OMG: Shocking Family Affair At 2009 BET Awards

I didn’t watch the 2009 BET Awards on Sunday so I didn’t know that Tiny’s new group, OMG, were the underage girls who appeared onstage with mentally impaired rapper Lil Wayne and that gay rapper Drake.

According to upset parents, the youngsters gyrated onstage as Wayne rapped his tune “I Want To F*ck Every Girl in the World” — or whatever the name of the track is.

As most of you know, the group’s lead singer is Zonnique, 12, daughter of Tameka “Tiny” Cottle. The other three members are Reginae Carter, 9, Wayne’s daughter with Antonia Carter who stars on Tiny & Toya (which premieres on BET tonight at 10pm); Bahjah Rodriguez, who turns 12 in August, and her sister Lourdes Rodriguez, who turns 11 in September.

Earlier this month, I spoke with Shamra Rodriguez, the proud mother of Bahjah and Lourdes, who told me that Bahjah’s father, Jonathen “John-John” Rasboro (of the R&B group Silk), was not aware of his daughter’s Atlanta audition with the group.

In this post I told you that Bahjah was in tears because her dad was a no-show at the audition. But Shamra did reveal that “John-John” is a deadbeat dad with at least 7 other kids spread around the U.S.

Shamra said “John John” was jailed earlier this year for a month for his refusal to pay child support for Bahjah.

A few loyal readers emailed me after the 2009 BET Awards with their shocked reactions to the Lil Wayne performance. In a post on Momlogic.com, Dr. Janet Taylor, who has two teenage daughters of her own, asked, “Why are we as women and mothers passively allowing our young girls to be utilized as sexual entertainment?”

From Momlogic.com:

I don’t have a problem with Lil’ Wayne, he is creative and his writing is brilliant at times. However, his song “Every Girl” is offensive and disturbing. Here are the shocking lyrics, read them with caution. Perhaps, they are what our kids are used to. I have teenagers, girls no less, who have heard the song and like it. My problem was the preteens who were proudly on stage, shaking their groove thang to this misogynistic, disrespectful song.

It was ridiculous. Debra Lee, the CEO of BET, also the mother of two children, should be asking herself who approved this and how these young girls were allowed to be a part of this “act”.

It is time for perspective here. In the minutes that were wasted on stage during this song, almost four women were forcibly raped in the United States. The age group 13-17, that these young “dancers” belong include the highest victims of forcible rate at 32%. Women who are are sexually or physically abused just once in their lifetime are more likely to experience a poor range of physical and mental health outcomes. READ MORE…

I agree with the doctor, we as black women and mothers have to do better and demand better for our children… (Thank God I don’t have any kids).

Photos: Wireimage/Getty



 


60 Responses to “OMG: Shocking Family Affair At 2009 BET Awards”

  1. 1
    anti-PC says:

    I turned the channel when the corpse and those other rappers started performing. I hate rap now.

    And no one should be surprised by underaged girls dancing to such a nasty song…..people just don’t care how they raise their kids nowadays.

  2. 2
    spongebobfan says:

    THIS i agree with, i was watching this mouth agape, like WTF is this??? is that your daughter on stage really wayne? and they friends?! Shake.MY.Head………

  3. 3
    goat76 says:

    BET might as well bring back the show “UNCUT”….they got way more problems than UNCUT…it came on at 2:00am WTH

  4. 4
    bklynchick says:

    I really didn’t even know that was them on the stage until I read it on the blogs but I don’t think they should have came out on that song cause lil wayne didn’t even try to sensor any of his parts but to each its own

  5. 5
    Shauny says:

    You know this was the the MOST shocking moment for me in my life. I was already upset at the show in general being touted as a MJ tribute when it was anything but. These fools come on and as their set is ending my daughter says that’s Lil Wayne’s daughter. I look good at the tv and I said OMG THOSE ARE ALL LITTLE GIRLS! I sat that dropped jaw and all.

    Who lets their pre teens hit the stage and dance on grown men to “I wish I could f!ck every girl in the world”?

    And let this had been ANY other parents other than these tricks Tiny and Toya and we would’ve had this whole other commentary on single mothers. Those tricks need their azzez whooped. I bet they were so proud of their babies. Like girl like and Zon Zon and Nay Nay, they doing it ain’t they…SMDH

  6. 6
    Shauny says:

    wait a minute

    I don’t know why my post came up like that but it should say in the show not in my life…WTF) o.k carry on

  7. 7
    aqtpie says:

    Some how I can see this being blamed on two music industry people and not the parents.

  8. 8
    iscream says:

    :clap: I’m so happy you didn’t try to defend this behavior because of the parents involved.

    I actually fault lil Wayne more than I do the mothers. He should’ve cleaned up those words not only for those girls but for the tv audiance. Just because he allows his kid’s's’s to be subjected to that type of behavior doesn’t mean everybody else does. & OUT OF RESPECT FOR MJ!

    Anyway, I’m sure they’ll find some way to make this behavior seem okay & we all are the crazy ones.

  9. 9
    intensemocha says:

    SO MANY WOMEN, BLACK WOMEN SPECIFICALLY, BASE THEIR SELF-ESTEEM ON SHALLOW PERCEIVED ACCOMPLISHMENTS & PRAISE RECEIVED BY MAN BASED ON PHYSICAL APPEARANCE-I’M SO CUTE, MY BOOTY SHAKE LIKE THIS, MY HAIR SO LONG, NICCAS SAY I’M A BAD BIATCH, I GOT THAT GOOD ISH

    SO THEY ARE FOLLOWING IN THE FOOTSTEPS OF THEIR SHALLOW MAMA’S WHO THINK THEY TOO HAVE ARRIVED BASED ON THEIR FAKE, SHALLOW EXISTANCE, & ATTACHMENT TO A SO CALLED “MAN” TI AND LIL WAYNE

    IF THEIR PARENTS DIDN’T CONDONE THE BAFOONERY THEY WOULDN’T HAVE HAD THEIR HOT ARSES ON THE STAGE TO BEGIN WITH-THE REASON THEY WERE IS BECAUSE THEY MAMA THAT THE ISH WAS CUTE

    IN MY OPINION THEIR LITTLE GIRLS WERE BEING PIMPED ONLY DIFFERENCE THE CULPRIT WAS THEIR MAMAS-& NOT SOME MAN ON THE STREETS

    PRETTY IS WHAT PRETTY DOES-LOOKS FADE, BRAINS GET YOU MUCH FARTHER, IF YOU HAVE THE LOOKS THAT’S A PLUS BUT PLEASE DON’T BELIEVE THAT’S THE FULL PACKAGE

    AINT NOTHING SIMPLER THAN A CUTE CHIC THAT’S AS DUMB AS A DOOR KNOB

  10. 10
    kwallace577 says:

    i blame BET. somebody had to know that this was the plan. and they shoulda nipped it in the BUD and said NO to whoever thought it was a good idea (the parents, the group mgmt which would be tiny right…)

    what is done is done. hindsight is almost always 20/20. but if it happens again i am calling child services. like i said in the other post i was smdh and saying…it wouldn’t be MY teen daughter up there…hail nawll.

  11. 11
    katgirl33 says:

    That’s on Tiny and Toya, and the parents of the other girls…couldn’t have been mines……

    I wonder if T.I called home collect to check Tiny on three way? LOL

  12. 12
    ELove says:

    Well I didn’t stick around for THIS MESS …

    Too Bad you can’t get no jail-time or monitored-probation for being an extremely irresponsible parent. But be a black man and miss some child-support payment(s) and BAM you’re in the slammer !!!
    LOL

  13. 13
    katgirl33 says:

    K,

    I can’t say I blame BET…..they was doing their job…..however good or bad….LOL

    BET is not the parents of them kids….two parents were there, and allowed it….

    oh I forgot, Tiny and Toya were blaming it on the alcohol….

  14. 14
    intensemocha says:

    INSTEAD OF PARADING AROUND TOWN TALKING ABOUT HOW MUCH MONEY YOU GOT AND WHO YOUR MAN IS-YOU NEED TO BE AT HOME TEACHING THOSE YOUNG WOMEN HOW TO BE LADIES INSTEAD OF GYRATING ON A STAGE FOR THE WORLD TO SEE AS IF THEY ARE AUDITIONING FOR THE NEXT GROUPIE/ OR VIDEO CHICK

    MONEY CAN’T BE CLASS-AND THIS IS A GREAT EXAMPLE

  15. 15
    Daisy says:

    I like the name Lourdes :coffee:

  16. 16
    missmiami says:

    Those lil girls look like the hoochies of the future. It’s a shame!!!!! This world has went to hell.

  17. 17
    pinky2083 says:

    I agree with everyone. This was WRONG on so many levels. I can’t believe Tiny and Toya thought it was “cute” to have their kids up there. I will admit I do like this dumb azz song but the little kiddies shoulda been at home.

  18. 18
    Mspeng says:

    I was extremely shocked because Lil Wayne wasn’t even singing the censored lyrics. Poor Drake was trying his hardest to clean it up and there comes the hype men screaming out the real lyrics loud and proud…and make it even worse, BET and their bootleg staff couldn’t catch the swearing in time and was bleeping out normal words and letting the curse words through. It’s sad because you don’t need to blame the artists or the parents because they were one in the same. Reginae had her MOM and DAD there and Zonnique’s mom was pimping the heck out of her show rather than checking why her daughter was wining and bubbling and gyrating to that mess of a song. I was totally disgusted and BET should have even just cut to commercial if they didn’t know what was coming. Overall…REALLY bad look for BET, for Lil’ Wayne, for Tiny and Toya and everybody else involved.

    But hey…maybe Wayne and Toya look at it like…in 5 years Reginae will be the age they had her so maybe they wanna be grandparents at 30.

  19. 19
    kdillon says:

    How are we surprised look at who their parents are. No wonder they got pregnant at a young age, im dead serious. What kind of mother allows their daughter to participate in foolery such as this? I do not respect Tiny nor the other chicks they are whoring out their kids for fame and fortune…

  20. 20
    kdillon says:

    BET opened my eyes as to who I should boycott, and BET is one of them!!!

  21. 21
    spongebobfan says:

    We got to do better people……embarressed

  22. 22
    iscream says:

    Well in the defense side. When I saw pictures from Tiny’s daughters party she was not dressed like a hoochie. Tiny seems to be a good mother for the most part.

    In the above photo they are dressed age appropriate. They are in a group and I guess this was a great way to get some promo. Not to mention this song is sung by one of their Father. So I’m sure they know the song word for word.

    I don’t listen to this type of music so my son won’t know the words but I’m sure when he is old enough to listen to his own choice of music it will have some curse words in it. That doesn’t make me a shallow or bad parent. Its apart of growing up.

  23. 23
    heavn_sent says:

    I agree..Thank God Sandra Rose doesn’t have any kids..

    On a different note, I am disappointed but absolutely NOT surprised..and to those who say, out of respect for MJ this and that..Chile Boo! The same MJ that was grabbing his crotch and acting a fool in his prime! How about out of respect for themselves..how sad..indeed.

  24. 24
    Krysi J says:

    It was just a bad call….whoever came up with that idea should be fired.

  25. 25
    spongebobfan says:

    RIP VIBE MAGAZINE

  26. 26
    kwallace577 says:

    yes i was embarrased too @21. did they not rehearse? so you mean to tell me that NOBODY knew he was gonna do the grown and sexy lyrics as opposed to the cleaned up version…nobody knew?

    nobody thought for ONE MIN. that hey having those little girls up there was a BAD idea and veto it? i find that hard to believe.

  27. 27
    Gagirl73 says:

    SPEAKING FOR MYSELF…IT WAS NOT CUTE ALL AT…IT WAS TRIF!!!!

  28. 28
    Shannon says:

    Who cares? The majority of the stuff they play on the radio and BET is not appropriate for young children yet they still play it. Parents are driving around playing this same music in their cars and rarely give it a second thought. Rap music is riddled with bitch this and ho that and women justify it by saying well I like the song and he/she ain’t talking about me. On the flip side, this music and the content does not raise your children. Good parents raise good children so really it doesn’t matter what they listen to. Maybe Sandra can call her “source” in TI and Tiny’s camp to see why this happened?

  29. 29
    iscream says:

    I don’t know about the rest of yall but I’m the first to admit that I have made some bad choices before when it has come to raising a child. Be it big or small.

    I guess once you yourself have grown from whatever mistakes you have made its eaiser to see the faults in others. I’m still learning. So not looking 4ward to teenage years.

    I remember when I was 14 I started smoking Cig’s. When I see teenagers smoking I want to slap that shyt out their mouth. IG! Yep because I forgot that was once me & at that time it seemed cool.

    Again I say all that to say. Raising kids is no walk in the park and unless you raised your kids without one mistake in between can we really judge them so harshly? Maybe there’s something we do that they would never do. Like beating a kid. :shrug:

  30. 30
    kwallace577 says:

    you are right @isc. i make parenting mistakes all the time. i guess mine are not played out in front of america…

    auntie you should do a vibe mag cover pictorial maybe. if you got the time….man. that is one i hate to see go! vibe was that shyt! i used to scrape up my little chick fil a check to keep my subsc. renewed…then later got smart and asked for it for a xmas gift…man…bye vibe. :waving:

    does that smiley work?

  31. 31
    kwallace577 says:

    it did not work…oh well.

  32. 32
    spongebobfan says:

    yall turning this into a censorship conversation….

    My 5yo was sleep on this sunday night at 11pm when they proformed thats not MY issue

    My issue is how is it apropreate to have underage
    kids on stage while a artist is rapping a song about “F!cking Everygirl in the World?

    Its not, its no other way to look at that……
    Im not gonna down rap music itself I love rap(lil wayne not so much) but i know Drake is talented (though he seems to be conforming to much but i digress)

    11,12, 13 yos on stage dancing around grown men who is rapping about doing every girl in world is not approprite ..point blank

  33. 33
    Peachizz says:

    I thought to myself these are little kids…
    Lawddddd BET won’t let Chris perform, but allowed Tweens to be onstage as Lil Wayne and Drake perform.. I wish I could **** every girl in the world?????

  34. 34
    Seattle Slim says:

    Letting your kids stay up too late= parenting mistake.
    Yelling a little too loudly=parenting mistake
    Saying bad words with the kids present=parenting mistake. With a little discipline, this can change. These are bad habits.

    Having young BGs on stage, dancing to a song about screwing anything that walks, knowing the HIV/AIDS stats for their age group, the LOW AZZ self-esteem that afflicts them as a collective, the abuse stats, the rape stats, the negative perception, etc= morally corrupt; selfish and disgusting at minimum.

  35. 35
    Seattle Slim says:

    And reading about who the parents are, does not surprise me in the least. I am not saying Tiny or Toya are necessarily bad mothers. That’s a stretch, but I am saying that their judgment seems to be awfully clouded.

  36. 36
    wiggy2272003 says:

    this mess is a sympton not a diagnosis. the diagnosis is the general moral(or lack of) pandemic in out communitys that we were discussing the other day. Its such a huge problem and generational its hard to address but you know like akeys said one person can’t do everything but everyone can do something.

  37. 37
    intensemocha says:

    WOW I GUESS IT TAKES BEING A PARENT TO KNOW THAT THE LYRICS WERE TOO EXPLICIT FOR THEIR AGE GROUP AND THEY SHOULDN’T HAVE HAD THEIR ARSES ON THE STAGE IN THE FIRST PLACE

    MY THOUGHT IS THEIR PARENTS WERE TOO CONCERNED ABOUT GETTING THEM EXPOSURE AND THAT THEY DIDN’T EVEN CONSIDER THE LYRICS OF THE SONG AND HOW IT WOULD COME ACROSS-WITH THEIR DAUGHTERS DANCING TO A SONG ABOUT FUGGIN WOMEN

    HELL ANYBODY CAN SEE THAT-I GUESS YOU CAN’T BE A PSYCHIATRIST BECAUSE YOU’VE NEVER BEEN CRAZY OR YOU SHOULDN’T TELL SOMEONE TO LEAVE AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP IF YOU’VE NEVER BEEN BEATEN

    SOME SHIAT IS COMMON SENSE-AND IGNORANCE IS NOT BLESS, IF YOU DON’T KNOW THAT THEY SHOULDN’T HAVE BEEN ON THE STAGE THEN MAYBE YOU SHOULDN’T BE RAISING THEM TO BEGIN WITH AND THEY WOULD BE BETTER OFF ELSEWHERE, CAUSE LORD KNOWS WHAT ELSE YOU WOULD LET THEM DO AND TRY TO JUSTIFY IT CAUSE THEY DIDN’T KNOW

    AND FOR THE RECORD, I’M A MOTHER OF AN ADULT CHILD-A 21 YEAR OLD SON AND I WON’T SAY I DID EVERYTHING RIGHT BUT WHAT I DIDN’T KNOW I AT LEAST HAD FAMILY, FRIENDS, AND PEOPLE WHO CARED ENOUGH ABOUT ME TO TELL ME “OH NO HONEY-THAT AINT RIGHT” I GUESS WHAT I LISTENED

    SOME SHIAT IS JUST PLAIN IGNORANT AND CANNOT BE EXCUSED-AND GUESS WHAT SOME PEOPLE ARE NICCAS JUST BECAUSE THEY WANNA BE

  38. 38
    lovejoy1 says:

    and chris was not allowed to perform- why again?

  39. 39
    goat76 says:

    BET lost for letting them perform that song..and especially after dedicating the show to MJ the song should of been axed…maybe at the hip-hop awards…..

  40. 40

    Everyone wants to be ‘famous’ and has instilled this mentally in their children.

    They couldnt have had a lil pause during the song and then let the OMG girls come out and perform a ‘tasteful’ dance and go backstage?

    They were dancing worse than me and Im 26… considering their mamas… its not that surprising

  41. 41
    jazi65 says:

    That was the most disgusting act of ignorance I’ve ever seen. BET should not only be embarrassed but issue an apology.

  42. 42

    And since the show was about MJ I wish Drake would have performed ‘successful’… that was wayyyyyy more fitting

  43. 43
    KaraZ says:

    That first picture those girls look like they’re in hoodrat heaven.

  44. 44
    flyqtnva says:

    LET THESE CELEB PIMP THEY KIDS IF THEY WANT TO…its sad though they look like babies but what you expect from TINY & TOYA…LIL WAYNE…SMH…TELL ME WHERE THEY LIVE I WILL CALL SOCIAL SERVICES MYSELF!

  45. 45
    lovejoy1 says:

    Yall didnt know- BEy and Jay ordered the shyt

  46. 46
    Shauny says:

    Every parent can admit to making parenting mistakes but can ANY of you really say that you’d make the mistake of putting your teen/tween female child on a stage with grown men shaking it to Every Girl. That’s not a parenting mistake, that’s just ignorance.

    Isc, as far at the cigarette example. Guess what I HATE cigarettes with a passion but stole one of my aunts and tried it out too figuring I’d see what the big deal was. That was about age 11 or 12 but you better believe there wasn’t a grown up present or my azz would’ve gotten TORE UP.

    The difference in your example and the above example is that their parents were right there. Wayne didn’t tone down lyrics with his child on stage. Drake did change lyrics, but daddy went all out.

  47. 47
    wiggy2272003 says:

    sorry but I can’t condone or excuse this because I may have been too quick to pop one of my kids or hurt thier feelings or made one of the countless mistakes i’ve made or the many more I will make. No parent is perfect we don’t live in a perfect world but standing on stage on national television with you children talking bout dope **** and hunching everygirl in the world while you daughters who probably don’t even have their cycle yet are poppin that booty and whatnot is WRONG and if my kids did this on the stage with thier dad at the school talent show guess what? I would have a DFACS/CPS case for sure.

  48. 48
    flyqtnva says:

    lol…hoodrat heaven….lol…if I was 1 of the little girls reading this I would SLAP THE SH@T out of my momma…ZON & Reginae you have my PERMISSION TO SLAP SOME SENSE INTO YOUR MOTHERS…RIGHT NOW..DO IT WITH THE BACK PART OF YOUR HAND!!!!!!!!!!!

  49. 49
    flyqtnva says:

    i bet they all wanna be just like beyonce

  50. 50
    iscream says:

    @ Shauny

    Was just playing devils advocate. :dance:

    But I really do stick by my nobody is perfect. & parenting is a learning experience comment. :oops:

  51. 51
    wiggy2272003 says:

    ZON & Reginae you have my PERMISSION TO SLAP SOME SENSE INTO YOUR MOTHERS…RIGHT NOW..DO IT WITH THE BACK PART OF YOUR HAND!!!!!!!!!!!

    **********************************************
    lmfao

  52. 52

    I would have beat the breaks off of mine if I saw my daughter up on stage dancing or lip synching to any kind of song like that! My daughter thinks that song is cute and I change it every time it comes on.

    That was very unappropriate for those girls to be up there with Lil wayne and Drake! Debra Lee was sitting right in the audience too, as a femaled and business woman I wonder why she allowed that? I guess its a rating thing! Morals and Values are out the window these days! Thats why I dont watch that network!

  53. 53
    Shauny says:

    Isc and Daisy (and whoever else knows them) can you list the smiley words. I don’t know how yall remember them.

  54. 54
    iscream says:

    Lol I don’t I just copy them down. If you hold your mouse over it the code pops up.

    But here’s what I got

    : shurg :
    : dance :
    : koolaid :
    : kollaid3 :
    : cheers :
    : waiting :
    : oops :
    : eek :
    : rofl :
    : mad :
    : clap :
    : gay :
    : kiss :
    : ban :
    : heart :

    Now you know my secret. :D

  55. 55
    ELove says:

    @Shauny
    the following appears within colons (:) w/o spaces
    oops
    dance
    wink
    dance
    shrug
    coffee
    clap

    That’s just a few…
    Hold your mouse-ptr over the emotion icon
    Right click
    Select properties and you’ll see the code
    :wink:

  56. 56
    iscream says:

    E love a lil short cut is just hold the mouse pointer over icon no clicking and it shows up ;)

  57. 57
    ELove says:

    @iscream
    That doesn’t WORK for me (Go Figure???)

  58. 58
    pointhimout says:

    :middlefinger:

  59. 59
    pointhimout says:

    nope, still doesnt work.

  60. 60
    Kim says:

    Totally inappropriate for those girls to be onstage during THAT song.

    I’m sure Tiny & Toya’s rationalization was that Zonnique & Reginae have both heard their dads say worse in their lyrics.

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