Former Destiny’s Child 3rd lead singer LeToya Luckett, right, is chronically single. At this point it’s obvious that LeToya can’t keep a man. Which makes her a perfect fit as a cast member on VH-1?s popular scripted drama Single Ladies. LeToya is proud to be a single lady and she wants you to be a boss single lady too!
Check out LeToya’s tips after the break!
1. Fix yourself before you get into a relationship.
You hear it all the time growing up: in order to love someone else you have to love yourself. That is the truest statement.You gotta clean house. It’s things that you see growing up that you think is right because you saw it that way, that you have to say, ‘Wait a minute, hold on, that might not fit me. I want to change that part, I want to break that generational curse. I want to not be afraid to love. I don’t want to be insecure, I want … like, you literally have to fall in love with yourself before you can give yourself, in a relationship.’ A lot of time we, as women, find ourselves cooking, cleaning, loving, being the therapist, the pastor, the everything. And by the end of the relationship you’re exhausted, left with nothing and you’ve made so many deposits, and there have been so many withdrawals that you have nothing left. And I refuse!
2. Pray — a great deal.
I literally, the other day, made a list and a prayer to God – I don’t want to call it a list, but my prayer – was that God brought me someone that he has been working on specifically for me, because I know no one comes on this earth perfect. And I’m definitely not perfect, but to prepare my mind for whoever he’s bringing into my life and to fix me first. I want to be healthy, I want to be right, I want to be strong, mentally, physically — all these different things — and open to love with a clean house. Don’t nobody want to move into a messy house. Who wants to come in there? And we try to cover it with a little bit of Lysol! You got to really get out there and clean all the things that you saw growing up, things that you went through past relationships, clean house before you let someone in.