I can’t decide if this is an insult to all black women, or encouragement to sistas who have options available to us.

Loyal reader GregW wrote:

Sandra why do some darker skin black women always hate on LSLH? And why do women who are 20 50 100lbs+ overweight always hate on women who are not overweight. If that’s most black men’s preference then get over it. Don’t waste time on someone who does not want you. Focus on the men that are into you. Maybe if they got an education, were more positve, supportive, dated men who are in to them and not who they are into, lost some weight and took better care of their hair (see Michelle Obama) they might get a husband (or in your case a wife).

Advice to all black women. Stop hating on your sisters and tighten your game up. Not many men of ANY RACE wants an angry bitter overweight nappy headed woman. Ladies, step your game up and be more realistic about your expectations and you will find your prince. Otherwise you’ll end up alone or like Erica Badu (multiple baby dadies). Its not rocket science.

On Monday Barack Obama made another in a series of embarrassing goofs by suggesting that the swine flu pandemic was “not a cause for concern.” Just two days later, Obama has reversed his stance, saying the outbreak of swine flu had created a “serious situation” in the United States requiring the “utmost precautions,” such as closing down schools where cases of swine flu are reported.

The cases of swine flu has risen in the U.S. to 91, including one death — an infant who died in a Houston hospital.

Be aware that there are no vaccines for this particular strain of swine flu. Also, antiviral medications do not kill the virus that causes swine flu. They only interfere with the ability of the virus to bind to certain cells in the body. Antivirals are only effective against specific virus, and only if administered in the early stages of infection (up to 48 hours). There is no known cure for a virus.

What can you do to protect yourself? Wash your hands frequently with soap and water (as warm as you can stand it) or alcohol-based hand sanitizers. Remember when using public restrooms to use a paper towel when turning off the faucet and when opening restroom doors.

Avoid touching your eyes, nose or mouth especially when out in public.

It’s important to note that the majority of people infected with swine flu do make a full recovery, so don’t panic. Remember, it isn’t the virus that kills, it’s the body’s inflammatory response to the virus.

If you have flu-like symptoms (cough, sneezing, runny nose), don’t go to work or school. If you have accompanying joint pain, fever, chills, nausea, vomiting, go to the emergency room or notify your doctor immediately.

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Poor Tyra Banks had to endure the stress of facing her stalker in a Manhattan courtroom today. Don’t you feel sorry for celebrities like Tyra who go that extra mile to entertain their fans only to be harassed by crazed mentally impaired fans who can’t see the consequences of their harmful behavior?

It has to be a horrible experience to face their stalkers in court, which gives the stalker exactly what they wanted.

    Supermodel-turned-television host Tyra Banks faced off Wednesday with the lovesick drifter accused of stalking her.
    Wearing a sleeveless, form-fitting tan dress, Banks calmly testified in Manhattan Criminal Court she was terrified when Brady Green tried to slip past security into her Chelsea studio.

    The former Sports Illustrated swimsuit issue covergirl described how frightened staffers of the “Tyra Banks Show” barricaded her in a dressing room when Green showed up last year. “I was about to leave, and a bunch of people from my staff were like, ‘Stop, no, you can’t leave!” Banks said.

    Green, 39, is charged with stalking and harassing Banks with a series of phone calls, unwanted flowers and an unwelcome visit in March 2008 to her W. 26th St. studio.

    “I know I have fans, but I’ve never in my entire career had my staff react in this way,” she said.

    Green’s lawyer, Jeffrey Berman, tried to cast his client as a harmless fan who loved watching Oprah Winfrey’s and Montel Williams’ talk shows. He pointed out that the show’s Web site encouraged fans to write to Banks, and that the Georgia man never contacted her by phone or e-mail.

    Green is set to take the stand Wednesday afternoon. READ MORE…

Photos: Splash News Online

The caption says “Vashtie Kola attends her birthday party at Santos on April 28, 2009 in New York City.” OK… nice kicks, but who is she?

Here lately I’ve noticed random people throwing birthday parties for themselves and hiring Wireimage photographers to come out and shoot. Is that all it takes to get your shine on in a national medium now? Does this mean if I throw my birthday party and hire a Wireimage photographer, I can be all up on Wireimage too? Not that I would ever consider doing such a thing. I’m not as important as these people apparently think they are.

We all know who the rap icon Q Tip is. So is she his girlfriend? It’s a sad reflection of the times when all a chick has to do to get face time in the press is hook up with a well-known public figure.

Former Floetry member Amanda Diva attended Vashtie’s party. Not that it means anything. Especially when you consider that quite a few people gain notoriety based on who they know. Take June Ambrose for instance: she’s well known in NY for her famous clients. But outside of her small snobbish circle, she’s a nobody.

Nice cake. L to R: Kid Cudi, Rob Young, Joe Hayes and Vashtie

Photos: Wireimage/Getty

I didn’t know what to make of these pics of Halle Berry at the X-Men premiere in L.A. yesterday. Halle still looks a little crackish, but who am I to judge. So I turned to the Fashion Critic since she’s a lot better at judging fading divas than I am, being that I’m not one — a fading diva, that is.

Fashion Critic says:

There’s one thing we can always predict Halle Berry will do. Maximize her assets, and why not they’re fabulous.

The actress showed off her fabulous curves in a body-con Herve L Leroux dress, which leaves very little to the imagination.

Her look was complete with a gold cuff, and Camilla Skovgaard Barbero T strap high heel sandals.

Love the sexy look, hate those streaks.

OK, so FC didn’t like the streaks in Halle’s quick weave. See, I didn’t notice that. I was looking at Halle’s washed out makeup and that look in her eyes that all crackheads seem to develop over time. I could be wrong though.

Photos: Splash News Online

The last time I pointed out what singer Alicia Keys lacked in the back, her Stans came for me. The excuses for her obvious excess padding were endless! Well, here is more indisputable evidence that AK has worn pads in the past to enhance her washboard butt.

Let’s just say AK has a shape like her mother’s half of the family, and leave it at that. There’s nothing to be ashamed of. Other mixed celebs like Beyonce and Kim Kardashian also need that extra padding to make up for nature’s shortcomings. The key is to be consistent and not get cuaght out there without the pads on — such as in the above pics.

Photos: Splash News Online and Wireimage/Getty

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According to Drew Reports, Miami rapper Rick Ross’ album “Deeper Than Rap” tops the sales charts with 152,873 units sold in the first week.

On the other hand, corny rapper Asher Roth didn’t fare so well despite the truck loads of cash and the massive resources poured into his marketing plan. His album, which I won’t bother to name, came in at #4 with only 67,449 units sold. The execs at his record label can’t be happy with that figure. Especially since, as Bol points out, underground rapper Jadakiss sold twice as many albums, without half the budget of Sloth, I mean Roth.

My apologies for the slow posts. Sometimes life intervenes and you have to disconnect from the computer to handle business personally. But I appreciate your continued support!

One of my loyal readers, Daisy, informed me of a new blog by Quincy Brown, aka iQ, the spawn of radio announcer Al B. Sure and socialite Kim Porter. As you know, Quincy recently posted his first letter to his father on Globalgrind.com detailing his life with an absent father. iQ poured his heart into that letter — and a subsequent song, but he has yet to hear from his dad.

    Hello World.
    I published a “Letter To My Father” recently and the tremendous response deserves my sincere thanks. I’m overwhelmed by how many people took the time to read my letter and listen to my record. I received thousands of calls, texts, comments and e-mails. Thank you for your compassion, support, and understanding.

    To those that share my experience, I thank you for your courage. Many of you shared with me your life-experiences without your fathers. I say to you “This is only a season,” one aspect of life. Take the lessons and let them make you stronger and wiser. Commit to never make the same mistake.

    I realized I was taking a great personal risk to share my feelings. I thought that revealing this part of my life was necessary. It was an important part of a process to help me understand who I am. I released years of disappointment and pain. My healing has begun.

    I haven’t heard from my Dad since I published my letter. I know that eventually our paths will cross in this journey called LIFE. READ MORE…

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