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This post explores the effects of "Dopamine" on the human brain when two people are initially intensely attracted to each other. It's easy for 2 people to believe they are "in love" during this initial exciting phase. Unfortunately, the excitement phase doesn't last.

Dopamine is one of three main neurotransmitters (chemicals) in the brain that creates "chemistry" between 2 people in the initial excitement phase. The other two chemicals are adrenaline and serotonin. Dopamine, adrenaline and serotonin triggers an intense rush of pleasure that should result in the procreation of children.

The reason it is so difficult to maintain a stable relationship in the longterm is the basic evolutionary drive to ensure the survival of the human race.

This basic evolutionary drive is much more intense in men. A woman can only get pregnant once a year (twice if she times it right). But men can sow their seeds literally hundreds or thousands of times per year. Which can lead to problems with infidelity.

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The dopamine phase eventually fades after 2 weeks, 2 months or 2 years.

So what can you do to sustain that intense pleasure in your relationship for a lifetime? First, make sure you are both equally yoked.

Psychologist Daniel Sher says the initial excitement phase is "replaced by a feeling of safety and predictability, which can be a death knell in relationships."

He suggests breaking the cycle of monotony by doing something different. Start by remembering that you are both distinct individuals with different needs; What do you want? What do you crave? What gets you going outside of sex? Outside hobbies that break the routine, whether done separately or together, can bring your sex drive back to life.

"If the relationship is stagnant, often the individuals also feel stuck in their life," Megan Lamber told Elite Daily. "Ask yourself, 'What do I really want? What is a secret dream of mine I could explore?' Then go out and try it."

"Couples get boring because they assume they know each other already," explained Lambert. "They don't. In every moment, your partner is a new and unique human. Imagine you are an alien meeting your partner for the first time. What would an alien be curious about? What would you want to know? Explore each other as if you were two aliens, totally new, totally fresh."

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  • xxxgracious

    #DEAD ????

  • MistaO

    Easy, get a new woman! Duh!!!

    Naw, but most females today old and young are retarded and impossible. I've known females who honestly think that it is the man's responsibility to keep them amused and entertained!??

    What's worse is the dudes who actually try to accommodate these hoes. The worse is the "I'm bored" broads. I absolutely hate hearing that, then look around they house and it's utterly filthy. Bi tch clean this house then read a book, you won't have time to be bored and sit up thinking about what you think is wrong in yo life..???

  • Sushi

    It's not hard to understand.... I love homemade red velvet cake, but if I eat it everyday, surely I will grow tired of it....This happen to me an my ex we were together for 8 years, we met on a chat line (yes I am telling my age) met face to face after 3 months of talking on the phone, and from that day we were together everyday all day when we were not working, we even went to social gatherings together, i.e. friends and family gatherings. The old adage is true absents makes the heart grow founder...One to grow on....

  • Dontgetdraggedputa??

    Easy, stop thinking that you have to engage every man youre attracted to. Be attracted quietly close your legs and go tf home.

  • Vegas1989

    I've been with my husband 11 years and he still gets on my nerves...LOL but we have date night still on Thursday and we laugh and talk together..Like yesterday while going bowling he asked me to pronounce a street and I jacked it all up......LOL...and he just laughed his butt off and said I would be lost if you gave me directions....I was all the way wrong...It was funny...I do be jacking up words and then be slick and try to correct myself...LOL

  • She.Is.Not.Ready

    15 years (7 married) and I love my hubby now more than ever. I've never really agreed with the whole idea marriage is hard work. Not once have I felt like coming home to him is a chore....he is my sanctuary. We netflix hulu and chill...go out for date night a few times a month. I generally enjoy the time we are together more than anything. Like them before you love them and sustaining it shouldn't be hard.

  • KarmaBackAround

    Been with my husband 8 yrs n the dopamine hasnt faded lol i think its cause we have a true a physical and spiritual connection.. he irks my nerve to no end trust that! But physically, we have noooo problem there.. n if we are beefin n cant seem to come back to terms, we do something fun like he'll pull out his dj equipment and ill dance like atl's best stripper all nite, etc..be n tuned with ur partner, learn what they like!

  • SingleGalCrazyWorld

    I miss the chatline!!! We used to call the The Roach in Philly when I was growing up!!!

  • Sushi

    You are in time out...LOL

  • Sushi

    Yesssssss

  • MrsSpice1

    I loooovvvve my suga bear/husband to the death of me (16 years) but man o man do we get into it like an OLD 89yr old couple sometimes i just cant stand him lmao!!! But we know how to bounce back strong ?? af!! Our bond is literally unbreakable!! Yes in the beginning the dopamine was off the chain but eventually as you grow together you have to learn how to embrace change that your both going to experience individually and at times during that your going to bump heads ? but he has this very silly way in making sht right again ??? he knows how to make me forget why i was even madd at his azz!!! We both love each other flaws and all and no matter what we always find away to make it feel like the first time we fell inlove thats how i know my booger is my soulmate! Far as the bedroom action lol ill just say this its good but as we get older sht we b tired ?!!!

  • SingleGalCrazyWorld

    In my former life I spent 10+ years with a man who I adored...when I tell you it didn't matter where or when but we always managed to want to touch each other.... If we had an argument and stopped talking he would come to my job with love letters and Orchids...I adored his laugh and his smile and even like the smell of his sweat (chile)...My momma would say he was the calm to my storm and knew how to handle me lol...I can sincerely say I have never felt that way about another man ...I dont know if my meter is broken or if Im just tired but I would like to feel that way with someone again...

  • chaisun

    Did the chemistry fade eventually? I hope you find something like that again. ?

  • chaisun

    All these love stories are making me hopeful ??. I love it!

  • MistaO

    10+ years??!! Naw G that's too much of an investment. People be playing too much and for too long. It's no wonder the days of the 50+ year marriages are OVA???

  • Mr.LeBrickJames

    I hear you on that. Personally, for me it would be 3 years max. By that time either we've both got wedding rings on, or we've decided to go separate ways.

  • IyanlaVanzantoftheInterWebs

    Aint NUFFIN like being on that SAUCE with the hubby https://media2.giphy.com/media/RJaUOmpBQAoE4RuWnj/giphy.gif

  • IyanlaVanzantoftheInterWebs
  • Gloria

    What a great read, Sandra.

    I think the obvious key to any successful relationship is to never get too comfortable. I don't care how in love you think you are and how comfortable you feel. Yes, you got the man/woman, that doesn't mean you stop doing what you use to do while dating (romantic poems/notes to each other, dates, doing new activities together, etc). And take care of yourself because your partner deserves the best version of you and you deserve to be the best version of yourself. Stay healthy, fit, and active in your relationship. It will work out if meant to be :)

  • IyanlaVanzantoftheInterWebs

    #metoo

  • IyanlaVanzantoftheInterWebs
  • MistaO

    Especially for a woman. A man can pick up an start a family at 60+! For a woman that clock stops way before that. But they wanna get ran through then think a man posed to be waiting on a 30, 40 plus year old pass around?!? no ma'am ?

  • E-VannaRootsAllEvil

    Sandra does this happen more with lesbians?

  • ThisIsWhat43LooksLike

    Ok, now this I totally agree with. I’ve never understood the marriage is hard work bs. 25 years married and he is still my best friend, lover and heart. Nothing about him or our marriage is a chore. We adore each other more and more with each year. I could go own but I know you get it. Again, what you said was on point. ?????

  • Renee26

    I've never had this problem. I enjoy sex with my man and keep it spicy. Just being in love and getting it back is a turn on to me. I've never turned any of my exes down for sex and can't say things got boring after 2 years.

  • MistaO

    How about putting God and his will and instruction 1st (well if you're in a marriage)?

    S hit if people did those things alone, all the rest of this stress and garbage people spewing wouldn't be necessary....js

  • Renee26

    Dead

  • MistaO

    That sounds real sweet he's a lucky man....and....you're a lucky woman!?

  • ThisIsWhat43LooksLike

    Absolutely ??

  • SingleGalCrazyWorld

    It never faded even during the worst of times... I felt like he could SEE me when no one else couldn't... he just fell prey to circumstances in my city... We weren't perfect he was very romantic but during one of our breaks he conceived a child and the woman kept it... After a year I went back with him because I loved him to the core...He started to resent me because my career took off kinda fast...short days and shorter nights together...he stopped being around as much but I still held out hope because I saw the "bigger picture"...Eventually I had to give up cause I knew he didn't want more for himself...Once we were finished he went right to baby momma and they had another kid (Still not married to this day)...My mom said that he just preferred the lower fruit hanging on the tree and didnt want to take the risk and climb to a higher branch for riper one... Baby Momma seems cool but she's suffers from hoodrat syndrome and sells wigs at the hair store...oh and just lets him do whatever he wants with no consequences...I dont think about him as much because that was in my former life (20's to early 30's)...but once in a while a dream creeps in my head and he's there...everything happens for a reason so I just move on and pray it will happen again...

  • Gloria

    I’m sure there are people, maybe on this post, who will attest to a failed marriage despite being firm believers.

  • SingleGalCrazyWorld

    I was young as hell when I met him (just turned 20 and was in undergrad) so was he...we talked about getting married in our 30th year but we had a long way to go and I wanted to finish my Masters and go straight to PhD....Im sorry but my education came first...Oh and how the hell can you even see my post I blocked ya ass like two years ago...

  • SingleGalCrazyWorld

    Niggas value "love" over education and stability...I thought better of you but now I know...

  • KarmaBackAround

    ???????

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    It depends. Dopamine affects the brain the same way in terms of intimacy. The obvious difference is lesbians can't get each other pregnant.

  • Bashi22

    Very informative Sandra

  • Mr.LeBrickJames

    It's clear that you're misinterpreting the meaning of my comment... but at this point I don't even feel like explaining or clarifying myself. (And by the way, me and my wife have love as well as education and stability, the whole package. So it's not a matter of valuing one over the other.)
    You "thought better" of me? Frankly your opinion of me doesn't matter to me, sis. Have a good day.

  • Dahl

    I don’t care how much I love someone, a baby would’ve ended it immediately. Do you feel like if you married him whilst in university, you wouldn’t have finished or reached your career goals? Or do you think you knew deep down he lacked the ambition you wanted in a partner, and your self survival prevented you from being permanently attached to him? Just curios, no judgement...

  • Tee Tee

    Almost 20 years and we have sex EVERYDAY and twice on the weekends. He can't keep his hands to himself and I LOVE IT?

  • SingleGalCrazyWorld

    Obviously it did since you said that last sentence...Im glad you and your wife worked out but as I said I wasn't getting married in my 20's and I'll be damned if some nigga thats on the other side of the fence speaks on it...

  • KcoolMuziq

    I've heard swingers are the happiest couples.

  • https://nylapoprush.com/home twitch.tv/NylaPop

    When you block people, they can see you but you can't see them. Since you can still see them though, I'm gonna guess they have a new account with the same name.

  • SingleGalCrazyWorld

    He lacked the ambition all the way but was a big dreamer...The baby was a whole shocker that's why I left for a year and then came back what can I say we were broken up for a few months when she got preggo and I initiated the break up...when I met him he didn't have a job or goals but he wanted to be successful...I put pressure on him and helped him fill out his community college application ...he got in and I did his homework and assignments (keep in mind I was still in undergrad too)...Once I graduated he transferred to another college and I still helped him out with assignments... I took my GRE's but postponed grad because it was like I had to mother him...I gave money to him for a business he ran into the ground due to inspections that failed...I was siphoning money out from my trust just to get him situated...If I would have married him he would have gotten half of my trust and there was no way in Hades I was gonna do that with the way he spent money...

  • SingleGalCrazyWorld

    I think they do...too many people must have block him so he cant see nothing on the old account...

  • Mr.LeBrickJames

    My comment was that FOR ME I would set about a 3 year limit, which is what I did. (If other people want to go 10+ years that's fine, but that's way too long for me.) But I see you decided to take it personally like somebody was "bashing" you, and you got all up in your feelings. Totally not necessary. Not a problem though, sis. All the best to you.

  • MistaO

    Believing and putting those beliefs into daily practice, are two different things...

  • SingleGalCrazyWorld

    Im not your sis...Please dont impose your unreal idealistic man ways onto me...Men stay spit proverbial shit and expect women to take it...I dont care if Jason Mamoa got on one knee to propose after 3 years if I am not fully equipped to support myself on my own if something happens TO THAT MAN then I will not marry...You did bash so cut it the hell out and move the hell on...as I said the other side of the fence people stay talking shit...

  • IyanlaVanzantoftheInterWebs

    Homegirl brought the Tent DOWN and made that night a night to remember ?

  • MistaO

    Yep, the well worn story of a broad putting her "career" before something that may have yielded lifelong love and true success...smdh..
    And now sits, probably manless and ran through and now waxes poetic about the man she discarded for an education and career that no one gives a damn about!?

    Woo boy, yall some cautionary tales for young women if ever!!

    I keep telling yall, get a good man in your 20s and shut it down. No man really wants to "build" a life with a 30+ year old career female...nope??

  • Mr.LeBrickJames

    Clearly, you want to take things a certain way no matter what I say, so that's fine. You took it somewhere it really didn't even need to go, based on somebody talking about their own individual preference for their life. Nobody's telling you you should have gotten married after 3 years... and if that's what you took from my comment, you really need to get your comprehension on point, for real.

    But I dont come on here to argue with folks. If my comments bother you that much, your block button still works, so feel free to use it. Good day to you.

  • MistaO

    Your use of the n word belies your supposed education.?

  • KarmaBackAround

    Okayyyy!

  • Slim Goodie

    But what man is starting a family at 60? You sound dumb.

  • MistaO

    I've seen it. Especially if they spent their previous years dealing with lazy, argumentative, unsupportive, competitive, hardheaded, untrustworthy ole broads.

    I be happy for them when they find a young woman with sense and home training who truly loves them! Then decide to bring forth life with that young beautiful woman. ???

    I give these dudes the thumbs up. Most Black men die having never known what it's like to be with a genuinely loving woman. S hits sad..

  • Dahl

    Smart girl. Some people really serve a specific purpose in your life, and trying to force them to fulfill others they aren’t designed for will eventually end in some level of disaster. I hope you find the one for you ?

  • Neva RuthLess

    Wow. I’m very happy for you two. Any tips suggestions to keep the fire burning?

  • MistaO

    Funny how people don't like the truth...you can lie to yourself but the truth be there sitting, waiting for yo lazy self!???
    Y you aint got no man?

    I'm just teasing, I'm sure you're a lovely human being. ?

  • Connie
  • GrambosTheHealer

    lesbian bed death is a real thing....

  • SingleGalCrazyWorld

    Ugh Le GHetto...now I know why I blocked you...

    https://media1.giphy.com/media/3o85xmlKFUVQo2L4jK/giphy.gif

  • MistaO

    More than likely a case of the grass is greener. Found out it wuddent now small violins are playing....?

  • SingleGalCrazyWorld

    You call women "broads" so you must be one of those beer belly Incels who sit around and bash women all day...And honestly I didn't want to get married at all in my 20's everyone i Know who did is divorced now and dealing with tryna toosie roll at night and makeup for their lost twenties...Your sexist and obviously an uneducated simp who no one takes seriously...Now go on ahead and make those burgers at your job before I tell you manager... It wouldn't have yielded anything but a bad divorce and him walking away with half of my trust...I can get a man in my 20's now and mold him to my liking....You sound super young and dumb as hell...

  • EMILY POST

    Well the Bisexual lifestyle of most swingers. You got to be a real sexual free person to participate and be down. ?

  • SingleGalCrazyWorld

    I will and honestly I look better and have more now then I ever did in my 20's...I was reckless and just out there with no actual purpose...My sense of self, sexuality and purpose was restored in my 30's ...

  • SingleGalCrazyWorld

    I said what I said...You call women broads which makes me believe your not even african american (what black man says that)...a damn professional troll who keeps Aveeno on the nightstand cause your mouth spits out bull by the gallon... You dont know me but I bet i'd run circles around your ignorant azz if given the chance...smh I cant stand a Gavin type who speaks when not spoken to...

  • BlackNicheRims

    Right...who in the hell wants a baby with an old azz man? Only a simple female without good options or he has money. Either way, EEWWW.

  • Mr.LeBrickJames

    I guess I'm fortunate to have one of those then bro. It aint always about the love and the passion, even though that's all great. Went through a situation recently that made me really appreciate [once again] that God blessed me with a good one. Sometime it's when you go through some adversity that you have those moments when you stop and realize you've got yourself a true gem of a woman.

  • Ice

    Sure he can start a family, but at 60, he would be shortchanging his children and woman.
    An old man is an old man, regardless of whether his weak flagging dick and balls can produce sperm or not.

  • Connie

    Went through a situation recently that made me really appreciate [once again] that God blessed me with a good one.
    ^^^^^^^
    Tried a lil side piece then came to your senses quick huh? lol

  • MistaO

    Naw..I'm very much a Black man! Just because I call females broads, b itches, or w hores when it is truly applicable, doesn't, or shouldn't denote that I'm not Black..

    You really just mad because I touched a nerve. But your story is indicative of the mistakes that most career females have made. That's why so many of yall men just run through. I tell younger women don't fall for the traps that most yall older broads fell for. All that education/career bullshi t.

    It doesn't make you any more attractive to a man, especially a man of means that most yall say yall want. No woman of mine has ever had to work.

    Men don't care about whether your educated or not, your job level means nothing to me. Only men care about that ish are either female raised or intending on living off of you!?

  • Mr.LeBrickJames

    No, my sister. Not even close. Not sure why you had to go there. ? The situation had to do with the sudden death of a close family member. I'll just leave it at that.

  • MistaO

    Not necessarily, he give them a delightful 20, 30 years, kick them off with a nice life insurance policy, they be good! Hell that'd be more than what the average supposed parent gives to children today ?

  • MistaO

    Facts!

  • MistaO

    My how the story changes. First it was just your education/career and you were not putting no man before all lat...now this convoluted mess? Girl stop..???

  • MistaO

    So basically you saying you was a ho now you want a good man? Got it.

    Yall straight play life backwards. Listen when men tell yall we really don't want no female all these other dudes done wiped their penises off in...believe it! Quit listening to old hoes you see they miserable.

    Yall need to be instructing these young girls instead of leading them to the same fates yall stuck with, damn shame...??

  • Mr.LeBrickJames

    Sorry, bro. I gotta disagree with you on that one. Her education level mattered to me (and most of my male friends too). I wouldn't have married an uneducated woman. I make close to 6 figures and so does my wife... which I like, because the more money she makes, the more of my money I get to keep. I don't need to "live off her" by any means, but I like the fact she can pull her own weight in our household, without me having to pay for all the expenses.

  • Mr.LeBrickJames

    I can totally see that.

  • MistaO

    Every man has proclivities with this regard, I guess. For me, I take care of 100% of all monetary needs within my home. Again, that's just my set up, and there is nothing wrong with your setup. Especially when you have a willing partner, beautiful.

  • Mr.LeBrickJames

    It's not always so simple though. It still takes two, to be on the same page. You can't control what the other person does. Sometimes you're doing what's right and then the other person just decides they don't want to any more. It happens.

  • MistaO

    This doesn't contradict anything I've stated above.

  • Gerard Antonio Keith

    True...u know its true love when u can both laugh about how it felt to get those penicillin ass shots

  • MistaO

    You funny! You want to get a man in his 20s, now, and "mold" him to your liking??!!

    Girl you got me over here laughing my arse off????

    You'd never...neva respect that dude and would be jumping on the first d of a real man who wouldn't put up with yo hardheaded self???

    Yall waste years, sometimes DECADES lying to yourselves. Damn shame...

  • Mr.LeBrickJames

    Yeah, I noticed that. She wants to mold a dude like he's a piece of putty(?). Men who have their act together don't want to be molded. ? Homegirl seems to have some "man issues". As you can see, sista came at me for saying I said I'd set a 3 year timeline for myself to marry somebody I'm dating. ( Some people set their own timetable as 2, 3, 5, 10 years, or whatever. But for me I set it as 3 yrs and it worked for me.) Pretty simple concept.. but homegirl came at me sideways for no reason, talking 'bout I was bashing her. smh.
    But of course if you hang around here long enough, you'll have a few of these women coming at you just for having a perspective that touches a raw nerve with them for whatever reason. Can't even take it too personally. ?

  • Alextra Ballard

    ???

  • Alextra Ballard

    Sex everyday??? I’m happy for yew and glad that you’re enjoying every minit...but chiiile give me one good “digK down” and It will last me for dayz....different strokes(no pun intended) for different folks??

  • interestingconcept1

    My hubby and I are still as hot for each other as we were when we eyed one another at that Linkin Park concert 20 something years ago.?

  • Karen Brady

    Can others see repsonses from the people (stalkers) you blocked?

  • RICHIE_RICH

    Who did you hear this from?

  • KcoolMuziq

    Every couple I know that’s swingers.

  • MistaO

    I don't...I just like shining the light of truth on most females bullshi t. It's truly a study in contrasts and engrained hypocrisy when dealing with the average western female today.

    They resist the truth when living, breathing examples of their flawed logic are literally ALL around them!

    Strange and intriguing at the same time.

    They crazy???

  • GrapeCrush

    Lesbian bed death?? What in the world is that?? ?

  • MistaO

    People typically try to rationalize their own dumb life choice, especially when they know they ain't living right.

    Sane men aren't keyed to accept other men sliding in and out of their women. No matter how much people try to make s hit like this the norm, it will never take. Only a closeted male could accept that, who really hates the female.

    Notice how farther society moves away from what we truly know is right, how much more degradation exists?

    People stay playing but we all gone learn...?

  • KcoolMuziq

    Well it only works if both partners are equally into it and uninhibited and free and open with their sexuality.

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    Lesbian bed death means committed lesbians have less sex the longer their relationship lasts. It makes sense because lesbians can't procreate with each other.

  • MistaO

    Sure those same adages held in Sodom and Gomorrah.
    Js...

    We can put lipstick on all kinds of pigs, but they still pigs! Dressing s hit up with the oh I'm a free spirit, uninhibited and all the other gobbledygook all leads to the same ends.

    You rarely see people who live like this happy after even a few years. Most spend the rest of their lives in shame and trying to hide from and distance themselves from their crappy past "choices".

  • J2PC

    Is that why they need to rely on drugs (due to the shame tied to regrets; lack of self-respect, lack impulse control & physical abuse involved)?

    The claim of happiness with a closer look is all hype. Most of them are miserable with sob stories so they welcome getting alcohol & drug abuse to help numb the pain.

    The behavior is no different than those engaged prostitution or in sexual rituals tied to practicing witchcraft.

  • J2PC

    That is how they pull other folks in to their web of mess. Only fools fall for the hype (short-lived fads & trends) where they end up caught up or in too deep. Devilish behavior.

    Nothing good has ever come of that. All the shame, blame, regrets along with drugs & alcohol involved.

    -not to mention being blackmailed to keep them control & too scared to make a clean break for a new life.

  • KcoolMuziq

    So U calling Michael Baisden a druggie?

  • J2PC

    Exactly! Just like drug addicts or users will coax others in via hype & their web of lies only to screw up the lives of other weak-minded folks too.

    Are the swingers on the up & up, educated and quite successful and drug free? I highly doubt it because it's tied to all things (d)evilish.

    Most of them don't take pride in what they do. They will not announce to the world, public, their family or bosses...hey we're swingers. Instead, they practice deceit, put on airs to coverup and do their dirt in secret. Therefore, they are not happy & proud of their behavior.

    Many are fooled. Falling for such hype & curiosity have ruined the lives of many. The wiser have to encourage the weak-minded ones by reminding them that "they are better than that!"

  • J2PC

    Nvr hear of that person.

  • https://nylapoprush.com/home twitch.tv/NylaPop

    Yep.

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    Thanks, hun.

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    Thanks, Gloria.

  • J2PC

    Looked him up! Via his Podcast syndicated show, Michael is invited by a couple to go to Swing Club. George and Tamara dare him to go. But he, MB, flips the scripts on the swinger & challenges them "and his listeners" to go with him. What happens next is hilarious!

    MB was wise enough to make sure he wasn't being set up as a married man caught in a media scandal by a swinging couple inviting him. That's why he invited a whole bunch of listeners to go him with to that swinging club. -now, if he and/or his wife are still going that's another story.

    However, going for the sake of research to have a story or perspective to tell on a Podcast is what folks do to make a living to keep their radio show interesting.

  • J2PC

    Looked at commenters on Lipstick Alley who have tried watching his shows & listening to him. All negative with where no one seems to like him. I like to look folks up before responding. Short statured men tend to have a syndrome & need to prove something most say. Then, again the man needs to entertain, sell a viewpoint to keep listeners interested. He was fired from V-103 in 2013 it says. Don't know his story...or if he's just full of it for the sake of entertaining weirdo & keeping a niched audience.

    One commenter: I HATE his radio show and I've never seen the TV show...
    He's annoying...And he claims to know soooooooooo much about relationships, but is he in a successful one?...I think he just makes excuses to explain the bullshit that men do...

  • KcoolMuziq

    MB was a regular participant in the Swinging culture for YEARS.

  • Maxx

    Yeah I think the best thing is remembering you both are individuals & although you accomplish things together you keep your own identity. Calling them by their name instead of 'baby' or whatever nickname, having your own interest so you have interesting things to share with one another, of course taking care of yourself physically & reminding them every once in a while someone else finds you attractive (we usually share with another when we get hit on or something like that) I have been with my boo for almost 7 years and was with my husband 8 years before he passed away. Most importantly, even when the sex lulls, stay intimate by giving massages, kisses, just being nice to one another..its just another form of intimacy & can bring you closer than actual intercourse.

  • IyanlaVanzantoftheInterWebs
  • IyanlaVanzantoftheInterWebs

    Yup.. The swingers I know LOVE alcohol and edibles!

  • IyanlaVanzantoftheInterWebs

    Ive heard the COMPLETE opposite! Many of the people I know that participate or participated in that lifestye end up single and/or lonely..

    Nasty lifestyle ??????

  • IyanlaVanzantoftheInterWebs

    They lying to you! What Glitters is NOT always Gold???

  • KcoolMuziq

    Michael Baisden is HAPPILY married.

  • IyanlaVanzantoftheInterWebs

    I agree! I have a girlfriend who lives this lifestyle with a married man and she thinks that she is somehow better than his wife??. I had to let her know that he is using YOU to be his hoe while he has his wife at home with his 6th kid..
    Chile... Swinging also lead to the demise of her marriage ?

  • Keira

    My hubby and I still hot for each other and we know each other since 10/11 and married 38 years. All I can say is when the DOPE-amine wear off your better have like, like, like

  • Keira

    My hubby and I still hot for each other and we know each other since 10/11 and married 38 years. All I can say is when the DOPE-amine wear off your better have like, like, like

  • chris

    Dam wish yall could have worked out

  • https://disqus.com/home/discussion/freakkboxshawty/freakkbox_on_strikingly B A B Y ?

    you out here aging like fine wine lol

  • chris

    Bro I agree and disagree. These 6 figure women got some super high standards. You can't just take them to Fridays no more they want the fancy places where everything a la carte and a baked potato cost $15... They not happy going to jamaica they want a suite in bali. That's how it is up here NYC these women making 6 figure living paycheck to paycheck.

    I say all that to say this it doesn't really matter your education level or degree it all about the person and their values.

  • Mr.LeBrickJames

    I appreciate the perspective, bro, being a former New Yorker myself (now in ATL). I'm glad I'm not in the dating game any more. It's rough out there.
    And I do agree. It's not ALL about education, it's more about the person. But as an educated professional who's very driven it would be hard for me to be with a woman who's not on that level with me mentally. I remember a chick I was talking to before i met wifey, who had a basic HS education and basic job, wasn't very career driven. The conversation with her was always very limited, and that was so frustrating to me. She had a nice body etc, was really into me, and made it known that she'd be "down for whatever" sexually if things got to that level. Still, the fact that she was OK with having a relatively low paying job and not very ambitious made me decide not to pursue things further. It was a combination of the lack of conversation and lack of career ambition just made me lose interest, even though she was a really good woman otherwise.

  • ClaireHuxtable

    "Dopamine, adrenaline and serotonin triggers an intense rush of pleasure that should result in the procreation of children."
    SandeeGurl, your ideas on the evolution & survival of the Human species are a h00t!