As you know, rapper T.I. was sentenced to 11 more months in prison earlier this month for violating his probation.

On Nov. 1st, T.I. will report to the same Arkansas federal lockup where he spent 10 months before being released to a Atlanta halfway house late last year.

TMZ has learned what will be on the menu when T.I. begins his stint in an Arkansas prison on November 1st — he will have nutritious culinary options that include something called “creamed beef.”

   Breakfast:
   An Orange
   Hot Oatmeal
   Creamed Beef
   Home Fried Potatoes
   Biscuits or Wheat Bread
   Skim Milk

   Lunch:
   Fried Fish or Baked Fish or PB&J
   Mac and Cheese or Baked Potato or Peas
   Corn Bread or Wheat Bread
   Desert or Fresh Apple

   Dinner:
   Chicken Patty or Chicken Salad or Grilled Cheese
   Baked Potato or Navy Beans or Salad
   Hamburger Bun or Wheat Bread

Meanwhile, T.I. changed the title of his upcoming CD from King Uncaged to No Mercy — but the name change came before his arrest on drug charges on September 1st, not after.

Prior to his arrest, T.I. met up with DJ Reflex of Power 106. They discussed his work as a producer and touched upon the formation of his production company Smash Factory.

There is also talk that T.I.’s wife Tiny will resume shooting her popular reality TV show “Tiny and Toya” with Antonia Carter, now that Tiny no longer has to travel with T.I. everywhere he goes for at least the next 6-8 months.

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Yesterday’s post on Narcissism touched quite a few of my readers who responded with their own emotional stories about dealing with the narcissist in their lives.

It pleases me that my posts has helped others to grow and heal in their relationships with these sociopaths.

Some of the emails below were edited for clarity and all names have been withheld.

Good Afternoon Sandra,

I have been following your site for over 5 years. Anyhow, I was very moved by your recent posting regarding Narcissism and the young lady who spoke out. I myself would like to remain anonymous due to my friends frequenting your site also.

I’ve been married for 12 years to a man I have always felt to be a Narcissist. Before writing this letter I didn’t want to jump on the bandwagon so I did the research on symptoms and signs. HE HAD THEM ALL.

He especially had the Narcissist rage. I have asked for a divorce because of the feeling of low importance and value in this marriage. He has affected my value, self-esteem and pulled me out of my character on numerous occasions for his amusement. The question is how can you trust if a Narcissist has changed or is being sincere when you threaten to leave?

We also share kids together. I feel I no longer love him due to the pain I’ve endured but if I stay does a person like this ever get it together? I know you have a lot of strong women who read your site and I am deeply concerned and stressed out behind this love/hate relationship. His Narcissist behavior has me looking at him likes he a ticking time bomb of venomous words waiting to happen. If possible, I need some insight from your readers not to decide for me but to give me any knowledge on if people like this ever change. I know you may have to edit this to a shorter message if you do decide to post this but any advice you have would be greatly appreciated.

A Loyal Reader

This reader asked for your input, but here’s mine: my advice for her is to get out of this marriage and sever all ties with him for the sake of the children.

When I was involved with a narcissist, I bought all the self-help books I could find on dealing with narcissists. Every book that I read said the same thing: GET OUT!

Narcissists can not be cured. They will not change no matter how many times they promise to do better. Most psychiatrists and therapists refuse to treat them.

They are sociopaths who lack the ability to feel. So they can’t empathize or relate to the pain they inflict on you. They just see you as weak when they break you down. Your suffering only gives them life. They have no heart and they have no feelings.

Get out.

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After rampant speculation and foot dragging by her hubby Nick Cannon, Mariah finally announced she was pregnant on a national TV show this morning.

Carey told Billy Bush — in a segment which aired on TODAY Thursday morning — that it’s been a struggle to keep the news private. “It’s been a long journey, but it’s been tough because I’ve been trying to have … to hold onto a shred of privacy. And that was not easy.”

Carey broke the news to Bush from her home in Tribeca. She didn’t say whether it was a boy or girl, or how far along she was. “It’s still early, I’m expecting in the spring, I’ll say that. I don’t want to give too much of like, specific outlines.”

Mariah and Nick Cannon confirmed what some have been whispering all along, that she suffered a miscarriage.

Two years ago, shortly after the couple’s secret wedding, Carey and Cannon were in Monte Carlo for the World Music Awards when Carey took a pregnancy test, and it turned out to be positive. “Only one person knew about this and we were like, um, ‘let’s not tell anybody else,'” Carey said.

A little more than a month later, she miscarried. “It was really sad so we had to just, we had really to absorb this and take it in,” Carey said. Cannon added, “And that’s what I said, like her strength would literally be during the day so festive and smiling obviously for cameras and spending time with everyone and you know, literally that night crying herself to sleep.”

The Careys implied that they asked their OB/GYN doctor not to advise them of the sex of the baby. They don’t want to know the sex until the baby is born.

Judging from my experience working in labor and delivery, 9 times out of 10 this means the father wants a boy.

U.S. President Barack Obama made history last night when he appeared on a comedy show, which some say further demeans the dignity of the highest office in the land.

Obama was a guest on the popular ‘Daily Show With Jon Stewart,’ last night.

Stewart, who is a Democrat, has been critical of Obama’s politics in the past. But the political comedian/mock news anchorman took it easy on the commander-in-chief.

Stewart called Obama’s attempts to reform healthcare “timid” and he jokingly referred to Obama’s campaign slogan “YES WE CAN” as “Yes we can, given certain conditions, blah blah blah … blah blah.”

When Obama said, “Jon, I don’t want to lump you in with a lot of other pundits,” Stewart retorted with an equally cynical jab: “And I don’t mean to lump you in with other presidents.”

At one point, Stewart even called the president “dude” after Obama inadvertently echoed a famous George W. Bush gaffe by saying that his economic adviser, Lawrence H. Summers, had done “a heck of a job.”

Mr. Obama winced as the audience laughed at his wording and Mr. Stewart said, “You don’t want to use that phrase, dude.” [link]

Obama’s next TV appearance will be on the History Channel’s nerd fest ‘MythBusters’ next month.

Rapper Common, actress Tia Mowry (The Game), former NBA star Allen Iverson and the cast of The Game partied at Compound last weekend. Common was in town to record with producer The Dream and Ciara (or so I’m told). He might also be appearing in an episode of The Game.


Rumor has it that Allen Iverson signed with a Turkish team to play ball overseas. But I guess that rumor is false since he’s still here in the ATL partying the nights away.

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According to CNSnews.com, U.S. President Barack Obama has suddenly remembered to include ‘Creator’ in the Declaration of Independence.

Obama had come under fire by the media for ignoring the word ‘Creator’ whenever he paraphrased the founding document in his speeches.

But he ignored the media criticism until now — less than a week before the midterm elections.

Here’s Obama on Monday in Rhode Island: “The idea of America is hard, based on a document and ideas that had never been tried before: ‘We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, endowed by their Creator with certain inalienable rights, that among these are life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness.'” Source

But during a rally in Seattle on Thursday of last week, Obama said: “Thirteen colonies deciding to start a revolution based on an idea that had never been tried before — a government of and by and for the people — a government based on the simple proposition that all men are created equal — that we’re endowed with certain inalienable rights.”

Obama has often left out the word ‘Creator’ on numerous occasions — even after it was brought to his attention by the media.

Is this further evidence that Obama might not be the Christian that he claims to be?

Troubled singer Chris Brown attended the curtain call on the opening night of “Rain – A Tribute To The Beatles” at Neil Simon Theatre in NYC yesterday.


He wore a newsboy cap, grey wool Burberry coat with faded grey jeans (that sags just enough to give him a couple of swag points). And he complimented his outfit with two-toned black cap toe boots.

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Singer Ciara attended Lord & Taylor’s “Ultimate Face Lift” event in NYC yesterday.

Afterwards, she attended her 25th birthday celebration at greenhouse in NYC last night. Who else thought Ciara was older than 25?

Justin Bieber, left, who is 16, sat at courtside eating cotton candy with his pal Jaden Smith — who is 12 — at the LA Lakers game. The two are very good friends and Jaden often flies in on private jet (at great expense to his parents) to attend Justin’s concerts. I think it’s cute that Will and Jada allow their 12-year-old to pal around with Justin, who will be 17 in less than 5 months.

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Most of us hear the word Narcissism and we think of a man (or woman) who has an exaggerated sense of self-importance.

That explanation seems benign because we know someone who fits that description. Narcissists are usually well-dressed, handsome, beautiful, charming, funny, and extremely outgoing.

The problem begins when you fall in love with one.

That’s when the sheep’s clothing falls off to reveal the wolf who lurks beneath.

To your friends he is still handsome, charming, funny and outgoing. But to you he is a monster.

The reason I write about narcissists so much is because narcissism is a disease in our community. It has claimed so many lives, and yet there is no cure.

Narcissists seek you out if you have money, power and/or respect.

They also seek you out if you are nice, compassionate, sweet and generous, because these are qualities that they will never possess.

Narcissists eventually see these qualities in you as a weakness. Underneath his or her charming exterior, most narcissists are envious, needy, insecure, depressed, self-centered and extremely selfish.

No matter what you do, they will never see you as their equal. The children of narcissists get the worst of it.

The more you try to please narcissists, the more they will abuse you mentally, and sometimes physically.

A loyal reader who asked to remain anonymous wrote in to share her story with my readers. Through this blog she said she was able to recognize the danger signs of narcissism. She packed her things and left her narcissistic partner before it was too late.

Good Morning Sandra,

I have hesitated several times as to whether to write you or not partly because I don’t wish to expose my name. But if we may keep this email private; I would just like to thank you. It may seem strange that your site actually helped me escape an extremely abusive relationship but I have to thank god for making you the vessel to opening my eyes.

When I first stumbled upon your site I noticed you threw around the word ‘narcissist’ I was familiar with the term but not the full in depth meaning. After some research I knew to qualify my former partner who is also the father of my son as a complete narcissist. All your descriptions and symptoms so to speak match his qualities exactly even the narcissistic stare.

I thank you as I have opened my eyes and put a stop to the abuse when I moved out of the apartment we shared on September 23rd. He has, like a typical narcissist been in a rage ever since and has tried to “destroy” me in every way. However, as of October 12th, I decided it best for my son and I that we no longer communicate with the sick man any longer on any basis.

If it wasn’t for you and your site; I wouldn’t be free and blessed right now. Although I had to give up my car, all my furniture including televisions and other expensive items; I am now happier than ever.

Thank you and god bless:)



The reason I used a pic of Jay Z and Beyonce for this post is because they are both narcissists who feed off each other.

But Jay Z needs Beyonce more for her money, power and respect in order to achieve the power and respect that he now has.

Jay Z will never allow Bey to be greater than him. An example of this is the fact that his book “Decoded” barely mentions Beyonce even though this book is supposed to be about his life.

The reason Beyonce is barely mentioned in the book is because Jay Z (a classic narcissist) knows she would steal all of his thunder, and his small ego just couldn’t tolerate that.

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Charlie Sheen is the highest paid television star in Hollywood. Despite raking in nearly $2 million PER episode of his smash hit sitcom Two and a Half Men, Sheen can’t seem to stay out of trouble.

Sheen was admitted to New York-Presbyterian Hospital after police found him drunk and naked in his trashed NY hotel room early this morning.

Just yesterday, Sheen was the picture of happiness as he spent quality time with his ex-wife Denise Richards and their daughters Sam and Lola (pictured above).

According to online reports, Sheen was “was drinking and had snorted cocaine” in the presence of a paid escort (prostitute) in his room at The Plaza Hotel in NYC. Police arrived to find Sheen in a drunken stupor and the hotel room trashed.

Sheen, 45, had been “out partying” and when he returned to his room with the alleged prostitute, he noticed his wallet and cellphone were missing and lost it, according to the police report.

The woman later told police Sheen was throwing furniture and yelling.

Tables and chairs had been thrown around Sheen’s room and a chandelier was also damaged, totaling about $7,000 in damages, the Post reports.

Police suspected the actor was suffering from the effects of alcohol poisoning. He voluntarily agreed to be taken to the hospital around 2 am. He is currently on a locked psych ward at NY hospital though he is not under arrest.

Sheen’s reps maintain that Sheen had a reaction to medication that he was taking. He has reportedly been treated on and off at the Promises Residential Treatment Center in Malibu for the past few months.

Do better Charlie.

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Update:

Charlie Sheen left NYC in disgrace yesterday on board a private plane bound for California where he plans to immediately begin work on his TV series Two and a Half Men.

A loyal reader, who asked to remain anonymous, sent in these pics of troubled singer chris brown.

In the first pic, chris continues to flirt with his feminine side. He seems to be getting more and more comfortable in women’s clothing. Good for him. There’s nothing wrong with a young man pursuing his interests in high fashion.

Others might not agree with me though. Here’s an example of what others might be thinking about chris brown’s personal style. This comment is courtesy of one of my longtime loyal readers, Redeemed777:

He’s not meant to be funny, but to inspire young boys to be effeminate. The media know what they are doing.

Click below to see a pic chris brown posted on his Twitter page today following the uproar that his effeminate picture caused on the Internets yesterday.

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A loyal reader who shall remain nameless, emailed me to ask is this chick’s butt real?

Hey Sandra how are you? I was forwarded that attachment via email and asked was that real. I responded saying the the girls thighs match but I didn’t know. I figured you being a registered nurse you would know better than I. Can you please do a medical minute on hydrogel butt shots that all these girls seem to be getting these days.

I’m the wrong person to ask this question because (a) my eyes naturally gravitate to a woman’s face first rather than her assets, and (b) nowhere in the medical field do we administer butt injections filled with hydrogel or silicone.

Besides, I prefer chicks whose parts are proportionate to the rest of her body. She can be big or small, short or tall, but the parts have to match.

But if I had to take a wild guess, I would say she’s a fraud. Isn’t it funny how black men don’t mind dating women who are frauds inside and out?

According to a source inside rapper T.I.’s camp, the “King of the South” considered checking himself into drug rehab upon returning to Atlanta following a drug bust in California.

The source who requested anonymity said T.I. and his camp contemplated checking him into a drug rehab facility to prove to the judge that he was serious about kicking his habit.

Entering drug rehab has worked in favor of drug addled celebrities such as Lindsay Lohan and Paris Hilton, who were shown leniency by the courts following their drug arrests.

T.I. and his wife Tameka “Tiny” Cottle were arrested on drug charges after he pulled an illegal U-turn on busy Sunset Boulevard in West Hollywood on September 1st.

According to the source, T.I. rented a $300,000 Maybach because he owns a similar one in Atlanta, and because he wanted to drive himself around the city he considers his 2nd home.

The couple’s bodyguards were in separate vehicles — one in front and one trailing behind the Maybach.

According to TMZ, the L.A. County District Attorney dismissed the drug charges against T.I. because he was already sentenced to 11 months in prison by a Georgia judge for violating his probation.

Additionally, there were legal problems associated with the case. One of which involves probable cause, which the cop may not have had to search the vehicle.

The cop claimed he smelled marijuana during the traffic stop, but there was no weed found in the car. There was no registration check run on the vehicle which would have shown the car was rented. Therefore, any evidence found inside the vehicle could have been left there by a previous occupant.

Following his arrest on the west coast, T.I. was ordered back to Atlanta immediately by his federal probation officer. He tested positive for drugs the next day. It was during this time that T.I. considered entering a drug rehab program.

“I had many problems from my childhood. Now I am down to the disease of addiction,” T.I. told a judge during his Oct. 15 revocation hearing. “I need help. For me, my mother my kids. I need the court to give me mercy. Judge, don’t send me back to prison.”


The debut episode of VH1’s much talked about ex-wife and baby mama reality series “Football Wives” premiered on Sunday, Oct. 24.

The show about the behind-the-scenes lives of football stars’ baby mamas, gold diggers and groupies featured DRAMA DRAMA DRAMA… One of the cast members has already been booted off the show according to TMZ.

During Sunday night’s premiere episode — there was one official cast member missing from the show, Mercedes Nelson (left) … reportedly the ex-girlfriend of Dallas Cowboys running back Marion Barber.

Multiple sources involved with the production tell us hell broke loose while the girls were taping a scene recently … after Nelson “flipped out” and threw a bunch of tabletop items at Chanita Foster (right).

We’re told producers shut down production and “came to an agreement” that it would be best for Mercedes to leave the show because it just “wasn’t for her.”

We all know that it takes a lot to get booted off one of VH1’s unrealistic reality shows. Which means Mercedes must have went off script and got a little extra with her ad libs. VH1 can’t afford to have rogue ex-girlfriends going off script and costing them millions in unnecessary lawsuits.


Meanwhile, back at the ranch, tongues are wagging after Deion’s wife, Pilar Sanders was a no-show to the VH1 “Football Wives” Premiere Party at Lemon Bar in Dallas, Texas.

They say Pilar held her own premiere party and didn’t invite any of the other “Football Wives” — who probably wouldn’t have shown up anyway.

Why are they so angry with her? Pilar could probably buy and sell the other Football Wives and they know this.

PICTURED ABOVE: Melani Ismail, Amanda Davis, Chanita Foster, Dawn Neufeld, Brittany Pigrenet, Erin McBriar