Being fabulously wealthy is not all it's cracked up to be. Just ask the former instant millionaires who wished they'd never bought that Lottery ticket after burning through millions and ending up broke.

Celebrities who are also narcissists covet money above all else, so their opinions don't count. Narcissists flaunt wealth and material things because they don't have a firm sense of self. So they consider cash and material objects to be an extension of themselves (such as an arm or leg). They can't live without it and will do anything to get it.

It is very necessary for them to constantly remind themselves (and us) that they ARE the things they covet the most. So they need money and material things to validate them and remind them that they are alive. It's the reason why they flaunt money and drape themselves in jewelry and name brand gear, while billionaires like Ted Turner drive Toyota's to work.

That would explain why Beyonce wore a $5 million ring on ABC's Good Morning America yesterday, and then later claimed she forgot she was wearing the rock. Yea, right.

Or why TV's biggest narcissist, Simon Cowell, tooled around LA yesterday with a gorgeous brunette (his fiancee) in the passenger seat of his $1.4 million Bugatti (that's one million, four hundred thousand dollars for a car).

And last night, rap's biggest egomaniac Sean "Puffy" Combs flashed a thick wad of $100 bills at a concert to honor the 13th anniversary of the death of Notorious B.I.G. at the famous Brooklyn 'Lab Sports Bar'. An industry insider told us, "Puff acts like new money... like he isn't used to having money, cars or pu$$y."

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  • VIBABY

    I guess comparing hers to Tinys is out...... :coffee:

  • kimip84

    her ring is da business!!

  • http://twitter.com/LaydeeJustice LadyJustice *\o/*

    Ted Turner better hurry and trade that toyota in before his gas pedal gets stuck

    and Beyonce said she usually doesnt wear it in interviews, but forgot to take it off :rolleyes:

  • Lovely One

    @ VIBABY Says:

    I guess comparing hers to Tinys is out……
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    Good one :yes:

  • VIBABY

    @Laydee :rofl: Aint nobdoy driving a toyota to work!

  • NOLA

    VIBABY Says:

    I guess comparing hers to Tinys is out……
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    tooooo funny!!

  • tampa813

    Nothing wrong with having money, but some people do becme stupid with it(majority of rappers). Cmon Sandra lay off Bey cause the girl is beyond gorgeous but dumb like Teeny.

  • QuettaV

    YES THE RING IS LOVELY... BUT IT WOULD BE GORGEOUS ON ME!!!!

    :YES:

  • Candi Apple

    Puffy is forever young (peter pan) he just can't grow up. And if he is happy why should he. Does he need to conform his life to how others think he should live. However not at Biggie celebration.

    Beyonce's ring love it.

    Simmon's car love it (Want one).

  • Tasha

    Where are we going with this story? These people worked hard to get where they are. Come on..if we had it like that we'll probably do the same, right?

  • Krysi J

    Sandra didn't you just do post up something about T.I buying Tiny a overly priced luxury car?? Just say you don't like these people and keep it moving cause you pity more than these fools if the true subject is exposing NARCS.

  • Cinderella

    So Beyonce wearing an engagement/wedding ring given to her by her HUSBAND is showing off, but Tiny wearing countless rings and other jewelry given to her by her BABY DADDY isn't?

  • VIBABY

    @Tampa
    Beyonce is simple,she isnt dumb. Teeny is ignant, he isnt dumb. We need to start putting people in the correct groups or they will never get the help they need. :lolol:

  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-Qm2_ppqtZk missy

    @V.I -I was thinking the same thing...I mean didn't Tiny say that "whatever you like" song was about her...I mean she was showing off about getting a car...

    Oh and isn't Tiny on her 3rd or 4th engagement ring #nohate.... and she was showing off with that... #noshade

  • KrayZKat

    Tasha, wrong, unles you are materialistic. Most people realize that money does not make one happy. You can only buy so many cars, clothes, and all the other trappings of wealth. If money was the recipe for happiness, why are so many people with money alcoholics, drug addicts, sex addicts, and materialistic. Ask Allen Iverson if money is going to heal his family or his pitiful behind. He's asking God for help. There's nothing wrong with having money, and Lord knows it's a blessing to not be broke, but with it comes a lot of trouble.

  • mirsmommy

    :rolleyes: And that's why their rich a**es end up filing for bankruptcy, or end up with IRS on their a**es within several years of them becoming wealthy. :shrugs:

    And to P. B*tchy, flashin that money during a recession is the quickest way to get robbed. Especially by broke a**es like myself. Dumb a**.

  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-Qm2_ppqtZk missy

    And Sandra I think most people know what 1.4 million is you didn't have to break it down like that...unless certain people are reading the site right now then...Yea :yes:

  • KrayZKat

    *unless*

  • KrayZKat

    My brother knows a lot of rich Jews in L.A. and he told me once that most of them drive ordinary cars, and you would never know they were rich.

  • jazi65

    Celebs have the right to be proud of their accomplishments & if that means flaunting their wealth, to each his own.

    But bubblehead beyonce..come on..for once refrain from being your empty headed self. The man you say you love bought you a gorgeous ring so go ahead and flaunt it.

  • CivilEngineer

    What they flash doesn't bother me :shrug:

    And the people you named in this post obviously know how to keep themselves wealthy so I don't see the comparison to ignorant lottery winners.

    And on Bey's ring: A $5mill ring to her is equivalent to the Mercedes you drive. Are you a millionaire? Where's your Toyota? Hopefully not flying into a wall at 90mph

  • Cinderella

    The reason why billionaires don't ride around in expensive cars or wear expensive jewelry is because they spend their money on other expensive things. Bill Gates paid $53 million for original artwork from Leonardo Da Vinci. Billionaire David Geffen has spent over $400 million on original artwork from various artists.

  • Tasha

    KrayZKat, just saying that they worked hard to get where they are. I don't think that Beyonce was showing off but Diddy yes..

  • VIBABY

    DEAD @CIVIL :rofl: and POW! SR civil asked you a question boo...where is your Prius?

  • kimip84

    :rofl: @civil!!

  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-Qm2_ppqtZk missy

    Where’s your Toyota? Hopefully not flying into a wall at 90mph
    ________________________________

    :rofl: _____DEAD

    Ummmm..No comment... :lol:

  • s_johnson07

    There's nothing wrong with working hard for your money. Hey go for it and do you boo. But everything is wrong when you start to flash it and brag about it. That's when money makes you and you lose your soul. Money can only buy you things that will turn to be completely worthless. You can't buy your way into heaven...

  • shannon04

    @KrayZKat...true indeed. I know a few wealthy people and several of them are self-made. When you see them or the clothes that they wear they look "homely" and wear basic watches like $8 to $10 at the most like you would find at Target or something. They are usually driving non-flashy cars like toyotas, hondas or volvos even. You never see these people flash their wealth or live lavish. They are usually the ones that are looking for the best deal or bargain and rarely ever pay full price for anything.

  • Candi Apple

    Diddy aint Jewish
    Simmon aint Jewish
    Beyonce aint Jewish

    Jewish people live by a different set of ordinance. They live in a solidary society. Seperate from the norm.

    Everybody with money isn't on drugs. Just like everyday people you have catagories which include Crack Heads, Alcoholics, Pill poppers, Dope users and weed smokers. Some people don't do any drug. Celebrities have more access which takes the drug use to higher levels (the ones who indulge). Money does not equal misery it depends on the person. Its when people worship the money and cars etc. Nothing wrong with having nice things.

  • KrayZKat

    Tasha Says:

    KrayZKat, just saying that they worked hard to get where they are. I don’t think that Beyonce was showing off but Diddy yes..
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    @Tash, oh, I understand that. I'm not saying that success is bad, but we all know they are successful and rich. What are they trying to prove?

    @Cinderella, yeah they do, but that's my point. Many of them SAVE their money too because we all know that there are no guarantees in life and many rich people have ended up broke and destitute.

  • speakinmymind

    does this same definition of narcissism apply to Tiny's LV collection, the new Porsche SUV and five or six other luxury cars you mentioned in the recent Tiny/TI posts.

    ohhhh, and let's not forget the expensive gifts he had sent to her (doorbell ringing every hour on the hour) while he was locked up.

    need i go on... :waiting:

  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-Qm2_ppqtZk missy

    :offtopic:

    Did anyone see when Columbus Short walked all the way off the stage..... :rofl: *someone should play the song "walk it out" with that clip*

  • KrayZKat

    shannon04 Says:

    @KrayZKat…true indeed. I know a few wealthy people and several of them are self-made. When you see them or the clothes that they wear they look “homely” and wear basic watches like $8 to $10 at the most like you would find at Target or something. They are usually driving non-flashy cars like toyotas, hondas or volvos even. You never see these people flash their wealth or live lavish. They are usually the ones that are looking for the best deal or bargain and rarely ever pay full price for anything.
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    Right!!!

  • Redeemed777

    @Cinderella

    Cars = Depreciate
    Original Art Work= Appreciate

  • Princess Smarty-Pants

    I don't own a pair of jeans that cost less than $250 but wont pay more than $8 for a bottle shampoo.

    People figure out what's important to them and then get the best available to them. Diddy is into parties and jewelry and that's where he spends his money. Same with Simon andhis cars...To me you're flaunting it when you spend a bunch of money on stuff you don't even like.

  • Cinderella

    Speaking of Jewish people, I think they are taught from birth to hold on to their money. They will splurge when they see fit, for example: Bar & Bat Mitzvahs' and Weddings.

  • KrayZKat

    Candi Apple Says:

    Diddy aint Jewish
    Simmon aint Jewish
    Beyonce aint Jewish

    Jewish people live by a different set of ordinance. They live in a solidary society. Seperate from the norm.

    Everybody with money isn’t on drugs. Just like everyday people you have catagories which include Crack Heads, Alcoholics, Pill poppers, Dope users and weed smokers. Some people don’t do any drug. Celebrities have more access which takes the drug use to higher levels (the ones who indulge). Money does not equal misery it depends on the person. Its when people worship the money and cars etc. Nothing wrong with having nice things
    __________________________________________________________
    I've never heard that about Jews. I used to go with my brother to the Jewish Community Center in L.A. and never noticed them being any different than anyone else.

    I know there isn't anything wrong with having nice things. The point I failed to make, and you did, was that a lot of people do worship money. The LOVE of money is the root of all evil. All we have to do is look and see how most of these celebs live. They get divorced, cheated on, and the like, and their money didn't prevent it. Money doesn't equal misery, but it sure doesn't prevent it either.

  • KrayZKat

    Cinderella Says:

    Speaking of Jewish people, I think they are taught from birth to hold on to their money. They will splurge when they see fit, for example: Bar & Bat Mitzvahs’ and Weddings.
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    I do too, Cinderella.

  • MsConsciousOne

    Awesome post!

  • PAHairston

    Hello All. I guess we'd all like to be rich but the Bible says that the poor will always be among us. That said, rappers/entertainers/professional athletes like Piddy, Oprah, Kobe, Bill Cosby, Beyonce, JayZ, etc could do so much more with their money and make piles more on top of it! Put our younguns to work making clothes, making jewelry, making materialistic things that black folks love, including myself. We've always, always been a flashy race because for one thing, many of us never thought we were attractive so we depend on trappings to make us feel beautiful, like fake hair, fake nails, fake teeth (grills) and lightening of the skin. (Little self-esteem) We are such a beautiful race of people. Like the Haitians. Before the earthquake, I never knew how physically beautiful these people were. And their spirits soar way, way above Americans, and they literally have nothing. And remember folks, when they lay you to rest, you won't know what color draws you have on nor whether they're holey or not. Don't mean to preach but we have so, so much to be thankful for. I LOVE YOU SANDRAROSE FAMILY, you keep me laughing and believing there is hope for us yet!

  • Anna

    missy Says:

    Did anyone see when Columbus Short walked all the way off the stage….. *someone should play the song “walk it out” with that clip*
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    :lol: But he did a Beyonce' the show must go on.

  • KrayZKat

    Princess Smarty-Pants Says:

    I don’t own a pair of jeans that cost less than $250 but wont pay more than $8 for a bottle shampoo.

    People figure out what’s important to them and then get the best available to them. Diddy is into parties and jewelry and that’s where he spends his money. Same with Simon andhis cars…To me you’re flaunting it when you spend a bunch of money on stuff you don’t even like.
    ----------------------------------------------
    It's funny because a lot of people that splurge on items that depreciate don't have one dime in the bank or no moeny for their child's college education. What people spend their money on is none of my business. It's there money, but I can personally say I've met people who have these tricked out car, but don't have a place to stay. Now if their car is that important to them, so be it. They just sleep in their car. To me, we just don't always act in our best interest. We are so busy trying to be ghetto fabulous, but don't take care of business.

    Also, why would someone spend money on something they don't like?

  • CivilEngineer

    :rofl: @missy...I WATCHED IT!! Like 3 times!! :ashamed:

  • Daisy

    @Missy and Civil :rofl:

    I don't like Beys ring or any other BIG gawdy(sp) looking ring :shrug: I am not a big jewlery person anyway.

    Team Puffy :cheer:

  • Princess Smarty-Pants

    Civil,

    :offtopic: what's your favorite solo to sing in church? Have you been youtubed?

  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-Qm2_ppqtZk missy

    @Anna-Yes the show must go on....but that was funny as heck... :rofl: That is why you don't wear sunglasses inside unless you are blind or had eye surgery........

  • http://sandrarose.com Sandra Rose

    speakinmymind Says:
    does this same definition of narcissism apply to Tiny’s LV collection, the new Porsche SUV and five or six other luxury cars you mentioned in the recent Tiny/TI posts.

    *********************************************

    T.I. bought Tiny that car for Valentine's Day but the dealership was late delivering it. That's why he gave it to her during that Alzheimer's benefit because the car had just arrived that day. There's nothing wrong with giving your fiancee nice things if you can afford to. This post describes the narcissists who FLAUNT material things because they can't identify with a self. You can't look at T.I. or Tiny and tell they're wealthy. They don't flaunt.

  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-Qm2_ppqtZk missy

    @Civil- I watched that a couple of times also and i couldn't stop laughing.... Just thinking about it now makes me chuckle ... :lol: ..Every time I see a stage I think of Columbus Short walking it out off the stage... :lol:

  • Soulstar81

    @ missy Says:
    Did anyone see when Columbus Short walked all the way off the stage….. *someone should play the song “walk it out” with that clip*

    :rofl:

  • Candi Apple

    Jewish people do live differently.

    Wait I did not mean like aliens and humans or like they don't put their pants on one leg at a time. Yes they laugh, joke, eat and breath. But, they have rules within the jewish community that they are bound by. You visited the Jewish Community Center - They live in a Jewish community and Attend the Community center. Making it short.

  • CivilEngineer

    @Princess..."Center of My Joy" is probably my favorite and no I've never been youtubed :lol:

    @missy...he had me crying laughing!! Tryna be cool with shades on and walked COMPLETELY off the stage :rofl:

    @Sandra...so you can't tell TI & Tiny are wealthy??

  • http://www.twitter.com/karazinatl KaraZ

    Sandra, you drive a Mercedes right?

  • Krysi J

    T.I. bought Tiny that car for Valentine’s Day but the dealership was late delivering it. That’s why he gave it to her during that Alzheimer’s benefit because the car had just arrived that day. There’s nothing wrong with giving your fiancee nice things if you can afford to. This post describes the narcissists who FLAUNT material things because they can’t identify with a self. You can’t look at T.I. or Tiny and tell they’re wealthy. They don’t flaunt.

    ---------------------------------------------------------

    but Beyonce's HUSBAND brought that ring, PROPOSED, and MARRIED her with it?? And she can't wear it cause its worth 5 milli........their both worth MILLIONS of dollars, so according to THEIR TAX BRACKET 5 mill may not be considered FLAUNTING either.

  • Krysi J

    oh and :rofl: @ Civil.....he kilt it....and Sandra we're waiting for your answer sweetie

  • BROWNSUGAPOET

    SANDRA AND TINY ARE LIKE BANITA BUTRELL AND MS JENKINS!

  • intensemocha

    BEYONCE WORE THIS RING ACTUALLY WHILE DOING AN INTERVIEW ON GOOD MORNING AMERICA YESTERDAY REGARDING HER CHARITY WORK-WHICH WAS PROVIDING A COSMETOLOGY TRAINING FACILITY FOR RECOVERING ADDICTS-THAT'S MORE NEWSWORTHY THAN TALKING ABOUT A RING SHE OBVIOUSLY CAN AFFORD

    HMMM-WHAT YOU HAVE OR WEAR CORRELATES WITH YOUR INCOME

    AND THAT RING IS AN ACCURATE REFLECTION OF HER INCOME-NOW IF THAT WASN'T THE CASE I COULD SEE IT BEING A PROBLEM

  • BROWNSUGAPOET

    I guess I need to you tube Columbus SHort cause I don't know what the hail yall talkin about

  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-Qm2_ppqtZk missy

    @Civil-If I was Columbus Short I would have laid on the ground for a little while and act like I was hurt...and then got up and said it was all a joke on y'all to see if anyone would have told me there wasn't anymore stage...well...You all failed...(I would come up with a good lie)

    But he thought he was to cool for school....

    And I think T.I flaunts just as much as Diddy.. didn't TI have a song called "Swing Ya rag" and he was bragging about his wealth... :shrug:

  • Princess Smarty-Pants

    Sandra,

    Questions...
    If it was already late, what would another few hours or even a day have changed? It was in poor taste to redirect the shine from the cause at hand. We didn't have to witness the gifting of the range or any of the other cars you listed in the Keisha post.

    By giving up all the material things, who is he trying to convince-Him, her or us? No, there's nothing wrong with giving material things to the people you love but at some point you have to admit that's the ransom on her loyalty.

    Sooooo, having people show up with millions of dollars of gifts to random nightclubs and social events when your ass is locked up ain't flaunting it? Again, it's your story boo, tell it however you see fit.

    As far as looking at them and not being able to tell their wealthy...thats all relative. They actually look like the kind of people who spend every dollar they have trying to make sure they don't look broke. I'm sure thats not the case but you know what they say about not being able to get the hood out of people... :shrug:

  • OutsidetheBox

    :co-sign: Smarty.

    I get all kinds of flack about $300 for a dress but my hair (under the weave) is natural. :lolol: My mama: "All that money for a dress with that nappy hair" LOL I then correct her with: "My hair is natural and yes, a bit tough to comb, but my weave, baby, my weave was $250. Dark and Lovely who?"

    Shoot the rich folks I work with all spend there money on what they love...fishing boats, pageants for their girls, 10k trips to Paris for their birthdays.... #toeachtheirown

  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-Qm2_ppqtZk missy

    @Brown you can go to rhymes with snitch they have the vid. of Columbus short walking it out off the stage....

  • OutsidetheBox

    DEAD DEAD DEAD @ BROWN! YES THEY ARE!!!!!!!!!!

    :rofl: :rofl:

  • speakinmymind

    oh let's see what else i can remember :coffee:

    ...the day Tip had expensive gifts delivered all day on the hour while locked up in prison

    ...the unnecessary and multiple "cosmetic" procedures Babe keeps having done to her face...

  • KrayZKat

    Candi Apple Says:

    Jewish people do live differently.

    Wait I did not mean like aliens and humans or like they don’t put their pants on one leg at a time. Yes they laugh, joke, eat and breath. But, they have rules within the jewish community that they are bound by. You visited the Jewish Community Center - They live in a Jewish community and Attend the Community center. Making it short.
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    So what about people who don't live in the "Jewish community" that don't flaunt their money? What's their excuse? My point is, not everyone who is wealthy, flaunts it. Some people live very wise. They save for the future because they know having money today isn't a guarantee it will be around tomorrow.

  • Daisy

    @Sandra did you mean you cant tell Powlows rusty dusty azz is wealthy?

    @Civil you took it back with Center of my Joy *waves hand in the air like im in church* :lol:

  • speakinmymind

    @ Princess SmartyPants

    KAPOW! BAM!! SPLAT!!

    :rofl: :rofl:

  • Princess Smarty-Pants

    hey OTB...LOL! Um, yeah, I feel you on the hair thing. My firends have taken to calling it my "hair situation." I got a buig dumb afro that i refuse to cut or perm. LOVES me a fully enclosed sew in.

  • http://youtube.com yesindeedio

    Sandra, you make a really good point. While African Americans are so busy FLAUNTING, the people with old money live conservatively. Bill Gates and Oprah are good examples, too. They give to charity and they are modest. Not trying to convince everyone of anything because they know what they have in their bank account. Diddy needs to stop it.

  • crzasallgetout

    LOL at the columbus short fall.

    I am all for spending money on what you like and want but are you saving as well. I've noticed that alot of yt will wear a pair of sneakers til they are on their last leg but they have money in the bank. The wealthiest lady in my office has the smallest ring and to me that says a lot. WE have a tendency to live above our means just to show off. IMO

  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-Qm2_ppqtZk missy

    @64kRAZYKAT-I agree with you

    @63Speakinmymind-*i fell out my chair like Columbus Short did off stage* Heavens no :rofl: :rofl:

  • bklynchick

    I say if u got it do with it what u please but in the same breathe don't looked down on anybody because they don't have the same riches as u do. Help someone else along the way that is less fortunate other than that enjoy your life and spend the money u work hard for

    @ sandra yea tiny and ti might not "make themselves seem rich" but when u post things about her giant ring, new car, lv bags, etc etc ect it gives off the perecption that they are...ain't nothing wrong with I am team tiny and ti

  • CivilEngineer

    :rofl: @Daisy...I hope that's who she was referring to

    And it's funny I really had only ever heard "Center of My Joy" at my dad's church before Ruben sang it so I thought it was pretty new until I did some research. No one at my church had ever heard it before...they thought I wrote it :lol:

  • Daisy

    There will always be flashy and conservative ppl in all communites. Not everything is about flauting while I dont like jewlery much I love me a good pair of shoes and to travel. Ppl spend money on what they like. I dont think anybody should live beyond their means though but that happens as well.

  • speakinmymind

    @ missy

    somebody called her that on another blog and i 'bout died laughing. i'm talking about burned my mouth with coffee and er'thang!!

  • OutsidetheBox

    But whats stupid and bound to depreciate to some is just "what they like" to others...

    My boss has taken her 2.5 kids to Disney World 6 times in the 3 years i have worked here. Its expensive to go to Disney and there is hardly ever anything new. They go because her son loves it :shrug:

    LOL@Princess. I have my friends straight dumb-founded! But I give them the same eye they give me. Those heffas are not going anywhere without a fresh do but they will wear Baby Phat (#nohate) and Southpole (#alittlebitofhate)...

  • OutsidetheBox

    OPRAH MODEST BWAAHAHAHHAHAHAHHAHAHHAHAHH! Good one.

    And I think Bill Gates just has that in him. He also said he is only leaving 5 million to each of his kids...if they cant live off that? He said: :shrug:

    LOL I like Bill.

  • crzasallgetout

    Cosign Daisy.

  • Cinderella

    @ Princess, I am natural as well & just got a full weave. This is my first weave ever and I can't wait to see my fro looks like in another month and a half.

  • Candi Apple

    Thats an idividual choice. People live how they want and spend money on what they want. If someone has a car and no place to live yes that is a problem (for the person they live with).

    African American flashyness is based on ancestry

  • CorporateHoodB-tch

    1. Keep 6 months of your income saved in case you loose your job...or you are injured and can't work
    2. Save for your children's education and if able set aside a small trust fund of a few thousand bucks at least to give them a headstart on a business or purchasing a home or to help pay for your child's wedding. Invest in the largest life insurance policy you can afford to leave your family.
    3. Give to the poor, tithe in your church
    4. Live within your means, don't get deep in debt
    4. Then, spend to the end...ball till you fall...stunt like yo daddy...flaunt, floss, flex :waiting: Why not?

  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-Qm2_ppqtZk missy

    @speakinmymind - I've heard Ms.piggy and babe....But you don't drink hot stuff and read topics concerning her you will definitely burn your self because someone is going to say something crazy like that..... :lol:

    @OTB-I like Bill gates also he seems humble...I mean he gave his kids jobs in the company if they can't do anything with that then that's on them..

  • Princess Smarty-Pants

    @krazykat....

    I know what you mean....I owned my house free and clear at the age of 28, paid for my education scraping semester by semester, divert all my rweal money to savings and 401K, and then live on the the money I make bartending at night. I am afraid of being hungry, homeless and or broke as I grew up in those conditions and swore that when I was responsible for my own well being I wouldn't be any of them. So as an adult, yeah, I tend to go buy whataver I want (I worked hard to be able to just throw it in bag) but not at the expense of my financial security.

    I could buy a more expensive and bigger house to appease people but I don't like to live in cavernous spaces and am already hardly home...I drive a pacifica that I got a REALLY good deal on but don't have any kids or a family to tote. Some people argue I should be driving some super luxury vehicle but to me a car needs only to function as safe and reliable transportation. I mean, I'm getting out of it when I get to where I'm going. Thats what I mean by buying stuff other peoplelike. True story, I was in the LV boutique at the same time as a chick who doesn't really like me. She put back a clutch to grab a big bag like mine and they denied three cresdit cards trying to get it purchased and they finally accepted a fourth. Youhave three maxed out credit cards and tryna buy a bag. yeah,okay.

  • OutsidetheBox

    @Cinderella. Oh, oh, oh. First one? *rubs you in the back*

    Well, when you take that sucka down, expect to see hair loss. Remember you haven’t really "done" your hair in xyz amount of time...

    I was a little shocked at how much hair it seemed like I lost but the stylist put it into perspective for me. Since I started wearing full weaves and no relaxers my hair has grown to BSL...when straightened that is. Huge, huge ‘fro when not LOL

  • ms.truth

    Sandra is right...I live in a extremely wealthy part of Atlanta (only an apartment for me :shrug: ) and a lot of these rich white people have these HUGE houses and their nice car (Beamer, Benz, etc) but they also have a "normal" car that they usually drive. That's why I learned to never judge a man by his car :shrug: ...just saying!! a LOT of the men flexing with their nice cars live in apartments and that car take most of their check (celebs included)!

  • crzasallgetout

    African American flashyness is based on ancestry

    Where is this written? I'm AA and none of my folks are flashy. The friends that I did have that were are no longer friends. Especially when you're buying 200 shoes but begging your baby daddy for $20 for food. Or behind on your power bill. I guess I just know my priorities. But to each its own. If I'm buying an expensive pair of shoes you better believe I'm eating just as good and my bills are caught up. I hate people to rock a nice handbag but stay ordering off the $1 menu AND ask for water to drink. WTF

  • CivilEngineer

    Oprah chooses to spend 5mill on her dogs :shrugs: They're gonna die some day so should she invest less??

    Do TI & Tiny not flaunt their wealth because the first thought that crosses peoples' minds when they see them is *cough* ghetto? *cough* Which is later confirmed by their childrens' names!!

    They can't afford to flaunt because their children are gonna need all the money they can get...who'd hire Ya'Majesty?? #justsayin

  • aqtpie

    I'm just glad that all the celebs in the post & comment section mentioned do give back. I haven't received a dime from any celeb so if one flaunts their wealth or not doesn't affect me personally. I say they can do as I do and that's spend or save THEIR HARD EARNED money on what/however they like.

  • CivilEngineer

    I dig what Corporate said! :cosign:

  • Cinderella

    @ missy, Donald Trump gave his kids jobs in his company, Bill's kids are all under 13 years old.

  • artistman999

    The only thing that is the norm in this post is if you have it you are going to flaunt it, some people flaunt it with flashy things and others flaunt it with different investments. If I had it like that I would flaunt it also in my own unique way.

  • Cinderella

    Stop it Civil :rofl: You know Tiny is gonna pass down her nail shop to the kids so they won't have to go get jobs.

  • Anna

    crzasallgetout Says:

    African American flashyness is based on ancestry

    Where is this written? I’m AA and none of my folks are flashy. The friends that I did have that were are no longer friends. Especially when you’re buying 200 shoes but begging your baby daddy for $20 for food. Or behind on your power bill. I guess I just know my priorities. But to each its own. If I’m buying an expensive pair of shoes you better believe I’m eating just as good and my bills are caught up. I hate people to rock a nice handbag but stay ordering off the $1 menu AND ask for water to drink. WTF
    ~~~~~
    I love the dollar menu and I do ask for water, I am due for a new handbag also. :lol:

  • Candi Apple

    Its not written it just is. You've learned a different way of living. Different tribes did things differently some used bones or wood. Others used gold and dimonds. Therefore the value systems are different. But the bone still represent status as you are representing status by saying you don't have those things and live differently. same thing different name

  • http://youtube.com yesindeedio

    I like the word narcissist. :-)

  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-Qm2_ppqtZk missy

    @Cinderella- I thought he had kids older than that :shrug: ...but nevertheless Donald Trump Kids are humble and he gave them a job and they capitalized on it...

    I though Bill said when they got older they could work in his company.....(I guess if they want to)

  • CorporateHoodB-tch

    Civil says: They can’t afford to flaunt because their children are gonna need all the money they can get…who’d hire Ya’Majesty?? #justsayin
    _______________________________________
    :rofl: I'm Team TIP & TINY but that was funny!!!!
    That's why parents better know they need to supply some cash to help out their little kings and queens...to live according to way they were raised.

  • birdofbeauty09

    I have to agree w/the comments about spending money on what you like, but saving as well.

    I remember reading an article in S2S w/ Jamie Foxx, and how he explained his spending habits when he first gained fame. He got his wake-up call when he realized that he was almost broke.

    Its like what Chris Rock said during one of his standups, the abundance of money is a new concept for a lot of these entertainers, since for the most part they grew up in the hood. So when they get a little bit of change they get gaudy jewelry or expensive cars that they asses can't afford.

    The problem with (some) black people is they get things that depreciate in value, like a tricked out car, or gaudy jewelry. While a white person would buy artwork that will make them money in the future if they need to sell it.

    I have to disagree with Sandra about Beyonce. I don't see anything wrong with her wedding ring. Her HUSBAND bought that for his WIFE. Like what others have said, when Tiny gets new rings or whips from Tiny I don't hear you say, "oh look at Clifford flaunting his wealth." And trust that's what he's doing. Beyonce is a married woman while Tameka will always be baby momma playing house w/a rapper. I mean let's be real, whenever a man that you love refers to you as a "situation" that's a BIG problem. But if Tameka likes it, I love it. #thatisall...

  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-Qm2_ppqtZk missy

    I believe that not all black people are flashy.....I am sure there are Jewish,White,Chinese,Japanese,Latino etc. people who show off what they got....Showing off isn't just a race thing it is just a persons personality.....

  • crzasallgetout

    lol @Anna

  • Candi Apple

    I love the value menu too.... But I get a soda I guess I am more flashy than you

  • crzasallgetout

    I must be sheltered then

  • BROWNSUGAPOET

    LMAO CANDI! I'M AN UPPITY KNEEGROW SO I SUPERSIZE!

  • crzasallgetout

    I wasn't saying the dollar menu is a bad thing folks. LOL. *sighs* nevermind

  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-Qm2_ppqtZk missy

    @birdofbeauty & Civil- I quit...y'all spitting hot FIYAH.... :lol:

    Anybody remember weezybaby she just went M.I.A after that Tiny and Toya Live chat last year...

  • OutsidetheBox

    :rofl: @Civil I know you just being funny but ppl with non-traditional names get hired all the time. Dont do that. Its America. The land of "only here"

    *looks at all the "Aparnathas" and "Sanjushrees" sitting around me*

  • Krysi J

    :rofl:

    this post just took a turn for the worst with that one!!

    #theydontstandachance

  • crzasallgetout

    I was watching this show the other day about a couple that was expecting quints. They already had a four year old. Well long story short he was a builder and she had to quit her job to stay at home with the kids. He wasn't finding any work and was considering selling their house. THe wife was not happy with this because she loved the house they built. It just goes to show that what you have and value now may not be what's important a year or two from now. Prepare for the future and save is all I'm saying.

  • MUNCHOSGIRL

    Sandra Rose Says:
    speakinmymind Says:
    does this same definition of narcissism apply to Tiny’s LV collection, the new Porsche SUV and five or six other luxury cars you mentioned in the recent Tiny/TI posts.

    *********************************************

    T.I. bought Tiny that car for Valentine’s Day but the dealership was late delivering it. That’s why he gave it to her during that Alzheimer’s benefit because the car had just arrived that day. There’s nothing wrong with giving your fiancee nice things if you can afford to. This post describes the narcissists who FLAUNT material things because they can’t identify with a self. You can’t look at T.I. or Tiny and tell they’re wealthy. They don’t flaunt.

    YOU CAN PAINT IT AS YOU LIKE BUT WHETHER IT'S HER, YOU OR TI IT IS STILL BEING FLAUNTED, "YOU CAN HAVE WHAT EVER YOU LIKE!" THE ONLY DIFFERENCE BETWEEN BEYONCE RING AND THE ENGAGEMENT RING YOU BRAGGED ON IS BEYONCE'S RING IS HER WEDDING RING, HER HUSBAND GAVE IT TO HER, IN RELATION TO TINY'S BABY DADDY.

  • KrayZKat

    Princess Smarty-Pants Says:

    @krazykat….

    I know what you mean….I owned my house free and clear at the age of 28, paid for my education scraping semester by semester, divert all my rweal money to savings and 401K, and then live on the the money I make bartending at night. I am afraid of being hungry, homeless and or broke as I grew up in those conditions and swore that when I was responsible for my own well being I wouldn’t be any of them. So as an adult, yeah, I tend to go buy whataver I want (I worked hard to be able to just throw it in bag) but not at the expense of my financial security.

    I could buy a more expensive and bigger house to appease people but I don’t like to live in cavernous spaces and am already hardly home…I drive a pacifica that I got a REALLY good deal on but don’t have any kids or a family to tote. Some people argue I should be driving some super luxury vehicle but to me a car needs only to function as safe and reliable transportation. I mean, I’m getting out of it when I get to where I’m going. Thats what I mean by buying stuff other peoplelike. True story, I was in the LV boutique at the same time as a chick who doesn’t really like me. She put back a clutch to grab a big bag like mine and they denied three cresdit cards trying to get it purchased and they finally accepted a fourth. Youhave three maxed out credit cards and tryna buy a bag. yeah,okay.
    ------------------------------------------
    LOL @ the chick trying to buy the LV on maxed out credit cards just to "get back" at you. It makes her look foolish. SMH. That's what I'm talking about. So many people live beyond their means to try to impress someone, and it doesn't make any sense. I always wondered why some people felt the need to flaunt. I think it's more about THEM and their narcissism because why would anyone care what they have if they aren't benefitting from it?

  • luvly1957

    Sandra,

    that's why YOU always talkin bout YOU and da latest LV backpak YOU got and how much it cost and YOU shoppin @ Lenox searchin for stars>>>PLEASE

  • BROWNSUGAPOET

    WTF Aparnathus!!! that sounds like some Greek God

  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-Qm2_ppqtZk missy

    @OTB- :wtf: they real people's names....Lawd

    I might as well name my child "animalKingdom" or "da'queen/da'prince"

    I was shocked to hear people name their children Beyonce....

    I bet y'all someone will name their child "LaGa-Ga" ..SMH

  • onlinefan

    i agree that there are a bunch of people that don't look like they have any money - and are the ones owning companies and not have to work for a living. then on the other hand you see people looking like a million bucks, but are one check away from being homeless.

    i was always taught not to live beyond my means. so by nature i am very frugal....alright, CHEAP way beyond frugal. my mother said she struggled with bills before - but i never knew it because we were never without basic needs, never had any utilities turned off, never went to bed hungry. she said she learned the hard way about money management and didn't want us to get entangled in debt. thankfully now i own a house and car and use my credit card for big items or when it's necessary (major repairs, or online shopping).

    if I won a lottery I would still be cheap with my money. oh it's gonna be some spending going on definitely, but not without doing the right things first like investing more. you wouldn't catch me spending millions on a single car, i'd be scared to drive it anyway! but it sure would be nice to just go in a store and not have your purchase be built around the price tag. "just throw it in the bag" .

    ..i gotta go play the lotto now

  • BROWNSUGAPOET

    My sister and her husband went on a serious budget for about 15yrs and when my niece graduated from highschool they were able to pay cash for their dream home

  • Anna

    crzasallgetout Says:

    I wasn’t saying the dollar menu is a bad thing folks. LOL. *sighs* nevermind
    ~~~~~~
    We knew what you meant. I was poking fun at myself. I had the dollar menu for lunch. :lol: I will splurge on shoes and handbags, but refuse to buy a pair of jeans over $20.

  • crzasallgetout

    Amen ONlinefan!!
    With me it's all about a deal or savings on an item. Call it cheap or frugal all day. lol I'm in the process of looking for a flat screen tv and will shop online or in store everyday to find the best price. I have a tendency to recheck an item after I've already purchased it to see if I could've gotten it cheaper. Now I don't believe in returning shiat.

  • BROWNSUGAPOET

    Missy I was in the nail shop and this chick yelled out "Alize' and Nautica get over here and sit down"

  • KrayZKat

    @birdsofafeature,

    I know that's right. A friend of mine used to buy her infant son designer clothes. I was just flabbergasted because I'm thinking, he's going to grow out of them in a minute; he doesn't know they are designer clothes, and what are you gonna do with them once he's grown out of it. I never said anything because it wasn't my money, my child, or my business, but I thought, once you take that clothing off the rack, it depreciates. She wasn't having anymore children so she folded them up and zip locked them and put them away in the closet. Guess what? They are still there collecting dust. Again, I know it wasn't my business, so I kept my opinionated mouth closed.

  • crzasallgetout

    Me too Anna. add going to the beauty shop to my list.

  • KrayZKat

    BROWNSUGAPOET Says:

    My sister and her husband went on a serious budget for about 15yrs and when my niece graduated from highschool they were able to pay cash for their dream home
    ----------------------------------------
    That's so great! Who wise is that? They won't even have a mortgage. That's my way of thinking.

  • mirsmommy

    Sooooo, is the wad of cash that Puff is flashing, all the money he made from B.I.G.'s death??? :shrugs:

    I do agree, to each his/her own with the way they spend their money, but do it wisely.

  • KrayZKat

    *how wise is that*

  • crzasallgetout

    Off topic
    Can anyone tell me the point of people posting everything they buy on FB? For instance, you're having a baby and you post EVERY TIME you buy clothes for the kid. Or take pictures when you go out to dinner. OF THE FOOD???

  • BROWNSUGAPOET

    they replaced everything with high end furniture and the first thing they tell you is because they paid their tithes and made good investments

  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-Qm2_ppqtZk missy

    @Brown-If I heard her her say that :rofl: I would have given her a serious *Side eye*

    YOu know what I should name my kids "Bacardi" "Smirnoff" or "Zepherhills" or "Ecko"(in honor of Sean garret) SMH ..people should pick names that have meaning and not named after liquor etc.

  • OutsidetheBox

    @BROWN *whispers* She's a Hindu. A bunch of her cousins here too...

  • BROWNSUGAPOET

    MIRS >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>NOW!!!!

  • OutsidetheBox

    @Missy...Beyonce is Tina's maiden name. She didnt want to let it die.

    I know, because I stan. :lolol:

  • Anna

    crzasallgetout Says:

    Off topic
    Can anyone tell me the point of people posting everything they buy on FB? For instance, you’re having a baby and you post EVERY TIME you buy clothes for the kid. Or take pictures when you go out to dinner. OF THE FOOD???
    ~~
    They're a narcissist. :lol:

  • Candi Apple

    I do believe people should take care of home first. That includes everything everyone talked about Owning, Saving, life insurance,investing.

    I think Diddy, Jay, Bey, Simmon, Oprah all have that in the bag so if they want to flash then so be it.

    Ordinary people who have cars and no home can't stay with me. But they can flash all they want Bow Wow included. Thats all

  • KrayZKat

    BROWNSUGAPOET Says:

    they replaced everything with high end furniture and the first thing they tell you is because they paid their tithes and made good investments
    ------------------------------------------
    I am lovin' that! :yea:

  • Sindy

    Stop hating on the rich Sandra. They earned there money and can flaunt it and do whatever they choose to with there money.

  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-Qm2_ppqtZk missy

    OTB-I know that....

    But my cousin said she knows a couple of Beyonces....I was like geesh I am sure they don't know why her name is that...they just like her so much they had to dedicate their daughters name to her I guess....

  • OutsidetheBox

    Now with that said Beyonce is NOT a cute name :lolol:

  • mirsmommy

    BROWNSUGAPOET Says:

    Missy I was in the nail shop and this chick yelled out “Alize’ and Nautica get over here and sit down”
    ______________________________________________________

    :rofl: Poor babies :sad:

  • http://sandrarose.com Sandra Rose

    MsConsciousOne Says:
    Awesome post!

    *******************************************

    Thanks! I see you get the concept. :yes:

  • BROWNSUGAPOET

    there's this chick named Sharde' and I hate that cause I know her parents were just mispronouncin Sade's name!

  • mirsmommy

    BROWNSUGAPOET Says:

    MIRS >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>NOW!!!!
    ___________________________________________

    :-o What I do??????? :lol:

  • http://sandrarose.com Sandra Rose

    KaraZ Says:
    Sandra, you drive a Mercedes right?

    ************************************************

    Yes, a very modest one. Not top of the line at all. Nothing flashy.

  • Candi Apple

    :rofl: :rofl:

    at everything you all are so funny

    Agreed we knew what you ment was just having fun.

  • Princess Smarty-Pants

    @ missy....

    in the naming rules I read somewhere (yall know I'm nosey) it is stated that a MARRIED woman's first legitimate child surname shall be that of her maiden name. It's an old money tradition.

    "people should pick names that have meaning and not named after liquor etc." You're assuming that the liquor isn't the the meaning... How many kids got conceived off "thug Passion" when Tupas wac rapping? (just saying)

  • Krysi J

    I buy what the hell i want, and can afford, damn what everybody else think, because my priorities are in order...and being that I WORK and PAY BILLS...if I see fit to buy something for me and my kids that is not survival related I will...as long as there is groceries in the fridge and gas in my car. savings, insurance, and retirement gets taken out of my check automatically so thats always covered. If I need my toes done, they are as good as PINK and WHITE....if my son made good grades and wants a new game...madden is purchased....if my baby girl needs a pair of gold sandals to match her new outfit, her sandals will be purchased. There is nothing wrong with spending the money you worked hard for on something you want if you have the true ability to do so...never spend your money for the admiration of others...lamest shyt on earth and stupid az hell. Dem Mf's don't do SHYT for you!

  • Princess Smarty-Pants

    Um, Sandra, it'a mercedes there is no modest one.

  • http://hok.com ATL_Reese

    "For what shall it profit a man, if he shall gain the whole world, and lose his own soul?

  • Anna

    BROWNSUGAPOET Says:

    there’s this chick named Sharde’ and I hate that cause I know her parents were just mispronouncin Sade’s name!
    ~~~~~
    Like my son did.

  • Anna

    Princess Smarty-Pants Says:

    Um, Sandra, it’a mercedes there is no modest one.
    ~~~~~~
    I know. :lol:

  • OutsidetheBox

    Ahhhh them chirren gone be alright. Shoot, Marys and Jessicas are going to be the odd balls sitting up in there with ZUMAs (Gwen Stefani)/APPLEs (Gwen Paltrow)/BLUEBELL MADONNAs (Geri Halliwell)...

    BUT WAIT A MINUTE @YT FOLKS...IMMA LET Y'ALL FINISH (stealing crazy ass baby names) BUT BLACK PPL HAVE BEEN GIVING THEY CHIRREN CRAZY NAMES BEFORE TIME!!! *pause* BEFORE TIME!!!!

    :lolol:

  • http://sandrarose.com Sandra Rose

    Princess Smarty-Pants Says:
    Sandra,

    Questions…
    If it was already late, what would another few hours or even a day have changed? It was in poor taste to redirect the shine from the cause at hand.

    **********************************************

    You mean, the way Beyonce flashed that 50 carat rock while talking about opening a center for homeless women? How tacky! Tiny was performing at a fundraiser for alzheimer's disease research -- not for the homeless.

  • Cinderella

    I know two little girls named after Rihanna and little girl named after Ashanti. A co-workers' nephew is named Vuitton.

  • mirsmommy

    I could never understand why people had tinted and rimmed out Benz's, Escalades, Lexuses, Infiniti's, and any other type of luxury car, but they a**es live in the damn projects. SMH. Or walkin down the street with the latest purse, and name brand clothes, but goin into the welfare office. :shrugs:

  • Candi Apple

    Sandra,

    I get that you are saying they are narcissist and indulge in nothing but themselves. Trying to prove how how important they are.

    You didn't write about Tiny and TI because they are not narcissist. But, in the eyes of others they are bond by the same ordinance celebrity so therefore they do it for attention too.

  • http://www.twitter.com/karazinatl KaraZ

    Sandra Rose Says:
    KaraZ Says:
    Sandra, you drive a Mercedes right?

    ************************************************

    Yes, a very modest one. Not top of the line at all. Nothing flashy.
    -------------------------------------------------------------
    Even the most modest Mercedes will run you $20K, lets not talk about the cost of maintenance... you coulda been driving a Kia or Hyundai, but you're not. You decided to treat yourself to a modest Mercedes, so let Simon treat himself to a modest Bugatti.

  • BROWNSUGAPOET

    I'm off to school so yall have a good one

  • http://facebook.com/renz.renegadesince1985 renegadesince1985

    I think living outside your means is not dependent on race, but I will say that it's visible with black people. I am not kidding you when I say I was in my fiance's hometown and went to his friend's house..dude drove a BMW 750 LI rims and everything and lived in a trailer (and it wasn't even a double wide). Chains, earrings, watch..etc..and your crazy azz living in a damn trailer!

    Now white people...I don't know what they buy why they're in so much debt...cause they'll wear the same pair of New Balances for about 15 years before they buy another one.

    I will also have to agree about Jewish people and their money. A good friend of mine married a Jewish guy. First off, in Atlanta to join a Synagogue you have to commit to 5 years and pay a minimum of $3000 per year. At the Synagogue they go to they have to pay to park and pay for tickets to go during Hanukkah and Rosh Hashanah...not to mention if you want your kids to go to one of their schools! Shoot they keep their money in their community...and I've never met a broke Jew...#imjustsayin

  • mirsmommy

    I've heard of a little girl named La-a (La-dash-a). Poor friggin kid. SMH.

  • http://sandrarose.com Sandra Rose

    yesindeedio Says:
    Sandra, you make a really good point. While African Americans are so busy FLAUNTING, the people with old money live conservatively.
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    crzasallgetout Says:

    I’ve noticed that alot of yt will wear a pair of sneakers til they are on their last leg but they have money in the bank

    ************************************************

    :cosign: Exactly!

  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-Qm2_ppqtZk missy

    I think once you are doing anything charitable you shouldn't bring anything flashy to distract...I mean the car could have gone to their house not at the event.... #justsayin

  • http://hok.com ATL_Reese

    While yall on names; I know a set of twin infant girls named LAUREN and LONDON...

  • BROWNSUGAPOET

    SAM WALTON DROVE AN OLD RAGGEDY PICK UP TO WORK AND HE WAS A GAZILLIONAIRE!

  • Cinderella

    Actually it wasn't a homeless shelter. It's a drug treament center. They also offer service to the mentally challenged.

  • CivilEngineer

    Sandra Rose Says:

    Princess Smarty-Pants Says:
    Sandra,

    Questions…
    If it was already late, what would another few hours or even a day have changed? It was in poor taste to redirect the shine from the cause at hand.

    **********************************************

    You mean, the way Beyonce flashed that 50 carat rock while talking about opening a center for homeless women? How tacky! Tiny was performing at a fundraiser for alzheimer’s disease research — not for the homeless.
    ----------------------------------------------------------
    Bey's 50 carat rock is her wedding ring...don't get the correlation :shrugs: If she wasn't wearing it we'd hear "trouble in paradise, Beyonce divorcing Jay for Julius"...something like that

  • Krysi J

    “For what shall it profit a man, if he shall gain the whole world, and lose his own soul?
    ---------------------------------------------------------
    this is more important than anything.

    I could never understand why people had tinted and rimmed out Benz’s, Escalades, Lexuses, Infiniti’s, and any other type of luxury car, but they a**es live in the damn projects. SMH. Or walkin down the street with the latest purse, and name brand clothes, but goin into the welfare office.
    ----------------------------------------------------------

    OH MY......im not the only one who gets erked the hell out of with that SHYT.....and bytches have the nerve to talk down on somebody who work for theirs like they got all the hottest shyt, but low lifes with jobs are pushing pennies....bytches can't keep jobs, don't want jobs, calling every niccah they know for bill money, drive a luxury vehicle and still on medicaid and foodstamps....all up in the mall breaking bread somebody let you borrow or have for groceries, or in exchange for some puzzy....I can't stand EM' UGhhhhh!

  • http://facebook.com/renz.renegadesince1985 renegadesince1985

    The cheapest benz is still at least 30 stacks :coffee:

  • Cinderella

    Im not a Bey-Stan by any means, but she gets a :clap: from me for helping that center out. She also donated her entire paycheck from the Cadillac Records movie to them.

  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-Qm2_ppqtZk missy

    @Atl_Resse - :eek: WOOOW ....when they ask their mother why she named them that...all she can say is "I named y'all after one of waynes baby mama's and NunU from ATL" #noshade

  • Candi Apple

    Brownsugapoet I thought you were leaving for school?

  • CivilEngineer

    There's no such thing as a modest Mercedes unless yours is from the 90's which a doubt and I also think it's a coupe so that just adds to the price tag. Again where's your affordable, economical Toyota??

  • OutsidetheBox

    :offtopic: Old Black couple married eight-t-five years

    *deep sigh* I know she dun' went upside that head a coupla times. 85yrs? Ohhh kill me nowwwww

  • KrayZKat

    White people (not all) have been raised by parents who taught them about money at a young age. How many of us actually had our parent sit down when we were children and tell us that is it better to save our money instead of getting instant gratification. That's why so many people will were a pair of shoes until they can no longer be worn. Our society is in instant gratification mode.

  • CivilEngineer

    missy Says:

    @Atl_Resse - WOOOW ….when they ask their mother why she named them that…all she can say is “I named y’all after one of waynes baby mama’s and NunU from ATL” #noshade
    -----------------------------------------------------------
    BUT they can also say "I got that New New" which is far more important :lol:

  • mirsmommy

    Krysi J Says:

    “For what shall it profit a man, if he shall gain the whole world, and lose his own soul?
    ———————————————————
    this is more important than anything.

    I could never understand why people had tinted and rimmed out Benz’s, Escalades, Lexuses, Infiniti’s, and any other type of luxury car, but they a**es live in the damn projects. SMH. Or walkin down the street with the latest purse, and name brand clothes, but goin into the welfare office.
    ———————————————————-

    OH MY……im not the only one who gets erked the hell out of with that SHYT…..and bytches have the nerve to talk down on somebody who work for theirs like they got all the hottest shyt, but low lifes with jobs are pushing pennies….bytches can’t keep jobs, don’t want jobs, calling every niccah they know for bill money, drive a luxury vehicle and still on medicaid and foodstamps….all up in the mall breaking bread somebody let you borrow or have for groceries, or in exchange for some puzzy….I can’t stand EM’ UGhhhhh!
    ___________________________________________________________

    And let's not forget about the ones that put cable bills and cell phone bills in their kids' names. :nono: But they'll all have a pair of the new Jordans that came out. Damn kids won't have no type of credit, cuz of they raggedy a** mamas.

  • http://sandrarose.com Sandra Rose

    MUNCHOSGIRL Says:

    THE ONLY DIFFERENCE BETWEEN BEYONCE RING AND THE ENGAGEMENT RING YOU BRAGGED ON IS BEYONCE’S RING IS HER WEDDING RING, HER HUSBAND GAVE IT TO HER, IN RELATION TO TINY’S BABY DADDY.

    **************************************************

    I'm not questioning her husband's choice in buying her that ring. I'm questioning her TACKINESS in FLAUNTing it while talking about opening a center for homeless people. That's what this post is about: narcissists who flaunt their wealth. :shrug:

  • http://sandrarose.com Sandra Rose

    luvly1957 Says:
    Sandra,

    that’s why YOU always talkin bout YOU and da latest LV backpak YOU got and how much it cost and YOU shoppin @ Lenox searchin for stars>>>PLEASE

    *******************************************

    I only have one LV backpack. :shrug:
    EDIT: in addition to the backpack that Alex G got me for my birthday which I returned for a cheaper messenger bag.

  • http://thecubiclechick.com STLVixen

    Diddy is going to get enough throwing money and showing off in clubs. We know he has money. No need to have stacks on deck everywhere you go. SMH.

  • mirsmommy

    KrayZKat Says:

    White people (not all) have been raised by parents who taught them about money at a young age. How many of us actually had our parent sit down when we were children and tell us that is it better to save our money instead of getting instant gratification. That’s why so many people will were a pair of shoes until they can no longer be worn. Our society is in instant gratification mode.
    __________________________________________________________

    Exactly.

    My Mom never sat me down and talked to me about credit, and saving money, etc. I'm just the type of person that learns from watching others. For instance, we had lights, phones, cable, etc turned off and on when I was growing up. My Mom even lost our house when I turned 18. I didn't like going through it then, and I damn sure don't wanna have to go through it now. So I make sure the bills get paid first before anything else. :yes:

  • http://facebook.com/renz.renegadesince1985 renegadesince1985

    @Sandra

    Sooooo...she wasn't supposed to wear her WEDDING RING to an interview, but TI couldn't have waited until after a benefit to give is baby momma a car at home? :shrugs:

    He wanted everyone to see that he bought her that danm car...THAT IS FLAUNTING...I don't give a damn what my wedding ring looks like i'm gonna wear it everywhere! It's my wedding ring!!

  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-Qm2_ppqtZk missy

    @KrazyKat-My parents never talked to me or my siblings about money...but we just are all cheap I see my parents paying bills and stuff and I felt like I shouldn't have them buy me stuff I don't need....If i want something I may buy it but I am so indecisive I probably will not want it after a while :shrugs:

    I don't know maybe it's because I took some business classes in high school which shaped me to be even more cheap then I am...

    But I will admit I have clothes and shoes I have never worn and just collecting dusts...but i give them away

  • mirsmommy

    @ Sandra, do you have an issue with BeyNappy wearing her wedding ring at the event (or whatever it was), since she barely ever wears it any other time??? :shrugs:

  • ms.truth

    :rotfl: yall killing me with these names!!

  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-Qm2_ppqtZk missy

    CivilEngineer Says:

    BUT they can also say “I got that New New” which is far more important
    ______________________________________

    :lol: Probably what their mother was thinking..."My babies are always gonna have the newist ish"... SMH

  • Krysi J

    And let’s not forget about the ones that put cable bills and cell phone bills in their kids’ names. But they’ll all have a pair of the new Jordans that came out. Damn kids won’t have no type of credit, cuz of they raggedy a** mamas.

    -----------------------------------------------------------

    No what about the ones who have money from niccahs with money so they can reap the benefits, live in baby mamas for 8 years, stay getting engagement rings and never marry, or never recieve an educations outside of highschool, and sit around cursing people out on public forums, or excepting lavish gifts cause they get cheated on a thousand times a year and get dumped temporarily for jump offs, got a lifetime supply of LV bags, but can't spell worth a damn.... :eek:

    "wait a wockaflocka minute!!!!"

  • ms.truth

    :rofl: more like it...had an extra letter

  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-Qm2_ppqtZk missy

    newest=newist

  • http://www.twitter.com/karazinatl KaraZ

    Sandra Rose Says:

    I only have one LV backpack.
    EDIT: in addition to the backpack that Alex G got me for my birthday which I returned for a cheaper messenger bag.
    -------------------------------------------------------------

    so does Alex G want a new friend? My birthday is in May :) I don't have a blog but I can send emails with pictures of his parties.

  • Princess Smarty-Pants

    I think it's tacky for a woman or man to remove their wedding ring for any reason at all, wear it or don't.

    By definiton, Beyonce doesn't have to flaunt said ring, however if she wishes people to stop asking her about it she should wear it more often.

  • Daisy

    @Sandra *side eye* Now you know I am Prez (in my head) of the SR TI STAN Club he flaunts his $$ in his own way. Tiny has a nice rock on her hand and 5011 cars in the drive way. If your msg is ppl need to have money in the bank before balling and flaunting then I would venture to say Bey, Puffy have stacks on deck in the bank as well. Not every black person is trying to ball and live beyond their means I know I don't. I want a pair of red bottoms so bad I can taste them but I am to cheap to pay for them :nono: When I do break down they will be from the previous season on a good sale less than 500 :yea:

  • Candi Apple

    No Fair Beyonce had that ring before she knew the homeless people.

    tiny got the car while meeting people at a charity event. Clifford told her 1 for them and 1 for you. The people suffering and from Alzhiemer's they probably thought the car was for them. They could have used better timing is all. The same as Diddy money flashing at biggies event.

  • birdofbeauty09

    Why when I looked at Puffy's picture all I can think about is the Rick James skit, "They shouldve never gave y'all any money..." :rófl:

    :cosign: w/KrayZKat, and KrysiJ. I've been working since 14. TRUST everything I wanted, I paid for.

  • http://sandrarose.com Sandra Rose

    Candi Apple Says:
    Sandra,

    I get that you are saying they are narcissist and indulge in nothing but themselves. Trying to prove how how important they are.

    ***********************************************

    Exactly. Because they don't have a "self" to identify with. It's like they don't know who they really are. So the money and material things takes the place of an identity to them. It becomes a part of them like an arm or a leg. Puffy holds up that cash like THIS is who I AM. If you notice, he flashes cash and flaunts material things a lot. It's very sad.

  • ms.truth

    am I the only one that just doesn't want a ring that big?? I just don't understand why you need $5 mil on your hand.

  • OutsidetheBox

    Speakin of Waka...I got a great dress for $35 (!!!!!) but I'm speding $279 for some L.A.M.B.s :( (that I have coveted for 3 months...) #dontjudge;Isaved

    :pray: That I dont get shot at the Waka Flocka concert in my $35 dollar dress. I REALLY love that dress.

  • mirsmommy

    Krysi J Says:

    And let’s not forget about the ones that put cable bills and cell phone bills in their kids’ names. But they’ll all have a pair of the new Jordans that came out. Damn kids won’t have no type of credit, cuz of they raggedy a** mamas.

    ———————————————————–

    No what about the ones who have money from niccahs with money so they can reap the benefits, live in baby mamas for 8 years, stay getting engagement rings and never marry, or never recieve an educations outside of highschool, and sit around cursing people out on public forums, or excepting lavish gifts cause they get cheated on a thousand times a year and get dumped temporarily for jump offs, got a lifetime supply of LV bags, but can’t spell worth a damn….

    “wait a wockaflocka minute!!!!”
    ______________________________________________________

    :rofl: I AINT MESSIN WIT U!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :rofl:

    You get me every damn time we have a mini convo on here. I just choked on my damn Pepsi, cuz of you. Please go to the Kona, cuz you need a time-out!!!!

  • Soulstar81

    @ Krysi J Says:

    Priceless!!

  • http://sandrarose.com Sandra Rose

    Show me a man who always has cash in his hand, flaunting it and I will show you a narcissist (Puffy, Floyd Mayweather,etc.) I never see T.I. with cash in his hand. :coffee:

  • Cinderella

    #random, Usually when men show off for their women it's cuz they want other people to know she's their woman. I doubt anybody is gonna fight T.I. for Tiny.

  • OutsidetheBox

    Didnt Tip invent making it rain?

  • mirsmommy

    Candi Apple Says:

    No Fair Beyonce had that ring before she knew the homeless people.

    tiny got the car while meeting people at a charity event. Clifford told her 1 for them and 1 for you. The people suffering and from Alzhiemer’s they probably thought the car was for them. They could have used better timing is all. The same as Diddy money flashing at biggies event.
    ____________________________________________________

    :rofl:

  • ms.truth

    :offtopic:

    Sandra, do you know anything about Superhead faking her pregnancy???

  • mirsmommy

    ms.truth Says:

    Sandra, do you know anything about Superhead faking her pregnancy???
    ______________________________________________________

    :lol: I heard about that. That heffa is a straight up habitual liar.

  • OutsidetheBox

    WHERE DEY DO DAT AT? Faking a pregnancy? A man even looks at me and I'm pregnant. Sh.it. She can have my ovaries. No need to fake it.

  • Anna

    What's the benefit for superfreak to lie?

  • Krysi J

    w/KrayZKat, and KrysiJ. I’ve been working since 14. TRUST everything I wanted, I paid for.
    ---------------------------------------------------------

    I've been working since age 14 too!!! :grin: You don't meet people like that everyday. People don't understand if you knew where i came from, you would know why I appreciate where I am at.....I don't have to be rich, I like being comfortable...Im happy being able to afford what I can buy.....I've never envied others...because like you I have always WORKED for mine.

    <<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<
    :pray: That I dont get shot at the Waka Flocka concert in my $35 dollar dress. I REALLY love that dress.

    -----------------------------------------------------------
    NO! :pray: that you nor Wacka gets SHOT at his concert...you know gainesville got some hood niccahs lol...they don't take to kindly to flodging azz niccahs, talking too much shyt, and beefing with CTE... :rofl:

  • OutsidetheBox

    :rofl: @ beefing with CTE

    On second thought, I might shoot that nigga :shotsfired:

  • Candi Apple

    Yeah but Tip indulges in other things aside from money. The money makes Diddy and Floyd M. that is there Identity.

    Tips identity is in the sex, drugs and guns. Most of all not committing to Tiny because he wants to keep his situation the way it is, narcissist behavior. He too is lost like the leg or arm you mentioned.

  • KrayZKat

    @mirsmommy & missy,

    I'm like you. My mom didn't sit down and teach me about money either. She was divorced raising three children and working two full time and one part time job on the weekend. I saw how she struggled. Thank God she didn't have to worry about daycare as my grandmother lived with us and took care of us while she was at work.

    I learned from observing. I've never been a materialistic person anyway. It was always, "easy come, easy go."

    @missy, at least you give your clothes away. Someone is blessed by them.

  • Krysi J

    Show me a man who always has cash in his hand, flaunting it and I will show you a narcissist (Puffy, Floyd Mayweather,etc.) I never see T.I. with cash in his hand
    ---------------------------------------------------------

    :eek: did she just say that?? That had to be a mistake.

  • Daisy

    @Sandra TI makes it rain at the strip clubs again *side eye* You know I go hard for TI but he likes nice toys and money as well.

    Cash in hand is NOT the only means of flaunting money as I am sure you know

  • Krysi J

    On second thought, I might shoot that nigga
    -----------------------------------------------------

    :rofl: EXACTLY....you no ain nobody playing bout CTE in the Ville....Bloodraw, SlickPulla, JEEZY!! :shotsfired:

  • http://www.twitter.com/karazinatl KaraZ

    Sandra Rose Says:
    Show me a man who always has cash in his hand, flaunting it and I will show you a narcissist (Puffy, Floyd Mayweather,etc.) I never see T.I. with cash in his hand.
    --------------------------------------------------------------

    Actually show me a man who always flashes his cash and I'll show you the same man has a little dyck (or one he's not proud of) and has never had money before in his life.

  • Anna

    KrayZKat Says:
    @missy, at least you give your clothes away. Someone is blessed by them.
    ~~~~~~~~
    That is a good thing. I have clothes with tags. I think I'm addicted to getting a bargain. We take our clothes to the Salvation Army often and some items still have the tag on them.

  • http://facebook.com/renz.renegadesince1985 renegadesince1985

    Sandra Says:

    I never see T.I. with cash in his hand

    **blank stare** Ahh...have you never heard the song Rubber Band Man?? Whatcha think that song's about???

  • flsun99

    Sandra no matter what Beyonce does you will always throw shade on it because you don't like her. TI & Tiny does no wrong in your eyes because you like them. OK...we get it.

  • Anna

    KaraZ Says:

    Sandra Rose Says:
    Show me a man who always has cash in his hand, flaunting it and I will show you a narcissist (Puffy, Floyd Mayweather,etc.) I never see T.I. with cash in his hand.
    ————————————————————–

    Actually show me a man who always flashes his cash and I’ll show you the same man has a little dyck (or one he’s not proud of) and has never had money before in his life.
    ~~~~
    Bingo, and we know Diddy's is little. :lol:

  • VIBABY

    @Krysi
    I cant even humor SR with this mess because its obvious she is trying to keep this post going. She could have easily used TI and Tiny for this post but she didnt because their shyt dont stank. :lolol: Why did she use a pic of Simons car when she could have used a pic of one of the SIX luxury cars TI and Tiny own/lease? Chile booooo.....

  • kdillon

    They're all GHETTO!

  • Reese

    Missy I was in the nail shop and this chick yelled out “Alize’ and Nautica get over here and sit down”
    _________________________

    *thud* knees hit the floor *thud* upper body follows

  • Krysi J

    @Krysi
    I cant even humor SR with this mess because its obvious she is trying to keep this post going. She could have easily used TI and Tiny for this post but she didnt because their shyt dont stank. Why did she use a pic of Simons car when she could have used a pic of one of the SIX luxury cars TI and Tiny own/lease? Chile booooo…..
    ----------------------------------------------------------

    chile she know she dead azz wrong.....she know damn well TI flaunt....hell he probably got some lyrics in a few rhymes talking about some shyt....

    "LOOk WHAT I GOT" - and that was on Trap Muzik

    "WHAT YOU KNOW ABOUT THAT"

    "BIG SHYT POPPIN"

    "DOPE BOYS IN THE TRAP"

    "I'M ILLY"

    "SWAGGA LIKE US"

    Sandra you need to quit.

  • Daisy

    @Krsyi thats right go head and list my babys songs :danban:

  • http://www.twitter.com/karazinatl KaraZ

    I went to school with a SirValiant... his brother's name was SirLancelot. I know someone at that hospital was laughing they azz off.

  • mirsmommy

    :offtopic: Anyone hear about DMX's wife/ex-wife Tashera writing a tell-all book???? She'll be talking about the drugs, the cheating, the paternity suits, etc.

    What does she have to tell, that we don't already know???? :shrugs:

  • Princess Smarty-Pants

    @mirsmommy

    Yes and good question.

    Unless she tells us that he was doing it to the dogs, I don't see this being very interesting as I'm sure most of the stories could apply to any rapper and will almost be fill in the blank situation. paternity suits, cheating, drugs, driving withno license. All that is real common right now.

  • Anna

    mirsmommy Says:

    Anyone hear about DMX’s wife/ex-wife Tashera writing a tell-all book???? She’ll be talking about the drugs, the cheating, the paternity suits, etc.

    What does she have to tell, that we don’t already know????
    ~~~~~~
    He's DL? Hey he aint making no money, babies gotta eat.

  • birdofbeauty09

    No what about the ones who have money from niccahs with money so they can reap the benefits, live in baby mamas for 8 years, stay getting engagement rings and never marry, or never recieve an educations outside of highschool, and sit around cursing people out on public forums, or excepting lavish gifts cause they get cheated on a thousand times a year and get dumped temporarily for jump offs, got a lifetime supply of LV bags, but can’t spell worth a damn….
    --------------------------------------------------------------
    DEAD *Chillin' in the UPPER ROOM w/MJ while hearing Marvin Gaye singing...*

  • mirsmommy

    :lol: @ princess & anna

    He better not be DL. That's my secret crush. I know, I know, but he's a sexy crackhead. :lol:

    I do hope he gets his life together, tho.

  • Lady_L

    So Tiny showing her ring, and her gazzillionth car are not showing off.?? why does she get glorified showing all that ? Sandra..never mind.

  • Candi Apple

    :rofl:

  • birdofbeauty09

    :cosign: with @mirsmommy.
    My parents didn't sit down with me and teach me saving/investing your money, but being on the brink of homelessness twice (living in a hotel room for 4 months) will DEFINITELY show you what to do and what NOT to do. I'm the observant type also. After watching my cousins like clockwork become teenager mothers (not knockin' my SR fam who are) with no good men, taught me what to look for in a man.

  • birdofbeauty09

    mirsmommy Says:
    @ princess & anna

    He better not be DL. That’s my secret crush. I know, I know, but he’s a sexy crackhead.

    I do hope he gets his life together, tho.
    -------------------------------------------------------------
    LOL @mirsmommy, I feel the same way too. If he sobers up, man he can so :hump:. I find his bark to be sexy...#dontjudgeme :rofl:

  • mirsmommy

    birdofbeauty09 Says:

    mirsmommy Says:
    @ princess & anna

    He better not be DL. That’s my secret crush. I know, I know, but he’s a sexy crackhead.

    I do hope he gets his life together, tho.
    ————————————————————-
    LOL @mirsmommy, I feel the same way too. If he sobers up, man he can so :hump:. I find his bark to be sexy…#dontjudgeme
    _______________________________________________________

    :rofl: He was sexy ruff-ian back in his Ruff Ryder/It's Dark and Hell is Hot/Flesh of My Flesh Blood of My Blood days. I loved the Ruff Ryders Anthem video. I'm a sucker for motorcycles. :yes:

  • Anna

    birdofbeauty09 Says:

    with @mirsmommy.
    My parents didn’t sit down with me and teach me saving/investing your money, but being on the brink of homelessness twice (living in a hotel room for 4 months) will DEFINITELY show you what to do and what NOT to do. I’m the observant type also. After watching my cousins like clockwork become teenager mothers (not knockin’ my SR fam who are) with no good men, taught me what to look for in a man.
    ~~~~
    I wish everyone would pay attention like you did. I see some girls who have seen family and their own mama struggle but the fast tails still get pregnant.

  • mirsmommy

    Anna Says:

    birdofbeauty09 Says:

    with @mirsmommy.
    My parents didn’t sit down with me and teach me saving/investing your money, but being on the brink of homelessness twice (living in a hotel room for 4 months) will DEFINITELY show you what to do and what NOT to do. I’m the observant type also. After watching my cousins like clockwork become teenager mothers (not knockin’ my SR fam who are) with no good men, taught me what to look for in a man.
    ~~~~
    I wish everyone would pay attention like you did. I see some girls who have seen family and their own mama struggle but the fast tails still get pregnant.
    _________________________________________________________

    Exactly. Just about all of the women in my family got pregnant in their teens. Not necessarily early teens, but as young as 17. I saw them struggle. Workin two to three jobs to make ends meet. :nono: Not I said the cat.

  • Princess Smarty-Pants

    I wish everyone would pay attention like you did. I see some girls who have seen family and their own mama struggle but the fast tails still get pregnant.
    __________________________________________________________
    too busy watching rap videos and looking for love reality tv, seeing Tiger's mistresses hit paydirt, and reading blogs where baby mommas are hyped up and wives are thrown under the bus. :shrug:

  • Al-Ameera

    @ mirmommy, Yes I heard that she is writing book and spilling all about his addiction, extra-maritial affairs and the children had from said affairs. But what I was thinking is....do I really care?

    @ Karaz, what the heck is a SirValiant& SirLancelot. Really I'm not trying to be funny

  • Princess Smarty-Pants

    Al-Ameera..Karaz might have more details but they were officers in King Arthur's court.

  • birdofbeauty09

    mirsmommy Says:
    Anna Says:

    birdofbeauty09 Says:

    with @mirsmommy.
    My parents didn’t sit down with me and teach me saving/investing your money, but being on the brink of homelessness twice (living in a hotel room for 4 months) will DEFINITELY show you what to do and what NOT to do. I’m the observant type also. After watching my cousins like clockwork become teenager mothers (not knockin’ my SR fam who are) with no good men, taught me what to look for in a man.
    ~~~~
    I wish everyone would pay attention like you did. I see some girls who have seen family and their own mama struggle but the fast tails still get pregnant.
    _________________________________________________________

    Exactly. Just about all of the women in my family got pregnant in their teens. Not necessarily early teens, but as young as 17. I saw them struggle. Workin two to three jobs to make ends meet. Not I said the cat.
    ------------------------------------------------------------
    Thanks @mirsmommy, and @anna. You wanna know something...I had family members tell me that I was stuck-up because I didn't follow down their path, and instead decided to get my education and be married before having kids. Ain't that something? LOL

    Oh @Krysi J, you're a friend in my head (c) Wendy Williams now that I know another sista that has been on her grind since 14. There's nothing better than knowing that everything you owned, you bought and paid for without asking for a handout. POW! LOL

  • Anna

    birdofbeauty09 Says:

    mirsmommy Says:
    Anna Says:

    birdofbeauty09 Says:

    with @mirsmommy.
    My parents didn’t sit down with me and teach me saving/investing your money, but being on the brink of homelessness twice (living in a hotel room for 4 months) will DEFINITELY show you what to do and what NOT to do. I’m the observant type also. After watching my cousins like clockwork become teenager mothers (not knockin’ my SR fam who are) with no good men, taught me what to look for in a man.
    ~~~~
    I wish everyone would pay attention like you did. I see some girls who have seen family and their own mama struggle but the fast tails still get pregnant.
    _________________________________________________________

    Exactly. Just about all of the women in my family got pregnant in their teens. Not necessarily early teens, but as young as 17. I saw them struggle. Workin two to three jobs to make ends meet. Not I said the cat.
    ————————————————————
    Thanks @mirsmommy, and @anna. You wanna know something…I had family members tell me that I was stuck-up because I didn’t follow down their path, and instead decided to get my education and be married before having kids. Ain’t that something? LOL
    ~~~~~~~
    Ppl try to tell my first born that she was stuck up, she has no kids, she got her Masters and he put a ring on it and she gets married in June. She is 24. Nothing wrong with learning from someone elses mistakes, being a single mother aint cool nor cute especially when you are a kid.

  • Candi Apple

    Sir Lancelot helped King Authur (British leader) in the battle of camalot. but Sir Lancelot was a naughty boy and started banging King Authurs girl Guenevere. King Authur was killed because the tramp left him for the younger man. LOL. Sir Valiant was a Knight of the round table.

    Just having fun but true nonetheless

  • Al-Ameera

    Oh I thought she said she knew some people named that, like currently.

  • Candi Apple

    She did say that :rofl:

  • http://www.twitter.com/karazinatl KaraZ

    Al-Ameera, I asked myself the same thing! WTF! He came to play basketball at my university and in true hood( non-forward thinking) mentality, he dropped out of college after his sophomore year to enter the NBA draft... we weren't even in the Sweet Sixteen any of the years he played... le sigh.

    @birdofbeauty & krysi - I too, started working at 14 years old, I went down there and got my work permit squared away at city hall and paid for every college app and SAT exam. Even paid my deposit for school. $650 was alot of money for a 16yr old to cough up, but I knew my mom would say if I wanted things my way, i'd have to pay for it. So I sorted myself out with a job filing papers at City Hall for $10/hr.

  • http://www.twitter.com/karazinatl KaraZ

    @CandiAple... yes you would be right. But there's also SirValiant Brown, who played ball for GWU in the late 90's. :-|

  • Princess Smarty-Pants

    Shout out to eveybody qwho been getting for themselves since forever....I paid a woman $150 (she charged $75 but since I couldn't pay until I got a check she charged me twice as much)to alter the date and bump me up to working age and then went to work at target so that I could get the discount and paid every week. My mother was so strung out she wouldn't even buy me soap and tampons. Yeah, I spent good money to clean up my credit score and the whole nine. I love her to death and she cleaned herself up a couple years ago. I wouldn't change it for anything though. Lest I be like a lot of people I know with no respect for a dollar or any money sense at all.

    lets get it y'all!

  • Candi Apple

    Ohh save me now. Chris Brown is pleading to his fan for help to save his career. Did you plead when you beat the ish out of Rhi-Rhi. No she did. Go sit down Chris

  • http://www.twitter.com/karazinatl KaraZ

    Candi Apple Says:
    Ohh save me now. Chris Brown is pleading to his fan for help to save his career. Did you plead when you beat the ish out of Rhi-Rhi. No she did. Go sit down Chris
    --------------------------------------------------------------

    ACTIONS = CONSEQUENCES
    That's the secondary lesson people should be teaching their children from Chris Brown's saga.

  • ReadTheBlog

    Sandrarose at night popping? Who's skeeting veggies down whos throat tonight :rofl:

  • ReadTheBlog

    Princess how did you ever make it as an adolescent?

  • Ms.kaylamomma

    **peeks in looking for part 2 of sour vajayjay juices, anal beads and gag reflexes**

  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-Qm2_ppqtZk missy

    @KrazyKat-My parents taught me and my siblings to give away things we don't use and things we may like but can't use anymore...

    And please no fresh talk whiles I may be reading I read some of that other post and I was like :eek: :blink: my precious eyes... (j/p)

  • SangriaSugar

    How would you pronounce this child's name?

    "Le-a"

    Leah?? NO

    Lee - A?? NOPE

    Lay - a?? NO

    Lei?? Guess Again.

    Her mother is irate because everyone is getting her name wrong. It's pronounced "Ledasha"
    When the Mother was asked about the pronunciation of the name, she said, quote-"the dash don't be silent."

    SO, Hello.....if you see something come across your desk like this please remember to pronounce the dash.

    If dey axe you why, tell dem 'de dash don't be silent'

    PLEASE STAY ALERT!

  • Buddafly

    I know a lot of people who try to be someone they are not. That's one thing I cant stand.

    I also know ones who over compensate for a childhood that was less than spectacular according to some.

  • Daisy

    Team Chris :cheer: I dont agree with his actions that night but I refused to get on the CB is a monster campaign. Rihanna didnt even take it this far. She moved on a long time ago and everybody else needs to do the same.

    I also dont agree with his latest statement(another PR mistep that could have been handled better) but some radio stations never started playing his music again and I didnt think that was fair either when ppl have done much worse and still get to act/sing and have a career.

    Sandra will be doing a post on this in 5, 4, 3, 2 1

    What up PM crew *waves*

  • Anna

    Buddafly Says:

    I know a lot of people who try to be someone they are not. That’s one thing I cant stand.

    I also know ones who over compensate for a childhood that was less than spectacular according to some.
    ~~~~~~~~~
    And they give their children every damn thing. Don't make sense to me, I didn't have a dog growing up and I sure don't want my kids to have one, they become the parents responisbilty. I'm kidding I had a dog and so did my kids. I do get tired of parents buying things for kids that are not worthy. A kid will not get the New Jordons vs me paying a light bill. My kid is suppose to go to school looking all fly while we sitting in the dark? :lol: Too many ppl trying to keep up with the Jones' I too got my work permit and had my first job at 14. It wasn't for the things my parents didn't buy me, it was for the things I needed. My job did pay for my fisrt Prince concert. That I did need. :lol:

  • onlinefan

    "the dash don't be silent"

    and the sense don't be making.

  • Anna

    Her mother is irate because everyone is getting her name wrong. It’s pronounced “Ledasha”
    When the Mother was asked about the pronunciation of the name, she said, quote-”the dash don’t be silent.”
    ~~~~~~~~~
    SMH.

  • Anna

    onlinefan Says:

    “the dash don’t be silent”

    and the sense don’t be making.
    ~~~~~~~~~
    :rofl: This is what we get when a mother only has a 7th grade education.

  • Buddafly

    @ Anna My son wants a dog now, yeah I had several growing up but he's 8. It will become our responsibility and aint no way Im walking no d@mn dog in a NYC winter and that thing aint sh!ttin up my yard.

    LOL, Prince concert...

    I have been working since 14 as well, I understand the struggle and also understand living in a hotel cause momma spent the rent $ in Atlantic City. So for me it was my mission to have money in the bank and my own house.

    I control my own. My favorite statement " I pay the cost to be the boss"

  • RINOLA

    Hey P.M. Crew!!! How is everyone doing???

  • Anna

    Buddafly Says:

    @ Anna My son wants a dog now, yeah I had several growing up but he’s 8. It will become our responsibility and aint no way Im walking no d@mn dog in a NYC winter and that thing aint sh!ttin up my yard.

    LOL, Prince concert…

    I have been working since 14 as well, I understand the struggle and also understand living in a hotel cause momma spent the rent $ in Atlantic City. So for me it was my mission to have money in the bank and my own house.

    I control my own. My favorite statement ” I pay the cost to be the boss”
    ~~~~~~~~~~~
    Nothing like paying the cost to be the boss. I am married and hubby always says "who wears the pants". I say "We Both Do". :lol: I like my own money. We don't have joint accounts or credit cards and I hyphened my last name, just in case. :lol: Kids today don't have to struggle for most things because some partents don't realize "things" are a privilege not a necessity. Then they wonder why Little Johnny gets mad at them for not buying him a car. We need to stop giving our kids everything. Kids can get a babysitting job or hustle shoveling snow or raking leaves, cutting grass, hell it's tax free in my eyes.

  • Anna

    Waving @ Cough Drop.

  • RINOLA

    Hey Anna... cough, cough, cough *waving*

  • CorporateHoodB-tch

    It's so good to hear many people have overcome mistakes made by their parents and learned to get a job or education to get what they need...just like I did.
    Question: How about the ones weren't strong enough or smart enough or resourceful enough to figure it out on their own without the help of the people who brought them into this world?
    What happens to them? Jail, prostitution, general fucc ups?
    Is it their fault or the parents fault?
    :nite: I'll check back in tomorrow

  • Buddafly

    @ Anna :preach:

  • birdofbeauty09

    Ppl try to tell my first born that she was stuck up, she has no kids, she got her Masters and he put a ring on it and she gets married in June. She is 24. Nothing wrong with learning from someone elses mistakes, being a single mother aint cool nor cute especially when you are a kid.
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    OMG, good for your daughter! I'm pursuing my masters, not married (hell not even in a relationship, not unless you count my textbooks), and I will be 26 in November. I plan to own my own home by 28.

    @Buddafly, I agree with your statement. Trust, I use that statement as well. My philosophy is if i'm paying for something people can give their OPINION, but at the end of the day I make the FINAL decision.

    :offtopic: One my friends had a baby shower on Saturday and my best friend was telling me how her hubby's family was controlling everything. I told my best friend, "If they paid for her baby shower, then they can do whatever they want..."

  • Buddafly

    @ Corporate

    I feel its a little of both prior to 18, as a person knowing first hand what its like I was determine not to be the same way.

    I am my mothers first born and only girl, I have three brothers none of them tried to make anything out of themselves. I am the only one to grad HS & college.

    It is all about what you want for yourself after 18.

  • winenroses

    Like they say, "Don't hate the playa, hate the Game." I'm not mad at ANY of these heavily monied individuals. All I can say is I wish it were me.

  • Anna

    birdofbeauty09 Says:

    Ppl try to tell my first born that she was stuck up, she has no kids, she got her Masters and he put a ring on it and she gets married in June. She is 24. Nothing wrong with learning from someone elses mistakes, being a single mother aint cool nor cute especially when you are a kid.
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    OMG, good for your daughter! I’m pursuing my masters, not married (hell not even in a relationship, not unless you count my textbooks), and I will be 26 in November. I plan to own my own home by 28.

    @Buddafly, I agree with your statement. Trust, I use that statement as well. My philosophy is if i’m paying for something people can give their OPINION, but at the end of the day I make the FINAL decision.

    One my friends had a baby shower on Saturday and my best friend was telling me how her hubby’s family was controlling everything. I told my best friend, “If they paid for her baby shower, then they can do whatever they want…”
    ~~~~~~~~
    Keep persuing the education. No one can ever take it from you and it does keep us our own boss.
    About the Shower, I agree. Just like if the parents pay for the wedding, they are going to want their style and inmput in it. My daughter has only asked for her dad and I to pay for her dress. I'm cool with that. Most kids don't mind paying for their own wedding cause they can do whatever they like.

  • Anna

    Buddafly Says:

    @ Corporate

    I feel its a little of both prior to 18, as a person knowing first hand what its like I was determine not to be the same way.

    I am my mothers first born and only girl, I have three brothers none of them tried to make anything out of themselves. I am the only one to grad HS & college.

    It is all about what you want for yourself after 18.
    ~~~~~~~~
    That is so true, each kid can be raised by the same parents and we parents can get a different out come. My first born did her thing. My last born is in college, my son made me a grandmother. :lol: My son is the middle child and my only son, he has a big sister and a little sis(plus two new ones by his dad's gf)My son was spoiled by being my only son, plus I am also the middle child, enough said. I thought if I taught my first born all she needed to know that as a big sis the trickle effect would happen, boy was I wrong, each kid is different and has to decide for themselves what direction they are going to make for themselves after a certain age.

  • MUNCHOSGIRL

    Sandra Rose Says:
    MUNCHOSGIRL Says:

    THE ONLY DIFFERENCE BETWEEN BEYONCE RING AND THE ENGAGEMENT RING YOU BRAGGED ON IS BEYONCE’S RING IS HER WEDDING RING, HER HUSBAND GAVE IT TO HER, IN RELATION TO TINY’S BABY DADDY.

    **************************************************

    I’m not questioning her husband’s choice in buying her that ring. I’m questioning her TACKINESS in FLAUNTing it while talking about opening a center for homeless people. That’s what this post is about: narcissists who flaunt their wealth.

    **********************************************************

    FIRST OFF IT ISN'T A HOMELESS SHELTER, IT'S A DRUG REHAB CENTER. SHE WAS THERE FOR THE OPENING A COSMETOLOGY CLASS NAMED FOR HER. THIS IS THE SAME REHAB CENTER THAT SHE DONATED HER WHOLE SALARY TO AFTER GOING THERE TO DO RESEARCH FOR HER ROLE IN CADILLAC RECORDS. THAT IS HER WEDDING RING AT THE END OF THE DAY, IS IT A CRIME THAT SHE WORE IT, HELL DRUG ADDICTS COME FROM ALL WALKS OF LIFE! SHE WAS THERE HELPING THEM AGAIN, SO WHAT WAS THE HARM DONE? MAYBE YOU SHOULD WATCH THE FILM CLIP OF THE YOUNG WOMEN WHO SAID THEY FEEL LIKE TAKING THE COURSE COULD CHANGE THEIR LIVES.

    TI AND TINY DON'T HAVE TO FLAUNT THEIR RICHES WHEN THEY HAVE YOU DOING IT AT EVERY TURN.....

  • Buddafly

    Anna, My brothers all suffer from the same disease. The lazy mofo one and each one has their own degree of laziness.
    I tried the mothering thing with them for a while but the baby tried to break fly with me so instead of doing a bid I just let go n let god.

  • Cinnamon Kisses

    Im tardy to tha party....BUT my child-hood was NOT pretty. My mother ALWAYS worked two jobs...and I was the only child...but we struggled to make it.....HOWEVER it made us strong. I learned not everyone has it easy. I have also worked since 14 yrs....I worked through the summer...saved all my money bought all my school clothes and supplies. I looked @ kids who did have it easy...and I wanted to grind even harder. I want soooo much more for my kids. My mom is finally comfortable...after all these years. She taught me the value of a dollar and to this day I hate being broke....but if I have all of the nessecities then im straight....I put GOD first and keep my faith and know that we gon make it....and momma gon work it out. I love to see black folks making it....strong black women @ that...we are the backbone of families across the world. We smile with tears in our eyes and fear in our hearts....but still keep pushin.

  • http://www.twitter.com/karazinatl KaraZ

    CorporateHoodB-tch Says:

    Question: How about the ones weren’t strong enough or smart enough or resourceful enough to figure it out on their own without the help of the people who brought them into this world?
    What happens to them? Jail, prostitution, general fucc ups?
    Is it their fault or the parents fault?
    I’ll check back in tomorrow

    -----------------------------------------------------------
    Well if you're saying the parents abandoned them, then isn't it obvious that these parents set them up for failure? Even with a horrible foundation in life, people can go out there and eventually make something of their lives. Folks in the United States are fortunate enough to have a stable working system that can catch them if all else fails them.

    *ignoring Bey stan who came to the party late*

    I think after a certain age no matter how fukked up your childhood was, you still have to make a choice to make the best life you can possibly live. All fingers aren't equal.

  • http://thatsbellabrowntoyou.tumblr.com BellaBrown

    Of course he flashes a big wad of money. Of course.
    Me and a friend of mine joked about that the other day. Rappers running around like fools buying things to make themselves look like billionaires while real billionaires wear collar shirts and khakis or a smart suit and drive toyotas. A splurge to them would be the 2010 Camaro, stock.

    Personally, flashing a pile of cash doesn't mean siht to me because the American dollar is toilet paper now. Why do you think all these "Ca$h4Gold" commercials keep popping up? Even the govt knows we're down. We are now in a global economy, and gold is the currency of the world.

    Flash a vault full of gold bricks. Have gold bars rainin down on groupies heads. Then you'd impress me.

  • Buddafly

    @ Cinnamon " I love to see black folks making it….strong black women @ that…we are the backbone of families across the world. We smile with tears in our eyes and fear in our hearts….but still keep pushin."

    You aint never lie.......

  • miss_meka

    OMG! this dude has murdered this song.

  • CivilEngineer

    And that's how you end a show!!! "This Woman's Work"

  • miss_meka

    He brought tears to my eyes as well. The next AI reminds me of Reuben S

  • http://www.twitter.com/karazinatl KaraZ

    Buddafly Says:
    @ Cinnamon ” I love to see black folks making it….strong black women @ that…we are the backbone of families across the world. We smile with tears in our eyes and fear in our hearts….but still keep pushin.”

    You aint never lie…….

    ------------------------------------------------------------

    I don't buy into that backbone nonsense... It strips/excuses men of their responsibility. I understand having to be equipped to handle life if things go wrong, but somewhere along the line black women got it twisted and thinking that this is the norm. Now you have generations of women teaching the next how to be "strong" and run the house in every possible way. Meanwhile we barely teach our sons how to be actual men and be heads of the households. Nope the man should be the fugging backbone and the woman should be his support.

    In my language the word wife literally means "eater of wealth" she's there to enjoy life not to bear the weight of everything. Women be strong for yourselves, absolutely, that's a necessary skill in life, but you better expect and let a man, play his role.

  • Anna

    KaraZ Says:
    I think after a certain age no matter how fukked up your childhood was, you still have to make a choice to make the best life you can possibly live. All fingers aren’t equal.
    ~~~~
    Yep, I am tired of ppl lying on someones couch with they grown ass talking about what mommy or daddy didn't do. Oprah did not have a good child hood, most of us probably think we didn't but in turn we really did. We are still alive. :lol: It's time for ppl to start taking their life back and quit crutching on others for excuses. I say "Get Over It". We can't blame others for our down falls, we need to start choosing to better ourselves.

  • Buddafly

    @ Karaz

    I understand everything your saying. However, black men have gotten beat up in life by fathers abandoning them, mothers not knowing how to raise a strong black man, subcoming to the cruelties of the world and just plan ole' ignorance. So as women we wind up playing the role of the male who should be the head but we become the head just trying to keep our familes together in the end.

  • Buddafly

    @ Anna Amen!

    Our parents gave us the biggest gift LIFE!! For there you make your own.

  • Buddafly

    From*

  • Cinnamon Kisses

    @ KaraZ....I agree MEN should be....but in A LOT of situations they are not. I know a lot of women who have to be. Who have to teach us to grow INTO MEN AND WOMEN. When u are a child some things are beyond your control...so you tend to look to the mother or big momma..whoever raised you. I am blessed that my hubby is here to teach my sons how to do that. But there are little black boys who don't have that. Attheendoftheday you gotta do what you gotta do.

  • Al-Ameera

    KaraZ Says:

    I don’t buy into that backbone nonsense… It strips/excuses men of their responsibility. I understand having to be equipped to handle life if things go wrong, but somewhere along the line black women got it twisted and thinking that this is the norm. Now you have generations of women teaching the next how to be “strong” and run the house in every possible way. Meanwhile we barely teach our sons how to be actual men and be heads of the households. Nope the man should be the fugging backbone and the woman should be his support.

    In my language the word wife literally means “eater of wealth” she’s there to enjoy life not to bear the weight of everything. Women be strong for yourselves, absolutely, that’s a necessary skill in life, but you better expect and let a man, play his role.
    ***************************
    Exactly!

  • DivineLavender

    Auntie;

    I disagree with your view on this topic. I see the double stand on her you report/treat these two couples. Beyonce is married and is proudly wearing her wedding ring from her husband. HER HUSBAND, Sandra, HER HUSBAND-HER WEDDING Ring. Come on, you ain't got to be her fan but that is below the belt. The Carter-Knowles, a married couple, are philanthropist.

    Tiny and TI are also philanthropist but still just dating each other. The ONLY difference is that TI has not made Tiny an honest woman by marrying her. (I hope he does so really soon-she deserves to be his wife and not JUST a baby's mamma.) Now, Beyonce is not the sharpest tack in the box...but she is still wealthy and can enjoy some material things as Tiny and TI. I don't think that Tiny and TI aren't as self-important/narcissistic/cut-throat as Beyonce. She does steal song credits and sabotaged any Destiny Child's members including her own sister, Kelly. Jayz has a good heart and is genuine in trying to help people out.

    Nevertheless, any married woman, including Beyonce Knowles-Carter, has every right to wear her ring even if she is at promoting a righteous cause, just like TI can have whatever car delivered when he feels like it. I think the important thing is the both women Beyonce and Tiny use their influence and celebrity to bring awareness to homelessness and Alzheimer's.

    Diddy is a dope.

    But, the other point here is that once you reach a certain level of net worth, you don't pay full price for anything. Quiet as it is kept, I bet Jayz, TI, Oprah, and Simon hardly pay full price for anything anymore. The brand power each of them has-any marketing team will love for them to use, drive, and wear their product.

    I can't wait to have a net worth to start getting luxury items for free.

  • Mspeng

    I see people were talking about funny names. I met a little boy whose name was KANYE EAST. I swear!

  • http://www.twitter.com/karazinatl KaraZ

    @Buddafly
    I hear what you're saying, but not having a father is not an excuse to be a sorry azz man. Obama was abandoned by his father, was raised by his racist grandparents and his momma was a rolling stone of sorts... yet he still became the president of the United States.
    NOPE.
    Not having your daddy around expires as an excuse at age 21. After that, you a grown azz man, if you didn't have examples of what a man is supposed to be before age 21, at age 21, you've seen what a real man is supposed to be and you should seek those skills yourself.
    If black men have been beat up all their lives & abandoned, what about black women. We've been beat up, abandoned, abused and taken advantage of all our lives, yet we still are expected to get it together and because of this expectation we do get it together & keep it moving.

    @Cinnamon
    At the end of the day, if things go wrong, then you do what you have to do. I'm sorry but too many black women enter relationships "doing the most" and let lazy azz layabout men take advantage of it. Look at Neffe & Swallow. She knew that ninja was no fuggin good, had that man living in her house, eating her food; she's there paying her bills, hiss bills and his spawn's bills. NAWSUH!
    by her example alone she's teaching her 50-11 kids that women are supposed to run the home and take care of things and it's okay to finance, feed then fcuk a grown azz man. I don't fuggin think so.
    Black women do this type ish all the time... Look at Monique and dat sweet azz Sidney. She's there working, what the hell he doing? spending her money to fugg other women, geddafuggouttahere. Look at MaryJBlije... she's bish slapping that layabout man, who doesn't do ish but follow her around all fugging day like a lap dog.

    Women, being the backbone is not a natural position for your delicate self, it's a worst case scenario! Do not start off with worst case scenarios. We are here to be protected and taken care of. We are not meant to carry the weight of it all. If you find yourself in that situation because things went wrong, you need to be equipped to hold it together, but stop seeking out these lazy men who don't know how to do anything a man is supposed to do but fcuk. Start raising your sons with the expectation that he is the one that should be providing for and protecting his family.

  • ohpretty1

    Was skimming through the post. There is a huge difference b/w rich and wealthy, lol. Wealthy people don't have to worry about going broke....not in their lifetimes Rich people become average and broke all of the time.

    :cosign: KaraZ

  • http://www.twitter.com/karazinatl KaraZ

    Mspeng Says:
    I see people were talking about funny names. I met a little boy whose name was KANYE EAST. I swear!
    --------------------------------------------------------------
    mspeng, GO AWAY! I AM FUGGING DONE! WTF

  • Al-Ameera

    KaraZ Says:

    I don’t buy into that backbone nonsense… It strips/excuses men of their responsibility. I understand having to be equipped to handle life if things go wrong, but somewhere along the line black women got it twisted and thinking that this is the norm. Now you have generations of women teaching the next how to be “strong” and run the house in every possible way. Meanwhile we barely teach our sons how to be actual men and be heads of the households. Nope the man should be the fugging backbone and the woman should be his support.

    In my language the word wife literally means “eater of wealth” she’s there to enjoy life not to bear the weight of everything. Women be strong for yourselves, absolutely, that’s a necessary skill in life, but you better expect and let a man, play his role.
    ***************************
    Oooops, I meant to add more......

    As women we’ve become so silly with this “I’m strong, independent, I don’t need nobody, ain’t no man gonna control me or tell me what to do”…….Wrong!
    A man is supposed to be the head. A man is supposed to control the household and please don’t get the word control twisted with abuse or oppress or some tyrannical mess you have experienced from some no good man. The man is the King or is supposed to be anyway. We keep on with our BS and then wonder why a man moves in our house, drives our car, hands us bills, and waits on to take care of them….cuz we let them!
    A few months before my husband and I got married, I got laid off from my niiiice paying investment banking job at Citigroup and someone that has been like a mother to me said it was good because for once it I could be vulnerable in the relationship and let him be a man and take care of me, so I tried it. I moved in with him, let him pay all the bills and write the checks, and he has A+ credit to go with it. I let him be the head. And guess what….I freakin’ love it!
    My husband allows me to be totally free and said whatever makes me happy. He said that I don’t have to work, go to school, cook or clean, the only thing he wants me to do is laundry (which is torture in itself) but he takes care of me so I suffer it. I work but I know at any point if I don’t want to he has my back and in this relationship I finally feel like a wife instead of his momma.

  • Cinnamon Kisses

    @ KaraZ....I agree. We as women need to make better decisions for ourselves...however not every sitaution is the same or the worst...I know of men who started out the backbone...but trials and tribulations of life come into play and the women who "support" that man end up being the backbone. Im not condoning ever being a neffe or taking care of a man. Shyt I KNOW I can do bad by my dayum self. But somethings are just not as simple. Yes women need to choose better mates and do better for ourselves.

  • Anna

    I understand that a man is suppose to be the "Head of The Household", but if I work also to keep shyt going I don't/ should not be expected to come home every night and cook dinner, he gets home before I do. If I have to help pay the bills, I want help with the chores. We are not living in the Ozzie and Harriet days anymore, it takes more than one paycheck to pay the bills.(at least in my household it does, I still like to eat steak and shrimp, that I buy with my momey from my J O B). I don't care how much money you make. My brother was so happy that his wife was going to school, but she had a weekend job to help with the bills while doing so. They did not need the money, my brother could have easily taken care of her until she finished school, it's the principle that she was willing to still keep some cash in her own pocket and not have to go to her husband for money like he was her daddy. It keeps the peace.

  • Buddafly

    That is ture, As a women who grew up trying to help three lazy black men be men when I wasnt that much older than them but was forced to grow up and parent my parent. I realize you have to get out and get your own no one will give it to you.

    My brother made all kinds of excuses as to why he couldnt get a job or keep his job when he did land one.

    I bump head with my man at times because of being the strong woman, I have to let go and follow his lead so to speak but, he understands and put me in my place nicely by saying "I am not your little brothers"

  • Mspeng

    KaraZ Says:

    Mspeng Says:
    I see people were talking about funny names. I met a little boy whose name was KANYE EAST. I swear!
    ————————————————————–
    mspeng, GO AWAY! I AM FUGGING DONE! WTF

    ***********************************************************

    It was at a BBQ one summer. I think it was 2005. THe mother was calling him and saying "come her Kanye"...so of course I asked her did she REALLY name him Kanye...she asked me to guess the last name, so sarcastically I say west...she said No...East. I nearly died!!! hahahaha

  • Al-Ameera

    @ Ann, Yes the world we live in now there almost has to be two incomes, that’s not what I am saying.
    I know that I even make more money than my husband, because he chooses to be an accountant for a restaurant instead of work in Corp America like I do. I contribute to the bills BUT I don’t have to ever see them, my husband handles them. There are even times my husband will borrow money from me, which in my opinion is silly cuz what is mine is his but he still takes charge. That is the point I am making. For instance, when I was unemployed and temping I was in the hospital for almost a week. I racked up an 19,000 bill. Now I even tho I was in a better position to pay it, he told me to give it to him and he signed as the guarantor and made arrangements to pay it because he said I am HIS responsibility. Thank the lord a friend of his wife works at the hospital and got the bill down to almost to nothing (in the hundreds) but the point is he was willing to step up and figure it out.

  • http://www.twitter.com/karazinatl KaraZ

    @Al-Ameera, precisely. I haven't worked for a full calendar year, when I got laid off, I didn't even bother looking for a job because I had:
    1. Made wise financial decisions that meant I could keep up the same lifestyle for at least 18 months or if I scaled back a bit, another year on top of that.
    2. A man, that knows a joint account means, adding my name to his account. Period. I don't have to contribute, my money is for my personal discretion.

    @cinnamon
    If the man started of being the backbone, he will eventually get back to being the backbone again. But women need to learn that backbone is not a permanent position for them.
    When I was born & we lived at home. We had maids, cooks & drivers. We took at least 2 international vacations annually and we didn't want for anything. My mom left my dad when I was 10 and was able to raise all 4 of us on her own, clearly with a significant change in lifestyle. But she always taught her girls, I'm doing everything because your father is not. Get an education, in case of anything, but a man is supposed to play this role. She raised my brother, the youngest of us all, with the expectation that he takes care of his family. She drilled into him with her words and made his responsible for us, his older sisters. If something was wrong, it'd be his shrimp azz coming in the room to find out first what happened, as soon as he started working, my mom made him make the small purchases around the house. If my dad decided to send money, she consulted him on how to spend it first... whether or not she listened to him is different, but she gave him that responsibility. Till today, my little brother gives me money every time he sees me, because that's how we were raised.
    My mother was far from perfect, but I think this is another thing she got right when raising us. She tells my sisters & I to never handle everything by ourselves in our respective homes, even if we can; to always keep the expectation on the man to provide and protect, and he will meet that expectation. I'm new in this, but I think it's true. It's worked for my oldest one for over a decade, even after they hit rough patches and she was the main one providing, she'd say I need you to get back on this, it's too hard on me, and he'd find his feet again and take over again.

  • http://www.twitter.com/karazinatl KaraZ

    mspeng, please send me Mrs. East's number, I have a can of whoop azz i'd like to send to her immediately. Thanks for your cooperation in this matter.

  • Al-Ameera

    My other point is that women need to stop being personally offended by hearing that the man is the backbone or the head of the family. Women act like someone is snatching out there ovaries by these statements. I always tell my friends if they want to run around like they have a peen than do you. They be on some captain save a dude, I have to show how down I am, I have to pay his child support for his other 3 kids to show him I have his back. Geez it’s f’ing ridiculous. It is not making him love you or want to be with you anymore by you acting like his momma. All you are doing is draining yourself and becoming damaged goods and when the one does come along you run his off with all your baggage from other no good ni99as. Like who doesnt want to be taken care of?

    I was soooooo happy when my husband told me about his 764 credit score! I was like wooo hooo! He added me to his credit cards and he is just oooooh weeee...I love that African!

  • Cinnamon Kisses

    @ KaraZ I see what your getting @ .....BUT there is a lack of leadership skills that aren't instilled in men today. I 100% agree with you on that. The thing im getting @ is in sometimes we have to step up and play that role. For example....my dear friend was dating this man for about 2 yrs...they got engaged....got married...had 3 kids one girl two boys....well after they were married he started to change...he started cheating...mis treating her..so she left him and she showed her kids how to keep pushin...she was their backbone. Much like ur mother she taught her boys to be strong black men....she taught her daughter to not just except everything a man does to you.

  • http://www.twitter.com/karazinatl KaraZ

    @Al-Ameera, clearly I'm biased but ^5 to my African brother, ashy feet and all. (Quetta don't try me) You hear less of them not providing for their families, most African culture would frown on pure laziness on a man's part.

    @CinnamonKisses. We're saying almost the same thing, when you have to, do everything... but KNOW that it's fcuked up that you have to do everything. Don't start off in a fcuked up place.

    I can't tell you how much flack I used to get from fellow women when I was dating. If a dude offered to go dutch, no matter who the hell he was or how fine (my weakness) he was, I always declined. They'd call me crazy for passing up dudes like that, but nah buddy, I'm not starting off with you not living up to your full potential. Even if I was the one making more money at the time, I simply never offered to pay. If it meant more dinners at Applebees vs. somewhere nicer or more matinees, then so be it. I was not willing to pay for a dude to court and woo me.

  • Anna

    I love all the valid points. When my hubby's job cut his hrs. from 40+ hrs. a week to 20, he found a second job, he did not expect me to take the slack and for that I am greatful. I will always have his back, but he did not put that on me. He had that job for a year(when his hrs were cut and gas was $4.15/for reg, our cars take premium). His hrs. did pick back up and he politely mailed his two weeks notice in to his second job thanking them for the opportuinty and to keep him in mind in the future(you never know who you will need, always keep options open). I am never mad at a women who gets the luxuary of a man taking care of her. I just like my own personal accounts. I know it's because I been there done that and I am 42. I can love my husband till the end of days, but if I don't create my own and if he passes away, I am really left with starting all over again, credit wise and because I got on his account and did not create my own. #noshade. :lol: I learned what the # sign means in a earlier post.

  • Al-Ameera

    @ Cinnamon, why is it that women man up and be strong when we have to but now you are giving black men a pass about not being taught and blah blah blah. They need to man up when the situation calls for it, point blank period zero. No one taught me how to be a man but it seems that in the past I've had to be hard like one.

    It's funny you will see a trifing dude with a girl and then after a zillion years she finally dumps him he gets with another women and he is a stand up guy....why do you think that is? Cuz the other one wasnt having it. Men are like children and do what you let them do. My husband knows I dont eat meat and he be a google'n fool trying to find veggie plces to feed me and he is a huge meat eater. Women need some standards and need to love themselves more than they love the man and he'll follow suite...simple

  • Cinnamon Kisses

    @ Al.....im not giving anyone a pass. But 9 times outta ten the children end up with the women...so we tend to take on that roll. Im not sayin that it's okay for blackmen to just cop out and not take care of home....I don't remember saying that. If more men stood up and stepped up and provided protected and nurtured then our community would be a lot better....but that's a whole differnet thread in it's self.

  • Anna

    KaraZ Says:

    @Al-Ameera, clearly I’m biased but ^5 to my African brother, ashy feet and all. (Quetta don’t try me) You hear less of them not providing for their families, most African culture would frown on pure laziness on a man’s part.

    @CinnamonKisses. We’re saying almost the same thing, when you have to, do everything… but KNOW that it’s fcuked up that you have to do everything. Don’t start off in a fcuked up place.

    I can’t tell you how much flack I used to get from fellow women when I was dating. If a dude offered to go dutch, no matter who the hell he was or how fine (my weakness) he was, I always declined. They’d call me crazy for passing up dudes like that, but nah buddy, I’m not starting off with you not living up to your full potential. Even if I was the one making more money at the time, I simply never offered to pay. If it meant more dinners at Applebees vs. somewhere nicer or more matinees, then so be it. I was not willing to pay for a dude to court and woo me.
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    Hubby and I don't go dutch, but whomever asks for the date pays the other one pays the tip. Hubby will call me at work and want to take me out to lunch, therefore he pays for the meal and I pay the tip. If I talk to hubby and say let's go here for dinner for date night, it was my decision and I pay for the meal and he pays the tip. It just works for us. I think we just like to share the cost of going out and we get to take turns doing something for each other. I don't want to not work and it's hubbys bday and spend what I know is his money to buy a gift for his bday. To me that is really just picking out a gift to give him for his bday w/ his money. I just like my own money. I am not the type to say, hey honey guess what I bought you with your money. It just doesn't work for me.

  • Al-Ameera

    @ Anna, I agree, I have a lot of my own and am still getting it. I will help with bills, I will treat my hubby and because he is a fashion whore and foots the majority of the bills I will be out and if I see something that has his name on it I get and he is not cheap with his Ferragamo wearing azz.

    I am still meeting women that are in their 30’s trying to develop a man’s potential. Bump that.

  • Al-Ameera

    We dont go dutch cuz either one of us pays. I have no issue sharing my money with my husband, we are one now but while we were dating no dutch allowed! There was a time or two where I said let me treat you but 97% he paid. Taking charge doesnt just have to do with money, it's about an attitude and a willingness to handle sh*t. I make more but you would never know it becuase the hubby just be on his A game.

  • Cinnamon Kisses

    *Disclaimer*.......I am in no way saying it is okay to take care of a man or pay his bills or go to work with his azz laid up or driving my car. I said I can do bad myself... I def don't need a man to validate me or to take up space. And please believe my sons will NOT be that man either.

  • Anna

    Al-Ameera Says:

    We dont go dutch cuz either one of us pays. I have no issue sharing my money with my husband, we are one now but while we were dating no dutch allowed! There was a time or two where I said let me treat you but 97% he paid. Taking charge doesnt just have to do with money, it’s about an attitude and a willingness to handle sh*t. I make more but you would never know it becuase the hubby just be on his A game.
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    I'm cool with that. A lady should be courted. I too make more than hubby but that's not the point. Yes, a real man will treat you well and make you forget the rest. :lol: Hubby has always paid for our entertainment. i.e. basketball games, concerts, comedy clubs, cable with two life time channels. :lol: What benefits my hubby does benefit me. He knows he loves his cable channels as much as I do and our comptuters are also powered by "cable". Hubby was on the couch yesterday when I came home, he had the remote and asked what channel I wanted him to turn to , I said 235, he knew it was my Soapnet channel before he changed to it. He said, "you and your soaps". :lol:

  • Anna

    Cinnamon Kisses Says:

    *Disclaimer*…….I am in no way saying it is okay to take care of a man or pay his bills or go to work with his azz laid up or driving my car. I said I can do bad myself… I def don’t need a man to validate me or to take up space. And please believe my sons will NOT be that man either.
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    I wish my son wasn't "That Man". He is 22 and a unwed dad. :lol:. He is with the mother of the child and they do not live here. Shyt happens. Am I beating myself over the head because my son is hard headed? Nope! Some kids do really have to bump their own head. I love my son and he is a great kid and wonderful bd(baby daddy, let's call them all out). My son grew up in the same household as my daughers and it is what it is. Some kids just take longer to get the messege we are sending them. :lol:

  • Anna

    Laughing @ Wendy(no last name needed) for saying "We All Need Alittle Gross In our life)". Lance Gross is nice looking.

  • Cinnamon Kisses

    @ Anna......u did YOUR best that's all that matters. You lead a horse to water but u can't make them drink......by the way im not calling your son a horse :lol:

  • Tasha

    Diddy flaunting his money like he Soulja Boy and the kids. And rappers and celebrities who flaunt wonder why they get ran up on in the club and robbed. It's really not a good look. I like to see people successful but they need to look from the outside in.

    Sandra, I agree that it wasn't a good look for Beyonce to wear her 5mil dolla ring talking about homeless womens shelters and all. But I don't see it being a problem for the fact that people homeless etc..know that she's rich and trying to help. I could see if she's around the homeless people and flashing it off and not trying to help out. She seems like a good person. I don't think she's trying to show off. Wealthy people want to live regular lives too. Her hubby bought her that ring. She gotta wear it sometimes.

    Off Topic: Did anybody see Michael Jacksons Bodyguards talking about his secret life on Good Morning America?

  • AprilRain

    Honestly, if I had the means to go out and buy a Million dollar car, I would feel guilty driving it. I don't know why I think like this but I do, there is just to much, poverty, child abuse, just real serious things going on in the world to act like that. How can I hop in a ride like that when little baby down the street getting beat...It just don't seem right. Yes I'm glad there are those that donate their money and time but I think there are more that don't than do.

  • Tasha

    I agree with you AprilRain. Rich people are greedy tho. They're exactly like Sandra stated Narcissists, they don't think like that much. I'm a real nice and giving person so if I was rich I'd probably be like Jeezy and be giving all the time. I'll still make sure that I look nice tho but I won't be putting it in no ones face. I can't stand to see someone down and struggling. I know where I came from and I know that it's hard to survive when you're a single parent or never came from a wealthy family. Life is rough. We gotta do better. We're all God's people. Lift a person up when they're down...ya know.

  • AprilRain

    Wow I didn't know Jeezy was like that, thats down! I have seen money turn people greedy right before my eyes. It's funny cuz when my husband and I first got married we were so damn poor it aint even funny, but we were so happy and in love, like it didn't matter that we didnt have money, just that we were together and healthy and happy. Good ole days. I think money is evil, lol, 4 real, i wonder about that alot.

  • Tasha

    Girl I hear you. A long time ago back in 2004 I was a single parent of two girls and I got into a real bad car accident and was in a cast and couldn't walk for awhile and no one was ever there for me b4 until I got back my settlement money. It was so hard to get through those tough times with my kids. Car totaled and had to wait 6 months till the money came to get a new ride. No one reached out to me during those times. But when I got my money I helped out my closed family members any way when they were in need. When I'm down people aren't there but when they're down they always tryna get at me

  • Tasha

    It was alot of pressure having all that money. I was scared to have it cuz with family money always brought problems. I guess that's just the way it is sometimes.

  • ms_no-no

    Like was said before, there is nothing wrong with ENJOYING yourself a little if you have a lot of money like that, but what happens is when people, like those that win the lottery, come into a lot of money, they are shell shocked. What they need to do first is pay the taxes on it IMMEDIATELY, BUY, OUTRIGHT,(not rent, or lease) a HOUSE, buy a nice car, put money away for children's education, pay off ALL debts and BANK the rest. You could live off the interest. Do like the billionaires like Ted Turner does; be modest and frugal. Don't be flossin' for your friends because that is the quickest way to go BROKE with NOTHING to show for it.

  • Danielle84

    That ring is pretty but waayyy too big to be worn on your finger on the daily.

  • http://talkingwithtami.com/blog talkingwithtami

    I do not believe any of that at all, Just because celebs say something cost such and such they don't have a jeweler standing their to examine any of that crap! Im not buying the hype! I wish people would stop thinking celebs really pay for all of that leased/loaned stuff! The get alot of deals n freebies trust and believe me, or they wear loaners! Don't believe the hype people!

  • Anna

    talkingwithtami Says:

    I do not believe any of that at all, Just because celebs say something cost such and such they don’t have a jeweler standing their to examine any of that crap! Im not buying the hype! I wish people would stop thinking celebs really pay for all of that leased/loaned stuff! The get alot of deals n freebies trust and believe me, or they wear loaners! Don’t believe the hype people!
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    And ppl get mad when they don't leave a tip, heck the meal was free so they forget. :lol: Oprah and Tyler Perry went out to eat, I bet neither one paid.

  • http://talkingwithtami.com/blog talkingwithtami

    @Anna Exactly! I'm no where near their status yet and I get free stuff and some free meals too! So thats why I know for sure they do. The restaurant managers are just glad they ate at their place and the designers are glad they wore their things, lol.

  • FloridaChick813

    WOMP WOMP WOMP SANDRA!!!!!

    They flaunt it, cause they have it!!!!! And why shouldnt they??? If anyone of use had it like that, we would do the SAME THING!!!

  • Anna

    talkingwithtami Says:

    @Anna Exactly! I’m no where near their status yet and I get free stuff and some free meals too! So thats why I know for sure they do. The restaurant managers are just glad they ate at their place and the designers are glad they wore their things, lol.
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    Yep, and everything is photographed or on video so we can see the name of the restaurant they ate at and what they were wearing so ppl who adore them can go out and buy it. The rich stay rich because they are not spending their money unless it's to give away to chairty and even that has to be broadcast.

  • http://thechoklitfactory.wordpress.com/ ChokLitFactory

    @Sandra, this post has me laughin!!