Actress Halle Berry opened up about her disappointment at having three failed marriages. The normally private Oscar winner was a guest keynote speaker at the 2017 City Summit and Gala at the USC Tower in Los Angeles on Saturday.
The 50-year-old star opened up about her failed marriages to ex-baseball player David Justice, singer Eric Benet and her 3rd ex-husband, French actor Olivier Martinez, with whom she shares three-year old son Maceo Martinez.
The mother-of-2 explained that she bought into the typical American fantasy of a knight in shining armor ready to sweep her off her feet.
“I have learned to deal with three failed marriages, which has not been easy, especially when there’s children involved,” she said. “(As) women, we go into marriage thinking it’s going to last forever and that this is our prince on a shiny horse. That’s what fairytales taught me as a kid… and I’m kind of anti-fairytales today.”
She added: “But we go in there with that hope, so when it falls apart it feels like a huge failure and a huge disappointment. I’ve often felt guilty and responsible. I’ve suffered a lot of pain and anguish.
Halle learned that with maturity comes wisdom that Dopamine relationships are doomed to failure.
“In every one of those situations, as hard – and sometimes embarrassing – as it was, I learned so much about myself. All of those relationships were necessary for me. We all come here with lessons that we have to learn and those relationships provided me with lessons that got me to where I am right now. For that, I’m grateful. But it has been hard. It’s been a difficult part of my life.”
The actress said she is focusing on her children, and teaching them valuable life lessons.
“Being mom is my most important job and I now know that everything I do, everything I say and everything I offer them is really important,” Halle explained. “I say lots of things, but I think what’s more important is that my children watch what I do.”
She continued: “I’m more mindful of how I live my life and what they see me do. If I want them to be kind, I have to show them kindness. If I want them to be curious, I have to show them my own curiosity. If I want them to be smart, I have to show that I’m continuing to learn every day.”
Halle also has an eight-year-old daughter, Nahla, with former underwear model Gabriel Aubry.
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