Did anyone watch ‘Kim & Kourtney Take NY‘ last night? The episode took up where last week’s episode left off — after Kim’s new husband, Kris Humphries, packed his bags and moving back to his home in Minnesota where he could live in peace.
It seems that the show’s producers saw no problem with a grown man sharing a hotel suite with his wife, another couple and their screaming kid. So when Kris left, the producers urged Kim to follow her man to Minnesota and bring him back. Because, after all, didn’t she marry him for the show?
When Kim arrived in Minnesota, Kris said, “I’ve missed you: I haven’t missed living with everyone — crying babies, weirdo yoga teachers. I’ve been able to focus here … I’m chilling.”
When Kim insisted that Kris return to NY with her, the NJ Nets player explained that in the off-season he still had to train to keep in shape. And his trainer is there in Minnesota.
We watched the manipulative Kardashian use her feminine wiles to goad Kris into returning to NY to live in a cramped suite with his wife, his sister-in-law, Kourtney Kardashian, her baby daddy, Scott Disick, and their kid.
There’s a reason the show is called ‘Kim & Kourtney Take NY‘ rather than ‘Kim, Kourtney & Khloe Take NY‘. It’s simple: Khloe has way too much respect for her husband, Lamar Odom, to ask him to leave the city where he trains in the off-season, to live in a hopeless situation just for television ratings.
At one point during last night’s show, Kris had an epiphany: he noted that Kim was out of her element in Minnesota, and she was cooking for him. Something she apparently had never done before. Kris wondered if someone put her up to doing all of those things for him.
The look on Kim’s face was priceless.
For a fleeting moment, Kris Humphries almost came to his senses and figured out he was being used all along. A little more than a month later — when the show’s filming had wrapped — Kim filed for divorce.
Kris will be grateful this happened so quickly!
I wanted to pull my eyes out last night. My second time watching anything KarTrashian and all they did was walk in and out of rooms talking about nothing..I will pass.
Over this crap already! Get divorced and keep it moving!
Everyone’s favorite attention whore. Yay!
So did I miss the conversation on last night’s episode of RHOA?
I would say Kris is a lot of things, slow, stupid, gimpish, cave manish, a fool, goofy, childish and so on but gay
This chic right here… I be damn if this isnt the dumbest broad Ive ever seen.
I don’t believe this Kris doesn’t want Kim like that like Reggie didn’t want Kim like that like Miles didn’t want Kim like that like Ye didn’t want Kim like that like Australian bodyguard doesn’t want Kim like that like Ray J doesn’t want Kim like that I could keep going but I won’t…
I haven’t watched one episode of the whordashians, just can’t do it. Plus my reality tv schedule is jam packed, and with my latest add, Baseball wives I can’t watch anything else, including the news.
JMO says:
I refuse to watch their television show. If something isnt on tv, I’ll put in a movie
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I’m not watching but I will comment. Kim and her trick azz, will pay for saying that about that boy.
I hope they grant Kris an annulment so he can spill the tea.
I GUESS THE PART WHERE HE MADE THE DECISION W/O HER AND WHEN SHE SUGGESTED OTHER ALTERNATIVES VERSUS LIVING APART-EVERYONE MISSED
KHLOE CAN AFFORD TO DO & BE WHATEVER LAMAR NEEDS HER TO BE, SHE DOESN’T HAVE THE SAME CAREER AS KIM
BUT I’M GLAD THE SHOW CONTINUES SHOWING KRIS IMMATURE BEHAVIOR, THAT HE EXHIBITED ON THEIR REHEARSAL DINNER NIGHT
HE TRIED TO MANIPULATE HER AS WELL
TALKIN BOUT “DO YOU WANT ME TO RESENT YOU” CLASSIC POWER MOVE
AND I’M GLAD YOU HAVE A ROLE MODEL LIKE KHLOE, IT’S FUNNY HOW SOCIETY ENCOURAGES WOMEN TO DO WHATEVER THEIR MEN SAY IN ORDER TO KEEP THEM, BUT THEN WHEN THEY END UP GETTING PLAYED/CHEATED ON ABUSED ETC.
THEN THEIR DUMB AND SHOULD HAVE KNOWN BETTER-LOL
Am I the only one who has never seen a full episode since season 1 of this franchise?? I recall watching one and it was blahhhh…..
Khloe was the one I liked.
I am glad Kris has a strong family behind him. A family that seems level headed at least.
Where is Man at? Dis is his boo right here….
I agree with ya, nobody wants that dusty dry azz.
The more the Kartrashians try to knock Kris down, the more I’m inclinced to root for him. Intentional?
Victoria Gotti said the whole marriage was orchestrated and negotiated…said she was there when it was taking place
Oh this enhanced whore again
Oh. She taking cues from Sandra Rose’s Books.
Call him gay girl! Say he beat you! LSLH!
The Kardashian sisters expect to be able to run their men like their mother run’s Bruce.
I am team Kris. He’s the only that seems to have sense in that family.He needs to run and never look back. Her next victim really needs to have a pow wow with all of her ex’s. Ppor Chris should have talked to Ray , Reggie and her first husband. This chick has some serious issues.
I can’t watch anything else, including the news.
great TV im telling ya.
Is it sad that I’m more interested in the celebrity chef scandals than this fame whore? I wonder what that article is about?
@His
Say that chit again! …and bold the letters in “whore” so everyone can see it and start foaming at the mouth and seething with the word ‘hater’!
@Hershey
Those chicks on Baseball Wives are a hot steamy pile of over-tanned, leather face, used-up, washed-up chit!
Did anyone see the twit beef that the unstable chick from Teen Mom Sarah Abraham (the one whose babydaddy was killed in the car accident) and Khloe had.
People stay coming after this family…
Dear Kris,
PLEASE SPILL ERRY LAST SIPPY SIP O TEA ON THIS HEAUX. she started it.
thx
Fay-fay
@Cha Cha
*shimmies next to you and rubs it all on ya!*
Baseball wives may take some gettn used to since there are women of REAL color (not talking tans) on there – Jordana or the baseball ex is one needy hangers on and the ex coke stripper who looks like she battling cancer or bulemia – could be okay but looking at her make me feel unhealthy the big eye former stripper that is still married is on some evil witch chit imo and Erica ol 80’s played out soccer mom isn’t a good fit that show should be cancelled STAT
“Oh. She taking cues from Sandra Rose’s Books.
Call him gay girl! Say he beat you! LSLH!”
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OT: If she can drop the bomb on him being “gay” (which I don’t believe) then he should able to spill the tea on her! I use to kinda like her but after all this foolish bs!
FINISH HER
still
kim really screwed up this time. I wonder what she’s thinking right now better career is messed up. really really bad.
Fefe I love those Baseball wives! they are worse than the Basketball wives! Why did one of them call the cock eyed one a cl&t chaser? I was
CHACHELLA!!
:hugs:
FINISH HER
cha cha :wave: <—- immodium AD
I wonder what she’s thinking right now better career is messed up. really really bad.
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Ahhh alas she didn’t expect to turn out looking like the loser TRUST she thought she was smarter than All of American and Europe she’s not even a smart Armenian
Hi Fe Fe… How you be suga muffin
FAY FAYSKIIIIIIIII
*kicks in the door, and screams* Who gives a plastic chit??? *does the George Jefferson
*
Helllllloooooooo Beautiful People!!!
Unpredictable says:
*kicks in the door, and screams* Who gives a plastic chit??? *does the George Jefferson
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Helllllloooooooo Beautiful People!!!
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YSolomarcopolo *humps your shoulder than sits upon your lap to fix your locs in to a misteltoe
Candy…the matter witcha … you got the bubble guts gal
CHA
i spoke of u earlier today 
I so wish I could date Kris
Khloe Kardashian Slams “Haters” After No Makeup Photo
Khloe Kardashian stepped out yesterday without any makeup on — and she doesn’t care what you think about her “flawed” face.
“Some people are so stressed trying to be perfectly flawless…. but I’m so HAPPY to be perfectly flawed,” she tweeted last night, after some fresh-faced photos of her arriving to the gym started landing online.
“Haters are like crickets; they make a lot of noise you can hear but you never see them, then you walk right by them and they’re quiet,” the 27-year-old added.
Haters gone hate.
Chillle put your makeup back on!
OGMOMMY!!
I sure don’t!
JMO says:
Unpredictable says:
*kicks in the door, and screams* Who gives a plastic chit??? *does the George Jefferson *
Helllllloooooooo Beautiful People!!!
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at Unpre… I thought the deer might have attacked you
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before i read sandra’s caption i said “kris jenner knows she is wrong for this mess!”
I mentioned this last week. They were also saying that Bruce was filing for a divorce. Not sure how true it is though
UNPREDYCKAMIRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZ *hits the inhaler
Ya pretty face has been misssed! :drive: hop in, I feeel like doin donuts in the 300!
Oh and he is not gay, My gaydar is pretty clear but that Reggie Chile :homoswitch:
Aww chit nah Mirs in dis bih too?!
cdamification says:
kim really screwed up this time. I wonder what she’s thinking right now better career is messed up. really really bad.
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Knowing Kim she is probably thinking about doing a another sex tape and starting her career over
@OTB, I was talking to you in the otha post
well kim maybe you was’nt so fresh smelling at the time
fix your locs in to a misteltoe
@CHA
Thanks for the ‘do but I already have a mistletoe tatted right above my ass.
INTENSEMOCHA THE ANTAGONIST says:
AND I’M GLAD YOU HAVE A ROLE MODEL LIKE KHLOE, IT’S FUNNY HOW SOCIETY ENCOURAGES WOMEN TO DO WHATEVER THEIR MEN SAY IN ORDER TO KEEP THEM, BUT THEN WHEN THEY END UP GETTING PLAYED/CHEATED ON ABUSED ETC.
THEN THEIR DUMB AND SHOULD HAVE KNOWN BETTER-LOL
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I actually believe that Khole is the better role model amongst the 3 sisters…including the mother…BECAUSE she is the only one that allows her man to be a man. That’s the problem in today’s society…Women have forgotten how to let a man lead.
A man leading doesn’t mean abuse. Being submissive to your man, does not mean you are abused.
Submissive should not be associated with: Beat down with no voice
What man wants a woman who is running shyt? What woman…deep in her soul…wants a man she can RUN. Even the chicks who are running their household….wish they didn’t have too and will cheat on that dude with a dude that has the balls to put her in her place. NO WOMAN WANTS A PUNK. I don’t care what their status in life is.
Even in the gay community…ROLES are clear. Why can’t the roles be clear in the HETERO community
CHA CHA says:
UNPREDYCKAMIRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZ *hits the inhaler
Ya pretty face has been misssed! :drive: hop in, I feeel like doin donuts in the 300!
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ChaChizzle!!!!!!!!
*pushes you out the car* I’m drivin this bish with the Hemi engine (speed racer over here)!!! 
I gots to plan your birthday bash.
jeniefrumdabloc says:
but that Reggie Chile :homoswitch:
Not hardly, not in the least bit or nan strand/stretch of the imagination 
Fayla aka IWhipIt..WhipItRealGood:) says:
Aww chit nah Mirs in dis bih too?!
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Heyyyy Bew!!!
We gots some thangs to discuss. 
Genia says:
INTENSEMOCHA THE ANTAGONIST says:
AND I’M GLAD YOU HAVE A ROLE MODEL LIKE KHLOE, IT’S FUNNY HOW SOCIETY ENCOURAGES WOMEN TO DO WHATEVER THEIR MEN SAY IN ORDER TO KEEP THEM, BUT THEN WHEN THEY END UP GETTING PLAYED/CHEATED ON ABUSED ETC.
THEN THEIR DUMB AND SHOULD HAVE KNOWN BETTER-LOL
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I actually believe that Khole is the better role model amongst the 3 sisters…including the mother…BECAUSE she is the only one that allows her man to be a man. That’s the problem in today’s society…Women have forgotten how to let a man lead.
A man leading doesn’t mean abuse. Being submissive to your man, does not mean you are abused.
Submissive should not be associated with: Beat down with no voice
What man wants a woman who is running shyt? What woman…deep in her soul…wants a man she can RUN. Even the chicks who are running their household….wish they didn’t have too and will cheat on that dude with a dude that has the balls to put her in her place. NO WOMAN WANTS A PUNK. I don’t care what their status in life is.
Even in the gay community…ROLES are clear. Why can’t the roles be clear in the HETERO community
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Where are my manners????
Heyyyyyyyy Choco-latte, OTBizzle, His, Fay, FeFe, IHeart, JMO, Intense, GG, Ysolita, Creamy, Ty, Bigtyme, Jenie (
)
How all my bews doing????? I missed-ed you guys!!!
YSoSerious says:
@CHA
Thanks for the ‘do but I already have a mistletoe tatted right above my ass
WELL I NEVER ….. Hmph!
:wave: @ Mirs
Khloe does seem cool az hell
Hey beautiful!!!! Missed you more!!
Heeeyyyy mini thug
where yo been guhl?? I thought the c-walking had took you and the dogs out for a min
***Meant to type c-walking deer***
I actually believe that Khole is the better role model amongst the 3 sisters…including the mother…BECAUSE she is the only one that allows her man to be a man. That’s the problem in today’s society…Women have forgotten how to let a man lead.
A man leading doesn’t mean abuse. Being submissive to your man, does not mean you are abused.
Submissive should not be associated with: Beat down with no voice
What man wants a woman who is running shyt? What woman…deep in her soul…wants a man she can RUN. Even the chicks who are running their household….wish they didn’t have too and will cheat on that dude with a dude that has the balls to put her in her place. NO WOMAN WANTS A PUNK. I don’t care what their status in life is.
Even in the gay community…ROLES are clear. Why can’t the roles be clear in the HETERO community
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Very Well put…
OTB please email me @ liondashs06 @
pls & ty 
Sorry. They banned me from Bey posts.
Say I be talking that real.
LOL
iheart405 says:
Heeeyyyy mini thug where yo been guhl?? I thought the c-walking had took you and the dogs out for a min
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They tried, but then I had to hit em with Ciara’s one, two, step. They ain’t know what to do. They gave me the
look, and left. 
<—OG chit.
the stacey dash look a like post got more hits than Bey post #messy 463-400 = 63 #realmessy ok carry on
I just want Khloe to receive this comment with
You’re right you’re perfectly flawed, so am I…however that doesn’t give your big headed azz the right to go around scaring old women and chirrun looking like Frankenstein wiht no makeup, a little eyeliner and gloss goes a long way
#lovesKhloeWITHmakeup
OutsidetheBox says:
Sorry. They banned me from Bey posts.
Say I be talking that real.
LOL
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I actually believe that Khole is the better role model amongst the 3 sisters…including the mother…BECAUSE she is the only one that allows her man to be a man. That’s the problem in today’s society…Women have forgotten how to let a man lead.
A man leading doesn’t mean abuse. Being submissive to your man, does not mean you are abused.
Submissive should not be associated with: Beat down with no voice
What man wants a woman who is running shyt? What woman…deep in her soul…wants a man she can RUN. Even the chicks who are running their household….wish they didn’t have too and will cheat on that dude with a dude that has the balls to put her in her place. NO WOMAN WANTS A PUNK. I don’t care what their status in life is.
Even in the gay community…ROLES are clear. Why can’t the roles be clear in the HETERO community
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Unfortunately, it’s this way because so many Men have decided to blatantly be absent from being the Man of the house. The high rate of one Parent homes, mostly Female led, cause Women to assume to role of ‘Man, Husband, Bread winner’. It’ sad, but for me personally, I’d love, LOVE to let a Man lead our household, if such a Man was not a myth, but an actual being. Yes, there are good Men out there, but until you are sent one, keep it pushin’….For now, I’ll keep doing what I do until the urban legend makes himself known….
@Creamy, Thanks for the recap!!
Hershey says:
I just want Khloe to receive this comment with
You’re right you’re perfectly flawed, so am I…however that doesn’t give your big headed azz the right to go around scaring old women and chirrun looking like Frankenstein wiht no makeup, a little eyeliner and gloss goes a long way
#lovesKhloeWITHmakeup
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WEAK, SLAYED and
Hey does anyone have the SAMSUNG Android Im not into chit like that but my friend has been saying he is gonna get a new phone for awhile now and before I purchase it I just wanna know what its like cuz it doesn’t have the QWERTY keyboard that he wants and is QWERTY keyboard available with touch screen anyone?
Creamychic says:
the stacey dash look a like post got more hits than Bey post #messy 463-400 = 63 #realmessy ok carry on
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See how you do
Thats messed up
@genia, i actually have mucho respect for how khloe handles her marriage, as well. she does not put ANYBODY or ANYTHING before lammy.
no, khloe doesn’t have the same career as kim but kim should keep that in mind and straighten those issues out before she decides to date pro athletes, much more marry them.
federal agents mad cause i’m flagrant
really has nothing to do with what we talkin bout but i’m ready to go
awwww shucks…..I Go There and IMO
thanks!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
OutsidetheBox says:
Sorry. They banned me from Bey posts.
Say I be talking that real.
LOL
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I was talking to you in the Stacy Dash post
Yso is defending your honor and chit!!
so the bed tech is calling him gay b/c he has come off that narc drug that is KIM K and she thought he was going to be silent.
WHore please go sit your arse down somewhere.
Unfortunately, it’s this way because so many Men have decided to blatantly be absent from being the Man of the house. The high rate of one Parent homes, mostly Female led, cause Women to assume to role of ‘Man, Husband, Bread winner’. It’ sad, but for me personally, I’d love, LOVE to let a Man lead our household, if such a Man was not a myth, but an actual being. Yes, there are good Men out there, but until you are sent one, keep it pushin’….For now, I’ll keep doing what I do until the urban legend makes himself known….
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Urban Legend huh?
But I hear you.
i have a samsung epic, the one with the pull out keyboard. i can’t do the onscreen thing. it actually has three keyboards–pull out, touch screen, and some other intelligent swype thing or something.
free says:
@genia, i actually have mucho respect for how khloe handles her marriage, as well. she does not put ANYBODY or ANYTHING before lammy.
no, khloe doesn’t have the same career as kim but kim should keep that in mind and straighten those issues out before she decides to date pro athletes, much more marry them.
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I sooo agreee FREE…and lets remember at the end of the day Kim wants very much to have what Khole has…and Kourtney wishes Scott was worthy enough for her family to support her marrying him…(though now that she is preggers again…they will call a flag on the play and insist they get married)
A great deal of Kim’s career is based on her looks….and when that begins to fad…I am sure she wont be dancing around her EMPTY house…cuddling with a SHOE DAZZLE
OTB gets straight
in them Beyaki posts, she’s safer in here, lawd I was looking for a switch, belt, cowboy boot or something to drag her out
We need a DEBO emoticon one where someone is getting knocked the fugg out!
@Free
Do you like the phone his older phone is so busted he wants something newer he has no clue Im gonna get it for him but I just need to make sure Im getting the right thing….
@ Choco…..The Evo Shift is another option or does it have to be Samsung?
Done @ Fay.
I Go There says:
Unfortunately, it’s this way because so many Men have decided to blatantly be absent from being the Man of the house. The high rate of one Parent homes, mostly Female led, cause Women to assume to role of ‘Man, Husband, Bread winner’. It’ sad, but for me personally, I’d love, LOVE to let a Man lead our household, if such a Man was not a myth, but an actual being. Yes, there are good Men out there, but until you are sent one, keep it pushin’….For now, I’ll keep doing what I do until the urban legend makes himself known….
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Urban Legend huh?
But I hear you.
but ya’ll know the story of his sperm donor. I tell him he needs to do better than me and have a marriage before having rug monkeys….
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Seriously…My kid asks me all the time how come I’m not married? I tell him because I won’t have just any old rooty-poo nicca up in here pretending to be a Man. I want my Son to have an honest-to-goodness role model, not just some little boy pretending to be a Man. I know, it’s very sad that my Son asks why I’m not Married
jeniefrumdabloc says:
Oh and he is not gay, My gaydar is pretty clear but that Reggie Chile
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Kim needs a gaydar detector, she thought her assistant was gay, set him up on a date. I hope Kris gets the 10 mill he is suing for.
Oh @Creamy you try.
But its causein they aint wanna get banned.
Bey is great *chants over and over*
Okay wait I can get one from ebay 5 dollars cheaper or should I go directly to boost mobile to get it any opinions
@Choco
What provider are you using?
@Dimpz
As long as it’s with Boost I don’t know about all that other stuff I gave my boost phone to my daughter and I just use my company issued blackberry
cuddling with a SHOE DAZZLE
@ KyCakes… I don’t think it’s a myth at all. You will find as a woman, when you trust…listen…and put away childish things…a man would gladly take the lead.
Women don’t want to admit to other women that they are ok playing the background. You can’t always articulate to other women that as a woman you find importance in playing the background. Especially black women. Too afraid your homies are gonna talk shyt about you….but those be the same homies…trying to get you to fix them up with your man’s brothers and/or homeboys
When T.I told Tiny to pause…she did what she was supposed to do…was she supposed to say “Ninja please” roll her eyes and keep talking? No to the trained eye….she was supposed to pause.
Yes, due to women having to step up to the plate more often than not, it’s harder to find a relationship that is built traditionaly. But it’s not a myth…
IT’s a failure to communicate and bring back the basics of clear identifiable roles as when are grandparents era.
@Awesome
He will be using Boost and like if something is wrong with the phone I dont want any complicate returns however I haven’t ever (knocksonwood) been disappointed with EBAY they have a brand new one for $99.00 free shipping and the phone has been great reviews any advice
switch, belt, cowboy boot or something to drag her out
Hrm. Do the belt and the boots match? Sequins? I’ll take em.
Seriously…My kid asks me all the time how come I’m not married? I tell him because I won’t have just any old rooty-poo nicca up in here pretending to be a Man. I want my Son to have an honest-to-goodness role model, not just some little boy pretending to be a Man. I know, it’s very sad that my Son asks why I’m not Married but ya’ll know the story of his sperm donor. I tell him he needs to do better than me and have a marriage before having rug monkeys….
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Nah I totally understand where you coming from… Alot of things have to be instilled in young men so they can learn how to be better men. But if we continue to see guys not do the things that you women are calling for YET MOST of them are being raised by women what exactly is that saying. But hey my married homies and their wives have been trying to get me married for the longest.
OTB, they’re bedazzled like a mutha, Tina did her thang on them, each time I wing at you, a little glitter will fall everywhere
I SAY TO EACH THEIR OWN, FOR EVERY RELATIONSHIP-IN CERTAIN CIRCUMSTANCES IT MAY BE NECESSARY FOR A MAN TO TAKE CHARGE AND VICE VERSA
I GUESS I HAVE AN ISSUE WITH A MAN ASSUMABLY BEING CONSIDERED ALL KNOWING OR WELL VERSE ON EVERY ASPECT OF LIFE SIMPLY BECAUSE HE HAS A BAT & BALL
I agree with GG. But I also wont hand over my good sense just so he can play his role. A nigga need to know who he is for he fluck with me.
Which is prolly why my bit ch ass aint married now. Who’d a thunk it. Besides my mama, I mean.
444-402 =
not sure it may chang as i type, 
have a good one family
a little glitter will fall everywhere
Oh so you designed/interned at the Keri Hilson school of design previously? Hrm..
*sprays glitter with hairspray so it wont fall off*
#truetothis
#notnewtothis
Bianca’s father claimed he was carjacked at gunpoint Friday while his daughter was in the back seat. Thirty minutes later, Lane’s gray Grand Marquis was found six blocks away in an alley with the door open and the engine running. But Bianca wasn’t inside.
So its still cold in the D huh?
INTENSEMOCHA THE ANTAGONIST says:
I GUESS I HAVE AN ISSUE WITH A MAN ASSUMABLY BEING CONSIDERED ALL KNOWING OR WELL VERSE ON EVERY ASPECT OF LIFE SIMPLY BECAUSE HE HAS A BAT & BALL
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Def not saying play STUPID in the background. The gift of submissiveness is not for the faint of heart … A.K.A children in grown men clothing. But when you marry or co-habitate with a man…don;t you already knew the MAN he is? We have to bring the power back to the word submissive. It is not negative…it is not weak, it does not mean you are mute, unthinking, unable, unwilling, fearful or weak.
KHLOE HAS SELF-ESTEEM ISSUES THAT SHE ADMITS TO
MAYBE HER FEELING AS THOUGH SHE’S AN UGLY DUCKLING, MAKES HER FEEL THE NEED TO CATER TO AND OBEY HER MAN OUT OF FEAR OF LOSING HIM OR THE NEED TO OVERCOMPENSATE DUE TO HER LACK OF SELF-ESTEEM
MOST MEN FEEL BETTER ABOUT THEMSELVES WHEN THEY BELIEVE THEY HAVE CONTROL OR ONE UP ON YOU
I’M JUST SAYIN-IF IT WORKS FOR HER AND HIM AND IT APPEARS TO, LET IT RIDE, BUT EVERYONE DOESN’T HAVE TO HANDLE THEIR RELATIONSHIP THE SAME WAY
Genia says:
@ KyCakes… I don’t think it’s a myth at all. You will find as a woman, when you trust…listen…and put away childish things…a man would gladly take the lead.
Women don’t want to admit to other women that they are ok playing the background. You can’t always articulate to other women that as a woman you find importance in playing the background. Especially black women. Too afraid your homies are gonna talk shyt about you….but those be the same homies…trying to get you to fix them up with your man’s brothers and/or homeboys
When T.I told Tiny to pause…she did what she was supposed to do…was she supposed to say “Ninja please” roll her eyes and keep talking? No to the trained eye….she was supposed to pause.
Yes, due to women having to step up to the plate more often than not, it’s harder to find a relationship that is built traditionaly. But it’s not a myth…
IT’s a failure to communicate and bring back the basics of clear identifiable roles as when are grandparents era.
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I do agree, but at this stage in the game, I have to be inspired. Like OTB said, I can’t just default to you because of that piece of meat dangling between your legs. Please show and prove that you can be the Man. Know that it is your obligation to lead the family, to tell them ‘You WILL be going to church Sunday’ to do whatever it takes to make sure the bills are paid, the heat and phone is on and food is in the fridge. Until I locate the magical nymph, I have to do it and do it well. My Mother, raising six girls by herself, always made sure to teach us to ‘let a Man be a Man’. Fix his plate after a long day, have that hot bath ready and do your Wifely duties and give up the nappy snappy, but only if your Man is being a Man and handling his duties….
Glitter and hairspray yes chile, those two items are must to work for Ms. Keri Baby, snaps fangas and does the splits and yells I betta work bish!
IT’s a failure to communicate and bring back the basics of clear identifiable roles as when are grandparents era.
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Thats the biggest issue right there… I dont think we talk enough when we get into relationships. Its like we go from 0 to 60 too damn fast and before you know it you are next to someone you dont even know or care to know.
bnatural says:
So did I miss the conversation on last night’s episode of RHOA?
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You didn’t miss anything. Peter rented out a dilapidated house in the hood for a quick “grand opening party” for a nonexistent hood club called Bar One. They were still moving furniture into the house as the “extras” arrived and milled about pretending to be partying. All of this was done before the city found out he was selling liquor without a license.
Football player Charles Grant attended the party with his “girlfriend” Marlo Hampton, 
whom I hear has other sugar daddies she’s stringing along on the side. We still don’t know if Marlo or Charles is actually a part of the cast yet. NeNe Leakes, who swears she’s a celebrity, showed up late to the party and walked around for 15 minutes before leaving. Apparently, Peter had to pay her an appearance fee and he could only afford 15 minutes of her time. Oh, and I forgot, Sheree, who already collected child support 2 years ago from her ex-husband, Bob Whitield, was pretended to go through the motions of demanding child support from him. Otherwise, there was no story line for her. Things got a little heated between them (per the producer’s instructions) and she stood up and half-assed tossed water on him (per the producer’s instructions). You know, the obligatory water toss that only happens in reality TV shows because if she did that in real life they would be scraping her ass off the grass with a pooper scooper.OKAY I DON’T HAVE AN ISSUE WITH THE SUBMISSION TO THE RIGHT MAN, WHO IN FACT CONSIDERS THE NEEDS OF HIS FAMILY BEFORE HIS OWN AND DOESN’T ABUSE THE POSITION FOR HIS OWN SELFISH GAIN
HUGE DIFFERENCE, MY ISSUE IS WITH A MAN WHO ASSUMES HE’S ENTITLED TO THAT POSITION JUST BECAUSE HE HAS A D$CK
NOW IF AS A MAN YOU CAN GO TO THE BIBLE AND SHOW ME THE PASSAGE REGARDING SUBMISSION AND HIS ROLE TO GOD AND HIS FAMILY AND DEMONSTRATES ON A DAY-TO-DAY BASIS HIS OWN RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD, I’M COOL WITH IT
I’M JUST SAYING I’M NOT FOOLISHLY TURNING OVER THE REIGNS TO ANYBODY AND RISKING WHAT I WORKED HARD TO OBTAIN JUST FOR A MOFO TO BEAT ON HIS CHEST LIKE TARZAN
SUBMISSION IS SEXY ACTUALLY, I SERVE MY MAN ALL HIS MEALS AND CATER TO HIS NEEDS, AS LONG AS HE APPRECIATES IT AND RESPECTS ME
DON’T LET THE HYPE FOOL YA, I’M NOT AGAINST IT, IT JUST HAS TO BE EARNED AND NOT GIVING ANY WAY TO ANY OLE BODY
Genia says:
@ KyCakes… I don’t think it’s a myth at all. You will find as a woman, when you trust…listen…and put away childish things…a man would gladly take the lead.
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So true
Genia says:
INTENSEMOCHA THE ANTAGONIST says:
I GUESS I HAVE AN ISSUE WITH A MAN ASSUMABLY BEING CONSIDERED ALL KNOWING OR WELL VERSE ON EVERY ASPECT OF LIFE SIMPLY BECAUSE HE HAS A BAT & BALL
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Def not saying play STUPID in the background. The gift of submissiveness is not for the faint of heart … A.K.A children in grown men clothing. But when you marry or co-habitate with a man…don;t you already knew the MAN he is? We have to bring the power back to the word submissive. It is not negative…it is not weak, it does not mean you are mute, unthinking, unable, unwilling, fearful or weak.
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I Go There says:
IT’s a failure to communicate and bring back the basics of clear identifiable roles as when are grandparents era.
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Thats the biggest issue right there… I dont think we talk enough when we get into relationships. Its like we go from 0 to 60 too damn fast and before you know it you are next to someone you dont even know or care to know.
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I so agree……. 100% 0 to 60..then before you know it…it becomes a business arrangement.
I GUESS I HAVE AN ISSUE WITH A MAN ASSUMABLY BEING CONSIDERED ALL KNOWING OR WELL VERSE ON EVERY ASPECT OF LIFE SIMPLY BECAUSE HE HAS A BAT & BALL
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nah I dont think thats it… IMO
I think guys do like when a woman is strong and has an opinion. To me there is nothing better but as I always say I will treat you as a queen but you must realize that Im a king as well…. I feel that some just arent willing to reciprocate that.
Sandra Rose says:
bnatural says:
So did I miss the conversation on last night’s episode of RHOA?
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You didn’t miss anything. Peter rented out a dilapidated house in the hood for a quick “grand opening party” for a nonexistent hood club called Bar One. They were still moving furniture into the house as the “extras” arrived and milled about pretending to be partying. All of this was done before the city found out he was selling liquor without a license.
Football player Charles Grant attended the party with his “girlfriend” Marlo Hampton, whom I hear has other sugar daddies she’s stringing along on the side. We still don’t know if Marlo or Charles is actually a part of the cast yet. NeNe Leakes, who swears she’s a celebrity, showed up late to the party and walked around for 15 minutes before leaving. Apparently, Peter had to pay her an appearance fee and he could only afford 15 minutes of her time. Oh, and I forgot, Sheree, who already collected child support 2 years ago from her ex-husband, Bob Whitield, was pretended to go through the motions of demanding child support from him. Otherwise, there was no story line for her. Things got a little heated between them (per the producer’s instructions) and she stood up and half-assed tossed water on him (per the producer’s instructions). You know, the obligatory water toss that only happens in reality TV shows because if she did that in real life they would be scraping her ass off the grass with a pooper scooper. 
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and there you have it
I’ve been meaning to ask you GA people… Is Bar One open?
nappy snappy
I lubb yo mama.
I Go There says:
I GUESS I HAVE AN ISSUE WITH A MAN ASSUMABLY BEING CONSIDERED ALL KNOWING OR WELL VERSE ON EVERY ASPECT OF LIFE SIMPLY BECAUSE HE HAS A BAT & BALL
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nah I dont think thats it… IMO
I think guys do like when a woman is strong and has an opinion. To me there is nothing better but as I always say I will treat you as a queen but you must realize that Im a king as well…. I feel that some just arent willing to reciprocate that.
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I know thats right!! We had this discussion in here before
… I can’t date a man I know I can run 
HUGE turn off
Its like we go from 0 to 60 too damn fast and before you know it you are next to someone you dont even know or care to know.
Genia says:
I Go There says:
IT’s a failure to communicate and bring back the basics of clear identifiable roles as when are grandparents era.
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Thats the biggest issue right there… I dont think we talk enough when we get into relationships. Its like we go from 0 to 60 too damn fast and before you know it you are next to someone you dont even know or care to know.
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I so agree……. 100% 0 to 60..then before you know it…it becomes a business arrangement.
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Speaking of that … did you participate with the live stream with the braxtons? I was wondering why Tamar didn’t participate
Genia says:
@ KyCakes… I don’t think it’s a myth at all. You will find as a woman, when you trust…listen…and put away childish things…a man would gladly take the lead.
IT’s a failure to communicate and bring back the basics of clear identifiable roles as when are grandparents era.
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:umido: I play the background to the hilt! But I do find it necess on ocassion to roll my eyes and suck my teeth, but it’s behind closed door and it’s for all of 2 seconds. But all jokes aside, when a disagreement comes up, The best way to handle it, is to walk away until calmer heads prevail. That eat his azz up. We have a unspoken rule about what we speak on in public…Tiny knows what side her toast is buttered.
I so agree……. 100% 0 to 60..then before you know it…it becomes a business arrangement.
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Thats my biggest pet peeve…. you start talking then by day three she wants to have her own closet space. I cant with all that right there… Im not old fashioned per se but Im not about to meet you then 6 mos later talking about setting dates either.
OutsidetheBox says:
:Missing Detroit Toddler: Police Search Father’s Home
Bianca’s father claimed he was carjacked at gunpoint Friday while his daughter was in the back seat. Thirty minutes later, Lane’s gray Grand Marquis was found six blocks away in an alley with the door open and the engine running. But Bianca wasn’t inside.
So its still cold in the D huh?
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That doesn’t sound right. IF a car jacker sees a baby in the back seat, they usually put the baby out, or ditch the vehicle w/baby. Car jackers are not kidnappers. Dad had something to do w/this.
Sandra Rose says:
Genia says:
@ KyCakes… I don’t think it’s a myth at all. You will find as a woman, when you trust…listen…and put away childish things…a man would gladly take the lead.
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So true
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Again, I say, Men still need to earn that…
You wouldn’t expect a child to know how to pay bills
You wouldn’t give a child bank account
You wouldn’t expect a child to not be selfish
And so it is with Men. I can fall back and be soft & pink
(Wendell Williams) when the Man can demonstrate he can assume his position and fulfill his role with the authority and greatness that they’re supposed to. Until then, to defer to someone who does not demonstrate he can handle things would be pure foolishness and fukkery…
I know thats right!! We had this discussion in here before … I can’t date a man I know I can run HUGE turn off
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I like to give a woman ALOT of ROPE… I mean Im not the jealous type nor am I gonna be trying to tell a woman what to do. The way I look at it is: If im doing what Im supposed to be doing then there should be no issue with me. My biggest thing is I might be a lil to nonchalant…
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A TO THE MEN KYCAKES!!!
OutsidetheBox says:
nappy snappy
I lubb yo mama.
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My Mother, the Preacher, routinely displays fukkery at it’s finest with her sayings….
Sandrarose Says: You know, the obligatory water toss that only happens in reality TV shows because if she did that in real life they would be scraping her ass off the grass with a pooper scooper.
The obligatory water toss!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! and I agree…she wouldn’t have tossed water…if there were not crew members and security there…or at a minimum Bob hadn’t given her permission. That’s why he didn’t move.
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I didn’t know Mr. Whitfield was so….soooooooooooooo… challenged looking….. Did she marry him when she still had a Miller-Lite Budget?
I Go There says:
I know thats right!! We had this discussion in here before … I can’t date a man I know I can run HUGE turn off
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I like to give a woman ALOT of ROPE… I mean Im not the jealous type nor am I gonna be trying to tell a woman what to do. The way I look at it is: If im doing what Im supposed to be doing then there should be no issue with me. My biggest thing is I might be a lil to nonchalant…
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I get a sense that you’re really nonchalant but I agree though
Again, I say, Men still need to earn that…
You wouldn’t expect a child to know how to pay bills
You wouldn’t give a child bank account
You wouldn’t expect a child to not be selfish
And so it is with Men. I can fall back and be soft & pink
(Wendell Williams) when the Man can demonstrate he can assume his position and fulfill his role with the authority and greatness that they’re supposed to. Until then, to defer to someone who does not demonstrate he can handle things would be pure foolishness and fukkery…
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Ladies I think they’re are tons of guys that do all of this but they are overlooked…
I Go There says:
I so agree……. 100% 0 to 60..then before you know it…it becomes a business arrangement.
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Thats my biggest pet peeve…. you start talking then by day three she wants to have her own closet space. I cant with all that right there… Im not old fashioned per se but Im not about to meet you then 6 mos later talking about setting dates either.
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The problem I have with this, is that alot of men and women don’t say what they want. If my expereince if you tell a man, that you aren’t interested in just sleeping with him and you would like to date to get to know him and you really aren’t interestedf in just sleeping around. A mature man, will respect you and keep it moving!
KyCakes says:
Sandra Rose says:
Genia says:
@ KyCakes… I don’t think it’s a myth at all. You will find as a woman, when you trust…listen…and put away childish things…a man would gladly take the lead.
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So true
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Again, I say, Men still need to earn that…
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Clarify for me….when does the EARNING happen? Is it in the getting to know you phase?…the courting phase? Because if you are married and/or living with this man….how could he EARN the right to live with you or marry you before he EARNS from you submissiveness?
JMO says:
I Go There says:
I know thats right!! We had this discussion in here before … I can’t date a man I know I can run HUGE turn off
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I like to give a woman ALOT of ROPE… I mean Im not the jealous type nor am I gonna be trying to tell a woman what to do. The way I look at it is: If im doing what Im supposed to be doing then there should be no issue with me. My biggest thing is I might be a lil to nonchalant…
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I get a sense that you’re really nonchalant but I agree though
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Okay so Im REALLY nonchalant… but Its not that I dont give a shyt
I just dont have time to be all in the BS with a woman that doesnt know whats up. But I get told that I act as if I dont give a damn… I do but I just do let things really bother me.
@I go there – What is your age group?
21 – 25
26 – 29
IN COURTING BEFORE MARRIAGE, HELL THESE REQUIREMENTS ARE THE DETERMINATION IF WE ARE EVEN IN A POSITION TO GET MARRIED TO BEGIN WITH
I may not have said that last part right… What I am trying to articulate here is ….when we say as women…I am going to be this type of woman IF he EARNS IT…… How does a man get into your life on the level of you bearing children for him, co-habbitating with him, or marrying him……and THEN you turn around and say HE has to EARN you being a dutiful mate?
submissive = mature to understand and let your man lead only if he knows how, but that depends on what you deal with, a lot of woman have this problem, cause of the man they choose, so they get on the defense end, and go cussing him out and he cuss her back, a mess waiting to get messier(sp) Mine leads and he leads very well, and i love it, would not trade if for the world, i cant even get stressed, he takes that off me to, he is the head and rock of us he takes every burden off me, he is my protector, provider, lover, friend, And I love him for that. I am a happy woman Real talk
I Go There says:
JMO says:
I Go There says:
I know thats right!! We had this discussion in here before … I can’t date a man I know I can run HUGE turn off
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I like to give a woman ALOT of ROPE… I mean Im not the jealous type nor am I gonna be trying to tell a woman what to do. The way I look at it is: If im doing what Im supposed to be doing then there should be no issue with me. My biggest thing is I might be a lil to nonchalant…
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I get a sense that you’re really nonchalant but I agree though
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Okay so Im REALLY nonchalant… but Its not that I dont give a shyt
I just dont have time to be all in the BS with a woman that doesnt know whats up. But I get told that I act as if I dont give a damn… I do but I just do let things really bother me.
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I gotcha … I do have certain female friends who be talking about marriage after a month or so and I’m like really?
Then again, I have male friends who have been dating girls forever and I’m like ummm sooooo …
The problem I have with this, is that alot of men and women don’t say what they want. If my expereince if you tell a man, that you aren’t interested in just sleeping with him and you would like to date to get to know him and you really aren’t interestedf in just sleeping around. A mature man, will respect you and keep it moving!
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dating is cool… I never understood how some people will get bent all outta shape when someone just wants to date and get to know them. Yeah Ive met women that I have slept with early in the relationship and carried on a nice long romance with but there is nothing wrong with going a lil slow… Im just not gonna wait 3 mos to get it.
Creamychic says:
submissive = mature to understand and let your man lead only if he knows how, but that depends on what you deal with, a lot of woman have this problem, cause of the man they choose, so they get on the defense end, and go cussing him out and he cuss her back, a mess waiting to get messier(sp) Mine leads and he leads very well, and i love it, would not trade if for the world, i cant even get stressed, he takes that off me to, he is the head and rock of us he takes every burden off me, he is my protector, provider, lover, friend, And I love him for that. I am a happy woman Real talk
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I know thats right CC!! …. sorry, I refuse to call you creamy with all the nasty minds ’round here
I Go There says:
The problem I have with this, is that alot of men and women don’t say what they want. If my expereince if you tell a man, that you aren’t interested in just sleeping with him and you would like to date to get to know him and you really aren’t interestedf in just sleeping around. A mature man, will respect you and keep it moving!
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dating is cool… I never understood how some people will get bent all outta shape when someone just wants to date and get to know them. Yeah Ive met women that I have slept with early in the relationship and carried on a nice long romance with but there is nothing wrong with going a lil slow… Im just not gonna wait 3 mos to get it.
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Really?? …
okay i have an example of the foolery, i had a friend (?) that completely submitted to her husband, he had the last say on everything and made all the decisions
he didn’t work, she did, and he spent all the damn money on weed, beer, and nikes, while the bills didn’t get paid and they got evicted constantly
we were concerned about her and went looking for her after we heard they had been evicted again, they were at is people’s house
he’s on the porch chillin, fresh white t and sneakers, she come out of the house looking crazy as all hell, hair on top of her head, sweatpants and a t-shirt, eyes puffy from crying and working doubles
now that’s crazy in my opinion, truth i had to distance myself, i couldn’t even listen to the why’s and how’s she stayed witht this negroe, he even had the nerve after she got on the bus to go to work, he walked around the corner and was cheating with the next chick, putting her kids on the bus, how did she find out???? she doubled back after getting on the bus and caught him there at the woman’s house, and yes their still together 9 years and going strong-LOL
I agree with you Creamy and Genia
I’m not sure why some women have a such a problem with that word. It’s earned and when we are dating and it’s unspoken. Who says, “Hey boo, I’m now going to be submissive” It’s not to be confused with being some type of hand maiden.
caligirl says:
@I go there – What is your age group?
21 – 25
26 – 29
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I dont like young women so 21 to 25 is OUT of the question.
Im more from MAYBE 27 to like 42… and that really depends on ALOT of things.
@ creamy
I AINT MAD A THAT, SOUNDS EXACTLY AS IT SHOULD BE
Genia says:
KyCakes says:
Sandra Rose says:
Genia says:
@ KyCakes… I don’t think it’s a myth at all. You will find as a woman, when you trust…listen…and put away childish things…a man would gladly take the lead.
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So true
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Again, I say, Men still need to earn that…
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Clarify for me….when does the EARNING happen? Is it in the getting to know you phase?…the courting phase? Because if you are married and/or living with this man….how could he EARN the right to live with you or marry you before he EARNS from you submissiveness?
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You pay attention to the Man and your dealings with him. As Maya Angelou said, ‘When people show you who they are, believe them’.
On a date with a Man, does he always pay?
How does he treat the waitstaff?
How does he treat his Mother, Sisters?
Are all of his ex gf’s whores, sluts, gold diggers? (according to him)
Does he pay his bills and showcase a general responsibility when it comes to working?
Does he take care of his children? (if he has any)
You can find out all you need to know before you decide which role you play. Quite frankly, if I detect bish-azzness, there isn’t even a second date. I agree with IGO, that we don’t take the chance to really get to know one another, going from 0 to 60 in 3 seconds flat.
The sanctity of Marriage, even relationships in general, is a joke and not respected the way it once was. You can blame that on a lot of things, but each Woman has the opportunity to pick her mate responsibly and then, to assume your role as his Woman, his mate and the caregiver, while he, in turn, assumes his role as provider, shelter er and protector….
@Intense – That’s that not being submissive, that being dumb. IMO
In a realtionship with two mature adults, decisions are made together.
@I go there – I’m sorry what age group do you fall in?
How does a man get into your life on the level of you bearing children for him, co-habbitating with him, or marrying him……and THEN you turn around and say HE has to EARN you being a dutiful mate?
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I’M MARRIED AND HE EARNED IT WHILE WE WERE DATING, HENCE MY COMMENTS STATING I HAVE NO PROBLEM WITH IT
INTENSEMOCHA THE ANTAGONIST says:
okay i have an example of the foolery, i had a friend (?) that completely submitted to her husband, he had the last say on everything and made all the decisions
he didn’t work, she did, and he spent all the damn money on weed, beer, and nikes, while the bills didn’t get paid and they got evicted constantly
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Now that’s a chick with self esteem issues right? Wouldn’t you say that Intense? That’s not submissive…that’s something else.
I Go There says:
caligirl says:
@I go there – What is your age group?
21 – 25
26 – 29
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I dont like young women so 21 to 25 is OUT of the question.
Im more from MAYBE 27 to like 42… and that really depends on ALOT of things.
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27 – 42 is a big gap isn’t it??
So 27 isn’t young???!
JMO says:
I Go There says:
The problem I have with this, is that alot of men and women don’t say what they want. If my expereince if you tell a man, that you aren’t interested in just sleeping with him and you would like to date to get to know him and you really aren’t interestedf in just sleeping around. A mature man, will respect you and keep it moving!
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dating is cool… I never understood how some people will get bent all outta shape when someone just wants to date and get to know them. Yeah Ive met women that I have slept with early in the relationship and carried on a nice long romance with but there is nothing wrong with going a lil slow… Im just not gonna wait 3 mos to get it.
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Really?? …
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Hell no Im not waiting 3 mos… Im not agaianst waiting for it but 3 months hell and no. I got this same question at a get together and people were talking about that Steve harvey book… And one sista was like how men should be on a probation period and all that…you know like a job…. I told her
1. There are MANY dudes that do all they need to do to get jobs and once the benefits kick in they act plum fools
2. The Benefits better be on fking point cause if Ive been waiting for some BS then Im mad as hell.
And If Im waiting to get the Benefits of being with you then shouldnt you have to wait to… so that means we should go Dutch on EVERYTHING until I see that you pass right?
OH HELL YEAH, THAT’S DAMN SURE SOMETHING ELSE, HER LOW SELF-ESTEEM BUT HE PUT HIS HARNESS ON HER ARSE ON THE BASIS OF SUBMISSION
AND SHE BUYS INTO THE ISH, HE’S THE MAN HE MAKES THE DECISION, HE’S MY HUUSSSBAAAAAND!!!!! LOL, I KID YOU NOT
caligirl says:
@I go there – I’m sorry what age group do you fall in?
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between 36 and 36
I don’t know about ya’ll but I am actively working on trying to be submissive because I KNOW that’s why I don’t have a man. My Daddy and my gay bestie/stylist, and two exes confirmed for me last week that my problem is I don’t know how/when to STFU
. So I 
this roll over and play dumb chit works…at least until I already have one locked in…
INTENSEMOCHA THE ANTAGONIST says:
okay i have an example of the foolery, i had a friend (?) that completely submitted to her husband, he had the last say on everything and made all the decisions
he didn’t work, she did, and he spent all the damn money on weed, beer, and nikes, while the bills didn’t get paid and they got evicted constantly
we were concerned about her and went looking for her after we heard they had been evicted again, they were at is people’s house
he’s on the porch chillin, fresh white t and sneakers, she come out of the house looking crazy as all hell, hair on top of her head, sweatpants and a t-shirt, eyes puffy from crying and working doubles
now that’s crazy in my opinion, truth i had to distance myself, i couldn’t even listen to the why’s and how’s she stayed witht this negroe, he even had the nerve after she got on the bus to go to work, he walked around the corner and was cheating with the next chick, putting her kids on the bus, how did she find out???? she doubled back after getting on the bus and caught him there at the woman’s house, and yes their still together 9 years and going strong-LOL
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I’ve stopped talking to a friend for some years over dumb chit like this. She would always come to us with these stories and of course we would say “he ain’t chit” “you can do better” blah blah blah but then she would go home and tell him and then SHE would get mad at us. smh
INTENSEMOCHA THE ANTAGONIST says:
How does a man get into your life on the level of you bearing children for him, co-habbitating with him, or marrying him……and THEN you turn around and say HE has to EARN you being a dutiful mate?
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I’M MARRIED AND HE EARNED IT WHILE WE WERE DATING, HENCE MY COMMENTS STATING I HAVE NO PROBLEM WITH IT
I am beyond certain you do not fall in the category of stupid whne it comes to your life dear heart!!! I would bet my house…you crossed your T’s and dotted your I’s before you walked down anybody’s church isle
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HONESLTY WHEN I USED TO GO OUT ON DATES, I WOULD PAY THE TIP IF HE PAID THE BILL
JUST BECAUSE, IT WASNT 50/50 JUST A GESTURE TO SHOW IT WASN’T ALL ABOUT HIM PAYING
GIVE AND TAKE, AFTER DATING FOR AWHILE IT’S OKAY TO TREAT ALSO, NO BIGGIE
27 – 42 is a big gap isn’t it??
So 27 isn’t young???!
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Of course its a big gap but thats how it goes…
27 is young but you can find some really nice 27 yo woman that are on the ball.
LOL GENIA
I WILL GLADLY ACCEPT THAT ASSUMPTION AND COMPLIMENT
@ky cakes – I agree with you! Many women are rushed to walk down the aisle, they are prepping to catch a man, prepping for a wedding, and they have their eye on the wrong thing. What are your non-negotiables? Because what he’s doing prior to marriage he’ll do after you are married.
I’ve stopped talking to a friend for some years over dumb chit like this. She would always come to us with these stories and of course we would say “he ain’t chit” “you can do better” blah blah blah but then she would go home and tell him and then SHE would get mad at us. smh
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exactly you just get tired of hearing about it knowing they aren’t going anywhere
why would she ask me for a few dollars and turn and hand it to her man to buy cigarrettes and beer-okay what a fuggin minute i’m feeling sorry for you and your kids and you just gave my money away
DONE!!!
I Go There says:
JMO says:
I Go There says:
The problem I have with this, is that alot of men and women don’t say what they want. If my expereince if you tell a man, that you aren’t interested in just sleeping with him and you would like to date to get to know him and you really aren’t interestedf in just sleeping around. A mature man, will respect you and keep it moving!
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dating is cool… I never understood how some people will get bent all outta shape when someone just wants to date and get to know them. Yeah Ive met women that I have slept with early in the relationship and carried on a nice long romance with but there is nothing wrong with going a lil slow… Im just not gonna wait 3 mos to get it.
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Really?? …
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Hell no Im not waiting 3 mos… Im not agaianst waiting for it but 3 months hell and no. I got this same question at a get together and people were talking about that Steve harvey book… And one sista was like how men should be on a probation period and all that…you know like a job…. I told her
1. There are MANY dudes that do all they need to do to get jobs and once the benefits kick in they act plum fools
2. The Benefits better be on fking point cause if Ive been waiting for some BS then Im mad as hell.
And If Im waiting to get the Benefits of being with you then shouldnt you have to wait to… so that means we should go Dutch on EVERYTHING until I see that you pass right?
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TPtotalpackage says:
I don’t know about ya’ll but I am actively working on trying to be submissive because I KNOW that’s why I don’t have a man. My Daddy and my gay bestie/stylist, and two exes confirmed for me last week that my problem is I don’t know how/when to STFU . So I this roll over and play dumb chit works…at least until I already have one locked in…
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Setting them up for the okie doke… LOL
Ive talked to a few women and they’ve done that…
I Go There says:
27 – 42 is a big gap isn’t it??
So 27 isn’t young???!
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Of course its a big gap but thats how it goes…
27 is young but you can find some really nice 27 yo woman that are on the ball.
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I have a girlfriend, who is going through something like that. But her situation was…this dude chased her and chased her…did all the right things….said all the right things……her grandmother (the spiritual person of the family), loved him, Her friends (including me) adored him…HE SEEMED RIGHT. And when she would be like “I don’t know” “I dont know…we would tell her she better get him before someone else does. She’s a pastor kid…whose parents were together a long time. In fact her parents died within weeks of each other and becasue only one of them was sick, we believe the other died of a broken heart.
When she finally got married…it was beautiful. The first moments of their marriage…was perfect (So we thought)…..and then the darkness came…now he is an unemployed, a tri-abuser – Verbally, mentally, physically.
… good argument … I never put a time frame on it because I figured it would happen when it happened HOWEVER if it ended up being 3 months than so be it … Then again I’ve been out the dating game for a minute so I don’t know
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I find that shait to be hilarious…. like “Im waiting to get that?”
Ill tell a woman in a minute “yeah what you have is special but it aint no special than what I got” … This goes to those women that use sex to their advantage in relationships… You the ones that play the : OH IM MAD AT HIM SO IM GONNA HOLD OUT game… smn.
I go there – So what’s your waiting period? Do you go to get teste with your “girlfriends”?
@ genia
that was my first husband, he fooled my grandma too
oops my bad no physical abuse
too many brothers and moxy for that ish
okay what a fuggin minute i’m feeling sorry for you and your kids and you just gave my money away
Genia says:
I have a girlfriend, who is going through something like that. But her situation was…this dude chased her and chased her…did all the right things….said all the right things……her grandmother (the spiritual person of the family), loved him, Her friends (including me) adored him…HE SEEMED RIGHT. And when she would be like “I don’t know” “I dont know…we would tell her she better get him before someone else does. She’s a pastor kid…whose parents were together a long time. In fact her parents died within weeks of each other and becasue only one of them was sick, we believe the other died of a broken heart.
When she finally got married…it was beautiful. The first moments of their marriage…was perfect (So we thought)…..and then the darkness came…now he is an unemployed, a tri-abuser – Verbally, mentally, physically.
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Yeah thats messed right there.. she got those signs but nobody else saw them.
TPtotalpackage says:
I don’t know about ya’ll but I am actively working on trying to be submissive because I KNOW that’s why I don’t have a man.
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It takes alot to admit to that. You’ll be there soon. It’s okay to talk, but don’t over talk a man in public. I HATE that! I never saw my grandmother argure with my grandfather, he would point to the bedroom and there they went. She would come out first and hit would pat her on the bootay….They were so cute. My mother tries, but my dad is a needs mental help I swear.
I Go There says:
… good argument … I never put a time frame on it because I figured it would happen when it happened HOWEVER if it ended up being 3 months than so be it … Then again I’ve been out the dating game for a minute so I don’t know
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I find that shait to be hilarious…. like “Im waiting to get that?”
Ill tell a woman in a minute “yeah what you have is special but it aint no special than what I got” … This goes to those women that use sex to their advantage in relationships… You the ones that play the : OH IM MAD AT HIM SO IM GONNA HOLD OUT game… smn.
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she stood up and half-assed tossed water on him (per the producer’s instructions). You know, the obligatory water toss that only happens in reality TV shows because if she did that in real life they would be scraping her ass off the grass with a pooper scooper.
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If that ish was real she woulda thrown it straight into his face. Not halfway between his chest, arm and shoulder. Plus the water beaded up like his shirt was scotch guarded or something. Staged
caligirl says:
I go there – So what’s your waiting period? Do you go to get teste with your “girlfriends”?
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I cant just whats the waiting period but…women know within 5 mins of seeind a dude that they are gonna fk em… now you dont have to do it in the 5 mins but get to know me give me a few weeks and then go for it…
@ I go there…
Yes imagine how I feel as a friend who encouraged her. It’s due to upbringing and her belief system that she stays..it’s hard to say to her… LEAVE HIM LEAVE HIM, when I was a part of the team that told her to MARRY HIM…I am hauted by that….I am ashamed of being one of the people who tore down her intial resistence towards him. The only thing I can offer is a listening ear. I am gun shy on offering advise now
JMO –
I find that shait to be hilarious…. like “Im waiting to get that?”
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That game doesn’t work. I’ve failed miserably at that
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I think there should be a waiting period for several reasons……
@I go there he very well may not be that good and chic just wasted her time too.
JMO says:
I Go There says:
… good argument … I never put a time frame on it because I figured it would happen when it happened HOWEVER if it ended up being 3 months than so be it … Then again I’ve been out the dating game for a minute so I don’t know
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I find that shait to be hilarious…. like “Im waiting to get that?”
Ill tell a woman in a minute “yeah what you have is special but it aint no special than what I got” … This goes to those women that use sex to their advantage in relationships… You the ones that play the : OH IM MAD AT HIM SO IM GONNA HOLD OUT game… smn.
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… That game doesn’t work. I’ve failed miserably at that
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Good and you should have… think about it. You trying to hold out and that may work for what… a week maybe too but you think about the other side of that… You sending your dude out the house with out a shield… so if he gets hits then thats on you.
I think there should be a waiting period for several reasons……
@I go there he very well may not be that good and chic just wasted her time too.
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Well in that case wouldnt it be better to find out sooner than later.
IJS
Genia says:
@ I go there…
Yes imagine how I feel as a friend who encouraged her. It’s due to upbringing and her belief system that she stays..it’s hard to say to her… LEAVE HIM LEAVE HIM, when I was a part of the team that told her to MARRY HIM…I am hauted by that….I am ashamed of being one of the people who tore down her intial resistence towards him. The only thing I can offer is a listening ear. I am gun shy on offering advise now
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Hey thats not your fault they dont always work like they should…
Genia says:
I was a part of the team that told her to MARRY HIM…I am hauted by that….I am ashamed of being one of the people who tore down her intial resistence towards him. The only thing I can offer is a listening ear. I am gun shy on offering advise now
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She’s a grown woman, she married him, because that’s what she wanted to do. If there is phyical abuse, please refer her to getting a divorce. It’s too damn easy to get married, but you gotta fill out million petitions and it cost to durn much.
caligirl says:
What are your non-negotiables?
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I can’t deal with a Man that has a gang of kids, or baby mommas. That tells me you’ve had nothing better to do but be flukkin.
second – take care of your self and do the things Adults do. I ran into this cat that I had went on a date with about three years ago. He was all ready to re-kindle something, but he was still in the same predicament he was in three years ago; no car, not doing anything with himself. I understand life gets rough, but be about something. I can handle picking you up if your whip is in the shop, but if you have no car and I’m chauffeuring EVERY date? I can’t….
Those are the main deal breakers for me..
@I go there – I misspelled, but I was trying to ask you do you go get tested for STI’s with your dates? It’s alot of “clean looking chics out here that aren’t s clean…
JMO –
I find that shait to be hilarious…. like “Im waiting to get that?”
Ill tell a woman in a minute “yeah what you have is special _________________________________________________________________
That game doesn’t work. I’ve failed miserably at that
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I think there should be a waiting period for several reasons……
@I go there he very well may not be that good and chic just wasted her time too.
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Waiting period? Most definitely however the time length is at your discretion. That whole, I’m mad at you so you don’t get any stuff just doesn’t work with my bf and I
I Go There says:
JMO says:
I Go There says:
… good argument … I never put a time frame on it because I figured it would happen when it happened HOWEVER if it ended up being 3 months than so be it … Then again I’ve been out the dating game for a minute so I don’t know
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I find that shait to be hilarious…. like “Im waiting to get that?”
Ill tell a woman in a minute “yeah what you have is special but it aint no special than what I got” … This goes to those women that use sex to their advantage in relationships… You the ones that play the : OH IM MAD AT HIM SO IM GONNA HOLD OUT game… smn.
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… That game doesn’t work. I’ve failed miserably at that
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Good and you should have… think about it. You trying to hold out and that may work for what… a week maybe too but you think about the other side of that… You sending your dude out the house with out a shield… so if he gets hits then thats on you.
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Gets hit as in what gets some?
@Kycakes – Yeah you need a ride. Unless you live in NYC…
You must have a job, you can’t have more than two kids and they have to have the same mother. Don’t be talking bad about her, even if she is crazy, let me figure that out…You must have a good realtionship with your mother, but not be a mama’s boy. Please like to travel via airplane. Enjoy sports other than the ones on the TV….Last but not least have a realtionship with GOD!
caligirl says:
@I go there – I misspelled, but I was trying to ask you do you go get tested for STI’s with your dates? It’s alot of “clean looking chics out here that aren’t s clean…
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Well by no means am I some dude that goes around sleeping with alot of women. Thats not the smart thing to do not only for STI but for plain common sense… So before we even get into that… and Conversation is had and highly promote safe sex.
Good and you should have… think about it. You trying to hold out and that may work for what… a week maybe too but you think about the other side of that… You sending your dude out the house with out a shield… so if he gets hits then thats on you.
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Gets hit as in what gets some?
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Get some, gets flirted with till he really wants to get some.
Thing is this SOME women think that by doing that they are making some sort of statement but what they are really doing is saying I can go without having sex and epressing myself in that way to you… Bad move if you ask me.
caligirl says:
@Kycakes – Yeah you need a ride. Unless you live in NYC…
You must have a job, you can’t have more than two kids and they have to have the same mother. Don’t be talking bad about her, even if she is crazy, let me figure that out…You must have a good realtionship with your mother, but not be a mama’s boy. Please like to travel via airplane. Enjoy sports other than the ones on the TV….Last but not least have a realtionship with GOD!
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Why did you have to add via airplane??
This past summer, this girl I went to high school with posted a status about “chittin on hoez because she was going to Wisconsin Dells” … a fuggin water park less than an hour away from the chi
I Go There says:
Good and you should have… think about it. You trying to hold out and that may work for what… a week maybe too but you think about the other side of that… You sending your dude out the house with out a shield… so if he gets hits then thats on you.
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Gets hit as in what gets some?
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Get some, gets flirted with till he really wants to get some.
Thing is this SOME women think that by doing that they are making some sort of statement but what they are really doing is saying I can go without having sex and epressing myself in that way to you… Bad move if you ask me.
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“If a woman ever steals your man, there’s no better revenge than letting her keep him”
I Go There – I was just thinking about the reference of timing and waiting. It’s possible to have as many as 6 – 8 dates a year… So the waiting period is crucial for anyone. I think that’s why most women wait. Some women are letting Tony hit and just making the next one wait…..#realtalk
@JMO
“If a woman ever steals your man, there’s no better revenge than letting her keep him”
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:appluad:
“If a woman ever steals your man, there’s no better revenge than letting her keep him”
And then I’ll add:
“The worst thing I can do to hurt you, is to stop fukcing with you”
*cues I’ve Got The Power*
@ya’ll
A man hates that tyype of silence
Genia: You left withought saying bye
“If a woman ever steals your man, there’s no better revenge than letting her keep him”
(It’s simple: Khloe has way too much respect for her husband, Lamar Odom, to ask him to leave the city where he trains in the off-season, to live in a hopeless situation just for television ratings)……………. Amen! Amen! Sandra Rose Amen! Kim is a fake who***
They trying to make Kris, look like the bad person.
so Kris is the only one who didn’t get the memo that he was literally a TV husband only? In that position, Kim is still free to whore around and give worthless head and yawning sex to the highest ad agency. poor Kris Humphries.
defamation of character, re: the mag cover. your snatch reeked of day old salmon. no man is that desperate Kim.
GO AWAY!
Why is this family famous?
Musically talented like the Jacksons?- NOPE
Actors like the Smiths, Pitts/Jolies, Gyllenhaals?- NOPE
Soccer star like the Beckhams?- NOPE
A member of the Baldwin brothers?-NOPE
They won a Oscar, Tony, Grammy, Golden Globe? NOPE
AGAIN, the question is why?