Once again, I slept through the BET Awards — or as my loyal readers call it: the EBT Awards.

I swear I had every intention of watching this year’s show, especially since the good folks at BET always take such care to send me a credential request form every year, even though I never request one. One year they even filled out the form for me and sent me the credentials with a little note saying “your credential request has been approved,” lol.

The BET Awards is the singular urban spectacle of the year that manages to bring together such diverse artists as Nicki Minaj (who has zero talent), El DeBarge, Kirk Franklin and Tyrese, and make it all work.

Judging from the tweets in my timeline from last night, the 2010 BET Awards was the best in years. Since I didn’t get a chance to watch the show, the only Ugly moment for me was Chris Brown’s fake tears. So I’m posting some of the highlights of the #BETAwards tweets from Twitter.com instead:

The BAD: I searched but I couldn’t find a single tweet on my timeline about pseudo-singer Ciara’s awful black and gold Balmain frock paired with ankle booties. Why did she even show up when BET dissed her azz by banning her “Ride” video?


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This morning, I awoke to find all the urban blogs raving about convicted woman beater, Chris Brown’s Michael Jackson tribute last night. Black folk are an oddly forgiving bunch when it comes to our criminals.

A grown man can urinate on a 13-year-old girl — or use a young woman’s face as a punching bag. But if he can sing or dance, he’s redeemed in our eyes! It’s a good thing black folks don’t control the criminal justice system or our celebrities would never be charged with any crimes!

Chris Brown’s performance was at once the most horrendous tribute I have ever seen on live television! Did he even practice his routine at all? He came out lip syncing to Michael Jackson’s vocals. Didn’t he have the time to re-record the lyrics?

And although Brown’s choreography was noteworthy, the fact is, any Michael Jackson impersonator from the youngest to the oldest would have put Brown’s dance routine to shame last night. I was not impressed.

Then, in what can only be described as one of the most shameless, calculated publicity stunts ever in BET’s history, Brown begins to perform Jackson’s classic, “Man in the Mirror,” only to break down in tears as if on cue!

Only the #teambreezy d*ckriders fell for his crocodile tears. Though, to be honest, I’ve never seen a man that despondent over the loss of his career and livelihood (that’s what he was really crying about). His Oscar winning performance begs the question: why didn’t he do this last year? Maybe he canceled last year’s MJ tribute because he couldn’t cry on cue?

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Ever since R&B Diva broke up with her baby daddy Rocko, her fans have been wondering who she’s kicking it with now. Monica might say she’s way too busy with her children and her career to find the time for a relationship. But Mo loves the idea of being in love. A little birdie told us that the new thug in her life is rapper Maino!

Mo’s rumored new beau is cast as her love interest in the music video for “Love All Over Me.” Mo tweeted this pic from the set today.

In an exclusive interview with Zap2It blog, actress Vivica A. Fox said when she saw the dramatic weight loss photos of her former lover 50 cent, she thought to herself, ” ‘Ooh, he looks like a crackhead.’ [He did a] good job sacrificing.”

Vivica said she knew that Fiddy wasn’t sick or depressed — he was losing weight for a role in a movie in which he plays a football star who’s diagnosed with cancer, and she respects him for it. She said he told her about it after he cast her as his leading lady in his music video for “Do You Think About Me?”

“I was proud of him,” she says. “Because when we were filming the video he told me he was about to go into two, three films he had written and was going to be heavily involved with. I was glad to see him making that transition.”

Vivica was also relieved because being in Fiddy’s video meant that all the rumors about the two hating each other would be laid to rest.

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The people in this line in NYC aren’t waiting to donate blood. Nor are they waiting in line for hours to volunteer to help others. They are waiting in the hot sun to purchase a cell phone.

Every person in this line knows that the phone they seek will be able very shortly in huge quantities. But, no, they have to have it right now.

The people in this line are typical of our impulsive, over-indulged, narcissistic society: they lack the patience or the maturity to simply wait until the supply of these phones meets the demand.

Patience versus instant gratification is a quality that many of us lack because we give in to our impulses to keep up with the Joneses.

When you react to life in this way, you allow circumstances to control you. If you choose to allow pressures to drive your decisions, then you do not act from your heart. You deny your true self, and sabotage your success. There are other ways to feel alive, other ways to feel good about life and satisfy the emptiness with true fulfillment. Self-sabotage is not the answer. Stop living under the control of your impulses, and determine to respond to life with strength and character. [link]

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Celebrity photographer Drexina Nelson writes:


I recently had the opportunity to photograph Kat Stacks and while I was unfamiliar with her when I first accepted the job… I had the opportunity to research about her prior to actually shooting, and I tried to go into the shoot nonjudgemental and unbiased. I am glad that I did that because once I met her and heard her story, I saw that she was just a young girl that has gone through a lot in her life. I sympathized with her because I truly believe that she is not thinking about the ramifications of what this could actually do to her life.

She is thinking of the fame. While people know her name, they don’t know the timid and quiet young girl that I had the opportunity to shoot. She was very respectful throughout the shoot, and was also very professional. Thanks for your time.

Attached are some of the images from the shoot.

View more of my work at www.drexinanelson.com or www.twitter.com/drexinanelson
makeup: Stephanie Dawn www.stephaniedawnbeauty.com
hair: Deedee Wales
Stylist: Patrick Cooper

Loyal reader Nikke writes:

When you gonna question Ocho Cinco’s sexuality? I want him to stop twitpic’in shoes and handbags. Such as http://twitpic.com/1zb2g4 (kinda cute but not always)

I agree with Nikke: there is something odd about a dude posting pics of ladies handbags and shoes online. The last time I checked, Chad Ochocinco was not a shoe or handbag salesman. So why is he posting pictures of ladies handbags and shoes on his Twitter page all day long?

Is Chad that bored with his life?

I’m not saying he’s gay — I have no way of knowing that. I’m just saying that he has definite homo tendencies that leads us to the conclusion that he might enjoy a good back rub by one of his boys after a long day on the football field.

Below are some of the pics of ladies handbags and shoes that Chad posted today and yesterday on his Twitter page.

*The captions are his, not mine*

Before you rush to defend Chad; ask yourself if you would question your boyfriend or husband’s sexuality if he spent all day posting pictures of ladies shoes and handbags on his Twitter page. Especially if the shoes and handbags belonged to him.

You can ignore his homosexual tendencies if you want. But how long will you continue to ignore his growing collection of shoes and handbags in your closet?

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