This post explores the effects of "Dopamine" on the human brain when two people are initially intensely attracted to each other. It's easy for 2 people to believe they are "in love" during this initial exciting phase. Unfortunately, the excitement phase doesn't last.
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Facing the end of a marriage or a relationship triggers a cascade of emotions similar to experiencing the death of a loved one. Staying with a cheating husband or partner is a deeply personal decision.
Social media is buzzing about the way Amber Rose is emasculating thug rapper 21 Savage before our very eyes. Why do women emasculate strong men? Is it an equality thing, or do women think they are empowering themselves by emasculating men?
Love is an action or behavior that conveys deep affection for another human being. Love is not words or a feeling or emotion. Some people who believe they're in love may miss the signs that their partner has already checked out of their relationship.
Stephanie Smith, an otherwise intelligent black woman, is making headlines in the blogoshphere for pressuring her white boyfriend into proposing to her.
Stephanie promised to make 300 sandwiches for her boyfriend Eric if he put a ring on her finger. Stephanie is aware that her stunt reeks of desperation, but she's making those 300 sandwiches anyway.
Rapper The Game knows a thing or two about infidelity. He's been down that road despite being in a committed relationship. The Game and his fiancée, Tiffney Cambridge, star in an upcoming TV reality show titled 'Marrying The Game'. His cheating ways are the reasons why the show isn't titled 'Married to The Game'.
"I’m not going to throw myself under the bus... but every man cheats," said The Game in an interview with Power 105?s The Breakfast Club.
"The truth is every man cheats: fat men, skinny men, basketball player, guy who can’t play, nerds, smart men. It doesn’t matter," he added.
The NY Post's Tim Donnelly has written another heartwarming story about finding love amid the wreckage of Hurricane Sandy.
"Emanuel Boseman was panicked. He was stranded in a tiny 50-square-foot second-floor storage unit in Coney Island as Sandy pushed ocean waters into the building, completely flooding the first floor.
He stared at his cellphone, which was getting spotty service, and nervously debated dialing his ex-girlfriend Fernanda Meier.
He didn’t know who else to call, but they hadn’t spoken in months. Would she even take his call?"
NFL legend Deion Sanders likes 'em young. Bossip spoke to Deion's latest conquest, Aleea Stanton, who happens to be the daughter of Angela Stanton, the woman who made all those wild accusations about Phaedra Parks.
Aleea Stanton, who was 18 when she met Sanders, tells Bossip she met the former football star through Twitter.com in 2011.
“I got a DM on Twitter from a guy saying, ‘Hey I’ve got a friend that wants to meet you.' I said, ‘Ok, cool who is it? He says ‘Deion Sanders,' and I said ‘Who???’”
Aleea said she had to Google Prime Time to see who he was.
R&B Diva Keyshia Cole is set to release her fifth studio project after numerous delays. Going back to her roots on Woman To Woman, the mother of one crafted tracks about relationship issues that many women can relate to.
Cole, 31, is candid about her own relationship troubles with husband Daniel Gibson, 26. The couple sought marriage counseling when Gibson could no longer tolerate Cole's mood swings. It was Gibson's decision to seek therapy to save his marriage. Cole's album track list reflects the struggles that most young couples experience once the dopamine fades.
Cole says, “This album is not about me, the album is about the fans that really want to hear things that help them and give them inspiration to get over dudes that do them wrong.”
Woman to Woman is set for a November 19 release. See the tracklist below.
Earlier I posted an email from Cheryl Redmond, the mother of Zeboe Pullins' youngest children. Cheryl is a great example of a woman who holds her family together and stands by her man through thick and thin.
But some women marry men for all the wrong reasons.
Without singling out Tamar Braxton, some women confuse love for neediness. As children they didn't have a healthy, supportive relationship with their fathers, so they grow up looking for men to fulfill their unrealistic needs. These women are beautiful, seductive, lovable, possessive, and eventually they become very demanding.
When these women find men like Vince (who has issues of their own), they form a sometimes destructive relationship that doesn't benefit either of them spiritually or mentally.
R&B singer Keyshia Cole, says marriage counseling works.
According to Eurweb.com, Cole's husband, Daniel Gibson "was at first a bit hesitant to seek professional therapy for their marriage, but over time, he realized it was necessary."
What's not surprising to me is that Cole and Gibson sought marriage counseling in the first place.
Cole, 31, and Gibson, 26, met and began dating in 2009. They wed in an intimate ceremony on May 21, 2011 -- a year after their first child, Daniel Hiram Gibson, Jr., was born.
3 years is about right for Dopamine (which sparked their strong sexual attraction to each other) to begin to fade. Young people who don't understand how dopamine (and other brain neurotransmitters) works on sexual relationships falsely assume that their initial strong sexual attraction to each other must be love. It is not.
So when the dopamine begins to fade, these young people falsely believe that the "love" they once shared is now gone.
According to an unconfirmed source, rap mogul Jay Z has a teenage mistress who may have had an abortion recently. This might explain why a man who is almost 50 would suddenly knock up his much younger wife. The rumor comes from the notorious gossipmonger hangout Lipstickalley.com, so take the following information with a grain of salt.
Last night I spoke briefly by phone with Zeboe Pullins, the father of Tameka "Tiny" Harris' 16-year-old daughter, Zonnique "Niq" Pullins. Zeboe called me to set the record straight about his relationship with his daughter, whom he loves dearly.
I can always tell which direction a conversation is going in when it starts off with "Look here miss lady..."
But Mr. Zeboe was charming, sincere and straight to the point. He chose his words carefully -- explaining that he and I are "from different worlds." (I took that to mean he doesn't read the blogs.)
Zeboe respectfully requested that his name be left out of topics of conversations on the blog, and that he didn't have anything to prove to my readers.
Singer Chris Brown is still calling and texting ex-girlfriend Karrueche Tran -- behind his new girlfriend Rihanna's back.
Brown, 23, unceremoniously dumped Tran for Rihanna last week -- and he even released a press statement announcing his amicable breakup with Tran. Brown and Rihanna, 24, reportedly hooked back up secretly last year.
The Brown/Rihanna/Tran situation was the talk of Atlanta over the weekend. Many women I spoke with expressed sympathy for Tran, who lost her man to a conniving woman in the most spectacular way.
A source close to the Brown camp told Sandrarose.com that Brown and Tran remain good friends.
But, according to Radar Online, Brown is still texting and calling Tran for some of that good-good. Apparently, he is keeping Tran as a backup in case Rihanna flips on him again.
Singer Chris Brown released a statement confirming the status of his relationship with ex-girlfriends Rihanna and Karrueche Tran.
"I have decided to be single to focus on my career. I love Karrueche very much but I don't want to see her hurt over my friendship with Rihanna,” Brown said in a statement. “I'd rather be single allowing us to both be happy in our lives."
At least Karrueche had fun while it lasted. Now Chris Brown and Rihanna can get their careers back on track.
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Former NFL star Chad "Ochocinco" Johnson has apparently rebounded from his failed marriage to reality star Evelyn Lozada. Johnson was spotted having lunch with actress AJ Johnson at Le Petit Four Restaurant in West Hollywood on Monday. AJ Johnson, who starred in the classic comedy flick 'House Party' seems comfortable with Chad Johnson, 34, who was arrested in August for head butting Lozada, 43.
Justthefab.com bumped into actress Gabrielle Union at the UrbanWorld Film festival this past weekend.
When asked why she thinks so many successful, intelligent, independent black women are single, Gabby said, "I think [women] struggle" with giving power to men.
"My girlfriends and I are very independent," said Union, 40. "We've been doing it WELL on our own for a long time, and sometimes that's hard to give up a little power -- to sort of acquiesce to another person and let somebody else lead sometimes -- or all the time."
Over the weekend, Sean "Diddy" Combs and singer Cassie, finally confirmed what everyone else already knew -- that they know each other.
"love.him," wrote Cassie on her Instagram page. "I am blessed," Diddy tweeted in response. Not exactly earth shattering revelations.
Not coincidentally, today, GQ magazine released pics from Cassie's upcoming spread in the October 2012 issue.
Cassie, 26, posed for photographer Christian Anwander in a photoshoot that is typical of most of Cassie's photo shoots. No matter what she wears -- whether it's oil or next to nothing -- she always looks hungry, malnourished and uninspired.
You would think Bobbi Kristina and her adopted brother, Nick Gordon, were smothered with love and attention by their pop legend mom Whitney Houston before she died. But the recent antics of both siblings have proven otherwise. Gordon, age unknown, stirred controversy on Twitter.com on Tuesday when he tweeted a photo of himself waving a gun while operating a motor vehicle.
Last week it was reported that the youngest daughter of mega church Pastor T.D. Jakes was divorcing her husband -- a former NFL football player -- after 4 years of marriage.
Robert Henson is a former linebacker for the Washington Redskins. The couple met when Sarah Henson was just 19. At that age it's almost impossible to see through the dopamine haze.
It's too bad Sarah Henson's parents didn't sit her down and explain to her that marrying a NFL player was probably not a smart move.
CAT FIGHT! In the Season 2 finale of Single Ladies, LisaRaye McCoy's character Keisha handles her business when she discovers the identity of her stalker is Sean's ex. And when the deranged ex accidentally knocks Malcolm out cold, Keisha goes HAM! What Keisha does next is typical of women who have no clue what love is. Keisha dumps Sean, who proves his love to her through his selfless actions, and she goes back to Malcolm -- the dog who never hesitates to cheat on her!
Monday night was the series premiere of TV One's "R&B Divas" starring (L-R) Monifah, Nicci Gilbert, Faith Evans, Syleena Johnson and Keke Wyatt. The show's story line revolves around Evans' plan to get the 5 women in the studio to record a blockbuster R&B album together.
But actually 'R&B Divas' -- which is filmed in Atlanta -- is just another reality show that focuses on black women and their dysfunctional relationships with men and with each other. The premiere episode set the tone for the rest of the series by highlighting each woman's flaws.
Day 2 of the second phase of Usher Raymond and Tameka Foster-Raymond's bitter child custody hearing continues today. Foster-Raymond took the stand yesterday to give stirring testimony about Usher's controlling behavior. Foster-Raymond also said she fears Usher's deranged stalker will harm their children, according to my confidential source.
Just weeks after coming out of the closet, Anderson Cooper's boyfriend was caught kissing another man. The popular CNN anchor kicked open his closet door just days after singer/songwriter blazed the trail by coming out on his Tumblr page.
Anderson must be devastated. But gay male relationships are known to be the most unstable because men were born to cheat (in my opinion). If you think it's hard to keep your man from straying in heterosexual relationships, imagine being a gay male and expecting your man not to be turned on by other hawt men.
R&B singer Monifah recently spoke out about dating women in an interview with Essence.com. Though Monifah once dated ex-lover Queen Latifah for many years, she still can't bring herself to admit she's out of the closet.
"I hate the term," she says, "because I've never been anything but who I am, and I've lived my authentic life."
Monifah, 41, is one of 5 R&B singers featured in a new reality TV series titled "R&B Divas," premiering Aug. 20 on TVOne. The series also stars Faith Evans, Nicci Gilbert, Kiki Wyatt, and Sylena Johnson. The series centers around the women's lives as they work together on a R&B compilation album.
According to Michelle of Straightfromthea.com, rapper Lil Scrappy proposed to his long-suffering baby mama, Erica Dixon. Before you get excited, try to remember that reality TV shows are about as "real" as a $3 dollar bill.
Love & Hip Hop Atlanta's script called for Scrappy to "date" reality TV star Buckeey (who is already in a longterm relationship with an Atlanta photographer). So I knew something had to give for the reunion.
Since the beginning of time, man has attempted to figure out how to tell if a woman or man is attracted to the same sex. If you listen to the gays, you would think that babies are born gay. But the truth is that humans and animals simply adapt psychosocially to our environments. In other words, we like what we like -- whether what we like is a man, woman, child, or horse.
A new study reveals a sure-fire way to tell if someone is gay or straight: it's all in the eyes.
Music legend Stevie Wonder has filed for divorce from his wife, Kai Millard Morris, TMZ has learned.
In the divorce docs obtained by TMZ, the music icon cites irreconcilable differences. According to the papers, Wonder has been separated from wife Kai Millard Morris since October 2009.
Wonder filed the divorce papers using his legal name, Stevland Morris, and signed with two fingerprints.
In the docs, filed by disso-queen Laura Wasser, Wonder asks for joint custody of the couple's two boys, ages 10 and 7.
In the docs, Wonder agrees to pay both spousal and child support.
A recent development has put a new twist on the Usher and Maxwell teh ghey rumors. As you know, crooners Usher and Maxwell have been the subjects of gay rumors for years.
According to my very credible west coast connect, Maxwell recently broke up with his rumored male lover. I can't say any more than that because a child is involved (and the kid can read). But is it just a coincidence that Usher and Maxwell sat down for a private intimate dinner in New York last week?
According to celebrity photographer Thad of Exclusiveaccess.net, model Tocarra Jones partied with her new man Bryant Mckinnie (offensive tackle for the Baltimore Ravens) at Cameo's on South Beach Tuesday night. Apparently Bryant and Tocarra have been an item for months. Tocarra was previously paired with Jason Newsome, winner of Ultimate Merger 2.