Aziz Ansari is grateful for all the support he’s gotten from friends and family after he was accused of sexually harassing a woman he invited over for a one-night stand last year.
Aziz and the woman met at an Emmy Awards party in 2017. The 34-year-old actor is defending himself after the woman shared her side of the story in a lengthy post on Babe.net, titled “I went on a date with Aziz Ansari. It turned into the worst night of my life”.
The then 22-year-old Brooklyn photographer, who has chosen to remain anonymous, alleged she went on a date with Ansari, who proceeded to rush her through dinner and up to his apartment.
She recalls there was still wine in her glass and more left in the bottle he ordered. The abruptness surprised her. “Like, he got the check and then it was bada-boom, bada-bing, we’re out of there.”
The woman admits she and Ansari became physical after they arrived at his apartment. She expressed regret about giving Ansari oral sex, and though she said that she was uncomfortable, she never uttered the magic word “no” until the one-night stand had progressed over the line.
“He sat back and pointed to his penis and motioned for me to go down on him. And I did,” she said. “I think I just felt really pressured. It was literally the most unexpected thing I thought would happen at that moment because I told him I was uncomfortable.”
The woman claimed she told Ansari she was uncomfortable, but when he asked her if he could proceed, she gave explicit approval.
When Ansari told her he was going to grab a condom within minutes of their first kiss, Grace voiced her hesitation explicitly. “I said something like, ‘Whoa, let’s relax for a sec, let’s chill.’” She says he then resumed kissing her, briefly performed oral sex on her, and asked her to do the same thing to him. She did, but not for long. “It was really quick. Everything was pretty much touched and done within ten minutes of hooking up, except for actual sex.”
Ansari eventually gave up trying to have intercourse and called a cab for her.
After texting a multitude of friends from inside the cab, the woman decided Ansari must have sexually harassed her.
On Sunday, the Master of None comedian responded to the claims in a statement to Us Weekly, saying the one-night stand was “consensual”.
“In September of last year, I met a woman at a party. We exchanged numbers. We texted back and forth and eventually went on a date. We went out to dinner, and afterward we ended up engaging in sexual activity, which by all indications was completely consensual.”
Ansari also noted he later learned the woman took issue with how the events of the evening unfolded.
“The next day, I got a text from her saying that although ‘it may have seemed OK,’ upon further reflection, she felt uncomfortable,” he continued. “It was true that everything did seem OK to me, so when I heard that it was not the case for her, I was surprised and concerned. I took her words to heart and responded privately after taking the time to process what she had said.”
The 34-year-old also shared his support for the #TimesUp movement against sexual misconduct.
“I continue to support the movement that is happening in our culture,” he said. “It is necessary and long overdue.”
There is a difference between regretting a hook up and being sexually assaulted. This girl is just looking for a pay day.
That whole story is ridiculous. It sounds like after the fact regret, not assault
A woman with bad intentions can easily turn “regret sex” into “sexual harassment” or “rape”… and the next thing you know, the man is behind bars. These dudes need to be careful out there.
Everyone knows he’s a skeezebag. Soooo, she’s upset because it was quick bang bang? Did she think he loved her or something…?
If you weren’t actually ràped or molested or harassed can you stfu? Don’t make me too head àss.
This #metoo ch-t needs to die
Yup. These type of allegations rarely survive court so they trial their assailiants in the court of public opinion.
I don’t even understand her. A slut got slutted out and now she’s mad. You didn’t have to suck his dick just because he whipped it out. Girl bye!
ummm..whet?
Ok..alll grown ass women… raise your hand if you DON”T know that most men who invite you back to their crib after dinner and drinks will try you especially if you are attractive to them. They will kiss you and from there see how far they can go. To avoid any blurred lines, don’t let him take you HOME! The phrase is “Thanks for the lovely evening but I should really get back home now..” If he urges you to come any way say ” No.Next time but not tonight.” we all know next time never happens.. Why don’t women know how to wiggle out of these moments?! The most sure fire way to get out of it is the old faithful.. Sorry Im riding the red train tonight.. he will drop your ass off so fast you’d forget you went anywhere…
I’m sorry but this really pisses me off. Women and men are actually being sexually assaulted and this woman has the audacity to defame someone that she willingly bumped pelvises with AND gave felatio to? ? Why would you go back to his house on the first date? Why did you never say “no?” And more importantly, why didn’t you just leave if you were uncomfortable? ????? She really tried it. If I was dude, I would press charges against her for defamation of character.
I can only imagine how many men are sitting behind bars after a night like this.
I agree. Parents need to warn their sons about these types of situations, especially when they’re at that age where they’ll be headed away to college soon.
Her account does not seems like sexual harassment, rape, or whatever they’re labeling it these days.
I agree with you but I think date rape is real and wrong. Hoes like her are why people don’t take date rape seriously. Some women are naive and plain stupid. They go to a man’s house and get raped. Young girls do sexual acts that they regret because they don’t speak up for themselves. This is a grown ass slut looking for a payday. It’s already hard enough for date rape to be taken seriously without hoes like her.
What? Come on girl. I mean …this is ridiculous! They had consensual oral sex. It’s not his fault that you didn’t say no to blowing him nor did you say no when he returned the favor.
Somebody needs to issue a statement to these birds, so they can understand the difference between rape, sexual harassment and the “walk of shame”.
Take the “L” and do better next time. ?????
So now it’s harassment if the consensual sex is not good? Or if he didn’t kiss you long enough or give you foreplay. Pressured how? He wasn’t your boss.
She (the accuser) just made herself look stupid, and I thought Aziz’s response was on point. He doesn’t need to apologize. He said he addressed her concerns in private the day after WHEN SHE BROUGHT UP THE FACT SHE HAD A PROBLEM.
This #MeToo/#TimesUp bullshit is getting out of hand. Unless you have actually been raped or sexually harassed, why speak out on it making a fool of yourself making up stories??? I don’t get this one. How did she feel pressured to give a blowjob with NO GUN to her head??? Sounds like he had sex with her and did not want to see her again Dumb trick. Why go to his apartment if you didn’t want to have sex??? She can’t be this dumb. If I go to a guy’s house after a date or he comes to mine or we go to a hotel, we f*cking, period and I know that, so why would I get upset if things don’t work out afterwards??? Ridiculous.
These tricks are dumb. Just because a guy doesn’t want you after he f*cks you gives you no right to make up false allegations. Move the hell on and find someone who wants your sorry ass. Sickening. I can’t stand bitches like her because I have actually been sexually assaulted and it was not funny and I did not make it up. As many times as I have been dogged and used by men, I would never accuse a man of anything he did not do. However, I am sane and have common sense, this dummy making up this occurrence about Aziz does not.
The cops need to lock up these lying ass chicks. He didn’t want her, period. Move on! Women need to be smarter so they won’t get humiliated. Why go to a man’s house after a date or even before a date unless you want to screw him??? The hell???
She got mad when the realization set in that he only saw her as a hook-up.
Um, being on your period doesn’t matter to some men. That never stopped me from having sex ;)! But anyway, if you go to a man’s house or he comes to yours, more than likely sex will be expected unless he’s impotent or something.
This just sounds like a bad date. They didn’t even go through with the good stuff. He even asked if he could continue, now what predator in Hollywood usually asks if they can continue. Then she approved. If she gave him the okay to continue, where is the harassment? She sounds like she has buyers remorse and is pulling this guy down, and I usually give EVERY woman the benefit of doubt. But by her own words, this doesn’t seem like he did anything wrong. He even called her a cab.
No need for a statement. Appropriate jail time should be given for obvious cases of false accusations such as this
This!
I totally agree with everything you said except for the going to a guy’s house. I don’t expect to have sex when going over to a guy’s house, it’s not a must.
I still support the metoo movement. Every movement has a few jokers that try to hop on the train unfortunately. She should get jail time for even attempting this foolery
She realized he only saw her as a hook-up and had buyer’s remorse.
Now is a GREAT time for male celebs to be in committed relationships… they can’t even hookup in peace. All that money and I’m sure some of them are already celibate for fear
They didn’t bump. They did oral lol.
Grow the hell up. Stop ordering scallops, lobster and champagne and expect the dude to not want anything.
If not sure, ask before you except date. Period.
Going over to someone’s place doesn’t always mean you’re hoping for some dikk or puzzy lol.
Accept
Better yet drive yourself to dinner & don’t make any pit stops at his house
Men need to be up front and say they expect something in return if a woman orders expensive menu items.
I agree with this.
I got dragged for saying this was a bad date. I have been raped more than once. It didn’t look like this. She sounds mad he called her an Uber after she blew him
Its not about expenisve dinner. This has been said for less. Just say I am trying to F@xk. Wether it be Burgar kang or Waffllle Hause. Issue solved, be honest.
Yeah catch a uber and take ur hot ass home.
They will leave you quick if you tell them that you bleed heavy and it will look like a murder scene after about 10 mins.
Luckily for me I don’t get periods anymore thanks to a UFE. I do not miss my periods, but being infertile again is a pain in the ass to deal with.
True, but for most men that are dating a woman, if he invites her over, more than likely he will expect sex. That’s just how men are if they have a working penis and healthy sex drive. I’m cool with that as long as we are both on the same page, no problem. I think anyone who is lucky to have a sane significant other should be humping like bunnies on crack! LOL!
She’s a grown woman and because he only made a one night stand she’s butt hurt..
Well yeah it kinda does.
We know people aren’t going to play checkers.
Seems as tho the victim mentality is much easier than taking responsibility for ones actions. If you don’t want to say NO, it’s NOT hard. If I don’t want to I say NO and if you don’t listen I’ll nut kick you or put you in a choke hold. It’s NOT hard. All these accusations show is that women are incapable of being out anywhere without supervision.
I’ve been out to dinner with guys a few times and if I don’t want the date going beyond dinner then it doesn’t. I won’t go back to their house and I sure as Hell won’t send them “signals”. What woman doesn’t know that it’s ultimately up to the woman whether or not it goes that far?
Exactly. Sexual harassment is UNWANTED sexual advances. And we all know what Rape is, Forceful sex after one has declined. However, it needs to be addressed that it is UNWANTED and saying NO helps immensely.
I read somewhere there is a consent ap out there.
Honestly as a woman, If I ever invited a guy over it’s because I wanted to bang. 100%. It is what it is. Why would I expect any different when a man does it?
It’s comical that people would need an app. Say NO or be about it. What’s the problem?
wouldn’t help here would it? She consented but felt like she shouldn’t have. Geez, this is the most ridiculous story!
I have an even more ridiculous one for you. Saw an article that a contraceptive app is under fire and people wanna sue because they still ended up pregnant when the app told them it was safe to have unprotected sex. Can’t make this stuff up.
it is pretty cruel that someone can remain anonymous as if she is a victim, and make a public accusation, invoking very private details, and the media reports it as if it is somehow ‘news’ or ‘newsworthy’ and an important story. While all that is being done is demonizing a person who is made a victim by this accusation and media story. I hope this woman is sued into the next life.
IVE said it once and I’ll say it again this is why I don’t go to men houses and they dont come to mine on the first date it be months Before they know where i Iive unless i know I’m ready to take it there
The way things going folks gone claim they were forced to sign or accept consent
See THIS was consensual.
Oral sex
I did it for a while. And he did me
He went to get a condom
Done. He didn’t rape you. And it wasn’t pretty
As soon as he went to get a condom. She would have been calling Uber.
You can not let this be on a date this far.
At 22. LADIES if a man asks you to his place. after dinner
It’s not for coffee. know this!
EVEN if all men are not like that, don’t put yourself in this position. Hormones star raging
FIGHTING HIM OFF OF YOU IS UGLY.
SAY “NO CALL ME TOMORROW”
Amen
it gets to crazy
Too many raging hormones
Take women to Dinner.
Enjoy her company
Call her an uber from the restaurant
I hate these type of tell-alls. Next thing you know, she’s going to sell her story to National Inquirer. Betcha. It was a consensual date, a consensual hookup, she got remorse and now she’s trashing HIM!!!! It was a bad date, get over it.
I think the athlete’s have some kind of consent ap because of all the groupies that pile onto them. The athletes have lawyered up. Good move.
Don’t you wonder why there aren’t more women who don’t tell on athletes? They’ve got to sign stuff before they go in with the athlete.
Derrick Rose is still being drug through the courts with appeals because of his ex claiming he raped her or whatever; it’s ridiculous.
These young guys need to hang with older women. Much more maturity and older women probably won’t allow anything inappropriate to happen unless they want it.
Come on hoe! This was not sexual harassment or rape, it was a hook up plain and simple!
It maturity and there is no age limit.
This is why the #MeToo movement should be taken with a grain of salt. While there are many survivors of sexual abuse, myself included, there are too many people like this who misuse it or just flat out lie so they can be included. Sexual abuse is one of the worst things a person can experience and it really irks me when people lie about it.
Very good point. That’s partly what I was I was trying to convey. If I go to a man’s house or if he comes to mine, we’re having sex, period. So if neither of us wants that, then we need to end the date wherever it started or not even go out if necessary. These women cannot be this dumb. Men know what the deal is, so why are women so damn slow??? I know I think like a guy sometimes as they tell me, but damn, if a man invited me to his home after a date, what are we supposed to do, bake sugar cookies??? The hell??? Naw! We grown, so any man that I get involved with knows what the deal is: If his penis is not working, then we don’t even need to talk or date, he can go and find some prude! Just keeping it all the way real.
No, they won’t. If a man is really into a woman or loves her, being on her period, even if it’s heavy and she’s bleeding barrels of blood, will NOT scare him away unless he’s a bitch ass immature dude. I have fibroids and endo and my ex never gave a damn if I was in pain or bleeding or not. Well, he cared of course, but none of that bothered him to where he didn’t want to be with me. Hell, before my bladder surgery when we were together, I would sometimes have to pee DURING sex! He didn’t go nowhere because he loved me. Only a bitch nigga would be bothered by trivial shit.
Hell, I’d prefer some lemon pepper wings and fries and then we can do our thing ;). But seriously, I agree with what you said. I think most men expect sex after the date, sometimes before the damn date! But I don’t see anything wrong with that as long as the woman wants it too. I mean, if you’ve known a guy for a good amount of time and you’re both into each other and enjoy spending time together, why would you not want sex after the date??? I can’t be the only freak on this site, healthy disease free freak of course! LOL!!!
From what men have told me who have dated older women, a lot of older women don’t even want sex. I think menopause affects some women’s sex drives and can cause painful vaginal problems too. All the more reason why men prefer younger women and hookers. If a man has a working penis and he can’t get sex from his woman, he will find it somewhere else. Hell, many of them get sex from their woman and still sleep with hookers. Sad.
Men ALWAYS expect sex, if their penis works, even if they buy you a $5 plate at the Walmart deli!
Slut walk of shame. Let’s call a spade a spade. If you choose to sleep with a guy you barely know, just own it, it’s her vagina. But also know that if he never calls you again or only calls to get sex, you can either agree or tell him to go f*ck himself……easy! I can’t stand simple bitches! She’s young and dumb, rightly so. When women get a certain age, we realize that casual sex is nothing but free prostitution, so if a woman chooses to put up with that, she shouldn’t complain about being treated like yesterday’s garbage pickup. Sad
I’m sorry Nicole.? I had an endometrial ablation last February and haven’t had a cycle since!! And HELL NAW I DO NOT MISS THAT BATCH! ?? Girl I happily donated ever one of my supplies!
What was the ablation like for you??? Do you still have a lot of pain??? I’m seeing the surgeon this week. The PA told me I needed an ablation. I’m just tired of going through this, but there is no cure so she said that I would probably need a few more surgeries. I hate going to the hospital, it is VERY depressing. I’m just not handling this well, but I have been in pain for over a decade. I had endo surgery last year and they removed a lot of scar tissue, but I’m still in pain. But my son gives me some comfort, at least I was able to have one child. But the constant pressure to have more makes this shit more difficult to deal with. I mean damn, if I had a husband and was actually fertile, I would have another child! Geeesh!!!
Swirl gone wrong bitter Slut Becky brings white braud tears on the ‘man of color’ she wouldn’t have done that to Brad Pitt. But he got the Pakistani’s to ride for him.
Smart rich men have wives or buy high class whores/sugar babies who sign NDA they don’t smash crazy brauds like that you get what you don’t pay for.
Bitter slut becky bad that he just used her like the hoe she is.
Male code if a braud comes to your house on the first date she’s a hoe looking to get smashed.
Everyone is trying to jump on the band wagon, do some of these people even know what sexual harassment is versus sexual assault. Also why put this out there to harm others when you cannot take it back; and it may not be true. Sometime your friends are not your friends and in this case they pointed you in the wrong direction.
This is going to turn into a witch hunt and at some point its gonna make real victims look bad. We as a society have to be careful of spiteful women who are coming forward because, said date didn’t go as planned, or he didn’t pay to play. All these women are not telling the turth.
Ansari,…putting your tongue in the hole of a woman you just met….yuck.
you don’t even know what she has!
You go up to his apartment admit to engaging in oral sex with a person you just met, he doesn’t force you to do anything, you don’t say no, he eventually puts you in a cab and you were harassed?
In the words of Jigga, “We don’t believe you, you need more people”. These bytches need to just stop. This shyt is getting out of hand. You a hoe and when you feel bad for your hoe tendencies you try to say these men are harassing you. Cut this shyt out! It’s not right. This in my opinion is harassment!
If it was a legit assault, it would of been on a legit website, not some blog with only 3,000 followers! U can’t go along with something then regret it after the fact, that’s not assault, just a bad experience!
In the past, I got with a dude, assumed the sex would be decent and loving, in the end it was a fricking dominatrix type crap and hard pounding, that ended up feeling uncomfortable and a little too rough for me, however this is not assault. This is just an encounter that was not to my liking. and in the end, my a$$ didn’t call him back. I went up there, knowing what was gonna happen and participated, I would be wrong to claim assault because he was doing it a little rougher than what i’m used to.
These women need to stop now, its getting out of hand. I was all for this movement but slowly i’m starting to believe, a simple encounter is now being called assault or rape, an encounter that most of these women agreed to. We as women have a right to walk away. If our head is forced down to a man’s penis we can fight our way off and call the police the next day, not 10 years later. we have a right to not go up to their apartment.
A man wanting us to come into his house at 1am is not to sing kumbaya,it’s to f*ck, plain and simple. Don’t go , no one is forcing you to move your legs , stomp your feet and make your way to the door.
umm then what is a woman going to a man’s place at 4am for? to play call of duty with him? Come on now. Booty call hours are 1 to 4.
She needs to get a grip on reality…first of all if he rushed you through dinner and you didn’t want to have sex why go to his house in the first place?? Dating 101, if he’s a jerk you can always leave at any time. She sounds like a slut, a yt one too, one who thinks she will come up in some sort of way by telling this story. He didn’t force her to do anything, she was a willing participant so why is this even a story?? It takes away from REAL victims
Idk about 4am but sometimes people just wanna hang
Wow. Can’t be she just wants to hang?
Not everyone is expecting sex when they go over to someone’s place. How come no one told me this a year ago? Why does everything revolve around sex….smh….
I wish I knew about this unspoken rule or expectation or whatever it is.
That’s the way the world is. Even little ole innocent me knows this.
Oh lordy did you ask him to ease up? That’s scary I don’t think I’ve ever been in a situation like that. And I agree with you completely people keep putting themselves in situations where the outcome is obvious. When did it become so hard to just say no and decline the offer to go to man’s home or hotel room????
Probably felt cheated because he didn’t do her for too long and wanted her to do it to him. If I’m not feeling a man I’m definitely not allowing him to go down on me or vice verse.
Exactly! Everyone seems to lack basic survival skills these days. Knowing good and well if Rudy the Janitor from work tried this shit you’d whoop his ass.
Real quick. Rudy would be messing with the wrong one. Lol.
Stupid broad, what you have are called ‘regrets’, not sexual harassment. Use a damn dictionary. These fricking dumb broads are really working my nerves with the absolute lack of personal responsibility for their OWN actions. Just disgusting.. Her and her stupid little group of dumb a** friends. Bad sex does not equal harassment, its just bad sex, dummy. I just can’t say dummy enough. Trying to ruin a man’s reputation for absolutely NO REASON other than you are an attention seeking dumb broad. https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/6f9a81969eebf99e5f9e067024a6f2481c20d20a97953ae016db016b18a3be8b.gif
Sex you regret is not rape or sexual assault.. This is such bullshit and why there is always doubt when women who actually are sexually violated come forward.. If I was a man now a days I would just jack the fuck off.. Aint no piece of ass worth potentially losing everything including your freedom. Although the #MeToo movement is great it also creates a climate where horribly vindictive women can use sexual assault as a come up.. I always say that I believe around 90% of women who say they have been violated in a sexual way.. But that leaves 10% who are just flat out lying and trying to seize on this moment for personal gain..You know how much a rich and powerful man would pay a woman to shut up right now..
I get it… You were 22 and did something that you could’ve kicked yourself for immediately after. The only foul play here is when you went to his house and he sat down, spread his leg and pointed to his pipi you immediately took that as your cue to give him a sloppy-toppy. Don’t get mad now and jump on the #MeToo bandwagon. Just consider it a life lesson learned and move on…
I don’t believe he committed a crime here… That woman wanted to publicly embarrass and shame him. And it was wrong. He even spoke to her after the incident and apologized. So if there was no crime, and he apologized, it should have been over.
”I think I just felt really pressured.” GTFOH, im really getting sick and tired of these women man. You claim you’re uncomfortable but you still continued? and you expect a man to take responsibility for not only his actions, but yours too, foh.
Uggh who is smashing him?
They know things are just not turning out Howe they wanted it to so now it’s rape not for All but most! I also find it strange that the majority of ppl who pull this shit is white women
Girl…I got UFE and still bleed like I cut an artery! I just got it in July last year. How long before yours stopped all together?
I guess I’ve been sexually harassed too then! Cause I don’t even really like giving head (unless I’m completely inebriated) and was uncomfortable all of the other 10 times that I’ve given one, which was sloppy at best. GET ALL THE WAY THE FOH!!
and that goes both ways!
Im over here like BISH he didnt have a gun to your head. You gave up that neck cuz you wanted too. Im sick of all these stories coming into play now. They dudes and females allowed themselves to be used and abused all for roles in hollywood and now that their careers are washed up they have to live with the foul things they did all for their 15 mins. You cant play victim after the fact. Nah you should have said something then. I dont care.
##FOH
This a damn shame, its 2018. get to work.
right like gross.
beach please! you could’ve left
I dont feel sorry at all for men being shamed for getting pussy. They started every last one of these perverted priviledges with creation of the bible. Now yall looking lame as hell pulling yo dick out every chance you get.
SO THE QUESTION IS YOU SUCKED HISSSSSS DICK? AND YOU WONDER WHY HE RUSHED YOU UHHHHHHH BECAUSE HE WAS SUPER READY, NOBODY BEGGING HIM TO SUCK HIS DICK?????
This was all consensual so why is this being put out there are sexual harassment and rape? This lying whore who sucks dick on the first night needs to be dragged for being a slut.
your post gave me life. #resuscitated
ok from both sides of the story…..seems like she felt a way after the fact…if you do not wanna give head…DON’T..period. I hope stories like these don’t negatively affect the women who have really been abused…..seems like she has a case of dick suckers remorse…..it happens.
What??? I thought the UFE stops or temporarily stops your periods and you shouldn’t have any heave bleeding. I haven’t had a period since last February. After my C-section in 2015, my OB had to give me the UFE so that he could try to save my uterus and stop the bleeding. I almost died and needed several blood transfusions after they cut my son out. So the dilemma I face now is trying to treat the existing pelvic pain. I still have a fibroid that needs to come out even though the UFE shrunk most of them. And there is no cure for this endometriosis I have to live with. I still don’t quite understand how someone can be considered infertile if they can get pregnant. I had a baby, so I’m not even sure what to believe anymore!!!!!!
Men always expect sex, but that certainly does not mean that a woman has to have sex with him if she does not want to. Women just need to be smarter because a lot of these men are manipulators and predators. We need to make our motives and expectations clear in the very beginning. Men and women do not always think the same. So if a man takes a woman out on a date and then she goes to his house afterwards or he comes to hers, more than likely he will expect sex!
Ok Soooooo, the date wasn’t what you expected so you complain about discomfort? Ma’am, have a seat or 2. You went out with him, ya’ll slobbed and slurped on each other and the chemistry wasn’t there. Don’t try to make him look crazy when you showed him what that mouf do VOLUNTARILY. If you can’t say he forced anything on you or raped you hush up. If dinner sucked wtf you go to his house for? Please shut up ma’am. You’re stupid.
BWAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!
LOL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! THIS IS EVERYTHING!! I’ve taken a few…more like several “Ls” in my lifetime, this is not something you repeat. You keep that Shat to yourself and like you said “DO BETTER”..
RIGHT! Half my roster would be doing REAL TIME!!
Exactly! This seems like that bad date we have all went on and have learned to erase it from our minds. It happens. Grow up and if your not ready stick to group dates. Why are you sucking strange D at 22… we need to do better as women!!!! Teach our young women better!!!
I’m sorry, but I’m victim blaming in this case. She could have kept her story. I feel the same way about the whole Nelly drama.
Girl I have had 2 C sections with my second and third child. I had the cryo-oblation to freeze my walls so it could reduce the bleeding that just made me cramp harder and bleeding didn’t stop last year Dr Carson (great black doctor) did my UFE. Im still having periods they are a little better as in I don’t bleed through the thick overnight pads every hour and I don’t have to get up but once at night to change, but it is still there. I thought something was wrong because I am still getting the blood clots that they said were the result of active fibroids. He did another MRI and they said they got them all but they are still shrinking…so Im still going through it..smh..
Yes!!! I mean….we all have had that one who we still to this day say ” damn why did I give him the booty”……hell…but no need to start false accusations, especially on such a touchy subject in this climate anyways…..she should smoke some weed and it will make her forget…..
The OB that delivered my son told me that I would need another C-section if I have another baby and then he would do a hysterectomy. Well, so far that second baby is in Neverneverland because it might not happen I guess! My body is just a medical mystery at this point. I didn’t think I could conceive and then I did unknowingly. So I think that second baby is up to God, not me or some doctor. That’s not something I should be worried about anyway, but when you are infertile, it is tough on relationships and hard to deal with. However, I try to see some good in every obstacle. God blessed me with a beautiful and healthy little boy, we both survived. I’m not in the position to even have another baby, kids are expensive and I do not want to be a single parent again, nor do I want to end up with 117 kids raising them on my own, one time is enough for me! I have my days when the pain and infertility (or so I think) gets to me, but overall, I think I just need to be grateful that I am alive and that I was given the honor to be my son’s mother :).
What race was she ? I bet he gets a good schooling by his east indian people he will be on alert now
Beautifully said and Im so glad you were blessed to know the feeling of motherhood. Many women sadly cant no ever will. And yes it is God that is the giver of life so only HE knows your path and no dr can give you the outcome of what God does or doesn’t have for you..
Hey lady. I had a tubal ligation an endometrial ablation at the same time. Therecovery was painful. It was a little difficult because your core is everything. So turning in bed, sitting, reaching, all of that hurts. It took up for 2 1/2 weeks for me to really recover. Not to mention the follow up was two weeks later anyway. But once it’s done it’s been great. I have absolutely no pain at all. Not even when my cycle is supposed to start. I feel absolutely nothing and I no longer have a menstrual cycle. IMO it’s totally worth it. It beats all of the pain medication and the agony that occurs when it’s that time of the month. Now in regards to this Osteoarthritis in my hip? That pain is no joke!! I thought I’d finally be pain med free then we found out about this ?. Let me know what you decide and your results! Blessings ?
I saw my doctor yesterday. We a had a VERY long talk. Needless to say, I have a LOT going on down below. My pelvic organs are actually stuck together, badly, like super glue. If he separates them he could do more damage and I would need a colostomy bag for the rest of my life. Most of my pain is probably being caused by those organs fusing together like they did. I could probably still conceive a child, but it could put me and the baby’s life at risk. The baby would most likely be premature and may or may not survive. I don’t even know if I want another baby, but I’m not actively trying to have one with me being single. So for the most part, I will more than likely be in pain for the rest of my life to some degree. I see another specialist in the spring. They may try to repair some nerve damage to decrease the pain, but they really don’t even want to do that.
My endometriosis isn’t even that bad and I barely have it. I had a laparoscopy last year and he said he didn’t even really see signs of endo, but there was so much scar tissue that the tissue could have been hiding some of the endo! I’m trying to look at the bright side of things, if I don’t then I’ll get depressed. I have a healthy child and I’m alive and in mostly good health. So if I have to live the rest of my life with some pain and with an only child, so be it. It’s a LOT better than being in some cemetery six feet under so I am grateful for each day, even with the pain!!!
I love ? your positivity Nicole!! We will continue to be blessed! ??