Kelly Rowland is gorgeous, and she knows it. Unlike so many of her peers who bleach their skin or rush to the plastic surgeon — Rowland is confident and comfortable in her own beautiful brown skin.

“It took a long while for me to know that I’m beautiful,” she said in a piece she wrote for Essence.com. “I remember going through this phase when I was younger of wanting to pass by mirrors and not look at them. That was so ridiculous.”

Kelly said that if you don’t know your value, “you don’t know how fantabulous you are,” and it will be hard for others to see your natural beauty. “Being appreciative of self, is beauty to me,” she said.

“One of my beauty icons is Oprah Winfrey. I love that fact that she’s so comfortable with herself. One of my favorite episodes of her show was when she showed millions of people how she woke up in the morning with no makeup on. That was so selfless and revealing. She’s very real and genuine and I love that.”