Open Post: Ciara Responds to Backlash Over ‘How to Find a Husband’ IG Posts

Russell and Ciara Wilson

Ciara Wilson hit back at critics who dragged her for attempting to share her knowledge of being content with Self Love on Instagram.com.

The retired singer-turned-housewife took to Instagram.com on Saturday to share her intimate knowledge on finding love -- within yourself.

The Dopamine has faded, and now Ciara realizes that -- married or not -- the Love she so eagerly craved all her life was within her all this time.

What's wrong with that message? It's a beautiful come to Jesus moment. Too bad CiCi's IG followers are too immature (or dense) to grasp what she was trying to say.

The "Goodies" singer, who wed American football star Russell Wilson in 2016, took to Instagram on Saturday evening to share a clip from South Carolina-based preacher John Gray's 2016 sermon, in which he listed the things women can do to find a man.

Many of Ciara's followers criticized the mother-of-2 for oversimplifying their search for a husband, and for implying that they will never be happy until they learned to Love themselves first.

Many of her followers took issue with what they claim is Ciara's patronizing attitude.

One Twitter.com user, @CiCiAdams, tweeted:

"Ciara, honey, no. We rooted for you when you were going through your mess. I’m so disappointed that you would share something so silly. What pastor John Gray is saying here is intellectually lazy and a twisting of scripture. That’s not what Prov. 18:22 meant at all."

The Twitter user added: "Ciara is doing what many women do when they overcome trials and get married. She’s using her marital status as a weapon against women who are not married."

@KevCoke6 tweeted:

"Ciara’s playing a dangerous game. You should never, no matter how perfect your relationship/marriage appears to be, sit on a throne and tell people why they’re not romantically successful. You can be the queen of the ball today and have cake in your face tomorrow!"

Ciara hit back at her critics with a post insisting she was only trying to encourage her young followers to love themselves rather than look outwardly for a Love that exists internally.

She wrote:

"I was once that girl wanting to be loved a certain way but was making the wrong choices. I found myself at my lowest moment. I was a single mom sitting at home, and then I realized that the perfect love I was looking for was how God loves me, how He wants me to be loved, and who He was calling me to be as a mom and a woman. That’s when I realized married or not married… I needed to love myself. #LevelUp."

(bold emphasis mine)

It's heartwarming to see young women like Ciara finally get it. This is a lesson that takes some women 50 years to learn. Kudos to Ciara for figuring it out at the tender age of 32!

 

#LevelUp. Don’t Settle.

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  • tintin

    Honestly Ciara should not give advice to anyone when she tooks so many L's to begin with. At the end of the dayi be happy and don't sH!t on anyone's parade. All she needed to talk about was he fining love and being happy but don't bring other women into the mess.

    She definitely has no right to school anyone when she breed for Future.

  • Holler If Ya Hear Me

    Ciara had a "Come to Jesus" moment like anyone with a sound mind would. All she did was post a video and the single Betty's went bizark. If anyone had sound advice on how to find love and happiness as a single mother after a bad relationship, it would be Ciara. Instead of condemning her Betty's, take note.

    SHE SAID WHAT SHE SAID
    #LevelUp

  • jazmine

    When somebody gonna post a preacher talking like this to men about how to find a wife?

  • becky naka

    Folks getting angry over nothing, what's wrong with self love? Ignorant mofos.

  • Bonita Johnson

    Yawns.......if u happy be happy in silence. Don’t be out chea acting like u found the light and the good Lordt sent yah a message to proceed to the singles ladies ....ain’t nobody out here perfect not even her lil marriage after baby daddy #1....I would’ve believed her more had she been about this life before it took a man to help her realize her worth to
    LEVEL UP!!

  • Phillybruh

    But once she realized why she was taking those L's she made some changes. What's wrong with realizing and making the adjustments.

  • You Could Never

    Im not single and actually I found what she did in bad taste. I know married women who actually found fault with it AS WELL. So not just single ladies. Dating is hard enough without the likes of Ciara who JUST had her ass out in these dating streets her owndamnself being all judge-y and whatnot. And as Robyn Fenty once said about Ciara, good luck with her booking a stage anytime soon. She alientated a large chunk of her remaining 125 fans with this mess.

  • Phillybruh

    What she say wrong. You want to attract a certain type of man level up.

  • the conscious one

    What's the problem? Character does matter.

    #LevelUp

  • Phillybruh

    She makes her money from being a personality these days. So this falls in line with the base she's going after. She leveled up.

  • You Could Never

    And good for her. But she could have done that without the judgement filled tone. She leveled up. Okay. Some may never. And please lets not forget that marriage is not the end goal for everyone. Im sick of the Ciara's out here.

  • Phillybruh

    She didn't judge anyone. She simply said this is what she had too do to get the relationship she desired.

  • Yardgirl

    OT: So there is this new security guard in our building. Dude shaped like a box truck, has struggle braids, a wrinkled head back/neck and a face only a mother could love. Why then did this white woman come in my office whispering: "Did you know that the new guard is a woman?" WHAT?? I felt bad for him when I thought he was an unfortunate looking due but it's a girl ya'all!! I feel so bad for her, we don't all have to be attractive but this is tragic. Now all them saltines are going to have something to talk about. Sads.

  • You Could Never

    No. Did you watch that sermon? That she commented on with her hashtag? It was about how to go from girlfriend to wife. Which one more time. Is not everyone's end goal.

  • You Could Never

    I hate you I just almost snorted laughed into a medical situation. Happy Monday

  • Holler If Ya Hear Me

    Yawn. She said what she said. If you don’t like it move along.

    Folks got on Meagan Goode when she spoke about finding God and him leading her to a good Christian man.

    Black single Betty’s stay hating yet be crying on that pillow at night begging for a good man. When someone offers advice on finding one they are condemned and shut down based off their past.

  • Phillybruh

    I did watch the sermon and again I don't see the issue. I know every women doesn't desire too be a wife. But their is a path to getting their for those that do.

  • SpillyNillie

    I feel like they (pastors, revs, etc.) all are preaching to the choir with those "wife" sermons. These dating streets are a mess. You have to date accordingly. Period. You should always apply scripture to your life, especially if you are a believer in Christ. But when it comes to dealing with people, especially men, those sermons don't always work.

    But then one could argue that he's simply "not the one."

  • Holler If Ya Hear Me

    I agree. She didn’t judge anyone. People took it as her judging. Hit dogs always holler.

  • You Could Never

    THIS. It is NOT one size fits all. EVERYONES path and WALK is different.

  • You Could Never

    And that works for everyone who seeks it? A path to a husband? What XYZ did to find theirs? So this is like a Recipe? Got it.

  • tintin

    that's good she made an adjustment. But don't turn doctor phil.. she just needs to shut up and be happy cause everyone believe you me, everyone is happy for her.

  • You Could Never

    Nope. Said I dont even fit the audience she was talking to. I can and others too can take it and interpret it how they see fit. Not everyone has to agree with the likes of her. I actually rode for her for a long time and used to get really angry when folks called her stupid etc for the Future debacle. But more and more she is starting to irk my damn nerves with mess like this and other stuff. And looking at the stir this caused I am not alone.

  • Phillybruh

    Her and Russell were relationship goals a month, now all of sudden when she shares what got her that relationship all of a sudden its a different story. If you don't want too adjust anything then don't complain about the men you attract. When you leaving for work and he playing xbox and eating your food, then you can't be upset because that's the relationship you desire because you weren't willing to adjust anything to attract better.

  • hottlanta

    How is a tight suit, obese, ugly man like Gray who couldn't find a woman to have sex with him until he was 30 tell us what to do. Ciara you are wife#2. if Russell was so great he would still be married to wife#1 regardless of what they went through. It is amazing how the 2nd wife is always the one talking all of that smack as if we gonna be together forever and forget he told the 1st wife the same thing he told you. Now she got a ring and a penis and she is a relationship expert and she can tell us single gals what to do. Sick of people always giving single women advice when a l lot of married women need to take remedial classes on love themselves. As if you get married you don't have to try anymore. That is when the games begin and it ain't over until someone dies or leaves. I didn't see people giving that married women advice with all of those abused kids last week but quick to give us single gals a pen and a paper.

  • Y’all Jealous Cuz I’m Prudy

    While I can see what the other posters were trying to say (because that does apply to some women) I did not get that interpretation from Ciaras message. She is right though. You must love yourself first, married or not. It should never take you being with a man just to feel completely loved. His love should be the icing on the cake not the whole darn cake.

    In my twenties, I didn't know that. In my early thirties (like Ciera) it became clear. Putting your want for love in another person's hands is dangerous because if their heart is not in line with yours and their intentions are not pure, they can destroy you. It's so much more fulfilling to love yourself and learn how to be happy alone instead of putting all of that pressure on someone else, to do for you. They can't steal your joy, when they don't have total access to it in the first place. That has to be earned and even then (in marriage) you should never give someone complete power over your inner happiness. She right.

  • You Could Never

    This too. Nobody speaks on if Becky wouldnt have cheated on Russ that HIS ass would STILL be married to her? Like nobody addresses it.

  • Y’all Jealous Cuz I’m Prudy

    Lmao! Oh no, its a woman... now that's even worse.

  • SpillyNillie

    But why does the responsibility always fall on the woman. Last I heard it takes two. A relationship is a dual partnership. Why does the woman have to make the adjustments. Why does the woman have to "step up." Why does the woman have to go through metamorphosis? If it is indeed that a man that finds a wife, finds a good thing, then why can't HE be the one to level up, change his character and the way the HE moves to attract a viable woman? The burden is always placed on the woman. That's the only negative I saw in her statement. It's telling young girls/ women that you're not a wife because you're not good enough. Something is wrong and therefore needs to be altered.

  • hottlanta

    I am gonna reverse the shit as if he was a woman. Had he been taking care of his business as a man at home she would have never cheated on him. Russell tries to be perfect. The best thing to do is leave couples like them alone because we know pretty soon shyt will hit the fan. Every married woman I see that has this attitude I finally got it right when it comes to a man and wanna tell us what to do always winds up with egg on their face. Juanita Bynum did the same thing. Not having sex before marriage, telling us the same thing, and still winded up getting divorce. How is she gonna call herself being a prophet and missed her azz getting knocked down in the parking lot. Not making fun of domestic violence but really Ms. Bynum.

  • Y’all Jealous Cuz I’m Prudy

    Honestly, I don't think she was trying to be judgeful at all.

    Now I get some women finally get married and think they can talk crap about single women, but when they were single, they were chasing behind other women's husbands, miserable and always in other people's business. Once they got married, they started knocking anyone who wasn't married. Hypocritical behavior.

    But that is not what Ciara was saying. To me, it sounds like she was saying before she found love, she had to find out how to love herself first. Thats all. She has not put down one single person (as I have heard a lot of so called "good wives" do).

  • Phillybruh

    Who said it always falls on the women, I'm certain Russell or whatever man that desires too be married has to adjust as well.

  • Mr.LeBrickJames

    I get that the single/married thing can be a touchy subject for some women, but I still don't see anything in what she said that should get these women so upset.

  • You Could Never

    All of this. I am in agreement. Like find your own happy place and revel in it and own it and be good with it. And until someone ASKS you how did you get to happy, hush.

  • SingleGalCrazyWorld

    I dont see anything wrong with what Ciara is saying. Too many times in our community we see women breaking their backs for men who dont even put them on a pedestal or treat them like Queens. Keep in mind these are the same men who are on social media or out in the world everyday portraying themselves as single knowing damn well they got a woman at home stressing about him 24/7. Ciara realized her worth, prayed on it, found a man who worships her and started her real life. She did not put single women or baby mommas down she just gave her two cents. Im sorry but if this was 40 years ago there would be alot more "Amen's" coming from the masses but now that we in the "F*uck wit me and get some money" era everybody wanna be all sensitive. As a women in my 30's with no children or prospects this is comforting to me that Im on the right path. We are so used to being stressed out over a nicca that we dont know what normal is and thats sad as hell smh...

  • free

    a man is gonna marry who he wants to marry. you can be a hoe, an evangelist, no kids, 8 kids, financial stable, broke, hetero, bi, etc. etc. there is no such thing as "preparing for a husband". ladies, live your BEST life and a man will come along...or not. God also said everybody ain't gonna wind up married because singles do play a role in church ministry.

  • SpillyNillie

    As I said below, why the menz can't level up? Whatever they're lacking, why can't they improve?

  • Intellectual by Nature!

    Telling her testimony and relating to a sermon that resonated is not "being Dr. Phil." Sometimes I think people really can't stand to see other people's happiness. Rejoice when others rejoice.

  • SingleGalCrazyWorld

    Chile...most people can even stomach themselves in the morning let alone love themselves. In the age of IG where everything is "Perfect" nobody can love themselves fully. Its sad especially since everyone is unique in their own way which makes the world more beautiful...

  • Blaque Mahogany

    It's easier to get angry and dismissive, than it is to acknowledge and grow.

  • Simone

    People love to hate on Cira smh! She said nothing wrong.

  • free

    i gather (1) something in her comment made it seem like she was downing women who have been in her position before. she ain't always been level; she found a man to love her, as she is, like these women will find a man to love them as they are, and (2) they didn't like the message of the woman having to do something to be ready for a good man as if men don't have to do something. like why we see all these "women get ready" messages as though there is something wrong with us and the men are ok.

  • SpillyNillie

    I hear/read more often than not, from women and men alike that a woman has to "walk" like a wife. Case in point, "wifey" material. Hardly do I ever hear people speak on men walking as husbands, walking as a modern day Boaz. Again, it plays on the notion that something must be wrong with a woman if she's not a wife.

  • Blaque Mahogany

    We have got to stop generalizing. All of the women that had an issue with this are not single (at least not in the social sense). I am single and I wholeheartedly agree with her. There were plenty of career girlfriends and women in situationships that were mad about this. And to be clear, I have heard many a sermon speaking to men about being a good husband and finding a virtuous husband. Just because YOU aren't aware of it, it doesn't mean it doesn't happen.

    P.S. I don't even like Ciara, but I agree with the message.

  • Holler If Ya Hear Me

    A woman can grow an choose to not deal with deadbeats anymore. If multiple women did that don’t you think men would adjust And level up too?

    At the end of the day woman have the vagina. Women make the ultimate decision on who’s wife or girlfriend they become.

  • free

    changes such as?????

  • Phillybruh

    I guess what she thought she needed to work on. We all have done it for one reason or another.

  • Y’all Jealous Cuz I’m Prudy

    If you are truly happy (not faking it) with yourself, marriage should not be your biggest goal/accomplishment in life.

    A lot of women didn't think much of themselves before marriage and that's why when they finally got married, they talked so much mess. It's the "someone is finally openly claiming me, now I can look down on others" mentality. But I dont think this is what Ciara was doing at all.

  • hottlanta

    What is next Camille Cosby giving single women relationship advice on how to find a husband and stay married for 40 years. Coming to a book store and a tour near you. Please, there are some married women I wouldn't even ask for a glass of water if I was thirsty.

  • hottlanta

    Yep. I am fine in the single skin God has me in.

  • Y’all Jealous Cuz I’m Prudy

    "What's wrong with self love" EXACTLY!

    People think you're stuck up because you grow up and want better. Chile please.

  • Holler If Ya Hear Me

    You say that after already having a marriage and kids right?

    I wouldn’t necessarily include divorcees as being single. It’s a different class on its own. But that’s my opinion.

  • Y’all Jealous Cuz I’m Prudy

    I'm single and I agree with your entire statement.

    Who in their right mind, would want the same thing that caused them nothing but pain. Huh?!

    You grow up and level up. Anyone who's not feeling it can keep on moving.

  • Rayne

    Why can’t she just be happy? Everybody done been through some stuff at one time or another. She’s just happy. Love on Ciara ?

  • Rayne

    You know it’s a hoe world ? out here now. ?

  • Whiplash(lacejagger)

    Firstly, I'm sick of men telling women what they should be doing, to attract a mate/spouse/husband. This pastor can have a seat next to Steve Harvey. Secondly, maybe it was offensive for Ciara, to have included the #levelup, part. Social media, is becoming a nuisance, something's you just have to keep to yourself, or amongst those you keep company with. Personally I'd never post something telling someone to level up, who am I to cast judgement? Opinions and observing are two things, judging is in another category.

  • Junkanoo

    Sounds like what Ru Paul says "If you don't love yourself how in the hell you gonna love sombody else" makes perfect sense.Her instagram followers are projecting ,they sound bitter and made a big deal out of nothing.

  • Bambi

    As a single woman I see nothing wrong with what cici said! Cry babies man!

  • Y’all Jealous Cuz I’m Prudy

    People today in general are flippers. She said nothing wrong. Too many people are either single and waiting for the perfect man instead of enjoying their life or either unhappily married because that was the first and only man willing to marry them at the time, so they settled and are miserable.

    Loving yourself first would prevent a lot of heartache later.

  • Holler If Ya Hear Me

    You know happiness is cursed now a days. God forbid you share your happiness. I don’t know why she castes her pearls to swine anyway. She can say “God Bless you” after a sneeze and folks will bring up Future.

  • Mr.LeBrickJames

    OK, I can definitely see that. There's definitely a vibe out there that says "Ladies, get yourself together so you can be marriage material"... and you rarely hear "Men, get yourself together so you can be marriage material".
    I can see how that could get annoying.

  • Alicia.Ashe

    Nothing wrong with what she said

  • tintin

    But I am rejoicing for her. I'm happy for her. I love her and Wilson together.

    Although i'm married.. i don't go around making my single friends feel like you have no worth if you're not married. Her view was really not needed. There's a way to rejoice without acting like you're above everyone.

  • mona q

    All she was doing was promoting self love...she didn't even come off as if she was the authority of love and relationships. People just need to stop drinking hate-orade and get a life. She is entitled to promote HER truth. I'm not a Ciara fan but I whole-heartedly agree with her message here.

  • mona q

    You are 100% right....You attract people who are a reflection of you...so if you are attracting the wrong guy, then you need to look within. There's a reason. If you respect yourself, then you won't entertain or put up with a disrespectful man - not even for a second and eventually, you will attract a man who respects you. It's not rocket science but maybe her followers are young and cannot grasp this concept?

  • ShWa

    Some people always want to complain about what someone says stop being so sensitive as if she said you are all losers because you don't have a husband, not what she said, just love yourselves geez....

  • 70114

    I dont have a problem with what she said

  • Coy little wink

    Its not the message but the messenger....

    The masses love to find fault with perceived perfection Ciara should know this by now...

  • Jen_no_juice

    All Ciara said was level up and posted a video ?? people hate motivation these days

  • Holler If Ya Hear Me

    Some women hate this passage but I’m going to post it anyway. To those who asked why is it always the women that has to make adjustments. Here you go.
    *******************************************

    Proverbs 31:10-31King James Version (KJV)

    10 Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.

    11 The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.

    12 She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.

    13 She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands.

    14 She is like the merchants' ships; she bringeth her food from afar.

    15 She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens.

    16 She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.

    17 She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms.

    18 She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night.

    19 She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.

    20 She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.

    21 She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet.

    22 She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple.

    23 Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.

    24 She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant.

    25 Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.

    26 She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.

    27 She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.

    28 Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.

    29 Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all.

    30 Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised.

    31 Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.

  • 70114

    ???

  • Applebootay

    Loving yourself first......It makes perfect sense to me. I just hope that that really was/is her REALITY before she got married...i can see how convenient it sounds to say/profess you've finally learned to love yourself now/after you've been married and found a good guy who happens to be famous and rich. If this came before she got married it would be more believable. I certainly agree with what she said but I can see how it might sound pretentious at best.

  • Elevated Soul

    I think many take issue with Ciara speaking on self worth, because she knowingly became involved with a dude that had 4 baby mommas, then she became the 5th unwed baby momma. Many single women would never give someone like Future a 2nd look because they valued self but Ciara can't say the same.

    Ciara is very phoney. She's suddenly sanctified because her husband is very religious.I didn't say spiritual,I said religious.I believe their situation may be a little shaky. She's trying to hard to make it seem as if all is perfect and nothing is.

    Celebrities as well as "has beens" like Ciara need to stay in their lane.....

  • SweetTEE

    People act like she said something different than what a loving grandmother would tell you when she see's you settling and chasing no gooded men. It's real and I'm proud that she is able to admit her fault. And if you are single in this day, and fed the F up with dating and the type of men you may be attracting, then you probably feel the exact same way once you decide to be honest with yourself.

    Once I tasted the feeling of having a man truly love me, I had to admit that I obviously didnt love myself before based off the men I chose.

  • Yardgirl

    Hahahaha!! I was like "daaaang this is funny but tragic but hella funny!!" Happy Monday!!

  • Yardgirl

    Worse than worse!! Poor tink!!

  • 70114

    Thank you!

  • Applebootay

    But see that's why people are taking issue with what Ciara said....it shouldn't necessarily take you tasting a man's love before you realized it yourself on your own. Isn't that they only way to truly know?

  • Bonsai

    There’s more women than men. It’s just not possible for everyone to be married. Point, blank, period.

  • Applebootay

    I look at it different. Everyone has a past, you can't keep judging people based off their past mistakes. I too have kissed many frogs. I think its because she wasn't proclaiming this in between Future and Russell....Like did she really take the time to self reflect and discover how to love herself......I just think its pretentious at best. Because its coming after her COME UP....if she was saying she learned this before she met him, then it would make sense.

  • Applebootay

    These are facts.

  • Phillybruh

    People tend to date and attract what they think they deserve. She dated losers because that is what she thought of herself. It probally started to click while she was pregnant and she rightfully asked him to be better and he couldn't and wouldn't. So she worked on herself and in the meantime met Russell whose intent was to marry her.

  • V Dubb

    It's that she said it. Period. Plenty of folks have said it and with more eloquence than she. You've been married for five minutes and you have the secret!????

  • Kayke

    I much prefer hearing from someone who overcame an obstacle than one whose never ran the course. Ciara said nothing wrong. Happy for her and any woman whose happiness comes from within.

  • Neva RuthLess

    Not exactly when you consider age. There are now 60 million more men than women on this planet. Also the average age for women, really white women is 44. In virtually every country women are older than men. Men tend to like younger women in the 20s and early 30s, that's a very small population of females. The average woman is in her late 30s and above. Take into consideration the low birth rate, the young female population of women is not being replenished if that makes sense.

  • Whiplash(lacejagger)

    ...

  • Intellectual by Nature!

    Understood, and please understand that I'm not debating you; I just like thoughtful dialog. The challenge, for me, is that her fans WERE asking how and what she did to get Russell. They literally asked her, but wanted to demean her when they didn't like her response.

  • Quitedeliteful

    Self love is always a good message but for some reason folks don't want to hear it from Ciara... (shrugs)

  • Elevated Soul

    Yeah but that obstacle course already had 4 baby mommas on the course and she still chose to get on it.

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    But can't people learn from the mistakes of others rather than repeating their mistakes?

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    That's never ever going to change.
    That's never ever going to change.

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    40 years?
    What about 60?

  • TMW

    This is a hard lesson to learn, but a very worthwhile one, and when you GET IT...baaaby it changes your life!

    The right person will be attracted to what’s on the inside and that will be reflected in how a person loves respects and values themselves. The wrong person will value what’s on the outside, and never realize that a person’s insides can be truly ugly, and that they will never have a successful relationship - Halle Berry comes to mind.

    Truth makes people uncomfortable, that’s all. Good for Ciara.

  • V Dubb

    Those of you who love it....good for you. But some of us...Dont..Wanna..Hear..Shait..from..Ciara! Ruby Dee, Eartha Mitt, Paulette Washington, the white last evangelist that's always speaking truth, Angela Bassett, Hell even even Oprahs unmarried ass has said the same thing for years. This chick is a minute big...is she even in the second trimester giving advice? Have a seat and get some years under your belt and give the next generation your advice. They will need it (little misfits). Folks get tired of hearing the same shit. Save some of that for these men, and quit measuring our existence with being married. God didn't even require women to be married.

  • TMW

    People don’t tend to learn until they bump their own heads, no matter what they have seen others go through. They always think, even though the situation is the same, the outcome will be different...until it isn’t.

  • Kemi

    Ppl just want to project/deflect their insecurities onto others. Ugggh, not that serious. Cici said nothing wrong pertaining to self-love. Kudos to her!

  • Kayke

    You can't learned from the mistake without details.....Ciara said she lacked self love when she was dating and being a baby mama. That bit of detail helps us understand the mistake.

  • free

    she's miss priss now but she got her bedroom shyt and russ with the lil boy every day but never see him post his own seed. they're really kinda full of sh!t to me.

  • You Could Never

    Ive said that too. They dont hestitate to post the boy but Russ wont even show his own. Like really. IDC who they post it just screams this is okay for that one but not this one. Cant even cite security risk. Yall dont think he should be hidden for safety issues then in that case? Like..?

  • Elevated Soul

    I agree...Both are very insecure because of the exes.They are each other's rebounds, so there is insecurity there.

  • Dee AKA

    This is 100 per cent facts!

  • Dee AKA

    I will admit I was guilty of this when I was married.

  • Sekmet

    You sound stupid .......if she is a has been then I guess u are a never was....Dam u are a hater, u cant love urself the way u are tarring this woman down .........You need to find some self love.......Love and Light

  • bemetoo

    her and monica are just alike...and now i love me some monica but now that they are married they always seem to be by husband this my husband that chile if you dont get the fcuk off before your husband is fwaking some other pawssie

  • NYTimes#1Bestseller

    So much truth in this statement that i wish i could upvote more times. So many people focus on outside things and neglect their inner part. The inside should look better than the outside. Spirits attract to other spirits.

  • NYTimes#1Bestseller

    Probably because of her Future past.

  • Dee AKA

    Yes, I agree. It's a different class than someone who was never married or had children

  • NYTimes#1Bestseller

    THIS

  • A D N

    The reason it takes 50 years to love self, is because your whole life is centered around people who need your love first...parents, siblings, friends, spouses and then kids. When they are able to stand alone, then the love for self evolves. What does the bible say about the Greatest Love? Love for others... I have yet to read in the bible where it says to love yourself first. And........we as parents teach our kids about sharing with others, give to others because that's where your happiness is, but rarely have I heard to love yourself first...because that's so borderline to selfishness. But I as an older woman have learned to balance love for myself and others...and to put my needs and sanity above others because that's true love.

  • Y’all Jealous Cuz I’m Prudy

    I know a lot of women like that. I knew them when they were single, with no man openly claiming them and I knew them once a man finally was willing to make them a wife. The transformation of their personality wasn't all positive. A lot of it was them projecting the hurt they felt when they were single and constantly rejected, onto "still single women." Instead of basking in the joy of their new marriage, they used it as more of a weapon. And God forbid you tell them the truth about their behavior, you will immediately be labeled as "hating on them" when that was the furthest thing from the truth. Smh. It's ridiculous.

  • blazewon22

    maybe because they love their husbands?

  • SweetTEE

    Let's be honest. Ciara is no different than MANY of us. She fell, got up, and learned something from it. Naw, it shouldnt take a man loving you for you to know how to love yourself, but in real life, many people have never been shown real love and how on earth do you just assume that someone should or CAN do something they never experienced? It may be natural for some, but most learn the hard way to love ourselves. Experience and Trial and Error. That's the purpose of growth.

  • TMW

    I think Prov 4:23 really talks about self love - “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” Also when Jesus says “love God...”. If one truly loves God, and understand how God loves you, then self love naturally flows from that. I don’t think you can love others properly without love of God which in turn encourages love for self. If you don’t have these things you are always in your own head, and you can’t see others’ needs, nor can you respond to the needs of others.

  • Connie

    My only concern is.....what beach is that with pigs and roosters in the backgound? Or did Sandra Photoshop them in to make a point?

  • Noirluv45

    I think one issue many women have is that we put everyone's needs above ours and then we crash. We don't look after our needs, and before you know it, we are stressed, distressed, and a mess.

    We take care of our boyfriends, husbands, children, mothers, fathers, and everyone else and before you know it, many of us find ourselves sick. It's like if you are on a plane with a child and the oxygen mask drops, you have to put it on first in order to help the child.

  • Elevated Soul

    You sound like a fan?
    I'm a "never was to you because you don't value yourself".People like you with low self worth, place more worth on Ciara but I don't because I know better.....Dont project the lack of love you have for self onto me because I don't relate.

    Ciara is a baby mother to her first child just like Nae Nae in the hood is,she's no better.I assume you relate to Nae Nae but I don't,so you make excuses for Ciara.

    The term "hater" is used by people with simple minds.It's played out.

    Don't come at me talking about light when you reside in a hole of darkness so dark, that you can't deal with any opinion that doesn't mirror your own.

    Nuff said ......

  • blazewon22

    It's possible to love yourself and love the normalcy of a decent marriage. People are jealous/envious of her marrying a good man from a great family. She had to learn that she was worth being loved by someone who was a real man, not some child that seers kids all over the country like Future.

    Black women need to work on becoming great wives, black men need to stop being perpetual children and get educated, jobs, take wives, buy homes and raise families in safe environments.

  • Dee_713

    When she posted the sermon she captioned it with “don’t settle.”All she was saying was don’t settle and be a gf but giving these dudes wifely privileges.If they don’t see the value in you and what ur bringing then ur now devaluing yourself.I mean, y’all asked the woman what prayer she said to get Russell.She then shares the sermon and y’all mad.Bye!Y’all some bitter Betty’s!Lol

  • Noirluv45

    "Black women need to work on becoming great wives, black men need to stop being perpetual children and get educated, jobs, take wives, buy homes and raise families in safe environments." There are tons of Black men and women like this but we don't hear about them. If we base who we are on MSM, who depicts us in every negative fashion possible, then we won't see the beautiful Blackness around us.

  • Diva_woman

    I think when you “level up” and love yourself it does put responsibility on men. The thing is, men honestly don’t try that hard to get women. They give you who they are and it’s on you to accept it or not. They aren’t changing their spots. But when you level up then you only allow men who are on your level to court you. That’s the difference.

  • Noirluv45

    I used to be one of those people who was always on the defense. Whenever someone would tell me something, there was always a fight because I wasn't ready to look at myself in the mirror. It wasn't until I was able to acknowledge the truth, that I began to grow and become a better person.

    I can't understand why anyone would be upset over what she said.

  • A D N

    I am not disputing His word just highlighting how self love is not emphasized compared to love of others. And because Christians or followers of faith teach this, it's challenging to learn self love. BTW I don't think those scriptures teach self love but each receive passages differently

  • JRock

    I have two long-winded points to make. First about Ciara on self-love and secondly, why they never show pictures of baby Sienna.

    I think Ciara is merely making a point that she was at a place where she didn't love and respect herself enough and had to go inside and take a look at herself based on some of the decision and choices she was making. When you know better you do better. Russell is a thousand times better than Future as a man, a father, and I believe as a husband had she married and quickly divorced Future.

    Ciara is a showboat and like the majority of people in the music, TV and film industry (I refuse to call them stars or celebrities), they want to be seen almost to the point of desperation like an alcoholic. She was constantly posting pictures of herself and little Future. She came off and still does at times as very immature. I think when she first married Russell she thought she was going to be running their relationship and making him her "do as I say" puppet and old boy wasn't having it. For whatever reason, I believe the reason we have not seen pictures of Sienna is because Russell doesn't want to. If it were left up to Ciara we would be seeing pictures almost daily of that baby. Most of these parents teach their children at a young age how to be narcissistic attention seekers and thus they start with the constant pictures.

  • Quitedeliteful

    Yuup... That probably the reason...

  • justlooking

    Being married is NOT the end all be all, but if what she is saying is NOT meant for you. IGNORE it, folks A way find a way to bash folks. From what I read, she was talking to WOMEN who want a man. If you# don't want a man or think what she is saying keep it moving. Why attack her?

  • WhooCares

    "Ciara is very phoney."

    So Phony!!! Omg.

  • free

    ain't this the truth. we need help--what i mean by that is we need the MEN to step up. hell, we are already where we need to be. if you're gonna be BIBLICAL, it all starts with MAN. fix 'em jesus! and then the woman will be good. we've been tricked into thinking WE need to do something different when they got us out here raising the race. i'm talking about black women cause i don't know or could care less about white women.

  • Dahl

    What I care about: my home team going to the Super Bowl!!!! How I can tie this into the story: her husband is not.

    Other than that, I agree with her statements. Bitter single women should really stop bashing...

  • No Love Lost

    Facts.

  • Shira Harding-James

    Right? And if they never spoke on their husbands then it would be “they must be having problems”

  • Shira Harding-James

    So last week when Little Duvall spoke on self worth and self love for women that was an issue because it was coming from a man “Man” and that women should be speaking up about it. And now here we are a “Woman” has spoken on it and it’s still an issue. You just can’t satisfy some people.

  • No Love Lost
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    Pussy Management Post

    See the RULES

  • Applebootay

    You ask: how on earth do you just assume that someone should or CAN do something they never experienced?

    Since we are talking about LOVE: You answer is: GOD.

    GOD! That's how you know. God is Love and you are God. You start right there.

    You may NEVER experience the love of a earthly MAN.

    So we have come to know and to believe the love that God has for us. God is love, and whoever abides in love abides in God, and God abides in him.

    1 John 4:16

  • Noirluv45

    YES! Seems like people forget that it is about the MAN. If he loved his wife like he was supposed to, he wouldn't have to worry because she'll respond likewise. We are always the clean up women (remember that song?) having to hold our men, our children, our communities together. I'm talking about us too, Free. No one else cares about us, so we have too. ????

  • Holler If Ya Hear Me

    This ??

  • Zeta Phi Beta 1920

    Good message.

  • Jack Blakk

    Get a job, make your own money happiness will follow. Don't get with a man or woman that's in the same spot when you come home from work!

  • EMILY POST

    They make a beautiful couple.... and its wonderful she found happiness but it is also tragic that she did not see how much she was worth until she was married.
    I would be more interested in what contributed to her believing that she was not worthy or did not have self love.

  • https://www.thewhatsup.org Hair Lova ???

    I don’t think it’s selfish to love self first. If you are unable to have love for self, how are you able to have love for another? You cannot give what you do not know. And the reason why it’s takes most women 50yrs + to love self is because they simply don’t know how. Happiness is not found Smokey found in making others happy. Happiness starts at home. Which is you.
    You cannot pour from a empty glass.

  • https://www.thewhatsup.org Hair Lova ???

    Amen.

    Everyone understanding is definitely different child.

  • free

    folk, like whomever this bootlegg @ss pastor is, need to learn their bible before they go preaching to the masses. eve was the worst f*ck up in the history of existence. after she did what she did, people blamed eve. however, God blamed adam.

  • i troll it like i see it

    Lovely couple, good message, and sometimes you just have to say what you feel without having to dumb it down for retards. What she said made sense!

  • i troll it like i see it

    Embarrassed insecure people who are knowingly selling themselves short in their relationships will take offense. The kind of woman who goes to work all day while her jobless man is at home or riding around in her car. Scrub ass men (like Future) took offense too.

  • bemetoo

    just like how the love the baby daddys and other boyfriends ???

  • Holler If Ya Hear Me

    Where does it say God blamed Adam? God didn’t blame anyone because he gave free will. If anything he faulted Satan.

    God was upset with them both and kicked them both out yet like a father spared their lives because they were his still.

    God caste punishment not blame.

    I really hate when people tell false biblical information

  • i troll it like i see it

    I'm single and I understand that they are supposed to hold their husbands in high regard. I took no offense to her statement, it was not pompous or arrogant, it was just a message to women who are interested in settling down, I think those who are not pro marriage should have simply disregarded it, but folks took serious offense with their insecure a$$es...it's just one woman's opinion, that's it.

  • i troll it like i see it

    I really think a lot of people are just feeling some kind of way about their dead end relationships and trying to justify stagnation. Just be single. Focus on yourself and have fun. It's better than a relationship that's not turning any corners, believe me I know!

  • LaLa

    Respectfully, in response to "I have yet to read in the bible where it says to love yourself first."

    Please see Matthew 22:36-40 King James Version (KJV) with emphasis on verse 39 "as thyself"

    36 Master, which is the great commandment in the law?

    37 Jesus said unto him, Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind.

    38 This is the first and great commandment.

    39 And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself.

    40 On these two commandments hang all the law and the prophets.

  • You Could Never

    God asked Adam those questions like a seasoned detective. And Adam PONK ASS also tried to throw Eve under the BUS. Well she was the one who was decieved by the serpent and I ate only bc she did God. God was like sir WHAT? SHE was tricked...so what was YOUR excuse? You ate from that tree eyes wide the hell open.

    It has always been my belief God called Adam out /blamed him for the whole mess.

    1 Tim 2:12-14

  • You Could Never

    And once again...people can interpret how they want. Nobody is making up false Bible info. the Bible always has been and always will be up to interpretation.

  • Knocked Kneed and Pigeon Toed

    Only immature and simple minded people would get offended by this. As a married woman of almost 8 years, I appreciate chit like this because it humbles me and makes me remember it wasn't but 10+ years ago that I was loving every man who wasn't loving me. When I decided to put me first and get right within my self that's when I finally met my husband. The sad part is the message was a great one but there are alot of woman will never understand the bigger picture.

  • TOO REAL

    Cici is for the mature to understand not the childish.

  • AListDiva29

    I see nothing wrong with what she said at all! Too many insecure women out there, worried about what celebrities are doing, when they need to worry about what they're doing!

  • Mrs. S. Kidd

    Most sermons like this further elaborate the role and responsibilities of the men who want to be husbands. Many are assuming this preacher did not touch on this from one clip. You know these sermons are like 1-2 hours long lol

  • Mrs. S. Kidd

    You sound bitter. Why does she have to be happy in silence? lol Where they do that at? lol Also, she didn't say it took a man for her to realize her worth. She stated that she realized her worth and then found a man who matched her fly.

  • SweetTEE

    Baby, don't waste your time preaching to me. I know my GOD and HIS love. I'm in my 30's and grew up in an abusive household. I didnt experience real love (other than my gma who was already 70 when I was born) until I was an adult. Like plenty people, dummy, my parents were in the streets AND I'm an only child. So no, as a child -again, like many people- there's NO WAY I could understand what I never experienced!!! I grew and now I do!! It doesnt matter WHO taught me since my parents didnt care enough to. I learned and grew. You sound stupid telling people how they SHOULD feel if you have not been blessed enough to experience their life. You dont know what other people have been through, Ciara included. Now, move around with your self righteous ass.

  • Renee26

    Nothing wrong with that message...not sure if it's good advice though because I carry myself like I'm already taken...and that's exactly what the men think...I'm taken. They are hesitant to approach me because they think I'm already spoken for. I've heard that numerous times when introduced to guys and they find out I'm single

  • JessBHonest

    Ci-Error has always looled like a transwoman in my opinion. Why does she always wear those disgusting lacefront wigs?

  • JessBHonest

    Ci-Error doesn't deserve a good black man like Russell! I'm tired of thots and baby mommas winning! What the hell has happened to the black community?

  • Holler If Ya Hear Me

    Lies. The Bible is not to be interpreted how you see it.

    Like I said show me because it is not there.

  • Holler If Ya Hear Me

    Adam TRIED to blame Eve! But God say no I spoke to you directly. That is not blaming. That is God holding him responsible.

    Blame is a negative character flaw. Humans have the tendency to blame. God doesn’t operate that way because it’s shameful. The Lord is the truth and the light.

  • Holler If Ya Hear Me

    Divorcees trying to pass as single when technically by god’s law they are not. You are divorced according to man’s law. You are still married and considered as one according to scripture.

    Then try to say they rather be single. No ma’am you are not single you are separated from your spouse.

  • Coco_Butter

    I don’t either I don’t think they liked the messenger

    But Ciara has to go through that phase of dating those emotionally unavailable non committed men to find her husband.

    I still don’t understand why people hate Ciara

  • Holler If Ya Hear Me

    Ciara is enjoying her good black man. What you doing besides throwing salt?

  • Readytochokemothernatureout

    I'm glad she found happiness. She kissed aplenty of frogs.

  • free

    Gen 3:17

  • Pebbles

    That’s what I figured happened too.

  • Pebbles

    When a person or people don’t like you that’s who take offense to it.. the way it was said on the net like she only said “level up” but from this post she gave a testimony about her life .. I don’t see the problem.

  • HelloToni

    Hey Roses! Can someone please tell me with that animal is in the background? It looks like a mini bear.....Thank you

  • Noirluv45

    Right. I don't see a problem either, Pebbles.

  • free

    i'm so glad someone understands. there are multiple biblical supports for this.

  • Noirluv45

    THIS!!!! Even Adam had the nerve to blame God talking about, "The woman you gave me..." Hmph!

  • free

    you just made my point though. is your problem with the word "blame" or with the gist of what i was saying...that adam was responsible for eve?

  • free

    yaasss! per usual. even in d@mn biblical times lol/smh.

  • Noirluv45

    Lol! Business as usual.

  • hottlanta

    Why is being single a burden to women and a luxury to men. Russell is making her a project when he says I am her to LEAD her. Future put it out there what he was about and she chose him and then she got mad because she was Ciara she was special. Just like she said she was happy with Future she is saying the same thing with Russell. She is just happy to have man and that is any man. Someone said it when they said you gotta be brave and stand in your truth/own it that you are happy.

  • hottlanta

    Yep I have seen people being married over 60 years get divorced and they thought they were "safe and it won't happen to me. That is when a lot of them get divorced when they think it won't happen to them.

  • Holler If Ya Hear Me

    Yes the word blame. I do get what you’re saying but humans blame. The higher power doesn’t have a reason to. How can he do that if he sent his only son to die for our sins?

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    I think the Cosbys have an open marriage.

    I mean while Bill was in Hollywood doing his thing Camille was on the East Coast doing hers.

    All she had to do was drop off the kids at the babysitters and get to munching on that muff.

  • hottlanta

    You are so wrong for that. Hear they were thinking about bringing drugged out Dickerson to the trial since that last woman they had that needed her suit ironed and air combed didn't seal the deal the first time..

  • MythCalledLove

    I'm sorry but call me immature or whatever name comes to mind but it's easy to talk about something when you get to the other side. Meaning she didn't find it in herself she got married had some babies and now she is on the wagon with all the other experts that think they hv the answer. When your world is right you want to be the expert or the voice of someone with the almighty knowledge. Your life journey is not a map, there are no directions and no-one can tell you what your doing right or wrong. If you follow then your a damn sheep and that preacher and a chick I don't know will lead me to "salvation"

  • ?Royalty?

    Ciara, don't try to help. More than half of them don't want to be saved. Let them figure that ish out on their own.

  • Lady_Elle

    Why does Ciara NOT deserve a good black man?

  • Lady_Elle

    Excellent points!

  • Lady_Elle

    Lil Ci-Ci is growing up!
    Sometimes life comes at you pretty fast.
    With all of the nastiness shared on social media... I could see how she could have become very insecure.

  • Ebony Starr

    When people hear that you get it and you are in a better space, they take it as a personal attack on them and where they are. They see it as criticism, when it's just your "lightbulb" moment.

  • Blaque Mahogany

    Feral pigs.

  • YellowSauce

    I honestly didn't see the lil duval speech but I will say this ... black men need to help other black men because they have enough of their own issues ... in a world where we ( black women ) seem to be being bashed by everyone, THE LAST place we need it from is black men ... lets be serious about it we fight for them but they bash us ... I am currently building on my relationship .. it is work and takes responsibility but their are plenty leveled up women out here single because it takes 2 ... I hate when future gets on SM in regards to Ciara ... helen Keller could see he is salty ...people forgot they were engaged .. then HE cheated ... LaLa leveled and got cheated on ... men cheat married or not ... it actually shows who has daddy issues because your father is supposed to teach you these things not random arse liil duval or any other black man that wants to RIP to lean sippers but tells a young black woman to get her ish together .. I came in peace ... just grown folks convo lolol ... I wish ciara russell future and lil duval BLESSINGS and you too lol and good nite

  • TheOwley

    She speaks the truth. The truth triggers people, the feeble minded for sure.

    Love and respect who you are. Don't settle for less. Don't do the mistakes I made. And people are losing their freaking minds? Oh, and did she invoke God's name? What's happening Sandra May?

    And Ciara, Brava!!!!!!!!!!

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    Cosby picked his women well.

    If Dickerson is allowed to testify Cosby's lawyers will destroy her by bringing up her past substance abuse.

  • IamAllnatural

    I don’t understand what the problem is here!?????

  • Lady M

    I really don't understand what the issue is with what the pastor said or what Ciara posted. Why these people so salty and triggered over everything. #LevelUp

  • Mmm…Okay

    I'm married. I dated, settled and was dogged out because I settled. I leveled up when I loved myself to say ENOUGH! I'm not taking this $*** no more! When my husband and I started dating I made it very clear what I wanted and expected on MY LEVEL. So in order to be with me he too had to LEVEL UP. Raise the bar and if a man wants you he will join you. Hell that should apply to any relationship, situationship, friendship or whatever you want to call it.

  • You Could Never

    So....who is qualified to interrupt It? We talking about the same Good Book? Full of innuendo, intent and hidden meanings?

  • CookieMobster

    You hit the nail on the head.... They are salty. You just can't tell some people any dang thing.

  • McKay

    Well said!! ??

  • McKay

    People are so sensitive these days...

  • Shira Harding-James

    Yes yes I agree!

  • Lady_Elle

    So true... these days unfortunately not as often as it should.
    Reality shows... and social media... play a role in the down graded standards.

  • Shira Harding-James

    Ok ok ok I can see how that would come off that way. Great points....thank you for enlightening me!

  • Dee_713

    Your name is such a contradiction.I guess you know her huh sis?If you really knew and followed Ciara, she has always been religious.I think she has grown spiritually since going through some things and obviously meeting Russell.Has she always been as forward about her religious beliefs?No.But she has always talked about prayers and has mentioned her belief in God.

  • the guest

    Perfectly stated. Nothing else to be said.

  • Jay1

    You have to watch the whole tape. I think Ciara posted a 1 min segment. Pastor Gray addresses both men and women in the video. So because she was answering a question that pertained to her. She posted the part that spoke to her.

  • Jay1

    You have to watch the whole tape. Pastor Gray addresses both men and women in the video. So because she was answering a question that pertained to her. She posted the part that spoke to her.

  • Jay1

    Everything you wrote was right. Unfortunately people don't like the messenger and attack every opportunity that they get. What I love about Ciara, she doesn't take it to heart. She keeps it moving. And all those bitter betty's are constantly trolling her IG page. And hoping that her situation doesn't last. But when it's ordained, no weapon formed against it, can prosper. Continue to walk in peace.

  • Intellectual by Nature!

    Amen!

  • Elevated Soul

    My name is the TRUTH to those on a higher level.Those on a higher level get me.I'm blunt as he!! and my realtme circle love that about me.

    Ciara is as fake as it gets and I know that.You fanatics need to stop being fooled by what you, "think" you know about these people because it's a facade. Ciara is not the innocent person you or Russell think she is but Future with all of his flaws know exactly who she is and she knows that.?

    There are many evil people who got religion.Spirituality goes deeper.

  • Noirluv45

    That make sense, Ebony. Their defensiveness keeps them from hearing the message.

  • Applebootay

    No you sound sad. And I'm ok with your sad azz insulting me because not ONE DROP of my self worth or intelligence depends on the opinion of you. For the record, I'm in my 40s and my childhood sounds very identical only worse. SO I"M SPEAKING FROM EXPERIENCE AND i wasn't telling anyone how they should feel. I am moving around with God. I suggest you go get some professional help to deal with your childhood trauma/lack of self love. It's obviously made you delusional and bitter. Peace and Blessings.

  • Guess Who

    I've been married for over a decade and I will say that it's been a good ride thus far...BUT ain't SHYT wrong with being single.

    I get what Ciara was saying but so many negative things are said about single women - black ones in particular - that it's hard for some to digest this as being constructive.

  • HelloToni

    oooh...Thank you so much.

  • Ajavee

    I agree with your post. Some of us support and welcome dysfunction in society.

  • Dee_713

    Girl shut the fuck up!Lol

  • LOVE ALWAYS

    Can't please everyone. Some people are just negative and thrive on it and will always try to turn something beautiful ugly just because they are unhappy and bitter.

  • Tha Truth

    OMG so much hate in the world.
    Great advise CiCi!

  • SweetTEE

    I can assure you that I am not sad lol... I sound like real life experience lol. Be blessed, Love.