A well-known author has written a book proving that men are pre-wired to cheat because they like sex — even though they love their wives or girlfriends.
Professor Eric Anderson’s book The Monogamy Gap: Men, Love, and The Reality of Cheating, details a study that he conducted using 120 college students. Anderson found that cheating is the norm for men, not the exception.
In the study, Anderson found that 78% of the male participants cheated on their wives or girlfriends — even though they loved their partners and did not want to break up.
In an interview with The Huffington Post, Anderson states that “infidelity does not break marriages up; it is the unreasonable expectation that a marriage must restrict sex that breaks a marriage up.”
In other words, it’s not the cheating that breaks up marriages, it’s women’s unrealistic expectations that a man should have sex with only one woman.
In order to preserve human existence, man must be fruitful (highly productive) and sow the seeds of future generations. This can not be achieved if 90% of men are married monogamously to a single woman and each couple bears an average of 2.5 children.
If men were not more sexually productive, the human species would cease to exist due to the effects of disease, deaths, old age, etc. Not to mention the deformities from inbreeding (incest between blood relatives).
Millions of years ago, the human lifespan was much shorter than it is today. But the rules of Evolution still apply even though women selfishly and stubbornly cling to the narcissistic notion that they “own” their men. Human beings are not born to be owned. And neither are we born to be monogamous.
Over the years women have grown to accept the fact that men are born to cheat.
Actress Goldie Hawn has been in a relationship with actor Kurt Russell for 27 years. Goldie believes that infidelity is in a man’s nature.
“I don’t believe we own anybody,” the actress said in a Vanity Fair interview. “I don’t think Kurt sexually only has eyes for me…The reality of him going out, of traveling, of seeing a woman—I think it’s kind of unnatural not to have those tendencies,”Adds Kurt, “Men are not suppose to see one woman and only desire one woman…that’s just science. If the species doesn’t mutate, it’ll die…This is a man. That is what he is on earth for.” Source
In some cultures infidelity and polygamy are accepted ways of life. In those cultures men bear children with multiple women the way it was originally intended to be.
Dr. Anderson maintains that women should allow their men to stray without subjecting them to any of the highly emotional guilt trips that women are famous for.
Many of you women will discuss Dr. Anderson’s study as foolishness. But that won’t stop your man from looking at other women, or desiring them sexually.
with CD
and then 
Sandra,
I respect this post, but can we PLEASE not ignore the fact that women need to be with other men too?????
A BUNCH OF BULL…
Oh ok :rollseyes:
I hear the beehive coming
how ocho say it…….. “chile please”
You just posted a story with Trina Braxton Solis & her husband Gabe… who is an admitted cheater & who was recently found to have been cheating online…. why not use a picture of him & Trina?
I mean, the evidence is here & clear….you must really hate Beyonce’. SMH
I Love Bey with DARK hair. I just heard Jay-Z song dedicated to his daughter…she’s featured on the end crying….cute, I was shocked to hear him say they’ve suffered a miscarriage though, him and Bey were always so secretive. (Not saying she didn’t suffer one, just observing).
Dr. Anderson maintains that women should allow their men to stray without subjecting them to any of the highly emotional guilt trips that women are famous for.
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In addition to this Dr. Anderson maintains that men should also allow their women to stray without subjecting them to any of the highly emotional guilt trips that humans are famous for…
So I just heard JayZ’s “Glory”….Ummm did Bey have a miscarriage before?? Or maybe Im too into the lyrics
On topic: Did they do this same test to see what percentage of woman have cheated???
So male college students are considered the “men” that cheat? Of course. Call me when they do a study of professional working men.
Chile please.
I disagree.
So the fact that women like sex too isn’t a factor? The fact that women cheat too isn’t a factor?
Cheating has nothing to do with men being wired to want other women but more do with the fact that the human flesh is weak and some people simply have so self control.
Believing a man will always cheat just because he’s a man is a cheating man’s dream come true. People cheat, male or female, because they want to. It’s not genetics, it doesn’t come down to having a penis or not, it’s not evolution… it’s a choice that people make and people need to stop trying to justify that ish. If my man cheated tomorrow, it would have nothing to do with him having equipment that I’m lacking and everything to do with him being a cheating son of a btch. And if I forgive him, it has nothing to do with me acknowledging and accepting his shortcomings as a man.
I swear people sprout off some of the most insane stuff, put it in a book and other people will believe it
anyways Jay Z juat released a song called “Glory ft the baby”
That Glory made me year up. They appear to be very happy and In love.
I’m okay with this as long as men will agree that women are not meant to be with just one man forever either.
I can think of about 4 men besides Mister that I would like to have blow my back out RIGHT now…..but apparently, infidelity is frowned upon by Mister so…it is what it is. If I gotta keep my legs closed, his dikk needs to stay in his pants. Live with it.
Oh God

Mr.BluPhi says:
So I just heard JayZ’s “Glory”….Ummm did Bey have a miscarriage before?? Or maybe Im too into the lyrics
On topic: Did they do this same test to see what percentage of woman have cheated???
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I took she had a miscarriage
This study is so one-sided I don’t even know where to begin… *sigh*
lovezoe says:
So male college students are considered the “men” that cheat? Of course. Call me when they do a study of professional working men.
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Call me when they interview, lil ray ray and’em from down the street. ok and thank you, College GUYS, Really…
AndThenIHitMyDougie says:
I’m okay with this as long as men will agree that women are not meant to be with just one man forever either.
I can think of about 4 men besides Mister that I would like to have blow my back out RIGHT now…..but apparently, infidelity is frowned upon by Mister so…it is what it is. If I gotta keep my legs closed, his dikk needs to stay in his pants. Live with it.
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THIS^^^^^^ @Dougie, I swear you and I are the same chick sometimes…
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@ MsEverything
I thought the song was cute but I’m not a Jay fan.. but I’m happy that he’s happy and you can hear the emotion in his voice. Now he needs to get out the studio and bond with his baby girl… no more tracks from either of them for awhile
@ Ms. Everything
@Dougie and there lies the problem I have with this “study”. It acts as if women don’t want to be with others (which we know isn’t true. Just tune into Paternity test Tuesday or Maury to see how women cheat, often!) outside of relationship/marriage.
If you told a man that he needs to let his woman step out on him he’d look at you like “bitch please”…
No offense, and I know Sandra put that pic up there…but I DO NOT want this thread to turn into a Bey and Jay thread….Please!!!!
lovezoe says:
So male college students are considered the “men” that cheat? Of course. Call me when they do a study of professional working men.
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Exactly!!!
Men are not the only ones that like sex. So this is bs. It’s about self-control.
HEYYYY EVERYBODY!* Krustie Clown voice
And I like how you tried to throw in the whole populate the earth spin as if that’s supposed to somehow explain cheating?? Chiiiiiiile DOWN.
“Lies, fairytales, and fallacies” – Kid Fury
So Bey and Jay are already pimpin out the baby by putting her on tracks?
Heeey Ms.Everything. I
your post just now. I had to put my “prayer cloth” over my thighs (cuz my skirt was too short) because you was in the pulpit preachin’ on that one!
*heading to give Minister Ms.Everything a rag to wipe the sweat up & some water after that sermon*
But marriages end most often about money anyway.
There is soo much wrong here I done ebn know where to start.
How about we just talk about Bey and Jay since they are pictured.
lipstickbandit says:
I Love Bey with DARK hair. I just heard Jay-Z song dedicated to his daughter…she’s featured on the end crying….cute, I was shocked to hear him say they’ve suffered a miscarriage though, him and Bey were always so secretive. (Not saying she didn’t suffer one, just observing).
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It was a beautiful song…
@Mamacita
I’ma go cheat on Mister and pull this study out of my azz with the prefix “wo-” added to every instance of “men.” Mister will probably cuss me out….
….after he knockes me out with this damn “study!”
Ludicrousness!
It is absolutely foolish to belive that this “finding” doesn’t go both ways. As if it’s natural for a woman to only desire to sleep with one man until she dies and to not be sexually attracted to other men and that lack of desire prevents her from cheating. If men want to sleep with countless women with no responsibility, they should not get married. Simple as that. No one will judge you for living the way that makes you happy and you can still reproduce without being married as it happens every day.
“Lies, fairytales, and fallacies” – Kid Fury
When he said that I fell OUT!!
“Lies, fairytales, and fallacies” – Kid Fury
OTB says:
How about we just talk about Bey and Jay since they are pictured.
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:stop: *runs atchu in slow motion yelling NNNNNNNNOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!*
GiGi says:
So Bey and Jay are already pimpin out the baby by putting her on tracks?
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what???? r u serious…?
To the topic..
Didnt Jay-Z have a miscarriage with the woman he made “Song Cry” for? Not that Glory isnt about him and Bey-just asking for conversation’s sake…. I loved Jay for that song…
So Bey and Jay are already pimpin out the baby by putting her on tracks?
I make my kids wash the dishes and do some of my “ofc work” when I bring it home. Dont call the ppl….second thought, call ’em. They asses will be packed.
Don’t you know women were only put here to do everything the man says? Men can cheat, but us wholesome girls just have to deal with it and have dinner on the table when the cheating bastard comes home.
XanBeans says:
It is absolutely foolish to belive that this “finding” doesn’t go both ways. As if it’s natural for a woman to only desire to sleep with one man until she dies and to not be sexually attracted to other men and that lack of desire prevents her from cheating. If men want to sleep with countless women with no responsibility, they should not get married. Simple as that. No one will judge you for living the way that makes you happy and you can still reproduce without being married as it happens every day.
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^^^^^THE REALEST CHIT SAID IN THIS POST!
Well isnt this something crazy… Im not about to even fk with this.
Its enough opinions as is.
Ok so what are you really trying to say Sandra?
How come you always mention committed wives of Athletes/Rappers/ETC as LONG SUFFERING WIFE…. you downgrade them for sticking by their men when they do cheat yet you put post like this up.
Make up your mind!
Hmmm… if what the good doctor says is true then we would have to dismantled the entire idea and structure of marriage and family that we currently subscribe to today. If men are allowed to sleep around however they see fit are they still financially responsible for the offspring that will eventually come forth? What about STDs & HIV? Is marriage still necessary? And why is it that men are the only ones who are allowed to be whores? Can women get in on the fun if they choose? I’m a grown man and I don’t buy the BS that we HAVE to sleep around… It’s a CHOICE goddamnit! Those of who cheat (male for female) CHOOSE to be trifling, selfish azzez!
I thought Song Cry was about cheating and neglect of his girl, not a baby..
AIDS is too real to be running around freaking around.
Sorry. I didnt see your post until afterwards. Whats wrong with talking about them.
We wanna get Sandra a new backpack. Appreciation and chit.

@ MsEverything
#REALTALK
Define “cheating”.
…..or should I just go read the post.
“The Huffington Post noted that in the study, men were perfectly alright with sex outside of a relationship for them, but not for their partners.”
“The sample size and targeted group is questionable to stand alone as a study, the Media Research Centre Network said, and asking undergraduate men about monogamy – in a time many are exploring and pushing boundaries.”
And you use this study as undeniable proof?
Oh…
@OTB… Yeah mostly..but I thought he made a reference in there and I dont have either ipod with me … Im glad I was wrong. Miscarriages seem to devastate more than not getting preggo in the first place.
@LoveZoe
Bull-SHAT!! Mister can try to run around if he want. “It ain’t no fun if your girl can;t get none.”
I ain;t sitting at home waiting for NO-BOD-E. I ain’t Kima, Keisha or Pam, babe.
@OTB
I’m just so TIRED of hearing about them, I think the conversation in this thread could possibly get interesting without mentioning BeyJay…
so we dont get the jay baby carter song post?
Mamacita says:
“The Huffington Post noted that in the study, men were perfectly alright with sex outside of a relationship for them, but not for their partners.”
“The sample size and targeted group is questionable to stand alone as a study, the Media Research Centre Network said, and asking undergraduate men about monogamy – in a time many are exploring and pushing boundaries.”
And you use this study as undeniable proof? Oh…
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You know this “study” was just another reason for her to throw Bey and Jay picture up. Stalker much
I feel cheating is anything you have to hide from your partner. I also feel emotional cheating is far worse than physical.
I have two close male friends….one that is is straight up HOE, who will f@ck anything moving with a big azz and a smile. He grew up with his Father (didn’t live with his Mom and don’t have a relationship with her either) and said his Father cheated on his step mother with many woman. He said he thought it was the norm to cheat because that is what he saw. I remember asking him if he ever has been faithful while in a relatioship and he said he can’t remember. He just divorced his wife of 10 years. He said he cheated 9 out of those 10 years they were married.
My other friend grew up with a single mother and his twin sister. He said his mother always told him to think about his actions first. He said she would tell him to make sure he didn’t lie chicks. If it was just going to be only sex, then let ’em know and give them the chose if they want to deal with it or not. He said one night he overheard his mother crying about her man cheating on her and he vowed he would never make a women feel the way his mother felt. He has never cheated (according to him) on his wife of 15 years.
@OTB
No more Bey & Jay please. I can’t take anymore. If they did have a miscarriage- I’m glad they were about to rebound from it and have bought forth a healthy baby.
I just cannot with the J & B posts today.
Also- I cannot with Jay already trying to capitalize off his “fresh-out-the-twat” daughter. Nope.
I say GODDAMNNNN!!!!!!!!!
But the ppl have spoken Fe!
Look at all these requests for Blue Ivy Cream I mean Carter. …but has anyone truly agreed with Sandra?
Ahhh thats sad for the men who believe this and live this way cuz that chit will surely blow up in said man’s face when the other men come to cheat with their wives STUPID THEORY AND EVEN DUMBER CYCLE
Goes into lurk mode with Creamy…for some reason folks actually CARE about these muthafukkas!
LoveZoe you aint neva told a lie…
lovezoe says:
I feel cheating is anything you have to hide from your partner. I also feel emotional cheating is far worse than physical.
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I so agree!
*Beyonce voice*
I know you dont care too much…but I Care!
Sorry. Forgot to turn on the fan for my hair…
@OTB
Ironically that is my FAVORITE song off the ‘4’ album…
In the above pic, Bey is channeling/favors Trina Braxton.
Ok back on topic….
Those of who cheat (male for female) CHOOSE to be trifling, selfish azzez!

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I read that here before Fe.
Hence the bold.
Emotional cheating is worse thats the one you seem to have trouble letting go!
IDGAF about Bey and Jay I thought this post was about cheating and their dumb azz pic is up there
So damn baby aint even breavin 48hrs yet…and sh ealready on tracks being exploited
@OTB
You sneaky little devil you…
The reality is whether you ladies like it or not, your men look at other women and some men fantasize about sleeping with other women. It’s not poor self-control, it’s part of the evolutionary process. Men have to cheat to further the species.
I used to be so much better at throwing chit back up in our faces. Imma have to start keeping a little notepad. Been slipping lately.
Sandra Rose says:
The reality is whether you ladies like it or not, your men look at other women and some men fantasize about sleeping with other women. It’s not poor self-control, it’s part of the evolutionary process. Men have to cheat to further the species.
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I AGREE WITH YOU!
(well except for that LAST sentence…because that could get hairy with disease, child support, possible incest, etc.)
But let’s not dismiss the other side of the coin, women want more than one peen too!!!! We look at other men and fantasize about sleeping with them too!!! It’s not poor self-control, it’s a part of being HUMAN!!!
…IJS… 
Sandra Rose says:
The reality is whether you ladies like it or not, your men look at other women and some men fantasize about sleeping with other women. It’s not poor self-control, it’s part of the evolutionary process. Men have to cheat to further the species.
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So why call the woman that deal with it “long suffering wives”?
TATTTTTED TA TA’s… you so pretty WOMAN!!!
:wave:
There are some women who cheat almost as much as men do. But I guess the author of this book and Sandra chose not to discuss the female gender’s desires.
But since we’re just talking about men, I do agree that many more males can separate the concept of love from the act of sex. Many male cheaters do LOVE their wives, and they treat sex as nothing more than a fun activity such as watching a football game or eating a pizza. They no it would hurt their wives if they found out, so that’s why they hide their cheating way. But they still have a chauvinistic atittude becasue they believe that since they are the man in the relationship, they have more of a right to cheat on their spouse than vice versa.
I agree with one of the earlier posters. If you wanna fukk a lot of women, then you shouldn’t get married. Wilt Chamberlain and his 20,000 bedroom conquests is a perfect example.
amatrex says:
There are some women who cheat almost as much as men do. But I guess the author of this book and Sandra chose not to discuss the female gender’s desires.
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We know that men don’t cheat by themselves. But studies have shown that men cheat way more on average than women do.
Reezy says:
So why call the woman that deal with it “long suffering wives”?
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That’s just a term I use to describe women who stay in a marriage with an abusive man.
If men didn’t cheat, a lot of us would not be here. In fact, this blog would not be here.
Ms. Everything says:
Believing a man will always cheat just because he’s a man is a cheating man’s dream come true. People cheat, male or female, because they want to. It’s not genetics, it doesn’t come down to having a penis or not, it’s not evolution… it’s a choice that people make and people need to stop trying to justify that ish. If my man cheated tomorrow, it would have nothing to do with him having equipment that I’m lacking and everything to do with him being a cheating son of a btch. And if I forgive him, it has nothing to do with me acknowledging and accepting his shortcomings as a man. I swear people sprout off some of the most insane stuff, put it in a book and other people will believe it
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Dido to all of this. I don’t even know why I entertain posts like this…
@SandraRose #85
“did you say evolutionary process. Men have to cheat to further the species”
Going back to Chicanigga, My race 
Since this study used college students, this chit doesn’t apply to me…I call total BS on this, cheating is not limited to men only, chit one of my closest girlfriends is a serial cheater, she said it’s impossible to stay true….tell the author to conduct a study using men in the mid thirties to mid forties range then he’ll have my attention until then
@ Sandra Rose says:
The reality is whether you ladies like it or not, your men look at other women and some men fantasize about sleeping with other women. It’s not poor self-control, it’s part of the evolutionary process. Men have to cheat to further the species.
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Sandra, don’t buy into BS! This implies that we (MEN) have no self-control over our actions when it comes to sex and I’m here to tell it’s a lie from the firey pits of hell. I will agree that we (men) may have the unique ability to disassociate our emotions from the act of sex, but that’s where the buck stops. Are we horny all the time? Maybe, but not so much so that one person can’t satify us. It’s greed… there I said it! It’s nothing be greed and selfishness. I’m NOT a animal. I’m not lead by my penis… sorry!
i agreed with the title of this post, been saying it for years. i’ve been faithful in my relationships but you can’t bunk science. the male species is predisposed and scientifically wired to ensure the survival of the species. just watch NatGeo or Animal planet on any given day. and you can’t tell me Jay wasn’t smashing Rihanna & Bey at the samedamntime!
please stop getting married per traditional or dated vows from 1876 when you niglets first realized u were free. times have changed, maybe we should try changing too.
Ladies what’s good for the man may not be good for you unless ur the “man” of ur house. other than that, u just might come up missing. IJS.
james_b says:
i agreed with the title of this post, been saying it for years. i’ve been faithful in my relationships but you can’t bunk science. the male species is predisposed and scientifically wired to ensure the survival of the species.
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Excellent first comment! Welcome to the family James!
Well the way I see it if this world keeps producing these dysfunctional species we call humans, I would rather the human race die…ijs. Leopard on this earth are loosing their dod gone mind and no one is safe anymore so what’s the point in reproducing??? Seems to me the majority of men who are reproducing are the ones we don’t need any more of on this earth because the usually produce more bad seeds. So I say let the human race die and start all over again.
Sorry for the typos my phone tends to prefill for me…lol
Atypical says:
So all men cheat? Yeah ok…there’s always exceptions to every rule…
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No, not all men cheat. There will always be some men that women don’t want to sleep with. Then there are other men who stand by their marriage vows and make the decision not to cheat. This post is about a study done by a professor and his results show that 78% of the men in the study have cheated.
@SandraRose, This study is bogus and flawed from the beginning because we all know that college male students are just beginning to sow their wild oats. Most of them have never been away from home and now have a newfound freedom so they will run all over the place until they grow up. Most men do not mature to around 30 or 35. This is the age when they decide that they want to settle down and will attempt to now be committed to one woman. This was a silly study to deal with “college age students”, just reall silly. IMO.
Also, please no more Bey & Jay Z please let them live and love. The song was touching and shows a love that a father has for his newborn daughter. He really put his ego aside on this and expressed the pain a couple goes though when loosing their first child to a miscarriage, I can speak on it and relate cause I been there. I have been blessed with 23 month old triplets now. So please don’t make light of this.
Im gonna tell you where he went wrong from the beginning. He went to 120 COLLEGE STUDENTS! Those are not men that are ready to even be in committed relationships. The study should have been more about people wanting to have more than they are willing to give to another person in a relationship. This study is stupid! Go to college and live life a little, then find a wife when you are mature enough to handle the responsibility of marriage. Marriage is not just about sex! It is about a committment that you stand by because you are mature enough to not
everything that moves!
My man can bring home any woman that he wants to…..as long as she lets me hit it.
Since gays are getting married whats stopping polygamist from marrying?
so can the woman cheat too? or is this another one of those special rules that men write for themselves?
Isn’t it usually because the man cheats, or is poor in Bed, that a woman becomes tempted? Yes, in these days of wild affairs, that Women generally, maybe becoming that widespread the last couple of decades or so, want to experience wild ultimate sex? As a guy, I have been tempted many times while married, but never did anything more than a kiss! I have strong guilt feelings which kept me tied to the dock! Another thing is that many Women carry an exceptional amount of the work load, which generally isn’t appreciated by the Husbands, that lead many Women out of the kitchen, or Corporate office, to the nearest bedroom, where she can reduce her tensions and unhappiness! Yes, guys are generally attracted to the woman who is sexually attractive, but may cross the line when the Woman welcomes the guy with open arms, which is often the case! Remember, average guys have been rejected many times, so when an “Opportunity” arises, his hormonal levels rise, which make it difficult for him to resist!