Singer Britney Spears is Back On the Market. Spears and her boyfriend of 6 months, Charlie Ebersol, have called it quits. The reason this time is Ebersol didn't want to be pressured into marriage. Sound familiar?
“Britney had been pressuring Charlie for the last several months about getting married. She is at a point where she wants to have another child, and very much wants to be married again,” an insider told Radar Online. “Charlie had been very honest about not being ready to get married.”
This comes as no surprise, because Britney is a serial Love addict. A Love addict is someone (like Britney, Ciara, and Brittney Griner) who is in love with the idea of being in love. These women crave the highs they feel when they think they are in love. Like most drug addicts, they move on quickly to new men or women once the highs fade.
People who seek therapy for sex addiction are Dopamine addicts.
Dopamine is the principle neurotransmitter that controls the pleasure centers of our brains.
“The anticipation of reward — whether it’s a kiss, a piece of cake or a hot roll of the dice — produces the neurochemical dopamine in the brain’s limbic region, or ‘reward center,’” explains Ehlie Anne Vare in her book, Love Addict: Sex, Romance, and Other Dangerous Drugs.
Each new man (or woman) is like a hit on a bong pipe. But like most addictions, the highs never last and the addict runs off in search of someone new just to sustain the highs. This is why Love addicts who are married tend to cheat often.
Dopamine is a part of our brain chemistry, so we can't avoid it. We need Dopamine in our lives to remind us what is pleasurable and what isn't so we can avoid the unpleasurable things (food, people, etc.)
We can control Dopamine by understanding what triggers it. Romantic love is just a social construct. Love is not what we feel, it is what we DO for others.
If a man makes you feel good, giddy or excited, that is not love. A wise woman once said "Good d*ck is not love, it's just good d*ck."
Characteristics of Love Addiction
• Falling in love quickly and easily
• Obsessed with being in Love
• Gets involved with unavailable men who have trouble committing
• Ignores all warning signs that a man (or woman) may not be good for you
• Thinks Love and marriage validates her
• Fears being lonely
• Fantasizes about love 24/7
• Fears being abandoned
• Overly possessive and jealous of other women in his life
• Preoccupied with love and romantic fantasies
• Short attention span
• Feeling depressed with thoughts of suicide after a break up
• Pursues married men or women
• Addicted to cigarettes, alcohol, prescription drugs or narcotics
Over millennia of evolution, mating and reproduction were a survival priority requiring much effort, competition and fights; thus a reward from Mother Nature was essential for motivation. The "reward center" is the part of the brain dopamine activates when a goal is achieved. The propagation of genes required having many different partners; so an exhausted male who has just had sex with a female, will not mind mating again with any number of females, provided they are all new. A NEW "HARD-TO-GET" PARTNER IS ALWAYS SEXY, because it makes body dopamine surge high, going on that highs-and-lows roller-coaster again and again. First-sight love is a pure dopaminergic urge, that may/may not develop into mature love. Source
Is this you? Do you think you are a Love Addict? The key to breaking the cycle is to understand the science behind what you think is Love.
Click here for information on how to break the endless cycle of Dopamine relationships.
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