Ice T and Coco do a little bit of shopping in Beverly Hills

Most American marriages fail because American women are raised in a permissive society that lacks morals, values, or respect for men. If a woman doesn’t respect herself, she won’t respect her man either. If you’re married to a weak, milquetoast of a man because real men intimidate you, whose fault is that?

Socialite Coco Austin, who is married to rapper/actor Ice T, says she is happy to be a submissive “slave” to her man because he is the king of her castle.

Austin and Ice T were guests on Andy Cohen‘s Watch What Happens Live. Cohen asked her, “What is your opinion about submitting to your husband?”

I think all women should do it,” she replied. “I am a slave to him.”

“By her choice,” Ice-T added. “She likes that. She’s into that.”

Austin, 36, and Ice-T, 57, are expecting their first baby together — a girl. Ice-T already has 2 grown children from previous relationships. Coco and Ice-T have been married for 14 years.

Americans lead other nationalities in divorce statistics because American women refuse to be submissive to their men.

I grew up in a family of women who were submissive to their men. It’s no coincidence that divorces are extremely rare in my family.

Even though my mom and aunts were submissive to men, they are some of the strongest women I know.

I learned that submission is not a sign of weakness, it is a sign of respect.

Teaching girl children to be submissive in a hierarchal society not only teaches them self-respect but it helps them to respect authority figures such as teachers, police and judges.

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    • Smartypants

      I like being submissive to my man. He doesn’t like that. Said he doesn’t need it to feel like a man.

    • side_i

      I saw they got their own talk show, idk who green lighted that but I doubt it will even have a full season run.

    • A.P. Millz-CT

      Was CoCo submissive when she was sucking on AP’s D*** in Vegas?? Girl Bye

    • VDot

      Was she being submissive when she was running around fugging/sugging and getting felt up by folks named AP.9 and Moose Diesel *side eye*

    • Its Me

      Vdaught

    • Low E. {CIRCA 1908}

      AFTER THE WEEKEND I JUST HAD THIS IS THE LAST THING I WANTED TO SEE THIS MORNING…I’M NOT NOT SUBMISSIVE, BUT I’M DEFINITELY A HARD ASS. I HAVEN’T GOTTEN TO THE PART WHERE I REALIZE THAT’S NOT MY JOB…LE SIGH.

    • lil goodie

      Gotta have something going for people to tune into their reality show…

    • Its Me

      Coco and Ice-T have been married for 14 years.
      ^^^^
      And she has sucked other dyck since then so….?

      Probably had other dack up her azz in the past 14 as well.?

      BBD. ???

    • 88

      I agree get on your knees and stay there.

    • aRoth

      I will submit…….if worthy. I had to be told TWICE to get off my phn before I realized….”Oh bish, he means DO IT NOW.” LOL I put my phn down and took a nap. LOL

    • AllmylifeIhadtofight

      Not night night!!!! LOL

    • 1/8

      LMAO!

    • BLOODBLOOD

      I love being submissive

    • aRoth

      LMAO

    • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

      You were raised right.

    • Just Keya

      See,….I am all for being submissive, but to a point. After that, it’s just being stupid. And really, some men don’t need a submissive woman. Because they see a tiny position of “power” and act a real fool.

    • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

      The important thing is they are still married. So they respect their marriage vows until death do they part.

    • aRoth

      SAAAAAAAAAYYYYYYYYY THAT!

    • 1/8

      A good relationship requires boundaries and each player must understand and fulfil their role. There’s a reason companies only have one CEO.

    • MissHarlem

      Anything is better than I killed your wife, killed lions or animals that die in the food chain, or insert negativity here ?

    • Buttercup

      Dear CoCo,

      For the love of everything that is gracious and holy, please pick up a dictionary. Being submissive and being a slave isn’t synonymous.

      Your Half-Sister In Christ.

      Butter

    • MotherOfDragons, GetOffMyENuts

      So…Coco likes to be dominated. Submits to men in general so their relationship isn’t some fairy tale June Cleaver dressed like a prostitute scenario…because June wasn’t blowing the next door neighbor or showing her assets to the world. This isn’t a traditional relationship…what they have is something else.

    • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

      You were raised right.

    • Chitsngiggles

      This trash ass bish…..

    • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

      Did she say she was unfaithful, or did you read that on the blogs?

    • Buttercup

      They said the Roses don’t forget a thing….

    • VDot

      Dubbie! :hugs: :kisses:

    • lil goodie

      That’s how they rehearsed it…it sounded good back stage…your only as good as the man you stand behind….lol

    • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

      “This isn’t a traditional relationship…what they have is something else.”
      ^^^^^
      Yet they’ve been married 14 years while other marriages are crashing and burning around them.

    • Ms. Moore

      I also like being submissive to my husband. We have been together for 13 years (9 years of marriage) and I too learned from my mom (who has been married to my dad for 36 years). It is not about bowing down to a man, it’s just about respect. He has always treated me like a queen and I will always treat him like a king who is the head of the household — God comes first though! ??

    • CaliYoruba

    • Buttercup

      LMBO. The tears won’t stop.

    • aRoth

      June wasn’t blowing the next door neighbor
      _____________________
      We don’ t know this. LOL
      Bish STAYED happy and sashayin’ throught that kitchen with a casserole dish.

    • Chitsngiggles

      Submissive my ass. If I don’t want to do I ain’t gone do it. I ain’t never been the kind of woman to jump for a man. Not even my own daddy. And I love him to death.

    • Tammie Reed

      I aint doing none of it and plus what does that get you? Men still gone do what they want to do and you can still get cheated on lol! We see stories like that everyday right here on Sandra Rose lol.

      All relationships are different and you can’t preach what works in your marriage to someone else! I’m not submissive at all and I’ve been married for over 17yrs! If I feel like cooking & cleaning I will but don’t bug me. I move, buy and wear what I want and live my life as I please.

      Marriage is cool but it does not define me, so Coco save that chit ok! This is not back in the 40’s where women were dependent on a men either! We have our own careers and salaries now, blame society lol.

    • CaliYoruba

      I dont mind being submissive at all…to the right man.

      Mawning Roses!

    • VDot

      She said she sucked it to the white meat :sips coffee:

    • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

      I always thought June was high on something.

    • aRoth

      She was…….. D!CK.

    • Chitsngiggles

      Ice-tea pimps her out. I’m sure of it.

    • Buttercup

      They should’ve run that past a producer or something. She sounds hideous.

    • VDot

      “Marriage is cool but it does not define me” – Love this!!

    • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

      You know you and I have had long talks about this. I thought you saw the honor in being a submissive woman?

    • MotherOfDragons, GetOffMyENuts

      I’m absolutely submissive to my husband. We have a very old school traditional set up going on for the most part, and that’s what works for us. I encourage everyone to find the formula that works in your relationship and stick with it. Love, relationships, and marriage are not one size fits all scenarios.

    • MissHarlem

      ???

    • MissHarlem

      ????

    • Tammie Reed

      SIGH!

    • SummerBaby

      I like a take charge man. ?

    • Buttercup

      So Roses. I’m reading a few comments, and it’s evident that everyone doesn’t have the same views on being submissive or even what it means to be submissive. What does it mean to YOU? Don’t all answer at once….

    • aRoth

      True story. Just happened this past Sundy. LOL

    • jeniefrumdabloc™

      If you’re married to a weak, milquetoast of a man because real men intimidate you, whose fault is that?

      ____________ https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/51c6b3f7a6512ebaa1918af76267cbf3565dd650397e2957034187e652b8b8a3.gif

    • Just Keya

      First off…matter of fact nope. I’m not gonna do it. But please note that the Bible says the man is the head of the household…but you need to be careful who you marry. Some of these men can’t even lead a dyck to pee. (sorry its a bit crass) but they can’t. Can’t handle money, can’t handle kids, can’t keep a job. Just because your the MAN does not mean your ready to lead anything.

    • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

      Most black men were never taught to be men because their mothers were disrespectful to their fathers or they were raised by single moms who played both roles.

    • Buttercup

      When Honey Dip says, “Okay, so here’s what we’re going to do…” I melt.

    • imright

      coco doesnt look prego at all…is she still waist training??

    • jeniefrumdabloc™
    • A.P. Millz-CT

      It is public knowledge.. AP 9 posted pics of him and CoCo (while still married to Ice -T” in comprising positions..

    • jeniefrumdabloc™

      Why can’t I post a gif or a pic Sandra ????

    • WHITTYwithWORDS

      Whale…there is a certain amount of submission needed..but I aint nobodies damn slave…Kiss all the azz on that one…Now when tho bedroom door ….I might break out the colla…NVM

    • Candance

      I am very submissive to my husband, but it takes work…. Don’t get it confused, women don’t submit to EVERYONE… just the one that puts a ring on it!!!!

    • Gabriella Greentree

      I’ll submit, if I can live it up la Vida loca with mucho dinero ! When I don’t have to work anymore, I’ll be the most house cleaning, supper making , dack slurping, walking round in panties wife ever. But as long as I’m bringing in over half my household income …. hmph *sashay away….

    • potsNpans

      Being submissive is one thing, being a doormat is another

    • Tammie Reed

      Uh Uh! You aint about to get me started, its too early in the morning for dis lol!

    • jeniefrumdabloc™

      My mother is submissive ….. <3

    • Low E. {CIRCA 1908}

      AND THIS IS THE RUB…BUT I HAD A CHAT WITH MY OLDER COUSIN YESTERDAY AND SHE WAS LIKE “YOU GOTTA SHED ALL OF THAT ONCE YOU GET HOME AND IT TOOK ME A WHILE TO GET IT…”

      SO TODAY I’M MARINATING…

    • Buttercup

      I’ve been having the same issues, Jenie. When I try to post a gif or emoticon, it comes up as a link and my comment will go into moderation.

    • WHITTYwithWORDS

      lmao…something is wrong with you

    • Use_Coasters_aka_Sol_88

      This is funny, I just cooked my husband a gigantic steak last night……..

      There is nothing wrong with submission, if that’s how your relationship works.
      but I contribute to the household financially too…….so fugg all dat.

    • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

      Being submissive means showing respect for yourself and your man. The man sits at the top of the hierarchy. You can’t go to work and tell your boss what to do, right? Everyone in the White House is subservient to President Obama.

    • WHITTYwithWORDS

      I was told to “chill out”….normally I would say whatever…but the tone of his voice made me tingle so I knew it was real…lol

    • lil goodie

      I totally agree with you….but we are looking at what she said wrong…what she meant to say was:
      1. I have no real life outside of T.
      2. He hold the money strings.
      3. He told me to say that because it makes him feel like a man.
      4. I’m still hoeing on the side to make ends meet.

    • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

      There you go.

    • A.P. Millz-CT

      Lmao

    • CaliYoruba

      My ex husband had a mother and father in the house. Still didn’t grow up to amount to much :tea: :shrugs:

    • Petty_boots

      You’re better than me.

    • Low E. {CIRCA 1908}

      THINK ABOUT THE LADY FROM PLEASANTVILLE…THAT’S HOW JUNE CLEAVER REEEEALLLLLY GOT DOWN!

    • potsNpans

      I don’t like a submissive, stay at home, at my disposal woman. I also wouldn’t want one so independent, that when I cut grass it, goes unappreciated because she could afford a landscaper.

    • CaliYoruba

      #4

    • ABbaby

      lol

    • Bobbie12

      She’s a prostitute and he’s her pimp. That’s why she talks about being submissive. Dumb broad. “Nuff said.

    • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

      Maybe the problem wasn’t him. It’s difficult for us to see our own flaws.

    • aRoth

      WHALE in MY sitchiation, his parents are still together. So HE fits none of YOUR description. She (his mama) is submissive/housemaker. Cooks and cleans all day. The daddy chills………..but SHE/THEY done spoilt/ruint MINE in the process.

    • aRoth

      Damn shade.

    • lil goodie

      Exactly… he is the money maker..she better say and do what he says

    • Kima

      I’m trying to learn, help

    • Use_Coasters_aka_Sol_88

      I remember he had her on stage quarter naked just dancing around.
      Their relationship dynamic is unappealing to me.

    • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

      That is not shade. I once asked an ex-girlfriend what went wrong. She said the problem was me. I didn’t see it that way.

    • Tammie Reed

      As a young girl growing up, I saw my mom get kicked down the stairs, arms broken and beat up daily! She was submissive and look what it got her! So hell nawl and thats why I act like I do. I’m not disrespectful to my hubby at all but what you aint gone do is disrespect me!

      I don’t put up with nothing! You always say be submissive in your posts but then turn around and post about women getting cheated on, who’s divorcing, outside/break babies etc but what are we suppose to do? Put up with it?

      Its never a solution or some sort of resolution either but you say be submissive, I beg to differ! I’m very confused when you say that but thats not my personality at all. Still love my Sandra though but we agree that we disagree on this subject matter. xoxo

    • Chitsngiggles

      That’s cause its a pimp/hoe relationship…

    • CaliYoruba

      Oh it’s him LOL His whole family knows it. His dad still calls me to ask if I’ll take him back. His dad thanked me a long time ago for making his son go back to college & obtain a degree…but even now he’s still not using his degree

    • WHITTYwithWORDS

      I think it is allow you HUSBAND to be the head. Making certain decisions and allowing his word to be firm BUT he ain’t my damn boss…cut that all the way out. Now I’m not the maid but I will cook and keep things structured within the home… but he helps out, you don’t come home and watch me go crazy doing everything but I don’t think a real man would allow his partner to struggle.

    • VDot

      Hey Sexy Lady!! *pinches booty*

    • MissHarlem

      Don’t confuse a boy with a man. With that said this conversation or topic is moot

    • WHITTYwithWORDS

      yea its sessy

    • Chitsngiggles

      Love that movie!

    • Handle your issues

      She’s confused. Husband, pimp, daddy……..all the same to her. It’s a common problem among former prostitutes.

    • SummerBaby

      My parents aren’t together. They’re both remarried for 20+ years. My mom & step mom both cater to their husbands. They also cook, clean, fix their husbands plates first & let them have the big piece of chicken ?

    • VDot

      Do you have a gf now? In lesbian relationships, does one person submit to the other? Or is it free for all and anyone has the right to put some bass in their voice?

    • Chitsngiggles

      I said the same thing. Pregnant my ass.

    • jeniefrumdabloc™

      I wonder what’s that about

    • Joe Who

      These ghetto broads will never submit or even understand why u should submit. And they wonder why they are lonely.

    • SummerBaby

      Exactly you’ll be out here spending all your lotto winnings bonding fools outta jail ?

    • Tammie Reed

      cracking up! lol

    • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

      First of all, no man should put his hands on a woman. Submission does not mean be stupid and put up with abuse. My mom was submissive to my father, but she left him due to the physical abuse She married a good man and they were married for 3 decades before he passed away. The key is to find a good, God-fearing man who respects you.

    • iWasteTime

      Hey Roses!
      How y’all doing this morning?
      Man there are levels, I know I’m not submissive to Mr and he would hate it if I was but I do defer, when need be.

    • Its Me

      +1.

      My ex in laws been together 40+ years and are super religious on top of the longevity. ?

      They have: A daughter who has roaches of the liver at 44.??????

      A son who beats the chit outta his wife and kids??

      Other son is a damn bank robber???

      My ex got a substance abuse problem?

      The twins. No words about those two. They were born on Halloween. Nuff said.?

    • MotherOfDragons, GetOffMyENuts

      To me it means I respect him and his opinion. I trust his vision for our future and family. Even when he says some completely stupid shyt in public I wait until we are alone to say something to him. I watch my tone when I speak. I support him. Make sure he has what he needs physically and emotionally to go out in the world and provide. I handle the household, do the vast majority of the cooking and cleaning, and the basic child rearing stuff while he’s at work. I give at least 4 morning bj’s a week ?. The submission is more mental than physical though. Our situation is what works for us, and it works because I trust him and know he has my back the exact same way I have his. I can give him my all with no reservations because he’s giving me his all as well.

    • MissHarlem

      Fistbump

    • MissHarlem

      ??? exactly

    • Nancy Drew on my ibrowse today

      but wasn’t she just out trickin in the club with asap rockie (or whomever) not too long ago?
      anyway, she’s not offering anything ground-breaking; “she stoops to conquer” is a very old concept. I do, however, hate when yt folks throw around the term “slave” …she sounds hideous! :kona:

    • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

      There you go. Your parents raised you right.

    • VDot

      Nan, don’t you tie ASAP Rocky in with this skeazebucket!!

    • Its Me

      Preach

    • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

      “BUT he ain’t my damn boss…cut that all the way out.”
      ^^^^^^
      Good luck with your marriages.

    • Tammie Reed

      wow

    • Tammie Reed

      #DEAD

    • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

      It works for them because she is submissive.

    • Buttercup

      Well hey, Nan!!!

    • iWasteTime

      Hey boo!

    • MookieFly

      The main reason nikkas are swooping in and captain save a hoe-ing all these white girls is because they are overly submissive. My prays go out to the family but case in point the post before this one. There are levels to respect/submission and then there is flat out fetish for the black dack. But I’ma keep it cute and finish my morning latte

    • Tammie Reed

      my stomach is in a knot, how do men do that to women they confess their love to? So sad sorry about your mom, we have similar stories! You’re so right! xoxo

    • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose
    • Nancy Drew on my ibrowse today

      apologies, Sugar! (you know ‘yall all look alike” 😮 )
      :hug:

    • Ms. Cree

      I like being submissive to my man, he makes it easy. Key word is RESPECT.

    • aRoth

      RIIIIGGHHTT! The first “warning” was a friendly “You been on that phn since you been here.”. Me “Oh baby, they fightin on da ‘book.”. Few minutes later came a stern, not loud, not harsh, but STERN “Put the phn down.”. Me: schleep.

    • Carmen Harrison Johnson

      I was taught by my Mom to be submissive to my husband when I get married, when my Dad passed my parents had been together for over 40 years. Being submissive doesn’t mean ‘you’re a slave’ to your spouse/partner. Just make your requests known to them and they should do the save for you. Have a great day everyone

    • SugarFoot a.k.a Ty

      I learned that submission is not a sign of weakness, it is a sign of respect.

      _____________
      Uh huh where is Darlene Ice? That heffa was the truth back in the day and still looks great . CoCo and her just add water body parts, doesnt even look 40 ish let alone 30

    • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

      Lesbian relationships can’t be compared to heterosexual relationships due to the psychosexual dynamics involved in homosexual relationships. Let’s just say we do the best we can despite our abnormal sexual development.

    • SummerBaby

      Darlene ??

    • Buttercup

      I think you summed it up perfectly! I don’t think I’ll have time to give him morning bjs on the regular, but I have to get up and go into an office. Since he has the option to work from home and we both contribute financially, we end up splitting the house duties (He cooks- I’ll clean the kitchen. I do the laundry- he folds and puts it away.) I certainly couldn’t trust any other man to lead our family the way I allow him to.

    • SugarFoot a.k.a Ty

      Teaching girl children to be submissive in a hierarchal society not only teaches them self-respect but it helps them to respect authority figures such as teachers, police and judges

      _____________
      *side eyes reality* Chile please

    • Petty_boots

      It’s not abnormal. You like who you like. Now Bruce. . . that’s some abnormal chit.

    • CaliYoruba

      Are you seriously defending ASAP? The same dude who said black girls shouldn’t wear red lipstick…

    • VDot

      That’s races! LOLOLOLOL :hug:

    • Buttercup

      I agree. If a decision has to be made that could affect the family, we talk it over. We give our different views, and he ultimately makes the decision. That doesn’t mean that there have been some times where his suggestion was unreasonable. He heard me out and we compromised on things.

    • aRoth

      DEAD SERRUS! LOL

    • Petty_boots

      Lmao damn. The total opposite huh?

    • PettyEyezPrime

      GM ??? GM

      I’ve always had a hard time letting the man BE the man. Even though the ones I’ve had weren’t worthy of my submission. So I’m taking time to reflect on ME so when I findeth a GOOD MAN, I can let him lead with me as his backbone but also him as mine.

    • MS PEACHES

      Fuka all of that. Can’t be submissive to no broke ass, lazy, or weak minded man. So this only works if the man is the bread winner, huh?

    • VDot

      Hey Boo!! Are you a Future fan? Got his cd from the bootleg man the other day, don’t know how to share, but I can learn. Him and Jill Scott if ya want.

    • Buttercup

      This is so funny to me, because I know exactly what you’re talking about. Any dude I’ve dated in the past, I would’ve told him where to go and how to get there. When Honey Dip first did something like this, I found my chill real quick.

    • CaliYoruba

      Well dayum. Not ONE kid amounted to anything? SMH. As a parent I’d feel like I completely struck out.

    • iWasteTime

      Awww thanks!
      I have both though.
      I need Compton, bad

    • VDot

      WHALE, I think what he meant was that you have to find the red that works for you. I mean, all reds don’t look good on me. I only like certain ones. Bwhahahaha!

    • Buttercup

      I don’t think taking on traditional roles in a relationship is the same as being submissive.

    • Petty_boots

      But it’s easy cause you smart and brutiful (yes, brutiful) and you put it down. #youdabest (in my khaled voice)

    • Its Me

      ASAP Rocky? Bet that nig submissive.

      Picture caption of a welfare mother:

      Me and lil Daquan waiting on you to come home from your prison stint boo.

      I had to suck a lil dack to make groceries.

      I ain’t gave nobody none tho since you been away.

    • MotherOfDragons, GetOffMyENuts

      Oh, I don’t HAVE to give him the bj’s…I just do ?. We both contribute financially too but my means of income is different so I’m able to stay home with the kids and my grammy. We discuss and either agree or compromise happily on everything. I think some women feel like submission means they won’t have a say or will be a doormat…that couldn’t be further from the truth for my relationship. Now, with a different man I could not be and was not submissive. With the right one…it just works.

    • Petty_boots

      Swallow broken glass.

    • SugarFoot a.k.a Ty

      Submissive-ready to conform to the authority or will of others; meekly obedient or passive

      _____________
      Authority huh? Im grown as hell *blank strare* I had this problem as a child lol I thought my husband was supposed to be my life partner/soulmate. Its two head of households at my house (most times) 😉 :coffee:

    • Its Me

      We love and miss you.

      Love,

      Raquel

    • aRoth

      Did you like Jill’s CD?

    • MS PEACHES

      Amen- was all I could come up with after that. Not sure if it was because if was long or true.

    • VDot

      I think I do. Lol! I need to keep listening to it. I’ve just skimmed through it thus far.

    • SugarFoot a.k.a Ty

      Hell Im not doing it if he was the bread winner. Something about giving someone authority over me doesn’t sit well

    • Just Keya

      *blinks*

    • VDot

      Bwhahahaha, with that blow out blowing in the wind. :nun:

    • CaliYoruba

      See there you go defending him again! Being a slave! BWAHAHAHA I like his music tho

    • Its Me

      Oop.

    • DDNY

      just uggh.
      submissive does not mean be a Door Mat.

    • WHITTYwithWORDS

      Like wise.

    • Its Me

      NOT NAH.

    • MotherOfDragons, GetOffMyENuts

      Nah, it’s easy because of my husband. My ex would tell you I’m a completely different woman. Smart ass, rude, disrespectful, controlling, etc… The type of man he is, my spirit would not allow me to submit and put my girls through his loser bs. With DF it’s just easy. Not perfect, but right. It’s all because of the man he is. I can be exactly who I am, trust him to put us first, it just works. Plus I like doing all that Suzy Homemaker stuff.

    • Its Me

      Real life.

    • WHITTYwithWORDS

      he thought he had a friend

    • VDot

      Bwhaha at put it down and took a nap!

    • Nancy Drew on my ibrowse today

      Hey Boo, hey!!! :hug:

    • WHITTYwithWORDS

      Morning

    • Just Keya

      Black men should not wear skinny little plats, but her does it….

    • SugarFoot a.k.a Ty

      damn that flat wrap is on point…..he been to the Dominicans

    • Its Me

      Know what direction to wrap it in at night and everything.

    • potsNpans

      That’s why I need a career and goal oriented woman. That way we’re both bringing 100% to the table. Nobody would be resentful, unless someones income dwarfs the other, making them feel inferior.

    • DDNY

      i submit to the LORD alone. and IF i have full trust in my spouse, i will accept his authority as the head of the household

    • GTFOHWTBS

      I call BS

    • WHITTYwithWORDS

      YESSS….ok Daddy…

    • aRoth

      EYE DID. LOL

    • Nancy Drew on my ibrowse today

      ROFL!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    • aRoth

      I need some new music.

    • SummerBaby

      New post

    • DDNY

      i personally dont think he is very demanding.

    • Chitsngiggles

      NEW POST!!

    • Nancy Drew on my ibrowse today

      Hollered!

    • iWasteTime

      even if one income does dwarf, your actions and reactions cause the other to feel inferior. It shouldn’t and wouldn’t be a issue if it isn’t made one.

    • aRoth

      I was taken aback a lil because he has NEVER told me to do anything. Or maybe he has and I just didn’t listen. LOL

    • Buttercup

      Honey Dip’s income dwarfs mine, but it doesn’t make me feel inferior, because Honey Dip doesn’t make me feel inferior. Plus, I didn’t give him the consent to make me feel so.

    • WHITTYwithWORDS

      Makes sense actually…learn the in between

    • Nancy Drew on my ibrowse today

      see, I knew there was an “A” and a “P” somewhere in there… no pun…HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAAAAA!!!!!

    • Nancy Drew on my ibrowse today

      THANK and YOU. :applause:

    • Its Me

      Submissive-ready to conform to the authority or will of others; meekly obedient or passive
      ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
      Neither one of my daughters is this definition right here.

      So how Imma teach them that? HOW SWAY?

      The fact that the words “meek and passive” are used and SR tambout…teach your daughters this… is beyond. Dub10 been loud, out of control, and fawk..MEAN her whole life. She woke up (was born) LIKE DIS.

    • aRoth

      Now I ain’t say alladat. LOL

    • Nancy Drew on my ibrowse today

      OMG! Butter, is you my doorter from another lifetime????? I swear I didn’t see your comments before I posted! :sniffle:

    • Buttercup

      YES!!!! I BEEN told you that we’re kindred. You’re tardy for the party. LOL

    • SugarFoot a.k.a Ty

      Its not even salary based. My husband makes more than I do but we’re equal partners in everything including the decision making! If he leaves tomorrow, I will still be able to maintain because I plan for the unexpected because thats what adults do. That submissive shyt is for the birds IMO Why does your spouse need authority over you? You all are peers

    • Nancy Drew on my ibrowse today

      crashing and burning may be how you see it, but not everyone is set-up for all that outside activity *shrug* I know very few men (actually NONE) who would ‘enjoy’ having their wives swapping fluids and gnawing on appendages with other men. but, if that’s the agreement they have, then what would be the point of a divorce? their marriage is a legal contract so maybe that’s what she signed up for. it’s not for everyone though.

    • MotherOfDragons, GetOffMyENuts

      Idk about that. My parents relationship was awful and my mother was and is far from submissive. My grandparents were my touchstone for how relationships should work…yet not one of their children has managed to have a good one despite being raised by them.

    • Buttercup

      gnawing on appendages with other men

      ============
      Get off my air, ma’am. Please!!!

    • PettyEyezPrime

      Hey boo!

    • potsNpans

      Whether it’s a stay at home mom, a woman making less, or is at the financial peak of her skill set. If her husband makes 2-3 times more, and she doesn’t feel as if her contributions aren’t significant. There may be some resentment for one reason or another.

    • Buttercup

      Honey Dip makes 5 times more than I do. It’s not an issue because he doesn’t make it an issue. He doesn’t say, “I pay for that car, so I can tell you what to do with it. I’m going to buy the house, so your opinion on the location doesn’t matter.” We both hold full time jobs and both contribute to the household duties. It’s not an issue unless someone makes it an issue.

    • hotntot95

      My husband is highly intelligent but sometimes I need to step in..if you are good at what u do he wont even know he’s being lead in directions that better your team..He’s the “Head” but I’m definitely the “Neck”.

    • Nancy Drew on my ibrowse today

      thank you!

    • Renee Lovelace

      why do you think your sexual development is “abnormal”?? THAT is one reason why we cannot come to terms with who we are and know how to love ourselves NO MATTER WHAT. “When one accepts who he is and what makes him happy, there is no room for dissent from ANYONE else.”…renee lovelace

    • SugarFoot a.k.a Ty

      exactly Dub lol thats why I said I had that problem as a youngin…. meekly obedient or passive…yeah ok

      Submissive sounds like someone is training a puppy to adapt :coffee:

    • Petty_boots

      Lol, I be up here reading your vacay stories and stuff like hey, at least somebody got a good one. Good for you though, that chit is rare nowadays. Im happy you found someone better who you love and click with. Keep em girl. You’ve been delivert lol.

    • Smartypants

      Cook for him. Have a drink ready for him when he walks in the door after he gets off. Get the remote for him.

      Do what he asks from time to time. Don’t argue unnecessarily. Let him be.

      It’s simple, really. I’m hotblooded and a womanist, but there is POWER in being submissive.

    • Nancy Drew on my ibrowse today

      oh gosh! LMAO!

    • Smartypants

      This. Yasss. Congrats on your success in marriage. I wish you many more ?

    • Smartypants

      I feel you.

    • Sassy24

      I’ll pass

    • Nancy Drew on my ibrowse today

      :hug:

    • babygirlzzz

      Says a broad with a silicone brain. A king will always bow down to there Queen. As a Queen will always stand her ground. To be submissive is different then being a slave. A slave has no control. Or power. Submission lies in respect. And respect only.

    • CookieMobster

      I gladly submit to my husband! He’s the boss and I am great with that. He usually makes great decisions for our family. When I think we need to go in a different direction, I persuade him. This is not because I’m weak…. it takes a lot for me to say “OK you are the boss” !!!! But I the Bible says this is Gods plan so that’s how I want to live. But best believe if he wasn’t qualified in every way to be head of our household then he would not be my HUSBAND!

    • http://totallifechanges.com/PurTEA VanillaCaramel2shotsExpresso

      Submission is wonderful as long as the man is not abusuve and treats his paramour like a queen. Its reciprocal but the slave is too far!

    • Michelle

      ????

    • Been Around the World

      Lmao!!

    • Pamela

      So Sandra, you being the resident expert that you are just blamed woman in America for the failure of all marriages in America. Are you freaking kidding? Once again you are completely wrong. First of all, woman should not be submissive to all men, because all men are not deserving of it.

      “Americans lead other nationalities in divorce statistics because American women refuse to be submissive to their men.” Where did you find this information??? I would really like to know your source or is this something that came off the top of your head? What about the submissive women that left an abusive marriage? I guess that her fault, because she should have stayed. Or the submissive women that left cheating husband that had no regard for her life or safety by having unprotected sex with men and women and bringing home STD’s? That’s probably her fault too? What about the submissive woman that got feed up with her husband because he didn’t want her to have a mind of her own and she realized her self-worth was much more than being disrespected by egotistical butt, just because he is a man?

      There is nothing wrong with being submissive to your man, just make sure he is the right man. There is no way in the world that a man is worth any woman being submissive to him on day one. He has to earn it and if he is not willing to earn it, he doesn’t deserve it.

    • Use_Coasters_aka_Sol_88

      Exactly, because he’s ok with her posting her body.
      I mean, it is her job.

      I just thought that particular scene went too far because he treated her like an animal. (my perception)

    • Renee Bee

      The Realist aka Lil Goodie.

    • Unita Lucinda “Lucy” Freebush

      Spits out coffee.

      Hail to the V!

    • Noirluv45

      I assume people based the notion of wives submitting to their husbands on scripture. Here’s what the scripture says: “Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.

      Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word…”

      Men are instructed to love their WIVES and if he’s loving her the way he’s supposed to, most women will gladly submit to his authority.

      I think it’s comical how we pick the parts of the Bible we like and conveniently leave out the rest or refuse to take scripture into the context for which it is written.

    • Vixen

      I think women are fixated on the word submissive. Ladies, its called role playing. Believe me, I’ve been married for almost 18 years but my husband knows I don’t play. Being submissive does not mean not having a voice or standing your ground or being less of a woman. My husband does not have to iron his clothes, fix his plate or cup of water, never gets told no for pleasure but hey I gots to have mine too etc. etc. I don’t have to worry about nothing because I play my role and my husband plays his. Only when it’s a two way streak will a marriage last. If you are being submissive to your man but not getting anything in return from him then you are being submissive to a boy and not a man because a man will know your worth. That’s why Ice not leaving her..he don’t want no one else to get what he’s getting so he will do anything to keep her happy and staying with him.

    • SecretVoice

      Isn’t this the same chick that was caught cheating on her “man”,now talking about being submissive?Yeah okay…

    • Unita Lucinda “Lucy” Freebush

      In Geezus maybe, but not…nevermind.

    • MotherOfDragons, GetOffMyENuts

      Neither one of us are going anywhere. He told me once “jokingly” but with a side of I’m dead azz serious that our relationship is like a gang or the mob. No getting out unless you die. I was like “Ok…psycho ?.”

    • Imperfectly_perfect

      Why the hell Ice isn’t giving CoCo the run down on that ugly a*s Dolly Parton belt? Does he care at all?

    • Trey

      Its true..me and my Father were having a serious talk about this couple weeks ago…I dont think its about being a slave..but to understand a clear hierarchy in the house.

      Too many black women now don’t understand this and wonder why they are 35+ still single

    • Rolly

      Sandra I see your point. As long as the man can lead the family with the same then it’s all good.

    • Petty_boots

      Awww, yall cute. I wish you eternal happiness. Lol @ a side of dead azz serious.

    • AprilRain

      I don’t think being submissive and being a slave are the same things but I do however believe in being submissive to your man, if—– he be worthy…for example, my husband of 16 years has always worked since I’ve been with him, and I’m talking hard labor, plus he goes for wood every year for the winter, chops it, stacks it, has never had more than a week off since I’ve been with him, plus he works a side job on Saturdayz, always has,,,,, so yes he is worthy and yes I am submissive and don’t care as he takes care of us.

    • Sincerity7

      He used that pimp/ho mentality and now she’s a robot.

    • Ant Hill

      100% fact again by Sandra Rose.

    • Ant Hill

      Holla at me.

    • Wuts got Petty Davis Eyes..

      I think when a man comes that gives you that security to be your feminine self you naturally submit. I think what happens to our strong sisters is that they have had boy-like men that weren’t strong enough to hold them down. So if you can’t do for me better than I can do for me…why are you even here. I find myself(this is fukked up Im even saying this) allowing 6’6 more access to the choices within our relationship. He has proven over and over he has my back so I can lean in his direction a little more everyday. But you just don’t give Johnny Rando instant access to that side of you either. It has to be earned the trust has got to be there… tis all…

    • Ant Hill

      #angrybird

    • ZRoJoTheLezBeyond

      Yikes!

    • imright

      she claims 2b 6 months!! ?

    • surprise2012

      He can get his own remote. 9 times out of 10 the remote is within arms reach. PULEASE.. I’ll cook if I’m home before him depending on the time I get in. However he won’t starve

    • surprise2012

      It’s just a trial run to see how well they do. I think it’s only like 7 shows or something like that.

    • surprise2012

      She did? Where? Do tell, so I can go read it. LOL

    • Petty_boots

      He/she is wayyy more callous.

    • CaramelDrop

      Co sign! “He wears the pants but I pick them out”?

    • Sexy CJ

      ……………….

    • Divame

      IceT knew the public backlash that statement would bring on him from feminist all over the world, he made sure he cleared that up lol. #herchoice ?

    • whatuwerethinking

      What county fair did she get that belt from? He got on Gucci and she look like she went shopping at a gift shop…

    • Enoughsaid2020

      This women will say anything for ratings. If being submissive is a part of your relationship, that is between you, and him.

    • Meme81

      She reminds me of a blowup doll. Apparently that’s how she thinks of herself, too.

    • SSSLOVELIVE

      I agree with allowing a man to be a man but two of my closets friends (since middle school) are super submissive to husbands that don’t work at all. Both pay all the bills, cook, clean and support weed habits. Its just too toxic for me.

    • Meme81

      I get the same feeling. Like she has no respect for herself or something. She obviously doesn’t know that slave and submissive aren’t synonymous.

    • Willetta

      Those of us who are descended from the barbaric institution of American Slavery have and will always have a problem with this for more reasons than can be listed here today. One must know our history to fathom these depths. With that being said … If a man knows the difference between reasonable submission and putting his foot on my neck, maybe sometimes. However, if you try to put your foot on my neck, I WILL try to break that B*&%# OFF!! or shoot yo azz!!!

    • LordeAmbler

      I love these snow bunnies.

    • SpiceGirl

      2 each is own……You love it…I like it….

    • MistaO

      And IF more females had this mindset, we’d have more ladies! Plus, a man will grind endlessly for a woman who RESPECTS and honors him and will treat her the same!

    • Meme81

      Yes, the Bible says you should be submissive to a man whose ‘in Christ’. I don’t think Ice T fits that description the way he loves to flaunt her in public.

    • Aaliyah Blakes

      What man you submissive to Sandra? hehe

    • Aaliyah Blakes

      Ice Teas beat the fk out of her. Of couse she is submissive. Biotch gets pissed and shiot on.

    • Aaliyah Blakes

      Marlo and Sheree have signed on to be on Housewives of Atlanta. Kim Fields did not make the cut because she would not act a fool on camera. Shree does not get along with pheadra.

    • Aaliyah Blakes

      Props to ice tea and his new bull dagger

    • AprilRain

      I agree with you except for calling in role playing, if it was role playing it would be acting, and acting the part is not being submissive, it’s being fake and what’s the point? It’s like calling being submissive just being respectful kinda, when being submissive is totally different. Being submissive is allowing ur man to take the lead on most situations, for example ur 15 year old daughter wants to go out to a movie or something and u tell her please be home by 10 and he steps in and says, no be home by 9, a submissive wife would say, ok ur dads right, be home by 9, another example is if u want to buy a car because all ur friends have a nice brand new car, and even tho u know u will be in a tight budget if u do, u still want one, so u tell ur man and he says, no we can’t right now, let’s wait another year, saying ok u understand is being submissive.

    • AprilRain

      maybe that’s why she decided to be submissive, maybe she felt so guilty about cheating and started to be submissive because it’s the right thing to do?

    • AprilRain

      And Hispanic and whites alike….. All races have woman like this. But yes I agree, they are single for a reason.

    • AprilRain

      I’m happy for them and any couple that can find a good balance that works for them.

    • AprilRain

      A woman does not have to stay home as a house wife to be submissive. I’ve worked our entire marriage and yet I know my place. God has loaned him to me just as he has loaned me to him so yes I appreciate by following his word and being a good submissive wife.

    • AprilRain

      I remember that and like I said below, maybe she felt so guilty about it and realized her place.

    • AprilRain

      No, hopefully she learned.

    • Vixen

      True. I call it role playing to take away from being fixated on submissive it’s just another term that you hear people saying. For instance when you here a guy make a joke and tell his girl she better play her role as to just lighten the mood or an older person saying it in a joking manner. I don’t call it submissive or role playing when I’m talking to my husband or people that aren’t bothered by letting their husbands take the lead. The term doesn’t bother me but I see that it bothers a lot of ladies so that’s why I use role playing and if a grown woman will take what I say and fake it then she’s crazy not to understand what is truly being said.

    • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

      Tuh. Come on…

    • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose
    • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

      We agree to disagree on this subject. God made human beings to procreate. If Good wanted 2 women to sleep together He would have given one of us a penis.

    • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

      That sounds like a man who understands human nature. It is in our nature, as sexual beings, to be promiscuous.

    • AprilRain

      Got cha!

    • eljjai

      I just wasn’t ready for that… *cries a little*

    • BLOODBLOOD

      For what?

    • YaVyBnMe

      Only place I’m willing to be submissive is in bed, and then that’s the place they want to try to lay back and let you do all the work! FOH
      I don’t mind a strong man, I love confidence and assertion, but I won’t lessen or weaken myself to frame him that way. He just needs to be made of stronger stuff.

    • LuvMyBrownSkin?

      ROTFLMAO!!!!

    • Nancy Drew on my ibrowse today

      no ma’am! imo, hetero women don’t have the luxury of promiscuity! nothing wrong with a little variety, but when you say “promiscuous” all I see is ‘carelessness’ …I can’t. :kona:

    • hottlanta

      It hard being submissive to a man who is laying in his back and never standing up to be a man. If he is leading us to hell I am out.

    • more

      They had photos

    • more

      Lmaoooo I know right. SUBMISSIVE MEANS NO CHEATING

    • more

      Exactly! If submissive worked like they all Claim. Woman right movement would of never happened. We would still like in the 60s. If ur gonna do thanot do it to someone that don’t cheat or outside hands on you.

    • more

      I hope u hold your man to the same standered you hold yourself to but my bet is not

    • more

      Exactly, it don’t stop cheating or outside babies we see it happen all the time

    • more

      Lmaoooo

    • more

      Lmaoooo

    • more

      Exactly once u earn it than we can talk. Vast majority of men don’t respect shyt so imma do me

    • more

      Exactly i Never seem it work. Woman ends up getting played

    • more

      Preach!!

    • Aaliyah Blakes

      lol, do you know your place, when he slaps the piss out of you.

    • AprilRain

      That’s a completely diff situation Hun. U missed the comment I left where I explained he must be deserving.

    • Nancy Drew on my ibrowse today

      I was referring to women who are single/not-in-a-relationship/dating/etc. IN MY OPINION, it’s best to avoid being promiscuous because that’s how you end up on Maury surrounded by 7 could-be-the-daddy candidates. Anyway, what’s wrong with having standards for one’s self?

    • more

      Because that camy happen to a man. -_- anything a man can do so can a woman bottomed line

    • Fendi

      It’s actually a good show. They work extremely well together, which is probably how they’ve stayed married 14 years. Coco works and she had her own before she met him.

    • Use_Coasters_aka_Sol_88

      Omg Sandra, not the same!
      *wags finger*

    • Nancy Drew on my ibrowse today

      Well, that goes without saying… anyway, if you’re a regular reader of Sandra’s blog, you’ll be familiar with her stance on male and female roles. I replied to Sandra within that context. I never said women CAN’T be promiscuous; I simply stated that, in my opinion, it’s not wise for us to do so.

    • mocha brown

      And thats why hes with your blond behind …. Most men cant handle strong, aggressive women.

    • AprilRain

      Totally diff situation. I thought that was a given, or no? Maybe not obviously.

    • Doink_Ahanahue

      As a man, I 2nd 3rd and 4th that!! A REAL man will do anything for a woman that sincerely is all in for him. Everyone is happier, he WANTS to treat her as the queen she is and both feel like they are an unstoppable force together

    • Lgs

      I was happy being a submissive wife. Supporting him, letting him lead the way and make all the important decisions. Until he decided that it also meant that I would have to ask him if I wanted to wear pants and that I would have to curtsey to him 3 times a day. There is no room in a loving relationship for that. There is no honor or respect. He would have me believe otherwise. I’m outta here.

    • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

      When I say be submissive to a man, I mean a REAL man, not a man with a mental disorder or mommy issues. Be blessed.

    • Andrew munger

      well todays women thankfully will never return to slave like status. She has to be submissive to Ice Tea because he has all of the money. if he was a garbage collector or tax driver coco would not even be with the guy.

    • Taylor Kuykendall

      I’d never submit to my husband. Of course I respect him, just like he respects me. But I’ll never submit to him just as I wouldn’t want him submitting to me.

    • Shawn

      Ask him to command you and then do it (as long as it is not immoral). He should look for excuses to tell you what to do, such as asking you to do things for him that he could do for himself (such as handing him the remote). If you don’t do what he commands or expects (i.e. follow his rules), he should punish you by disagreement. [e.g. saying “No.”, “Don’t… (e.g. Don’t be disobedient).” Stop!]. He should keep disagreeing until you submit.

      Also, you should never give him commands, but ask him if you want help.

      For further information he should check out and obtain the free ebook from Manhood Academy at manhood101.com.

      Show him this comment. Don’t be disobedient.

    • Shawn

      This verse I am certain is actually translated as obey and not submit.

      Even if the husband is not loving the wife is obligated to obey to his authority. Notice how Holy Scripture does not say to only obey to your husband if he is loving. This would be like saying that one only has to obey the law if the government is nice to you (assuming that niceness and loving are the same thing, which they aren’t).

      As for loving, it is most likely agape love, so this means that the husband must seek to will his wife’s good. This can mean (depending on circumstances) punishing her disobedience and obtaining her submission. It is not only although it may often consist of what most people think love in the context of marriage means – “huggy huggy kissy kissy.”

    • Misty M Mayes

      Really ? This is just sad. You ladies need to go to college , get a degree find a good job and take care of yourselves. Find a PARTNER. A relationship is supposed to be a partnership. Not I bow down to you because Im scared of being alone. SMDH . I can’t believe some of what I’m reading . It’s just opening the door to abuse , emotional, verbal or even possibly physical later down the road if you don’t “Submit” the way your man sees fit one day it could be bad news. The majority of men like to try and keep their woman down to feel better about themselves. Just remember that. A REAL man can handle a REAL woman.

    • Eyvette Bethea

      Submit ye one to another. Before the bible goes into husband and wife, the God of love gives this commandment. Mutual love and respect for each other: husband to wife, wife to husband. God is the boss of the home, not man. Man has headship not dictatorship. Headship means assumes responsibility for all that occurs in the home, not dictate everything that happens in the home. To truly lead one must first know how to follow. Arrogance is not Godly. Women were not created to be slaves of men but helpers. When I need help with something, I go to someone that can add knowledge and insight that I don’t already possess. So is woman, she adds to man, not takes away. It is not good for man to be alone. Many misunderstand the teachings of the Bible.