Are Boundaries Important for Young People?

Todd Tucker and Riley Burruss

Over the weekend, singer Kandi Burruss Instagram’d this holiday image of her fiancé Todd Tucker and her daughter, Riley Burruss, on a Jet Ski. Almost immediately, Twitter erupted with criticism about the close proximity of Todd to Kandi’s daughter on the Jet Ski. Normally I ignore black Twitter’s juvenile attacks on celebrities. But in this case — judging by Riley’s guarded body language — they might be right. Read on.

Riley Burruss and Todd Tucker

Riley is not a little girl anymore. She is at the stage where she is self-conscious and aware of the changes her body is going through. Girls Riley’s age need physical boundaries set (personal space) that should be respected. Having a stepfather who is too close for comfort (so to speak) might be problematic for a young girl who has had more than one stepfather in recent years.

What do you moms think?

Source: Kandi’s Instagram

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    384 Responses to “Are Boundaries Important for Young People?”

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      Betamax82 says:

      IDK I kinda think this is just a harmless pic and I have a big problem with sexualizing a situation :shrug: but I see no harm

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      These days :tea: I don’t put shyt past anyone :tea:

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      Sandra Rose says:

      @ Betamax82: Please read the post before you comment. The question is: Are boundaries important for young people?

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      Betamax82 says:

      Now that Kroy & Brielle something seems off like he waiting for her ass to reach the legal age

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      Betamax82 says:

      Sandra Rose says:

      @ Betamax82: Please read the post before you comment. The question is: Are boundaries important for young people?
      July 8, 2013 at 4:29 pm
      ________________________________

      Sandra um I read the post

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      Gigi26 says:

      Nah, this is just innocent.

      Yeah boundaries are important Sandra but kids are just kids (sometimes). Its situational.

      Sometimes ppl need to stop over analyzing things. That’s how the innocence of children gets tainted so damn young and they no longer have the mind of a “CHILD” :tea:

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      lovezoe says:

      So…. how’s the weather where everyone is?

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      Caramel Rain says:

      *sigh* I have a coworker who’s son in law is “tucking” in her 11 yr old granddaughter at night and the mother (her daughter) knows.. :tea:

      This pic looks harmless but you can never be too careful these days.. I think when little girls start developing, then girls should have their “space” but you shouldn’t have ppl you cant trust around your kids either :shrug:

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      MissHarlem says:

      Im already white fonted so on that note :peace:

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      OutsidetheBox says:

      How much time has to pass for we can comment on the post? Its two paragraphs long sheesh :lol: :no:

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      MissHarlem says:

      Nah, this is just innocent.

      Yeah boundaries are important Sandra but kids are just kids (sometimes). Its situational.

      Sometimes ppl need to stop over analyzing things. That’s how the innocence of children gets tainted so damn young and they no longer have the mind of a “CHILD”
      ^^ :thankyou:

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      OutsidetheBox says:

      Have yall seen Kandi’s nosey ass mama? If yall think anything getting past that lady.. :nono:

      LMAOOOOO Classic Sandra tho. Goodnight all! :wave:

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      Caramel Rain says:

      :lol: @ Beta

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      MsB2u says:

      this is a innocent picture,i swear ppl will make nothing into something

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      OutsidetheBox says:

      Sometimes ppl need to stop over analyzing things. That’s how the innocence of children gets tainted so damn young and they no longer have the mind of a “CHILD”
      __________________

      I am SO curious about a certain someone’s childhood. But :tape: I wanna be around to see my font grow old.

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      Who Dat says:

      What do you moms think?

      ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
      That this ish is kinda ridiculous. Not everybody is a pedo. Where in the hail is he supposed to sit? Deny her riding a jet ski? What if her momma dont know how…. so…she not supposed to ride at all? I think folks need to tend to theirs.

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      ION play that sitting on a lap after a certain age, soooo with that being said. NO to this picture. NO to this cat riding on the same dame jetski. Just NO.

      IMB :tea:

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      Dreadhead85 says:

      To them… in the moment, it may seem harmless, but from the outside looking in, it does look a little weird. But from watching RHOA, Riley seems to be a very outspoken child. So if anything were to be out of place, she’s that girl that will put Kandi up on game. And I wouldn’t believe that (hypothetically in that situation) Kandi would ignore it and stick by her man either. I think he was just showing her how to ride a jet ski. If that were a father and daughter, most people wouldn’t think like that. But like someone said earlier, I don’t put things past anyone these days.

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      Caramel Rain says:

      @ Taken, Chile I thought it was just me! Avery is soo, dry! But I long for the day when Nick and Sharon finally end up together and stay together :love: ah sigh

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      MsB2u says:

      I am SO curious about a certain someone’s childhood. But :tape: I wanna be around to see my font grow old.
      —————————————–
      :cosign:

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      lovezoe says:

      OTB- :alert: :alert:

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      MissHarlem says:

      And boundaries are important for EVERYONE. That includes young, old, middle age, disabled etc *PEWN*

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      Sandra Rose says:

      So no one sees how guarded Riley is? Kandi posted a photo of Todd on the Jet Ski with his own daughter. He’s not sitting that close to her. :shrug:

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      Caramel Rain says:

      OutsidetheBox says:

      Sometimes ppl need to stop over analyzing things. That’s how the innocence of children gets tainted so damn young and they no longer have the mind of a “CHILD”
      __________________

      I am SO curious about a certain someone’s childhood. But I wanna be around to see my font grow old.

      ***************
      Me too :oops: the writing is on the wall tho :kona:

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      I’d rather she been holding on to his waist. What does she need to know how to ‘drive’ this adult machinery for :shrug:

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      Oh no :cell: you must be MissTaken says:

      @ Taken, Chile I thought it was just me! Avery is soo, dry! But I long for the day when Nick and Sharon finally end up together and stay together ah sigh
      by Caramel Rain on Jul 8, 2013
      _______
      They are destroying Sharon’s character but I hope her and nick work it out. And this Dylan and Chelsea storyline sucks. I felt bad for Adam. And billy and Victoria sucks together. She is like his mama. Her hair is always messy like Beyonce :bite: hey OTB

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      MsB2u says:

      lovezoe says:

      So…. how’s the weather where everyone is?
      ——————————
      hot as heck here in TN

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      LadieLeo says:

      OTB from downstairs:
      She calls our other friends and say i aint chit. Yeah I’m chit..or nah? What would yall have said??

      ********************
      so you mean what should have said in response to her sayin you ain’t chit…cause I’m thinking the response could be like well I’ll take not being chit cause I know you emotional and all since you knocked up with a seed from a man that don’t want no parts…….But folk be killing me with that blessing mess, don’t just read the bible how you want to. I know someone who got preg from somebody else husband while she was married and said I prayed for….you know what let me shut up :kona:

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      le sigh

      this pic is innocent imo. of course children need boundaries, but clearly this was out in the open with other people around. surely no one is that stupid if they had ill intent :shrug:

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      Caramel Rain says:

      SHe doesn’t look “guarded”, she looks like she is paying attention to Todd! Its a watercraft. One false move and she could DIE/DROWN!!

      I live on the coast so we grew up riding jet skis and boating..

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      RAE23 says:

      Yes, most definitely, boundaries should be set for young people and those adults involved in the young persons life. I wouldn’t read too much into this photo. It may be very innocent, but I can definitely see how it might be viewed as inappropriate as he seems a little too close for comfort. It is sad but true that pedophiles come in all shapes and sizes. It is up to adults to teach children what is appropriate and what’s not and make them comfortable enough to discuss any situations that may arise that violates them in any way. It’s unfortunate that we live in a society that very easily seems to turn a blind eye to pedophilia. ALWAYS GOT TO KEEP YOUR EYES OPEN!!! :shocked: PEDOPHILIA IS A LOT MORE COMMON THAN ANY OF US WOULD CARE TO BELIEVE! PROTECT YOUR CHILDREN!:karate:

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      Buttercup says:

      Gelly, if you’re in here, I answered you downstairs.

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      Sandra Rose says:

      So no one sees how guarded Riley is? Kandi posted a photo of Todd on the Jet Ski with his own daughter. He’s not sitting that close to her.

      can u post the other pic?

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      Sandra Rose says:

      @ Who Dat: Compare this photo of Todd and his daughter with the photo of Todd and Riley. http://instagram.com/p/bXIcsphJFg/

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      lovezoe says:

      Sandra- You wouldn’t dare post a story like this if it was Zonnique. It seems only certain children are off limits. If it was an issue to you, hit Kandi up privately with your concerns. The question could have been stated without using this picture.

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      Betamax82 says:

      Caramel Rain says:

      SHe doesn’t look “guarded”, she looks like she is paying attention to Todd! Its a watercraft. One false move and she could DIE/DROWN!!
      I live on the coast so we grew up riding jet skis and boating..
      July 8, 2013 at 4:39 pm
      ____________________________________

      Caramel did you see or read about that bad Para sailing accident I think @ Orange Beach

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      LadieLeo says:

      ooohh what she said :blink:

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      *just clicked on the link Sandra posted*

      now i really don’t see the problem :shrug:

      they were posed for the pic (the one with his daughter) while the one with his step-daughter looks candid. just about the same positioning tho.

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      Caramel Rain says:

      Oh no :cell: you must be MissTaken says:

      @ Taken, Chile I thought it was just me! Avery is soo, dry! But I long for the day when Nick and Sharon finally end up together and stay together ah sigh
      by Caramel Rain on Jul 8, 2013
      _______
      They are destroying Sharon’s character but I hope her and nick work it out. And this Dylan and Chelsea storyline sucks. I felt bad for Adam. And billy and Victoria sucks together. She is like his mama. Her hair is always messy like Beyonce hey OTB

      ********************************

      Girl that last line made me holla! You are soo silly! :lol: But you’re right about that messy bed hair :hi: OTB lol..

      I agree. I’m sick of that Dylan/Chelsea line. Just tell Adam it’s his baby and move on.. It’s getting kinda dry *like Bey’s weave*

      Girl the Bold and Beautiful is where it’s at!! The horny @ss Brooke and Bill Spencer :no:

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      Who Dat says:

      And really if they on the same lake, on the same weekend, that Tameka Raymond lost her son to a jet ski accident…I am kind of glad Todd is on the back. For safety reasons. Showing her how to operate it etc. How old is Riley? Kile was around the same age right? RIP Kile.

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      OutsidetheBox says:

      Looks like one kid knows how to drive the jet ski and the other doesnt. You can also have two kids from the Same parents, at the same damn time, and one will like brocolli and the other will tell you to poot brocolli hoe. :yes:

      :thankyou: <—really says support gay adoption. :tea:

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      datsmdubya2u says:

      Well he just looks like he’s reaching over for something but i understand you can never be too careful..

      I’d be more worried if Riley was a male tho

      :coffee:

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      Oh no :cell: you must be MissTaken says:

      @Sandra. Riley may be guarded because the last man her mother had around died after they broke up. She seems like she is uneasy with her mom having a man period as she is used to being her main focal point. I bet when Kandi has another baby Riley will be guarded then also. But that doesn’t mean she will love her sibling any less :shrugs:

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      Sandra Rose says:

      @ OutsidetheBox: I am not calling the man a pedo. Little girls need their space at that age. As an adult he should be aware of that. Why is he all over the girl like that? Would you like it if a man did that to you?

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      Beta, I saw that! Scary!!!! :shocked: I hope the two girls are gonna be ok!

      I always wanted to parasail, but I am scared of sharks, and always chickened out :scared:

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      OutsidetheBox says:

      messy bed hair <— :heart:

      And :hi: girls! :hahaha: Ok im going for real. Crazies! :wave:

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      INTENSEMOCHA THE ANTAGONIST says:

      Hell naw, not a good look daddy or step daddy, it’s a no go!

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      Chile if they on Lake Lanier they are fools period. Five people have died this summer or maybe more that lake is cursed. :no:

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      MsB2u says:

      lovezoe says:

      Sandra- You wouldn’t dare post a story like this if it was Zonnique. It seems only certain children are off limits. If it was an issue to you, hit Kandi up privately with your concerns. The question could have been stated without using this picture.
      ———————————
      :thankyou:

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      Sandra Rose says:

      Doesn’t Talk To Strangers says:

      I’d rather she been holding on to his waist. What does she need to know how to ‘drive’ this adult machinery for
      ________________

      I agree. She should be seated behind him, where I’m sure she would be more comfortable.

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      OutsidetheBox says:

      I am not calling the man a pedo. Little girls need their space at that age. As an adult he should be aware of that. Why is he all over the girl like that? Would you like it if a man did that to you?
      ________

      No, you did not outright type that but your insinuations are speaking volumes…you know that already tho. Keep it up. :wink: It gets the ppl going™.

      He seems to be all over the girl because he aint paying no damn attn to who is snapping a pic BUT HE IS paying attn to whatever he is reaching for.

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      *runs off the somebody’s :cell: *

      :rofl:

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      Betamax82 says:

      <–Doesn't Talk To Strangers says:

      Beta, I saw that! Scary!!!! I hope the two girls are gonna be ok!
      I always wanted to parasail, but I am scared of sharks, and always chickened out
      ______________________________________

      My coworkers daughters were out there with their kids and she said they almost landed on their heads it is very said one girl is walking but the other one is not doing well

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      CroFon says:

      I have to disagree, I think the boundaries are very important! Nothing against Todd, but especially with girls it’s a matter of teaching them what is acceptable behavior for a man. From a very early age, I’ve never made my daughter hug or kiss someone she didn’t want to. The adult should understand if she’s uncomfortable. If I were to make her, I feel that is teaching her that she should be expected to be close to a person even if her intuition is uncomforatble with it, just so the other person is not offended. That carries on into teen years and adulthood. If your child is uncomfortable PERIOD, that should be respected.

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      Caramel Rain says:

      @ Beta, no I havent but Ima look it up.. :computer:

      I am not suprised tho, something like this always happens every summer :(

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      OutsidetheBox says:

      Yall mean to tell me in all the pics i take of my kids with their dad they need to be …2 feet away? :facepalm:

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      Caramel Rain says:

      :pc: lol

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      Sandra Rose says:

      Doesn’t Talk To Strangers says:

      I’d rather she been holding on to his waist. What does she need to know how to ‘drive’ this adult machinery for
      ________________

      I agree. She should be seated behind him, where I’m sure she would be more comfortable.
      ===============
      They gone fugg around and get arrested :rofl: Instagramming every damn thing SMH!
      Isn’t there a legal age to operate this equipment? :smack:

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      Who Dat says:

      Not sure where they are. I am just saying.

      So really in all honesty I am confused on what Kandi was supposed to have told Riley. NO you cant ride the jet ski. I dont know how…and while Todd DOES know how…I am not gonna let him ride with you…b/c Todd might rub your azz?

      Come the entire hail on here.

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      *57
      *with somebody’s (MsTake’s) :cell: *

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      Sandra Rose says:

      @ RAE23: This post is not about pedophiles. It is about recognizing that children have boundaries that should be respected. Todd shouldn’t assume that he can invade that young woman’s physical space. He is all up on her. :no:

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      I don’t like him all up on here like that, he is not her father :tea:

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      If you had Chickenpox-The Shingles virus is already inside you. Sound sexy huh?, "inside you" Well its not! This is serious. Click my link for details says:

      Sandra Rose says:

      So no one sees how guarded Riley is? Kandi posted a photo of Todd on the Jet Ski with his own daughter. He’s not sitting that close to her

      Sandra Rose says:

      @ Who Dat: Compare this photo of Todd and his daughter with the photo of Todd and Riley.

      I dont see it :shrugs: Im no body language expert, I see nothing. If that were my child he was sitting behind, as her Father, no I wouldnt want him on my child. However only Rileys Father has the right to that objection. Where is he? Only thing I see is the condemnation of the Black man. Either they are absent, abusive, criminals, or gay. Black women who cosign this madness, are only asking for trouble. You cant cry about the so called problem, when you do nothing but contribute to it. Always casting doubt. By no means am I a White sympathizer, nor would I ever excuse them, but we make it easy for them to make assumption about us…when we are constantly doing it ourselves. Were making this man out to be a pervert. With no proof. He’s also been labeled a gold digger,,,Being a Hollywood line producer, a Black one at that…A successful Black one…Is rare…Hard work, that pays well. But thats not enough for us huh? Theres no way a Black man would want a dark skinned Black woman unless there’s an underlying motive right? Money, her children :eek: Weve been programmed!

      Meanwhile—————-a presumed thug who’s right to live was snatched away from him by a doubt caster at the tender age of 17 has been lying dead for over a year now. When will we LEARN and UNITE? Whatever….Have a good one yall :bye:

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      Oh no :cell: you must be MissTaken says:

      Clicked on the second pic and the major difference I notice was Todd’s chicken legs were more visible :shrugs:

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      Sandra Rose says:

      This post is about boundaries. Get your dirty minds out of the gutter. Kandi posted this photo on the World Wide Internet. Therefore, I can give my opinion on it.

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      INTENSEMOCHA THE ANTAGONIST says:

      The same way we teach our girls to cross/close their legs, cover themselves, not to sit in men’s lap etc. is the same reason Kandi should teach her daughter that although the intent may not be there, it’s best to not create the opportunity either. It’s wise that young girls are aware of their bodies & how close to allow any man to them. Todd probably is on the up & up- bit what if its another male family member or friend @ he takes her out for a ride on this thing & hunches her?!?!?! If she was taught that no man should have his private that close to her, then the opportunity would never present itself.

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      Age Restrictions

      Persons under 12 years of age

      May not legally operate any boat 16 feet in length or longer or a vessel under 16 feet that is powered by a motor of more than 30 horsepower.
      May legally operate a boat less than 16 feet long that is either non-motorized or powered by a motor of 30 horsepower or less only if they are accompanied by a competent adult.

      Persons 12 or 13 years of age

      May not legally operate any boat 16 feet in length or longer or a vessel under 16 feet that is powered by a motor of more than 30 horsepower.
      ===================
      Well, I guess they are ok legally :lol: Lil mama looks over 12 :tea:

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      MsChavo says:

      I totally agree. Its little things like this picture, showing a situation that may or may not be comfortable for the child. A little discomfort can go a long way. It may be harmless but he don’t need to be all up on her like that. I do not like that at all. This can lead into a big mess, and that Todd should freakin know better.

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      Sandra Rose says:

      datsmdubya2u says:

      Well he just looks like he’s reaching over for something but i understand you can never be too careful..

      I’d be more worried if Riley was a male tho
      ______________________

      :rofl: :hahaha:

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      RAE23 says:

      Sandra Rose says:

      @ RAE23: This post is not about pedophiles. It is about recognizing that children have boundaries that should be respected. Todd shouldn’t assume that he can invade that young woman’s physical space. He is all up on her.

      <<<<<<<<<<

      I get that the post wasn't about pedophilia, but it does raise that very concern!

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      GellySammich says:

      I saw it buttercup. Thanks! (I was dead serious about not understanding btw. Not being a smart ass atall.)

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      Who Dat says:

      Not sure where they are. I am just saying.

      So really in all honesty I am confused on what Kandi was supposed to have told Riley. NO you cant ride the jet ski. I dont know how…and while Todd DOES know how…I am not gonna let him ride with you…b/c Todd might rub your azz?

      Come the entire hail on here.

      u makin too much sense now KDub! :tea:

      Kandi was there right? oh :eek:

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      Caramel Rain says:

      I would be inclined to agree with you if they weren’t on the water. It’s dangerous and I just assumed that he’s showing her how to operate this so she doesn’t drown. Since it’s not moving, I assumed he showed her how to do it, then got off and she rode by herself….

      Now, if this was on land and just a random pic and he was all up on her then, maybe there would be an issue.. IDK

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      INTENSEMOCHA THE ANTAGONIST says:

      Kandi arse couldn’t get on & teach her or is she so hung up on creating mommy/daddy moments that she’s not aware that it’s not the best idea to have him or ANY man riding behind her like that?!?!

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      Who Dat says:

      11yo Dub: Can I ride the roller coaster?
      Me: Well I dont want to ride.
      11yo Dub: But stepdad said he would ride with me.

      What was I supposed to have said? During the top lift he might accidently rub your growing nubs? When it does the turn you might be in his lap…therefore no you cant ride with him?

      As a woman who married when my oldest was the same age Riley is now; I am here to tell you this is a crock of bullshyt. I dont even ride hard in the paint for folks like this. But this is the silliest ish I done heard all month.

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      OutsidetheBox says:

      Therefore, I can give my opinion on it.
      _______

      You feeling some type of way <–Rich Homie Quan voice…

      I'm telling you as a woman raised by a step father that I see no boundary crossing. In fact I can count the hugs I have given my father compared to my step father. The only time my step father prolly thought of my ass was when he beat it for telling Ms. Ramaya to suck a fat one. He and my mom are divorced now but im gonna go on record and say he did all right by me.

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      Sandra Rose says:

      CroFon says:

      I have to disagree, I think the boundaries are very important! Nothing against Todd, but especially with girls it’s a matter of teaching them what is acceptable behavior for a man. From a very early age, I’ve never made my daughter hug or kiss someone she didn’t want to. The adult should understand if she’s uncomfortable. If I were to make her, I feel that is teaching her that she should be expected to be close to a person even if her intuition is uncomforatble with it, just so the other person is not offended. That carries on into teen years and adulthood. If your child is uncomfortable PERIOD, that should be respected.
      ___________________

      :applause: Thank you! What would people say if that was me all over Riley in the picture? Would it still look like I was showing her something? Just because he’s dating Riley’s mother does not mean it’s okay for him to invade her space like that. All little girls should be taught that no one has the right to invade their space, not even their mother’s boyfriends.

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      Who Dat says:

      Todd shouldn’t assume that he can invade that young woman’s physical space. He is all up on her.
      ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
      This pic came with audio? How we know he aint say–Imma have to reach over you right now to turn this jet ski off…is that okay with you?

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      OutsidetheBox says:

      I would be inclined to agree with you
      ______________

      :no: And you be asking why we wont give you an age pass.. :facepalm:

      :lol:

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      3halos says:

      Boundaries are important. I broke up with my fiance last year b/c of boundary issues he had with his daughter. He was the primary custodian to his daughter and she often wore cut off booty shorts (I mean, you can see where she shaves MKAY) and cut off shorts under her bra strap and 1) he never saw anything wrong and 2) she would jump her happy azz in the bed with him and watch tv like it was nothing. I walked in one day and he had a glass of wine like normal at the end of the day and she was massaging his neck. I was like. WAIT THE EFFING MINUTE, what the hell? Granted, I walked out to calm myself b/c she was 15 and I didn’t want to embarrass her but I pulled him to the side and calmly but firmly let him know this was about awareness and not about demoralization… that he needed to understand his daughter was growing up and there needed to be boundaries. THIS FOOL TRIED TO TELL ME b/c he was from HAITI that I didn’t understand his culture and that I was a monster. I told him, MFer… YOU ARE THE US and that ish would be considered ratchet by anyone with a brain. We got into a huge fight and I said EFF it… I can’t have my twin daughters around this mess. I’m out. F the BullS**T for real. I have zero cares to give to idiots.

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      OutsidetheBox says:

      This pic came with audio?
      __________

      :eek: Turn your screen up Dubb. Duh.

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      Todd probably is on the up & up- bit what if its another male family member or friend @ he takes her out for a ride on this thing & hunches her?!?!?! If she was taught that no man should have his private that close to her, then the opportunity would never present itself.

      I concur :tea:
      =================
      I am so glad that we Roses can agree to disagree :love:

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      :eek: we’ve become institutionalized! a black man can’t have an innocent time with his step-child in the full presence of her mother? well i never! g’night yaw :peace:

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      BCinKS says:

      As a man, I don’t see a boundary issue. He is not sitting in the “I’m trying to do you” pose and rubbing up on her. His hips are as far back as they can go and he’s leaned in.

      If she has boundary issues with this, then she just might have some boundary issues period. :coffee:

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      OutsidetheBox says:

      Thank you! What would people say if that was me all over Riley in the picture? Would it still look like I was showing her something? ____________

      Honestly, they would prolly say nothing because you are a woman and you all have been so conditioned to believe that women dont abuse… but you told us yourself that a woman abused you.

      There has to be something more to this for you. I have seen Zonnique on TV, in action, cringing at something Tip did or said, or shirking away from affection. Your bias..its showing.

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      Sandra Rose says:

      @ Who Dat: So, if they were sitting on a sofa, and not on a Jet Ski, and he’s all over her like that, would be that be okay too?

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      Caramel Rain says:

      OutsidetheBox says:

      I would be inclined to agree with you
      ______________

      And you be asking why we wont give you an age pass
      **************

      Im yung dammit!! gimme a pass.. :biggrin:

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      Who Dat says:

      Kandi could be afraid of water.
      She maybe cant swim.
      Maybe Todd and his daughter rode first.
      And then Riley wanted to ride too.
      What you supposed to say to a kid?
      No you cant. Yes I know she just did but YOU cant.
      Yall trying to merge as a family unit but its okay for his but not mine. Is it ever gonna be ours?

      All of this bullshyt done ruint those folks family day at the lake. Tend to yourn. What is good for your kids and your family might not be good for everybody elses.

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      BCinKS says:

      3halos says:

      I walked in one day and he had a glass of wine like normal at the end of the day and she was massaging his neck.
      ———————
      Where exactly is the problem here? Was he naked? Was she using flavored adult massage oil? Were all the lights out and candles were buring whilst listening to some 90s SWV? :shrug:

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      Lady_Elle says:

      I would prefer my daughter ride in back… while holding on to him.

      I believe Kandi’s daughter is close in age to my kid (12 yo).

      My daughter is built like someone much older! Very shapely.

      Sorry… I agree with Auntie on this one. :shrug:

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      But, who’s to say he stayed that close to her? I mean, a picture is a frozen moment right? He may have scooted back as soon as he did whatever he was doing above. Atleast she is inside his arms if something happens. From behind him, if she falls off, she has no safety net. :shrug:

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      Sandra Rose says:

      MsChavo says:

      I totally agree. Its little things like this picture, showing a situation that may or may not be comfortable for the child. A little discomfort can go a long way. It may be harmless but he don’t need to be all up on her like that. I do not like that at all. This can lead into a big mess, and that Todd should freakin know better.
      _________________

      Thank you sweetie. Young girls should be taught that their personal space is theirs. Just because Riley is a teenager doesn’t make it okay for him to be all up on her like that. At what age should Riley expect him to start respecting her boundaries? :shrug:

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      Caramel Rain says:

      @ 3halos, that’s sad, I think :eek:

      I used to give my deddy massages as a kid. That stopped about age 12, and I still lay in their bed and watch tv, when I want to ask for money :biggrin: Then he hit me with tha, “dont you gotta man”.. eh? I tried

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      OutsidetheBox says:

      These thoughts..that all men think of sex or lust for a woman/girl JUST because they are in the vicinity of one are so.. disturbing. And emotionally based. :no:

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      MsB2u says:

      @ Who Dat: So, if they were sitting on a sofa, and not on a Jet Ski, and he’s all over her like that, would be that be okay too?

      by Sandra Rose on Jul 8, 2013 at 5:02 pm

      ————————————-
      Auntie sometimes you be reaching when there’s nothing to reach for

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      Betamax82 says:

      OutsidetheBox says:

      Thank you! What would people say if that was me all over Riley in the picture? Would it still look like I was showing her something? ____________
      Honestly, they would prolly say nothing because you are a woman and you all have been so conditioned to believe that women dont abuse… but you told us yourself that a woman abused you.
      There has to be something more to this for you. I have seen Zonnique on TV, in action, cringing at something Tip did or said, or shirking away from affection. Your bias..its showing.
      ____________________________________

      :thankyou: guhl I wanted to type this I remember it clearly

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      Who Dat says:

      @ Who Dat: So, if they were sitting on a sofa, and not on a Jet Ski, and he’s all over her like that, would be that be okay too?

      ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
      The fact is…and keyword in that is FACT…its a fact that they are on JET SKI. Other than him being on water ski’s behind the apparatus I am not sure where eles he can FIT on it?

      If a picture surfaces of them on a sofa– and they sitting on a sofa like that–I will assess it–at that time. You re-posted a picture of them at THIS time–of them on a jet ski.

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      :think:

      I wouldn’t have even felt comfortable as a man with my dyck all up in her azz like that.

      And Kandi must let every nigga she phuck round her kids.

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      I have my opinions from what I went through as a child, and I know alot women my age that experienced the same or some other kind of bullshatt, from a loved one. :tea:

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      Betamax82 says:

      BCinKS says:

      3halos says:
      I walked in one day and he had a glass of wine like normal at the end of the day and she was massaging his neck.
      ———————
      Where exactly is the problem here? Was he naked? Was she using flavored adult massage oil? Were all the lights out and candles were buring whilst listening to some 90s SWV?
      __________________________________

      :lol: I’m sorry :kona:

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      Sandra Rose says:

      MsChavo says:
      I totally agree. Its little things like this picture, showing a situation that may or may not be comfortable for the child. A little discomfort can go a long way. It may be harmless but he don’t need to be all up on her like that. I do not like that at all. This can lead into a big mess, and that Todd should freakin know better.
      _________________
      Thank you sweetie. Young girls should be taught that their personal space is theirs. Just because Riley is a teenager doesn’t make it okay for him to be all up on her like that. At what age should Riley expect him to start respecting her boundaries?
      __________________________

      Ole skool Logic :yes: My dad made sure we were aware of boundaries :tea: very important …
      :offtopic: I just seen a video with a pastor going in on his congregation :shock: chile :rofl:

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      Caramel Rain says:

      A sofa is not a jet ski!! Big difference! He was instructing her so she wouldnt bust her @ss or drown..

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      Sandra Rose says:

      Caramel Rain says:

      It’s dangerous and I just assumed that he’s showing her how to operate this so she doesn’t drown. Since it’s not moving, I assumed he showed her how to do it, then got off and she rode by herself….
      _________________

      When you rent a Jet Ski they explain that children can’t operate it by themselves. So there was no need for him to show her anything.

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      OutsidetheBox says:

      I used to give my deddy massages as a kid.
      ___________

      OTB6 loves to give them. I feel bad cause I hate them. I send her on to her brothers or dad. :shrug: We pick her up from school and she will be in the car pick up giving her teacher a neck massage. :facepalm:

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      Man, I just don’t care™ says:

      :think:

      I wouldn’t have even felt comfortable as a man with my dyck all up in her azz like that.
      =========
      That’s all I see :shrug: and NOPE I’m not cool with it :no: #justtooclose

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      datsmdubya2u says:

      maybe Riley is all scrunched up cause he stink…

      :shrugs:

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      Sandra Rose says:

      @ INTENSEMOCHA THE ANTAGONIST: I knew you would bring the voice of reason. :yes:

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      3halos says:

      Caramel Rain, it broke my heart but the tough mom in me said I have to do what’s best for my twin girls *7*. She would go to school with a dang t shirt on posing as a dress, pulling it down the whole way and her dad…my ex would claim he was super conservative. Going to an all white, uppity, rich school and I’m like…you don’t think people are talking about her? Before I came into the picture, it was my ex, her 2 older brothers and even the oldest one would scold her and tell her to put clothes on but because my ex felt so guilty for the divorce, he’d let her wear whatever she wanted and do whatever she wanted. She would massage him and play with his hair right in front of everyone and everyone would flinch HARD…his stupid a** thought nothing of it. I never thought he would TRY anything… it was more of a lack of responsibility on his part to be AWARE and teach her better. Sad… but oh well.

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      INTENSEMOCHA THE ANTAGONIST says:

      Some of you are straight tripping nobody said the child couldn’t ride however I’m certain if it was an instructor teaching her or any other person to ride I’m certain there is a way to do so without her booty being jammed up into his crotch, I’m certain there are policies in place to avoid possible sexual harassment claims for instructors, she could sit on the back versus the front. I never understand the point of thinking so illogical for the sake of disagreeing, some of you are are acting as if we said Todd & her getting it in, seriously my daughter is 9 & I wouldn’t be comfortable with this

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      Caramel Rain says:

      <–Doesn't Talk To Strangers says:

      I have my opinions from what I went through as a child, and I know alot women my age that experienced the same or some other kind of bullshatt, from a loved one
      **********

      I posted up top about a lady I work. Chyt's sad.. Nobody will say nothing b/c her mama is soo far gone and love his dirty drawls..

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      OutsidetheBox says:

      I wouldn’t have even felt comfortable as a man with my dyck all up in her azz like that.

      ___________

      Bruh I have to tell you if thats the thought you have in your head when its time to teach a kid to ride a jet ski, youre right to stay the fukk away.

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      libra80sbaby says:

      I dunno about this. I just don’t feel right about a man’s peen that close to my daughter’s :buttshake: It just don’t… :shrugs: I’on know. It’s sad but that is the world we live in when images like this can cause a stir.

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      Sandra Rose says:

      3halos says:

      Boundaries are important. I broke up with my fiance last year b/c of boundary issues he had with his daughter. He was the primary custodian to his daughter and she often wore cut off booty shorts (I mean, you can see where she shaves MKAY) and cut off shorts under her bra strap and 1) he never saw anything wrong and 2) she would jump her happy azz in the bed with him and watch tv like it was nothing. I walked in one day and he had a glass of wine like normal at the end of the day and she was massaging his neck. I was like. WAIT THE EFFING MINUTE, what the hell?
      _________________

      You were right to be concerned. That was inappropriate behavior for a father and daughter. :no:

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      Who Dat says:

      Just because Riley is a teenager
      ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
      Riley is 11 years old. Her birthday is in August. Which is most likley why he is on the jet ski WITH HER.

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      3halos says:

      UM BCinKS, SHE WAS LYING IN THE BED BEHIND hid spooning giving him a dayum massage MKAY. EVERYTHING IS WRONG WITH THAT BROTHER!

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      OutsidetheBox says:

      I have my opinions from what I went through as a child, and I know alot women my age that experienced the same or some other kind of bullshatt, from a loved one.
      __________

      Umm just cause it happ’d to one person doesnt mean you can condemn the whole of a gender.

      Yes ppl should teach their kids whats right and wrong. Bottom line. :no:

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      :thinking: I’m trying to think if this would bother me if’n it was on a snow mobile….

      Probably so :shrug:

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      OutsidetheBox says:

      Nobody will say nothing b/c her mama is soo far gone and love his dirty drawls..
      ____________

      Oh well the nobodies who wont say nothing, they aint chit. :yes: and you can tell them I said it.

      But will be all up in a place speaking out against something, but want say nothing right then and there. The logic..it fails. -__-

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      And I may be wrong but, Riley seems rather opinionated and vocal. I’m sure she would tell Kandi if she felt something was wrong. At some point, you have to trust what you teach your kids. :shrug:

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      OutsidetheBox says:

      Sooo when daddy taught OTB6 to ride the bike by holding the seat and her little tush rested right on his hand, and he continued to chase that bike up and down the street, with his hand tucked under her musty little booty like so, I was wrong to think he was a great father for sticking with it…? :bite:

      Fudgeeeeee :woohooo:

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      Betamax82 says:

      3halos says:

      UM BCinKS, SHE WAS LYING IN THE BED BEHIND hid spooning giving him a dayum massage MKAY. EVERYTHING IS WRONG WITH THAT BROTHER!
      _____________________________

      :blink: yeah that was all the way wrong there seems like she was trying to fulfill mamas role

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      Caramel Rain says:

      OutsidetheBox says:

      I used to give my deddy massages as a kid.
      ___________

      OTB6 loves to give them. I feel bad cause I hate them. I send her on to her brothers or dad. We pick her up from school and she will be in the car pick up giving her teacher a neck massage.
      *************

      AWWWWW.. Her be trying though :yes:

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      I sincerely hope nothing EVER happens to anyone’s daughter, BUT I know alot of things happen & sometimes it doesn’t come to light for decades.

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      Who Dat says:

      I never understand the point of thinking so illogical for the sake of disagreeing, some of you are are acting as if we said Todd & her getting it in, seriously my daughter is 9 & I wouldn’t be comfortable with this

      ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
      @Intense I have two girls. 18 and almost 9 MY OWNSELF. What is good for you and yourn is good for YALL. Just because I disagree… I am off the bat illogical? And your train of thought is automatically right, logical, the be all to end all? Your opinion is yours to have. Mine is mine to have.

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      BCinKS says:

      3halos says:

      UM BCinKS, SHE WAS LYING IN THE BED BEHIND hid spooning giving him a dayum massage MKAY. EVERYTHING IS WRONG WITH THAT BROTHER!
      —————-
      *record scratch*
      Well when you put it THAT way, then yes. He should’ve been put out forhtwith after you made a quick call to CPS.

      The original version of the story sounded way more G-Rated.

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      OutsidetheBox says:

      seriously my daughter is 9 & I wouldn’t be comfortable with this
      ____________

      With her father? Or step father? Or any male? Just curious. And if you have had this talk with your kid at what point do you allow the teaching to prevail?

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      datsmdubya2u says:

      Kandi gonna be all like “i ain’t know nuffin was goin on”

      With that joker grin

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      OutsidetheBox says:

      At some point, you have to trust what you teach your kids.
      __________

      :eek: Get out my head.

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      datsmdubya2u says:

      @OTB

      With her father? Or step father? Or any male? Just curious. And if you have had this talk with your kid at what point do you allow the teaching to prevail?
      __________________________

      What teaching? tell that ninja to back the hail off

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      OutsidetheBox says:

      And I may be wrong but, Riley seems rather opinionated and vocal
      __________

      Couldve sworn we had a post where ppl were criticzing Kandi for being too upfront with Riley. :tea:

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      OutsidetheBox says:

      Kandi gonna be all like “i ain’t know nuffin was goin on”

      With that joker grin

      _________________

      LMAOOOOOOO! :rofl: Gone Dats!

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      Caramel Rain says:

      3halos says:

      UM BCinKS, SHE WAS LYING IN THE BED BEHIND hid spooning giving him a dayum massage MKAY. EVERYTHING IS WRONG WITH THAT BROTHER!

      *****************

      umm yea, that’s weird. If he was laying on his back it would be different but spooning? :nono: That is reserved for adults only. You did the right thing for your girls and yourself. Another man, the right man will find you :hug:

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      Who Dat says:

      Kandi if you reading…you have a beautiful family. I hope yall enjoyed your time at the lake. The real issue here, is next time please make sure Miss Riley has on a life jacket. Todd too. And your future stepdaughter. Even the strongest swimmers sometimes run into trouble.

      Goodnight.

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      OutsidetheBox says:

      I sincerely hope nothing EVER happens to anyone’s daughter, BUT I know alot of things happen & sometimes it doesn’t come to light for decades.

      __________

      Lets place the same focus with our sons and maybe we’ll stop raisng ppl who hunch kids on jet skis.

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      3halos says:

      BCinKS, it’s just embarrassing. I knew this guy 2 years before I said yes to his engagement and to discover that mess was just… horrible. My daughters are 7. I was separated before they were ONE. He was the only man my children EVER met (even today) and for me to discover that… was just creepy. I moved my s**t out in recordtime. I was so quick, I should really considering starting a moving company.

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      I hope yall don’t think that I am mad for yall having yall’s opinion, because I’m not :no: Not at all :no:

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      3halos says:

      TY Caramel! :hug:

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      Caramel Rain says:

      With that joker grin

      **************

      :rofl:

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      OutsidetheBox says:

      Real questions.. How is Riley’s hair getting a pass? And i dont mean with a comb. :waiting:

      Ok..Let me stop. Totes been here too long. :wave:

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      :shotsfired: if that nigga was “instructing” my daughter. Phuck dat.

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      Who Dat says:

      hope yall don’t think that I am mad for yall having yall’s opinion, because I’m not
      ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
      I know you not.

      Fugg me and my illogical opinion. Mind you aint often I actually VOICE one on this blog… but when I get one its wrong.

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      Sandra Rose says:

      OutsidetheBox says:

      I have seen Zonnique on TV, in action, cringing at something Tip did or said, or shirking away from affection. Your bias..its showing.
      __________________

      Maybe you missed this post? In case You Miseed It: Episode 3. And here’s another link In Case you Missed It: Episode 11. No need for an apology. :coffee:

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      BCinKS says:

      What we should really be asking is why is Kandi RENTING jet skis? When you still cashing checks from Bills, Bills, Bills, I thought you supposed to bring your own water toys, no?

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      Who Dat says:

      hope yall don’t think that I am mad for yall having yall’s opinion, because I’m not
      ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
      I know you not.

      Fugg me and my illogical opinion. Mind you aint often I actually VOICE one on this blog… but when I get one its wrong.
      IONO if you mean it or not, but I really am not judging :no:

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      I have seen Zonnique on TV, in action, cringing at something Tip did or said, or shirking away from affection. Your bias..its showing.
      __________________

      Maybe you missed this post? http://sandrarose.com/2011/12/in-case-you-missed-it-t-i-tiny-family-hustle-ep-3/. And here’s another link http://sandrarose.com/2012/02/in-case-you-missed-it-t-i-tiny-family-hustle-episode-11/#more-55451. No need for an apology.

      ____________
      :rofl:

      I see you Sandra!

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      Caramel Rain says:

      hope yall don’t think that I am mad for yall having yall’s opinion, because I’m not
      **

      I think we all agree to disagree.. NO love loss here. Everyone’s opinion is diff.

      I gotta go by the liquor store.. I drank all my Reisling last nite

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      OutsidetheBox says:

      I could be wrong, since I almost always am. -Sandra Rose.

      _________________

      Good. Cause I suck at apologizing for no reason. :tea:

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      Sandra Rose says:

      Caramel Rain says:

      I used to give my deddy massages as a kid. That stopped about age 12, and I still lay in their bed and watch tv, when I want to ask for money :biggrin: Then he hit me with tha, “dont you gotta man”.. eh? I tried
      __________________

      :rofl:

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      datsmdubya2u says:

      after my moms divorce we moved in with grandma for a min

      this nig my moms went to school with heard she was single and was visitin all the time.

      he tried to pick me up and put me on his lap

      my mama was like *snatches 7 yr old Dats* uhh no sir

      my grandma was like nobody over the age of 3 sits in nobodys lap in this household. I don’t care if it’s St. Nick himself.. :no:

      He got all offended..but that was the last i saw of him

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      Sandra Rose says:

      Man, I just don’t care™ says:

      I wouldn’t have even felt comfortable as a man with my **** all up in her azz like that.
      ___________________

      :applause: Thank you. I needed a man’s perspective on this.

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      datsmdubya2u says:

      @OTB

      OutsidetheBox says:

      Real questions.. How is Riley’s hair getting a pass? And i dont mean with a comb.

      ____________________

      :shrugs: cause they at the lake?

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      libra80sbaby says:

      Sandra Rose says:

      OutsidetheBox says:
      I have seen Zonnique on TV, in action, cringing at something Tip did or said, or shirking away from affection. Your bias..its showing.
      __________________
      Maybe you missed this post? In case You Miseed It: Episode 3. And here’s another link In Case you Missed It: Episode 11. No need for an apology.
      —————————–
      :hahaha:

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      Who Dat says:

      IONO if you mean it or not, but I really am not judging
      ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
      Go back and read you NUT :hug:

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      Who Dat says:

      IONO if you mean it or not, but I really am not judging
      ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
      Go back and read you NUT :hug:

      :hug: I read, but you know *sigh*

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      OutsidetheBox says:

      You bring your life experiences @Sandra and I bring mine..as does everyone else on the board. Have you ever considered that there is no yes or no answer to this very thought provoking question. Also boys. Boys have space too. Why doesnt their’s matter?

      Why do you never talk about the oft happening phenom of boys losing their virginity to grown ass women? Its almost a right of passage in our culture yet you dont beat about the drum about it. Sexually abused boys most often leads to a promiscuousness that sometimes cant be bound…then they raping girls and what not because like yall keep saying in this thread they just dont know what to do besides get a hard on when they are around the opposite sex.

      Youre a well-meaning woman, deep in my heart I believe that, but you have some pe-culiar tactics.

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      luVn_liFe... says:

      Im a little uncomfortable looking at the PIC

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      OutsidetheBox says:

      cause they at the lake?

      _____________

      :facepalm: Joke. And so, it fell flat. Youre a smart woman, I think you needed the backstory.

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      @OTB

      :lol:

      Women raping boys…

      That’s like stop selling water because .000000000000000000001 percent of the population is allergic to water.

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      OutsidetheBox says:

      Any man will do. :hahaha: LMAOOO.

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      Sandra Rose says:

      Boundaries are important. I remember that episode of “Family Hustle” when Nelly kissed T.I.’s daughter Deyjah. Little King said, “Don’t kiss my sister!” I told Miss Diane that 7-year-old King had more common sense than Nelly did. This is the reason why little girls grow up to be so fast because no one teaches them about boundaries.

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      I know a boy who was molested, even if he and those involved don’t want to call it that, he is/was a fukking trainwreck when it comes to women. :smack:

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      OutsidetheBox says:

      Youre right. :lol: As always @Man. Nerp. Even if that man blacks my eye, and wounds me deep, if my puss opened up to except him, I wanted it.

      And with them daisy dukes. I was asking for it.

      Yeah, nobody can rape anybody. :thumbsup:

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      datsmdubya2u says:

      In Ebony mag Kandi says you hoes need to rent a yacht and go out and phuck you man in the middle of the ocean if’n you wanna keep ‘em..

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      OutsidetheBox says:

      That’s like stop selling water because .000000000000000000001 percent of the population is allergic to water.

      ___________

      Youre one of them stop selling knives! Knives kill! huh? :facepalm:

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      libra80sbaby says:

      datsmdubya2u says:

      In Ebony mag Kandi says you hoes need to rent a yacht and go out and phuck you man in the middle of the ocean if’n you wanna keep ‘em..
      ———————-
      I’m down with that :tea:

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      @ Dats….I don’t read Ebony or listen to Kandi. :hahaha:

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      @OTB
      “Youre right. As always @Man. Nerp. Even if that man blacks my eye, and wounds me deep, if my puss opened up to except him, I wanted it.

      And with them daisy dukes. I was asking for it.

      Yeah, nobody can rape anybody. ”
      ____________

      :huh:

      What I was implying in response to your question as to why Sandra doesn’t acknowledge boys getting raped by women, is that by comparison, there are infinitely more women getting raped by men (like there more people NOT allergic to water than people that are allergic to water).

      Not that it was impossible for a woman to boy. Just near impossible. :D

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      OutsidetheBox says:

      This lame gets her life off me. :thankyou: <–from her to me. :hahaha:

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      Sandra Rose says:

      datsmdubya2u says:

      after my moms divorce we moved in with grandma for a min

      this nig my moms went to school with heard she was single and was visitin all the time.

      he tried to pick me up and put me on his lap

      my mama was like *snatches 7 yr old Dats* uhh no sir

      my grandma was like nobody over the age of 3 sits in nobodys lap in this household. I don’t care if it’s St. Nick himself..

      He got all offended..but that was the last i saw of him
      __________________

      :applause: The black community needs more grandmothers like yours.

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      GellySammich says:

      =/ I know several males with stories of older women tryna get at them in their teenage years. Folks just not as offended by it I guess :shrug:
      I think it’s disgusting and let me catch some woman pulling her tits out for my baby boy… I will cut them shyts off right where she stands *mama glare*

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      datsmdubya2u says:

      MzDimplez1123 says:

      @ Dats….I don’t read Ebony or listen to Kandi. :hahaha:

      __________________

      I still like Ebony but that advice was for the birds..and she no her cheap azz aint rentin no yacht

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      @OTB
      “That’s like stop selling water because .000000000000000000001 percent of the population is allergic to water.

      ___________

      Youre one of them stop selling knives! Knives kill! huh?

      ______________

      No, I said stop selling GUNS(That much seems pretty obvious).
      But in some countries you can’t even buy large knives.

      Naturally they have a much lower rate of murder. I guess that’s just a coincidence and people there are just naturally less violent.

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      OutsidetheBox says:

      Not that it was impossible for a woman to boy. Just near impossible.
      __________________

      Boy gone. :lol:

      I didnt call it rape specifically cause every dude I know who has said that hasnt said they were forced.

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      libra80sbaby says:

      datsmdubya2u says:

      MzDimplez1123 says:
      @ Dats….I don’t read Ebony or listen to Kandi.
      __________________
      I still like Ebony but that advice was for the birds..and she no her cheap azz aint rentin no yacht
      ————-
      I would LOVE to be on a yacht with my husband making :love: in the middle of the ocean. :shrugs: sounds fun to me!!

    184. 184
      datsmdubya2u says:

      Sandra Rose says:

      datsmdubya2u says:

      after my moms divorce we moved in with grandma for a min

      this nig my moms went to school with heard she was single and was visitin all the time.

      he tried to pick me up and put me on his lap

      my mama was like *snatches 7 yr old Dats* uhh no sir

      my grandma was like nobody over the age of 3 sits in nobodys lap in this household. I don’t care if it’s St. Nick himself..

      He got all offended..but that was the last i saw of him
      __________________
      :applause: The black community needs more grandmothers like yours.

      _________________________________

      There are several photos of me STANDING BESIDE SANTA at the mall

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      GellySammich says:

      This lame gets her life off me.
      ____________
      :hahaha: Babe… you been leaving for 45 minutes.

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      @SANDRA
      “….This is the reason why little girls grow up to be so fast because no one teaches them about boundaries.”
      ___________________

      Keep tellin ‘em Sandra. That’s all you can do.
      :coffee:

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      OutsidetheBox says:

      I know several males with stories of older women tryna get at them in their teenage years. Folks just not as offended by it I guess
      I think it’s disgusting and let me catch some woman pulling her tits out for my baby boy… I will cut them shyts off right where she stands *mama glare*

      ________________

      Yeah that has a culture pass, I was just pointing out more obvious-ness.

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      @OTB
      “Not that it was impossible for a woman to boy. Just near impossible.
      __________________

      Boy gone.

      I didnt call it rape specifically cause every dude I know who has said that hasnt said they were forced.

      _____________

      I know they didn’t. :lol:

      …and THAT’S why it ain’t even worth talkin bout. :coffee:

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      libra80sbaby says:

      GellySammich says:

      This lame gets her life off me.
      ____________
      Babe… you been leaving for 45 minutes.
      —————————-
      :facepalm:

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      OutsidetheBox says:

      No, I said stop selling GUNS(That much seems pretty obvious).
      But in some countries you can’t even buy large knives.

      Naturally they have a much lower rate of murder. I guess that’s just a coincidence and people there are just naturally less violent.
      ________________

      We have the same stance on that. Lets piss aorund the other tree. Boys and girls are equal and should be treated equally when it comes to boundaries, teachings, and personal resposibilities.

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      OutsidetheBox says:

      Babe… you been leaving for 45 minutes.

      __________
      Ive “left” one place. And am in another. :lol:

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      @ Shaun #190…. :yes: :cosign:

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      A.J. says:

      Are Boundaries Important for Young People?
      ________________
      You bet. :yes:

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      datsmdubya2u says:

      libra80sbaby says:

      datsmdubya2u says:

      MzDimplez1123 says:
      @ Dats….I don’t read Ebony or listen to Kandi.
      __________________
      I still like Ebony but that advice was for the birds..and she no her cheap azz aint rentin no yacht
      ————-
      I would LOVE to be on a yacht with my husband making :love: in the middle of the ocean. :shrugs: sounds fun to me!!

      ________________

      i guess… she just talk about sex too much for me..lets see if homeboy stick around to see if Kandi Koated is working

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      GellySammich says:

      *whispers* I was with you… kinda commenting about his low percentage… then like a nigra made it about me and my thoughts :lol:

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      OutsidetheBox says:

      …and THAT’S why it ain’t even worth talkin bout.
      _______________

      Oh. You aint worth talking about. Got it. :lol:

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      Boys and girls are equal and should be treated equally when it comes to boundaries, teachings, and personal resposibilities.

      ____________

      :lol: No they shouldn’t.

      You have to be more vigilant and protective of girls because its more likely to happen to girls and they are more vulnerable. It’s not rocket science.

      People need to quit trying to treat boys and girls in an identical way when they are clearly different. It defies logic.

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      Damn that was fast! Did you teleport? :eek:

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      Betamax82 says:

      :lol:

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      OutsidetheBox says:

      Jock so hard? I mean, I’m thick but I aint that thick. Go fukk your hubby in the ocean yes? No life jackets.

      And now I dont wanna blog no more. :nun:

    201. 201
      Sandra Rose says:

      Some women act shocked when their daughters run off with the mother’s boyfriend. They don’t understand when it started, when it was happening all along right under her nose. Kandi should have said, “Todd, don’t you think you’re a little too close?” Then Todd could’ve laughed it off and taken that time to explain to Riley that men should respect her personal space.

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      GellySammich says:

      Did you teleport? :eek:
      ____________
      :eek:

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      A.J. says:

      You have to be more vigilant and protective of girls because its more likely to happen to girls and they are more vulnerable. It’s not rocket science.

      People need to quit trying to treat boys and girls in an identical way when they are clearly different. It defies logic.
      ___________
      :thumbsup:

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      @ Man…I agree there are some differences but, at the same time, they’re still all ppl and should be taught some common values as well. :shrug:

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      OutsidetheBox says:

      You have to be more vigilant and protective of girls because its more likely to happen to girls and they are more vulnerable. It’s not rocket science.

      People need to quit trying to treat boys and girls in an identical way when they are clearly different. It defies logic
      ____________________

      :yes: That has worked perfectly for all of the centuries up to now. :yes:

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      @OTB
      “…and THAT’S why it ain’t even worth talkin bout.
      _______________

      Oh. You aint worth talking about. Got it.

      _________________

      I shole ain’t if I come on here talkin bout a woman “molested” me (and I’m weighing 200lbs and chit). :lol:

      “Nigga, shut up.”-You

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      OutsidetheBox says:

      KITA I only had to go to COC. Phone in hand tho. :lol:

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      Sandra Rose says:

      OutsidetheBox says:

      Why do you never talk about the oft happening phenom of boys losing their virginity to grown ass women? Its almost a right of passage in our culture yet you dont beat about the drum about it.
      ________________

      Because boys are only doing what they were put on earth to do. It’s in their DNA. There is nothing you can say that is going to override their programming, Hence, the reason why there are so many rapes in our culture. :shrug:

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      datsmdubya2u says:

      No they shouldn’t.

      You have to be more vigilant and protective of girls because its more likely to happen to girls and they are more vulnerable. It’s not rocket science.

      People need to quit trying to treat boys and girls in an identical way when they are clearly different. It defies logic.

      ________________________

      Well you gotta watch you lil boys too but not necessarily from women. Seems like the lil boys are in more danger than little girls

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      A.J. says:

      Kandi should have said, “Todd, don’t you think you’re a little too close?”
      ________________
      I agree but you do know Kandi would never say that. She is the desperado! :tea:

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      BCinKS says:

      datsmdubya2u says:

      i guess… she just talk about sex too much for me..lets see if homeboy stick around to see if Kandi Koated is working
      ————–
      Kandi seems like the type of chick that would be at family dinner and be like “Todd, remember that time you and I _______” and everybody would be like :shocked:

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      OutsidetheBox says:

      I shole ain’t if I come on here talkin bout a woman “molested” me (and I’m weighing 200lbs and chit).

      “Nigga, shut up.”-You

      _______________

      Never. :lol: Life’s work. I could never respond like that.

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      datsmdubya2u says:

      datsmdubya2u says:

      i guess… she just talk about sex too much for me..lets see if homeboy stick around to see if Kandi Koated is working
      ————–
      Kandi seems like the type of chick that would be at family dinner and be like “Todd, remember that time you and I _______” and everybody would be like

      _______________________

      Nasty and desperate.

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      GellySammich says:

      Wait what? It’s fine for women to seduce little boys because they were PUT ON EARTH to have sex?! I misunderstood right? :no: <– looking around for help

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      @SANDRA
      “Some women act shocked when their daughters run off with the mother’s boyfriend. They don’t understand when it started, when it was happening all along right under her nose. Kandi should have said, “Todd, don’t you think you’re a little too close?” Then Todd could’ve laughed it off and taken that time to explain to Riley that men should respect her personal space.”
      _____________

      :think:

      You making TOO much sense Sandra. See, makes me wonder if a woman’s brain somehow changes after getting that :hump: (which you clearly haven’t) cause I have NO IDEA why everyone isn’t in agreement with you.

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      Betamax82 says:

      :rofl:

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      Sandra Rose says:

      Man, I just don’t care™ says:

      What I was implying in response to your question as to why Sandra doesn’t acknowledge boys getting raped by women, is that by comparison, there are infinitely more women getting raped by men
      ___________________

      I answered her question, Man. Some women don’t get it. They don’t understand the true meaning of life and why we’re here. :no:

    219. 219
      OutsidetheBox says:

      Because boys are only doing what they were put on earth to do. It’s in their DNA. There is nothing you can say that is going to override their programming, Hence, the reason why there are so many rapes in our culture
      _____________

      No Sandra..this very thought thing yall got going on in here that men cant control themselves…thats what leads to rape culture.

      Are you serious about finding this stuff out? Because the answers are out there. Youre a scientific lady. The science is there for you to learn from.

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      @DATS
      “No they shouldn’t.

      You have to be more vigilant and protective of girls because its more likely to happen to girls and they are more vulnerable. It’s not rocket science.

      People need to quit trying to treat boys and girls in an identical way when they are clearly different. It defies logic.

      ________________________

      Well you gotta watch you lil boys too but not necessarily from women. Seems like the lil boys are in more danger than little girls

      _________________________

      this is very true.
      :facepalm:

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      Sandra Rose says:

      datsmdubya2u says:

      There are several photos of me STANDING BESIDE SANTA at the mall
      __________________

      :rofl:

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      datsmdubya2u says:

      @Man

      You making TOO much sense Sandra. See, makes me wonder if a woman’s brain somehow changes after getting that :hump: (which you clearly haven’t) cause I have NO IDEA why everyone isn’t in agreement with you.

      ______________

      Too many people trying to be young, cool and open minded…

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      Betamax82 says:

      :eek:

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      I thought we were discussing little boys being molested, not grown ass men. :smack:

      :hug: me Gelly cause apparently, my dumbass got lost somewhere too. :wail:

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      Sandra Rose says:

      Boys and girls are equal and should be treated equally when it comes to boundaries, teachings, and personal resposibilities.

      ____________

      Man, I just don’t care™ says:

      :lol: No they shouldn’t.

      You have to be more vigilant and protective of girls because its more likely to happen to girls and they are more vulnerable. It’s not rocket science.

      People need to quit trying to treat boys and girls in an identical way when they are clearly different. It defies logic.
      __________________

      :applause: You’re making too much sense.

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      A.J. says:

      Too many people trying to be young, cool and open minded…
      ________________
      Especially when right is right and wrong is wrong.

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      libra80sbaby says:

      OutsidetheBox says:

      Jock so hard? I mean, I’m thick but I aint that thick. Go fukk your hubby in the ocean yes? No life jackets.
      And now I dont wanna blog no more.
      ——————–
      :bye: HEFFAH :rollseyes:

    228. 228
      OutsidetheBox says:

      Wait what? It’s fine for women to seduce little boys because they were PUT ON EARTH to have sex?! I misunderstood right? <– looking around for help

      ____________

      What you thought I was doing in here? :no:

      Sandra are you attracted to every female you see? :no: Why would a man be interested in every woman..just because its a woman? You say men were put here to procreate, but dont you think pour species has evolved?

      You cant pick and choose which science fits your agenda.

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      GellySammich says:

      :hug: <— super tight

      *sigh*

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      Sandra Rose says:

      GellySammich says:

      Wait what? It’s fine for women to seduce little boys because they were PUT ON EARTH to have sex?!
      ________________

      That’s what you took from what I wrote? :shrug:

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      Betamax82 says:

      :hahaha:

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      BCinKS says:

      Because boys are only doing what they were put on earth to do. It’s in their DNA. There is nothing you can say that is going to override their programming, Hence, the reason why there are so many rapes in our culture
      —————
      Naw, this is not acceptable logic right here. We may have been put on this Earth to populate it, yes. BUT, as human beings who have evolved above only being guided by instincts, there is no excuse for such behavior.

      We were put on this earth to eat, too. So when I get hungry, I’m supposed to go over to my neighbor’s house and just snatch the chicken wing out her hand? Cause that’s what instincts tell me to do if I were say a lion. :shrug:

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      datsmdubya2u says:

      Sandra Rose says:

      datsmdubya2u says:

      There are several photos of me STANDING BESIDE SANTA at the mall
      __________________
      :rofl:

      _____________________

      Granny ain’t played that not even a lil bit

      When the “youth minister” at church wanted to take the “youth department” camping guess who didn’t get to go. Dats and her brother..

    234. 234
      Sandra Rose says:

      Man, I just don’t care™ says:

      You making TOO much sense Sandra. See, makes me wonder if a woman’s brain somehow changes after getting that (which you clearly haven’t) cause I have NO IDEA why everyone isn’t in agreement with you.
      ________________

      You forgot the :sarcasm: emote. :lol:

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      OutsidetheBox says:

      :lol: Jock so hard muhf*ckas wanna fine me But first niggas gotta find me. :hahaha:

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      GellySammich says:

      *fondling Dimpz* don’t worry… I’m just looking for a map :eek:

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      GellySammich says:

      yes…

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      Sandra Rose says:

      OutsidetheBox says:

      No Sandra..this very thought thing yall got going on in here that men cant control themselves…thats what leads to rape culture.
      __________________

      Honey, rape culture has been around since the beginning of time. Only they didn’t call it rape thousands of years ago. It was called a fact of life. :coffee:

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      OutsidetheBox says:

      Memeber when ppl was like Naw the earth is flat! :eek: And they would string you up and run you out of town if you thought otherwise? Well the hitsory books do.

      :rofl:

    240. 240

      *giggles and stands still for further inspection*

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      OutsidetheBox says:

      Honey, rape culture has been around since the beginning of time. Only they didn’t call it rape thousands of years ago. It was called a fact of life.
      _____________

      You know what, I’m gone contact my institution of higher learning and tell them I want my money back.

      Where did you go to school? Maybe I need to do a continuuing ed program or something. :thinking:

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      OutsidetheBox says:

      When the “youth minister” at church wanted to take the “youth department” camping guess who didn’t get to go. Dats and her brother..

      ____________

      :hahaha:

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      OutsidetheBox says:

      KITA + Samiich if its ok with yall I will log off and leave for the day. Let me know. :bite:

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      Pointhim Out-Stewart says:

      Todd seems cool. I will say ever since Woody Allen raised and then married his own step-daughter, IDK what to think anymore. Pic aside, Riley doesn’t seem comfortable around Todd, even on the show…same for A.J. Kandi just may be forcing these guys into Riley’s life or it could be Riley will never “bond” with any of them that. I mean schit, she came outta her own mouth and said she doesn’t miss a relationship with her own dad.

    245. 245

      :wail: @ Shaun…FINE! REPLY TO MY TEXT THOUGH!

      Shyt, i’m leaving too. I know I have a book or ten around here. :bye:

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      GellySammich says:

      Welp. I’m finna go fix my fat ass some spaghetti and pretend like this conversation never happened. :peace:

      *one last fondle for Dimpz and a nice ass grab for my Babe*

    247. 247
      Sandra Rose says:

      BCinKS says:

      BUT, as human beings who have evolved above only being guided by instincts, there is no excuse for such behavior.
      __________________

      Sexual cravings are hardwired into a man’s DNA. Men are hard wired to have sex with multiple women. Yes, as a society we are advanced, but our instincts are still intact. Some instincts are more powerful than others by Nature. The survival instinct to procreate and advance the species will always be the most powerful human instinct. That’s why even gays want children.

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      datsmdubya2u says:

      OutsidetheBox says:

      When the “youth minister” at church wanted to take the “youth department” camping guess who didn’t get to go. Dats and her brother..

      ____________

      :hahaha:

      ____________________

      She was like i’ll let Dats go before i let her brother go..but at any rate neither of us went…and years later when we’re grown..rumors and allegations surfaced about said “youth minister”

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      GellySammich says:

      lol@ us all pulling away at the same time

      WOMAN!! Don’t make me come looking for you later this week!

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      Who Dat says:

      so many rapes in our culture
      ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
      Whose culture?

      There are gangs of women raping men in Africa and gangs of men raping women in Middle Eastern countries and India too. So South Asia as well. As that has come up on this very thread as… Kdub India is not South Asia.

      Jesus be an atlas :eek:

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      BCinKS says:

      Sandra Rose says:

      BCinKS says:

      BUT, as human beings who have evolved above only being guided by instincts, there is no excuse for such behavior.
      __________________

      Sexual cravings are hardwired into a man’s DNA. Men are hard wired to have sex with multiple women. Yes, as a society we are advanced, but our instincts are still intact. Some instincts are more powerful than others by Nature. The survival instinct to procreate and advance the species will always be the most powerful human instinct. That’s why even gays want children.
      ————————–
      And that’s true. And I see no issue with having sex with as many women as the Lord will allow, but that’s a far cry from rape as the act of rape is generally not about sex. Men rarely rape because they are “in the mood”.

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      datsmdubya2u says:

      Jesus be an atlas :eek:

      _____________________________

      :rofl: :dead:

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      MsB2u says:

      ^^^^^^^^^^^^^
      This pic came with audio? How we know he aint say–Imma have to reach over you right now to turn this jet ski off…is that okay with you?

      by Who Dat on Jul 8, 2013 at 4:58 pm
      ——————————–

      :thumbsup:

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      MsB2u says:

      Kandi if you reading…you have a beautiful family. I hope yall enjoyed your time at the lake. The real issue here, is next time please make sure Miss Riley has on a life jacket. Todd too. And your future stepdaughter. Even the strongest swimmers sometimes run into trouble.

      Goodnight.

      by Who Dat on Jul 8, 2013 at 5:21 pm
      ——————————-
      Now I call this keeping 100%auntie should take notes :coffee:

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      MsB2u says:

      OutsidetheBox says:

      Thank you! What would people say if that was me all over Riley in the picture? Would it still look like I was showing her something? ____________
      Honestly, they would prolly say nothing because you are a woman and you all have been so conditioned to believe that women dont abuse… but you told us yourself that a woman abused you.
      There has to be something more to this for you. I have seen Zonnique on TV, in action, cringing at something Tip did or said, or shirking away from affection. Your bias..its showing.
      ____________________________________
      —————————–
      :goodpost:

    256. 256
      MsChavo says:

      Can we continue this tomorrow? I believe some men control themselves and others don’t. Whether they trained their mind to do it or not, I’m not sure. Its easier for me to trust the one who can control himself, but that’s what normally got me in the past.

      The one I trusted, looked up to, loved, and admired is the one that got me when when my guards were down. So answering my own question, I guess the one who can’t control himself is more predictable than the one who cannot.

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      luVn_liFe… says:

      Im a little uncomfortable looking at the PIC
      ___________________________
      Chile, just looked at your gravie with this comment :ghost:

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      Is anybody watching love and Hip hop :rofl: :hahaha:

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      spiceykay says:

      Will someone please inform me of how you can give someone 25k but you stay in an apartment? Don’t get me wrong I am not saying anything is wrong with living in an apartment because I live in one myself but I also ain’t letting no one hold 25k either. I also don’t understand how people are friends but not know if they can sing or not. All my friends know I can sing.

    260. 260
      spiceykay says:

      I am @Jenie. How are you this evening?

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      luVn_liFe... says:

      @Jenie :nana:
      <———

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      Spicey :happy: chile that audition

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      Luvyn :hahaha: that gravie gets me every time :lol:

    264. 264
      spiceykay says:

      I know it was crazy. Luvn your picture scares me.

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      Whats that new chick name, she is extra loud :no: The chick with the big lips :tea:

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      spiceykay says:

      I see Bambi is back. She might actually be added to the show next season. I like her way more than that Tracy girl.

    267. 267

      and where is the rest of the night crew? Vacation is over :tea:

    268. 268
      spiceykay says:

      Jenie the one with the baby daddy, her name is Tracy.

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      Tracy talks loud as hell :no:

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      That’s right she is a DJ on the radio :yes: no wonder her voice so damn loud :no:

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      Chile who is that back there with a Tutu on :blink:

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      spiceykay says:

      I hope no one here is kin to Mary Jane but she has a mustache.

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      She is loud as heyull

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      spiceykay says:

      Mamma Dee is crazy.

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      Chile Mama Dee weave :chase: everybody done stepped the hair game up this season but her azz :lol:

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      These old azz broads :rofl:

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      Chile when you got on them stilts take them shyts off :rofl: this shyt is a disgrace and Erica mamma look like she straight out of Grady Homes with that outfit on :hahaha:

    279. 279
      spiceykay says:

      I truly believe Mamma Dee needs some medicine because she has issues especially with that speech. I think Erica mama Filet would beat up Mamma Dee.

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      PumpkinsMama says:

      Jennnnnnay :kiss:

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      Chile ain’t no way in thee heyull could any person with a brain think that relationship with scrap is normal :no: ain’t no way :rofl:
      and Rasheedah needs to :rolleyes:

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      PumpkinsMama says:

      IF ONE MO OLD AZZ MUFUGGA SAY TURNT UP I SWEAR TO GOD!!!! :mad: :cuss:

      :angry:

      Look at Rasheeda bogus azz tryna squeeze out at tear :rolleyes:

      And Baby Bop wiping at an invisible tear too…

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      P! :woot:
      @Spicey Mama Dee I believe is autistic hoodbooger…. :no:

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      I am so over that turnt up shyt :no: :deadhorse:

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      spiceykay says:

      Hey Pumpkin

      I know people say this is scripted and I see it as entertainment either way but I must be really desperate for money or attention to let my husband be in a bed with 2 chicks with them touching on each other and we still together like that. I always say when someone disrespects you in the open like that they don’t care about you anymore.

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      They can have that scary movie the conjuring :nono:

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      spiceykay says:

      Kirk can’t be that dumb if I tell my man do you or whatever you better not do anything stupid. He too old for that.

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      spiceykay says:

      Hey Pumpkin
      I know people say this is scripted and I see it as entertainment either way but I must be really desperate for money or attention to let my husband be in a bed with 2 chicks with them touching on each other and we still together like that. I always say when someone disrespects you in the open like that they don’t care about you anymore.
      ____________________________

      She is very desperate,they sold their soul :no: and its sad, She don’t even look hurt, no real emotion

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      So you know how easy it is to cry pregnant :rofl: a damn fly could die and the water works will start :crying:

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      spiceykay says:

      She doesn’t have any emotions I was watching “What would you do?” the other day and I was crying so hard. This can’t be real life.

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      spiceykay says:

      I love hit the floor but this chick from meet the browns gets on my nerve.

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      :hahaha: nope its not :lol: even that mess with Scrap and Erica, and I thought that fool was in rehab for weed, he did a press conference and that shyt was on the news and everything :hahaha: for weed :rofl:

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      This my first time watching hit the floor :popcorn: so its good ?

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      spiceykay says:

      Yes Jenie it is really good.

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      spiceykay says:

      So Rasheeda mama is rachet too.

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      Ready to see the wolverine :woot: and where Pumkyn go :blink:

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      PumpkinsMama says:

      I am sad :( this Ratchet shyt used to be my guilty pleasure :no:

      @ Spicey of course these mitches desperate for a check. Where the hell else Rasheeda and her wife gon get a check from :blink:

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      Rasheedah mama in her 60’s still clowning :nono: damn shame :no:

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      PumpkinsMama says:

      @ Jen yes mam Hit the Floor is pretty good. Lemme fnd out VH1 got a nice mon nite line up :thinking:

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      and her wife, :rofl: Kirk and Rasheedah needed a story and they needed a good messy one :yes:

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      I think ole girl from beloved is so pretty :love: I love her features, she reminds me of my Kenya doll when I little :love:

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      PumpkinsMama says:

      :huh: While I don’t think Kimberly Elise is ugly, I don’t think she’s the purrrtiest woman alive either. Everytime I see her I be thinkin, “I need that money Frankieeeeeeeeee” :wail: :rofl:

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      :blink: well that was some terrible acting :blink:

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      Chile just seen a commercial for the new R&B divas and lil Mo makeup chile :ghost: :rofl: when your features are huger, keep it simple :hahaha: and why Lala show is still on :huh:

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      Who Dat says:

      <<< I am da fairy-est :nun:

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      Who Dat says:

      Hello!

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      spiceykay says:

      I love ratchet Mondays and ratchet Tuesdays they are my reality show days. I hate to stop getting the live feeds from Big Brother because I would always stay up until they went to sleep. I love reality TV. Hey kdub.

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      Who Dat says:

      Hey there Spicey :wave:

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      They can :stop: with these Demonic movies

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      PumpkinsMama says:

      K- Dubb evening mam :waves:

      Jennnnny I sowwwwwwwwwwy :pray: <==== really me begging for forgiveness

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      Who Dat says:

      Hey Pumpkin… :hug: All the night timers.

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      Is that my girl Carly :woot: form General Hospital

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      PumpkinsMama says:

      Where da heyull Bren at? talkin bout terminations…

      He back on probation for fiesty Fay Fay but he doned forgotted bout us :(

      Bastid :tea: :rofl:

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      Um hmmmmm :tea: Bren been showing his azz you say ?

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      Alright I’m out have a wonderful evening :goodnight:

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      spiceykay says:

      Good night Jenie. Where is Bren?

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      Shay_OH says:

      Evening to the nightimers aka 2nd shift. :waves:

      Just passing through!

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      INTENSEMOCHA THE ANTAGONIST says:

      I’ll never be comfortable with any man, father & stepfather included with my daughters butt in any man’s crotch

      Now what you do with yours & what man you trust crotch next to your daughter is your business. I was the same way with my son whose grown, I asked him if anybody touched him & I was just as protective. Too many perverts out here, my husband saw the pic & stated that it was inappropriate as well, just another man’s point of view.

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      PumpkinsMama says:

      OK GN NITEKREW!!!

      Spicey
      Jen
      Dubbs
      Shay
      Bren :tea:

      :kiss:

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      spiceykay says:

      Good night Pumpkin and the rest of the night crew it is time for me to go to sleep.

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      Nthabi says:

      I am with you on this one, Sandy. Yes, boundaries are needed, especially with our young girls.

      People kill me talking about, “we need to treat boys and girls the same because they are the same!”

      THEY ARE NOT. :ohno:

      1. Statistics EVERYWHERE tells us girls/women are more vulnerable to be sexual assault victims, than are men/boys.

      2. Girls/women can get pregnant. Boys/men cannot. In other words effects of these potential sexual abuse acts have far more SERIOUS effects on the female gender (read: pregnancy and baby) than on males.

      Given just those two differences, and I have teen twins (boy and girl), I’m not naive enough to believe that my son is just as vulnerable as his sister when it comes to this type of thing. And yes, she will sometimes ask me how come I don’t let her do XYZ but allow it for her brother. I explain it as truthfully as it is. :shrug:

      Equality is ideal ofcourse – for everyone. However, we are not living in a vacuum. We live in reality and need to adjust and evolve our thinking and practices accordingly – if only to mitigate.

      I got nothing else.

      :coffee:

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      Apparition says:

      Android users, please go to the Google market, type in “Angry Trayvon” and ferociously flag that fukkin app!! :cuss:

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      Just Looking says:

      :kiss: to my lovelies. Miss ya much. Nite :peace:

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      Just Looking says:

      Apparition – app is GONE!!!! Yeahhh

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      Quin says:

      He’s clearly showing her and teaching her something about the jet ski. And she’s listening and half way moving out of his way a bit so he can get hia arm around her. I’m a mother of 2 and I see absolutely nothing wrong with this photo. The photo with Todd and his daughter is a completely different situation. They were posing. This picture with he and Riley, they are not. He’s right in the middle of explaining something to her…hence his right hand on a button. Totally innocent.

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      MORNING ROSES :waves:

      :waiting: FOR the EARLY MORNTING crew to LOG IN so I CAN TALK ABOUT L&HHATL

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      Sandra Rose says:

      Excellent points @ Nthabi. You’re a great father. :applause:

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      MsB2u says:

      Good morning everybody
      :waves:

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      puppylove says:

      Morning priestess and sandra

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      GAGIRL87 says:

      I don’t see anything wrong with the pic BUT something is off about Todd can’t put my finger on it :think: he’s creepy. And Kandi “seems” like she gotta have a man. My problem is how she meets these men an move them in home so quick over her daughter#not a good luck

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      GAGIRL87 says:

      @ Tran :hi: Morning!!!

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      MsB2u says:

      @pickachu
      :hi:

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      Oh no :cell: you must be MissTaken says:

      Morning :hi: not going to start my day off on this post. I pray everyone is well. I have a multitide of errands to get done by Thurs in addition to working and being a wife/mom. I mean come on! :sarcasm:

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      Nakeya_j says:

      Morning all. Did we talk LAHH yet?

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      Good morning.

      I’m on the fense with this one. I think he’s a tad bit close to her, but at the same time they’re on a jet skii and he’s powering it up. It may be innocent, but I would like to think it would be turned on by the person sitting in front??

      I would ask why Kandi isn’t on the jet skii with her daughter but maybe she doesn’t know how to operate the machine properly, or didn’t want to get her dollar store weave messed up… :shrug: who knows? either way girls do need to be given space, but at this situation, I think maybe he was just the only one who knew how to work the machine properly.

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      And Kandi “seems” like she gotta have a man.
      ———–
      I concur!

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      lovezoe says:

      Morning! Sandy needs to put a new post. I got a FEW things to say about LAHHATL.

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      Oh no :cell: you must be MissTaken says:

      Good morning.
      I’m on the fense with this one. I think he’s a tad bit close to her, but at the same time they’re on a jet skii and he’s powering it up. It may be innocent, but I would like to think it would be turned on by the person sitting in front??
      _______
      Le sigh because I didn’t want to say it but feel compelled. There is only so much room on that jet ski and Riley is .. Healthy. So with him reaching forward to instruct their space was even more so limited. Could he have gotten up and shown her :shrugs: but I am pretty so this picture is the exact moment it happened and it was not prolonged. I could be wrong and I hope I am not because children need to be protected at all times

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      Why someone jsut walk in my office stood four feet away, stood perpendicular to me to speak to two other people, and I could still smell his foul breath…. :cuss:

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      Nakeya_j says:

      Why someone jsut walk in my office stood four feet away, stood perpendicular to me to speak to two other people, and I could still smell his foul breath….
      ——
      Jesus be a toothbrush, some toothpaste, and some Holy Water. Amen :nun:

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      Why someone jsut walk in my office stood four feet away, stood perpendicular to me to speak to two other people, and I could still smell his foul breath….

      ********************

      :hurl:

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      Le sigh because I didn’t want to say it but feel compelled. There is only so much room on that jet ski and Riley is .. Healthy. So with him reaching forward to instruct their space was even more so limited. Could he have gotten up and shown her but I am pretty so this picture is the exact moment it happened and it was not prolonged. I could be wrong and I hope I am not because children need to be protected at all times
      ———
      Just like I said, maybe he was the only one who knew how to properly work the jet skii. I know it was at the exact moment; it could be more than it is it could be less than what it is. :shrug:

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      Nakeya_j says:

      Why someone jsut walk in my office stood four feet away, stood perpendicular to me to speak to two other people, and I could still smell his foul breath….
      ——
      Jesus be a toothbrush, some toothpaste, and some Holy Water. Amen
      ———-
      It’s like, if I was knocked out, that funk would awaken me. My nose was literally stuffed up, that shyt is cleared now. :no:

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      Trendsetter says:

      lovezoe says:

      Morning! Sandy needs to put a new post. I got a FEW things to say about LAHHATL.

      ____________________

      Me too!

      Morning Roses

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      Mumma Dee ain’t nothin but an old thuggin drag in a dress based off of last nights episode. :lol:

      I didn’t know Erica’s mom’s name was Mignon! I thought they were saying Ms. Young :lol:

      Well Mignon was like COME GET SOME!!! COME GET SOME!! I was confused as to why she had that top on though :lol: She stay with her hair “layed hunnty”

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      Someone switched chairs in our office and my sup ended up getting my chair some how….he had it for a week plus while I was on leave.. I love my chair and I will fight someone over it. So when he left for the gym yesterday, I took my chair back. *files nails* he’s looking all confused right now as to the comfort of his chair doesn’t match up to mine. :tea:

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      Trendsetter says:

      Did Scrappy push Erica???

      Erica shouldn’t told him about pawning the ring until after the party….however, Scrappy need to tell his mama to stop being in his damn business all the time.

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      MsB2u says:

      And did I hear Mimi call for a cab what happened to the BMW

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      Mama Dee is so over the damn top with this damn PALACE & KINGDOM BS.

      “it is my JOB to keep this palace and kingdom together, YA HEARD ME”
      :kneel:

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      Nakeya_j says:

      Trendsetter says:

      Did Scrappy push Erica???

      Erica shouldn’t told him about pawning the ring until after the party….however, Scrappy need to tell his mama to stop being in his damn business all the time.
      ——
      :cosign: All of this!!! Why does Momma Dee not have her own damn life, adn why does Scrappy keep letting her be all in his business. And Erica is crazy, because no, I would not of had a sit down with her, and no she would not have come with me to the pawn shop. Nope.

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      lovezoe says:

      I don’t think Scrappy physically pushed Erica. I think he tried to move her from his back, does that make sense? What was the purpose of Erica taking Momma Dee with her to the consigment shop? Scrappy probably could make someone a good man if his mama won’t all in his business.

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      MsB2u says:

      And did I hear Mimi call for a cab what happened to the BMW
      ___________________________

      Maybe it was a rental :shrugs:

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      Nakeya_j says:

      Mama Dee is so over the damn top with this damn PALACE & KINGDOM BS.
      ——
      I can’t take her serious when she starts talking that BS. I wonder if she really believes that mess. smh. I’m thinking she can’t seeing how Scrappy has not had a hit in how many years? Oh ok.

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      lovezoe says:

      Hubby and I were looking each other asking if Mama Dee was serious. Is she don drugs or something. Mama Dee take this prince stuff WAY too far.

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      Who Dat says:

      I aint never getting over Mama Dee and…I am da fairy-est. EVER.

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      Trendsetter says:

      MsB2u says:

      And did I hear Mimi call for a cab what happened to the BMW

      _______________________

      she gave the car back to steebie

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      lovezoe says:

      Mimi gave the keys back to him in the restaurant because he said he wanted a “head of lettuce”

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      felinelurker says:

      Who Dat says:

      I aint never getting over Mama Dee and…I am da fairy-est. EVER.

      :hahaha: I had to rewind to make sure she said that shyt!

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      Trendsetter says:

      Mama Dee thinks she the baddest…don’t forget Erica mama ain’t no punk, she did jail time too

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      Trendsetter says:

      Kirk…no words for him..

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      felinelurker says:

      Kirk & Rasheeda :facepalm:

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      lovezoe says:

      Trend- Mignon came down them stairs all cool. She was READY.

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      Who Dat says:

      Erica mama was about to walk Mama Dee’s azz… :no: Scappy knew his mama was about to get her azz beat.

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      lovezoe says:

      :newpost:

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      I am da fairy-est ever.

      _____________________

      from a QUEEN to a FAIRY..shyt had me dying :lol:

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      Trendsetter says:

      lovezoe says:

      Trend- Mignon came down them stairs all cool. She was READY.

      Who Dat says:

      Erica mama was about to walk Mama Dee’s azz… Scappy knew his mama was about to get her azz beat
      _______________________________________

      :cosign:

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      iyonah says:

      I don’t allow my daughter 5 1/2 to sit up under anyone and if she was that age, she would know of the boundaries. I think its to close for comfort. Nothing to do with me being Musilm either, not a fan of ANY MAN having a child near his lap. :nono:

      To each his or her own tho, obviously Kandi doesn’t have an issue and he may not be a creep. But you never know.

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      A.J. says:

      Good Morning Folks

      Jenie

      You had me on the floor this morning reading your comments on LHHATL from last night! :dead: :dead: and mo :dead:

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      Sandra Rose says:

      Just to be clear, no one is saying Todd is a pedo. This post is about setting boundaries for your teenagers (girls and boys). Just because you’re sleeping with a man does not give him a license to invade your daughter’s personal space. Fast girls (and boys) were never taught to set personal boundaries — and to have those boundaries respected. Teach your children that their bodies belong to them and to respect their bodies. Teach them to express their discomfort when their personal space is invaded. Here’s a good article about personal boundaries. Sit down with your daughters and discuss this article with them. And I thank you for reading. :)

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      anw_rootbeer says:

      Im SUPER late, but my dude would NEVER be in a position like this with my daughter. And he has been in her life pretty much ALL her life. He would never PUT HIMSELF IN THIS POSITION, I know him.

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      anw_rootbeer says:

      Thanks for the link, my daughter is 11 and this is something we will discuss

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      Sandra Rose says:

      @ anw_rootbeer: I updated the links with better articles. Thanks for reading. :)

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      Lady_Elle says:

      Good Morning Auntie…
      Thank you for the article. I have printed it out to have the discussion with my daughter this evening.
      I think there is a lot of people that feel comfortable NOT having the discussion… until someone they love betrays that trust.

      Man… hit the hammer on the head with his statement. This grown man’s peen is too close to this girl’s body.

      BOUNDARIES…

      I stopped my daughter from sitting on the laps of ALL men including her daddy… MY HUSBAND when she was about 6.

      I explained that I did not wish to confuse her, by saying this one is ok and this one not.

      I think he did not like it at first; but he thought about it and accepted it!

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      I showed this pic to a couple make friends last night, and they agreed that’s he’s too close :yes:

      They, just like me haven’t ever seen Kandi’s daughter, or fiance (until this here picture–so we don’t know any background).

      My thing is this, yes we can teach our daughters and sons what is right and wrong, BUT we can’t teach these grown men or women nothing! They were raised however they were raised, and we may never know what they went through as a child :shrug:
      I’d rather be safe, than sorry…

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      Jennifer says:

      I think this picture is harmless. Photography and pictures are designed to “capture”.. As a photographer, I can snap a picture of someone in the midst of “blinking” and it will look like they’re intoxicated.

      It is clear that he is on back to make sure everything is in place for her to ride. I am almost certain it took him less than 5 seconds to reach his hand out, but with cameras, they are designed to capture seconds of anything..

      I can judge a video, but a photo.. it’s usually not that accurate.

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      eastpointvet says:

      looks like he is reaching to start it and not up on her just to be on her

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      Twilight says:

      Picture could be very much innocent however it dont take much to wake up a penis. sorry thats my opinion.

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      Miapluck says:

      Better late than never…As previously stated, the situation could be very innocent; however, No grown adult man should have his man parts that close to another female outside of his wife or significant other…It’s just not appropriate…Some people like to say some folks “over analyze” however girls and boys are abused everyday because no one took the time to LOOK…As a child I was always taught I’m not to sit on no man’s lap or they should be all up on me either because like mentioned also, a man can get aroused by the simplest touch and/or things…I’m sorry, this is just too close for comfort anybody with eyes can see the slight resistance with the girls arms clapsed closed to her body…

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