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Alicia Silverstone made headlines last week when she revealed she still sleeps with her 11-year-old son Bear Blu Jarecki.

"Bear and I still sleep together," Silverstone said on the Ellen Fisher Podcast on July 19, 2022. "I don't really care," she replied about the wave of criticism she faces.

Silverstone, 45, shares Bear with ex-husband Christopher Jarecki.

The single mom has been open about her unorthodox relationship with her son.

Dr. Sam Vankin, author of the best-selling book Malignant Self Love: Narcissism revisited, says mothers are responsible for raising narcissistic children.

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Dr. Vankin is an expert on narcissism because he is a narcissist himself.

He says narcissists emotionally abuse and discard others to get back at their own mother who discarded them.

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Vaknin says narcissism is usually rooted in mother issues stemming back to childhood.

"This could mean anything from a mother who can't let go of the child, idolizes them or neglects them," he said.

"This could be in the form of making the child act like a parent, or not allowing them to detach naturally from them as children should," he explained.

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"They can idolize or use the child to fulfill their own needs, when the child becomes an extension of the parent and they aren't allowed to become an individual."

Dr. Vaknin says the narcissistic child grows up resentful by the fact that they are invisible to their own mother who lives vicariously through them.

"This creates rage, depression and grief in the child," Vaknin says. "The child grieves that they are not seen by a selfish or depressed parent and they feel consumed and smothered."

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He continues: "So then when someone with (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) ventures out into the world, they are grandiose, like a toddler, but with none of the coping mechanisms to go with it. It's like a two-year-old with a gun."

Vaknin said the narcissist avoids emotional relationships because your emotions make them feel weak.

"When seeking an intimate partner they seek to detach from the mother figure, hence the idealize, devalue, discard phases often seen."

Dr. Vaknin explained why narcissists abuse and discard you - because you will never be as perfect as the mother who discarded them.

"The mother is ideal, so he idealizes you in the same way. You are an empty shape, to be turned into the mother. He needs to grow up to be with a partner, be an adult."

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"They need to complete this uncompleted process but he can't do it with the real mother - so he converts his partner into a mother, so he can replay the unfinished business."

"He or she needs to degrade the partner in order to detach from the mother, so the narcissist then goes on to destroy you."

Dr. Vaknin explained that daddy issues also exist, but only the mother can raise a narcissist.

"I keep saying mother and not father. Father issues also exist and they exist with men and women - but becoming an individual, this is to do with the mother."

He added: "[Narcissists] have to break you down and detach from the mother, by discarding you."

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Cardi B wants another tummy tuck 9 months after giving birth to her son Wave Set Cephus.

The mom-of-2 took to Instagram to inform her followers of her decision to go under the knife again. She said she doesn't like the way her body looks after she delivered her son.

"This stomach, is giving tummy tuck," Cardi said. "Like, it's not bad, but I just don't like this extra little skin. I am a little heavier than usual, but I don't like it, I want to get rid of it. I think Wavey like... did me wrong."

Cardi, 29, has gone under the knife at least half a dozen times. She also had her teeth fixed.

She snapped at critics who dared to suggest she go to a gym and work out to lose the extra pounds.

"[People tell me], 'You lazy, you should just work out. I do whatever the f—k I want to do with my body,'" she said on Instagram Live.

She claimed surgery is a quick solution because she doesn't have the time to work out in a gym.

"I don't have the time of day like you do. Like, my job as an entertainer is a 24-hour job, bro. So no, I don't have time to work out and I wanted specific things that I know that no matter how much I work out, [will] not get fixed."

What is Plastic Surgery Addiction?

Plastic surgery addiction is a psychological disorder characterized by a compulsion for plastic surgery even if additional surgery is unnecessary.

What Causes Plastic Surgery Addiction?

It is caused by body image disturbance, which means a disturbed perception of one's own body. Patients with anorexia nervosa are diagnosed with body image disturbance.

Plastic surgery addiction disorder causes the sufferer to spend thousands of dollars on surgeries, which they believe will make them happy.

People who suffer from surgery addiction disorder are usually insecure, self-absorbed, have low self-esteem, and suffer from depression.

They typically spend a lot of time on social media taking selfies.

They won't stop undergoing surgeries until they run out of money or surgeons refuse to operate on them.

Can Plastic Surgery Addiction Be Treated?

Anti-depressant medication and cognitive-behavioral therapy are effective at treating plastic surgery addiction.

Plastic surgery doesn't help them because their delusions about their body image are not based in reality.

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Rapper T.I.'s daughter Deyjah Harris shared a video discussing her ongoing struggles with mental illness.

In the video posted on YouTube.com, Deyjah admits she has been dealing with depression and anxiety since she was 11 years old.

She shared a message of hope for other young people dealing with mental health issues like hers.

"I feel like mental health overall is just a topic that needs more attention," she said. "There are so many individuals in the world that struggle with and suffer from it."

Acknowledging that she doesn't have all of the answers, Deyjah said the purpose of the video is to "lend a helping hand so that you can be better equipped for your journey ahead than I might've been."

The 18-year-old social media influencer hinted that others are using her "truth" to their advantage.

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Deyjah and her father, T.I., made headlines last year when he joked that he took her for an annual physical exam to ensure that her hymen was still intact. Deyjah’s mom, aspiring rapper, Ms. Niko, denied the story on social media.

Sources say Deyjah and her father were not really close as a child growing up. That is not a good sign.

Deyjah is usually the only child missing from most family get-togethers and photo shoots.


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