Hey Sandra:
I ran across this website and wanted to know your thoughts. I’m a brown skinned beauty with a gorgeous 10 month old son. His father is DJ Chuck T (the DList Mixtape DJ who leaked Lil Wayne’s Album). He has chose to be with a LSLH/mixed “model” and her three children (by another man) while his son and I are on the other side of town fending for ourselves.
He refuses to see the child at my place “out of respect” for the girlfriend. He blogs about his “baby mama” issues on twitter all day trying to gain sympathy. I’ve been called a “basic bitch,” “bum,” and his recent pleas have been for 50 cent to save me like he did Officer Ricky’s baby mama so he can lower his child support payments (www.twitter.com/djchuckt).
He filed for visitation/custody when our son was less than a month old. The girlfriend, his mother and sister have coached him on how to provoke me to anger then record the aftermath for court. It’s just wrong on so many levels. What’s your advice?
Jenny J.
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Wowwwwww
Wow
People People People, we gotta do better and start making wise decisions in every aspect of our life.
That is all………..
Jenny you already know what he and his family are trying to do,so use it in your favor and don’t clown. Does it really matter that he left you for a LSLH woman with 3 kids? Get over it, it happens every day to a woman. Living well is the best revenge. Take care of your little boy and let the cards fall where they may.
MESSY……..MESSY I tell ya! SMH
her ponytail! uggg
I want to
Anna said it best-do you and keep it moving rise above their pettiness and they will soon see they can not touch-get your child support though and pray to GOD to bring you the man he meant you to be with-in due time of course…
Advice-
Get an education…..get a good job and a new man…..and if he doesn’t want to see his son don’t beg him…because he is the one who will be hurt at the end…because that very same child he chooses to ignore will be the very same one who may have to take care of him when he gets old……..So don’t fret get a good male role-model in you child’s life and keep it moving and let things unfold…
@ Anna I agree……….He will get his (if said story is true) Worry about that baby! PHUCK him and that breezy!
pyt305 Says:
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Where have you been and share the popcorn.
Uh Jenny, MOVE ON, YOU CAN FIND BETTER. He’s not worth the stress. Him and his family all sound like low lives.
If she would got pregnant by Diddy she wouldn’t have this problem.
Guess that’s the “in” thing for 2009-2010. Air your dirty laundry on a blog. Is he paying child support but is complaining about paying it? I don’t get what the nature of her problem is? Is she getting harassed? Answer: call the police. I’m confused…
**would of**
Dear Jenny:
From one woman to another you gotta do for you and your son. Fluck him AND that ole flap jack titted azz woman he with now. It look like she done breast fed about 5 kids–not 3. Somebody NEED to snatch that nappy azz ponytail out her head and paddle brush it.
Go into the world and do for you and your baby boy and it will all work out in the end. He will get his.
Keep your head up ma. I know it hurts. It will lessen over time.
Be blessed! Happy Holidays sis.
Your sister in Christ,
Kwallace577
She looks like a swollen RiRi!!
Message to the dudes who believe LSLH is the THANG!!
Tips on preserving your LSLH:
1. Do not smoke around them or allow them to smoke
2. Keep makeup to a minimum, if you can…some of them need to wear it I know
3. Try moving to a city with fewer pollutants in the air.
4. Encourage them to drink plenty of water at leas ½ gallon a day
5. Remind them that Light skinned folks get ashy too. Moisturizing is important
7. Let them know that DARK eyeliner adds years.
If you follow these steps: You may be able to keep them longer.
Does it really matter that he left you for a LSLH woman with 3 kids?
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She prob thru in the LSLH comment cuz she knows Sandra hates them lol…would it have been ok if she was dark skinned with short hair
I just want to know what in the Casper & Friendly Ghost is hanging out that white dress? Is it a bird, plane?
NO IT’S HER BELLY. Hell to the naw!
@ Anna : I been lurking…trying to actually do some work at work lol
Somebody NEED to snatch that nappy azz ponytail out her head and paddle brush it.

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Wow…why not just sue him for defamation??
Okay here i go and dont get mad, but why the fuc is she doing this… Be better then him and his… I mean really worry bout you and your child. Dont feed into his shit….
Im just sayin this is her side of the story and hers only.
Go to work raise your child to be a better man then his dad!(if he is a bad one)
DO NOT FEED INTO THAT FOOLSIHNESS!!!
And why does it matter who he chose to be with.. he doesnt owe you anything if yall relationship eneded he has the right to move on as should you.
Meet him somewhere to see hte kid and let him visit … if he is paying CS and seeing his kid whats the problem?
As a responsible and mature woman, all I can say is to raise your child the best way you can, and prepare to do it minus your childs father.
You can’t make someone do anything they don’t want to do, and as hard as it may be, you shouldn’t hold any animosity against the other woman (or her church momma arms). Some people are mean and miserable for no reason and want everyone else to feel the same. Don’t let her steal your joy.
As for DJ whats his name (never even heard of), he’ll have his day in court on judgement day.
Oh and Jen…when I said “somebody” need to snatch that nappy pony…I did NOT mean YOU sis. Christmastime is NOT the time to be catching charges…you gota baby at the house.
Toodles!
Kdub.
Somebody NEED to snatch that nappy azz ponytail out her head and paddle brush it.
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:lolol:
Then how is she going to be a LSLH…….without that nappy azz pony tail she can’t qualify as a LSLH.
Okay Okay I get it she is basically pointing out what he says about her on Twitter got it… the whole LSLH threw me off.
(or her church momma arms)
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the kind that got that flap of “meat” on the back. where the arm meets yo back. them arms…
ReadTheBlog……… You are gon get me in trouble!! LMAO
I literally LOL! Church momma arms?? ________________>IO
*dead*
I’m a be real with it and go into ebonics. There are three sides to every story and I am speaking from experience. My hubby has an outside child that was conceived prior to our relationship. Anyway, before me he was basically DOING IT ALL!!!! The chick was an able bodied female but refused to work. Therefore, dad was providing for the child and the household cuz he was under the impression aka guilt trip that he had to do everything. Seriously, the kid lived w/mom but dad was paying bills so “his son could have lights”, daycare, buying groceries so his son could eat and etc. On top of that still paying child support. Then I came in and shut down shop. Of course we got serious and accumulated bills (property, vehicles, had our kids, etc) and he was no longer able to continue taking care of the other household. Therefore he was considered dead beat. Anyway, my solution was if she can’t provide a roof for her child, shelter and etc then the child needs to live with the parent that can provide. LONG STORY SHORT THESE CHICKS LIKE TO SIT ON THEY BUTTS COLLECT WELFARE AND CRY THE VICTIM WHEN THEY AINT DOING THERE SHARE. IT TAKES TWO TO MAKE A CHILD AND BOTH ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR PROVIDING. I DON’T THINK ONE SHOULD BE MORE RESPONSIBLE THAN THE OTHER. Nonetheless, I was looked at and still am looked at as the cause of the problem. But I don’t care because I had to talk some sense into dude cuz women will use the child for any and every situation. For example, commenting on how they struggling and he taking care of my son (outside child) and we living good. Whatever honey stop collecting checks, claiming to go to school for over 10 years and yet u have no degree to show for it.
SMOOCHES………….
HERE GOES THE GREAT DEBATE
@Kwall like you said it is Christmas time! I need my job! You got me dying! Im gon be in trouble fooling wit you and RTB
pyt305 Says:
Does it really matter that he left you for a LSLH woman with 3 kids?
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She prob thru in the LSLH comment cuz she knows Sandra hates them lol…would it have been ok if she was dark skinned with short hair
I’m tired of people hatin on LSLH…damn..It’s not my fault my parents are mixed..People always want to use that as an excuse. Guess what! maybe it’s your attitude why your man left you…geez…All my LSLH…where you at! HOLLA! (in my Frankie voice)
@kwall-that ole flap jack titted azz woman
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Daaayuummm!
Ok but is that the supposed LSLH girl in the pic above with the flap jack tits? Cuz I hate to break it to her, she ain’t lithskinnededddddd. Her ponytail is the only thing that is light.
@ReadTheBlog :
So true !!!
Misery loves company and Ive seen my share of women and men who will do anything to take away someones joy!!!!
@LadeeA
I was thinking the same thing that chic aint LS
@ kwall
***phone ringing***
Me: hello?
Person on the phone: yes, this is the “corner” calling looking for kwall a/k/a kdub
Me: She’s not in. Can I take a message?
Person on the phone: Yes, tell her to get to the “corner” ASAP. NOW!!! Do not pass Go.
BY THE WAY, CHICK STARTED GETTING NASTY AFTER SHE SAW HOW SERIOUS WE WERE & OF COURSE THEY STOPPED SLEEPING TOGETHER. BETTER YET HE STOPPED SLEEPING W/HER. SO OF COURSE THE DRAMA BEGAN & EVERYONE INCLUDING HIS MOTHER (FAMILY) STARTED GETTING ON HIM ABOUT THE BS OF NOT PUTTING SOMEONE BEFORE YOUR CHILD WHEN THAT WAS NOT THE CASE.
ok I’m done seriously. LOVE YA SR FAM. HAD TO GET IT POPPING TODAY CUZ IT’S KINDA SLOW TODAY & IT IS FRIDAY
kwall Says:
Oh and Jen…when I said “somebody” need to snatch that nappy pony…I did NOT mean YOU sis
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Funny, none of us thought you were talking about Jen.
AT THE END OF THE DAY I KNOW MY HUBBY CAN WALK AWAY WHENEVER HE FEELS LIKE IT AND I HAVE TO BE ABLE TO PROVIDE FOR MY KIDS NO MATTER.
That is what in the hail im am talking bout!!
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We(women) have to be ready to do this on our own. Not saying it is right buuuuut if my husband decides he wants to kick rocks I AM GOING TO BE ABLE TO TAKE GOOD CARE OF MY KIDS!
@missmiami
Pretty much!!! Im sure there is more to this story too!
@cinnamon
I tell people that I have to beble to take on all responsibilty at the drop of a hat. Cause at the end of the day mine can walk away and I aint the chic to be left with nothing trust I got my own… Not saying i hide anything but everyone male and female should be prepared for a rainy day that day when you spouse or signifigant other walks out the door though we dont want it to happen in some cases it does. My mother always taught me that I should always beable to stand on my own
Like some have said that chick doesn’t look lightskin to me either but maybe she has a bad tan.*scrolls up looks at pic*…..
she ain’t no light skin chica ….
This chick needs to get over it and stop playing victim… you decided to get pregnant knowing that man wasn’t fully committed to you and this is the way your cookie crumbled. It’s sucks but this is the life you now have, instead of whining and complaining about the bed you made, find a way to make it comfortable and lie in it.
Get over the fact that he’d prefer to be with another woman and her band of kids than be with you; if you claim he provokes you so much, stop allowing yourself to fall into his drama and BS, grow the hell up and be mature. File for child support, get your life together, MOVE THE HELL ON… and make better decisions about who you let sperminate you the next time around.
@lovinme………I feel ya! I am thee same way! I HAVE to make my own ends! I want to know that in the event that some messy shyt like this happens or just life in general that I am able to make ALL ends meet and that I am able to still provide me and mine w/o struggle!
She’s a model????
This chick seems real immature, why would you email Sandra this story? What exactly are you trying to accomplish?
*for*
I
Karaz comment42 & Missmiami comment29
instead of whining and complaining about the bed you made, find a way to make it comfortable and lie in it.

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That chick is lightskinned, nothing wrong with it but she is.
:cosign @ KARAZ
It is what it is. I’ve been there and it sure has made me stronger.
missy Says:
Like some have said that chick doesn’t look lightskin to me either but maybe she has a bad tan
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The woman in the white is not light skin? What the hell is light skin then?
@missmiami
So is the outside child living with you & your hubby or still with the bm?
Sandy I spotted that NBA Ad. check you out…….
How can people put they business in the streets? I cant stand that behaviour
How can yall say this chick is not light skinned???
“The girlfriend, his mother and sister have coached him on how to provoke me to anger then record the aftermath for court.”
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They taught him well!!! He’s a PROFESSIONAL because if this isn’t the most pathetic expression of anger I don’t know what is. IF you (assuming she’s lurking) know he’s gathering ammunition WHY… WHY… WHY… would you do this?
missy Says:
Sandy I spotted that NBA Ad. check you out…….
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It’s cute and reminded me to watch.
@ pinky
Is that you in your gravatar? Cute pic! btw..you have a twin in atlanta…you look exactly like a friend of mine…wow..it’s scary!
Uhmp uhmp uhmp
I can’t WAIT for him to respond to this letter. (Cause you know its coming). She sounds like a chick who aint doing shyt for herself. & the nerve to try and drag Sandra in to side with her using the LSLH angle.
A dumb bytch comes in all shades of color. And you proved it by airing your business to Sandra Rose. He may use his twitter but that’s only for “his followers” everybody knows your business now.
Hope the kitchen doesn’t get to hot cause I know he is probably going to put ya ass on Blast.
Burk burk
Dayum they are going to cloWN her for that…SMH!
Sandra I know u sitting there shaking your head
& laughing.
*****SOMEBODY DONE TOLD U WRONG*********
She included her pics & all
@kdillion
I am thinking the same thing why would you even put your buisness out like that….
@renegadesince1985, yep it’s me.. thx for the compliment
I have heard that a few times on here, I wish I could see some pics!
The LSLH drama needs to stop. So what is she is LSLH? Would it be different if she was dark skinned and had short hair? We, meaning,people of color, really need to put the color difference aside and take responsibilty for our actions. First, she was not married to him. She chose to
with him and got pregnant. Second, to let another person anger you to the point that you could loose some time with your son is absurd. As lon as no physical harm has been done, keep it moving. This dude evidently has moved on and so should the girl who wrote the letter. Last, who in the world would ask Sandra for advice??? She’s a blooger not an attorney or Judge.
@iscream
Pretty much this chic showed her true colors…. she acting like a high school girl……
From the email it doesnt even say they were commitied so it seems she is truly just a BM.
@ MsKaylamomma Child women are so stupid. She moved the kid up outta town thinking she was gonna hurt my hubby. He was hurt but u know men they move on and make the best of it. THE DAMAGE SHE DID CAUSE WAS TO HER SON & SHE WILL HAVE TO PAY FOR THAT. How can u take a child from seeing there father whenever they want to 2 OR 3 TIMES A YEAR just because u wanna be spiteful. Honestly, she did me a favor cuz it’s less drama on my part.
***peeps around the corner to make sure hubby aint listening***
Hope the kitchen doesn’t get to hot cause I know he is probably going to put ya ass on Blast.
Burk burk
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Project pat-“Chicken head”
“bwok bwok, chicken chicken
bwok bwok, chicken heads (boy please whateva)
bwok bwok, chicken chicken
bwok bwok, chicken heads”
she says: “He has chose to be with a LSLH/mixed “model” and her three children.”
i say: so what??? were you two married or something?
she says: “He refuses to see the child at my place “out of respect” for the girlfriend.”
i say: why should he see the child at YOUR place??
she says: “He blogs about his “baby mama” issues on twitter all day trying to gain sympathy.”
i say: why are you following his twitter comments?
she says: “I’ve been called a “basic bitch,” “bum,”…
i say: you chose him. and had a baby with him.
she says: “his recent pleas have been for 50 cent to save me like he did Officer Ricky’s baby mama so he can lower his child support payments”
i say: so he pays child support and you still living hand to mouth?
she says: “He filed for visitation/custody when our son was less than a month old.”
i say: so he loves and wants his child with him. and you still complaining? if you broke, why not do the best thing for your child?
i’m LSLH and what does that have to do with anything. if the other chick was brown, would that change your situation or attitude? this sounds like some
ish.
Ok lets be real. i do not know this woman at all, but she put her biz out there sooo…who’s to say that she and this dj were ever in a relationship? all a baby means is that there was sex..so is he really wrong?
@ Free you hit the nail on the head. She probably wants to suduce him @ her place and therefore he refuses to step foot there. These
think they slick!!!!!
U gotta wake up pretty early in the morning to pull one on me
Look I’m not going to lie, if my man left me for a chipmunk faced, linebacker looking bish like this who is someone else’s baby factory, I’d be salty initially. BUUUT you better believe that would be motivation for my azz to get it together and LIVE WELL, it’s the best revenge in this world.
This chick sounds like in the next 18 years she’ll be talking down her son’s father to her son and be bitter as hell…
@lovinme
I understand the chick is hurting and she wants revenge but dont put yourself out there to look stupid. Now all of us are clowning her and not the hoebag, smh!
Come on Sandra I wanna hear your two cents about this. I know u
and I WOULD LOVE TO HEAR U HURT THIS GIRLS FEELINGS 
Free you definitely summed it up!
nydiva4u Says:
The LSLH drama needs to stop. So what is she is LSLH? Would it be different if she was dark skinned and had short hair? We, meaning,people of color, really need to put the color difference aside and take responsibilty for our actions
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:cosign OMG you said a mouthful!
First off he was never hers read the line:
He filed for visitation/custody when our son was less than a month old.
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So he quit her a long time ago. As long as a judge has ORDERED him TO pay his child support and he does then thats all that matters.
If its so serious, copy all his Twitter messages for court when he presents his ‘evidence’…. THIS IS NOT A STORY
j.c. Says:
i just read where kim k says she cooks for reggie, greens, fried chicken, and corn bread. who wants to bet that them greens are glory brand cuz i know she damn sho ain’t picking no greens!
Dizzzayum yall went in on her! IT IS THE TRUTH THOUGH! She should focus her energy on her baby and NOT what he is doing! Like i said (if said story is true then he will reap what the hail he has sowen)!! Just focus on your baby and everything else will fall into place! I know it hurts buuut at the end of the day the baby is the ONLY person who matters!
@J.c. Says:
i just read where kim k says she cooks for reggie… who wants to bet that them greens are glory brand cuz i know she damn sho ain’t picking no greens…..
:lolsign:
kdillon Says:
@lovinme
I understand the chick is hurting and she wants revenge but dont put yourself out there to look stupid. Now all of us are clowning her and not the hoebag, smh!
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But isn’t it typical of black women to blame the sista for the man’s cheating? that’s because black women are projecting our pain onto other women.
some people automatically assumed dude was in the wrong but i read right through this ish. cry me a river
jenny. NEXT!
@j.c
KIm K is a dumb broad to me because I was watching an episode of her sister show…..when Omari(omarion)was trying to “hook up” with Khole and khloe was a straight bish to Omari…and Kim called and said “go in front of him in a thong and some fried chicken”…..I was confused because I was like do all black folks like fried chicken(no)….but that made her seem a little ignorant to me…..
I think she bought the food cooked and puts it in on Reggie plate….
lmao……..@ Missmiami…….THAT SHYT WAS HEE-LARRY-OUS! Her name was hottie! Remember she said she looked like Beyonce!
@JC
Those Glory Greens are the bomb, have you tried the Collard, and Turnips? They have really good sweet potatoes too
@Missmiami
That was hottie……the one who had the bicycle bells whenever she blinked her eyes……
Y’all remember the nasty trick that took a ish on the stairs…….
I understand the chick is hurting and she wants revenge but dont put yourself out there to look stupid. Now all of us are clowning her and not the hoebag, smh!
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But isn’t it typical of black women to blame the sista for the man’s cheating? that’s because black women are projecting our pain onto other women.
sandra, I don’t think anyone is blaming her for the man cheating. We’re saying that she needs to be taking care of her kid instead of putting her business out on a blog. What is that going to solve? She’s the one that’s looking crazy!
@ missy, i agree! she is beautiful but she’s not very smart. so she was basically saying the way to a black man’s heart is a big azz and some chicken???
But isn’t it typical of black women to blame the sista for the man’s cheating? that’s because black women are projecting our pain onto other women.
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Ceating??? Correct me if im wrong but where does she say he cheated on her??? And where does she say thhat were together???
*scrolls back up to re read this letter*
c. Says:
i just read where kim k says she cooks for reggie, greens, fried chicken, and corn bread. who wants to bet that them greens are glory brand cuz i know she damn sho ain’t picking no greens!
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Why cant she e cookin them? Just curious..
And im sorry them canned greens nasty!!! uggghhh
But i cant reallly see Kim Cookin anything ! ;p;
Y’all remember the nasty trick that took a ish on the stairs…….
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He still kept her too! I was WTF?? Oh the fuckery that goes on in them shows!
SandraRose Says:
kdillon Says:
@lovinme
I understand the chick is hurting and she wants revenge but dont put yourself out there to look stupid. Now all of us are clowning her and not the hoebag, smh!
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But isn’t it typical of black women to blame the sista for the man’s cheating? that’s because black women are projecting our pain onto other women.
I
me some Sandra. She stay going in on these heffa’s. She just put the business out there for ole’ girl & let us GET AT HER.
This girl was sadly mistaken when she thought we would take her side
ok i’m back for the roasting. and i see kim k is cooking collards now (SIDE EYE)…
and amen to errybody who told jen-nay (in my forrest gump voice) to move ON. like i told her she need to go out to the world and make a way for herself and lil man and stop emailing sandra mae rose. you got a job jenny? if no, please stop reading this site right now…worrying bout what we saying over here hun, and log on to monster dot com.
he gonna GET his. don’t worry. right now i need for you to worry about you…now scoot. gets to gettin….
i couldn’t stand hottie! ugh! i wonder where she is now????? hopefully seeing a plastic surgeon to get them breast reduced!
Y’all remember the nasty trick that took a ish on the stairs…….
Ughh…yes! that was disgusting..I know she still probably gets clowned about that to this day…I know I would be
is it me or does it seem like “daddy” is doing what a MAN should do when he has a kid with someone whom he choses not to have a relationship with (i.e. filed for visitation/custody, pay child support, etc). And so what if “he refuses to see the child at my place “out of respect” for the girlfriend.” I thought seeing the child was what’s important?
@missy
Im with you I bet she buys the food cooked
Cinnamon Kisses Says:
lmao……..@ Missmiami…….THAT SHYT WAS HEE-LARRY-OUS! Her name was hottie! Remember she said she looked like Beyonce!
***Mumbling to self she know dang well she don’t look like no Beyonce***
@Mornay
thats what i thought to … i dont even think this may be bout him as a father she probably mad that he aint with her no more.
@ lovinme, there is nothing wrong with her cooking them. she just doesn’t look like the type to cook.
Y’all done said it all!
miami: I FEEL YOU!! My husband and his ex have been going to court for years and this broad keeps talking about how she has NO JOB, BUT has three different businesses listed on facebook..does hair AND was an Admin Ass’t for YEARS! Yet she calls him a deadbeat. Did I bother to mention that he hasn’t seen him in 4 years! She is terrified that the court is going to force her to let him see him. They went to court Wed, and she got her face cracked! He took an atty w/him. When she said that she did not have any paystubs or unemployemnt info, his atty said that hubby would not be providing anything either! Her AND the mediator (before seeing the judge) were both blown, BUT there was nothing she could do! I didn’t even know that was an option.
and if dj noname is reading (or his peeps) please let him know that his new lady needs a paddle brush in the worse way and a gift certificate to her local beauty supply store in her stocking this year.
cinnamon said: She should focus her energy on her baby and NOT what he is doing!
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she don’t want that baby (yeah, i said it), she wants him and them d*mn dollars. now she stuck like chuck cause she wanna
I mean, come on, if he filed for visitation and custody when the baby was 1 MONTH OLD, what did that tell you then? He prolly wasn’t even dealing with this chick during the pregancy either.
My advice to you honey, is to GET OVER IT, move on, get a job, and if you currently have a job, get a better one, go to school if you feel you need to further your education, and raise ya baby!!!! Stop worrying about some damn man that has obviously moved on a LONG time ago.
And why does he need to visit the baby at your house anyway?
But Flava Flav is nasty any way…….Anyone remembers how he use to eat……Oh wait when he took someone to his fav. romatic spot KFC….and how he was making it seem so romantic..we could of ate that at home..
***SCREAMING RUN FOREST RUN……………..***
Im sick of the Khardashians!
To Jenny I saw with love and not judgement, but you asked for advice so here it is.
As a mother of seven year old twins who HUSBAND left her for dead in the hospital when I was about seven weeks pregnancy [severe hyperemsis], I will say this to you, your time would be best utilized in putting one foot in front of another and keep it moving to make a better life yourself and your child. Don’t look back. Your out here asking for advice on blogs while they are not even given you a second thought. I’ve learn to not waste my energy, time and emotions on things and people who do not uplift me and yes, I know it does not feel good to be thrown to the side, but I don’t see where the LSLH part is relevant in this, but I will say this instead of letting them “provoke” you into anger, turn that energy around and let them “provoke” you into getting a college degree, and if you have a college degree, let that anger provoke you into getting your Master’s and if you have one of them, let the anger provoke you into getting your PHD. In essence, use that energy you are using towards anger towards something positive for you and your child because sweetheart you are not hurting his feelings by putting him “on blast” on SR.
I have found the best revenge a woman can have on a man is to stay positive, keep your spirit, stay looking GOOD, stay smiling, and leave the man alone-period. You may can’t control the situation at hand, but you CAN contol the way YOU handle it.
To Jenny I saw with love and not judgement, but you asked for advice so here it is.
As a mother of seven year old twins who HUSBAND left her for dead in the hospital when I was about seven weeks pregnancy [severe hyperemsis], I will say this to you, your time would be best utilized in putting one foot in front of another and keep it moving to make a better life yourself and your child. Don’t look back. Your out here asking for advice on blogs while they are not even given you a second thought. I’ve learn to not waste my energy, time and emotions on things and people who do not uplift me and yes, I know it does not feel good to be thrown to the side, but I don’t see where the LSLH part is relevant in this, but I will say this instead of letting them “provoke” you into anger, turn that energy around and let them “provoke” you into getting a college degree, and if you have a college degree, let that anger provoke you into getting your Master’s and if you have one of them, let the anger provoke you into getting your PHD. In essence, use that energy you are using towards anger towards something positive for you and your child because sweetheart you are not hurting his feelings by putting him “on blast” on SR.
I have found the best revenge a woman can have on a man is to stay positive, keep your spirit, stay looking GOOD, stay smiling, and leave the man alone-period. You may can’t control the situation at hand, but you CAN contol the way YOU handle it.
and if dj noname is reading (or his peeps) please let him know that his new lady needs a paddle brush in the worse way and a gift certificate to her local beauty supply store in her stocking this year.
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j.c. Says:
@ lovinme, there is nothing wrong with her cooking them. she just doesn’t look like the type to cook
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For real i aint never seen an episode and she was cookin… lol i saw her bakin but they are two different things lmao..
she better learn quick if she dont!
@missy, naw, i couldn’t eat nothing around flav. just lost my appetite
I have found the best revenge a woman can have on a man is to stay positive, keep your spirit, stay looking GOOD, stay smiling, and leave the man alone-period. You may can’t control the situation at hand, but you CAN contol the way YOU handle it.

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heavn_sent SAYS: “They went to court Wed, and she got her face cracked! He took an atty w/him.”
I know she was
but that is what these chicks get. LOL, LOOK ON HER FACE WAS PRICELESS. U GUYS SHOULDA TOOK A PICTURE 
I mean…she sounds mad groupie-fied to me. She thought she was about to come up. That’s what happened. Listening to too many babymomma-dom fairy tales and got caught up.
Just be happy all you got was pregnant, mmmkay? Stop using your vagina as a tool for non-sense. You are the perfect candidate for abstinence and celibacy, until you can choose someone who won’t leave you. It seems like he has accepted responsibility and moved on.
I’d have low self esteem like a mufugga if I got left for any chick with 3 kids and dimpled-up arms. LAWD HAMMERCY!!! That’s the real issue here.
Ole girl is failing the pencil test sumthin fierce.
*steps UP to the podium* Ladies…if you tiddays hang down to 7 intercostal…the middle of yo damn rib cage…DON’T WEAR THIS 15 DOLLAR HALTER, PLEASE AND THANK YOU. Vicki’s sells stuff that will pick up your tiddays wonderfully. It might be $55 dollas…but it’s good quality.
* exits stage left*
@leapyearpisces
Well said
at first glance I thought your name was leapy ear pisces…lol..I know i’m retarded
missy Says:
But Flava Flav is nasty any way…….Anyone remembers how he use to eat……Oh wait when he took someone to his fav. romatic spot KFC….and how he was making it seem so romantic..we could of ate that at home..
I’d have low self esteem like a mufugga if I got left for any chick with 3 kids and dimpled-up arms. LAWD HAMMERCY!!! That’s the real issue here.
Ole girl is failing the pencil test sumthin fierce.
*steps UP to the podium* Ladies…if you tiddays hang down to 7 intercostal…the middle of yo damn rib cage…DON’T WEAR THIS 15 DOLLAR HALTER, PLEASE AND THANK YOU. Vicki’s sells stuff that will pick up your tiddays wonderfully. It might be $55 dollas…but it’s good quality.
* exits stage left*
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:lolol:
Ole girl is failing the pencil test sumthin fierce.
*steps UP to the podium* Ladies…if you tiddays hang down to 7 intercostal…the middle of yo damn rib cage…DON’T WEAR THIS 15 DOLLAR HALTER, PLEASE AND THANK YOU. Vicki’s sells stuff that will pick up your tiddays wonderfully. It might be $55 dollas…but it’s good quality.
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I think Jenny needs to move on . I don’t have any kids but if I was in this situation I would provide a good environment for my child. I wouldn’t worry about what he is doing or anyone that he is messing with. I agree with majority of the posters that said she needs to get a better education and provide for her son.
This is all so embarassing. I am so glad that I do not have to deal with this. I hope I never have to.
Ladies…if you tiddays hang down to 7 intercostal…the middle of yo damn rib cage
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I.JUST.CANT!!
I am sooo sick and tired of hearing about chicks who sit around and do nothing. I have sister that doesn’t do anything but stay at home and collect welfare and food stamps. She always want other people to do for her son but never takes the initiative to find a job and better herself.
Sandra Rose Says:
kdillon Says:
@lovinme
I understand the chick is hurting and she wants revenge but dont put yourself out there to look stupid. Now all of us are clowning her and not the hoebag, smh!
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But isn’t it typical of black women to blame the sista for the man’s cheating? that’s because black women are projecting our pain onto other women.
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umm Aunty, this man was never hers to begin with, at least her whiny azz letter didn’t articulate that… Is he trifling for the actions she wrote about? Yes… but she doesn’t need us to remind her of this, chances are this isn’t the first trifling thing he did to her. I’m willing to bet that he didn’t turn trifling overnight, and she saw his true colors before having SEX with and getting her egg fertilized by this dude. She made this choice and she has to own up to her own part in this fiasco and get on with life. Reminding her about his obvious character flaws serves no purpose; she just needs to take a good look at herself and the steps she took that got her here, maybe she’ll make different decisions next time:
– get some birth control
– close her legs to men who are trifling
– consider the morning after pill
– marry the man prior to bearing his child
– not hitting the send button on the email
You get the gist
@j.c when I saw him eat I wanted to …….
@missmiami-Yes he sure did take them to KFC in their most fancy threads……….
@leapyearpisces-
glad you are doing good and overcame all that……….
Jenny is a graduate student and well-educated. Can we refrain from always blaming the sista when a dog cheats?
ANNNNNNNNNNNND the “NEW” chick has the nerve to have a black clutch with that 15 dolla halter! SMDH!!!
@ 125 YOUR SIS SOUND LIKE MY HUBBY BM. LOL! IF U WANT A JOB U CAN FIND ONE. AS WOMEN WE GOTTA DO WHAT WE GOTTA DO
#128 – Sometimes smart women make dumb decisions. It happens
We can’t blame others for that.
Sandra Rose Says:
Jenny is a graduate student and well-educated. Can we refrain from always blaming the sista when a dog cheats?
Sandra well let me re read the letter again , I did’nt read any where that he was cheating.
Jenny is a graduate student and well-educated. Can we refrain from always blaming the sista when a dog cheats?
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We aren’t blaiming her. We are saying: face the facts, and move on.
MY QUESTION IS: IS HE PAYING CHILD SUPPORT? IF SO WHAT IS THE PROBLEM SINCE SHE IS EDUCATED?
@ 128 Just because you have a FORMAL EDUCATION doesn’t mean you are INTELLIGENT!!!!!!!!!! SOME FOLKS JUST DON’T HAVE COMMON SENSE.
He is ugly as hell and must hang around with Lil Duvall if he uses the term basic bytch. Take it as his loss and move one girl.
I think she sent this to Sandra because she doesn’t have a voice like his to get her story told on Twitter like he is.
Ignore this smokey bastard and take care of your child.
Kim K thinks she’s funny. B*tch trynna assimilate and accomodate. I’ll be glad when someone exposes her racist ass for who she really is! I bet she don’t even know how to properly wash some fresh greens – Poor Reggie be eating rocks and worms with his collards.
@ LADYTEE
Girl don’t get me started!
I know a few chicks like that.. irks me to the core!!
And whoever said their sister sits on her ass all day and collects a check, YOUR SISTER MUST BE MY SISTER IN LAW!
hahahahahha just to be nosy…i wanted to follow ole boi on twitter. he protected his tweets so i think bm was stalking him. she salty!
Ya’ll crazy…lol. I”m just saying.
NO WE CAN’T SANDY…NO WE CAN’T. You know why? because happiness is an individual responsibility. Take control of your damn life and leave to foolywang in your teens and early twenties.
I can go long periods of time WITHOUT NOOKIE and that fact alone has changed the game for me. Well, it was really a bullet but that’s neither here nor there. If you let a man know what you want and remain consistent with your standards, he will either leave or do his best to meet those standards. HE LEFT, SANDY!!!!
*whispering* this is why I like a lil cream in my coffee errrr now and then. lmfao!!!!!!!!!!!
LOL@ SMOKEY BASTARD
SR is tryna be messy! I re-read the letter and I didn’t see a thagg about cheating. She says he CHOSE TO BE WITH HER.. Point blank. I’m sorry, but she deserves to be clowned..Coming to Sandra Rose of all places? Has she not been reading?? Chile bye!
Sandra Rose Says:
Jenny is a graduate student and well-educated. Can we refrain from always blaming the sista when a dog cheats?
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Jenny is a graduate student but somehow missed:
– the 8th grade health class that teaches you if you don’t use protection and have sex your azz will end up pregnant?
– the fact that if you’re not married, you’re single, so that man technically isn’t yours.
Sounds like Jenny needs to ask for a refund for her Bachelor’s degree and sue her high school while she’s at it.
To Jenny
Do you….and stop worrying about him. If he cared he would doing better. Focus on you, and your son. That is where your focus should be. He’ll get his. This baby isn’t gonna be a baby forever. Don’t put much too energy into this….just pick up and move on with your life. Thats the best way to do it.
Divinebrown Says:
Ya’ll crazy…lol. I”m just saying.
NO WE CAN’T SANDY…NO WE CAN’T. You know why? because happiness is an individual responsibility. Take control of your damn life and leave to foolywang in your teens and early twenties.
I can go long periods of time WITHOUT NOOKIE and that fact alone has changed the game for me. Well, it was really a bullet but that’s neither here nor there. If you let a man know what you want and remain consistent with your standards, he will either leave or do his best to meet those standards. HE LEFT, SANDY!!!!
*whispering* this is why I like a lil cream in my coffee errrr now and then. lmfao!!!!!!!!!!!
*In my southern voice* Aint nothing wrong w/a lil cream ery now an den
sandra said “Jenny is a graduate student and well-educated. Can we refrain from always blaming the sista when a dog cheats?”
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she never said he cheated, admitted he pays child support, admitted he wants his child so much so that he went to the court for visitation (meaning she wouldn’t let him see the child) and/or custody, and admitted she is an angry black woman. well what else is there to this story?
KaraZ, you’re done!!!! OVA!! I mean it..You and Kwall are officially done. I am crying over here.
Well.. At the end of the day.. your child is just that.. YOURS.. Screw your BD if he misses out on the life of his child.. You have to do what you have to do.. Let him be immature and ignorant by exposing himself on Twitter.. Trust and believe that everything comes around full circle.. I would just keep living and loving..
I think she just mention that her Biotch Ass Niggah baby father left her for a LHLS broke down chick.
Now for Jenny, I agree with some of the other folks said, Kill em with kindness, i know B1 and B2 is provoking him, don’t even read his tweets. Fukem, your son will see the true man that he is when he is older and that will be his fathers lost. You keep doing you and continue to do you and let him play dad to bay bay kids. And feed his family with a long handle spoon and don’t make them seemed that your bitter. Another man lost is a real man gain. Anything he wan’t reguarding his child let him take you to court cause i am sure once you moved on you will hear “I don’t want anoher man around my son” don’t negociate outside of courts, don’t let “them” take you out of character. goodluck!
ANNNNNNNNNNNND the “NEW” chick has the nerve to have a black clutch with that 15 dolla halter! SMDH!!!
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girl….miss $15 halter dress from rave think she is doing it BIG. you hear me? look at how she all striking a pose…and somebody who think they are doing it even bigger?
his azz grinning hard as HAIL like he got a prize on his arm…
*disclaimer there is nothing wrong with rave…but there is if you got church momma arms….
missmiami – She don’t know naan ’bout throwing no Mortons on them mugs in the sink! What?!
@Cinnamon…I scrolled back up and gasped like somethng had really happend. LMFAO!!! We are stoopid!!
I can’t hate too hard on ole girl in the white….she sholl is purty. Even with the ill blended eyeshadow and ponytail. Purty GAL!! *SHE DONE STOLE A MAN WITH 3 KIDS*
Bet $5 she can cook and she from the south.
Here we go with this LSLH crap when the girls hair isn’t even REAL. LMAO…anyway, that’s a messed up situation. I know there are 3 sides to every story so I hope he stops defaming her name and everyone can get along for the sake of the baby.
Graduate Students dont sent emails to blogs putting their personal business into the streets. I really do love you Sandra but really, sending an email to you for help isnt the smartest thing in the world because your commenters are ruthless. Now poor chick will be
because we sound mean!
Kwall>>>>>>>>Yup you done made me do it! KONA!
LOL @ DB…….I CANT WITH YALL TODAY!
*send*
terika83 Says: Here we go with this LSLH crap when the girls hair isn’t even REAL.
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i thought that too. wrong on so many levels.
here is some more schoolin’ for jenny: babies don’t make men stay.
Dearest Jennifer
Life happens to everyone. Please have some dignity and save the drama for when it counts….in the court room. I’m sorry but this is nothing more than a case of a woman scorned…I understand that you are upset, but to state that this man LEFT you for a LSLH female was just plain….:ashamed:….*sigh* we’ll say, unlady like…in her eyes you are probably looking very :lame: . This is not the way big gurls handle things mama, we don’t get MAD, we get EVEN. Just like everyone has told you the best revenge on someone that has hurt you, is to move on with a better looking man or come up on there azzez and I got that advice from A MAN a long time ago at age 19. Remember the game, sweetie cuz some niccahs play for keeps. The only reason this man is not with you is because he doesn’t want to be, it has nothing to do with this female, you are giving her too much power over you. Sometimes niccahs are just niccahs for no apparent reason. Take care of your son and be the best BM you can be towards him and his girlfriend….they can only respect that and hate in silence.
Another sister in Christ
Krysi J.
Bet $5 she can cook and she from the south.
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I hope so with 3 dayum kids!
dillon Says:
I really do love you Sandra but really, sending an email to you for help isnt the smartest thing in the world because your commenters are ruthless. Now poor chick will be because we sound mean!
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I’m sure Jenny is very secure and doesn’t take the comments of complete strangers to heart. She is accomplishing her goal of putting the cheater on blast.
I’ll refrain from talking about the pregnant girls hair.
EXCCCEEEPPPTTTT for that mini afro growing in the front. PUT A TRACK IN IT, braid it OR SOMETHING damn.
He left because he was tired of looking at that new growth. LSGH with the ponytail ain’t got it.
Kwall, I can no longer read your comments while on the work phone! I just busted out laughing at your comment about the paddle brush ALL while on a work related call..
DivineBrown……..YOU AND KWALL ARE ON TIME OUT!
SandraRose says:
I’m sure Jenny is very secure and doesn’t take the comments of complete strangers to heart. She is accomplishing her goal of putting the cheater on blast.
If she were secure she wouldn’t be emailing A BLOG FOR ADVICE. *And the churc said AMEN

@Sandra
I really do love you Sandra but really, sending an email to you for help isnt the smartest thing in the world because your commenters are ruthless. Now poor chick will be because we sound mean!
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I’m sure Jenny is very secure and doesn’t take the comments of complete strangers to heart. She is accomplishing her goal of putting the cheater on blast.
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Well in that case mission accomplished, cause I didnt know who ole dude was until this letter.
She is accomplishing her goal of putting the cheater on blast.
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Sandra can u plz point out in the letter where she states he cheated on her…I done it read twice and I’m just not getting the cheating part….
Ugh, I am SO irked! Reading other posts and its awful how much ‘LSLH’ is brought up!!!
So, I have a quetion, had this been a woman that was dark skinned, would it have been any different? Would you have referred to her as ” He has chose to be with a dark as night ‘model’.”
Im sayin’ people! We gotta do better than this.
pinky2083 Says:
@ LADYTEE
Girl don’t get me started!
I know a few chicks like that.. irks me to the core!!
Like for example I don’t mind doing for my nephew but my sister expects me to do for him like I am his father. She expects me to buy him clothes , shoes, and other neccesities. My fault on venting but it really does upset me.
@ Miami: Aaaaaaaaamen!
Whether the chick is a graduate student or not, she chose to have a baby by this man. Just because you have a degree does not mean you are smart. Plenty of educated women get knocked up by men who they know are not in it for the long haul. Like one poster said, she must have skipped her health education class. Common sense does not need a degree. I have a MBA but no where in my graduate studies was there a common sense class. A big “Come on son” goes out to Jenny. Do you and keep it moving!
He left because he was tired of looking at that new growth. LSGH with the ponytail ain’t got it.
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DEAD about the new growth.
and about pony girl and not being able to see her growth…there is no telling WHAT is up under there when she take that joker off and hang it on the back of the door at night……smdh
missmiami Says:
If she were secure she wouldn’t be emailing A BLOG FOR ADVICE. *And the churc said AMEN
AMEN
RRRRRROOOOOOTTTTTTFFFFFFLLLLLLL!!!!!!
Cinnamon Kisses Says:
I want to her ponytail! uggg
Just looked at the pics again……..AND DJ NONAME LOOKIN KINDA LIKE Bobby my mouff hangs to tha left Brown in the one where he is holding the baby!
Sandra,
I did not say the lady is not well educated, even the most well educated women can make the most foolish decisions when it comes to the matters of the heart. What I was simply saying is instead of taking that energy and applying it to people [her and ex and his new chick] who OBVIOUSLY do not give two hoots about her, she needs to apply that energy and focus on the emotional, physical, and mental happiness and well being of her and her child. Okay fine, yes the man is a dog fine, we all know that, he probably DID do her shady, but what I am saying is why even give him the GLORY and the SATISFACTION of letting him know that the whole situation bothered you so bad that you had to not call your friends, not call your mama, but you had to vent in a public forum? All I saying is if she want to put him on blast, put him on blast by being 10 times better, more sucessful than HIM and the WOMAN he is with and it all starts by where she puts her energy now.
There is nothing wrong with being hurt, and TRUST ME, I know about being hurt, but at what point do we as women, say okay this dude was a butthole, he hurt me, but I’m about to drink this WHOLE bottle of white zin, cry my tears and KEEP IT MOVING!
and so you wil know, I DO NOT PREACH what I haven’t had to practice for myself. :;):
Between kwall, karaZ, and RTB… you guys are off da chain. I can’t stop laughing.
@kwall….HANG ON THE BACK OF THE DOOOOOOOOORRRRRR!!!
Yall are foolz up in this piece!! I can’t stop laughing over “church momma arms”, “the new growth comment”, “smokey bastard” and quite a few more!!
But seriously Jenny J, you are giving both this dude and this chick waaay too much credit. As everyone has said, move on and strive to be the best mom/woman possible. You really can’t MAKE him be or do anything other than what HE chooses to do. Let go & let God (he’ll take care of the rest)!!
*clears throat*
*grabs a mic*
“HEEEEEEEEeeeeeeeeYYYyyeeeeehhhyeeeaaaAAAEEEEyEA
OHhhN Uh
ooOH YEEAAAaaaah
OOOooooOOOoooE
I should have knoOOOwn betta that to sleep with YOoooou
I Cheated on my GUUuurrRl, now everything we had is thrEEEEw
Cuz she found oOOOOut the GIRLFRIEND that I newly haAAAveSS
lighter than her and MEEEeeeEEEeeeh, so now she’s hating
meEEE (gurl)
CHORUS
If thats my baYBEEEEEeeee
then what did I do wrong? (tell me)
If thats my baYBEEEEeeeee
why can’t i move ONNnn?
If thats my BAYBeeeEEEEEEEEee
I’ll take care of my SEEEEeeeed
Cuz I never been one to run froOOOomM
responsibilIIIIttttyE-EE”
*some lyrics used from the famed song by Rell, title of original song “If thats my baby”…available on youtube in album version*
lol @ the above
Jenny just tell them……”What you eat….don’t me shyt” !!!
OOPS *what you eat……dont make me shyt*!!
Krysi, I’m going to have to assume that either a) U don’t work or b) u ain’t workin..
Ok, I’m not reading through all of the commments, so I’ll just make mine.
1. LSLH – who cares? If he left you/cheated on you with a dark-skinned, short-haired chick – end result, gone is gone.
2. Stop letting folks provoke you to anger. Sue for child support and don’t talk/respond to him unless it’s in court.
3. Don’t air your dirty business about some D-list dude you let hit that no one knows about. Especially on a blog. It won’t make him “act right.”
4. Just cuz you
doesn’t mean you’re in a relationship. So, is he cheating or did he LEAVE? There is a difference, honey.
5. Living well is the best revenge. Go to school, go to work, raise your son and LIVE LIFE!
Get a job and don’t have anymore babies by broke n*****. Romance without the finance is a nuisance.
When did a blog become an advice column???
And would she feel better if he left her for someone darker?
Why does this have to be a LSLH thing???
Dayum Jenny, sucks to be you. He ain’t even gotta respond. He can just post several of the above comments on his twitter wit a smiley face @ the end, SMH.
@tryna
I wasn’t thinking about it like that….but yea he could do that……….and she gone look stupid because she probably thought people were going to go in on him and the chick ………
LMAO @ the comments. Yall make my day.
It seems to me that she is up on this whole blog/cyberblastin’ thang….IF MASHONDA CAIN’T GET NO RESULTZ, what the hell makes you think that you can? Dayum!
Women be wildin’ the phuck owt when they are HURT! I got WAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAY too much pride for this here ish!
Krysi, I’m going to have to assume that either a) U don’t work or b) u ain’t workin..
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I wish the fukk I would NOT have a damn job in this RECESSION…gurl please……AT WORK, AND WORKING BOO…multi-tasking skills are on point, plus I don’t have to worry about people peering at my computer behind my back…I just have to refrain from laughing out LOUD and keep it cute.
Women be wildin’ the phuck owt when they are HURT! I got WAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAY too much pride for this here ish!
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YOU AND ME BOFF…….you gotta take it like a champ! Keep it moving on their azzez, they love to see you do bad, but hate to see you come up…at all times, which would you prefer?
Women be wildin’ the phuck owt when they are HURT! I got WAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAY too much pride for this here ish!
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YOU AND ME BOFF…….you gotta take it like a champ! Keep it moving on their azzez, they love to see you do bad, but hate to see you come up…at all times, which would you prefer?
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I am glad to see that there are STRONG females! I do too! I might cry BUT you wont see that!
Ridin in my car
And I’m listening to the radio
I’m listening to a sad girl sang
Sang about how she got her heart broke
People reachin for stars
I just want me something natural
When you’re alone it gets mighty cold
Don’t act as if you did not know
She let me play with her heart
I’m working late I said I’ll soon be home
All the while the girl was home alone
Let me tell you what she crying for (Why?)
Cuz I’m fly
© 213 (Nate, Snoop, Warren G)/I’m Fly
Sorry Jenny, this song just came to me…now you see why you shouldnt’ve done dis ish?
I am glad to see that there are STRONG females! I do too! I might cry BUT you wont see that!
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WUT……gurl, ALL-to-MYSELF …
…maybe even cry myself to sleep
BUT I wake up with a new ambition!!! Keep it G on deez fukk niccahs…I got a remedy for THAT love shAT…LOL!
“Jenny is a graduate student and well-educated. Can we refrain from always blaming the sista when a dog cheats?”
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The aforementioned statement doesn’t help her at all. And if by “graduate student” you mean she’s saving enough money to buy a “Masters” from a diploma mill I can understand why she would do something so stupid.
WUT……gurl, ALL-to-MYSELF … …maybe even cry myself to sleep
BUT I wake up with a new ambition!!! Keep it G on deez fukk niccahs…I got a remedy for THAT love shAT…LOL!
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Yup I done cried many a nights over some skraight BULLSHYT
BUT I BET MY BOTTOM DOLLA HE DID NOT SEE THAT SHYT! I refuse to let any man see my weakness! NOPE NOT I!
Now why are the folks here in The Sandra Rose housing development acting like this?
Yall know people respect our’s opinion! Geesh, again Jenny don’t let your baby daddy and his side kick know how much you hurt behinde what he did! Leave it in 2009 celebrate Lil man’s first birthday with your family and close friends and work it out in court so you will not encounter any troubles from B1 and B2 (Bannana in Pajamas)don’t make it a issue for his father to be at his “1st Birthday” because it will only be drama. good luck
As my grandmama use to say “Book sense does mean you have common sense- you just an educated fool.” The key word there is fool. I do not care how educated this woman may be, she should not be airing her business on a blog that does not belong to her. If she is hurting she should go to her pastor, mama, older girlfriends, attorney for guidance and legal counsel.
The Sandra Rose housing development

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@Trynabeme, LMAO at avatar.
Yup I done cried many a nights over some skraight BULLSHYT
BUT I BET MY BOTTOM DOLLA HE DID NOT SEE THAT SHYT! I refuse to let any man see my weakness! NOPE NOT I!
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DAMN RIGHT…..Granny always told me “don’t be running up behind no man, you let the man run up after you!”
that was enuFF said!
Damn you went banana in pajamas on us? LOL.
oh @ Crystal #202
@sandra
PUTTING HIM ON BLAST FOR WHAT?????!!!!! I askked this three times: does he not pay child support?????
If he was requesting visitation from a judge and the baby was ONE month old…he was never in that relationship.
You know sometimes WE WOMEN think we’re in something that ain’t nothing.
Beautiful Brown Sugar, surely you’re hurtin right now, but take this advice. Cut him off cold. Don’t call him no mo. Don’t call any member of his family no mo. Keep that precious baby-boy all to Yourself. He’s yours and all yours since that piece of man don’t want him. And truly he doesn’t want him and painfully, he doesn’t want you either. It’s alright. Live on with your life. Be Strong and Be Single. Ain’t nothing wrong with being single these last days. Raise your baby-boy and leave all of these crazy brain-dead men and Women alone. It’s you and your child or children and that’s all that matters. Don’t do things that will bring Trouble to your door. Cut all the fools off and stay to yourself. Let Books become your Best Friend. They won’t hurt you nor disrespect you. Raise Yourself and Your Family and change the way you are thinking right now. Go forward and leave all the bullshit behind. Love Yourself and Child. That’s It!
This whole post is stupid…..
Never ever let em’ see u sweat….. U know how many times a nicca hurt me, last thing I would do is show him my cards. As much as it hurts, do u and do u HARD!!!!!
Are you serious DJ Chuck T, who is like the biggest publicity stunt DJ, who sends his own press releases out. I didn’t even know that women would fall for him? I am truly amazed how you can convince people that you are doing things!! I am preparing my own publicity stunt as we speak!
Are you serious DJ Chuck T, who is like the biggest publicity stunt DJ, who sends his own press releases out. I didn’t even know that women would fall for him? I am truly amazed how you can convince people that you are doing things!! I am preparing my own publicity stunt as we speak!
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SEE JENNY………NUFF SAID!
This should be entitled “When blogging doesnt go in your favor” – unfortunately this happens all too often and aint newsworthy. Keep it to you and your peeps dont air it out like you are Whitney on Oprah.
funny. way too many comments so i’m sure i’d be adding nothing that hasn’t already been said. is he a bum dad? who knows. this makes him look crazy, but also her for putting all her b’ness in the street like this.
ladies, was he not a bum when you had ur legs spread like the red sea-feet touching the heavens? I’m confused. He didn’t change overnight. He was a bum before and after, not prince charming before but a dog after. People always show us who they are. We just dont want to believe it the first time.
If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn’t want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that’s not meant to be. Slower is better.
Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can’t “be friends.” A friend wouldn’t mistreat a friend.
Don’t settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. Don’t stay because you think “it will get better.” You’ll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you. Avoid men who’ve got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn’t marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?
Always have your own set of friends separate from his. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up.
Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later. You cannot change a man’s behavior. Change comes from within.
Don’t EVER make him feel he is more important than you are…even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less. Never let a man define who you are.
NEVER BORROW SOMEONE ELSE’S MAN!!!
Oh Lord! If he cheated with you, he’ll cheat on you.
A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you. All men are NOT dogs.
You should not be the one doing all the bending…compromise is a two-way street. You need time to heal between relationships…there is nothing cute about baggage… deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.
You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you…a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals…look for someone complimentary…not supplementary. Dating is fun…even if he doesn’t turn out to be Mr. Right.
Make him miss you sometimes…when a man always know where you are, and your always readily available to him- he takes it for granted.
Don’t fully commit to a man who doesn’t give you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
I am sharing this with the ladies….. Hopefully I’ll make someone SMILE, another RETHINK her choices and another woman PREPARE.
~Author Unknown
Jenny done fucked herself big time now, she just made home boy case better based on what he twittered.
I’m sorry but what diffrence does her complexion make, the bottom line is that the dude doesn’t want you. Move on with you’re life and have some freaking dignity….ugh
Other than the tweeting it doesn’t sound like he has done anything wrong. He needs to cool it with the public disrespect of his child’s mother. That is not cool at all.
She doesn’t describe him as a deadbeat dad. He is paying child support and seeing his child by her own admission. The fact that he will not come over her house to see him is not a fault. I have long believed that non custodial parents don’t need to be hanging at the home of the co-parent outside the presence of their mates. It sounds like she is not over him and is trying to get alone time with him.
I agree with Bird, this was really pathetic. She is mad because he doesn’t want to be with her, that is all. He pays child support, and see’s his Son. That’s all he really needs to do. All she did by sending this was to make herself look bitter, and prove she still wants to be with him. It really annoys me to see Women behave this way, you never let a Man know he has that much power over you for you to go to these extremes :nono:. Hopefully she learns a lesson, it’s similar to the Mashonda, Swizz thing. You can blast him and his new girl out all day, but in the end he still won’t be with you if he doesn’t want to. Girl, take the shred of dignity you have left and move on with you’re life, you are beautiful, you will find someone that cares about you once you let this dude go fully and realize you deserve better
Are you serious DJ Chuck T, who is like the biggest publicity stunt DJ, who sends his own press releases out. I didn’t even know that women would fall for him? I am truly amazed how you can convince people that you are doing things!! I am preparing my own publicity stunt as we speak!
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Do anyone find it interesting that this happens then Mr. Publicity himself has a conference call with Officer Ricky less than three days later? I’m Just Saying….It’s the Internet people
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@ Nola so true. I had that same msg posted on my Myspace.
I haven’t read any of these comments.
As for the baby mamma who wrote this who cares? I’m sick of these skeezers getting pregnant by these men who they knew were trifling before they even got pregnant by them. A baby isn’t going to make a man be a father, you can’t make a man take care of his child unless he wants to. End of story.
Stop looking for handouts and get your hustle on chick. And next time get on birth control.
DJ BASIC…REALLY PUT EM ON BLAST
NOW THAT DJ CHUCK T, AKA MR PUBLICITY HAS HAD HIS 15 MINUTES, LET’S TALK ABOUT THE REAL DJ BASIC. DJ BASIC NEVER WANTED HIS SON, NEVER CAME TO SEE HIS SON BE BORN NOR HAS INQUIRED ABOUT THE CHILD’S WELL-BEING IN MONTHS. DJ BASIC REFERS TO BOTH OF HIS CHILDREN AS MISTAKES. GOD DOESNT MAKE MISTAKES….PEOPLE DO.
THERE IS NO CUSTODY ISSUE HAD BECAUSE DJ BASIC DOES NOT WANT TO GO TO COURT. THE ONLY “LITIGATION” IS A PARENTING AGREEMENT THAT WILL SETTLE WHEN OVERNIGHTS BEGIN AND HOW THE CHILD WILL BE EXCHANGED. AGE APPROPRIATE VISITATION IS BEING NEGOTIATED BECAUSE DJ BASIC REQUESTED 3 OVERNIGHTS WEEKLY WHEN THE CHILD WAS ONLY 6 WEEKS OLD – NOT BECAUSE HE IS THE UNOFFICIAL REAL FATHER HERO, BUT BECAUSE OF http://WWW.NCCHILDSUPPORT.COM.
AS FAR AS THE SAID “BABY MAMA” STILL WANTING DJ BASIC, THAT IS NOT THE CASE. SHE STOPPED BEING WITH HIM WHEN HE DECIDED TO BE UN-SUPPORTIVE DURING THE PREGNANCY. THE ONLY TIMES HE’D BEEN ASKED TO COME TO THE HOME OF THE CHILD TO VISIIT WAS DURING WINTER WHEN THE CHILD WAS LESS THAN 6 WEEKS OLD.
SAID “BABY MAMA” HAS KNOWN DJ BASIC SINCE 1996. THEY WENT TO THE SAME HIGH SCHOOL, THEY ARE BOTH FROM THE SAME TOWN AND THEY DATED – SHE IS NOT A GROUPIE. SHE IS NOT A “BITTER BABY MAMA,” BUT A MOTHER WHO HAS DONE IT ON HER OWN SINCE HAVING HER SON AND IS STILL DOING IT ON HER OWN WITH THE HELP OF HER FAMILY AND FRIENDS.
DJ BASIC AND MS BP (WHO IS BEAUTIFUL) ARE ASPIRING “CELEBRITIES,” BLOGGERS, AND PR REPS WHO ARE CHARACTERISTIC OF BEING MESSY IN PUBLIC FORUMS(“IS 3 REALLY A CROWD” BY MS BP JUNE 2009 ) – NOT THE SAID “BABY MAMA.” DJ BASIC HAS USED TWITTER AND OTHER MEDIA AS A FORUM TO VENT AND AIR DIRTY LAUNDRY. HE RECENTLY TWEETED THAT HE’S BEEN TRYING TO PROVE HIS BABY MAMA AS JEALOUS AND SPITEFUL FROM DAY ONE. WHY TRY TO PROVE SOMETHING IF ITS REALLY TRUE?
LET’S BE REAL HERE – THERE ARE REAL EMAILS AND TEXTS THAT SHOW WHO DJ BASIC REALLY IS. PEOPLE BELIEVE NONE OF WHAT YOU SEE AND NONE OF WHAT YOU HEAR. IGNORE THE IGNORANCE.
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good God jenny! have you learned NOTHING from our feeback? gotta keep it moving now