I saw this video on other sites but I never watched it because I wasn’t interested in seeing a man slap a woman. I don’t get my kicks by watching men act like bitches.
But out of curiosity I decided to watch the video when a loyal reader sent it to me today. What interested me about this video was what happened after the Indian guy slapped the female:
He got his ass kicked by real men and started crying like bitches do.
That wouldn’t have happened here in America. Especially in the black community where boys are raised by black women who don’t respect themselves or other women. So when a black man slaps a female, other black men just stand around and gawk or urge the man on… ’cause that’s how they were raised.
There was a time when men were raised to believe they were the protectors of females. But those days are long gone – at least in our community.
Thank God there are still a few of us left who hold onto the values instilled in us by our parents. I raised my nephew to be a man, not a bitch. So when he was a shorty and a girl slapped him in school. He came home and proudly announced that he didn’t hit her back.
He’s 27 now and to this day when we talk about the arguments he has with his baby mama, he informs me that he never hits her because he’s a man and he knows he is stronger than she is.
My nephew knows that hitting females doesn’t make him a man. Knowing that he’s a man is what separates him from these knuckleheads running around here calling themselves men. Just imagine how young black females would begin to respect themselves if we taught our black boys to respect them.
Thanks to loyal reader Danyel for the vid link!
Got to wait until I get home to watch……a double bonus
^^^I take it, you get the white boxes too, huh.
I agree Sandra, Dudes ain built like they used to be…It doesn’t matter who you are either. Black men will hit their Mother’s, their sisters, their aunts, their children, their friends, and foes. Sad part is one point I don’t agree with is that they are men raised by women who don’t respect themselves, thats not always the case…though Im sure they hang with a few boys who were raised by those women and they are probably the dudes cheering them on!! However, some men are raised by respectable married women (marry a successful father figure) who provided more than a good life and a loving support system for them, but due to their DEAD BEAT DADDY GENES, they still manage to grow up with a grudge and low self worth….they turn to things that allow those genes to take over like drugs and alcohol…before you know it a black man with a promising future is living a petty thug life getting a kick out of hitting women and watching them crawl back! Its sad but thats the world we’re living in today.
Yep white boxes…..
LMAO! at first all i understood was “slap” and “bastard”…it didn’t take all those guys hovering around him to make a point though…it looks like the guy was barely touched…i wonder what type of show this was…she slapped him first…
…i rarely see this happening, but i can understand your point…that $hit isn’t cool and def don’t make you a “man”…usually the guys who stand around and watch/cheer are scared of the dummy who is fighting the girl anyway…
…So when a black man slaps a female, other black men just stand around and gawk or urge the man on… ’cause that’s how they were raised
She didn’t have any right to hit him, if you are willing to throw punches, then be willing to take some.
Unless my eyes are playing tricks on me…Didn’t the woman slap FIRST? In my honest, unwavering opinion, she deserved to be smacked straight in her mouth.
What’s this folks talk about boys be raised not to strike a woman yet girls are given a pass to smack a guy? It’s wrong either way you look at it and in a fair world, whoever starts it, male or female deserves a good smackdown.
I been laughing at this since I posted it two days ago. Best video of 2008 so far.
Lmao @ “why did she slap????”
I don’t believe men should hit women. But if a chick acts up with my brother and hits him, I’ll lay her out for him. That’s what sisters and girl cousins are for.
My mom raised me and my older sister by herself…….I never fought my sister and I never hit women…….Me and my dad have the same Birthday, and this past weekend he text me happy-Birthday(1st time in 32yrs)…all my life I wanted to be the opposite of my dad and I’m doing pretty good at it too….
I want to interject. I raise my boys (ages 14 & 7) to not hit girls (regardless), although I am getting tired of these little (fast tail little girls) hitting my boys. It is like once they realize they will not hit them back, then they keep hitting. I do not believe if they grew up and hit back it is because of the way I am raising them. No, it is because like us all, we can only take turning the other cheek for so long. So, my point is Ladies keep your hands off these men!
Interesting.
He’s wrong for slapping her, but there’s no mention in the post that she slapped him first. We as women are quick to point out when men are wrong…wasn’t she wrong too. So what he got the beat down, I bet she’ll think twice before smacking somebody else.
@sharnell,
You right about that.
Don’t hit them, if you don’t want them to hit you.
like auntie i too have a nephew. he is the ONLY boy we have. i have all sisters and my oldest sister is the only one with a son. so we all shared in raising him. he will not hit a woman. period. in fact his girlfriend made me so sad once and said he is the first man she ever dated who DID NOT hit her. that made me feel scared a little that a beautiful 23 yo woman thinks it is NORMAL to be in a relationship and get smacked around. and for my nephew to respect and cherish her is alien to her.
sad.
^^^Amen to that Sharnell^^^^ I don’t think it’s about teaching our boys to repect our girls it’s more about teaching our children to respect people period! I have a 3 year old son & 3 year old twin nieces that all live with me. While my son is being taught that he does not put his hands on females my girls know they don’t put they hands on my son or each other!! Children need to be taught to comminicate verbally to handle difficult situations in order to be successful in life. and that goes for issues between you and your child also. If all you do is hit(spank) your child then, that’s how they are gonna react when someone fustrates them. Now i do spank my kids but it’s more of a way to make sure i have their full attention while i explain what exactly they did wrong & how they should have reacted. We have to teach our children to communicate efficently without violence!!!
ok i’m done……:-)
ITA w/Sharnell too.
That is all.
That’s why you have to make sure your boys are close with their sisters, female cousins, or have femal friends. That way, they don’t have to hit a girl- they can get them to go beat her ass!
And regardless, that was a b*tch move. She didn’t hurt him when she slapped him, but he cold c0cked her ass; NOT COOL!
Seattle Slim says:
I don’t believe men should hit women. But if a chick acts up with my brother and hits him, I’ll lay her out for him. That’s what sisters and girl cousins are for.
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^5 on that one… a chick went at my older brother .. since he was raised by grandmother.. (all by herself) he didn’t hit back .. he came in the house all pissed and scratched the hell up .. I went outside and went to WORK ..(in my Vivica Fox voice from Soul Food) .. I beat that H0E DOWN..
I know I can’t beat a dude so I don’t raise my hand to one..
you can BEST believe if it ever came to pass a dude tried to swing on me… I have 13 older brothers that WILL come to my aide with the Quickness….
My homeboy doesn’t whoop his daughter, he lets the mom get in that a$$…I asked him why…and he said, He don’t want her to grow up and think it is ok for a man to hit a women, his son catches hell from both of them though……
@ goat … my dad NEVER spanked .. hit… or even popped me .. so I guess it was instilled in me as well .. Men don’t hit women .. PERIOD. …
Gotdamn Kymy yo momma and daddy wasn’t playing around…..
@ kymystry: damn, yall have a mob (smile)! 13 older brothers…i’m curious, what’s the age range?
@ goat .. nope they weren’t .. between the 2 of them .. I had 13 brothers and 5 sisters .. 19 total …
How many sisters do you have Kymy…..
blogger .. my dad was a player .. i have an older brother and sister 5 months apart … 54-40 (im the baby) .. some might say Im a weeee bit spoiled … lol
My Grandma has 12 kids and had 6 miscarriages……..back then all they had was working in the fields, fighting, and gnikcuf…..My grandma started the fights and my Grandad finished them….
lol … thats how it was Goat .. my parents are still alive both are 73 y.o .. my g-mom had 11 kids ..9 boys 2 girls .. and she’s still alive @ 91 (she’ll be 92 on Sept 13)
Yo daddy laid pipe for a living……
@ kymstry: poppa was a rolling stone on my end as well…he died when i was 3 and we’re still trying to figure out how many damn kids he had…i wanna know since im curious AND don’t wanna mess around and date a half-bro…
@ blogger .. ain’t that the truth … you don’t wanna be a Steve Harvey strawberry Letter … lol
bottom line .. .. a man shouldn’t hit a woman .. Point Blank PERIOD !!
Kym I’m rioght with you, my mother got 12 kids 6 boys 6 girls and that’s all from the same mother…now our daddies there’s (3) don’t know how many brothers and sisters we have on their side.
Dats true ^^ I seen this on another blog when Auntie was MIA (so please forgive me) but they were on there talking bout the woman ddeserved it. I fell like if you a real man just walk away. Women are no match for a man physically even with all the mouth and neck rolling we do.
Any boy can raise a hand but, It takes a real man to walk away
yall are a mess. i’m from the country too and at my granddaddy funeral a fight almost broke out because some folks showed up claiming they were seeds too….about 5 of them!! my momma and her sibs were HEATED. but they could not be mad. they already knew what it was AND my grandma was like “yeah it is true.”
AND the folks who showed up looked JUST like my momma nem. looking back on it, it was too too hilarious!
This is a great post, Sandra. I agree with you… I hope some men read this post, and read if carefully! REAL TALK!
I agree you shouldn’t hit women but at the same time a lot of these women act like they bad ass and think they can fight a man. I seen a few occasions where the women run around buck up like they really can do something. I definitely think that those deserve a beat down just to put them back in perspective.
I remember a loooong time ago at the Chili Pepper, this chick was getting at this dude cussing him out telling him that she will beat his ass, and come try her to see what happens, calling him punks, bitches and walking tough. Well dude went and smashed his glass in the chicks face which cut her up real bad and he walked away.
In my mind I didn’t feel bad for matter of fact I was saying to myself that what your bad ass gets
I agree with all points above. But my mother and father had hell when it came to raising me. My father is from Bangladesh where they can hit women all they want, and my mom, a Haitian woman, wasn’t having that. So if it came to discipline, my mom dug in his A$$ if he even LOOKED like he was going to hit me, but he thought it was alright. They were so different that of course they split, but not soon enough, as my brother thinks that it is alright to hit a woman to this day. My mom whooped all hell out of him when he slapped his girlfriend even though she can’t stand her. And I agreed with her (even though I wanted to whoop her myself, but that’s another topic.) But it’s definitely a cluture thing, and he looks like one of my daddy’s people. It’s wrong, but that’s what they know.
Lol @ kym. I hear that. He’s a big dude so I doubt anyone male or female will test but just in case he knows who to call. I will teleport there if need be lol.
My thing too is if a dude comes at me and it’s about to go down, I’ll hit him but I fully expect it to be on if I do. I will not antagonize a male but if he gets static, I get my fists clenched and my jaw ready and hope to God my left hook game and my right jab game are on point.
I fought more dudes in school than girls in Panama. Down there they don’t care in the schools. I fought all in the boys bathroom cause we brawled from the classroom down the hall to the bathrooms. We disrupted class and all throwing chairs and falling all over the place. Lol good times. It reminds me of that fight rowdy roddy piper had in that one horror movie called “They” I think is the name.
@dblaq, that was wrong for that man to do that. It sounds crazy. She didn’t deserve that.
I think today people lack self-control and MORALS. People don’t have reasoning/critical thinking skills.
Words are just words. Sometimes it’s okay to walk away.
@lovelylady………My Grandma has the same scenario(sp) 6 boys and 6 girls and the oldest (3) have the same father but different from the other 9………Are you my Aunt?????
@ goat & LovelyLady, how odd that would be if it turned out that you guys are related?!?!
I can’t see the damn video ( the notorious white box) but I’m in agreeance that no one should hit anyone else. That said… I have 2 sons and a daughter.. and I don’t want my boys to think it’s okay for anyone to just hit on them. My rule is you don’t lay hands first. Period. Like many of you said.. these little girls are off the chain with their hands and mouths and I feel if you are bad enough to put your hands on someone, despite their gender, prepare for the repercussions. And the comment about women not being able to beat men… I’ve seen a few women I am sure could take out a dude or two!
Yeah…she DID slap him…
But he slapped her like he was a “Pimp named Slickback” and she owed him his car note money…
I mean, he put his SHOULDER IN IT…
@DivaMama that would be a trip to be bloggin with my aunt or even more crazy if its my mom…
Well I guess I should stop putting my hands on my daughter’s father then…….He might pop me back one day. Lesson learned!
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You are a mess… got a friend like that. Some dudes let it ride.. others.. not so much.
LMAO @ Lala11….A pimp named slick back was knockin folks out wasn’t he?
I just throw things at my husband… then run…
lol @ Diva
ok – without any sound here at work, all I saw was a woman hit a man and a man hit her back. I don’t condone a man hitting a woman at all, but I don’t condone women slapping men just because they are women, either. If my son got slapped by a girl, I wouldn’t tell him to hit her, but he can push the shit out of her.
lol @ Diva
Mzsuave – yeah he may hit back. But I feel ya because I sure want to put my hands on mine.
I learned my lesson years ago about “going crazy” and hitting a nigga. As a reflex, he hit me square in my nose. That was the worse pain I’ve EVER felt. I don’t hit dudes.
lol @diva…i beat my husband in his sleep. but try to slide it as an “accident”
“you kneed me in the nuts last night and tried to pretend you was just rolling over…”
ha!
Took me about 3 whole minutes to recover from, “How can she slap?!”
@ kwallace,
I tried that one time with my husband and he got me back… my butt and tig’ol bitties were SORE the next morning!
I don’t condone it…….but it looked like a instant reflex to me.
Also…I was surprised to even see her being so dominant, given their culture.
Sharnell I agree you have a good point, because I am raising my 7 yr old son the same, but just like you said little girls take advantage of that, and I see him get angry but I tell him not to be fooled up with them anymore until they learn to keep their hands to themselves, because he will still get an a** whoppin if I ever found out he hit them back.
@ Goat, Im very proud of you dude! I guess one can never be specific about a young black man’s upbringing to determine their actions….Some do, some don’t simple as that…we have to remember that no matter how well you raise a child, they still have their own mind in the end. I mean look at Cain and Abel…Adam and Eve love them both the same, but one still became jealous of the other and ol’ Cain caught ah charge…so, what can you do?? SMH
I think sometimes, in certain situations, some females really be asking for it.But on one a occasion it was the opposite.This guy I use to know, very feminine like, talk LOTS of shit and I mean lots of it until eventually I knew it was going to catch up to him and he got beat down by 3 females and KNOCKED all of his teeth out.It was that bad.So yes, females can throw down.If you purposely hit a woman then there’s a problem.It’s like its ok for a woman to hit a man, but it just doesn’t make sense either way.
Aww just reading the responses about your guys children is wonderful!I’m only 21 (no kids and single!) but it seems like the married life is wonderful.I can’t actually wait..then again I can I’m being very careful!
i don’t condone at all a man hitting a woman just because or if he’s angry or bigger or tryna scare her…
but i sholl as hell don’t urge a woman to act snooty and slap or provoke a man either. ol girl was real rude and acting haughty and thought she was cool doing that ish. and that just aint right.
but it’s true…that dude put his whole back in that slap son. OUCH! i woulda been crying for real if i was ol girl. she shouldn’t have done that. dude’s pride was up and he was shocked and piss so WAM! know who you are dealing with when you slap a man girlie.
p.s. damn indians curse like that boyeee? oooooh weee! i wanna wash their mouths out with red curry paste!
Ok, I teach my boys not to hit girls, but I also teach my daughter it is not fair for girls to hit a men, they should not be provoked and sometimes we as woman know this and as soon as we have pushed the man to the max we want to say your aren’t suppose to hit me. But What I really have a problem is why when something happens like this clip we have to start talking about our black males, I know and have dated plenty BLACK men who do not hit woman, and it’s not limited to black men only, White men were and are still know for that. but that does’t mean it only affects their race. give it a break this is not a black thing it’s a universal thing.
Don’t forget that men are also abused spouses. I went to school with a guy who got into a fight with his girlfriend and was stabbed to death for not fighting back. A person has every right to defend themselves if it be necessary. I don’t condone violence in anyway. But don’t start nothing and it won’t be nothing.
Whoop dat TRICK, Whoop dat TRICK………
I also wanted to teach my daughter diff. from me, we were taught to be fighters and never was really told about hitting guys, and of course I grow up with it, But its tiresome even when a guy doesn’t really hit you back, and I got with a dude that clearly doesn’t play that and i had to look at myself and say it’s no right for you to hit him , so I now do not hit my man, we can fuss and cuss but i keep my hands to myself which for a long time i didn’t know how to do that was my way of expressing my anger, I can’t argue either I always get to stuttering and stuff i guess that’s why i always wanted to fight it out instead.
Now goat, I thought you JUST said………LOL!
goat76 Says:
Whoop dat TRICK, Whoop dat TRICK………
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Lol!
Man its Friday and its been a short long week….I love my women and would never hurt ya’ll…..but some women(probably not real women) think you don’t care for them if you don’t show your a$$……..That’s how my last relationship ended…..She needed the negative energy for her to feel like I cared……….I flew to AZ to visit you, and your mad because we ain’t fighting and cussin each other out……Glad dats over wit….I’m too laid back for dat sh1t, and don’t like blowing my high over some BS…
He was slapped because of the type of show he was on. From what I read elsewhere she slaps the contestants all the time. Just cause she hit him doesn’t mean she deserved it
What kind of show was that……..I want be on, “Get Your A$$ whooped”
Im not sure what type of show it was but I read it on another blog today. Shes supposed to rough the contestants up. Just like Jenny did on Singled out
I guess the dudes from my hood have class. On more than one occasion male family members have gotten their female cousins, sisters, aunts and mamas to get at an out of pocket chick rather than stomping her themselves. This chick was definately out of pocket. Unfortunately, a person is subject to snap when they are slapped in the face unexpectedly and clock a ho before they catch their cool and say, “hold up, let me go get my sister Kasheka for that a$$.”
Goat took the words RIGHT out of my mouth! –
“….I’m too laid back for dat sh1t, and don’t like blowing my high over some BS…”
but seriously, men have no business hit’n women. My sister’s the only girl out of 6 children and I’ll go to jail in a heartbeat for murder if my brother in-law EVER raised his hand to her. Yes some women have real issues with their mouth or keeping their hand to themselves, but to a REAL, mature man there is nothing that can bring him to hitting a women save self preservation. – An ex had the nerve to put a gun in my face (long story) and sure enough – from my natural reflex she got decked. The cops understood, but even more importantly, my mother and BOTH grandmothers understood. That was the only time I’ve ever hit a woman.
bye fam. i am cutting out early b/c of the storm (hanna today and tomorrow, ike next week). gotta go get my babies and i CANNOT be stormed in without my spirits either so i gotta few stops to make. PEACE.
goat76 Says:
Whoop dat TRICK, Whoop dat TRICK………
ROFL!
Why deez Hurricane’s won’t leave us alone!!!!….Well if the Gators can put a stop to Miami this weekend in the Ville I won’t feel so bad about it, LOL!
@Kwallace…..I feel you about the Hurricane(party)….I have to make sure I have water, food, and my trees when the storms come through……
@SlimA……yeah its Friday, and I had to relieve some tension…
Where is Mzsuave at…..she bet not be gone to the house…a$$ ain’t worked all week…I’m tell my sister and cousins you be hitting on me cause you know I won’t hit you back….
I can’t view the video till I get home but I don’t like the fact that SR is trying to lump abuse to Black men raised by single parents. Abuse is an INTERNATIONAL thing. Not an American thing (hate when ppl come to this country and then pop shyt about it), not a black thing, not a white thing, its a f’ed up thing that is done mostly by weak men (every creed and color). I’ve never done a study or read a report on reasons behind a man doing that but I will assume it gives them some type of power that they can’t get elsewhere… ie losers!
Smokie Says:
ok – without any sound here at work, all I saw was a woman hit a man and a man hit her back. I don’t condone a man hitting a woman at all, but I don’t condone women slapping men just because they are women, either. If my son got slapped by a girl, I wouldn’t tell him to hit her, but he can push the **** out of her.
You don’t need the sound.lol. Altho comical it doesn’t really explain whats going on. I also don’t condone a woman jumping on a man. Especially if you feel safe under the notion he wont hit back because men don’t/aren’t supposed to hit women. I was always taught don’t dish out what you cant take. Couple months ago I was in line at a club. A group of teens in front of us were trying to get in with fake id’s. bouncer called them on it. 1 girl starts getting loud, cursing, making threats, she even called him racial names him being Italian her being Black (she thought he was mexican and was calling him border jumper and things like that, he politely corrected her and said he was itallian). Then she spits in his face. He pushed her little ass and she flew to the ground. Then 1 of the guys with her jumps in the bouncers face and he too got knocked to the ground, however this was no push this was a punch. Ol boy was out cold. So not only did this young lady get herself hurt but her poor friend is now unconscious. What made her take on this large man? What makes anyone in their right mind male or female feel like they can spit in someones face without repercussion? Now judging by some of these comments I’m guessing me and the other men in line are punks because we didnt intervene? I guess we’re also sellouts being Black we should have had her back.lol. Whatever man. You hit me I’m gone hit you back. Plain and simple. By law I’m permitted to defend myself. Call me what you want…
goat76 Says:
@lovelylady………My Grandma has the same scenario(sp) 6 boys and 6 girls and the oldest (3) have the same father but different from the other 9………Are you my Aunt?????
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Shuttttttttttt.. IDK might be lmao
Well lets put it this way, nobody is suppose to hit nobody period because if you do you never know what will happen. Many females use the female ish on guys and anyway real woman wouldn’t even go there unless it is something the man did to disrespect her. other than that a woman does not need to buck at any man. My motto is if you bold enough act like a man then you shouldn’t be afraid to get beat down like one. don’t dish it out if you can’t take it back.
Brenden…..
Whoop dat TRICK, Whoop dat TRICK………
Man just playin wit you…….Co-sign your post 100%
He got her good tho!
Man, he slapped the CURRY outta her azz!!!
She shouldn’t have hit him, not cool.
@ kalvonel A gun? Are you serious? And all you did was deck her? I don’t condone violence but when someone threatens you with a gun, they need to be pistol whipped!
goat76 Says:
Where is Mzsuave at…..she bet not be gone to the house…a$$ ain’t worked all week…I’m tell my sister and cousins you be hitting on me cause you know I won’t hit you back….
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Hehehehe…you are so funny. I’m still here. Very low-key, they laying off ppl today, so I’m really working today, shoooooot. I won’t hit a nugga no mo’…promise…lol
Damn, it went from raise em right, to respect em all, to don’t ah nicca unless u ready to get hit back, now we pistol whippin b*tches…..oops I mean females. Whats next? I think we were making progress when someone stated “Don’t hit me, I won’t hit you”…..However, Men “if you should happen to set it on fire, there are some effects” –Katt Williams
So don’t go putting on ya wife beaters just yet….we got GRITS!! LOL!
it’s about respect and some of these females take things too far when they know a man won’t hit them. Anybody can get their button pushed regardless of how you were raised. You will only take so much of someone fuccin w/u..and when he beats your ass after years and months of you putting hands on him..i won’t feel sorry for you..and you BEST suck that shyt up..now if its an ike/Tina situation oh yeah I got your back..but some of these women need to take responsibilty for their own actions and i’m just being real
Krysi J Says:
So don’t go putting on ya wife beaters just yet….we got GRITS!! LOL!
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GRIT-BALL!!! HAHAHAH
i see what you’re saying sandra but the way some of these women act, i wouldn’t look to defend them. If its an innocent women then by all means i would def. look out for her.
Mzsuave Says:
GRIT-BALL!!! HAHAHAH
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YES MA’am LOL! Thats just for the girls who are trying to get away from a wife beater, please don’t try that ish with a sister whose more than ready for war……..YOU EVER HEARD OF POT ASH??? Just like yall up on here talking about you hitting a female and fukk what we think…don’t get beside yourself with that attitude, cuz there is a match for every card in the deck boo!! Some of deez females splitting WIGZ too!! Wife beaters like Ike ain running wild round here no MOE! Alot of sistas don’t play dat sweetie.
^^^^lmao…girl, you a mess! But that’s so true. Females don’t give a hot dayum no more. (In Cedric the Entertainer’s voice) “I wish a ni**a wouldddddd…….”
I almost felt sorry for his bitch ass, hitting a woman back. All due to his bitch ass crying after the fact.
Umm Sandra, so why won’t your nephew marry said baby mama? I think the breakdown of the black community has its roots when men left women to raise children on their own. So he might not be slapping her, but he’s contributing further to the degeneration of black families.
@ karaz….
Ooooh wee @ your comment. *I agree*
But um… lol
BANNED in 5, 4, 3, 2…
I read over your post SR and I agree with everything you said, until I read baby momma. It hit me in the gut because we’re discussing men respecting woman. We can teach our boys to respect a woman by not hitting her but then we leave out respect women by making them WIVES instead of a baby mommas. I have a son and I’m teaching him to respect women but on every level. Just because a woman doesn’t respect herself by keeping her legs closed gives you(a man)no right to take it for free. If you’re gonna make a baby, be man enough to be making it with your wife and not with some chick you met last night.
goat76 Says:
Brenden…..
Whoop dat TRICK, Whoop dat TRICK………
LMAO. This post his has got me to thinking and eventho I’ve had bad breakups, a woman has never struck me. Theres been times where we’ve said extremely hurtful things to eachother, but no matter how much venom I spit at her she never struck me. So I’m really confused about these women who do lash out at men. Because I’ve never experienced that. 1 time this woman had revealed things shed done as a teen to me. And while all was good with us it didnt bother me, but as we were breaking up I threw it in her face. I ownt say what it was but believe me I was SO WRONG for even mentioning that. Don’t get me wrong she said things to me as well, and the reason we were parting is because she’d opened up a line of credit in my name without my knowledge, at laynebryant at that.lmao. But yeah eventho she cried and eventho she broke plates and what not, she never raised her hand to me. Which would be the only way I can imagine hitting a woman is if you hit me first. So if I’ve dated women who have lied, stole my credit, and so on, why not 1 who wants to go blow for blow? It must take a certain type of woman. A stupid certain type of woman.lol
#91 says:
So I’m really confused about these women who do lash out at men.
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To be quite honest…I would hit my daughter’s father because he would threaten to hurt me or put his finger in my face and degrade me as a woman. I am the sweetest person someone could meet, but after being with him, he taught me how to fight…lol. I would be so upset with him and the things he did to me, that I would hit him, WAITING on him to lay a hand on me. I was never afraid of him, ever. That’s why I didn’t care about hitting him b/c I knew that HE knew that I could hold my own if it was ever to go down. IDK…it’s an iffy subject—no a man shouldn’t put his hands on a woman and woman shouldn’t either. But sometimes our anger gets the best of us.
Anywho…enjoy yall weekend. I got 30-mo’ minutes and I’m blowing this dump! Nite Nite!
Sorry Sandra i have to disagree, if you went up tnd slapped some man and didnt expect to get shoved, slapped punched kicked something back you are CRAZY i was taught when i was young if someone hits you you can hit them back, boy girl cat whatever. she had no right to hit him and she went overboard and got hers………….. Its unfortunate it really is and would i have reacted like this NO, but it is 100% understandable and thats real talk
tnd = and my keys slip
@aprilshowers…
I don’t think I was being disrespectful, I just brought up a different view of this whole respect/black people are changing debate. Is that what gets you banned? I know Sandra isn’t petty like that
I don’t condone a man hitting a woman by no means, but she did hit him first-oh well.
Just testing to see if my avatar works yet…
Karaz Says:
Umm Sandra, so why won’t your nephew marry said baby mama?
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Was Mary married when she had baby Jesus? Kids these days know that the institution of marriage is a failure because the world has changed since the days of Adam and Eve (who weren’t married either). Now we have same-sex couples marrying each other. Soon dogs and cats will walk down the aisle paw in paw. Marriage is a farce and the kids know it. They are doing the right thing by proving their love through being respectful and responsible to their partner while taking care of their seed. That’s all i ask. I could care less if they never get married.
I think its interesting you equate same sex marriage, as that of two animals getting married…………….
That wouldn’t have happened here in America. Especially in the black community where boys are raised by black women who don’t respect themselves or other women.
If you can raise your nephew to respect women and not hit them then why the statement that black boys are being raised by black women now- as if to say that somehow it’s black women’s fault that young black boys or men for that matter don’t respect black women?
and I know for a fact that this is not necessarily the case for all black single-mothers, I for one am the proud mother of a 22 year old black male who is serving his country in iraq since october of 2007 and he has never disrespected me for one, and is a very loving brother to his 4 year old sister, and to my knowledge I have never known for him to put his hand on a woman, and I strongly believe he hasn’t and never will-because of how he was raised by me a strong black woman.
and oh yeah, did I mention that I happened to be a teen-age mother to him as well-gasp….oh my….and I graduated college and he high school and attended a few classes at college and decided to join the military and has never seen the inside of a jail cell or police car….
oh no, nobody’s stereotype will define my or my children’s future.
Sandra, marriage, though you describe it as a farce (and the way its treated in today’s society it actually is the biggest mockery of an institution I’ve seen), has some pretty fancy trappings, including legitimacy and legal claim. Let’s not fool ourselves children born out of wedlock (regardless of the status of their parent’s relationship) fare worse than their legitimate counterparts, when it comes down to the final details. Marriage is an important cornerstone of every community, when we all start to treat it like garbage and disregard the benefits of it, we start chipping away at other parts of our community, value system and the like.
Mary did marry Joseph at the end of the day and legitimized little baby Jesus. If Joseph died when Herod was up to his shenanigans, Jesus would have inherited his (earthly) father’s possession.
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Actually wasn’t there a doggie wedding just last week in India or have the florescent lights at the plantation finally gotten to me?
hi intensemocha!
Adam and Eve were married …
Adam and eve were Clones of each other except one was female and one was male so they were brother and sister =]
@charles… clones are exactly the same, so by your own admission, Adam and Eve aren’t clones. Adam and Eve aren’t brother and sister, there’s no evidence to even support that they lived as anything other than husband and wife.
Didnt god make EVE from “ADAMS” RIB so he cloned her bascaially but her gender was different they are clones and twins, nasty they had 2 kids together huh?!? Im not insulting the bible or Christianity just my take on the story
Sad to say I had a wedding for my two chihuahuas, mariachi music , video, wedding dress and bridesmaids-lol. I live in Adams Morgan DC for 3 years and the community kinda grew on me. My dog’s first wife died and he has another one and those two will get married in the near future. Ill definitely send Sandra some pics. I don’t view marriage the same. I want to get married in the future but Ive already prepared myself in case my husband has an affair. It happens all the time now. I can’t find a legitimate case of any couple being completely monogamous, and when we think they are their affair comes to light.
WHoa, WTH did this post turn into??! LOL!