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Are you in a narcissistic relationship? Living with a narcissist can be bad for your health, according to mental health experts.

Narcissists are evil personified. They are soulless humans who lack empathy and harbor an exaggerated sense of entitlement.

Narcissists are in love with an idealized self-image. They use their victims to project that idealized self-image back to them.

When a victim worships a narcissist it validates the narcissist's sense of self importance.

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"In this industry, you come across all kinds of narcissists," Jada Pinkett Smith said on an episode of her popular Facebook Watch show Red Table Talk.

"Definitely. Big time. Big time. Devastated. Because you bring people into your inner sanctum. They make you believe that they're one thing, and then something happens, and you realize that they are something completely and utterly different. It can be very painful and dangerous."

You don't have to be a celebrity to be a narcissist. Pathological narcissism is on the rise in America thanks to the Internet. Social media is a breeding ground for narcissism. Children as young as 5 have access to social media which instills a superficial sense of importance in the child.

Children who were exposed to the harmful influence of social media are now young adults terrorizing their partners.

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Psychology Today listed warning signs to watch for.

1. Lack of Empathy

Narcissists have a stunning lack of empathy for the suffering of humans and animals. Their lack of empathy makes it easy for them to prey on people or take advantage of family members.

2. They Are Very Charming

Narcissists can be extremely charming. They can make you feel very special and wanted and desired. They hone their skills by watching others and then they practice their charms on their victims (you). They can be very persuasive and seductive and overpower you in a process called "love bombing."

3. Conversation Interrupter

The narcissist constantly interrupts conversations and switches the focus of the discussion back to them. What you have to say is not interesting, so stop talking and listen.

4. Silent Treatment

The silent treatment is one of the tools in the narcissist's sinister arsenal. It is the ultimate rejection. The narcissist can ignore you for days, weeks, or even years. The narcissist usually ignores you until you apologize to them -- even though they were the cause of the conflict!

5. Rule Breaker

Narcissists frequently break rules because they believe rules and laws don't apply to them.

6. Grandiose

The narcissist has an exaggerated sense of self importance. They believe they are extremely handsome or beautiful -- and how lucky you are that they "chose" you. They can be extremely convincing, but watch out for their lies. Remember, you are just a part of their fantasy world. Nothing they say or do is real.

7. Entitlement

Narcissists have a distorted sense of entitlement. They insist on having the best of everything. They don't have to wait in line or follow rules - rules are for peasants!

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8. Conversation Hoarder

Narcissists love to talk about themselves. But more importantly, they love to hear you talk about them. They dominate conversations so you can't get a word in. If you do get a word in, your comments are dismissed as insignificant.

9. Fixation On That Mirror

Narcissists live in the mirror. They can't pass a mirror or a storefront without looking at their reflection. You might joke about their love for mirrors, but they're not laughing inside. The mirror validates their idealized self-image. They need the mirror because their internal self-image is so distorted.

10. They Mirror You

Watch out for this one! Be careful of narcissists who mirror you. When a narcissist mirrors you, she wants to manipulate you into loving her by acting as if she is your perfect twin. You are her narcissistic supply.

She copies your style of dress, your hairstyle, how you walk and talk, your hand gestures, etc. Your friends might say you two are twins (but don't take it as a compliment). She is learning your strengths and weaknesses and all your insecurities. Eventually, she will replace you by taking your man, your job, or your life. Mirroring is a red flag. Proceed with caution!

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Amber Rose is a single mother again after she dumped her cheating boyfriend, Alexander "AE" Edwards, who confessed to sleeping with a dozen women.

The 37-year-old single mom of two boys took to her Instagram Story on Saturday to share her experience after living with a narcissist for three years.

Rose opened up about her struggle to "fix" AE -- and ultimately deciding that fixing a narcissist is impossible.

"When ur in love with a narcissist, ur brain tells you to run when ur heart says stay. Unanswered questions. Gaslighting. Stonewalling, Deflecting, Projecting. I wish it was easy for me to 'fix him,' but that's not for me to do. The pain cuts so deep, especially when there are children involved."

"I will always love him so much, but I know I can't heal him," she continued.

"Only he can do that. I knew I had to set myself free publicly or I would've stayed forever never receiving the love I craved and begged for. Tough choice because it hurts so bad, but I choose me.

"I didn't want to have to do this at all, I just wanted my family MY HUSBAND. There's only so many times I can ask a man to just be transparent, honest and love me wholeheartedly. I don't know if I'll get the happy ending i wanted but maybe I'll get the happy ending I deserve - Muva."

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Rose, 37 and AE, 33, share 22-month-old son, Slash Electric. She also has a son, Sebastian, with ex-husband, rapper Wiz Khalifa.

She was spotted shopping with Sebastian at a mall in Van Nuys, California, on Wednesday, August 18.

Like most women who spent years trying to fix a narcissist, Rose has embarked on a journey of self-discovery to understand why she fell for one so easily. She is determined to cut off the narcissistic supply.

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Alexander responded to Amber's cheating allegations by claiming he's just a man who wanted to "have his cake and eat it too."

He wrote:

"I know that I could stop [cheating]. I could give her a good, solid six months and just really like, deprive myself of my true nature for as long as I can take it but I don't want to live like that."

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Most narcissists (75%) are males. Male narcissists tend to emphasize their money, power status, good looks, or social status.

Female narcissists tend to emphasize their beauty, body, feminine wiles, charm, sexuality, social or celebrity status, and money.

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Female narcissists use their own children as significant sources of narcissistic supply. They present their children to the world as an extension of themselves. Children of a narcissist are expected to be perfect - like their mom.

They Seek Out Vulnerable Men

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Narcissists use their beauty and feminine wiles to obtain more narcissistic supply by getting their hooks into vulnerable men. Some men can't believe they lucked up with such a beautiful woman.

When a narcissist meets a vulnerable (weak-minded) man, she tends to bring up the subject of marriage and children early and repeatedly.

Be wary if your son suddenly announces he's engaged within 90 days of meeting his new love.

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Narcissists use control tactics to reel in vulnerable men. "Love bombing" is a tactic the narcissist uses to reel in and control her victim.

Flattery gets a female narcissist everywhere. She begins by lavishing him with almost non-stop attention, such as constant and persistent text messages, phone calls, or social media messaging. The texts and calls will be relentless -- sometimes 100 text messages per day.

The calls and texts begin early in the morning and end late at night. Part of her motivation is to keep tabs on her victim. She learns his daily routine, habits, and work schedule so she can use them against him later on.

She will even use YOU to keep tabs on your own son for her.

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Singer August Alsina discussed an emotional phone call he received from Jada Pinkett Smith while he was on tour.

"That was the thing. To feel your emotion and to hear you bawling. That was a reality check for me. I was like, 'Wow, if someone else can love you that much that it hurts them, why doesn't it bother you that you are actually hurting yourself?' That moment really changed the trajectory of my life."

If she has money she will lavish him with gifts or exotic trips in the beginning -- only to pull back and drain him of his financial resources later on.

Be wary if your son brags about how much money his new woman spends on him. The attention can be overwhelming and intoxicating in the beginning. But it won't last. They use control tactics to win his trust and to manipulate him. This behavior is toxic.

Another tactic she uses is non-stop compliments and expressing her love for him in a short period of time. If a woman says she loves him after one week - that's usually a bad sign.

Common phrases used by narcissists include:

  • "You are perfect in every way."
  • "I've never met anyone like you!"
  • "I will never take you for granted"
  • "You're the only man I've ever loved."
  • These phrases seem harmless, but they are calculated to gain maximum control.

    "True love does not want all your time and energy focused on them alone. They respect other commitments, ideas, and boundaries." ~ Tabitha Westbrook, licensed professional counselor

    He is convinced he met his soulmate

    If your son is convinced he's met his soulmate after a short period of dating, he probably hasn't.

    Some phrases she might use on him include:

  • "We were born to be together."
  • "It was fate that we finally met."
  • "You understand me more than anyone."
  • "We're soulmates."
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    She's very needy or clingy

    Teach your son that true love is never clingy or needy. She is never satisfied with the time he gives her. She always wants more. She knows his schedule and his daily routine like the back of her hand. He is expected to give her all of his free time.

    Projection and Gaslighting

    This is a defense mechanism used by narcissists to protect their fragile egos.

    A narcissist will always accuse their victims of behaviors that they themselves are guilty of. Explain to your son that she will accuse him of the same things she does. She will deny saying or doing the things she accuses him of.

    She will say that his friends or strangers noticed the same behaviors in him ("Your friends even say that you [fill in the blank]"). She will distort reality to confuse him and make him doubt his own sanity.

    The more he resists, the more she argues. She will then abruptly change the subject. If he refuses to change the subject, she will fly into a rage unlike anything he's ever seen before.

    Narcissistic rage

    Narcissistic rage is an intense, over-the-top anger or aggressive outburst. It is a reaction to "narcissistic injury" - which is caused by refusing to let a narcissist have her way.

    Narcissistic rage is usually followed by the silent treatment until he either apologizes (for causing her narcissistic injury) or he submits to her demands.

    Stay tuned for the final installment of Teaching Your Son to Spot a Narcissist.
     

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    Jada Pinkett Smith is an expert of sorts when it comes to spotting narcissists. It's so much easier to pick a narcissist out of the crowd when you've been in intimate relationships with them.

    According to PEOPLE, the 48-year-old Real Table Talk show host sat down with her co-hosts — daughter Willow, 18, and mom Adrienne, 66 — and a guest, clinical psychologist Dr. Ramani Durvasula, to discuss the negative impact narcissists can have on people's lives.

    "In this industry, you come across all kinds of narcissists," Jada said on Monday's episode of her popular Facebook Watch show Red Table Talk.

    She told Dr. Durvasula she was hurt and devastated "big time" by a narcissist.

    "Definitely. Big time. Big time. Devastated," Jada said. "Because you bring people into your inner sanctum. They make you believe that they're one thing, and then something happens, and you realize that they are something completely and utterly different. It can be very painful and dangerous."

    A new study shows that narcissists are happiest when they are making other people's lives miserable.

    The study shows that narcissists who have an inflated sense of self-importance and disregard for others, are less likely to be depressed and stressed out than normal people.

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    Dr. Durvasula says certain personalities are drawn to narcissists despite being hurt by them in the past.

    "People pleasers are very vulnerable to narcissism," she said. "They fall for it because they want to fix... they run around in circles, and they keep giving that narcissist all the supply the narcissist wants."

    "Oh, God. Yeah," Willow agreed. "Low key, I might have a little bit of that."

    "A lot of people do," said Durvasula. "A lot of people - again, especially women - grow up believing they have to do to earn love."

    Jada, admitted she may be co-dependent on narcissists for her emotional well-being. "I need to start seeing her for my co-dependencies!" she said, referring to Dr. Durvasula.

    Watch the Red Table Talk trailer below.
     

    The Female Narcissist

    Here is another post in my ongoing series on narcissism. For you men who are healthy and would never fall into a female narcissist's trap, another post will be up shortly.

    When the female narcissist targets you, she moves with great speed. The first time you meet her she seems to appear out of nowhere. But in fact, she has been watching you for a minute and sizing you up for the kill.

    She has figured out your vulnerabilities and she will use them to get what she wants: fame (if you're a celebrity), power, or wealth.

    The female Narcissist is attractive, intelligent, very charming and highly confident that she can take everything you own. These women lack what healthy women possess naturally; a conscience, character, empathy for others, etc.

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    Rihanna and Chris Brown at Knicks vs Lakers Game

    It was hard to ignore singer Rihanna shamelessly draping herself all over her former lover Chris Brown during the NY Knicks vs LA Lakers game at the Staples Center Tuesday. Rihanna, who was holidaying in her native Barbados with friends and family, jetted to Brown's side on Christmas day -- despite rumors that Brown hooked back up with his long-suffering girlfriend, Karrueche Tran.

    It doesn't matter how many photos Rihanna takes with Brown, everyone can see how desperate, needy and clingy she is. She knows that Brown is using her to revive his failing career but she doesn't care, because Brown provides the vital source of Narcissistic Supply that she craves.

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    Yesterday, we noted a CNN reporter labeled Kim Kardashian a narcissist. In the comments section we mentioned Kim K. using Reggie Bush (if they are back together) as her source of Narcissistic Supply. Many of you were unfamiliar with this term, which is also known as NS.

    According to psychoanalyst Otto Fenichel, the Malignant Narcissist requires 'narcissistic supply' from the environment the same way a baby needs a bottle. Psychoanalyst Otto Kernberg referred to the coldness in a narcissist's relationships as the "tendency to disregard others except in temporary idealization of narcissistic supply".

    Lisa E. Scott explains that narcissists have no innate sense of self or self identity. So they tend to "look outward" for objects or people that will reflect him or her as wonderful, such as a trophy wife or an expensive car.

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