HIV positive stock photo

This post is about HIV transmission - not treatment or testing. There has been a lot of misinformation in my comments section about how HIV is transmitted and why certain people are infected while others aren't.

The Human Immunodeficiency Virus (HIV) is a large virus that weakens the immune system and causes full blown AIDS if left untreated.

HIV progresses to full blown AIDS if the patient is not taking antiviral medications and is infected with an opportunistic disease, including pneumonia, tuberculosis, or other infections specific to AIDS.

AIDS can be fatal if left untreated.

HIV is NOT transmitted by saliva, sweat, tears, closed-mouth kissing, insects, pets, sharing food, drinks, or sitting on public toilets.

Gay and bisexual men who have sex with men (MSM) are the highest risk for new HIV diagnosis in America.

The second highest risk category is Black females.

Also, transgender people who were born men are among the highest risk category. If you are a male or female who regularly practices unsafe sex, you are at risk for HIV transmission.

Get tested if you are sexually active and you are in a high or low risk category.

Other HIV risk factors include

  • Sharing dirty needles
  • Transfusion of blood or blood products
  • Tattoos with dirty needles
  • Perinatal transmission
  • Breast milk
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    How is HIV transmitted?

    HIV is a bloodborne pathogen that requires access into the blood stream where it replicates (makes copies of itself). The HIV virus needs to make copies of itself in order to survive. It can only replicate in the bloodstream.

    Anal sex with or without a condom is the easiest form of transmission. Being a receptive partner (the "bottom") carries a much higher risk than being the insertive partner (the "top").

    Friction causes microscopic tears in the anal mucosa (lining) that are too small for the naked eye to see - but large enough for the virus to get through to the bloodstream. This is why anal sex remains the #1 mode of HIV transmission.

    Sexual intercourse with vaginal penetration is also a risk factor - IF the woman has an open sore or a microscopic tear in her vagina.

    The vagina was designed for penetration. It is well lubricated and durable. The vaginal walls are slippery, elastic and strong.

    When the HIV virus enters the vagina, there is no path into the bloodstream unless the woman has an open sore or microscopic tear in her mucous membrane. If there is no presence of blood it does not mean there is not a tear in the mucous membrane.

    The vagina does not tear easily during normal sexual intercourse.

    Think of a woman giving birth to a 10 lb. baby the size of a watermelon. That gives you an idea of how strong the vaginal walls are.

    For instance, if a HIV-positive man uses his fingers or a sex toy during foreplay, his fingernail can cause a tear in her skin. He can transmit the virus to her during sexual intercourse.

    Even though vaginal intercourse is less risky, women who have sexual intercourse with men should always practice safe sex.

    Men who have anal sex with men (MSM) and women who have anal sex with men (WASM) are in the highest risk categories for HIV transmission and should always practice safe sex.

     

    Can I get infected with the HIV virus through oral sex?

    HIV transmission via oral sex is extremely low risk, but it is possible if the sex partner has an open sore in his or her mouth and the HIV-positive man ejaculates into the mouth.
     

    Can I get infected by kissing?

    No. Studies prove the HIV virus is NOT transmitted via the exchange of saliva.
     

    Can I get infected if someone sticks me with a HIV-infected syringe?

     
    HIV positive stock photo

    Your HIV risk is high if you share dirty drug needles with a HIV-infected person. Whether someone can maliciously infect you with a syringe of days old HIV-infected blood depends on a variety of factors. Blood begins to clot (gel) within seconds after it is drawn. Some studies show the HIV virus can live in dried blood for up to 42 days. But those studies were conducted under laboratory conditions. Get tested if you are stuck with a dirty needle.
     

    Am I safe if I'm a female who has sex with another female?

    Studies show lesbians have extremely low to no risk of HIV infection between partners. If you're not sure about her HIV status, don't sleep with her.
     

    Can I be infected if I have sex with someone with a low viral load?

    Your risk of HIV transmission is lower if the HIV-positive person has a low or undetectable HIV viral load. But you should not take that risk with anyone. Always practice safe sex!
     

    Can I get HIV if he doesn't ejaculate?

    Yes. Penetration is enough to exchange seminal fluid (pre-cum) even if he doesn't appear to ejaculate.
     

    Can HIV live outside of the body, such as on hard surfaces?

    No. The HIV virus can not live outside the bloodstream for very long. HIV needs to replicate itself (make copies of itself) to survive. The virus cannot replicate itself outside the bloodstream. The HIV virus begins to die after 15 minutes.
     
    This has been your Medical Minute.

    More Info On the Web

    HIV/AIDS Transmission - Healthline.com

    Who Is at Risk for HIV? - HIV.gov

    HIV Transmission: The Basics - CDC.gov
     

    DISCLAIMER

    Any medical information published on this blog is for your general information only and is not intended as a substitute for informed medical advice. You should not take any action before consulting with your personal physician or a health care provider. Sandrarose.com and its affiliates cannot be held liable for any damages incurred by following information found on this blog.

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    • missmiami305
    • DaughterOfaQueen

      Great post!

    • Coy little wink
    • DaughterOfaQueen

      Lol

    • BRuhman_Vista

      Switching gears, so Toure' has now been "metooed"???? The net gets wider by the day. ??

    • Trace da Ace

      lmbao!!! Exactly!!!

    • Trace da Ace

      Go head Aunty Sandy!!!! This medical minute was soooo needed cause hunty...last post...folks be tripping!!! But thank you for that!! Hope this clears stuff up with some folks....HAPPY FRIDAY!!

    • Renee26

      Ion think I'll be having sex tonight... This is all just a turn off. You can never fully trust someone

    • Kim’s Original Face

      “ The vaginal walls are slippery, strong and can take a beating during moments of passion.”

      I know this is a serious serious topic

      But that one line took me CLEAN TF OUT

    • Whirl

      I’d be interested in finding out how it’s transmitted via breastfeeding as opposed to sharing a glass of ordinary milk. Interesting but not fascinating enough for me to go digging any deeper. Anyhoo, thanks for the informative post!

    • Lovely1

      Very informative. Thank you for this piece.

    • NewNew

      Oh Lord, not Toure

    • Pamela

      Lol I love this!

    • Pamela

      Ain't he married to a White woman?

    • SpiceGirl

      If ya don't know....NOW ya know!

    • Eileen

      Extremely informative and also very sad that our men are infecting us with their nasty male anatomy. So for all of those who say homosexuality is normal, ok, natural, you are mistaken if it were there would be no HIV.

    • Eileen

      she should not have used those words a beating during intercourse would suggest to me rough sex on steriods and who wants that????well not me

    • HotInCleveland

      I’ve always wondered if certain celebrities actually died of AIDS instead of pneumonia or cancer like their familiarity claimed.

    • HotInCleveland

      You kidding me? You’ve never heard the term “beat it up”?

    • HotInCleveland

      I always assumed he was gay.

    • Chicagowise

      "Can I get infected with the HIV virus through oral sex?"

      For those of you who have heard me tell the story, that's how Walking Willie got it.

    • jeniefrumdabloc™

      Shout out to Sandra ... the only Blogger out here in these intawebs streets enlightening folks .... say what ya want bout my bew (Sandra) But I love ya !!!! https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/0f0d9df2ff540a84353eb7e9bfb922f626c11d9d8bd1ab178acb22ae81b0580a.gif

    • Renee26

      He had a cut in his mouth and sucked on a cut up peen huh

    • Meme

      Oh vaguely remember the name but can't remember the story

    • Eileen

      Heck no!

    • RICHIE_RICH

      Great write up . You know now !

    • A.P. Millz-CT

      Thank you for this Sandra!!! I''ve always said its harder for women to contract HIV vaginally, not impossible but seldom.

      We got'sta be more careful.

    • Eileen

      There is a difference between deep passion and beating the walls...Lord help us...

    • HotInCleveland

      ???????? what ever floats your boat

    • WhoYouTalkingAbout

      great post! Spread the knowledge Auntie!!

    • Meme

      I always thought people with full blown AIDS and who died from e.g. Pneumonia always looked deathly ill but apparently not always the case Eazy didn t have the extreme weight loss apparently looked quite well till the end??

    • Y me?

      I always suspected Eddie long did

    • Chicagowise

      As a gay man, I have struggled with that question for decades: "is this shyt normal?"

      I can tell you that so-called homosexual behavior occurs in other species, not just humans. In addition, if it weren't natural, it couldn't be done. You have to remember, homosexuality has been around as long as man has been alive and long before AIDS existed.

      What I disagree with is the promiscuity; an act that is not exclusive to homosexuals, but an often celebrated and encouraged part of gay culture.

    • Meme

      Yes thanks Ms Sandra

    • Robert lee Bennett OG

      I feel sorry for the gays and black women who sleep with them they are filled to the rim with the virus according to the CDC

    • Solstice

      Hey CW!! Happy New Year! ???

    • Chicagowise

      I don't know the details, but all he did was suck... sometimes 10 a day, but that's all he did... and he died from AIDS.

    • Chicagowise

      Happy 2019! ?

    • Robert lee Bennett OG

      Yes hopefully this will save some of our black women from these gays who are giving them The Aids

    • Meme

      Did say I wouldn't pester you about the book but as it's new year ? ......

    • Robert lee Bennett OG

      Somebody who doing all that I am pretty sure he takes it in the rear also

    • Renee26

      Damn....10 a day?! No lock jaw or nothin!? Bless his soul

    • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

      Thanks! ??

    • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

      You're welcome! ??

    • Rayne

      How are ppl still confused about hiv transmission?
      Ion know about this world ?

    • Parent

      Why do you feel sorry the "the gays"? they should be practicing safe sex.

    • Robert lee Bennett OG

      I Hope Barry Obama sees this post he have been encouraging black men to be gays for years

    • Meme

      ??

    • Robert lee Bennett OG

      Yes you are correct I feel sorry for the black women falling victim to those maniacs

    • Chicagowise

      Walking Willie carried a rolled up newspaper, which served as kneepads while he gobbled up dks in park. He liked to participate in group action. The more, the merrier. Eventually, he died from AIDS.

    • HotInCleveland

      Lawd! ?????

    • Parent

      She sure went there, didn't she!

    • Robert lee Bennett OG

      I have a theory that the gays are mad at the world and hate women and mad because they got aids and out here spreading it to black women on purpose especially in my city of Atlanta

    • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

      Thanks sweetie. ?

    • Chicagowise

      He wasn't shy about what he wanted. He didn't care about being heard or seen. I never saw him do that.

    • ClaireHuxtable

      What was Miss Sandy thinking?? We gone need to have her psycho-s3xually analyzed on that one!

    • Parent

      Makes sense to me. There are people out there that indeed infect people on purpose.

    • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

      "Beat the walls up" is a common term used in Black vernacular. Eileen might not be one of us.

    • jwoo250

      Thank you soo very much Sandra Rose for this post. It makes me so happy to see something being posted on a blog like this. I had to watch my mother suffer and die from this horrible disease and my brother has to live with it. I faced a lot of stigma surrounding HIV/AIDS and so did she. I must sharing this post. Thanks again?????

    • Meme

      Just out of curiosity do you think you are invinsible to catching the virus (God forbid)

    • ClaireHuxtable

      Did he have a Mental deficiency or was he just a H0H0H0?

    • Chicagowise

      We called him Walking Willie, because his name was William, and he would park his burnt orange Oldsmobile Toronado, and walk the streets for miles, looking for dks.

    • jwoo250

      It's sad but people still are. You will be amazed at the type of questions I've been asked as advocate. It's also sad that AIDS is still on the rise.

    • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

      You're welcome, and please accept my condolences.

    • Eileen

      God Bless you to clarity....if homosexualitt is an act the animals perform remember they are the lowest form of animal we are are not to emulate them.the Anus is not conducive to penetration the muscles push out not in. Also In order for a civilization to thrive homosexuality will not uplift it that is why the lgbt??? Is bullying people to accept it as normal and why would you want to compare yourself to an animal in the woods? From the Old Testament to the New Testament homosexuality has never been God's plan that is why he made them male and female we compliment each other in every way and why would you say you have struggled with this shyt...is that your view of your life?

    • Chicagowise

      He appeared to be well taken care of. Sane. He was sharply dressed. Drove a decent car, but his sexual appetite was insatiable.

    • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

      It's a figure of speech. This blog has a majority Black female demographic who are familiar with the term "beat the walls up."

    • A.P. Millz-CT

      This may not be the blog for you if a certain vernacular bothers you ?

    • Solstice

      I second that!! We’ve been asking for years now CW?!?? ??

    • jwoo250

      So many men out here living double lives. Ladies please ask for your partner to be tested. Tell him you both can get tested together. If you just want a one night stand at least wear protection.

      I can tell y'all some stories of how people have contracted this disease. It makes me cry. I heard stories from 5 wives who caught it from their husbands. People hiding the disease from their partners. Be wary of the cheating man. My husband hid an STD from me I found the result and meds in a bag. Also, theres a story of a grandma who thought she had found love again at 60 yrs old with a preacher. Come to find out he hid the disease from her she found his results in a bible. I will be honest I've been foolish before myself and thank God I didn't contract it in the past. But we have to strap up and know our status.

      He had been avoiding sex with me for that week. I went and got tested and I had nothing he was cheating. Dirty ol dog. I'm headed to divorce court. Men are most likely to not wear protection sad but true.

    • ClaireHuxtable

      Although I am PURE in HEART, Miss Sandy, I am familiar with the term...
      I wanna know what you were thinking when you used it?? L0l!!

    • R in NYC

      I'm still so amazed at how many black men refuse to wear a condom especially in NYC. They think they can "look" at a woman and tell if she has HIV or other Std's.
      Thanks for the info Sandra

    • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

      I used that term to illustrate the fact that the vagina is durable, elastic, tough and designed to take a pounding.

    • ClaireHuxtable

      Wow... Guess he didn't eat much for dinner. He was probably pretty full from his day!

    • R in NYC

      What you said. Protect yourself at all times ladies.

    • HotInCleveland

      Agreed!

    • Chicagowise

      Honestly, if I had a child, I would not want him or her to be gay. I've lived this life and I know that rainbow is an illusion. I know what it's like to be boxed in, marginalized, and even hunted because you are gay. I wouldn't wish that on anyone.

      I compared myself to other animals, because human beings are animals too. All the behaviors exhibited by mankind are also found in other species. We like to think that we are superior to the other animals we share this planet with, but we are not.

    • Chicagowise

      LMAO! A high protein diet.

    • BRuhman_Vista

      I thought his wife was middle eastern or Armenian. She definitely not Caucasian.

    • BRuhman_Vista

      Yep ?

    • Rayne

      Ump!

    • Robert lee Bennett OG

      Well I am a heterosexual so I am pretty good

    • Sushi

      So let me say this, because I was one of the people that said a man (can) get it from a woman, again it is called vaginal secretions... I did not read the write up,. My argument, and I still stand by it, and for those that are smart enough to do your research, will have a understanding that it is possible. I'm not addressing the stats vice versa, that is not Why I responded to your comment......You know what why am I casting pearls to swine, I won't ... For someone to have and I will say it again a platform as big as yours, I see now how bias you can be, toward anything that does not fit in your paradigm.... No worries #Nonegativityin2019..... I got what I have been praying for since the beginning of the year and that is to remove negative things and people from my paradigm..... To all of the roses, that I have met along the way, with different opinions than I, and we still can get on here and Kiki much love.... this will be my last post... And no losing one is not going to make you or break you I understand that, but you just lost one # removingnegativity... in all facets of life

    • ClaireHuxtable

      Thank you for entertaining and informing us in more ways than one, Miss Sandy.
      Your description was well crafted and I shall be stuck with the visual for a great deal of the day.

    • BRuhman_Vista

      And yet all these IG "models", wannabees, rappers, and ballers still out here rawdoggin' and producing babies like there's no tomorrow. ???

    • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

      No problem, hun. ?

    • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

      I worked on the first dedicated AIDS unit in the entire East back in the late 80s. Not one male AIDS patient I interviewed said he got it from a woman.

    • Meme

      Ms Sandra is it true that kaposi sacoma (aids defining illness) only affected homosexual men,

    • HotInCleveland

      Agreed. We lucked up as the species that whose brains evolved differently than the other animals. I’m sorry you had to go through those things.

    • Rayscoty

      Sandra acting like Lesbians can't catch it from mouth to vagina. They use toys which can cause tear and then put their mouth on it.

    • Sushi

      That is from your experience, but again research it has happen, it is happening, and to inform your readers that it is not possible, and they can't get it that way, is giving them a false since of security. ...But look here is the thing, If they like it, hell I love it.

    • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

      No. KS affects people with suppressed immune systems. That includes people with HIV that progresses to AIDS.

    • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

      HIV does not spread through saliva. Only from blood to blood contact.

    • missmiami305

      Auntie is the only blogger that takes the time to educate folks via medical minute. It's always been one of my favs.

    • Meme

      Thanks for answering so if you met a woman who had the virus would you have sx with her? (Obviously you where attracted to her / in love with her
      Whatever). Only because it scares me that young men will think because they are sleeping with a woman (only via the vag) they will never catch it and this scares me. We all know anal spreads it quicker etc, however are you saying you can never catch hiv from a woman through vaginal sx alone if she carries the virus?

    • Meme

      So scissor sisters?

    • Meme

      Yes but I heard only gay men with aids got kaposi S not women or heterosexual men who have aids

    • Michelle

      So would you tongue kiss someone in the mouth whose has HIV or AIDS? Cause I wouldn’t. They have “new studies” every week that have discovered something. No thanks

    • Meme

      Agreed!

    • Chicagowise

      Thank you. Everyone has a cross to bear. I think hardships should make us more human, more empathetic.

    • HotInCleveland

      You’re absolutely right. But some folks are too busy hiding behind dogma and using it as an excuse to condemn others. I can honestly say I’m more empathetic now that I’m not religious. I don’t give a damn who you screw as long as it’s consensual and doesn’t harm others.

    • Meme

      I think whether you are male female or anything in between if you will indulge in anything that you can possibly get the virus assume EVERYONE has it until they prove otherwise always use protection, until you both go down the clinic and witness each other's results and trust no one 100%. Kids these days are so nonchalant and lackadaisical about aids we need to give them correct info that no one is safe!

    • Whirl

      You are correct. It was considered common behavior amongst the romans.

    • Pamela

      Well she still ain't Black.

    • dru and neil

      I’m stuck with a visual of a nice pounding as well. To bad none of the men can be trusted at this time, to deliver one.

    • tintin

      So women out there passing hiv on cause of a cut in their coochie and slanging it bareback?..i dont remember ever having a cut in my cooch. Is this Normal? I thought the juices is what passes it on.

      https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/8a62ec1d15692d62578582ba242ab4261e27a0a143428ca292e4219bf31f2a55.gif

    • dru and neil

      Eileen, you sound like a prude today. Relax girl!

    • dru and neil

      So did I! And quite frankly I still do.

    • Whirl

      I’m thinking herpes given it can be an open wound at onset. Just guessing. The comments from the gay males commenting are extremely insightful. Interesting post.

    • Guess Who

      Name one lesbian you have ever heard of that transmitted HIV to another lesbian.

      News article, blog, "Fatal Attraction" episode, anything?

    • Guess Who

      I still have NEVER seen, read, heard ANY proof of dykes transmitting it from one to another.

      And even though I am sure it's possible and has happened, how common is it for a WOMAN infected to give it to a man? Not from some dude lying but FACTUAL proof, like a court case or medical proof?

    • Mz_Opinionated

      REFUSE???!! That is a very strong word and I would never date someone who flat out REFUSED to use protection. We as women are super susceptible to sooo many different things beyond HIV. You can contract BV, Yeast Infections, HPV and all the STI's there are out there. Our vagina is the gateway to life. EWW...

    • Robert lee Bennett OG

      Did you read the article above of course you can but it’s a smaller chance than letting a man go in your rear end

    • David86

      Better write up but you must stop minimizing the risk women have. If an infected person's precum sperm or blood enters the vagina she is at risk. Not only from a rip in tissue but from also entering the cervix.
      Black women especially need to know the risk and protect themselves.
      Lesbians are st risk also especially when one person has other name for female partners or from not cleaning sex toys correctly after sharing with an infected partner.
      Very good write up but I do this for a living so I'm always critical how information is presented

    • David86

      The correct term is lesbian. Let's not be disrespectful and read below for your answer

    • Chicagowise

      That was before Christianity was installed. The same thing happened in Africa.

    • jwoo250

      Oh Lord.. How gross. Just gone risk it all for one night. Be a shield Jesus,

    • Wreckognize Game

      Thank you Sandra for taking your time to inform your readers. You don’t use creative words as in your entertainment stories. Just straight to the point in these medical minutes. ??

    • Meme

      But you make out a hetro man cannot catch it from a hetro woman

    • MSGREENMINUSTHEENVY

      Thank you for sharing your information as well, never knew this!

    • Robert lee Bennett OG

      Yes they can but it is rare

    • elroy

      absolutely, having herpes puts you at high risk for hiv

    • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

      So would you tongue kiss someone in the mouth whose has HIV or AIDS?

      I sure would if she looked like Kelly Rowland or Halle Berry! ?

    • Meme

      finally you get it!!!!! Side bar Make sure your woman doesn't have wondering fingers son, keep your bootay tight!?

    • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

      There are many patients with Kaposi's who are women and heterosexual men. How would you hear about them? KS is a rare form of cancer.

    • Bossy704

      I never knew all of this. I just get tested for everything every year. Stuff can lay dormant and creep up on you. I can't go blind. Syphilis is really bad now.

    • bemetoo

      Thank you thank you thank you.. me and my aunt was just having this conversation

    • Meme

      That's what I read! Ever since I was young and watched the tv adverts about Don t die of ignorance, I have the fear of God in me and probably an irrational fear or phobia about aids. I noticed none of my friends seemed to care!
      Anyway i read a lot about it over the years and people's stories i heard of bug chasing gift giving stealthing the whole kitten caboodle. I used to frequent a gay website that had fantasy stories (I'm sure some where real) and the shocking stories I read of. Then ther e was that film about the young rentboy (boy who acted in 3rd rock from the sun) who slept with a man with all the legions on his body and he said it was ks so I'm sure I read on Wikipedia that only gay men get ks and since you where a nurse in the 80s thought you'd know that!

    • Robert lee Bennett OG

      A man that let a woman do that is a homosexual

    • Meme
    • Lanegra??

      O Auntie LOL

    • Mr.LeBrickJames

      That's why so many of them have herpes and other STD's, even if they don't have HIV. The herp is almost at epidemic levels nationwide.

    • ZRoJoTheLezBeyond

      "The vagina was designed for penetration. It is well lubricated and durable. The vaginal walls are slippery, strong and can take a beating during moments of passion."

      https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/a9c6db5cc9cdd5408ac50af293c8fe60dc6ee7e0266e8104ea88c3d85c6c0c95.gif
      I know what you said is true but it's the delivery of the message that tripped me out. I'm not prude but you kinda caught me off guard, I wasn't expecting that lol!!

    • BRuhman_Vista

      Notice you hear very little in the news these days about the spread of STDs --- especially in the black community. It's not being focused on like it should be.

    • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

      I edited it. Too many complaints. ?

    • ZRoJoTheLezBeyond

      Awww... I wasn't one of the ones complaining, I just double backed to read it and started laughing.

    • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

      I know. I changed it because HIV transmission is a serious topic.

    • What???

      I didn’t see any mention of the risk of female HIV transmission to straight male.

    • IyanlaVanzantoftheInterWebs

      Hopefully Easy E’s daughter tuned in today for this lesson???

    • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

      Read the post again.

    • Trice

      I didn't get it from anal, but I guess the punk was dl and I had no idea .I only had one sex partner for 20 years. Separate from husband and talk to a guy and boom didn't find out until this year and it happened back in 2013. This disease is a trip meaning I didn't know. Ask God to forgive me for that slip up but then find out 5 years later..#life...I take meds and the doctors act like it's no big deal if only the stigma surrounding it was as normal..you don't know who is living with this disease it's not like it's written on your forehead. But I do laugh at some of the comments..

    • What???

      Ok..I only see practicing safe sex on the post. I was looking for the probability of HIV vaginal fluid infecting a heterosexual male through intercourse but discluding a female having anal sex with a “straight” male. Help me out.

    • Itzgoingdown2

      Did you not read what she just wrote? Women ARE NOT INFECTING MEN. A man has a better chance of getting struck by lighting than getting HIV from a one night stand.

    • Itzgoingdown2

      I can't believe women or (men pretending to be women) are still in here talking about a man getting HIV from sex with a woman.

    • Itzgoingdown2

      You are seriously confused. Women ARE NOT giving men HIV, fact.

      https://www.aliveandwell.org/html/risk_realities/whatever_happened.html

      "If a man wants to lie about having had sex with other men, he can, and that makes it look like more people get AIDS from straight sex than really do. By re-interviewing victims, their doctors, and their families, Chicago health officials found in 1997 that in 85% of the cases the city had blamed on heterosexual transmission, other risk factors were present. This phenomenon became a source of black humor at New York City’s overworked health department in the late eighties. “What do you call a man who got HIV from his girlfriend?” the joke went. “A liar.”"

    • Itzgoingdown2

      You're correct, sir

    • Itzgoingdown2

      Are you a woman or man?

    • Itzgoingdown2

      More than half of the people who read article are still talking about A WOMAN giving a man HIV. ????

      https://www.aliveandwell.org/html/risk_realities/whatever_happened.html

      "If a man wants to lie about having had sex with other men, he can, and that makes it look like more people get AIDS from straight sex than really do. By re-interviewing victims, their doctors, and their families, Chicago health officials found in 1997 that in 85% of the cases the city had blamed on heterosexual transmission, other risk factors were present. This phenomenon became a source of black humor at New York City’s overworked health department in the late eighties. “What do you call a man who got HIV from his girlfriend?” the joke went. “A liar.”"

    • Meme

      Woman!

    • Meme

      Yeah i know i understand where you're coming from but as I said above, trust no one assume everyone has it until they can prove otherwise!

    • Meme

      It is dangerous for you to tell young men they can never pick up the virus from a woman... very dangerous,

    • Meme

      Your link didn't load

    • R in NYC

      Look swee

    • SummerBaby

      Thank you for sharing your story. ?? :hugs:

    • R in NYC

      Look sweety calm down. Men need to wear condoms period! Have you forgotten about those other sexual diseases out there? I do believe I said HIV and other Std's....so perhaps YOU should read more closely.
      Have a nice day.

    • R in NYC

      Yes....Refused...dudes are out here like that. Just got through talking to one matter of fact who has a kid by a prostitute because he refused to wear a condom.

    • Mz_Opinionated

      Eww!!! ??

    • ?jessica?

      Thanks. A lot of us needed this

    • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

      Everyone who is sexually active should practice safe sex. Here's a graph that shows the rate of transmission for new HIV infections. Notice Black heterosexual females are infected at more than twice the rate of Black heterosexual men. And take into considering that probably half of those men lied about how they got infected.

      https://www.cdc.gov/hiv/basics/statistics.html

      https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/b78ad3c1d0d9bb32cff3e6b47a78058a5d332ccae07c317a8a678359f221f6ab.png

    • Itzgoingdown2

      You probably have a popup blocker. Here you go.

      Whatever Happened to AIDS and Straight Men?
      https://www.aliveandwell.org/html/risk_realities/whatever_happened.html

    • Queen B

      Thanks for sharing! Sorry to hear about your marriage u definitely not deserve that type of mess in your life. Be safe and blessed!

    • Meme

      Yes i do not dispute that however to tell a heterosexual male he cannot get it from a heterosexual female is misleading it is less likely yes but still plausible yes!

    • Meme

      Na wow for this where is the white male hetro stats???

    • Itzgoingdown2

      It would be great if you post twice a year on this subject. I can understand certain groups not wanting to be stigmatized. But not speaking out leads to the end result of black women being blamed for spreading HIV. Which we know is simply not true.

    • Meme

      Ok cheers will do

    • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

      Here is a graph that shows the rate of new HIV infections. Please note the last row that shows 999 white women contracted HIV through heterosexual sex.

      Also note that Black women were infected by men at more than twice the rate of Black female-to-male transmission.

      But where is the row for white men who contracted HIV from white women via vaginal fluid? This graph proves the likelihood of a woman transmitting HIV to a man via vaginal fluid is extremely low.

      https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/b78ad3c1d0d9bb32cff3e6b47a78058a5d332ccae07c317a8a678359f221f6ab.png

    • Queen B

      I thank God every day that he has kept me protected bc lord knows ive been foolish with my body in the past ? And I stayed in a long term relationship with a man I knew was slanging pipe from Atlanta to Gwinnett. Now im in a stabled relationship and we get tested every year but I don't put chit pass anyone but I do trust him. Seems like ppl gotta carry rapid HIV test and condoms with them.

    • Itzgoingdown2

      There are a lot of diseases that men can get from vagina sex. HIV ain't one of them. Possible but more lightly to get struck by lighting

      Focusing on heterosexual men and HIV has led to many.....many..... A LARGE PERCENT OF BLACK BI/HOMOSEXUAL MEN to either be in denial or just straight lie about the dangers of homosexuality. Just let at the current end result. Homosexual/Bi Black men and HETEROSEXUAL BLACK WOMEN currently have epidemic third world HIV rates!!!!! ????

      25% of gay/bi black men have HIV by twenty five approx 60%, the majority, have HIV by 40!

    • Ant Hill

      no you faqs and lesbos want to pass the buck on to hetero men and blame them but as the research above shows it is a disease of gays.

    • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

      They have an agenda to blame HIV on the Black community - particularly Black women. When I worked on the East's first dedicated AIDS unit in the 1980s (back when AIDS was called GRID for Gay-Related Immune Deficiency), my job was to interview new intake HIV patients. The white male HIV patients all told the truth regarding how they contracted the virus. But most of the Black male HIV patients lied, saying they were infected by women. After I assured them that their answers would not be revealed to anyone, they admitted they had sex with men. Researchers who have an agenda will accept the first answer as the gospel truth.

    • ClaireHuxtable
    • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

      The reality is female-to-male HIV transmission is extremely low. The stats have been skewed by men who lie about how they were infected.

    • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

      Scroll up and look at the graph I just posted.

    • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose
    • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

      I didn't say women are not infecting men. Female-to-male transmission is less risky. But females can infect men if he has an open wound like a scratch or a tear in his skin. Everyone should practice safe sex.

    • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

      There are confirmed cases of female transmission to male if the male has an open wound, sore, scratch, etc. on his penis.

    • Meme

      Pow i stand corrected maybe should have ssid predominantly male

    • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

      There you go. ??

    • Itzgoingdown2

      Very true. My link goes into a lot of detail about all the money, deflecting ect.

      “Gay men don’t want it fixed because they’ll be blamed again for the disease,” Sonnabend says. “Charities like AmFAR don’t want it fixed because they’ll lose their funding. And “straight” men with HIV certainly don’t want it fixed because then everybody will know they’ve been having sex with men. Those are the ones who will scream bloody murder if you print all this stuff. You’re outing the poor bastards.”

      Some of us take whatever the liberal media and Extremist black blogs says as truth. I don't know what many are going to do for info and an alternative perspective without you.....

      This is one of the reasons I go so hard at Don Lemon. He pretends to be concerned about the black community but he's not. If he was he'd address the HIV epidemic in the black community as you have.

      My other reason is during Hurricane Katrina LaDonna refused to go into New Orleans. The Black main anchor at the station, Warner Sauders, asked him on air why he wasn't in New Orleans. LaDonna replied "the people" were dangerous and were rioting.

      While every other news reporter (including white men and blonde haired blue eyed white women reporters) were in New Orleans covering the after effects, damage and death (some helping), Lemon refused to go there and instead reported from another city outside of New Orleans. This is not hearsay. I saw this and Heard this with my own eyes and ears. I've looked but can't find that broadcast anywhere...... Have a good one.

    • What???

      Thanks for looking it up.

    • Itzgoingdown2

      Right, I agree. Sorry if I oversimplified it while trying to make the point that MSM is where most of the attention and awareness should be focused.

      I read about a study..... Don't remember the exact details but men in monogamous relationships were tracked with their HIV positive wife/mate. After 5 years of continuous unprotected vaginal sex, I think maybe 15- 20% of the men tested positive.

    • Listen2Me

      Please don’t get offended but:
      Did you just get tested in 2019? The slip up happened in 2013, were you with the guy from 2013-2019? What made you get tested? Again I’m not being judgmental just trying to understand the situation.

    • Elevated Soul

      Good job Sandra Rose!....I'm just so amazed that so many people still don't know anything about this disease.I'm in my 20's and I'm very well versed in this....

      Sandra listed the various ways that this disease is transmitted and how people put themselves at risk....Another way that people put themselves at risk is by knowingly putting up with a cheater who you sleep with while using no protection.Many people who have acquired HIV, were faithful to their significant other but they put themselves at risk by staying with a cheater.

      #CheatersCanBringYouHIV
      #SayNoToCheaters
      #CheatersCanEndYourLife

    • KcoolMuziq

      "The only males who say they got it from a female are celebrities and public figures who don't want to admit how they really got it."

      Are U trying to insinuate a certain person is lying?

    • http://www.legalizemelanin.com Legalize Melanin

      Thank you for using your blog for something good Sandra!

    • Logan Roberts

      And knowing is half the battle?

    • Trice

      Yes it can!. I been tested throughout the years for std's. Unfortunately not Hiv. I only had one partner so when I got tested last year in 2018. He was negative I was positive. I knew I had messed with someone else in 2013 so he had to be the culprit. I'm coping but I think about how badly I wish i could turn back time...I would have definitely made better choices...#man

    • dontgetblocked

      So black women are being infected by down low black males at such a rate that we're the second largest group. My Gawd!

    • B.Loveitt

      Thanks for setting some of these issues straight.

    • B.Loveitt

      Lot of it is all this anal sex so many are into now. Straight/Gay ? anal it the fastest way to transmit HIV. I had 2 cluster once, in these 2 groups kept showing up positive for the same STI's every 3/6mths (outside of HIV). One group was gang related they were "sexing" the new female members in and the other group would chose to consume alcohol anally and sharing the bottles. Humans are a hot mess!!!

    • Let’s Play

      Good Post... so if tops (m2m) are less likely to get it right... but bottoms get it more... does that mean that the women being infected are likely being penetrated by bottoms in a m2f relationships on the side?

    • Meme

      Awww man sorry to hear that.

      How comes you where tested for everything but hiv?

    • leapyearpisces

      Late to the party, but thanks Sandra for the post, and at least we here on this blog are willing to DISCUSS this topic when so many aren't.

    • leapyearpisces

      Girl... and when I was in high school folks were talking about black syphilis. Even with a Google search, I still don't know if it is a real thing, BUT WHAT I DO know, is like my sophomore year of highschool a top girl basketball player at my school came to school one day with a walker, and she was walking with that walker for a good minute. She told everyone she had rheumatoid arthritis. Well, her older brother confided in someone, and it was found out that she had contracted gonnoccal arthritis via untreated gonorrhea.

    • leapyearpisces

      GOD bless you girl. Live your best life. Thank GOD it's not a death sentence anymore, but I can imagine it still is alienating. The bad thing about HIV is the stigma. The STIGMA is way more worse than being positive. People can live now being positive, but I'm sure it's hard to live being viewed as a
      modern day leper. THAT! is what makes it hard for folks, but you keep your head up mama. Life AIN'T over. Be encouraged, dear heart. XOXOXOXO.

    • leapyearpisces

      PS: To everyone in this post (you too auntie ), I guess we will get a better handle on this STD thing POSSIBLY in the future , including HIV, because according to D.L Hughly (so if I am lying, I am lying behind him), some teens have created STD reactive condoms. What he said on his radio show, some teens as part of a science fair created condoms that will turn specific colors when entering someone with a STD. For example, if a person has chlymdia, the condom will turn pink upon insertion, if the person has herpes, the condom will turn blue upon insertion. Once again, this is what I heard one day listening to D.L. Hughly''s show on the way home from work.

    • Panther Charleston

      Quote of the day: "The vagina was designed for penetration. It is well lubricated and durable. The vaginal walls are slippery, elastic and strong" (S. Rose).

    • Patricia

      why do black women have the 2nd highest risk of infection though? is it bc all black men are bisexual hos? or are black women living up to the negative stereotype of being sexual objects? or are all black folks on hard drugs? the link i visited (https://www.cdc.gov/hiv/group/gender/women/index.html) says bisexual black men are the culprit.

      downlow bisexual men display telltale sings, but, women continuously ignore them. the main sign is him being a HO.
      if he has sex with everybody, he will have sex with ANYBODY. assume the worst about whorish behavior. no self-control, no morals, non-specific dating preferences. whomever hes with, hes laying with, including YOU and doesnt even half know you.
      think about your relationship history with black men. did you meet, hook up, move him right on in??? thats how the bisexual black man moves. a bed-hopper. you could be any damned body be it sick, deranged, violent etc and he doesnt know and doesnt care. hes not choosy, doesnt scrutinize, doesnt perform a background check. he just doesnt care about himself, his safety, nor his future. THAT is your indicator.
      now, black women do all these things as well, but, we pay dearly messing with bisexual/homosexual men.
      forget what ya heard. keep that loooong list of qualifications people are always talking ish about. dont be no HO and dont be with no HO. dont settle.

    • dontgetblocked

      What in God's name? What ever happened to plain old vanilla sex.

    • Bee jaay Cee

      I used to teach state mandated HIV/TB classes. At the time, my best discussion centered around HIPAA laws regarding reporting requirements. I am an administrator, soon to be owner of a high level residential home for adults with developmental disabilities. Our clients can also have a secondary diagnosis of mental illness. The question was...….if you see 2 residents heading towards the bedroom, and one is HIV positive, what would you do?

    • BdRmiz39

      Pretty Much!!
      That's why I rearranged my list of 'attributes' I would want a man to have that I am interested in dating.
      I literally moved Heterosexual (Including Absolutely No Homosexual Contact of ANY Kind; Miss Me with that Experimental SHI_) above Educational Level and Bank Account Balance.
      Yep. That's more important to me.
      We can meet for lunch, dinner, movies, etc. a few times in the beginning.
      But around date four, meeting at the clinic and getting tested TOGETHER is a requirement.
      Can you believe three guys in a row refused to go get tested with me???

    • Coffee1st

      What a question!!
      During psych rotation we had this chick in intake who had hiv. She was released after being stabilized.
      Soon after I see her walking down the road. A car load of guys slowed down trying to holler. If they planned to run a train, they damn well could have. I just know half if not all had to have a girlfriend/wife. My heart sank. I didn't say anything though....I couldn't. That was an awful, awful feeling though.

    • Coffee1st

      Girl, He's protected quite a few of us.
      I just smh when I think about it sometimes.

    • Coffee1st

      I had a female patient with it. She was my very first aids pt...was young too.

    • Meme

      Wow very tragic

    • Jussjess25

      Thanks auntie very good article, but I will never believe black women are at the highest rates of spreading and getting aids. Never! Its a perpetual lie that had bo basis. Who are the swarms of black women who have aids? Where are they ?

    • Phillybruh

      I can believe it, because its a personal medical thing. Why not just have them show you their results after getting tested on their own and don't move forward until they do. But getting tested in front of you is not for some.

    • Phillybruh

      Wow, thank god you found out before something catastrophic medically happened. The meds are pretty efficient these days.

    • DaughterOfaQueen

      It's also "durable" who knew?????

    • B.Loveitt

      ??????

    • B.Loveitt

      Exactly...these folks are doing way too much!

    • http://www.zenbiztravel.com theonezbt

      Very responsible post. Bravo

    • BdRmiz39

      I used to accept a guy's personal results.
      That was until a female patient who sees the same gyno that I see got tricked that way.
      The guy she was dating for a while lied through his teeth. This fool actually had a friend of his basically commit i.d. theft and go to his HMO lab technician posing as him and take the STD panel tests for him.
      Well, this 'great' guy she was dating gave her herpes. She broke down and had some relatives confront him and he confessed (at least that's how she claimed to get the truth from him).
      Then, I had a scare of my own where I started to suspect this guy I was dating. I did my own detective work when a gay male friend of mine and I were walking along the beach one afternoon and saw the guy I was seeing sitting on a bench.
      Well, I sent my gay friend up to him to specifically flirt with the guy, and this fool took the bait immediately.
      My gay friend swears up and down he told the guy his status (positive), and the guy I was 'dating' hooked up with my gay friend ANYWAY.
      I was soooo paranoid, I didn't date for 2 1/2 years and drove my gyno crazy with getting tested every three months.
      Trust me. I have a big mouth, and I am nowhere near shy asking a guy about his sexual exploits.
      I am extremely cautious at this point, yes Mam, because I will literally take your life if you lie to me and take mine.
      I am not one of those women a guy can lie to.
      Besides. There is no need to lie nowadays. There are plenty of women who don't mind bisexuality, tri-sexuality, etc. They need to hook up with one of them.
      Yep. I said it.