Medical Minute: Addictive Personalities Part 2
Yesterday, we discussed your friend who humps every hawt man she meets. One week later, she’s planning her dream wedding to him. She changes men like she changes her underwear, and she hops from bed to bed like a rabbit in heat.
Your friend is most likely an addictive personality type who raves about her love for men she barely knows. There’s a certain level of desperation that separates her from other women in your peer group.
But here’s a scenario from the perspective of a non-addictive personality type, who meets a man after being single for awhile. She would probably say something like this:
“I met a guy. He seems nice. We have a lot in common. We’ve agreed to see each other again. I’ll wait and see where this leads…”
The non-addictive personality type is not as desperate to jump into a relationship with a man she just met. She’s able to think more clearly and make better decisions. Her brain is not addled by dopamine, so she is more in control of her behavior and her thought processes.
She more than likely doesn’t drink, smoke or do drugs. The non-addictive personality type channels her energy into more productive pursuits (and less destructive) activities, such as jogging or blogging.
So how does all of this tie into cheating? People who have addictive personalities develop destructive behavior patterns over time, such as cheating, abusing drugs or alcohol, gambling, pornography, and risk taking.
Medical Minute: Addictive Personalities
Most of us have that one friend who seems to fall in love as easily as he or she changes their underwear.
She’s the one who calls you every time she’s met “The One” — and she wants to share the exciting news with you — again. Your friend has run through literally a hundred men. All the rest were “losers,” she says, “but this guy is different. He understands me.”
Before you know it, she’s already planning her dream wedding to a guy she met just one week ago. She uses language such as, ‘I met a new guy… he swept me off my feet!,’ ‘I LOVE him!,’ ‘He’s so hawt!,’ ‘I CAN’T STOP THINKING ABOUT HIM!’
One of the reasons why your friend falls so hard for every hawt guy she meets, is because she is flying high off a dopamine rush. Your friend has what psychologists refer to as an addictive personality.
Addictive personalities are easy to spot: they’re the ones with cigarette butts dangling from their lips every time you see them. They can’t stop drinking or put down that weed, and they can play video games nonstop for hours on end without stopping to take a bite to eat.
Dopamine is the primary chemical in the brain that causes addictive personalities.
Basically, dopamine brightens and highlights our connections with the world around us, says David Goldman, Ph.D., a neuro-scientist with the National Institute of Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism. “It’s essential for associating something that happens with the feeling of pleasure.” In other words, it reinforces behaviors that make us feel good. Source
R. Kelly Has Emergency Throat Surgery (Medical Minute)
Troubled singer R.Kelly is recovering in a Chicago hospital following emergency throat surgery, according to his rep.
According to the Atlanta Journal, Kelly’s publicist Allan Mayer said Wednesday that doctors drained an abscess on one of Kelly’s tonsils on Tuesday and that the singer will be “laid up indefinitely” at Chicago’s Northwestern Memorial Hospital.
Mayer says Kelly had been complaining of throat pain recently. He was rushed to the hospital for emergency surgery after a throat exam.
R.Kelly was on tour with Keyshia Cole and Marsha Ambrious as opening acts.
Tonsil abscess is a common complication of tonsillitis, a throat infection which usually occurs among the pediatric population. A tonsil abscess is a sac containing pus that collects behind or on the side of the tonsil. Symptoms begin appearing a week before the formation of an abscess.
Jay Z continues to have erectile dysfunction problems
Here are pictures of Beyoncé and her husband Jay Z strolling in New York over the weekend. It looks like Jay Z continues to have problems with erectile dysfunction, otherwise known as priapism.
Priapism is a common side effect of a drug often prescribed for men with penile erection dysfunction, such as Viagra. Erectile dysfunction (or impotency) occurs when a man is unable to sustain an erection long enough to satisfy a woman (or man) during sexual intercourse.
Fetal Genital Development
A Twitter user posted this tweet on Twitter.com earlier today:
Knowing that EVERY penis started out as a vagina should help u to better understand why some men are such bitches
Twitter user @bprocks56, a male, asked: “how is that when Adam was created before Eve? #blankstare”
I saw this as a teachable moment: clearly some people aren’t aware that all embryos have the same female genitalia until about the 8-12 weeks of gestation. This is why the sex of a baby can’t be determined by ultrasound until after the sex organs are formed.
Here are male and female 9 week old embryos. Can you tell which is which? Click here to see the answer.
Image source: DM
Medical Minute: Graves’ Disease (Missy Elliot related)
Rapper/songwriter Missy Elliot is in the news after announcing she was diagnosed with Graves’ disease in 2008.
Graves’ disease is an autoimmune disorder that is the most common cause of hyperthyroidism. An autoimmune disorder is when the body’s immune system (antibodies) attacks your body because it doesn’t recognize it’s own cells. The antibodies stimulate the thyroid gland (the gland at the base of your neck that secretes growth hormones) and causes the thyroid to go into overdrive (hyperthyroidism).
Graves’ disease is the most common cause of hyperthyroidism in children and adolescents. When the disease occurs later in life, it is assumed that the cause is an infection that is viral or bacterial. The signs and symptom’s of Graves’ disease depends upon whether the hyperthyroidism is mild or severe.
In Missy’s case, it sounds like her hyperthyroidism was severe enough to affect her neurologically. The major signs of Graves’ disease are an enlarged goiter (your neck will be noticeably enlarged), exophthalmos (protruding eyeballs) or “bug eyes” (due to the antibodies irritating the muscles of the eyes) and skin changes.
Medical Minute: The Narcissist’s Silent Treatment
According to E! Online, troubled musician Kanye West gave the media the silent treatment as he walked the red carpet at the CDFA Fashion Awards yesterday. He told reporters multiple times that he wasn’t answering any questions and he barely made eye contact with the press.
In addition to not speaking to the media since after his album dropped (and flopped), Kanye hasn’t updated his Twitter account in months.
This silent treatment behavior by a narcissist is known as ‘mental murder’ because, in a sense, you are dead to them.
The silent treatment is one of the tools in the narcissist’s sinister arsenal. It is the ultimate rejection. In the narcissist’s arsenal, the silent treatment is a form of mental abuse.
When someone you love deeply gives you the silent treatment, the pain can be especially intense. The narcissist can ignore you for days, weeks, or even years. The narcissist usually ignores you until you apologize to them — even though they were the cause of the conflict in the first place!
This is why the behavior is so abusive because the narcissist knows that no healthy person would apologize for something they didn’t do. In this way they prey on your weakness and break down your defenses.
If you find yourself in a relationship with anyone who gives you the silent treatment for longer than 8 hours, please RUN!
