Justthefab.com bumped into actress Gabrielle Union at the UrbanWorld Film festival this past weekend.
When asked why she thinks so many successful, intelligent, independent black women are single, Gabby said, “I think [women] struggle” with giving power to men.
“My girlfriends and I are very independent,” said Union, 40. “We’ve been doing it WELL on our own for a long time, and sometimes that’s hard to give up a little power — to sort of acquiesce to another person and let somebody else lead sometimes — or all the time.”
Union, who is probably more familiar with being successful and lonely than most women, explained why she chose to date a much younger man (NBA star Dwyane Wade).
“Men who are in our age range also have a lot of options (read: gold diggers), and maybe sometimes it’s easier to go younger with a lot less expectation,” she said.
Gabby, who has put her storied dating history behind her, has been in a longterm relationship with Wade, 30, who left his wife for her. Union has had to dodge home wrecker accusations but she understands that most women will identify with the scorned ex-wife rather than with the woman who saved a young man from a bad marriage.
Union summed it all up by saying, “We’re up against a lot, but I think the person we see in the mirror is our biggest obstacle.”
Very well said!
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I admit, I do struggle with that as well. I wont let a guy buy anything for me.. I guess be/c I have the mentality of ” He spends, you owe.” I try to break out of that. but I was raised by my mother.. and she held it down by herself. So I learned to be independent naturally.
she understands that most women will identify with the scorned ex-wife rather than with the woman who saved a young man from a bad marriage.
i dont like Gabs liquid pancake/foundation whatever the hayle its called.Her dress is seXXXy doe. I dont care enough for her to listen to what she has to say
I just dont
Somebody needs to sit her tits out in the sun for a few minutes…
Sorry but she told the truff! and she aint 40 yet!
Have to lurk now see yall later… or tomorrow…
How many ladies in the house?
How many ladies in the house without a spouse?
Somethin’ in your blouse got me feelin’ so aroused
What you about on that independent shit
Trade it all for a husband and some kids
You ever wonder what it all really mean
You wonder if you’ll ever find your dreams
You have to let a man be the head I think a lot of us were raised by single parents and we saw them do it by themselves them we get the mentality that I only need a man for one thing and that’s just not true in this day and age both sexes no longer know their roles anymore
i mean…did the red sea part? did the bish turn water into wine *holds out my glass* :rollseyes: she aint saying shyt that anybody else hasnt said…girl, see yewwwwwwww..
i hate when someone “known” says some regular ass shyt and im s’posed to be impressed
Frank Ski was just talkn about this on the radio earlier this week about the single independent women in ATL
If hard to let someone lead sometimes….right pretty sure u had no problems being lead to the bedroom
but anyways you can be independent without being inconsiderate to a your SO’s feeling.
If hard to let someone lead sometimes….right pretty sure u had no problems being lead to the bedroom
but anyways you can be independent without being inconsiderate to a your SO’s feeling.
I don’t know my role or how to shut my mouth so I will be single for the foreseeable future.
and she needs to be discussing her vitilago (sp?) tidday anydamnways..
WUT’S YONI IS DELICIOUS WITH COOL WHIP says:
Somebody needs to sit her tits out in the sun for a few minutes…
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Union summed it all up by saying, “We’re up against a lot, but I think the person we see in the mirror is our biggest obstacle.”
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oh so nooowww we quoting MJ songs as advice??
I like the dress. My boobs would look good in it. #itiswhatitis
<—Ain't even trying to hear what she talmbout though
Please exit stage left @Bad!
I hate it when somebody foundation dont mach they dam skin..
Bad Influence says:
i mean…did the red sea part? did the bish turn water into wine *holds out my glass* she aint saying shyt that anybody else hasnt said…girl, see yewwwwwwww..
i hate when someone “known” says some regular ass shyt and im s’posed to be impressed
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^^^THIS all day…look both ways before you cross the street…no chit
Men who are in our age range also have a lot of options (read: gold diggers)
I agree with this slore. I mean, i’m independent (I don’t like asking anyone for anything and I was raised in a 2 parent household) but I do not let that get in the way of letting a man be a man. Its funny that all the blame on why we are lonely gets put on us. How about we check these negroes out? Huh? Ask why they would rather wife up a bustdown instead of a good woman, or why they feel like we have lower our standards for em? Or why so many of them have these unrealistic views on what their perfect woman should be?
I see it alll the time here in DC
YSoSrs says:
I don’t know my role or how to shut my mouth so I will be single for the foreseeable future.
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I was an independent woman and it took me a long time to let my husband “think” he is running things.
She need to sit her two-toned azz down
YALL Ain’t SHYT for that Vitilago titay reference!!
<—-has no problem letting the man lead….I just have a hard time finding men who actually WANT to…
I finished my bag of david’s pumpkin seeds before lunch!
I KNOW I run it (in every relationship) BUT I let them believe they run it. Ish ain’t rocket science, gone somewhere gabbrielle!
MIAmixtapes says:
If hard to let someone lead sometimes….right pretty sure u had no problems being lead to the bedroom
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Bad Influence says:
and she needs to be discussing her vitilago (sp?) tidday anydamnways..
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Union, who is probably more familiar with being successful and lonely than most women
OKAY she is doing too much talking DWade MUST be creeping again
yall independent women keep doing it BIG!!! BY YOUR DAMN self…..
there is a difference between independent and interdependent…. GOOGLE it!!! yall younger ladies got to let a man be a MAN !!! it is too bad some of them never had proper training how but YOU can’t make or teach him how to be one
signed HAPPILY,married for 21 years
@ Xena I agree we as women need to let your man be the MAN in the relationship.
@Yso I have the same problem knowing when to shut my mouth but luckily my man is use to it by now.
Wait…are we discussing why there are so many SINGLE independent women or why there are so many SUCCESSFUL and single independent women?
Cause the addition of that ONE word breaks it into two different types of problems with two different causes.
Just saying…
FTP_L@kEz*.* says:
I hate it when somebody foundation dont mach they dam skin..
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Lakes a coworker purchased some bleaching cream online and her face was light skinned and her neck was Akon’s complexion. I laughed at her azz for about a month. That shyt had her looking like Doug Christie (Powder)
@Gyps, why i gotta go??
im a nice person..
@Naija, mhm…i could have done without this post..
Yup GG!
is that baby powder on her tit?
I tried to date he would I would only see him like about 2-3 hours at a time. My kids were gone for the weekend and he came over I swear at the 3 hour mark I wanted him to go home. That nig got comfy.I asked if he was tynna stay and he looked all stoopit! Needless to say I don’t see a relationship brewing cause I don’t like ppl enough.
TY
HOW UR FACE POWDER WHITE AND UR ESSKING BOO BLACK? 
OR UR DAM ESSKING SEE THRU BUT UR FACE ORANGE OR PANK? 
Gigi26 says:
Men who are in our age range also have a lot of options (read: gold diggers)
Sandra you are a mess!!
I agree with this slore. I mean, i’m independent (I don’t like asking anyone for anything and I was raised in a 2 parent household) but I do not let that get in the way of letting a man be a man. Its funny that all the blame on why we are lonely gets put on us. How about we check these negroes out? Huh? Ask why they would rather wife up a bustdown instead of a good woman, or why they feel like we have lower our standards for em? Or why so many of them have these unrealistic views on what their perfect woman should be?
I see it alll the time here in DC
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awww Gigi i aspire 2 be shyt
hey LuVn_
@$! my bish *bewb grab*
Fat Girl
Ain’t nobody thinking about what gabby’s talking about. She don’t even know
@Bad right!! Jut cuz a celebrity said it noooowww everybody acts like they God of relationships..Likkkeee Steve Harvey…ohhh sooo you chics finna take relationship advice from a stand up comedian that used hedging shears for a line up
dancerbee93 says:
oh so nooowww we quoting MJ songs as advice??
umm SASHAY your azz to the —->
Have a __/ boo… I cant rock with this broad..
<< HMMPH!
Twin :2dance: Nothing Compares To You
i can’t stand steve harvey *throws a shoe*
the guys that are usually complaining about ‘independent women’ are the ain’t chit nigguhs so ummm yeah…
no other ish happening in the media
twin :2dance: <— diamonds and pearls
@His
Gigi26 says:
Men who are in our age range also have a lot of options (read: gold diggers)
Sandra you are a mess!!
I agree with this slore. I mean, i’m independent (I don’t like asking anyone for anything and I was raised in a 2 parent household) but I do not let that get in the way of letting a man be a man. Its funny that all the blame on why we are lonely gets put on us. How about we check these negroes out? Huh? Ask why they would rather wife up a bustdown instead of a good woman, or why they feel like we have lower our standards for em? Or why so many of them have these unrealistic views on what their perfect woman should be?
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It aint even enough time in the day for all them questions GiGi
but the busted Down chic question is an easy one.
It might be kinda hard to get from a womans POV but its easy to figure out…
IMO..i think the roles of women has changed so much in the last 50 years that some dude dont know where to fit in.
Jut cuz a celebrity said it noooowww everybody acts like they God of relationships..Likkkeee Steve Harvey…ohhh sooo you chics finna take relationship advice from a stand up comedian that used hedging shears for a line up
OR that former reformed whore Meghan Goode. Her hubby probably baptizes her sodomite ass every day, that’s how filthy she is
Chile cheese! She ain’t saying nothing new…
S/N: @gigi I will be in d.c. in december for the first time, I’m actually going to see syleena johnson perform. I’m so excited!
52.Is that a CHALLENGE Laker?
*starts whooping piggie to get her fired up*
@TY
You just had to find Sharpie Lo’s little brother for your Gravi? That Negro always copycatting. Ever since they was drawing their hairlines with Crayolas.
yall younger ladies got to let a man be a MAN
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For example.. Stop bringin your strap on in the bedroom… let his dickle be great for once dammit!
Steve Harveys movie/book was basically common fukking sense that our mamas, grandmamas, grandmamas mamas, and grandmamas grandmama’s been telling us for CENTURIES.
He aint originate a thing! It’s just these silly tramps would rather listen to him because he has a penis and therefore, he simply MUST be dropping some new wisdom.
:eyeroll:
FTP_L@kEz*.* says:
I hate it when somebody foundation dont mach they dam skin..
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That chit is so annoying ol powder face azz UGH
@AWESOME
I swear I love your gravie!
awesome! *whispersing come hither words in ur ear*
IMO..i think the roles of women has changed so much in the last 50 years that some dude dont know where to fit in.
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I agree with you or some of em are so mammy-fied that they don’t want to fit in….
dancerbee93 says:
@Bad right!! Jut cuz a celebrity said it noooowww everybody acts like they God of relationships..Likkkeee Steve Harvey…ohhh sooo you chics finna take relationship advice from a stand up comedian that used hedging shears for a line up
GIRL didn’t i send you to the
YOU BOUTS to get me fired I am in here laughing all loud BECKY getting nervous!!!
YSoSrs says:
@TY
You just had to find Sharpie Lo’s little brother for your Gravi? That Negro always copycatting. Ever since they was drawing their hairlines with Crayolas.
They’ve stepped their game up 
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candibfly says:
i can’t stand steve harvey *throws a shoe*
“Back by popular demand. You asked for it! He added another show just for you”
Them commercials
wait GG…Megan Good was sloring it around? i must have missed it…cause i know it was absolute news to me when she got married
Brown
I see im not the only one.. But then agaane I dont konw shait about no makeup 
YALL **BEATS UR PIGGY WITH MY GRAVI CANE** NOW CATCH UP!
dancerbee93 says:
yall younger ladies got to let a man be a MAN
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For example.. Stop bringin your strap on in the bedroom… let his dickle be great for once dammit!
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Michelle Obama is here in Chicago and she will be taping for Steve Harvey’s new show.
4xALady says:
Steve Harveys movie/book was basically common fukking sense that our mamas, grandmamas, grandmamas mamas, and grandmamas grandmama’s been telling us for CENTURIES.
He aint originate a thing! It’s just these silly tramps would rather listen to him because he has a penis and therefore, he simply MUST be dropping some new wisdom.
cause unless this nigguh works the 3rd shift, he’s only calling your ass at 1am for 1 thing only…but I digress
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I will be in d.c. in december for the first time, I’m actually going to see syleena johnson perform. I’m so excited!
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Yaay!! Ahh where is she performing? I want to help her upgrade her look
4xALady says:
Steve Harveys movie/book was basically common fukking sense that our mamas, grandmamas, grandmamas mamas, and grandmamas grandmama’s been telling us for CENTURIES.
He aint originate a thing! It’s just these silly tramps would rather listen to him because he has a penis and therefore, he simply MUST be dropping some new wisdom.
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MsDallas, I like her voice!
Igo, I agree, because these cats don’t know ish! Gotta date up nowadays
YSoSrs says:
Michelle Obama is here in Chicago and she will be taping for Steve Harvey’s new show.
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NNNNNNNNNNNNNNOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO…now I’m sad
This nanner with penut butter is hitting the fukn esspot!
Gigi26 says:
IMO..i think the roles of women has changed so much in the last 50 years that some dude dont know where to fit in.
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I agree with you or some of em are so mammy-fied that they don’t want to fit in….
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But thats when you gotta look at the Women that claimed they dont need a man…then put all of their attention on their sons.
But thats when you gotta look at the Women that claimed they dont need a man…then put all of their attention on their sons.
Yup. Won’t argue with you there sir
Laker I can’t see gravis
BUT it’s ON!
(fitted with helium panteez and bra set)
*yells out Sucka as I pass you by*
yeah HOW did Megan Good (head) MANAGE to get married and to the REVEREND at that BEFORE ALL THESE HO’S !!!!!
OMG PLEASE look at the dude’s relationship with his mother first I ALMOST was expecting Jonetta to tongue-kiss USHER on O special she act like he is HER MAN not her son TAMEKA should have SAW THAT SHYT walking before she got with him!!!!
Feefster! #33
Big difference between being independent and not having anyone to depend on…..
Feef, what’s your email address please?
Also….
A lot of successful women are single because simply put: their standards are probably higher.
A lot of men choose bustdowns instead of good women because: their standards are lower.
Qui-Qui is okay with Lil Ray staying home most of the day, playing playstation, eating up all the Cap’N Crunch and drinking the milk straight out the carton. He takes her to the movie and Red Lobster once a month, blows her back out nightly and they’ll live happily ever after because Qui-Qui would rather have Lil Ray than nobody. He’s good just because he doesn’t cheat or beat her.
Rhonda with a job paying over $70k is probably going to want Raymond to contribute to the bills, help save money for a NEW house, go half on vacation, give nice gifts for holidays/bdays and STILL blow her back out nightly. As well as still be loyal, faithful and gentle.
Plainly put: There will always be a lot of Rhonda’s out here, as long as there are plenty of Qui-Qui’s to meet the demand. Qui-Qui requires less.
FTP_L@kEz*.* says:
This nanner with penut butter is hitting the fukn esspot!
forgive me…i'm emotional and chit today. 
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<— misses the nanner
Where does he film Yso? Do you know? IONO
Oh, yall really don’t like Gabby huh?!?
@Razzle: Meghan was got fukked off by a couple of rappers and some football players.
@FeFe
I can change your life if you let me
HELLO EVERYONE
Candi!!!
*starts and episode that would make @Wut blush*
But thats when you gotta look at the Women that claimed they dont need a man…then put all of their attention on their sons.
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Even they damn sons be like “you aint got no dyck life line momma?” 
Hey 4! Why Rhonda gotta pay half on the vacay though? LOL.
Razzle no need fo tears **gives u a chiqita banana** why juu all up in ur feelings?
I’m married and don’t feel I NEED a man. There is not one thing my husband can do with me or for me that I wouldn’t be able to accomplish alone. Nothing.
4xALady says:
Also….
A lot of successful women are single because simply put: their standards are probably higher.
A lot of men choose bustdowns instead of good women because: their standards are lower.
Qui-Qui is okay with Lil Ray staying home most of the day, playing playstation, eating up all the Cap’N Crunch and drinking the milk straight out the carton. He takes her to the movie and Red Lobster once a month, blows her back out nightly and they’ll live happily ever after because Qui-Qui would rather have Lil Ray than nobody. He’s good just because he doesn’t cheat or beat her.
Rhonda with a job paying over $70k is probably going to want Raymond to contribute to the bills, help save money for a NEW house, go half on vacation, give nice gifts for holidays/bdays and STILL blow her back out nightly. As well as still be loyal, faithful and gentle.
Plainly put: There will always be a lot of Rhonda’s out here, as long as there are plenty of Qui-Qui’s to meet the demand. Qui-Qui requires less.
…you should never be with an “At Least” Nigguh…at least he got a job…at least he see all his kids…at least he don’t beat me, etc
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Gigi26 says:
@Razzle: Meghan was got fukked off by a couple of rappers and some football players.
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this must have been when she gained that weight and was addicted to those fat pills
Alottadat!
@Wut.. Look into self publishing and selling your short stories on amazon…. They have a kindle area for that…
Steve Harvey’s book only made me mad cause women were reading it and thinking it was the bible. He wasn’t telling any secrets. That shyt was common sense and because he was known and a man women thought he was letting on some man codes. No maam. This is what you should have already known.He found a market and tapped into it and it worked for him. Not mad at hustle at all. I bet them same women that followed those rules are still single.
As long as there is a low-esteem bishes out there, ahhh never mind, yall already know this ish…..
@Nikke
Yeeepppp…all my life I’ve dealt with men who COULD be better, but they were so dependent on my strong suits that they happily got complacent…I was ready to step back and let them take the lead, but the drive on their part just wasn’t there…now hubby wants to wear an ‘S’ on his chest after he done showed his ass and abused me in more ways than one…now he wanna be super husband and shyt…
muhfukka still ain’t capable in my eyes!
email is caramelcomplex hotmail
@Gigi/IGo
Oh wait….boo…look here!
Don’t even get me started on these mammy-fied men who scream how they are supposed to be “head of the household” and the “man of the house” and you need to “let them be a man” and aint got nary a fukkin CLUE on what that means!
I just ranted and raved about that with my friends for two days STRAIGHT last week! Don’t get me started! It’s an issue I’m having now. And for that reason, I probably will not ever date/deal with another man who did not have a strong and lasting REAL male presence in the house.
I could type a damn thesis on my issue with this topic right now.
Chilee!!
*walks off to go get some wine to calm down*
Igo, I agree, because these cats don’t know ish! Gotta date up nowadays
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It aint that they dont know?
Its just that we are only gonna give you what you let us.
But most of yall dont know your roll with what dude
For instance
A chic could be talking to two dudes right?
Well one dude she’s just fking and hes the 2am Im gonna call you late and come through and beat it up dude. (AND not that there is anything wrong with that.. cause yall need to get it in too)
But the second dude is the dude you go out with
chill with and hang with…he respects you.
and most of the time the chic has him on some “we aint fking until Im ready shait”
Ole girl REALLY wants the 2 a.m. dude but dont realize that she is in the 3rd role (which I like to call the bust down role)
and MOST dont go up the role ladder Just DOWN.
She picking the wrong dude to set her sights on…
FTP_L@kEz*.* says:
Razzle no need fo tears **gives u a chiqita banana** why juu all up in ur feelings?
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oh I wasnt talking about the fruit
NaijaGal says:
…you should never be with an “At Least” Nigguh…at least he got a job…at least he see all his kids…at least he don’t beat me, etc
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Alex ain’t never met no Martin LuthadaKing says:
@FeFe
I can change your life if you let me
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ALEX
Qui-Qui is okay with Lil Ray staying home most of the day, playing playstation, eating up all the Cap’N Crunch and drinking the milk straight out the carton. He takes her to the movie and Red Lobster once a month, blows her back out nightly and they’ll live happily ever after because Qui-Qui would rather have Lil Ray than nobody. He’s good just because he doesn’t cheat or beat her.
but truth! That’s what i’m trying to say, I know the answers to these questions but Gabby ain’t saying shyt that her own ass had to learn. Lets stop asking women this shyt and start asking these niggas. After all, they the ones choosing aren’t they? 
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I hatechu
Alex ain’t never met no Martin LuthadaKing says:
Oh, yall really don’t like Gabby huh?!?
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I just dont like her pancake on her Face.
Well can she explain why she look casket sharp in the face??
Um really
*kicks in this door looking for Luvn*
@Nikke
(Shhh! I was trying to say “half” before the men in here pounced on the whole “but wait- why he gotta pay for the WHOLE thing?!” rant. Trying to get 10 points for the ladies. Ya’ll know what I meant, though.
)
@Yall
@Alex
:wave: Jenie/MsFash
ALEX
HEYYYYYY @BADDD!!!
:wave: Nikki!
Ms.Fashion says:
Well can she explain why she look casket sharp in the face??
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@Nikke
Wheres’s my drink?
@Yall
I take it back.
Hey MsDiva
@Naija
Put down that popcorn!!! lol
@4x
Please don’t get the game fukked up…it all depends on the MAN! My husband came from a Huxtable type household…had an alpha male type of father who he was very close to…and he STILL had no clue on how to be a proper head of household…
SON :2dance: How Many Yall Know About The Quake
We Do!
It aint that they dont know?
Its just that we are only gonna give you what you let us.
MsDivaRo says
*kicks in this door looking for Luvn*
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say Wut nahh??
FeFe says:
<—-has no problem letting the man lead….I just have a hard time finding men who actually WANT to…
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@FeFe
*sigh* Yes, you are right. Sharing e-coochie. smh
FeFe says:
@Alex
careful…folks might think we are SLEEPING together and that you are cutting my coochie
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too late…yall are now a lesbian couple who met off sandra rose…you left your husband to be with Alex and now the Leviticus thumpers are gonna come after you…uh huh that’s right
Some women just have a man to say she isn’t single. I will not tolerate that at all. I can do bad by myself.
HARLEM!!
You know you liked that.
<–knows that all men ain't ish unless they ready to be.
Fi, their mothers screw them UP!
Razzle eww juu nawwsti
So juu on dry island? 
:fistbump: @4!
Know your roll and he might let you use the warm towel first…might
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FeFe says:
@4x
Please don’t get the game fukked up…it all depends on the MAN! My husband came from a Huxtable type household…had an alpha male type of father who he was very close to…and he STILL had no clue on how to be a proper head of household…_
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Wow
@Gigi
“Lets stop asking women this shyt and start asking these niggas. After all, they the ones choosing aren’t they?”
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See? THIS is the problem, though. In the traditional “male/female” roles as should be- the WOMAN is supposed to pick which MAN should lead her and carry her household.
The govt put out some bs stats about their being a “man shortage” and all of a sudden women became okay with getting chose by whatever Rayquan, Day-Day or Peanut that liked her azz enough to bequeath her with his worthless presence, rather than CHOOSING as she is supposed to.
THAT’S why the situation is what it is now. The above issue is what made the Qui-Qui’s. It’s just the Rhonda’s now are outnumbered by Qui-Qui’s. And with so many males being gay or such now, there is an even more panicked frenzy about “running out of men.” So every hour of every day, a new Qui-Qui who don’t want watch from her man…is created.
MissHarlem says:
ALEX
@You
I know I had dialed those 7 digits a short while ago…..
Alex ain’t never met no Martin LuthadaKing says:
@Naija
see #137
Put down that popcorn!!! lol
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Women have allowed being Independent to be a hinderance, it is no longer a characteristic! It’s because there are a lot of women out there who won’t allow the men to be the head and that’s because he neglects the body!! What I’m saying a lot of these boys don’t know how to take care of a home because of their fathers and their neglect in teaching them to be responsible and showing them what being a MAN entails.
Yso, did you see my Q?
@Naija
Yep, especially since Alex talks to me on Twitter and tells me stuff…the fact that I BELIEVE that she is going to Paris next year means that I am her lover and she has wooed me with her pillow talk….that bish ain’t really going to Paris!
Scandal comes on TONIGHT!!!!!!
NaijaGal says:
FeFe says:
@Alex
You ain’t right!!
careful…folks might think we are SLEEPING together and that you are cutting my coochie
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too late…yall are now a lesbian couple who met off sandra rose…you left your husband to be with Alex and now the Leviticus thumpers are gonna come after you…uh huh that’s right
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Trying to make a booty call into a relationship…flukked the game all up…These chics act like they aint neva got dicked down good and this nucca in love with them..ohhh nooo hunty thats why he left you in the wet spot…Know your roll and he might let you use the warm towel first…might
GLORAY!! You speak that word….
FTP_L@kEz*.* says:
Razzle eww juu nawwsti So juu on dry island?
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Thus me being emotional and chit…buzzing aint nuffun like the real thing
GIGI darling
MSDIVA hey boo
MSFASHION
SOOONNNNNNN :2dance: you stay having us jamming
Yup MsB
where is kdub?
NaijaGal says:
How many ladies in the house?
How many ladies in the house without a spouse?
Somethin’ in your blouse got me feelin’ so aroused
What you about on that independent ****
Damn I don’t I familar with this depressing song.
Trade it all for a husband and some kids
You ever wonder what it all really mean
You wonder if you’ll ever find your dreams
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Hey baby girl
Morning Errybody
gypsyeyes says:
Some women just have a man to say she isn’t single. I will not tolerate that at all. I can do bad by myself.
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*dont want much from her man
@Smurfette
I can believe that…his mother babies the SHYT out of him!
Razzle no it aint
yallcrazy says:
MissHarlem says:
ALEX
She gotchew back for me (without even knowing)
Don’t nobody care bout HER!
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FeFe says:
@Naija
Yep, especially since Alex talks to me on Twitter and tells me stuff…the fact that I BELIEVE that she is going to Paris next year means that I am her lover and she has wooed me with her pillow talk….that bish ain’t really going to Paris!
Ummmm Can I get jealous, to make this an all out brawl affair
Fay
USUAL
this is off Kanye’s Graduation Album…it’s called I Wonder…it’s actually quite a deep song…how are you feeling luv
I saw a chick on FB yesterday bragging bout being the sideho3 to another sideho3 for the same dude
I was like really 
u think being the side is cute 
Fi, you couldn’t be my friend, I use “pillow talk” on the regular yo!
#ikidikid #youmyfriendinmyhead
and some feel like they can’t go through life being single
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Right!! Thats why they try to put a dyck in every orafice at one time and then look at dude like why he dont love me?? BISH you loving the crew!!!
MISSH
hello beautiful…so happy to have your presence 
THAT’S why the situation is what it is now. The above issue is what made the Qui-Qui’s. It’s just the Rhonda’s now are outnumbered by Qui-Qui’s. And with so many males being gay or such now, there is an even more panicked frenzy about “running out of men.” So every hour of every day, a new Qui-Qui who don’t want watch from her man…is created.
YSO
ALEX Im not at my desk which means barely no work today. Only reason why I am gonna be on here today. You aint get away
FeFe says:
@Naija
Yep, especially since Alex talks to me on Twitter and tells me stuff…the fact that I BELIEVE that she is going to Paris next year means that I am her lover and she has wooed me with her pillow talk….that bish ain’t really going to Paris!
Even after I offer you a free trip in my luggage you not gon believe me?!? It’s ok. Moving on. I was trying to be all romantical and stuff. Sheesh.
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Gigi26 says:
Trying to make a booty call into a relationship…flukked the game all up…These chics act like they aint neva got dicked down good and this nucca in love with them..ohhh nooo hunty thats why he left you in the wet spot…Know your roll and he might let you use the warm towel first…might
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I agree ith you GIGI – Some of these chics that claim they just want to get dycked down. Go in hard and then get sprung. Just be honest, and be like look I want a booty call and hopefully if you are nice I may catch feelings. It’s remarkable what honesty will do for you.
Harlem
MsDivaRo says:
Jenie/MsFash
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HEY BEW!!!
luVn_liFe… says:
MsDivaRo says
*kicks in this door looking for Luvn*
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say Wut nahh??
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Why was I left by myself two flights downstairs? Not one…but TWO!
@YALL
I don’t know where Steve’s taping his show. I know that the FLOTUS will also be stopping by Harpo Studios today. Maybe that’s where he is? I might have missed something there.
dancerbee93 says:
and some feel like they can’t go through life being single
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Right!! Thats why they try to put a dyck in every orafice at one time and then look at dude like why he dont love me?? BISH you loving the crew!!!
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NaijaGal says:
FeFe says:
@Alex
careful…folks might think we are SLEEPING together and that you are cutting my coochie
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too late…yall are now a lesbian couple who met off sandra rose…you left your husband to be with Alex and now the Leviticus thumpers are gonna come after you…uh huh that’s right
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Phewwww…
Finally out the cross hairs
Thanks ALEX
@Smurfette
That’s the best I’ve seen delusional home-wrecker look in a while. Women (and men) kill me how they will try to overlook personal transgressions and then come off as being likeable and ‘above’ it all. At the end of the day, a thorn is still a thorn.
4xALady says:
Also….
A lot of successful women are single because simply put: their standards are probably higher.
A lot of men choose bustdowns instead of good women because: their standards are lower.
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AGREED
@You
I’m about to cut you loose.
I don’t want to talk to you here!!
@Alex
I know…and I want to believe what you told me…but if I do that means we are SLEEPING together! *kicks dirt*
Bad Influence says:
i mean…did the red sea part? did the bish turn water into wine *holds out my glass* she aint saying shyt that anybody else hasnt said…girl, see yewwwwwwww..
i hate when someone “known” says some regular ass shyt and im s’posed to be impressed
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So let me get this right because I am married means I am helpless or in need of guidance? I think she has her definition of union mixed up. I get so sick of hearing women being labeled due to their relationship status; being single does not give you a fuking extra prize in the Cracker Jack box. Anytime you are a women handling your business with or without a man means you are the shyt.
Don’t nobody care bout HER!
^^^^^^ LIES TOLD ON SR
NAIJA bonita how you doing?
FAYYYLLLLAAAAA hewwo. Are you post office friendly?
I refuse to let my children see a man living off of me or disrespecting me just to say I have a man and to keep my bed warm. Now if we have something and we are building together that is something different. When I leave the house you better be leaving the house unless it’s vacay, you work 3rd shift or it’s your day off. Same rule applies to kids over 18 and graduated.
@Fefe
Girl! I got a real problem on my hands. Dudes these days are just not built how they used to be.
Ask one of these new dudes now to slide up under a car and change some oil, rotate some tires and check your transmission fluid and their azzes are looking at YOU like THEY’RE scared to break a damn nail.
Sh*t!
Dont. Get. Me. Started. Ta-Day!
@Baby Girl – I don’t know what the hell I just typed…But I guess you got it.
Graduation – The first album, I thought I knew all the words, on of my favs…
Aside from not typing well, I’m actually feeling GREAT! Hanging in there
HOLDING OUT, UNTIL I PASS OUT 
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jeniefrumdabloc says:
I saw a chick on FB yesterday bragging bout being the sideho3 to another sideho3 for the same dude I was like really u think being the side is cute
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Say what now Jenie
ques Monica “Sideline Ho” 
I Go There says:
Phewwww…
Finally out the cross hairs
Thanks ALEX
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gypsyeyes says:
I refuse to let my children see a man living off of me or disrespecting me just to say I have a man and to keep my bed warm. Now if we have something and we are building together that is something different. When I leave the house you better be leaving the house unless it’s vacay, you work 3rd shift or it’s your day off. Same rule applies to kids over 18 and graduated.
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@Gypsy
My cousin CATCHES THE BUS every morning and her baby daddy walks her to the bus stop and walks back home and does NOTHING ALLL DAY while she’s a work
But I bet she thinks he is being a man by making sure she get to the bus stop safely. Expectations are so low.
Aryanna says:
4xALady says:
Also….
A lot of successful women are single because simply put: their standards are probably higher.
A lot of men choose bustdowns instead of good women because: their standards are lower.
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AGREED
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I dont think it actually because of their standars but it might have to do with the fact tha the busdown actually shows appreciation a bit more..if you will
Like you got a successful chic thats doing for herself… a dude has to really be secure in his shait to deal with that.. like going out.. he may take her out to a nice restaruant a movie maybe a lil spot and she is like…”
Thats natural…its what you should be doing and it dong garner you and points for the booty and whatnot”
But that “Bussdown” is looking at it like… damn he is making an effort to do someting with me and I can really appreciate that…due to the fact that she might not get that ofter from dudes she has fked with in the past… to her thats something fking special… so she treats it as such.
Ego stroked
advantage
Bustdown
Alex ain’t never met no Martin LuthadaKing says:
@You
I’m about to cut you loose.
I don’t want to talk to you here!!
She is putting her foot DOWN
Expectations are so low.
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expectations are beyond low. there are a lot of women that don’t require anything from their counterpart except for some dack. and half the time they aint doing that right. Keep ur expectations high ladies. these men only do what u let them do!
Like you got a successful chic thats doing for herself… a dude has to really be secure in his shait to deal with that.. like going out.. he may take her out to a nice restaruant a movie maybe a lil spot and she is like…”
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That’s a simple azz woman, that’s needs to be checked and needs to be by herself. You ain’t got to eat 5 star everytime you go out. Go get a smoothie, go to the gym together, ride a bike. I hate when these chics like he wanted to take me to applebees. What else wer you going to do? Feed your cat and eat left overs? I’m not saying settle, I’m saying give a nicca a break. If you trying to make something out of the realtionship.
Usual Prime Suspect says:
Like you got a successful chic thats doing for herself… a dude has to really be secure in his shait to deal with that.. like going out.. he may take her out to a nice restaruant a movie maybe a lil spot and she is like…”
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That’s a simple azz woman, that’s needs to be checked and needs to be by herself. You ain’t got to eat 5 star everytime you go out. Go get a smoothie, go to the gym together, ride a bike. I hate when these chics like he wanted to take me to applebees. What else wer you going to do? Feed your cat and eat left overs? I’m not saying settle, I’m saying give a nicca a break. If you trying to make something out of the realtionship.
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But that comes with her comfort level as well
like if she’s so use to doing that on her own or with friends
its like its second nature…and she isnt thinking about the jesture of it all… SO it really leaves women stuck in a catch 22
Damned if dont Damned if you do.
gypsyeyes says:
…she aint 40 yet!
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All female celebrities shave a few years off their real ages.
Xena68 says:
You have to let a man be the head I think a lot of us were raised by single parents and we saw them do it by themselves them we get the mentality that I only need a man for one thing and that’s just not true in this day and age both sexes no longer know their roles anymore
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But that comes with her comfort level as well
like if she’s so use to doing that on her own or with friends
its like its second nature…and she isnt thinking about the jesture of it all… SO it really leaves women stuck in a catch 22
Damned if dont Damned if you do.
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You are exactly right! Every time I go out with my friends, I’m not going big every time. We looking for specials and bargins. We got car notes and mortages. Gabrielle IS NOT OPRAH and most of these chics out here ain’t. Like I told shorty here at the job, stop letting this chics that ain’t screwing you, set you up for taking them to Ruth Chris, The Chart house. Go to Ruby Tuesday see if she crack her purse, at least pay the tip. When a women is concerenced about how much she you are putting out, she is also thinking about her bottom line. IMO……
Sandra Rose says:
Xena68 says:
You have to let a man be the head I think a lot of us were raised by single parents and we saw them do it by themselves them we get the mentality that I only need a man for one thing and that’s just not true in this day and age both sexes no longer know their roles anymore
dammit! 
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:agree:
Gigi26 says:
Its funny that all the blame on why we are lonely gets put on us.
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Because 99% of the time single women raise men. A woman can’t raise a boy to be a man. End of story. Period!
MrsWDE says:
I was an independent woman and it took me a long time to let my husband “think” he is running things.
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FeFe says:
<—-has no problem letting the man lead….I just have a hard time finding men who actually WANT to… _________________ Once again, blame the single women who raised them.
Union, who is probably more familiar with being successful and lonely than most women, explained why she chose to date a much younger man (NBA star Dwyane Wade).
Gabby, who has put her storied dating history behind her, has been in a longterm relationship with Wade, 30, who left his wife for her. Union has had to dodge home wrecker accusations but she understands that most women will identify with the scorned ex-wife rather than with the woman who saved a young man from a bad marriage.
^^^^^I love you for this Sandra
When you meet a man worthy enough… you will submit. I don’t care who you are. Sometimes, people are caught up in the cycle of living what they see. Just cause your mother didn’t have a man, doesn’t mean that all men are dogs. Get your mindset together and watch what happens.