By Sandra Rose  | 

We live in a society where male and female roles are defined by gender stereotypes.

Some homosexuals (not all) choose to self identity by adopting the gender stereotypes (behavior, style of dress and attitude) of the opposite sex.

Women who choose to dress and behave like men are referred to as studs.

Loyal reader Dee Perry learned the hard way that gender misappropriation often leads to charges of gender discrimination when studs object to being treated like men.

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Dee Perry writes:

Subject: Continuous discrimination against LGBT community, specifically referring to (studs).

Establishment: Boogalou Restaurant & Bar Atlanta, GA

Please bring awareness to the fact of continuous and blatant discrimination against gay females (studs in particular) by Boogalou male security staff.

Date: Sept 26, 2015
Time: 11:30pm

Experience: Horrible - I won't go as far as saying the entire establishment discriminates against the LGBT community.

However, Boogalou's security and money taker at the door, are definitely bias in their views of gay females (studs in particular).
I was excited to go to Boogalou, as this would have been my first time. I had heard good reviews about the bar/lounge.

A friend of mines was in town, and I wanted to show her a good time. We stood in line for 20 min, which was not a bother to us.

When it was our turn to enter the bar, we were not physically searched as the males. So here's the first clue, that the security recognized that I was a female.

He checked my friend's purse and advised her to take her selfie stick to the car. Which she politely preceded to do while I awaited her return at the door.

The security guard pointed to a guy at the door to pay $20/person to get in. I paid the 40$ and preceded inside, awaiting my friends return.

There were two ladies behind us in the line, and once they were inside, they saw me and said "Don't let them disrespect you, ladies are free all night.

Since this was my first time here, I was unaware that females are free ALL NIGHT.
So I went back outside and promptly asked for my money back, and the Boogalou employee looked at me and gave me one 20$ back.

So I looked at him and said, am I not a female, where's my other 20$. He states, you don't have on heels or sandals, so you have to pay.

This was the most ignorant statement he could have made at this point.

I'm not sure what type of establishment Kasey Mozee/KMO Global Entertainment is running, but this is not business like or business friendly by any means.

If Boogalou Restaurant & Lounge is not LGBT friendly, then they need to make that known.
As far as reading the reviews on their establishment, I am not the only one this has happened too.

Shoes alone does not define a woman. There is no advisement on their website that states if you are not wearing heels or sandals, you are not considered a woman.

Also, whoever runs their social media account (Instagram) , erases any comments that are not in good review of Boogalous.

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  • imright

    welp wana b treated like a man...right?!! pay like the niggás did!! ??

  • imright

    welp wana b treated like a man...right?!! pay like the niggás did!! ??

  • https://www.etsy.com/shop/AMarieNaturals Lovezoe

    I can't.

  • https://www.etsy.com/shop/AMarieNaturals Lovezoe

    I can't.

  • SehkmetGoddess

    If you identify as male, what's the problem?

  • SehkmetGoddess

    If you identify as male, what's the problem?

  • SehkmetGoddess

    Bwahaha. Your icon speaks volumes for this post.
    Girl, bye.

  • SehkmetGoddess

    Bwahaha. Your icon speaks volumes for this post.
    Girl, bye.

  • ?Sugar&Spice?

    The bigger issue is her composition. eek!

    No, let me be serious...this is not right! We, as a country, need diversity training as it pertains to trans people (transvestites and transsexuals). It is possible the door person is ignorant as to how to handle this.

  • ?Sugar&Spice?

    The bigger issue is her composition. eek!

    No, let me be serious...this is not right! We, as a country, need diversity training as it pertains to trans people (transvestites and transsexuals). It is possible the door person is ignorant as to how to handle this.

  • Chitsngiggles

    Well bish you cant have it both ways....

  • Chitsngiggles

    Well bish you cant have it both ways....

  • Di Ana

    Okay... so.... even though you are a lesbian there is still one feminum and one masculine. Who ever is the masculine one has to pay. Sorry you feel discriminated against but yes you do have to pay.

  • Di Ana

    Okay... so.... even though you are a lesbian there is still one feminum and one masculine. Who ever is the masculine one has to pay. Sorry you feel discriminated against but yes you do have to pay.

  • Chitsngiggles

    Who take a freaking selfie stick to a club though...

  • Chitsngiggles

    Who take a freaking selfie stick to a club though...

  • ?Sugar&Spice?

    narcissists!!!

  • ?Sugar&Spice?

    narcissists!!!

  • Bonny

    So I guess Caitlyn Jenner would've gotten in for free. #foh

  • Bonny

    So I guess Caitlyn Jenner would've gotten in for free. #foh

  • Full Monty

    Honestly, you can't blame them some of these studs really do look like men so guess what, you wanted it, don't complain now. Don't say I am a female when it suits you. You want to look like a man and act like one but the minute you are really treated like a man its a problem. Man Up!

  • Full Monty

    Honestly, you can't blame them some of these studs really do look like men so guess what, you wanted it, don't complain now. Don't say I am a female when it suits you. You want to look like a man and act like one but the minute you are really treated like a man its a problem. Man Up!

  • MookieFly

    While being disrespected is not cool, there are certain liberties that women give up in exchange for gendered amenities

  • MookieFly

    While being disrespected is not cool, there are certain liberties that women give up in exchange for gendered amenities

  • SugarFoot a.k.a Ty

    Boogalou's Sunday brunch and those greens :faints: *scrolls up to read*

  • SugarFoot a.k.a Ty

    Boogalou's Sunday brunch and those greens :faints: *scrolls up to read*

  • ?Sugar&Spice?

    That thing does not look like a woman...it does wear heels tho so yes.

  • ?Sugar&Spice?

    That thing does not look like a woman...it does wear heels tho so yes.

  • ATL White Guy

    Of course I don't know the whole situation, or the people involved, but it seems that perhaps the author of the complaint wants to act like a man, but when it's convenient or profitable, wants to be treated like a female.

  • ATL White Guy

    Of course I don't know the whole situation, or the people involved, but it seems that perhaps the author of the complaint wants to act like a man, but when it's convenient or profitable, wants to be treated like a female.

  • WHITTYwithWORDS

    Ok, since when does wearing heels and sandals mean you are a woman? Idk once they knew she was a female that should have taken care of it but I guess she "misappropriated" herself by not wear lycra and 4 inch heels...so I guess its her fault?

  • WHITTYwithWORDS

    Ok, since when does wearing heels and sandals mean you are a woman? Idk once they knew she was a female that should have taken care of it but I guess she "misappropriated" herself by not wear lycra and 4 inch heels...so I guess its her fault?

  • Beyawnce

    oh c'mon pick a side

  • Beyawnce

    oh c'mon pick a side

  • SugarFoot a.k.a Ty

    Oh she is a male until ladies get in free :chase:

  • SugarFoot a.k.a Ty

    Oh she is a male until ladies get in free :chase:

  • JustB

    Right...only want to be a female when it's convenient...gtfoh

  • JustB

    Right...only want to be a female when it's convenient...gtfoh

  • missmiami305

    I swear a friend(stud) and I went out and ladies were in free til midnight. I prayed they didn't charge her so she wouldn't make a scene. Glad they didn't! Either way this is a tough call cuz some studs don't like being referred to as women

  • missmiami305

    I swear a friend(stud) and I went out and ladies were in free til midnight. I prayed they didn't charge her so she wouldn't make a scene. Glad they didn't! Either way this is a tough call cuz some studs don't like being referred to as women

  • Readytochokemothernatureonout

    Cake and eat it too come to mind

  • Readytochokemothernatureonout

    Cake and eat it too come to mind

  • Buttercup

    Are you not a female when you tape your tiddays down and use that strap on? Please decide on which side you'd like to be on and sit down somewhere!

  • Buttercup

    Are you not a female when you tape your tiddays down and use that strap on? Please decide on which side you'd like to be on and sit down somewhere!

  • WHITTYwithWORDS

    But in news I care about....I am sleepy and slightly sessually frustrated

  • WHITTYwithWORDS

    But in news I care about....I am sleepy and slightly sessually frustrated

  • WHITTYwithWORDS

    Why do they wear the strap 24/7?

  • WHITTYwithWORDS

    Why do they wear the strap 24/7?

  • Mel

    So that means she switched up her walk and voice in order to ask for a refund? I mean the response was kinda mean but ain't that similar to the tranny at TSA that felt offended the scanner caught sight of it's schlong ?

  • Mel

    So that means she switched up her walk and voice in order to ask for a refund? I mean the response was kinda mean but ain't that similar to the tranny at TSA that felt offended the scanner caught sight of it's schlong ?

  • goat

    I don't know about this place, but some places charge if you're out of dress code.

  • goat

    I don't know about this place, but some places charge if you're out of dress code.

  • Mel

    Lmao Lordt knows ladies love to get in free

  • Mel

    Lmao Lordt knows ladies love to get in free

  • SugarFoot a.k.a Ty

    I guess it makes them feel manly and strong like Red Bull gives you wings :coffee:

  • SugarFoot a.k.a Ty

    I guess it makes them feel manly and strong like Red Bull gives you wings :coffee:

  • WHITTYwithWORDS

    smh...but you just walk around with the erect plastic around? Interesting

  • WHITTYwithWORDS

    smh...but you just walk around with the erect plastic around? Interesting

  • SugarFoot a.k.a Ty

    Sandra can you find out what they put in the greens on Sunday? Thanks in advance hun

  • SugarFoot a.k.a Ty

    Sandra can you find out what they put in the greens on Sunday? Thanks in advance hun

  • Buttercup

    I wasn't aware they wore them all the time. Maybe some straps have a mechanism that will allow them to pee whilst standing up like that Degrassi Next Generation episode.

  • Buttercup

    I wasn't aware they wore them all the time. Maybe some straps have a mechanism that will allow them to pee whilst standing up like that Degrassi Next Generation episode.

  • Use_Coasters_aka_Sol_88

    Wayment, she was saying that she's a female & shouldn't have been charged? True.

    That front door person is janky for that...
    LOL I would have called the cops to get my $20 back, that's gas

  • Use_Coasters_aka_Sol_88

    Wayment, she was saying that she's a female & shouldn't have been charged? True.

    That front door person is janky for that...
    LOL I would have called the cops to get my $20 back, that's gas

  • Queen Negus

    They wear it all day?

  • Queen Negus

    They wear it all day?

  • Use_Coasters_aka_Sol_88

    Well alright then......

  • Use_Coasters_aka_Sol_88

    Well alright then......

  • Str8tUpMenace

    Ummm, not sure how I feel about this one. I mean, you can't have the best of both worlds.

    But my main QTNA, would they have charged Lawrence "Little Bill looking azz", or Derek "Refrigerator Back" J to get in?????

  • Str8tUpMenace

    Ummm, not sure how I feel about this one. I mean, you can't have the best of both worlds.

    But my main QTNA, would they have charged Lawrence "Little Bill looking azz", or Derek "Refrigerator Back" J to get in?????

  • Queen Negus

    ??? Real tears!!

  • Queen Negus

    ??? Real tears!!

  • SugarFoot a.k.a Ty

    Nope cause they would've had on heels lol

  • SugarFoot a.k.a Ty

    Nope cause they would've had on heels lol

  • iWasteTime

    I need a open post!
    I got a issue

  • iWasteTime

    I need a open post!
    I got a issue

  • Use_Coasters_aka_Sol_88

    Refrigerator Back?????

  • Use_Coasters_aka_Sol_88

    Refrigerator Back?????

  • SugarFoot a.k.a Ty

    Really Waste....spill it!

  • SugarFoot a.k.a Ty

    Really Waste....spill it!

  • Sonny Johnson

    She has a point shoes do not define a woman, if the establishment did not clearly state that you have to be wearing heels or sandals for it to be free for you then I can see why she would complain. However from my experience most women whether a part of the LGBT or not usually do come into a bar with either heels, or flats the idea is to be appropriately dress by the bar standards

  • Sonny Johnson

    She has a point shoes do not define a woman, if the establishment did not clearly state that you have to be wearing heels or sandals for it to be free for you then I can see why she would complain. However from my experience most women whether a part of the LGBT or not usually do come into a bar with either heels, or flats the idea is to be appropriately dress by the bar standards

  • Buttercup

    Will Shawty Lo please direct him to his barber, so he can get his hairline sharpied in?

  • Buttercup

    Will Shawty Lo please direct him to his barber, so he can get his hairline sharpied in?

  • Str8tUpMenace

    Or Wide Back, Mountain Back, Square Back, Washing machine Back, Hunch back of Notre Dame, Cow hoof, etc. Feel free to add on.

  • Str8tUpMenace

    Or Wide Back, Mountain Back, Square Back, Washing machine Back, Hunch back of Notre Dame, Cow hoof, etc. Feel free to add on.

  • Use_Coasters_aka_Sol_88

    King size mattress back

  • Use_Coasters_aka_Sol_88

    King size mattress back

  • Buttercup

    New post

  • Buttercup

    New post

  • Str8tUpMenace

    I pray for the souls of Derek J's heels. Them chits have an extremely short life once he squeezes them hamburgler hooves inside, I'm sure.

  • Str8tUpMenace

    I pray for the souls of Derek J's heels. Them chits have an extremely short life once he squeezes them hamburgler hooves inside, I'm sure.

  • Use_Coasters_aka_Sol_88

    *SCREAMS*

  • Use_Coasters_aka_Sol_88

    *SCREAMS*

  • HelloToni

    So you associate with males when it is convenient but when it cost you then you wanna associate with female. I see....

  • HelloToni

    So you associate with males when it is convenient but when it cost you then you wanna associate with female. I see....

  • Str8tUpMenace

    Nah, cuz then the sausages on the back of his head & neck will be more defined. Problems the public does not need.

  • Str8tUpMenace

    Nah, cuz then the sausages on the back of his head & neck will be more defined. Problems the public does not need.

  • L.T.L. Since 2007

    So I looked at him and said, am I not a female, where’s my other 20$. He states, you don’t have on heels or sandals, so you have to pay.

    This was the most ignorant statement he could have made at this point.

    ____________________
    When you CHOOSE to act like a dude, you CHOOSE everything that comes along with it.
    Nut up....

  • L.T.L. Since 2007

    So I looked at him and said, am I not a female, where’s my other 20$. He states, you don’t have on heels or sandals, so you have to pay.

    This was the most ignorant statement he could have made at this point.

    ____________________
    When you CHOOSE to act like a dude, you CHOOSE everything that comes along with it.
    Nut up....

  • iWasteTime

    Just needed one person.
    When I started here I sat next to this YT girl that was a total B!tch. She got smart with me early, I got smart back and her and I were cool ever since..lolol. She has no friends here and I think a few in her personal life. She is the other woman and I'm the only person who knows this and I'm over it. Like it makes me uncomfortable and the person works here, chit he hired me but is no longer in my department. I don't care what side piece and he does, I'm over hearing about it. How do I do this nicely? I don't want to burn the bridge but I do not want to hear about them creeping when he is in town or when they are out of town together.

  • iWasteTime

    Just needed one person.
    When I started here I sat next to this YT girl that was a total B!tch. She got smart with me early, I got smart back and her and I were cool ever since..lolol. She has no friends here and I think a few in her personal life. She is the other woman and I'm the only person who knows this and I'm over it. Like it makes me uncomfortable and the person works here, chit he hired me but is no longer in my department. I don't care what side piece and he does, I'm over hearing about it. How do I do this nicely? I don't want to burn the bridge but I do not want to hear about them creeping when he is in town or when they are out of town together.

  • Sasha586

    I didn't want to say it, but c'mon now.......

  • Sasha586

    I didn't want to say it, but c'mon now.......

  • SugarFoot a.k.a Ty

    It wasn't about the shoes that was a curve lol U can't identify as a male when its applicable. Pay your fare like the other men in the club since you want to be treated fairly/equally. They had a right to reject her at the door if they wanted.

  • SugarFoot a.k.a Ty

    It wasn't about the shoes that was a curve lol U can't identify as a male when its applicable. Pay your fare like the other men in the club since you want to be treated fairly/equally. They had a right to reject her at the door if they wanted.

  • https://www.etsy.com/shop/AMarieNaturals Lovezoe

    Saw a clip of RHOA. Regine husband look like he got a sweet tooth. ???

  • https://www.etsy.com/shop/AMarieNaturals Lovezoe

    Saw a clip of RHOA. Regine husband look like he got a sweet tooth. ???

  • DarlinNykki

    Hole up! Studs want to be recognized as men right? Well you get the same treatment as men. Oh you just want to dress like a man but be treated like a woman? NOPE!!!!

  • DarlinNykki

    Hole up! Studs want to be recognized as men right? Well you get the same treatment as men. Oh you just want to dress like a man but be treated like a woman? NOPE!!!!

  • DarlinNykki

    Nope! Transgender just mean your ass is confused.

  • DarlinNykki

    Nope! Transgender just mean your ass is confused.

  • SugarFoot a.k.a Ty

    I would ask her to refrain from bringing her personal life in the conversation because she is putting you in a compromising position since everyone works together. U would rather not know at all and its making u uncomfortable. She will probably start giving u the side eye but she'll be ok :coffee:

  • SugarFoot a.k.a Ty

    I would ask her to refrain from bringing her personal life in the conversation because she is putting you in a compromising position since everyone works together. U would rather not know at all and its making u uncomfortable. She will probably start giving u the side eye but she'll be ok :coffee:

  • WHITTYwithWORDS

    Yup a lot do...Im sisters stud fren told her...

  • WHITTYwithWORDS

    Yup a lot do...Im sisters stud fren told her...

  • ihatethesebitches

    Now you want to be a woman! Only a female when it is convenient. Gtfoh!

  • ihatethesebitches

    Now you want to be a woman! Only a female when it is convenient. Gtfoh!

  • http://www.tiffanyinthecity.wordpress.com/ Tiffanyinthecity

    Hmmm....this is a tough one. I would've given her her money back BUT I can also see why they charged her. On the flip, there may have been a stud that would've been offended if they hadn't been charged...

  • http://www.tiffanyinthecity.wordpress.com/ Tiffanyinthecity

    Hmmm....this is a tough one. I would've given her her money back BUT I can also see why they charged her. On the flip, there may have been a stud that would've been offended if they hadn't been charged...

  • iWasteTime

    you are right.
    I'm just gonna do it.
    It's been on my heart for a minute now

  • iWasteTime

    you are right.
    I'm just gonna do it.
    It's been on my heart for a minute now

  • WHITTYwithWORDS

    Catch 202...Just give the money back and keep it moving.

  • WHITTYwithWORDS

    Catch 202...Just give the money back and keep it moving.

  • CookieMobster

    Totally agree. Gets your proverbial nutts up dawg.
    Oh and P.S. a friend of mines sounds ignorant. Its a friend of mine. You're welcome

  • CookieMobster

    Totally agree. Gets your proverbial nutts up dawg.
    Oh and P.S. a friend of mines sounds ignorant. Its a friend of mine. You're welcome

  • E-VannaRootsAllEvil

    I was bout to go there

  • E-VannaRootsAllEvil

    I was bout to go there

  • CookieMobster

    Yep there is no way to win these days.

  • nucynu25

    Poor Lil tink. To be a boy or not to be . Shit must be confusing

  • Hmmm~?

    This comment section is living proof of how ignorant the majority of the population is in regards to the concept of gender. Just because you don't adhere to the typical female gender stereotypes doesn't mean you wish to be a male, or consider yourself one. She shouldn't have had to pay, because she is still a female. Doesn't matter what she got on or how manly she was acting. If she still identifies as female, and has a cat between her legs, then she should be treated as a female.

  • E-VannaRootsAllEvil

    What does he/she want us to say?????. You feel like a man and you dress like one oviously yet you mad bc they treated you the way you look and feel? WTF????

  • Sonny Johnson

    From what I read she didn't identify as a transgender plus she noted she was not physically searched by the security guard. From her description she was probably dressed in masculine nature but the assumption that she would identify as a male is a bit of a stretch. However the establishment still did have the right to deny her if she was not appropriately dressed but she was let in the bar

  • Queen Negus

    Wow???

  • BKLYNS MAMA

    Geez, I really cant keep up....somebody need to write a book explaining how all this ish works... I really didn't know you/they could flip back n forth. This ish is confusing like Bruce.....no Caitlin Jenner.

  • http://theempirefiend.tumblr.com/ Bird

    Sorry you went through that Dee, but you can't have it both ways sweetie. The reason why ladies get in free is because they attract men. A club with no ladies is a dead club. You would not be attracting men, you would be competing with them. That means you have to pay like them. I'm sorry it upset you, but it sounds fair to me once they gave you back the $20 for your friend.

  • BKLYNS MAMA

    dies a slow death....

  • SoChlo

    In my humble opinion women are free at places like this because they want to draw males to their establishment. This woman, who happens to be homosexual, is benefiting from the "women free" because she has more eye candy and will be more likely to come back. Straight men won't come back if more butch lesbian women are getting in than straight females. This whole thing is just confusing.

  • SoChlo

    I swear I just fonted the same thing. It makes perfect sense but you can't reason with everyone.

  • JerseyMom

    Blank stare.

    Let me get this straight.... She wants to act, dress and look like a male until it comes time to pay like biological males do.

    Beyotch, st*u and put on a dress. I don't feel sorry for you. Next!

  • Queen Negus

    Well said???

  • Queen Negus

    I want to know what Dee looks like. Does she have on her face and a fade? If she looked more manly the door person made up the shoes to hide her feelings towards Dee's appearance.?

  • SpideySense

    His back is as wide as the day is long. Dying!

  • ATL White Guy

    exactly...sometimes you don't know how the person wants to be treated...as a female or male. I can see the door not charging someone, and then they get upset about that.

  • ATL White Guy

    I'm really going out on a tangent, but it reminds me of OJ a little. He acted and hung out around the whites until he got in trouble, then came back to his black roots for sympathy. Did it out of what was 'convenient' for him. This stud in a way is doing the same thing. Acts and dresses like a man, but then when it's beneficial wants to be treated like a lady.

  • Dee

    If they were going to treat her as a man then they should have done it 100%. She should have been searched as well. The club identified her as being female by not searching her so why when she goes to pay they get to switch it? Nah. That's wrong to me.

  • 1/8

    You're dressed like a man, but you want to be treated like a woman, at your convenience?! I'm so sick of the LMNOP COMMUNITY'S BS.

  • 1/8

    I'm gay and I endorse this message. ?

  • JerseyMom

    LMAO

  • thaye

    I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE your response....so true!!!!

  • JerseyMom

    Preach!

  • 88

    Naw you wanna be a man pay just like a man.

  • ATL White Guy

    I'm sure we can find a cure for your frustration (licks lips while getting the baby oil out).

  • TeeTee

    I wanted to go... with a "stud"
    so I hope this is not true bc I really like Boogalou

  • Brian

    Wow. You are just as ignorant as the person taking the money

  • No ma’am

    She's a lesbian, she never said she identifies as male. I'm straight but from what I gather just bc you dress like a man (like studs do) doesn't mean you identify yourself as a man.

  • Brian

    I can't believe you guys are using the "convenient" argument. Wrong is wrong. Stud or not, she is a female, and she should've been given her money back, especially since she asked for it. Customer Service anyone? And the response about what shoes she is wearing is dumb. I can't believe you people are agreeing with this guy. He was wrong.

  • Prettyreddbone?

    I'm so confused about LGBT issues that I usually say nothing but now I will say no one can have it both ways, pun intended.

  • Rwilliams4782

    I don't want to be a man but I'm a lesbian .. A female is a female regardless. Everybody like welp wanna act like a man get treated like one is like saying since u dressed like a hoe u don't deserve to be respected by anyone and u should be raped ... I will be back in 6 months making my usual rounds... Holla

  • Rwilliams4782

    These comments are one of the reasons why I see some men for what they are.. Bc u treat women how you see them.. As long as they aren't your precious mother or sister u don't care what happens to them ...

  • CJ POLARBEAR

    I second that

  • Soon2BWife

    If you dress like a male, sleep with women, have male mannerisims then pull up your male pants and pay the male fee. Isn't your goal to look like a man? You should be honored you were mistaken for a man.

  • SugarFoot a.k.a Ty

    From her description she was probably dressed in masculine nature but the assumption that she would identify as a male is a bit of a stretch.
    ________________
    so she was probably dressed like a male but not trying to identify as one....mmmkaay got it ;)

  • 1/8

    My tribe has always been a bit confused. ?

  • Aanelove

    Argh...This sounds so stupid tho! Alot of places do that. Its called DRESS CODE. Don't go to such places then. Go to a strictly LGBT club

  • CJ POLARBEAR

    Exactly!

  • Genia Gouch

    what an unfair review of an establishment...and you wonder why the heterosexual community often roll their eyes at the confusion of all these reassignments. "Stud" would indicate you identify with being a male. As i know it "Studs" believe themselves to be males, they take on the personality of a male and act accordingly in their personal spaces and their roles. There is no in-between. You probably weren't searched because they saw breast or the appearance of such. It's unfortunate that the door person could not articulate a more intelligent response for not returning the money, but this is definitely a case of identification of convenience. You "IMO" was not discriminated against.

  • Genia Gouch

    the confusion resides in your own LGBT community. Males who identify as females are offended if the appropriate pronouns are not used when addressing or referring to.. So NO, a female is a female does not apply...this is your own community's rules..

  • Jessica

    Ooooookkkkk. You go to an establishment dressed as a "stud" but you want security to immediately discern that you are a female. Honey, I'm not a homophobe, but, it's hard to tell who is what these days. If you want to be treated like a female, I'm sorry, but you're going to have to present yourself as one. You cannot have it both ways. I side with Boogalou on this one.

  • Winner

    Well either women are free or not...so they won't let this lady in free but if she was a male cross dresser with heels they would?? A mess

  • Jessica

    Maybe they couldn't tell if she was male or female.

  • Winner

    Or maybe atlanta is backwards

  • CJ POLARBEAR

    Yes yes yes

  • Jessica

    I disagree. If you come to an establishment dressed like a man then you will be treated like one.

  • Winner

    I agree I'm offended that men in heels would be let in free under this rule:/

  • CJ POLARBEAR

    It's about the dress code NOT GENDER nor Sexual Orientation

  • Winner

    I don't want no "men in heels" getting in free with me!!

  • Winner

    So then you believe men dressed as women should be treated as such???

  • CJ POLARBEAR

    Jessica I agree with you this shouldn't even have been posted but hey

  • Jessica

    And how was the security guard supposed to know that she had a "cat" between her legs if she came in looking "stud"?

  • Genia Gouch

    you mean PAID, opposed to RAPED right? as in...since you dressed like a hoe u don't deserve to be respected by anyone and you should be PAID. Women/PEOPLE/CHILDREN are victims of RAPE..point blank period....and a victim don't typically have on a hoe uniform. ...That was a REACH...and a comparison of apples and tree limbs......don't twist it.

  • GTFOHWTBS

    if you were that hard up about getting taken for $40 , next time stay at home . #getyour$up

  • CJ POLARBEAR

    That's what's it about DRESS CODE NOT WHO U LIKE.....BAD PART SHE WAS OUT OF THE MANS DRESS CODE AS WELL.....SMH

  • Jessica

    Tell her that you suggest she seek counseling because you don't know how to help her.

  • SehkmetGoddess

    Well, I used to be a part of the lesbian community, based on my experience.. pertaining to the type of relationship that she has with another woman she would be considered the male counterpart. She dressed like a man... I guess that's where all this gender by clothes identification becomes a problem. What bathroom did it use?

  • Genia Gouch

    She/he more than likely was not searched because it was respect of her person..i.e.: the appearance of BREAST....if this is an establishment that has a high LGBT community customer base. they should staff their door accordingly.

  • CJ POLARBEAR

    They do though if they come dressed the part....Be fair in your thinking

  • CJ POLARBEAR

    Brian Sir she was out of dress code she made it a Gay or lesbian issue. If you're out of dress code make or female u will be denied the priviledge

  • Tunie

    Ignorance abounds she's a Lesbian not Bruce Jenner
    Has her original body parts just likes women. Still a woman! Ignorant club owners gonna get sued they get the right Lesbian

  • imright

    shut up Brian

  • 1/8

    LMAO! ? You don't want to compete with someone with five o'clock shadow and a miniskirt?

  • Michelle

    I have a friend who is a stud and she obviously the less feminine in the relationship but she is obviously a girl and she always lets that be known. She calls herself a she, a female, a woman. So not all of them consider themselves men.

  • ShameTheDevil

    Well damn lol

  • ShameTheDevil

    Agreed. A lot of these cross dressers are hard to pick these days.

  • Michelle1953

    Exactly

  • ShameTheDevil

    Did she read these negative reviews about LGBT before over after she went? It's a messed up situation but honestly everyone got a problem or dislike over something. Some cases are more serious than others. Every establishment has the right to deny service. The bouncer wouldn't do it if the owner didn't say it was ok to do so.

    I get it, he pulled a petty move. She probably look like a better dude, can pull his girl, and eat the box better. Shoot, maybe a chick stole his chick so he hates them all. I don't know. But you know what they say about men with huge egos.
    Unfortunately, ma'am, u can't have it both ways. "Lady looks like a dude but wants to be treated like a lady, but the man in the realation" theory don't work everywhere. Hell my head hurt trying to get it. Granted, LGBT community got a struggle. Some of them choose it, others don't. Hell, we heterosexual got a struggle...we can't get to freaky in public. That's indecent exposure. I don't trip i adjust. I keep it together until i can get somewhere i can do me.

    I say all that to say this. Every business owner knows all publicity is good publicity. In this case, anyone that doesn't like the LGBT community knows they can go to Boogalou and it will cover the lost of LGBTs from not going. It sucks but that's the way the cookie crumbles. We in Atlanta, go to Peachtree where ur flags wave high.

  • my view

    but they don't even have a dress code

  • BLOODBLOOD

    Next time put some heels on #ell you want to be a boy so you got treated like one BYE ?

  • Liz

    It seems like all three parties involved were off. 1)If you dressed like a guy I am going to treat you like a guy even if I know you are a girl. If you went through all the effort to look like a guy then yes sir it is. I mean do you not want to be treated like a guy??? Then why are you dressing and acting like one? 2)The person taking the money was wrong for saying that foolishness about sandals and hells because once she identified as a female ask for her ID to check then give her back her money. 3) The two ladies in line behind tsk tsk tsk messy!

  • Auditor

    Preach!

  • barbeez

    Well...you were dressed like a man so you have to pay. Men dressing like women...women dressing like men. Everyone's getting confused by all this phuck--eree. Make up your mind. You were on a date with your women. Why should he let ur cheap behind in for free. Harsh. Yeah, I know.

  • Rolly

    It's all good until that 1week out of the month. Numbers & DNA don't lie. ??

  • shun king

    Bull dyker want to play the man role when it's convenient

  • Sassy24

    Should've hit em with a crow bar and took your money back.

  • Alana Mike

    When does wearing male clothing make you a man?????? A women can wear what she's wants and at the end of the day guess what she is still a women!!!! She's bleeds on a monthly has breast that can feed a child and has the ability to create and carry life........ So wearing man clothing makes her less than a woman???? I'm confused just because you see two women together one dressed masculine and one dressed feminine doesn't mean one plays a dominant role and the other submissive the stud ( because now a days we live in a society where labels are a must for ppl to feel comfortable with their sexuality) just as well be the girly girl and the femme might play the masculine role you never know......... I'm a girly girl and A LESBIAN so if I choose to wear sweats and a tshirt does that mean I'm still not a woman???? #BlackPplMustDoBetterByOneAnother these comments are remedial redundant and plain OL ignorant!!!!!!!! The point she is trying to make is regardless of the clothes is she still not a woman????? And another thing how do any of you guys know she wants to be a man by the clothes she wears??? Maybe she's freaking comfortable in those baggy clothes when Mary j blige and Aaliyah was wearing baggy clothes men clothes it was cool us women aren't saying anything about your man bags and your tight pants that look like they are made for a woman!!!! we don't think some of you look like women we just think lol it's y'all expressing yourself in women's clothing soooooo lets just call it self expression!!!!! So ashamed behind my ppl I swear this is ridiculous...... Also lets not forget the LGBT community makes up half if not most of the ppl in Atlanta!!!!!!!! Da Phuck!!!!!!

  • Leshay

    Words right out of my mouth!! They emulate a man in every respect...until its really time to be treated like one

  • maleorderside

    Does she? I didn't read that anywhere so I'm not going to bother to make some grand stand on her issue.

  • my view

    This post is sooo harsh and lets you know just how people really feel about the LGBT community/people

  • my view

    If she feels like she was mistreated that's her right to feel like such. Customer service is suppose to be the same everywhere period. He knew she was a female regardless to what she was wearing. Someone else told her not to let them do that to her and go get your money back. He was wrong in the first place for taking $40 instead of $20 since he thought she was a guy he knew her date wasn't.

  • Alana Mike

    No her breast you can not miss

  • Alana Mike

    That would be true if her breast won't double d's with a soft voice

  • Alana Mike

    Ignorance at its finest

  • A Business Man

    I don't believe this is a LGBT issue. It is simply a business concept. This establishment makes money by allowing attractive women to enter for free in order for the men to purchase aka "spoil" aka "trick off" for their desired targets. If a gentleman is looking for a woman to treat and he comes across one that is wearing the same outfit as him, he won't be nearly as inclined to reach into his wallet. Therefore, if you are taking up space in someone's business and you aren't attracting a spender nor spending money, you have no value to this business model.

  • CJ POLARBEAR

    Some people like your self can't handle the truth so you all choose to live a lie.....

  • CJ POLARBEAR

    If u dress the part you good if not prepare to be denied or pay.

  • Mona Lisa

    She needs to have several seats. You want to act like you have a d@ck and balls on one account, but then play the female card when it benefits you. I agree i am siding the bar.

  • Teachmeeatme

    Confused! I thought you wanted to be acknowledged as the ladies man?

  • Blue

    I identify as confused as h3ll at this post. Now, do I get in free or nah?

  • NC GIRL

    Agree

  • ?E?E?M?A

    I wouldn't have gave her any money back.

  • $103237338

    Why go in the first place if u know their views on studs. I'm not paying money to an establishment that I know truly doesn't want me in there...

  • eljjai

    the point of ladies night is to draw in the people who want the ladies. From a business perspective, if they filled the bar with studs on a regular and let them in for free , they would run at a loss because no "paying" men would come to ladies night. So from a business perspective, Studs should pay.

  • T3

    LMAO @ it

  • Slim Goodie

    and them wingettes! and the seafood pasta salad! Off the chain!

  • Slim Goodie

    Sounds like a woman if you ask me!

  • Slim Goodie

    Must be a Libra! You know we have to balance shiatt!

  • Slim Goodie

    RAWR!

  • WHITTYwithWORDS

    Alright Zeddy...lol

  • http://batman-news.com Mama Dee’s Wig Maker

    Hmmmmmmmmmm....

  • Doink_Ahanahue

    I don't see the problem. They respected her gender by not doing the physical search they did on males. But IMO they respected her being a "stud" by charging her. YOU CAN'T HAVE IT ALL!!! If you want to be a woman, look and play the part. If you want to present yourself as a man, don't be upset when you're treated as such!

    Case dismissed

  • Wakando Shamar Taylor

    Soooo u dress like a man want to be identified as a man but get mad when being mistook as a man? I dont get it and ladies get in free is really for the club to attract men to the club who are looking for women if the club is full of studs men not going to pay 20 dollars to get in and its full of women who are not attracted to them! They not going to come back! Just being real i have nothing against gays but if u are going to live that life u gotta pick ur battles yes she deserved her money back but when u running a certain business aimed at a certain crowd it is what it is sometimes! i dont think this was discrimination im sure if it was a majority gay club u not gone pay 20 dollars to get in a club and everyone is straight u not going to come back because thats not the crowd u looking for and vise versa

  • sunni_daze

    See these people want their cake and want to eat it too. Don't live your life as a dude and expect a lady discount. But here is an easy fix
    Females Free All Night
    Men $20
    Trans/Stud $10

    See problem solved.

  • SameoleJ

    I know straight women who are tomboys and don't ever dress 'Girlie". Does this detract from them being woman?

  • NolaD

    So you only want to be female when it's convenient? That really doesn't make much sense to me... I feel they were right to make her pay...

  • SameoleJ

    He knew when he didn't search her, because she was a female. So in a sense the security guard placed the double standard on her, but treating her like a female in regards to a physical search, but then charging her like a male. He can't have it both ways, either.

  • SameoleJ

    Exactly!!

  • SameoleJ

    Then she should have be searched like a man? If yes, then carry on. If no, then security guard was wrong.

  • SameoleJ

    The fact that he did NOT search her, means he KNEW she and identified her as a female. The fact that the 2 women behind her identified her as as female, even with her MANLY clothing, means she has some feminine qualities that are easily seen.My cousin and her gf both dress girlie and one is the "stud", while my ex dressed like a tomboy, but always got her hair done in a feminine cut. And to brush her off and say her lack of heels determined why she wasn't viewed as a woman is bs. FYI, I know a lot of guys who hang with studs, simply for the the fact that they attract women.

  • EasyBreezy

    I LOVE brunch on Sundays..... price range, please? buffet brunch or single-plate brunch? Is the bar open? Are heteros welcome (serious question)? Thanks-much.

  • EasyBreezy

    24/7? you ARE joking, right?

  • WHITTYwithWORDS

    No some of them wear it rain or shine...lol

  • MsVAllDay

    LOL so you want to dress like a dude, act like a dude EXCEPT when it comes to your money! Man have several seats. This is what happens when society accepts this foolishness. It's just a slippery slope.

  • MsVAllDay

    LOL so you want to dress like a dude, act like a dude EXCEPT when it comes to your money! Man have several seats. This is what happens when society accepts this foolishness. It's just a slippery slope.

  • SugarFoot a.k.a Ty

    Its $25 but all you can eat. Somebody's granny is back there on the greens chile. Yes its always a diverse group of people when I go and no problems outside of parking. U have to park across the street cause valet is high. The bar is open and really nice, they have swings instead of bar stools and chairs

  • shaybytheway

    I feel bad for her but she's not going to find the sympathy from the public that she desires. #blamecaitlyn

  • mswilliams160

    So wait, do studs not identify themselves as masqueline? And or such? Now you wanna be a chick when you have to pay? It would seem to me the security ppl were paying her a compliment treating her as such.

  • Liah

    Im a little confused here...Soo do they wanted to be treated like men or woman?...Help me out here someone....This is a serious question....When u dress as a butch...I hope that's not offensive....Do you still identify as a female?...Again serious question here...

  • Slim Goodie

    They do though. My man got turned away for sneakers though...

  • Slim Goodie

    Thanks!

  • Ant Hill

    you must be a dyke/lesbo

  • Ant Hill

    #dykesgonewild

  • my view

    umm no im not, but if I was what would be your point???

  • my view

    I can only go by what the person that wrote this said

  • SpiceGirl

    huh?

  • A Glen

    exactly!!!!

  • Deno Spencer

    Wanna act be treated as a man. Pay like a man not digress when it's fitting. Take that fade like a man

  • Deno Spencer

    Lol this one stud got punched out for talking shit to a man ( I don't condone violence) but after She complained he hit a girl.