Are Boundaries Important for Young People?

@ Betamax82: Please read the post before you comment. The question is: Are boundaries important for young people?

@ OutsidetheBox: I am not calling the man a pedo. Little girls need their space at that age. As an adult he should be aware of that. Why is he all over the girl like that? Would you like it if a man did that to you?

Doesn’t Talk To Strangers says:

I’d rather she been holding on to his waist. What does she need to know how to ‘drive’ this adult machinery for
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I agree. She should be seated behind him, where I’m sure she would be more comfortable.

@ RAE23: This post is not about pedophiles. It is about recognizing that children have boundaries that should be respected. Todd shouldn’t assume that he can invade that young woman’s physical space. He is all up on her.

This post is about boundaries. Get your dirty minds out of the gutter. Kandi posted this photo on the World Wide Internet. Therefore, I can give my opinion on it.

datsmdubya2u says:

Well he just looks like he’s reaching over for something but i understand you can never be too careful..

I’d be more worried if Riley was a male tho
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CroFon says:

I have to disagree, I think the boundaries are very important! Nothing against Todd, but especially with girls it’s a matter of teaching them what is acceptable behavior for a man. From a very early age, I’ve never made my daughter hug or kiss someone she didn’t want to. The adult should understand if she’s uncomfortable. If I were to make her, I feel that is teaching her that she should be expected to be close to a person even if her intuition is uncomforatble with it, just so the other person is not offended. That carries on into teen years and adulthood. If your child is uncomfortable PERIOD, that should be respected.
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Thank you! What would people say if that was me all over Riley in the picture? Would it still look like I was showing her something? Just because he’s dating Riley’s mother does not mean it’s okay for him to invade her space like that. All little girls should be taught that no one has the right to invade their space, not even their mother’s boyfriends.

Caramel Rain says:

It’s dangerous and I just assumed that he’s showing her how to operate this so she doesn’t drown. Since it’s not moving, I assumed he showed her how to do it, then got off and she rode by herself….
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When you rent a Jet Ski they explain that children can’t operate it by themselves. So there was no need for him to show her anything.

@ INTENSEMOCHA THE ANTAGONIST: I knew you would bring the voice of reason.

OutsidetheBox says:

I have seen Zonnique on TV, in action, cringing at something Tip did or said, or shirking away from affection. Your bias..its showing.
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Maybe you missed this post? In case You Miseed It: Episode 3. And here’s another link In Case you Missed It: Episode 11. No need for an apology.

Caramel Rain says:

I used to give my deddy massages as a kid. That stopped about age 12, and I still lay in their bed and watch tv, when I want to ask for money Then he hit me with tha, “dont you gotta man”.. eh? I tried
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Man, I just don’t care™ says:

I wouldn’t have even felt comfortable as a man with my **** all up in her azz like that.
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Thank you. I needed a man’s perspective on this.

Boundaries are important. I remember that episode of “Family Hustle” when Nelly kissed T.I.’s daughter Deyjah. Little King said, “Don’t kiss my sister!” I told Miss Diane that 7-year-old King had more common sense than Nelly did. This is the reason why little girls grow up to be so fast because no one teaches them about boundaries.

OutsidetheBox says:

Why do you never talk about the oft happening phenom of boys losing their virginity to grown ass women? Its almost a right of passage in our culture yet you dont beat about the drum about it.
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Because boys are only doing what they were put on earth to do. It’s in their DNA. There is nothing you can say that is going to override their programming, Hence, the reason why there are so many rapes in our culture.

Man, I just don’t care™ says:

What I was implying in response to your question as to why Sandra doesn’t acknowledge boys getting raped by women, is that by comparison, there are infinitely more women getting raped by men
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I answered her question, Man. Some women don’t get it. They don’t understand the true meaning of life and why we’re here.

GellySammich says:

Wait what? It’s fine for women to seduce little boys because they were PUT ON EARTH to have sex?!
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That’s what you took from what I wrote?

Man, I just don’t care™ says:

You making TOO much sense Sandra. See, makes me wonder if a woman’s brain somehow changes after getting that (which you clearly haven’t) cause I have NO IDEA why everyone isn’t in agreement with you.
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You forgot the emote.

OutsidetheBox says:

No Sandra..this very thought thing yall got going on in here that men cant control themselves…thats what leads to rape culture.
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Honey, rape culture has been around since the beginning of time. Only they didn’t call it rape thousands of years ago. It was called a fact of life.

Just to be clear, no one is saying Todd is a pedo. This post is about setting boundaries for your teenagers (girls and boys). Just because you’re sleeping with a man does not give him a license to invade your daughter’s personal space. Fast girls (and boys) were never taught to set personal boundaries — and to have those boundaries respected. Teach your children that their bodies belong to them and to respect their bodies. Teach them to express their discomfort when their personal space is invaded. Here’s a good article about personal boundaries. Sit down with your daughters and discuss this article with them. And I thank you for reading.