. Strong men who were raised by strong father figures know how to take the lead.

  • stav

    Real talk!

  • Miss Thang

    Honestly, I wouldn’t feel safe with that man in or near my house if he has a flag like that on his car ?

  • Miss Thang

    He probably didn’t know they were black before he arrived.

  • Mielle Downey

    Stop ating me . I am free to Express my opinion. If you dont like it keep it moving. I don't need the headache . Block me if you like ...opps I forgot to care.

  • Thee Jaguar Doll

    Black women are strong and don't tolerate bullshyt or games! They don't bite their tongue for no one and They speak their truths regardless of who likes it or not. In a world full of so many frauds and dishonest folks, To be honest and outspoken is beautiful!

    I don't see them less feminine because they are strong and outspoken. If a person doesn't want to date a black women because she doesn't bite her tongue or Considers her messy because she isn't scared to say what she feels... Fuck them! They obviously aren't worthy of a black woman!

  • Ni Ni

    I didnt watch the video, but I do notice in my family that the men are not as strong and vocal as they should be. I only know of one family member who is extremely vocal but he was in the military so maybe that's why. The women are the strong ones and get things done while the husband act like he scared to open his mouth. We are southerners.

  • Chicagowise

    Here is a real what would you do!

    Did you guys here about the young lady who was hit and killed by a train in Chicago? They say, she went on the tracks to retrieve a cellphone she dropped. But she couldn't get back on the platform and none of the MEN on the platform would help her. So far, I have not heard an explanation.

    Would you stand by and watch someone get hit by a train or possibly risk your life to help them?

  • luVn_liFe…

    very unprofessional.. a business owner who everyone In my neighborhood uses (never me) put out a trump for pres during the election.. might I add. He isnt too busy lately and put his house on the market right after. Keep your beliefs to your self when you're trying to make money

  • Mielle Downey
  • Soda

    Consider it done. I'm sick of seeing the way you misspell 'their' every time anyway, dum dum. ?

  • luVn_liFe…

    I would def try my best to help..but if it's me or her behind a phone.. https://media1.giphy.com/media/k4ta29T68xlfi/giphy.gif

  • Darkandlovely617?

    ?????????
    They did just reply to their self

    Happy summer ?

  • Ni Ni

    But you wouldnt get anything done if you had to wait on today's man.

  • ClaireHuxtable

    *playing country music in the background*
    Politely git the heck up off my property, Jethro!!

  • CardiB’sAbs

    Sounds like darwinism at work to me. Folks risking lives over phones. Smh. I’m keeping my behind on the platform. The signs say if a train is coming while you’re on the tracks that you should go underneath the platform.

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    Maybe she should have considered the phone a loss and not put herself in that position?

  • luVn_liFe…

    hahahahhahahaha..-> I'm sick of seeing the way you misspell 'their' every time anyway
    lol

  • Thee Jaguar Doll

    That Husband is a good husband! Whether he agreed with her or not, He still stood by her side and bad her back while staying true to himself.

  • Ni Ni

    Lol

  • Bonita

    The mere fact that she asked him whether he was going to do it, or if he wanted her to let's you know that she has a history of taking his lead. And the key word is "meekly." I perceive meekness as a sign of weakness, and I'll eat a man alive. I couldn't respect a man like that.

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    Girl, don't come to Georgia! ? Most of the men are meek and allow their women to take the lead.

  • Chicagowise

    There was a man standing directly in front of her and security guard, a few feet away. Neither one tried to help.

  • Thee Jaguar Doll

    It's a phone, It's not worth anyone's life. Therefore if I were a bystander in that situation, Id tell her to leave it alone because she can replace a phone but she can't replace her life or someone else's.

  • Seldomseen

    What parts y’all from

  • Mielle Downey
  • Bonita

    Even if she did call him, let your man go handle the conversation needed to be had with another "man" face to face. Now had that White man got outraged at her for turning him away despite driving so far and decided to verbally assault her, y'all would be mad at her husband or boyfriend for not being the one to handle the situation.

  • Chicagowise

    Ok, but in this scenario, we're past that point. She is on the tracks, she can't get back on the platform, and a train is coming....

  • Dasright

    Me and my husband are both from the south and he's generally more laid back about things than I'd like him to be. I try to step into the background to let him handle things and he seems uncomfortable with making decisions and being "the man". Coincidentally, his mom is/was the boss bish while his parents were married. I hate it!

  • Jersey Girl

    Agreed..its not a question of whether the wife was correct in taking the lead..its the clear indication the repairman has a set of beliefs that places their home and themselves in a risky situation if he decides to work for them?.. nothing to see here .?. just black folks on code wth what's going on in the world?

  • ClaireHuxtable

    I thought you lie flat in the track. I dunno,Abs...
    Either way, I hope you've made Peace with your Maker.

  • Yardgirl

    https://media3.giphy.com/media/8mndEBLsg9Whg2Sduv/giphy.gif
    You clearly hear them talk about who should do it (talk to the guy) so how is she disrespecting or emasculating her husband?? She spoke to the guy respectfully and without cursing, to me she was on point. Git go on with your damn flag uugggh.

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    You're assuming that they even saw her.
    Given the fact that most people are hypnotized looking at their damn cell phones they may not have been paying attention to her.

  • thrift.store.jungle

    auntie, are you still writing for this blog? the tone recently seems to have shifted even more than usual to a non pro-black energy.

    this family did the right thing. have the confederacy hire him. maybe they need something repaired.

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    It looks like the train was at an intersection. There was no platform.

  • CardiB’sAbs

    You’re right about it.

  • Chicagowise

    One man was standing directly in front of her, inches away.

  • joel adams

    Black people>
    Fucked up
    Don’t give ah damn bout nobody else but want YOU Buy they nappy head kids $2 candy

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    LOL You sound touched.
    Or maybe he would have gotten ignant if he had handled the situation.
    Oh no you've already decided in your mind that you know the whole story about their relationship from a 4 minute Instagram clip.
    SMDH!!!

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    Maybe they assumed she was stupid which sounds about right.

  • Being bad is way more fun

    She did a lot better than I would have .. Its sad that he a minority would even have a flag like that on his truck !!!! You have the right to refuse service !!!!

  • ClaireHuxtable

    Some men are more comfortable allowing their wife handle family & household matters. Women are generally more verbal.
    Should something pop off, the man is usually ready with his .38 to handle more direct confrontations. https://media2.giphy.com/media/8ZkfimIBeq8g0A0BUD/giphy.gif

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    He stood slightly to the left and behind her. ?

  • Scromes1212

    It's easy to say what you would do until your faced with that situation. I'd like to think I would have helped but I'm not mad at them for making a personal decision in the moment that possibly could have ended with them dying also.

  • Soda

    ?

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    And don't cut your hair because you might end up looking like a bulldager.

    ROTFLMAO!!!

  • EMILY POST

    That’s real.

  • Thee Jaguar Doll

    I'd do everything in my power to help her and save her life. Stupid reason to go down there for, But i wouldn't just stand by and Watch. I'd definitely help her

  • Latisaj

    Oh so it's not just me...

  • Chicagowise

    You're starting to sound like me. LMAO!

  • Scromes1212

    MESSAGE

  • ClaireHuxtable

    and later your family will be glad you paid your rent up for the month.

  • Bonita

    I attended Jackson State in MS , so I'm very familiar with them. lol I know I'll probably catch heat for this, but I find a lot of southern men to be a little slow. Let me clarify for the people in the back, "not all." Don't get me wrong, they are just as sweet and respectful as can be, but just a tad slow for my liking. We northern women run tazmanian circles around them.

  • Renee26

    If I can't see or hear the train coming imma reach my arm out and try to help pull them up

  • Dasright

    Oh, that he'll rise to the occasion for with his gang of guns but sometimes I just want to sit back and be a "lil lady". We've been married for over a decade so I've learned to choose my battles .

  • Chicagowise

    No. This was a CTA red line train and she jumped off the platform onto the tracks. Google this headline:

    CTA Surveillance Video Angers Family Of Red Line Crash Victim

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    Look, Auntie got jokes.

  • Renee26

    Where's my belt?!!

  • ClaireHuxtable

    You know how ticked they were when we got running water and inside toilets!

  • Renee26

    Don't encourage him ?

  • Scromes1212

    It wasn't them talking, it was her lol that didn't look like a discussion, it looked like her giving him his last chance to handle it before she did lol then he tried to hurry up and save face by yelling out "she" is upset about the flag

  • deadellamore

    Yep, keep that KKK and MAGA foolishness away from my home. Let Trump find you work. #cancelled

  • Renee26

    Chile. You got me having a flashback to that scene in The Help ?

  • Mr.LeBrickJames

    I agree. Thing is, this man had to know how black folk feel about the confederate flag, so for him to be so brazen with it is basically him saying the doesn't care what you think. I feel a little bit bad that he wasted his time travelling all the way there... but I probably would have handled this the same way this man's wife did.

  • Chicagowise

    I don't know if that's a good or bad thing. People think I'm insensitive, but underneath my hard candy shell, I'm all marshmallow.

  • Rayscoty

    Knowing that flag cause so much controversy. Why show up on a job with it..

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    Some men are more comfortable allowing the their wife handle family & household matters.
    That's what I am thinking. She called the guy and she feels responsible to tell him thanks but no thanks.
    Sometimes we make a mountain out of molehill/

  • Prettybrowneound35

    Exactly. Whomever it is, is baiting for more clicks. This person knows that Black women will come out to defend themselves and flood the comments. Yes, this is a blog and they are blogging to make money. However, they’re making their money by demeaning Black women and men. I guess a bill is due.

  • Bonita

    I sound touched? No, you sound young. It's a discussion topic that Ryan Cameron asked, sir. During discussion topics, people express their takeaway and opinions on the information presented. In this instance, a 4 minute clip. Why are you involved in a discussion where people's views bother you? Sounds like you need to move on to a new post.

  • Robert lee Bennett OG

    My wife would have known she was going to get in trouble for answering that door.Im the only one allowed to answer the door

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    Oh nos.....
    Maybe I sound hard core but sometimes people and their phones annoy me.
    I guess I get sick of people at the gym with their damn phones--sitting on the equipment texting instead of working out and moving the hell on, and walking while staring at their phone screen.

  • ClaireHuxtable

    L0l@ Welp... I run EVERYTHING, but I go outta my way to make him feel like it was his idea!!
    Get things accomplished and still keep Peace in your household.

  • Mr.LeBrickJames

    Sad that she would even risk her life like that over a cellphone. I would have just let it go and headed over to the nearest AT&T store to buy another phone.

  • Sushi

    Just like your snot nosed crumb snatching kids, right???? I thought so....

  • Equiton

    Lurking on this blog since 2007 - it is a far cry from what it was - i don’t read it as much anymore. I hope Sandra gets more involved again, this blog isn’t her style anymore ?????

  • Dasright

    Yep, all matters of potential safety are handled by my husband. Now I do everything else but I bet not assert any type of masculinity or strength to another man in his presence.

  • Dasright

    He looks like a straight up redneck hick who had too much sun.

  • sherri2016

    Ah you want attention because your sister wife not giving it to you maybe y'all should just finish popping your pills and shooting your heroin and get off our page because i know you have a school shooting to plan or a child to kidnap

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    I didn't say they were wrong. This post is about what other people are discussing on Ryan's IG page.

  • C Mack

    Bet you half the ppl debating on Twitter are single and hoeing it up, but wanna talk about this married couple. If they’re not complaining, what’s the issue?

  • CopperCutie

    She handled that excellently! I love it lol.

  • Sushi

    Child why are you trying to cast pearls to swine....

  • sherri2016

    Off topic can we get a medical minute on Myelodysplastic syndrome please

  • Moon Lee

    The wife handled that in a very non- aggressive manner. Maybe her husband wouldn't have?? I know mine wouldn't have been so elegant, and less articulate!

  • Scromes1212

    Lol

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    I think she had every right to turn him away if she was uncomfortable. This post is about the man allowing his wife to do the talking.

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    That's what I saw. He was almost apologetic. It's not me - it's HER. SHE'S upset with the flag. ?

  • joel adams

    Yup. Thanx

  • joel adams

    No kids ho.
    Sir, be a provider. Not a troll

  • Alextra Ballard

    So wut happens when you are not home....is she still not “allowed” tew answer the door?

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    Myelodysplastic syndrome is very rare. The earliest onset is around 70 years old. I don't write Medical Minutes about extremely rare medical conditions.

  • joel adams

    I’m with you on that Auntie.

  • DroneRivers

    "Get in trouble"? Is she your wife or your child? Why are you the only one "allowed" to answer the door? What does she do if you're not home?

  • MsVAllDay

    You bet not!! LOL ya'll are hilarious! I understand and agree with respect, and if that's how you mean this then ok I get it. However, I don't believe in control. "Bet not" sounds like control. Sry!

  • sherri2016

    Mine either he'd saw that flag drive up and either pulled out his gun or just started going off and either way would've been in jail so I the level headed one would've handled it unless he started talking back than my husband would come out

  • ClaireHuxtable

    Rite chere.

  • Sushi

    No Pecker Wood, I see more of your kind on the streets pan handling and in the food stamp lines then ours look at the statistics......Troll and misinformed you are.....I have none to provide for but my nieces and nephew are well taking care of, go read a book and stop smoking meth.....

  • Wreckognize Game

    I was at work and asked my daughter to come and meet the air conditioning repair guy. When I got home she said you would think the air company wouldn’t send a man on house arrest to clients’ houses. He had an ankle bracelet and shorts on. I was like say what now??

  • ClaireHuxtable

    Yep. No harm. No foul.

  • Dasright

    Yes, I'm speaking from a respect standpoint. My husband always says "you're grown" when I try to ask for his input so it's never been about control with u . I respect his position as the man of our household.

  • Russiancreme

    Sad her family had to see the video of it all over social media cus some dummy recorded the security footage on their phone n leaked it. But that being said, I dont blame those OLDER looking men who did nothing. She was on the tracks for 17 SECONDS before the train hit her. She actually panicked and ran toward the train. It's unfortunate cus I know for a fact had she spoke to the customer assistant at the station, the power would've got cut n she would've got her phone back.... and lived to see another day.

  • MsVAllDay

    Now this statement I do agree with! My dad leads w/o hesitation.

  • CardiB’sAbs

    Yahoo has the full story. Yes, you’re correct.

  • sherri2016

    I'm turning 38 on Friday and i keep hearing its only in the elderly but i was just diagnosed with it can't seem to find much info but thanks anyway

  • NewNew

    Flagged and blocked this fool. Nobody has time for this foolishness.

  • Wreckognize Game

    The husband probably said let him fix it and if he get outta line then I’ll handle him. The wife said nah I can’t do it. She shut it down.

  • NewNew

    My condolences Sherri. Stay strong. I'm looking it up right now.

  • ClaireHuxtable

    My EX would have said, "Do you offer a N1jja discount?"
    If the answer was No, THEN he'd ask him to leave...

  • sherri2016

    Thanks and I'm trying to for my 3 kids and my husband

  • CardiB’sAbs

    Nope. Husband said god was testing him when he saw the truck pull up

  • CardiB’sAbs
  • ClaireHuxtable
  • DroneRivers

    Recently?

  • Rhondalousey

    But why let him come all the way over then decline his services? People stink.

  • Rhondalousey

    Just saw the video, nevermind.

  • Alextra Ballard

    I still can’t believe this mofo had the nerve to pull up in folks yard with that big damn Confederate flag blowing in the wind. Secondly
    I’m sorry she tipped him off about the flag being the center of the problem. Now this fool will remove the flag b4 going out tew conduct bidness,leaving unsuspecting homeowners not knowing he is actually a racist.

  • KarmaBackAround

    Listen..and i speak as someone from Virginia, she handled this as a queen should..no disrepect at all! This was the most tasteful send out ive ever seen! Cause my ass, oh my ass wouldve been jus taken A BACK that you even pulled that flag up in my yard, thats ground for immediate PULL UP! Kudos sista! ??

  • Meme

    Ooooo Cookie you too? You fly the Confederate flag? Interesting. That always reminds me of the KKK coming to "get " someone! Mind you the dukes of hazard made it seem a little friendlier I guess lol

  • Jennifer

    No man should allow his wife to approach another man. Call me old fashioned, but hubby should have handled that. If it were a woman, it would have been appropriate.

    But she handled it very well! And ITA w her! However, she should have used the Black Pages.

  • Wreckognize Game

    ??

  • Marlika

    But they hired him to do a job and they didn’t give him a chance to do it. They need to pay him for wasting his time. Their dumb behinds she have did better research before booking him. Now if he would’ve declined to do the work after seeing they are black that would another issue! Just let the man fix the damn golf cart and go about your business. ?

  • jeniefrumdabloc™

    Get better bew .... I have never heard of it .... but I did just look it up ... only thing I can say is best of luck to adjusting .

    Was just talking to a friend earlier about her lupus ... and it changed her lifestyle in how she eats and operates through life and what stressors that may affect her ... it's been a adjustment but in the end .. looking at the bright side her new health regimen is better for her health and spirit ... but best of luck to you bew and da family... and stay stress free .... sending love ?

  • Jennifer

    I agree w this too.

  • interestingconcept1

    We Southern women do not wear the pants, Sandra, hell that's growing up in the South, 101, it's all about the bible and letting men take the lead. My daddy always had to tell me stop leading when we use to dance.. He probably sent her because just like my parents my mom was the diplomat while dad would have just shot at the truck, not at the man but definitely the flag and yeah truck would have some holes?

  • NipseyHusslewasatrueKing

    Ol' Mista, do ya see, she was tryna do rite by ya, by not lettin ya git in trebb wit da lawt. Please fagiv huh.

    This is how you sound.

  • Blaque Mahogany

    Apparently there's screenshots of Jussie Smollet returning home with the string still around his neck and his Subway sandwich in hand. ?????

  • Renee26

    ? imma get em boff!

  • Rhondalousey

    This was her last post too, smh. Poor lady.

  • Rhondalousey

    This was her last post, smh. Poor lady.

  • Renee26

    ? a marshmallow ion believe you ... I respect your candidness tho

  • Evillene

    She was classy about it. No yelling, no neck-rolling, just like "thank you but go away." If I were the husband, I'd be like "Good job, baby. Where are we going for dinner tonight?"

  • NipseyHusslewasatrueKing

    Agree!

  • Evillene

    You are absolutely right. The blog is just baiting us with some retrograde, patriarchal foolishness.

  • Renee26

    HA! He did it for the 4th ?

  • Renee26

    He probably would've rigged those brakes to fail... Hell no!

  • DroneRivers

    Right, I'm pretty sure since he had to drive such a distance to get to them, they had more than enough time to discuss it. They just chose to record the guy being informed his services wouldn't be needed.
    The husband obviously knows how to pick his battles. Doesn't make him any less of a man because he let her do the talking and speak up about her issue with the guy's flag.

  • Rayne

    By any means sis... by any means.

  • Renee26

    What does she do if you're not home?

    Screws any man that comes a knockin

  • https://nylapoprush.com/twitch twitch.tv/NylaPop

    Michael tells Yahoo Lifestyle that he is a “redneck” and that the flag is for the Fourth of July. “My little siblings bought it from a flea market,” he says. “I don’t support slavery and neither do my siblings. But I am not going to take it down when my siblings asked me to fly it. If [the family] wants to take offense, they can.”

    And this is why no self-respecting Black person should feel any sympathy towards his azz! You tell them they offended you and try to educate them about covert racism and they don't give a fuq! But let the Asians get offended about a dang undergarment and everyone takes it seriously. Black people to these folk you are worth less than a damn kimono. Let that sink in!

  • Rayne

    There is a limit to how/what I say to my husband in public. Plus I’m not the arguing type.

  • DroneRivers

    LAWD!

  • https://nylapoprush.com/twitch twitch.tv/NylaPop

    LOL!

  • DroneRivers

    Well there you have it. Everyone on the same page. She didn't ask him to take it down, and he doesn't want to take it down. So everyone wins.

    Oh, and FVCK that flag.

  • Yardgirl

    I am with you in not seeing how that makes him less of a man. I don’t get it ?????

  • DroneRivers

    Go away from me with this @blaquemahogany:disqus! We don't wanna jinx ourselves into another Jussie post!

  • https://nylapoprush.com/twitch twitch.tv/NylaPop

    But he offered to when he was there. So this only shows his real feelings which is he doesn't give af about the black plight but does care about the black dollar just like many other pale people. And I - oop!

  • thrift.store.jungle

    nope, seems like the trend as of late. unfortunately

  • thrift.store.jungle

    agreed

  • PYT

    Lawd no!!

  • CardiB’sAbs

    Girl! ?

  • PYT

    ?Now, why would you go to a ADOS' home w/a damn Confederate flag?...SMH????? Big Dummy. That'll learn ya.
    Now as far as the couple, and who handles the home. Although, my husband pays for everything related to our home, vehicles, and just about everything else. I handle everything from maintenace, paying bills, to landscaping. Even if he's home, I handle the contractor. Now if there was a problem outside of my scope, he would definently handle it. As this wife handled this situation. With that said, my husband would NOT have thrown me under the bus. I side eyed the husband saying to the contractor,"SHE'S upset with the flag."
    Whereas, he should either stated WE don't do business w/blatant racist, or nothing. That's my only issue w/the couple.

  • Renee26

    He tried it

  • A D N

    I see no problem with anything in the video lol.

  • Renee26

    ? ? ? That's why Bob is so insecure chile

  • KneeSee

    ???????

  • https://nylapoprush.com/twitch twitch.tv/NylaPop

    The husband is a bytch and tbh I'd be pissed. Cause HE was the one who actually came and told her about it saying "God was tryna test him" when he saw mr. Pink show up! Then gone holla "she's upset about the flag" like excuse me?? YOU came and got me upset about it tf! Ppl stay tryna say black women are too strong but somebody gotta take the lead when you're dealing with bytch azz men like this!

  • Equiton

    Not the bold font ?, lol, I understand the topic of the post. I was agreeing with another reader on the fact that this blog just isn’t what it use to be - that’s all ?. The tone has definitely changed, and in my opinion, not really for the better. But hopeful that things can improve - that’s where I’m at. Have a good one.

  • DroneRivers

    Yep, she basically told him "no need, keep your raggedy flag and get on". I woulda done the same!

  • Jessy

    There’s absolutely nothing wrong with this. Racist try to be funny pulling ish like coming to a black person’s house with a confederate flag. Also, I think, the wife was doing most of the talking to protect her husband, if anything. You know someone like that would oh, so love the opportunity to act like he was threatened by the big, black man. Wake up, Sandra.

  • A D N

    I agree, but let's look at it another way...who's the better gender to deal with issues in America because of potential consequences?

  • joel adams

    Bih are you big mad or nawl
    Stfu you sloppy fat black nappy head bitch

  • Being bad is way more fun

    Ok I went back and looked at the video again and I think you are correct .. I just couldnt figure out why a black man would fly that flag but what you said made perfect sense !!!

  • joel adams

    Matter fact. Suck my dick

  • https://nylapoprush.com/twitch twitch.tv/NylaPop

    Sooooo that's even worse?? He's justified to hide behind his wife so she can get fuqked by the system instead of him?? Make that make sense sway!

  • joel adams

    Oh you a tranny. Ima pass sir
    Suck someone else dick
    You’ll be murdered in a couple months

  • PYT

    You make a great point. Let's be honest. she delivered it in a way a black or ADOS man couldn't. Man to man this could have gone LEEEEFTT. Yet, I still have an issue with him throwing her under the bus?

  • The Art

    True! But, in all fairness Nike pulled a sneaker today because of concerns that it could be offensive to blacks, so there are some who do try to be sensitive to these matters. In general, your statement is absolutely on point and I totally agree!!!!

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    The hick might be from a rural area where the confederate flag is a common sight. And I disagree that she was trying to "protect" her husband. That's not her job. He should be worried about protecting her. In my family, no woman would step in front of her man to talk to another man.

  • A D N

    Oh Sandra...smh. It's so much broader than gender roles. It's about consequences.

  • The Art

    Technically they hadn't hired him yet. Handymen are fee-for-service businesses. He performed no services and wasn't entitled to any fees.

  • sherri2016

    Before this i was diagnosed with Fibromyalgia which is like the cousin to Lupus so i had already started the diet change and dealing with the stressful life changes sending both you and your friend my love and best wishes

  • The Art

    Allow? She's not a child. And her husband was standing right there, if anything had popped off.

  • A D N

    In this climate, culture, society, era, America, which the black woman is seen less threatening than the black man if the cops are called. It could easily escalate to a point of "how did we get here so fast". I as a black female would prefer traditional roles in my home as well as in the world, but until everyone is on board, then the less threatening gender so speak, calmly.

  • Zeta Aggie

    That’s why you get a non-refundable deposit first!

  • A D N

    True and maybe he knew his wife would have a bigger issue with it. In my household, I am the one most offended by racism and especially confederate flags. Black men have been conditioned and taught to become less threatening over the past years. I'm sure all the sights of black male bodies has an effect on their psyche. Let's never underestimate the psychological effects we face daily from our direct and indirect experiences. Are we teaching our sons to remain calm when approached by cops? I mean, it's a shame black men cannot defend themselves or question why they are being pulled over. Black men have to deal with a lot more than the black female, always have and currently.

  • Anunnaki, in A twilight Zone

    Did the person do the work, then they said we can't pay u, cause a flag, ? help me?

  • The Art

    WOW!! Now, that's horrible!!!! I'd like to think that I'd help, even if its just to go alert the station attendant. It's a sad shame that she lost her life over a phone.

  • PlayerP

    I feel you, but...hubby could have delivered it the same way and had a voice like MJ and could have turned into something it wasn't intended to be. Sad to say...but in this climate, it's necessary.

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    It is not a woman's job to "protect" a man. No woman should want a man she has to protect.

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    I'm sorry to hear that. Did you get a second opinion?

  • jay

    If you don't like anyone other than your race you have mental issues. Can't trust you.Have a nice day. You can't be intelligent at all.

  • Sushi

    Nah, pecker wood I'm not mad at all, but is sounds like you are.. Can't handle the truth. O, and I will be that I love being nappy headed and black.... Better than the opposite. And by my pic I'm sure you can tell I'm far from fat 125lbs at age 44, now you mad pecker wood....I'm here for it all day come get some..... I bet mine bigger than yours....

  • Jennifer

    Yes, allow. And why put that variable there? There should be no "if." His emasculated ass was there instigating instead of handling the situation accordingly. Honey, please don't come for me. I come from a LONG line of Alpha males and know exactly what I'm talking about ?

  • 88

    Only thing wrong with this is the wife did all the talking woman be quiet and let your husband handle it.

  • Sushi

    nah you suck mine...….And I have never had that done, but I will give you a chance

  • Sushi

    yes I am. I have been here for 44 years and counting.... I am not scared to die we all must go can you say the same... I keep mine on me so whom ever come we are going together....

  • Sushi

    I don't do pink so you have no worries.....

  • Jessy

    I agree that a man should protect his family. Still, there are cases like this where, as ADN said below, it’s so much broader than gender roles. The wife being the voice here may have kept things from escalating. Now, had he jumped tough anyway, I hope the Mr. would have taken over.

  • joel adams

    Go watch POSE n settle the fuck down sir

  • Sushi

    Waiving the white flag....how white of you.

  • Ryan

    I used to know someone who worked as a contractor and he was republican ? but said he knew not to put any stickers on his trucks cause it could offend his customers. Rule #1 aka common sense - don't alienate potential business! What a dumbazz.

  • PLEASEDontTellMe

    Is the discussion really about who did all the Talking... in 2019? And not about the huge saluting Confederate flag flying behind the man's truck? Are you fucking serious right now?

    this is crazy that the conversation is being reduced to who wears the pants ...or whether the black woman is being the dominant!
    maybe the conversation or the question should be: was the man...the black man mind you!! less offended by the Confederate flag then the black woman!!! henceforth always and as usual demonstrating the black woman will stand up before...AND FOR the black man

  • Sushi

    Speak...

  • Overpower Radio

    She was out of line.

  • Vonda K

    This whole scenario seems very ‘scripted’.

  • Vonda K

    Ok please no more crazy Jussie post.

  • PLEASEDontTellMe

    Preach it down!!!

  • CookieMobster

    Yes ? in my mind its more the Dukes of Hazard variety rather thank the KKK

  • Blaque Mahogany

    My bad lol

  • Meme

    ??

  • sherri2016

    Yes last Friday that's when it was confirmed and thank you

  • PYT

    Yikes!

  • PYT

    Yikes!

  • Fire & Ice

    That flag is the real issue here!

  • Fire & Ice

    That flag is the real issue here!

  • Fire & Ice

    LMAO

  • Fire & Ice

    LMAO

  • Vonda K

    Dear Casandra Rose,
    I used to enjoy your blog. I consider it my guilty pleasure after dealing with stressful job all day. However, the energy of your blog has shifted. There’s an underlying negativity toward Black relationships and your interns are recycling the same stories consisting of same played out entertainers.

  • Vonda K

    Dear Casandra Rose,
    I used to enjoy your blog. I consider it my guilty pleasure after dealing with stressful job all day. However, the energy of your blog has shifted. There’s an underlying negativity toward Black relationships and your interns are recycling the same stories consisting of same played out entertainers.

  • Fire & Ice

    Damn Archie Bunker ???

  • Fire & Ice

    Damn Archie Bunker ???

  • Fire & Ice

    I completely agree. I'm sure the husband would have put his foot up buddy's ass if he had to.

  • Marlika

    ? Yeah and risk going to prison, getting sued and losing his business. A person without a confederate flag can rig the brakes as well. Now all racism is up front. If the man was a racist I’m sure he would not have taking the job. They couple probably live in a black middle or upper class neighborhood. They same they could’ve done a background check him he could’ve done the same. ?????

  • Marlika

    He’s entitled to get paid for his time. He spent his time and gas to travel to them. If I were him I would sue them for discrimination, loss of wages and emotional distress. Now this is plastered all over the internet. What was the point of the stupid couple releasing the video?? They could move on and found someone else.

  • the guest

    The wife is wrong and IT IS OFF that she positions herself in front of her husband confronting a man. Her husband has his head down and he's standing behind her like a child.

    That man came to work and they should have let him work.

    His demeanor is respectful and he offered to take it down which was professional.

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    Is there a question in there somewhere?

  • Alextra Ballard

    Does it really matter who talked? As long as the situation was handled,mission accomplished.

  • PYT

    I'm with you on that one. That's why I have insurance and just in case ...credit cards.
    However, she may not have been able to afford to spend a grand on a phone.

  • PYT

    per Russiancreme she was on the tracks for 17 sec.

  • PYT

    The didn't have time to react.

  • PLEASEDontTellMe

    Straight baiting.

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    The woman and the handyman acted respectfully. I agree with you. The issue is the Black man standing behind his woman like a child.

  • Alextra Ballard

    No he hadn’t done the work yet

  • PYT

    Knowing me I would try to save her, but, who really knows until your it happens.

  • Neva RuthLess

    Why can’t black men ever stand up? Know what just forget it.

  • PYT

    ????

  • Lorenzo Chaps

    I'm still stuck on the audacity of showing up with that flag on his truck. No sir. The husband should've done the talking.

  • Lorenzo Chaps

    I'm still stuck on the audacity of showing up with that flag on his truck. No sir. The husband should've done the talking.

  • PYT

    ?????He didn't mean it like that

  • PYT

    ?????He didn't mean it like that

  • speakinmymind

    ??

  • speakinmymind

    ??

  • speakinmymind

    ?

  • PYT

    ?????Yes, God was giving you an opportunity to man up. He sounds like the Valedictorian of The John Lewis Got My Azz Whooped In Selma Academy.

  • speakinmymind

    Ain't that the truth! My mother woulda been holding my dad back tryna make him put the shotgun down before he got to the front door and started going off and shooting!?????

  • speakinmymind

    He's not entitled to anything. Payment is made for services rendered.

  • Anunnaki, in A twilight Zone

    Oh ok, thank you

  • 88

    Yes it does it about doing things in order she was out of order.

  • SugarFoot a.k.a Ty

    What’s the problem ????? I wouldn’t want that shyt in my driveway or him in my space

  • CardiB’sAbs

    So you’ve never seen anyone take the time to cool down after they’ve been provoked? What a sad existence.

  • 88

    Because you got the masculine black woman always running her damn mouth.

  • Shamwow

    No a relationship is give or take. a functioning relationship is an exchange of power. sometimes I stand behind him, sometimes he’s behind me but believe you me we have a united front. He can go display his flag on his ride home. But I refuse to spend my hard earned money on someone who brazenly displays his views . It sucks for him, but racism is starting to become more covert because of stuff like this. I don’t blame her and I too can’t see myself spending my money on him. Possibly the next mechanic would be silently racist.

  • Taj

    Oh please. Black people need to get off their high horse. You're not helping anything by boycotting people who raise the Confederate flag. Actually go out and do something about racism if you that mad

  • ???

    I see you’re from planet intelligent

  • ???

    The woman manages the household. That means she negotiates with the vendors. What’s the problem?

  • ???

    Right

  • Vonda K

    Lol

  • Solstice

    I have some ?????.
    Auntie, do we know in fact that this is a married couple? Are they both on the deed? If in fact they’re renting, are they both on the lease? Are there other variables as to why she is talking and not the “husband?” Was she diffusing the situation? QTNA ?

  • Prince Zuko

    Yea I'm with the wife on this one we dont need or want anything u have to offer if that's the flag ur plant on ur truck I'm good

  • A D N

    In many situations, she better! We are living in times where our actions are costly and we have to make the best decisions with the options we have available. These cops aren't just stopping black men in cars...they are stopping black men in their yards, while playing with their kids. I'm looking farrrrr ahead of what is presented because I am looking at the potential consequences. Who knows if the "confederate flag flying guy" wasn't there to provoke a situation? I would have been immediate skeptical and extremely cautious when approaching the situation. We just don't know who is harmless. That is the angle from which I am viewing this situation. Yes, men should take a "leadership and protective" role, but to diffuse a situation with someone different from our "race"...no.

  • Solstice

    ??

  • Prince Zuko

    Every body is stressing the black man standing behind his woman in this case but it looked like he didn't care about the flag which is why he didn't say anything however his wife did have a problem and she addressed it the husband just wanted whatever repairs that was needed to be fixed to be fixed. He didn't entirely agree with her. And she is a person why shouldnt be able to say how she feel? This dosent man him less of a man for letting his wife take the lead because in a marriage it's give and take

  • A D N

    *What people relate to will always be what they respond to first*. My initial reaction was just what you saw, and how to best diffuse a situation that could have easily gotten out of hand. I would be LIVID if a white man showed up to my house what a HUGE flying confederate flag, more so than anyone in my home because I'm more culturally and historical abreast on the black experiences in America. She handled it well. And there is no way, my husband would even allowed me to see the flag, and he would have handled it...NOT BECAUSE, he is the "man" but because he is less emotional with the issue.

  • Solstice

    Thank you. I had questions ?

  • Maxima

    Dumb azz shit startin' topic. Why is this even a "topic".

    It is her house too! And everyone was very respectful. This is America and this was the perfect example of freedom to believe in whatever as long as you don't hurt those who have an opposing view.

    Would you rather a woman not diffuse the situation? You want the men to get into it and someone is dead?The most evil type of woman is the one who likes to start fights between her man and another (usually in a bar). Think about that

  • Allihave2say

    Just as George Zimmerman got free food, free housing and unearned income, this man has probably received a large amount of his income due to his overt expression of his beliefs. I looked at the neighbors' houses and this is an upscale neighborhood. He probably expected the home owners to be white and get a high five- and a huge welcome. Instead he got a lesson.

    So many times I'm mistaken for a white person on the phone. Some of my best experiences have been when I would be at my secretary's desk and she'd be in my office when a client or job candidate arrives. They're faces are shook when I invite them in for that interview. The white people are particularly jarred and I've had some to share their shock.

  • Allihave2say

    I am the dominant one. My hubby is quiet trouble. I'm expressive. I've been self employed since my 20's so I'm accustomed at telling people what to do. Sometimes I don't want to be in control.

  • Patricia

    i dont get it

  • Solstice

    Sherri I cannot imagine. I am deeply saddened. I am not sure where you are located and/or what resources are available in your area but you may want to get a patient advocate. I too was stricken with a couple lifelong illness (though none fatal) and it all became overwhelming. Not just for me but my husband and children. We still actively do our job to advocate on my behalf but it helps to have that additional voice. Blessings to you ???

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    Exactly.

    It's THEIR relationship and as long as THEY are ok with each other that's all that matters.

    The people criticizing need to worry about their own relationships.

  • TheRealTW

    This seems staged but if it is not then I don't blame the woman for sending Jim Bob away.

  • Ne Ba

    What about the people who are? How does that help your argument?

  • Soda

    Changing your name won't change your stupidity, Mielle.

  • Dasright

    Lol, it's plenty like him where I'm from. Makes no sense they hate our blackness but love their crispy ass tans.

  • Nikkiknows

    How are you not mentioning the confederate flag on the back of the truck? And maybe the wife spoke because the husband may have not been able to handle it the same way (two men, one white)...she handled it well.

  • Quagsire!

    Agreed.

  • Stellar Evolution

    I didn't understand why she didn't mention the confederate flag either. I thought too that she voiced her opinions and her husband stood behind her to support his wife. If it had gotten out of hand, he probably would have stepped around and in front to handle it, but she handled it well and nothing more needed to be said and done. How was this seen as a child-like stance? Or in Sandra's opinion (which is so negative), a common practice among black women and men in the south? Seriously??

  • Intellectual by Nature!

    I love your perspective on relationships. I completely agree.

  • Intellectual by Nature!

    You can't "take down" your racist beliefs. He'd just be hiding it for a moment. He has a right to support the racist symbol of a pre-civil rights America and she had the right to not support him. Simple.

  • Judi Jupiter

    Ryan's followers questioned why the homeowner's husband let his wife do all the talking.

    And THIS is why I'm not married. Ain't no one LETTING me do anything, I'm an adult and do what I want. I do notice here in the South, that some women dont speak unless their husband gives the look of approval. I wish a man would think I have to get his ok to speak to someone. I grew up in and around healthy long lasting marriages, and not one of these women spoke only because they were given permission... everyone's thoughts were respected and the relationships were 100/100. But you sure weren't going to shut these women up just because you were their husband...

  • deidre martin

    loved this so classy!!!!!!!!!!!!

  • deidre martin

    if they listened u heard them discuss between each other saying- "Do you want to, or me." And that woman seems more than confident to handle her biz.

  • deidre martin

    the husband did mention the flag... did the play the whole video?

  • deidre martin

    I don't know if this station showed the whole video. u could hear the couple discussing who would handle it before they stepped on the stoop. And the husband did express that the wife has a problem w the flag! As in WE have a problem with the flag. That's how couples work... What are we picking apart? This narrative about the wife wearing the pants is horse shi!

  • Judi Jupiter

    Typically we are. Men just need to be there if shit pops off...lol

  • deidre martin

    exactly!

  • MrsHBC

    They both mentioned the flag. He mentioned it first then she reiterated her stance on the flag. The man offered to remove the flag & she stated no, you don’t have to continue believing what you want too.

  • Nikkiknows

    I meant Sandra...this post is misleading. Makes it seems like some ‘typical’ depiction of black folks that isn’t cool to me.

  • MrsHBC

    I saw nothing wrong with the wife speaking for the household. There are times when my husband does the speaking & other times when I do, however, trust me when I say we are on the same page! Aunt Sandra likes to start mess, the real discussion should be why did “Billy Bob” think it was ok to fly that big ole flag to a job?

  • Nikkiknows

    I was referring to Sandra not the folks in the video :)

  • deidre martin

    Agreed I'm a little bothered about how this being explained.Why in the world would we want to give our funds to someone like that? Whats up with tearing down the black man?

  • deidre martin

    How was this seen as a child-like stance?

    So disrespectful.

  • MSGREENMINUSTHEENVY

    The delusions that a woman can't speak up are ridiculous. She was outside first and respectfully and tastefully declined his services with no malice. Hubby let his wife do his thing by speaking and being close behind her should anything pop up.

  • MSGREENMINUSTHEENVY

    yes! Say it again sis!

  • Nikkiknows

    Right, such a gross generalization when the point is this man clearly has his views and she’s the homeowner. Sh*t I’d be afraid he’d purposely rig sh*t in my house just because...she did the right thing and she handled it gracefully.

  • Jordan’s Memory

    Exactly, the husband and his wife probably felt the husbands delivery would come off much more aggressive than his wife which could have turn this situation ugly, so it probably was best for her to speak.

  • deidre martin

    Girl, Im just really surprised! Even in a situation where this blk man did nothing wrong - we are trying to find a way to put him down? This is becoming depressing. If we tear down the men we are supposed to co-habitat with- where will that leave us as blk women?

  • deidre martin

    They did not seem confused. They were straight forward, honest and gentle. So now we are saying she is acting masculine and he is acting like a child!? Bull crap!!! Stop it! If it were wyte folks they would be praising them for being so cultured and intelligent. *eye roll*

  • Jordan’s Memory

    that's what I mentioned above. His delivery would have probably come off much different leading to a bad outcome.

  • Justamom

    Common sense should have told him to remove the flag when visiting a client’s home. His personal (racist) views affected his finances. Hubby and I are business owners we keep our disdain for TRUMP quiet. My husband sometimes ruffles their feathers with the truth. Me not so much. I politely tell folks I don’t discuss politics and keep my money flowing. They flag is offensive as FAWK. The only thing worse is a noose or a burning cross. He would have gotten cussed out and ran up out the yard. It looks staged though because they were too calm. If it’s real he was clearly being funny stirring up BS. I wouldn’t have been able to keep my hubby up off him. I would had to call the cops for his safety after he got that azz whooped.

  • Nikkiknows

    Right, and maybe she knows her husband. Or like my mom, is the owner of such projects because that’s her thing, not my stepdad. Either way this post is uber misleading and a low key attack. And the gag is, she didn’t do anything wrong, I wouldn’t have even said ‘you’re entitled to your views...’ she handled this wayyyyy better than most. That should have been the focus IMO.

  • MSGREENMINUSTHEENVY

    Sis, folks got it all twisted. I'm not tearing down our black kings on some craziness. Black men get it from all sides, they don't need more toxic energy or hate from us black women. It's very depressing to see a respectful positive situation be turned into 'what this man didn't do'. trifflin'

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    She asked him if he wanted to talk to the man. He told her to do it. Then he says SHE'S upset about the flag. No real man would let his wife confront another man.

  • deidre martin

    100%

  • IyanlaVanzantoftheInterWebs

    On the fence with this because I can see EVERYONE’S angle.. I KNOW that MY husband would have addressed the man period!

    The woman in the video was Very polite to the man and I dont see anything wrong with HOW she broached and handled the issue..

  • Phillybruh

    It truly depends on if you know your spouse, perhaps she spoke because she and he knows it could have ended differently, she may be the tactful one in the relationship and is best to handle something's.

  • Phillybruh

    They did something, they didn't spend their hard earned money with the racist.

  • hottlanta

    So thats the black guy who approved those air slaves betsy ross flag sneakers at nike for the 4th of july.

  • Madashelle

    No real man would let his wife confront another man.

    If this was a violent confrontation I am sure her husband would have stepped in. But since she was handling it, there was no need for him to do so. There are times when I do all the talking in business situations, and there are times when my husband does all of the talking. Our men don't always need to be "bucking " up for everything.

  • wigmon68

    Why do people get offended by the confederate flag? I mean I get that if some guy is speaking racist crap or acting a certain way, but just the flag itself which has no given meaning. I saw the confederate flag quite a bit growing up (not in the south, but near Gettysburg) and not once did I ever see anyone with such a flag that ever mentioned race or display it with that connotation. Heck, one of the most popular TV shows in the 80's had the flag and a car named the "General Lee" all over it an no one ever said a word about the show being racist in any way. Seems to be only a recent phenomenon for people that have little self worth.

  • Madashelle

    Agree. Me and my husband always play "good-cop" "bad-cop".

  • Madashelle

    Exactly!

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    We're from different eras and different backgrounds. The women in my family are strong and independent, but they prefer the traditional female role. They let the man do the talking.

  • Evillene

    Maybe THAT is why you are sexually fluid. Growing up in an oppressively patriarchal, misogynistic family created an unnatural empathy toward females that became sexual.

    Don't worry, we'll get to the bottom of it.

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    I'm not sexually fluid, doctor. ?

  • MSGREENMINUSTHEENVY

    I hear your opinion Ms. Rose. This situation IMO was not a confrontation, it was calm exchange in which her feelings were expressed and her husband backed her and even chimed in a tad but let her speak respectfully. His masculinity was not challenged and her safety was not compromised. The real man, her husband played his part.

  • Lady_Elle

    Not at all a recent phenomenon.

  • When8x8x8is4

    Any jerk who goes around with a racist confederate flag, needs to be silenced. Their opinion does not matter, and they are effectively dead to me. It would be great if they were dead to others, as well.
    If that gets out, we won't be seeing anymore of them. Recalcitrant whites are headed toward their destruction, if they don't stop raising animals like the one featured.

  • When8x8x8is4

    You're a clueless moron. Had you ever gone to school, you'd know the confederate flag is the flag of the enemy, during the Civil War.

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    Why do we automatically assume violence will occur when a Black man is involved? He could've been as civil as his wife was - if she had let him do the talking. A real man would've handled it himself.

  • When8x8x8is4

    I have never understood Sandra Rose's weird self-hating philosophy. But I don't hate her. I just don't get her.

  • When8x8x8is4

    If you only had a brain, 'Taj'. You are incredibly stupid.

  • When8x8x8is4

    You're an idiot, 'guest'.

  • When8x8x8is4

    Mofos like you, should just admit they're gay. Black women owe Black men nothing. Black women may speak whenEVER they wish, and it is not dependent on some garbage male supremacy theory. Black males should consider WHY Black women don't play into white notions of male dominance. It's because Black males have A LOT of work to do... not abandoning their children, not making other Black people victims of their crimes, and becoming good family members. More of that, would do wonders for Black male insecurity.

  • When8x8x8is4

    Just acknowledge your gaydom, and go pick up your disability check, loser.

  • When8x8x8is4

    If you unreservedly like whites, than you REALLY have no intelligence, nor self-awareness.
    Whites are typically pretty vile.

  • When8x8x8is4

    You are as dumb as someone can be, without just collapsing. What happened to you? With a name like 'Markika', you're likely Black. What happened to you? Are you learning disabled?

  • When8x8x8is4

    Yeah.
    You're an idiot.

  • When8x8x8is4

    So long as you don't understand that a confederate flag is pro-slavery; you're actually totally uninformed. Why don't you put down the keyboard, and go read a book?

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    I didn't mention the flag because that was not the point of the post. The flag is not illegal. It is a common sight here in Georgia. The point of the post was her husband allowing her to lead him and standing behind her while she interacted with a redneck.

  • When8x8x8is4

    You're old-fashioned, you're a throwback, you're ignorant, and you hate women. If you wanna call that 'southern', no one can stop you. Women like you are disgusting.

  • Madashelle

    Recent? This certainly is not a recent phenomenon. In case you didn't know: the North won and the South lost the civil war.

  • When8x8x8is4

    Then you are an admitted supporter of flying confederate flags. You should go straight to hell immediately.

  • When8x8x8is4

    You're an enabler of Black misogyny.

  • When8x8x8is4

    If your 'manhood' can't accept that other people have opinions and words; you're not much of a man. Come to think of it; you're not quite human.

  • When8x8x8is4

    You're a volunteer slave.
    Congratulations.

  • Madashelle

    There are people saying that prior to the couple interacting with man, the couple decided amongst themselves who would be the one to speak to the man. The couple decided that she would be the one. Me and my husband do this all the time. Couples do many things in the background that others know nothing about. It's called working together for the common goal.

  • Mita

    The man should have handled that.

  • ClaireHuxtable

    What are you talking about? Details.

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    If you listen to the beginning of the video you hear her asking him if he wants her to do it. He says go ahead - as if he's used to her taking the lead.

  • Let them eat cake

    and thats exactly how men became coddled in the black community by black women because we were afraid of them getting killed. in slavery times if a black male tried to protect, then they would be tortured etc in front of their families so the women became the head. its still the same "fear" today except its of black men being shot. while i understand this, black men should still be the head and protector. we have to stop this as black women. we are the only race that does this. they are going to try and kill us anyway. women should be covered by their men.

  • JENNYJONES1

    WHY ISN'T HE A REAL MAN IF HE AND HIS WIFE DECIDED SHE'D DO THE TALKING. YOU AREN'T MARRIED SO WHY DOWN THE WAY A MARRIED COUPLE DECIDED TO HANDLE A SITUATION. SHE DIDN'T TELL HIM SHE WAS GOING TO DO THE TALKING THEY DECIDED SHE WOULD AND MAYBE BECAUSE SHE'S A BETTER TALKER WHILE HE MIGHT BE BETTER AT SOMETHING ELSE LIKE FINANCES. PLAIN & SIMPLE, THEIR MARRIAGE SO THEIR RULES. ........JENNY JONES!!!

  • JENNYJONES1

    RYAN CAMERON'S WIFE DIVORCED HIM SO MAYBE HE SHOULD TAKE NOTES FROM THIS MARRIAGE AND STOP POSTING VIDEOS ABOUT MARRIED COUPLE'S WORKING TOGETHER ON AN ISSUE..........JENNY JONES!!!

  • Wile E. Coli

    Let's see they hate the Confederate flag
    Kapernick hates the American flag
    hmm.. what's left? Oh yeah.. the Pride flag.

  • Wile E. Coli

    Maybe the husband didn't give a shit and he said.. "ok.. if YOU want to go out and tell him, by all means.. be my guest."

  • wigmon68

    Yeah, maybe you outta do some reading on what Lincoln wrote post Civil War, or even during the civil war.

    African slave trade did not begin in the south, it did not begin in the US after independence, it did not begin with the UK, Portuguese or Spanish nor the middle east. African slave trade began in Africa, so does that mean you view African flags as offensive? That certainly doesn't absolve those who participated in the in humane acts along the way, but blacks sold blacks into slavery, not some country hick from Alabama displaying a confederate flag.

  • Trace da Ace

    Well....I don't blame her. I would have done the same thing..for real.....it is her choice if she wants to use his services or not...and his fuck up for having that big ass flag flying...going to conduct business...with today's climate...so she was right in how she approached him and what she said....she could have came out cursing and acting a fool...but she did it in the nicest way possible.

  • wigmon68

    whites, blacks and native americans fought on that side.

  • Rayne

    Meet you there!???

  • sherri2016

    Thank you since its so new I haven't told my husband and kids yet until I get a third opinion just trying to hold out hope

  • Ghetto Real Name

    No. THAT IS NOT WHAT IT MEANS.

  • Solstice

    I understand. Nothing wrong with that. I encourage you to be only as strong as you can. It’s ok to cry/mourn but don’t stay there. Blessings ???

  • Ghetto Real Name

    Fukk yew. go back to your bush you cave demon

  • free

    i think my scenario would have played out the same way. we see that shit in the driveway and i start to go off. my husband is looking at me like, "keep calm bae", and i'm looking out the window going off basically saying no way this MF is working on the house. my husband says, "you want me to tell...." and i interrupt and say "no, I'll tell him" and walk my ass out and my husband follows just to make sure nothing jumps off.

  • Slityomomthroat

    Yo mom is trash bitch ass dick in the booty ass honkey cracker farmer

  • SpiceGirl

    White folks do this crap ALL the time! FOH with the BS is my take on it! White folks see POC and act the same....so yeah, there is that!

  • Madashelle

    The part that you are not getting is that flag was used to intimidate and infect violence on American Blacks. That flag, and the burning of crosses on American Black people's lawns. That flag and its connotations is a symbol of negativity which stirs up many emotions amongst knowledgeable American Blacks.

  • Alicia.Ashe

    I saw the video. She grabbed her stuff and tried to run toward the end of the platform and out of the way of the train. She didn’t make it.

  • GAPeach

    Hmmm, if you fought on the confederate side as a POC then your ass had no choice. What you supposed to do...tell massa no? Chile bye.

  • HoneyHitchcock

    The husband was going to try to sugarcoat the situation, whereas in certain situations woman are direct and upfront.

  • Myopinion

    I would have let my husband start making the statement and if he started to sugar coat the situation I would have had to say excuse me honey and let that man know that he wasn't getting my money and why. I would have been just like this woman, very nice nasty.

  • GAPeach

    How many renters do you know that call a contractor to pay for repairs on their rental, instead of the homeowner?

    Why does it matter if they are actually married or not?

    She was answering because she can. None of your questions needed answering. You're just being messy.

  • Carla B

    I live in the south and dudes in white hoods would drive around at night with that flag screaming hateful words at non white people, throw things, shoot in the air and other stupid stuff. That flag is a symbol for hate and anyone who says different is lying through their teeth.

  • KJBibleOnSlavShips

    the problem is there shouldn't be power struggle

  • The Last Word

    Thats way too generous.

    The St. Andrews Cross became popular in the aftermath of the Civil Rights Movement, as Southern whites looked for ways to give the federal government and African-Americans the finger.

  • Logan Roberts

    The wife handle this situation very tastefully.

  • Evillene

    Men are not upfront with their feelings. Husband never would have let on that he was disturbed by the confederate flag because he's a MAN so it would have been all macho posturing and bravado -- and maybe some passive-aggressive barbs. He wouldn't want racist nutjob to know that he was in his feelings.

    Women are like "f*ck that, you are gonna know exactly what I think, you racist bastard!" She delivered message succinctly and effectively. Case closed.

  • Shenanigans1

    And so openly. He knows he doesn’t have to ride with that on the back of his truck.

  • wigmon68

    yes, by a small minority of individuals. Those individuals also often used a cross. Is it racist to display a cross, or do have the same feeling about that? again, the vast majority of individuals displaying a confederate flag are doing so as a symbol of wanting freedom from gov't intrusion or a rebellious spirit and has nothing to do with race.

  • Solstice

    Dear GAPeach,

    I know of 1 person who has been renting and has done this. Had California closets put in. Had a tree cut down in the backyard. Pays for monthly Terminex and replaced the fridge.

    If they are not married then this should not be an issue.

    Lastly,
    ALL MY QUESTIONS NEEDED ANSWERS. And I am never messy. Been in this blog for many years and if YOU KNEW anything about my font you would know that.

    Now move around and hop the fcuk off my font.

    https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/892d3e9fc929b5a5ebf6f5ee8876a7673fe102b45d3e09084f0943a8a3e43b48.gif

  • wigmon68

    This is a historically inaccurate statement. There were free POC's in the south, some who owned slaves and some who fought for the south. At the time that the Civil War broke out, there were more free POC's living in the south (where slavery was legal) than in the north (where it wasn't). Its nearly impossible to come up with an accurate figure on the number, the estimates are in the 10's of thousands of blacks that "fought" for the south. Most were not armed for battle, but there were thousands of black men that served in infantry units for the Confederacy. Certainly some of these were forced to do so, but some clearly were not.

  • interestingconcept1

    Yes!!??

  • Taj

    Tweeting about racism doesn't count as doing something

  • Ne Ba

    I was talking about activist, etc, silly.