A new policy statement by the American Academy of Pediatrics confirms warnings from child behavioral experts that spanking children causes more harm than good.
The American Academy of Pediatrics released a new policy statement on Monday fortifying its previous stance that corporal punishment should not be used to discipline children.
Americans still subject their children to archaic disciplinary methods (such as whippings with a belt) that they were subjected to as children.
But the AAP warns that parents should “be encouraged” not to use spanking or any physical contact as punishments since they can lead to emotional problems later on.
Doctors noted that “there appears to be a strong association between spanking children and subsequent adverse outcomes.”
The new guidelines explains the consequences of beating children by age group.
For example, children younger than 8 months old have a higher risk of physical injuries, while children older than 18 months have a higher risk of emotional and behavioral problems later on in life.
The AAP further states that the act of spanking in itself can lead to an aggressive, conflict-ridden relationship between a parent and a child of any age, as evidenced by the outcomes seen in individuals who have been physically abused as children.
Parents are urged to take child parenting classes that are offered in the community to teach them alternate methods to discipline their children without the use of force.
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This will be a debate until the end of time.
In my opinion, IN MY OWN LIFE. Spanking, whoopings, etc helped ME. Helped me be a better Me. Helped ME make better choices and I lead a very good, crime free life and I’m not a grandma.
Naw my son has to get a good whooping every now and then.
he’s learning slowly but surely.
My sister makes her daughter stand on one foot for hours facing the wall. Now that’s punishment, i had to beg her one time for my niece. My own niece said she prefers the beating instead.
Amen!
I don’t whoop mine but he has got popped on them legs, he inherited. a time or two.
I tried the wall thing with my son but he found a way to entertain himself in that corner
I had a whooping one time that I can remember….I turned out just fine and learned to NOT do whatever it was to get my butt whooped in the first place. Also IMHO…The VILLAGE is dead….bring it back!
I take everything!!! EVERYTHING!
It is the methods and lack of communication which make it abusive and detrimental, I don’t believe it is the spanking itself. Let’s do more research, it doesn’t end here .
He drew imaginary things on the wall with his fingers -_-
That baby said do your worst, I have an imagination!!
Lies. Unmitigated LIES. That belt (and for my final whoopin’, extension cord) did wonders for me. I seriously hate these reports because you know it was done by some upper crust snobs who think they know every damn thing and don’t have any kids, but are out here telling parents how to raise their children. FOH!
My mama was a single mother for a long time and she used to knock the shyt out of me and my sisters and brothers. We’re all good. We had good jobs, never went to jail and didn’t use drugs. Shewd, a good ass whooping did a body good.
I mean the belt was always after at least 5 warnings. And in that special case of when you really did know better but did it anyway. I think I may have only had to use a belt on my kids once each. Its not something used as punishment each time they do something.
If it wasn’t for that belt I know I would have been a very wayward child/adult.
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well…I have raised/ am raising 3 boys and let me tell you….if I did not administer an azz whopping every now and then…..they would have been one of these kids you see up in the store acting a plain fool….talking smack to the parents…showing out in public….all of that. So to each its own…but for me and mine….sometimes it is/was necessary. Not saying I went hands up with them…but you have to lay the smack down every now and again. I got whippings back when I was a youngin….but my mother NEVER beat the brakes off me….it was never that serious…but I don’t fault her for that….hell my sister and I used to hid the belt….she would find it tho…but now that I have raised my kids and know what it is like….I don’t blame her AT ALL for it.
My youngest we make him clean the baseboards with a toothbrush. Telling him to do that gets a reaction worse than the threat of a beating.
yes… they will play with anything in the corned. clothes, their hair, a piece of something on the floor. a boogey!! LOL ahahahaha
I got whooped as a kid and STILL remember my heart racing watching my momma going out back to get a switch from a tree and I turned out fine, BUT I guarantee you that 95% of the folks in prison got whoopin’s too. It can’t be the ONLY form of discipline.
my sister and I used to hid the belt.
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LOLLOLLOL!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I have raised/ am raising 3 boys
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Three boys! With all of that testosterone sometimes you have got to be tough!!!
Butt whoopings teach children that if you go out into the world and act the fool somebody is going to kick your ass.
I do agree that it should not be the first solution to a behavior problem.
With five kids and a father who was working two jobs my mom would resort to the belt but only after she told you 100 times to quit doing whatever it was. Mostly she shook the belt buckle. We would hear it rattle and start scampering around whispering ‘the belt!’ ‘the belt!!’ We would all be tryna get it together quick! Little did we know that my moms had no intention of getting off of that couch and using what energy she had left to come in the room to beat us. LOLLOLLOL!!!!!!
Thankfully I had a good child but I do have the urge to beat other people kids and tgeir parents who stand there and let their bad kids go undisciplined.
My mama used to whoop my ass I am a go getter. My brother who she didn’t whoop has failed to launch. I wonder why?
I agree. This is why people have poor to zero coping skills & use violence to self soothe of hurt themselves.
There is a place for “because I am the parent & I say so”, but the number of dummies roaming the planet & unable to think clearly and logically is devastating.
Spare the rod, spoil the child. I don’t whoop my child all the time but he does get a whooping when absolutely necessary. Hell, he’s good! He get’s a lot less whoopings than I did as a child…stayed getting my azz toe up!
I got whoop as a child and turn out fine. Last time I got one I was 11
This is one of the few things that Sandra and I agree on.
Physical discipline is just another bad habit that we as a black race picked up from slavery and we continue to carry on the tradition without questioning it.
We still are dole’n out azz whoopins at mi casa. They never stopped.
You hate it then look away. And I got a small niece and nephew that get it when they need it too. To each.
My nephew has never got an ass whopping and he has also failed to launch. I think sometimes my momma has to walk away and repeat “not my child” to avoid giving him a good ass whopping.
LOLLOLLOL!!!!!!!!!!
Mama using mind control and conditioning lol.
Serious Question: If Whoppings worked,WHY are kids being beat for the SAME offense over and over again? My cousin used to get beat darn near every week for the same few things….Didn’t do his homework,didn’t clean his room,talked back..The people that I know who beat their kids didn’t do it once or twice so….
I wonder did the Menedez Brothers get spankings? ?
I have to completely concur with the rest of the roses….I tried the white psychologist approach for my son(7) for almost 6 months. It took every ounce of my being not to touch him. And to say he ran all over me like a 18 wheeler…it would be an understatement. He pressed every button until my gasket blew and guess what worked….old faithful. Kids need discipline. More than reasoning with and communicating with….just like adults need hellish jail as a consequence-it’s a grown up whoopin. Gotta draw a line somewhere….
This! My grandmother told me, “Look, you’re raising a boy, you gone have to whoop his azz from time to time to keep him in line!”
Agree
My sister thinks like you but at this point im more concerned about her pre-teen son whooping her ass, with the way he carries on.
And it worked on all of us except my hard-brother! She actually had to get up off o the couch for him because he just would not, could not listen.! LOL!!!
It’s called being desensitized.
If it’s often, sometimes people can just get used to it.
I want to be so nosey so i will and you tell me to mind my own business if i go too far i thought you where gay and yes i know gay men raise kids
1 outta FIVE aint bad @disqus_MGkOxdk8pz:disqus lol
didn’t they get raped??
so they say
please provide a more efficient and effective way of punishing a child (for the everyday working folks). So we can implement quickly.
Thank you
So true — and he’s Still a hot mess!!!!!!!!
I believe their should be some type of discipline, but not to a point where the child is harmed.
Trust, there are plenty of white people who don’t spare the rod.
More like spoiled.
I think spanking is one thing and beating is another. Many of you have normalized your childhood beatings and don’t even realize how messed up you are. This is very typical of victims of abuse. They justify the abuse, blame themselves, and defend the abuser.
Physical abuse is absolute hell for an adult to experience.
What do we think children experience? It’s a horror and 10x worse for them.
as a parent you learn what works.
I can call his name 1100 times, hubby lowers the octave and he cries. CRIES. Taking everything that uses wifi away from mine hurts him more than a whooping. He’s hurt with no phone, tablet, netflix. drawing videos on youtube
For the same reason that if you talk to them or punish them in another way they still do the same thing over and over again but different kids respond to different things. Whoopings work for some, talking works for some.
oh Lord… let me get outta here… (yes, i got spankings, and I DESERVED) LOL!
I’m so tickled cuz I can only imagine what he came up with!
guess what worked….old faithful
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I know it did! LOLLOLLOL!!!!!!!!!!
I would agree with you, if my mother was beating my behind for every little thing she was not.
Them damn YouTube videos I tellya! These kids dont understand all we had was a etch a sketch and reading rainbow
We beat and white people tie they whole family to the bed and don’t feed them well etc etc
I didn’t want to laugh at this *hangs head in shame*
Blocking the Youtube for my oldest is what works for that one.
Or simply blow their brains out because they want a new life…
girl!
he had a project of what I didn’t have growing up compared to what he had.
if he called me old ONE MORE damn time!! … lol
White lady who lives across from my sister (they are the two ORIGINAL homeowners in that cul de sac in their subdivision) used to whoop the mess outta her kids lol. Use to come OUTSIDE with the belt. Didnt I TELL YOU…
And she is itty bitty little lady. No more than 5’1 and maybe 120 pounds.
Their father physically and emotionally abused both of them.
THIS!
Whoopings occur across all races in da souf…not just us Black folk…
One time he literally drew a dick and wrote his brothers name in it because his brother snitched on him. Poor thing did it on the glass window so when the window fogged up there was this dick looking like a smiley face on my window.
Yep some gay men used to use their ? ?? and I have a 2 year old grandson who challenges me everyday but that lil dude is my world!
But he’s dead, so who really knows.
You’re sister failed to get him in line when he was younger.
Maybe it’s not too late if he can get some therapy and anger management.
Did he get a whooping?
It took every ounce of my being not to touch him
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teeeeee heeeeee
I make bf do all the requests to the girls. Dub 13 and his 11 yo. I can say pick up the room we are getting ready to go and nobody moves. He goes in there…in that deep voice and tell em and stuff gets DONE. “DIDNT Ms. Dub just TELL yall to do xyz? Why is NOBODY MOVING??”
Im sorry! I didnt know she meant now NOW. Okay we are picking it up! 10-4.
Like….
We would hear it rattle and start scampering around whispering ‘the belt!’ ‘the belt!!
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this got me hyperventilating…. the visual…. https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/b029c76378ea5eb0d17be0ae40b316f329298b08b0b47105020d3c5aaea4a82e.gif
I got beat when I needed it and in hindsight, I was tripping. It wasn’t a daily, weekly or monthly occurrence.
Smoking and put the cigarette out on the couch under the deck. I was 11. Man I begged that fire man to take me with him … lol That man knew I was going to get tore up
I agree but it doesn’t seem to have had the same adverse impact on them as it has us.
*Crine*
Put ’em in a dark closet and let them rot in their own feces…Snicker…..
For those of you who are bringing up the word-Discipline,you are aware that there are other ways to discipline your kids,right? Neither of my 2 boys got beat by me.Both graduated high school at 16 (twins)and are in college..never been in trouble and are very respectful humans.
Was it hard? YES…I won’t even lie,my youngest made me want to wack him a few times.
I always took the time to SIT AND TALK..Sometimes my lectures took hours,after that I took away privledges,electronics,etc…His teacher called once..I showed up the next day and sat in class with him,looking my ABSOLUTE worse!!!
I had to get creative,it could be time consuming,but that was my job. I know that some people try to talk to their kids first or use the belt as a last resort,but we ALL know those people who pull out that belt 1st.
Just because we were raised with that ‘slave mentality’ of beatings as punishment does NOT make it right.
Ask all the men in prison if they were beat…actually there are studies about it,check em out.
My sister says the same thing. I’d never thought of it this way but you may right..
Me too and it was VERY FEW! Im just going to say this, I am 47 so yep we got ‘whoopings’ and the next morning after that whooping, I wasnt afraid to go to school because school shootings werent a thing, none of my class mates were drugged out to where they had no impulse control and the parents were not afraid of their children because they didnt try to be friends first. The studies, I bet, are doneon children with behaviorial problems that have risen to the level of thr parent needing help so they cant speak for what works for every child. Thank God mine are grown.
My daddy didn’t need to spank me. I was such a daddy’s girl and wanted to please him so much! But my mom used to have to whoop my tail to keep me in line. Sorry, mom!
Me three.
After all the kids killing teachers and parents nowadays with theses new laws I say Bring back the belt.
Worked for older generations
Sorry. Not sorry. One iota. I am still dole’n out the occasional smack down. I have an A student who speaks Spanish almost fluently and is involved in school activities, clubs, and has a very nice, well rounded social life. She has all of what she needs and most of what she wants. She still getting whoopins bc despite all that I list? She hard headed af, I dont like repeating myself, and I dont have the time to be playing. So to each. She can justify it, blame herself bc at 13 it is her fault, and defend me in 2026 just like I am defending my own mama here in 2018.
Who is us? I stayed getting a whooping and I wasn’t a bad child. My grandmother was just accustomed to whooping your azz when you didn’t do as you were told. PERIOD. I think back to my childhood and the whoopings I got and I’m unphased. My grandmother would say, “this world gone whoop you far worse than I can.” And she was right! Those whoopings got me in line, kept me out of trouble, and made me the responsible person that I am today. So no adverse impact over here…
Lol..Not that time. We didn’t see his artwork until days later and I must admit I was amused. I did give him a journal and a “secret” hiding place for his journal where I could monitor the thoughts in his little head though. Fortunately there has been nothing alarming.
me four
Say that!
I was about 7 and at thanksgiving I used my grandfathers shoe dye to dye everyones shoes under the table. And guess what I deserved an ass whopping…lol
People DO Normalize it,and that’s sad…Oh my people.Learn your history
Bwahahaaaaahaaaaaaa!!??? You needed that ass whoopin!!!
FACTS!!!!!
Each child is different.
My mother couldn’t have done any of that to me.
I would have asked if she was coming back tomorrow.
Thank you for this share though. I’ve put a few notes in my phone.
Mine don’t like to be embarrassed
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This!! I was never physically reprimanded and never disrespected anyone or got in trouble with the law. My husband and his siblings got whipped with all kind of stuff and every last one of them has emotional issues.
Lololllllllheheeee funny to me!!
I posted a few ways… but it won’t be QUICK! And that’s my point,exactly! People are too lazy to properly discipline their kids(not you in general) people that I know IRL.
My older sister set a whole set of BRAND NEW Samsonite (still expensive to this DAY) luggage on fire in my grandmother’s spare bedroom when they were visiting. What this reminded me of lmaooo. My parents had to replace everyone’s clothes. And my dad spent his vacation painting and replacing the carpet. She saw that WORK. She was 10. I wasnt born yet.
Every child and adult response is different. My grandmother had 9 kids, raised them practically alone. She whooped all 9. You have one who still cries, at the tender age of 60, about those whoopings, you have some who are thankful for them, and others who felt like it was a part of growing up. 5 boys and neither of them ever stepped foot in a jail cell.
My moms mom had 7 children, raised them with her husband. They all got plenty of whoopings, but her only two sons where in and out of jail – one serving a life sentence. Again, responses are different.
You mentioned not beat by you, were they beat my someone else? Im trying to get some perspective.
Exactly!
Good idea and I’m glad he’s keeping it “clean.” *snickers*
LOOLLOLLOLLOL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
LOLLOLLOLLOLLOL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Im crine
Oooouuuuuuu I KNOW SHE GOT HER AZZ TOE UP!
She became a cautionary tale
And my grandmother was one of the dont spank any kids. Naw. Nope. Even she said she stood by and let that happen and was thinking in her mind my mama wasnt doing it right lmao.
And he knew you deserved the beating you were gonna get.
every child is different. i was a defiant crafty lil bish… my mama got tired of talking and ‘reasoning’ …that’s usually when i’d start tryna float like a butterfly, but she persistently stung like a bee. that’s how i learned how to bee-have, Lol!
Yep,and they snapped!
girl! i just said this ’bout myself and my mama, Lol!
Chile you better tell it!! ????
i.
am.
HOLLERING!!!! AND WHEEZING!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Bruh, I think I wouldv’e been too tickled to whoop your bad azz…depending on what shoe’s you dyed….
YES! My youngest hated being embarrassed,that’s why I did it! His school NEVER called me again..cuz Mommy has NO problem sitting in ALL of your classes embarrassing you! I hated doing it,but it was effective for him..I guess we all just learn as we go,I just hope that as a people we can try other things as well.
chile! floor prob all fugged up too! https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/bb4264f7d4d7227830d50436ebc02fe52f854ab6633bc6dbb91c04c30c8efcd0.gif
Well my mother and grandparents had to replace those shoes…lol I wasn’t bad I was busy my youngest is the same way. That’s why he gets punished a different way than my oldest.
She was really the one who never got anything til here lately. Dub23 was the one who required the physical laying of hands. About a 2-3 years ago tho (5th grade) she got mouthy, and started to be an all around pain in my ays.
I get it.
I don’t whoop mine. He’s been popped on those legs a handful of times but to take those ELECTRONICS and dessert baaaaaby!! Like I tore him up … lol
Yep! And the cycle of abuse is perpetuated…
Lmaoooo. What made you DO THIS???
i so glad your fam wasn’t harmed, but when i tell you this got me snorting and snotting!!!!!!!!!!!!! https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/615d380290005c75f2b73b61063d678adb00cb683258e4273a2f5c12b8d5723d.gif
Why do I have a feeling that 15 year old brat that just strangled his mother to death because she called his father when he got a bad grade, wasn’t spanked.
At that age Dad has to step in and get him in line. My teenage Godson tried to disrespect his mom and his dad yoked his ass up and told him that if he ever disrespected his woman again, they’d have a serious problem. He never did it again.
My grandfather was a shoe repair man and I guess I thought in my 7 year old mind I could do it.
Damn big sis!!
Inside too … lordt!
Is this why most of you can’t spell or write correctly? Those beatings shook your developing brains at an early age….(runs out of the garden FAST!)???
lawd…. i real tickled about this window fogging up!
LMAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Yep!! Pretty much.
I agree and as a matter of fact I saw a man taking his little girl out to the parking lot to get her butt spanked yesterday at the Canes chicken strips for cutting up. I had no issues with it. Used to be able to spank your kid right there on the spot though.
Unfortunately they have split and im willing to bet he don’t behave like that with dad. She is the “set your own boundaries with him” type of parent and sometimes doesn’t correct him when he needs to be. I whooped his ass the first time he tried it with me and he has never repeated it.
Or the 11 yr old who shot and killed his grandmother and then himself because he was told to clean his room….
depends on the child and the reason…my son got maybe two beat downs when he was in middle school, he learned fast…my daughter on the other hand …smh…she was bad af, I can’t count how many times I had to thrash her….they both grown now and doing just fine…
Exactly..
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AGREED! I wish we’d shake that slave mentality of needing to violate a child’s body in order for them to behave. I used to be pissed off after I got whoopings. We are more educated than our predecessors and our actions need to reflect it.
Dad said she liked the smell of matches. So she was in there striking them and then putting them out. She eventually burned herself. And flung the match and POOF. But instead of her saying something…this fool runs out the room and CLOSES THE DOOR BEHIND HER. My uncle caught her running down the hall and was like whats the matter with YOU… and then seen smoke coming from under the door. Whole family was in there fighting the fire. Smh. Kids deserve what they GET from behind stuff like this.
TOO FUNNY.
yeah, i required a bra after i started 4th grade. i pretty much equated that with me and my mama being somehow on the same level of womanhood… it was downhill from there for a few years, LOL!!!
that’s how i learned how to bee-have
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Or bob and weave
i pretty much equated that with me and my mama being somehow on the same level of womanhood
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You is not the same as ME daughter!
girl! that training bra almost ruint meh! ROFL!
There are times when I have told my kids “Everyone in here spanks their kids so don’t think you wont get it if you cant behave yourself”
You know you still in here…lol
now what now? https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/9eb2b76e506e38d5072dd1cf3ad262774eb5ffcb7856de93eefa3205f33fbcb1.gif
But…you just used the word “privledges” below…You got it tho.
Dessert? ?? That would have worked for me!! We only got dessert at Sunday dinner.
This study must have been conducted on rich yt folks because blacks get right after an azz whooping
LOL
Smh. Tried it
I wish we had a simple repost button…
True True..it’s great when you have that many family members to observe and learn from,thanks!
My children are high-achieving, socially acclimated, empathetic, healthy, and well human beings.
My husband and I definitely spank them if they want to act up, but we don’t beat them. Emotional abuse, physical abuse, and no other type of abuse is tolerated in our home. Neither do we tolerate violating boundaries, disrespect, and breaking rules. We take the time out to resolve disciplinary issues instead of being impulsive and animalistic when we get frustrated with them.
Sorry. Not sorry. One iota.
It even had eyes and a smile. I couldn’t bother with punishment that day.
*spells it out slowly* …i guess the other ‘e’ is for “extra” LMAO!
GIRL!!!!
aahahhhaahah LOL. Yeah soon as I got one arm pit hair I was the man of my house….My mom…well she wasnt having any of that…fast forward 37 years later. Professional man, with a wife, and two kids. and a deep respect for elders. and ESPECIALLY MOMMAS.
My X husband didn’t beat them either,they were scared of his voice.He worked 70 hours a week,So I did most of the disciplining.
Can we, for the blog’s sake, define spankings, whoopings, and beatings??
Laawwwd,my momz usta confuse me with the spankingz. Sometimes she would make me go get the belt or the switch. Then she would spank me and I cried,then she would spank me to make me stop crying. She would be like ‘stop alla that crine’. That shidt still confuses to me this day. I honestly miss my childhood. I think it’s a difference between spankin and str8 up abuse. Most of those so-called experts who tawkin about spanking does “more harm then good” ain got no Churn.They got book sense but no common sense.
awww… you had confused being man-ish with being ‘the’ man, LOL! i bet she’s so proud of you now though….. https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/e86501847072dcba783eea0bbb2c002d3ed3d888581b08556155899f7897582f.gif
You left out…”to each”.
Because some people on here seem to think we murdering our kids.
d. All of the above
ROFL!!!
Right! Tying them to a tree buckeed naked and serving 32 slashes! DAMN!
it was friendly? LMAO!!!!!!!
YUP on thanksgiving I was under the table as well cutting my uncles snake skin shoes LOL… why didnt anyone notice LOL welp… never did that again…. pop. smack. pop. pppopp. LOL
*deep azz sigh*
THIS.
chile, being literal by choice, smh
ROFL!!!!!!!!!!!
Exactly and these were some white folks so it’s not just us spanking kids either.
One arm pit hair lol.
It was the friendliest one ive ever seen.
Although I do not advocate abusing your children, an @ss whooping once in a while teaches children that there are consequences to negative behavior, which in turn teaches them a valuable life lesson that will help them as adults. All my white friends prescribe to what they call a completely non-threatning environment and their children are absolute terrors! They throw tantrums whenever they don’t get their way, they insult & physically hit their parents and other children when they are frustrated. Whenever they call me to complain about the children’s behavior ,I always tell them it’s directly correlated to their lack of disciplining and they refuse to believe me. Oh well….I always tell them wait until your son is 16 6’2 and all up in your face screaming at you like they do now…
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Indeed!!! I’m just messing with y’all,as always.
Always!
There’s a difference between spanking and abuse. Some people don’t know the difference. Hitting and punching on children, like your fighting someone in the streets, in abuse not discipline.
lol Do you see these kids now?!?!?…. They are not getting spankings lol. I get it… I do, but I just have not being all that great. These kids are bad
girl this!
my mom would huff and puff and get completely exasperated. but when she went upstairs and my dad saw she was upset, all he had to do was walk out of their bedroom and down the hallway… we’d hear his footsteps and pop those bid heads around the living room doorway and look up those steps like we were expecting dracula to appear. when he poked that fro around the corner we’d turn in formation and get to doing whatever it was she wanted done! (wit her snitchin’ azz) LOL! https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/e86501847072dcba783eea0bbb2c002d3ed3d888581b08556155899f7897582f.gif
I only had to spank my child about 5 maybe 6 times in 13 yrs cuz my parenting game is SKRONG. He is a super amazing young man. Some of my cousins who have never spanked their kids need to be beat themselves for the way them bad ass kids act.
LOL!!!
My paternal lineage is. ???
this right here… it ain’t funny…. but i got tears at the visual… this some made for tv foolishness right here… https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/b029c76378ea5eb0d17be0ae40b316f329298b08b0b47105020d3c5aaea4a82e.gif
Pleassseeeeee.4 including me of out 5 of my siblings got whoopings when necessary. Now that we are all adults, the one who never got whoopings is the only one who acts like an entire fool. Ah uh! My husband doesn’t believe in whoopings he likes to talk to the kids. He has only whooped the kids once or twice that I can remember. He’s better at talking than I am so sometimes I let that slide. But sometimes that talking doesn’t work so every now and then mama gotta come in with those nice swift arse whoopings. I do not enjoy seeing my kids cry, so there is a limit to how far I go with my whoopings. Also every bad act doesn’t require a whooping you are in control of picking and choosing your battles. Yall cant be out here beating your kids like our grandparents used to. He would have my dad and his siblings go an pick a switch LOL. Kids crave discipline and sometimes the corner and or no electronics isn’t enough.
My sister said she never forgave our grandmother (our dad’s mom) for allowing our mama to spank her so viciously after that. BRUH. You almost burned down our matriarch’s HOUSE. You almost killed people PLURAL, and you were a WHOLE AYS 10 years OLD. WAY old enough to know not to play with MATCHES. Smh.
etch a sketch, LMAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
There must be some kind of FEAR to deter that evil act, this is how society functions. You get fired if you misbehave at work …etc
Your approach might work for your kids because they are naturally good kids, honestly not every kid IMO.
Also note parents are very very very busy, so default is very effective and does the job in short time, and kids turn out supper at the end.
These are the same people that thinks it ok to shoot and kill a black kid or for a male officer to punch a black female because they think the kid has a threating presence.
Well….I whoops azz…mmmkay! I got my azz whooped as a kid when I did wrong and fortunately I have only had to whoop my 2 a total of once each and I have had no issues out of them to this day. My girl just graduated high school and is applying for her residency today, and my son just entered high school and is an A/B student. I can look at my kids and they know to get right and quickly!! So with that being said, if you got some bad azz kids and don’t want nobody to discipline them don’t send’em to my house cuz I don’t play that shyt!!!
now back to work cuz I’m hella busy tuhday!! ttyl!!
Spanking – 2-3 quick firm slapps to the butt
Whooping – 3-5 firm hits on the butt
Beating – Go grab that hanger or that belt and you go to work on that arse. This gonna hurt me more than it hurts you. 5+ hits. Stay still or an addtional 1-2 hits may be coming your way.
Sis is NOT the victim here…. Lil Match Guhl need to take her licks and gone on and find her a good febreze scent she can learn to love, LOL!!!
Shiddddd! Let me to tell you this mines act up they getting their asses whooped!!!
I know that’s right!! My kids are both honor roll students just like me and my siblings all where. Doing good in school is something your supposed to do so you will not use your grades to justify that IDGAF attitude kids have from time to time. When I tell you I felt this comment to my core I really did!!!!!
Oh my goodness you’re a grandpa Nice!!!, thanks for taking the time to answer my intrusive question.
so did you know at the time that you where gay (when you where with the mother of your child) or did you find out after?
And I’m sure you haven’t put ? on total retirement!
Like you’re one to talk. You don’t seem too intelligent yourself.
Awwww!
Right people act like a quick whooping takes away from everything you’ve already instilled in your child. People kill me. .
Say whatever you want but if my child buck up at me like I’m a b?tch off the streets, I’m going to beat that àss like a b?tch off the streets. Some kids, no matter how much you love, talk to and try to show them the right way to handle problems, will try to act like their friends and talk major sh?t to their own parents. My teeth would have been knocked down my throat, if I talked to adults and my parents the way some of these kids do. They know all they have to do is lie and say they’re abused, and society will listen. If my child say that they’re abused, let the government raise them then. Get out of my house and dont bring your disrespectful, lying àss back. You will not be missed. Its too many kids who really experienced abuse, to be playing with these attention seeking, liars out here. I’m not walking on egg shells in my own home and yes I will slap a MF backwards, if I’m providing everything for them and they treat me like sh?t and lie on me. Getch on!
Why were you pissed off? If you didn’t cut up then you wouldn’t have gotten one…duh!
These kids today want to talk sh?t and then turn around and act like its all good. Nope!! Dont bite my hand and continue to ask me to feed you.
Um…the belt.
Kids still gonna love u when u spank they butt a few times…explain to them why u doing it…u earning RESPECT…I hate lying, that was my pet peeve…I always told them u can tell me anything, we can work it out…
Hail no.
Sounds exactly like me. Love this!!!!
“don’t let Stacy get yo arse whooped.”
LMAO!
To each it’s own. There’s a difference between discipline, and beating down on you’re kids, like you’re fighting a ninja in the streets. I saw a lot of kids coming up, get beat down like that by their parents. Those same kids still acted the hell out.
Lol…girl..they be acting like they dying from a whoppin…I be like… https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/bea76e9145c5c3b60b9eb88dfc1ba3d7652f69c1ff5968aa5a8a2d9876dbfea6.gif
U gotta use common sense…if u have a frail little one who is being bad af u can’t football tackle him…know your own strength first, remember u do love your child…lift that leg up, explain to him why this is goin down and tap.?that.?az..kiss him when u done…
Ummm I hope no one is speaking 8 month old babies and 18 months .That is Crazy!
Nice! I’m born and raised GD.
I have spanked my kids, but I hit them where it hurts the most….those iPods iPads iPhones television and my son’s action figures! It has a more lasting effect for my children, but each parent has to figure what works best with their children.
Their father was verbally abusive to his employees so I believe he was the same at home.
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Takintg things away has worked well for us. We’ve spanked before, but that’s it.
I done knocked Dub23 face clean to the other side before and laid her on her back looking up bc I clotheslined her. And would do it again. She bucked. Like literally puffed up at me. Her First and last time. Gimme a reason. I’m out here seeing a whole struggle to provide and your 16 yo ays wants to be bout it? Leggo.
But how do you know though unless you’ve lived in their household? No one truly knows.
Let me be honest, i rarely remember things i did yesterday, but i can remember hunching my Michael Jackson doll at the age of 4 lol omg i haven’t said hunch since i was a kid lol
Kids really be trying it!
Sigh… As long as it’s legal let each parent decide for themselves.
My nephew was a “bad” child always into trouble and he got whoopings regularly. He knew when to show respect and admit his wrongs. He’s a working adult who lives a regular family life. He doesn’t spank his kids at all…and they’re always into stuff just like him. Same personality traits with different punishments.
I don’t allow his kids over my house because I believe in whooping azz and can’t tolerate “bad” kids. The male child wants to be a thug rapper at 5 and the girls don’t mind adults, have smart mouths and bad attituded and one of the girl’s was obese before she turned 5
Only the crazies
False! I got my axx beat and I turned out alright! In fact, more kids are in need of whoopings! I saw this video today, a kid and his family played the invisible challenge and when they pretended not to see them, he flicked them all off LOLOLOL and said “can you see this!?” while holding up the bird to his whole family.
Say whatever you want but if my child buck up at me like I’m a b?tch off the streets, I’m going to beat that àss…
OK!
When you set the tone early you don’t have to worry about this happening at all. They know better and can tell by a certain look you give em or the change in your tone of voice.
True…some kids have deeper issues that cause that type of behavior. It’s not going to be a one off situation
That approach works for some. But I’ve seen kids whosp parentsSWEAR that f-ing them up is the key…..they still acted out.
All because their afraid..Fools can’t even read a real threat.
Hunch ? .
I see, So the girl was literally a one off or just to conform? You know what, I can see a lot of women out there falling for a gay man and hoping they can ‘Change’ him?
Because there were and are other ways to discipline a child instead of that neanderthal behavior you dim witted baboon. Duh!
Too??? ??????
Ok i loved her, my 8th grade sweetheart! but in 8th grade at lunch my current bestfriend who i wasn’t really friends with walked up to us and said oh y’all a couple? i thought you was gay! lol we laugh about it today because i didn’t realize she would become my best friend. my baby mother and i was like best friends who was bored and decided to have sex??
Too is grammatically correct. To is a preposition.
Why would people lie about his character?
I beg to differ but ok. I respect those that use alternative methods to discipline as long as they respect mine. You don’t have to beat your child. I only had to spank a few times. After that it was just a “look” that ended negative behavior. To each their own.
Who spanks a child under a year old??
This sounds like another White folk study. I got spanked a minimal number of times to know that I didn’t like nor want to get a whoopin, and therefore made sure I behaved appropriately. I turned out to be a law abiding citizen who has never been to jail, never done drugs or drank alcohol, never been in a gang, only had one kid after learning my lesson with the first one, never been on the pole, and never sold my ass. Instead I have a great life, got a few degrees, and a legal profession that I love and allows me to live comfortably.
? that!!! This is what’s wrong with these bad ? kids now whoop they mfing ?!!!!
Everybody ? start them lil non walkers early so they know not to mfing play with the parent
“Americans still subject their children to archaic disciplinary” It aint just Americans. This is worded so propaganda-ish that readers are naturally skeptical. Developed countries all around the world still allow the spanking of kids. Hell pain is natures teacher. Unless a child have developmental issues they associate that pain with their own actions moreso than with the person applying it.
Looks like someone needed their ass whooped while learning English Writing.
IT AINT “TOO” Late HalleMerry!!! You can still get one.
LMAO ..”he flicked them all off LOLOLOL and said “can you see this!?” while holding up the bird to his whole family.”
Bad ass.
This post was written by a blogger based in Atlanta — a city in America.
I don’t have children but I know as a child I tried my parents. I had a smart mouth and threw temper tantrums. A shoe to the head. A nice switch beating…I was allowed to choose the switch which was part of the punishment. A quick smack to the mouth. I got all these things. What didn’t happen was…I didn’t miss a meal. Had clothes and a comfortable home and a private school education.
If you leave your kids with me…they will be punished. I don’t hit other people’s kids but I’ll put a bowl of ice cream in front of them and torture the brat.
I have to admit that if you disrespect me in my house that I pay for, heat and feed ya azz…we’re fighting. I mean knock you to the floor, climb on top of you and slam your head against the ground a couple of times. No. No. No. Not having that. Check these kids because they will turn on you just like that boy that shot his grandmother and then killed himself because he didn’t want to clean his room.
LMAO ?
The belt the belt ???
That’s what I believe. Some kids no matter how much you beat them, it doesn’t matter. Then some kids all you have to do is look at them, or bark a little and they get it.
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No now these kids love to play victim, even when they’re not one. You can establish all of the respect in the world early on, but as soon as they get around their peers, who get away with disrespecting their parents, they think they should get away with that sort of behavior too. I’m not arguing with my child, like we are the same age or it’s them who is providing for me. If she/he feel like they want to get away with being disrespectful, because they see their friends getting away with it, then they do not need to live with me. I never raised my hand to my mother or father and still wouldn’t, so I’ll be dàmned if I let my own child, do that to me. Abuse isn’t necessary but if my child is acting a fool, I’m letting it be known, that it will not be tolerated. If they want to holler abuse and I’m not actually abusing them, they no longer have to worry about me.
1000% agreed and so happy you’re not afraid to be this real!
You’re correct about it being a difference, but just like you’ve seen parents abuse their kids, I’ve seen kids try to abuse their parents. It depends on the family. I’m not letting my kids beat me up. Maybe you think it’s okay, with kids fighting their parents but just like I don’t think it’s okay to abuse a child, I don’t think it’s okay for parents to have to deal with lying, out of control kids. These kids today know, all they have to do is shed a few tears, listen to REAL abuse victims stories, and create their own “victimhood story” and society will listen with no questions asked. That same society then turns around and complain about lil Johnny breaking into a car or Joann having babies she can’t afford. But when the parents discipline (not abuse) their kids, the parents are labeled as too strict. You could not pay me to have kids today. I’m not allowing my kids to disrespect me and I’m not allowing the government to tell me how to raise my child.
Completely agreed! Part of the reason I chose NOT to have kids is bc society won’t allow the proper raising of them. I’ll be damned if I can’t raise a child the way I was raised.
I watch my sister let my 1st grade neice get away w murder and it’s to a point where I can’t keep her bc I know I will hurt her. She has absolutely no idea of her place as a 6-year-old and my sister thinks she’s so mature. No, she’s too grown, needs to stay in a child’s place, and could use the discipline we were raised with. I am so happy to read your comments bc I TOTALLY AGREE!
HLN ran this story this morning. The next story they ran was about a kid k illing his mom because she had to talk to him about his poor grades.
Boom ?
Oh wow gotcha and you where blessed with a child! That’s nice that you’re still best buddies and where blessed with a child and grand baby too! I respectfully thank you for answering my questions (i told you I was nosey) you could have told me to fvck off ?? , but you didn’t ?
Love reading your comments by the way!
Iktr
Nope. Caint be afraid of your own kids. They can smell it like a serpent.
“society won’t allow the proper raising of them. ”
Pssst…it’s ok to beat them as long as you don’t leave marks…don’t tell nobody I told you.
L0l@ Hell pain is natures teacher.
This is very effective. Probably worse for girls, like I have? You have me laughing remembering my kiddo’s reactions when I pulled up…beating up the block with my sound system blasting ?Let the bodies hit the floor?
Sat right behind them while they looked straight ahead, afraid to breathe? Didn’t take but once!
Bwahahaa! Dracula! Haaaahaaa….wonder what stories our kids will tell about us!
Is he still living?
“set the tone early” and be consistent. Don’t grow weary and let them have their way. It can be tough, but hold your ground.
I never said nor do I agree with children abusing anyone. I just dont believe that beating up on kids is discipline. Spanking and beating children up,are two different things. I’ve seen with my own two eyes, parents wildin out on kids like they’re in a dog fight. That’s not discipline, that’s abuse. Stopping the dog sh*t out of a child, doesn’t mean they won’t become a menace.
I always thought a spanking was a quick pop pop with the hands on the butt. But the picture has a belt.
Idk but I needed a whipping to get me together. My sister’s needed reason and logic. So I guess what works for the kid
Ok but you sound like my mom. But as an adult I’m glad she did.
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I agree as long as the child doesn’t try laying hands on their parent, they shouldn’t be beat up. And let’s be clear. I’m not talking about a small child, I’m talking about these disrespectful teenagers. Most children, you don’t even have to spank. A look or raising your voice a little (not c?rsing and screaming), gets results. I’m talking about those teenagers who start smelling themselves and forget that they are the child and you’re the parent.
The teenagers who be smelling themselves ???. You say you finna clip they ass ???
These kids got it good nowadays; they know nothing of the fear & trembling of ye olde days, Lol!
Yes
MOM AND DAD I TOLD YOU SO!!
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Lol! Thank God it’s not all of them. But the disrespectful ones are the absolute worse. Always got to have the last word. Make you want to p?nch them in the throat.
…but the POLICE can beat azz, choke folks out, tase folks, and gun them down at will. its as if they are saying dont beat your kids, save them for us lol. nope! ill be the one to raise my own and beat sense into my kids as i see fit, thanks.
THIS.
Kids threaten to call the police on their parents these days.
Remember that story a while back the girl had her mother arrested for theft for taking her cell phone as punishment for bad grades. To think police entered that mother’s home and bedroom interrupted her breastfeeding the new baby to put her handcuffs because her pos teen accused her of theft.
THIS is why parents are afraid of disciplining their children.
White folk study. Lol
a quick pop is a pop. a spanking is a series of pops, whose duration depends on how fast and accurately you can answer your parent when they are asking you questions whilst beating your ass.
I have tried talking, time outs, and all the other new age hippie discipline. It doesn’t work for my child, that hard head cannot comprehend it. But a pop on the butt, he gets..
ahh thanks doll ?
The very day my child calls the police is the day they need to pack a suitcase. Because that means you’re not coming back.
I respect your right Not to live in my household.
Maybe we can meet up at Thanksgiving dinner.
A rapid fire response is required.
Sad that the main proponents of corporal punishment are those whose ancestors were whipped as a form of punishment. We have trauma from whippings in our DNA and we just keep nurturing it in our children? I would never disrespect my self or a child by whipping them or hitting them, then say I did that because I love you. Just my opinion and belief. To each her own.
I agree and am not against spankings but there are a lot of people that get corporal punishment confused with discipline. People can discipline by being consistent and holding their kids accountable, which may or may not include hitting. There are plenty of bad kids that were beat but their parents didn’t discipline them with consistency. Or the parents were beating them for waking them from their nap but laughing when they were being sassy.
Their are plenty of kids that are being properly( with and without beating) raised and their are plenty that aren’t. Just like their were when we were younger. Everybody I knew did not behave. Point being…don’t let that stop you if you really want a kid.
That’s a good idea. Thanks!
Another parent would cook the culprit’s favorite meal and everybody else would eat it while the culprit had oatmeal! The boy is on a track scholarship in college now AND he has severe ADHD!
There is no one size fits all solution for disciplining children, so I don’t know why they write up these articles and do these studies like there is. There is a difference between a pop, a spanking, a whipping and physical abuse.
Well I turned out normal. Never been to jail and I have respect. Not all but some kids need they ass whipped.
That part!
and don’t catch the belt!! Now you dead dead! lmao!!
white folk issues…next?
crying @ “them lil non walkers!!
I assume so, no updates on ig yet LOL
Spanking children? Nah. But BDSM spankings among consenting adults are great!!!!! Consent is the key word tho.
I agree. They will never understand consequences.
Never and their parents will be paying attorney fee or sending money on their books. But that’s the plan.
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They shole do! I got one here that I used to spank. He was an ä?šhöle
Right.
I read somewhere that if spanking worked black american kids would be geniuses instead of having up to 50% high high school drop out rates.
Most of the fonts here got beat by a single mother or grandmother since most black males aren’t raising kids, who herself was upset in other aspect and took it out on the kids.
People who say they turned out normal after getting beat by their parents: obese, broke, weed addicts, short tempered, lays hands quick, unmarried, babymama/daddy, hates marriage, cold.
You don’t have to agree with me but no debates twill change my mind
An obese 5 year old child most likely is being molested.
the fact that i am at least one person who got whoppings and am now a nurse and not obese or on drugs with a fine a** husband makes your argument a huge lie. hahahahah, one person totally tore down your argument. you need a whoppin” for wasting our time.
You solved the math equation for how to conduct a proper azz whipping.
Me too and I agree 100%
Who’s spanking an 8-month-old child?
Talking, threatening and time-out doesn’t work dor all children just as spanking doesn’t. My father never whooped us, he gave us a look and we straightened up. My mother whooped, yelled and screamed. If you do wrong then thwre needs to be conswquences. We didn’t become violent children or adults die to getting spanked, whooped.
I was whooped, from a two-parent home, I’m not obese (5’7″, 119lbs), I’m far from broke, not married, but dating, no children because I’m not not married and I’m a kind, easy going person. Spankings don’t work for all children, but neither does time out.
You proved my point, hit dog hollaring- as you are a sadist who got beat and now you take it out on your patients.
You sound like a real, mean, bih. Again, you’re a hit dog hollaring. I pity your patients, I’m positive you’re a mean bih to them.
Fine husband, LOL you have a bum mooching your checks.
https://www.marieclaire.com/culture/news/a14211/mean-girls-of-the-er/
Most black females in the USA are obese single mothers who got whooped by their obese single mother and so on and so on. Yeh, that’s working out SO well.
Black females are spanking 8 month old children it’s common also to cuss them out, too.
I’ll say this again if whoopings work why aren’t black americans more loving, kind, successful and married to each other only 29% of blacks are married , period, why is that where is the love? Why aren’t black communities thriving and safe with all these whoopings going on=doesn’t work.
Yeh keep whooping those kids they’re gonna give you hell when you’re old, elder abuse is on the rise.
wow, it took you almost a week to get your mind right, and try to bring it back around huh. you are dismissed!!! lol